December 19, 2025 • 6 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
I'm Kenya Brown, and today for telling him how you feel.
Our digital editor bridget Well, she sent me something a
video of a woman who was shopping with her husband,
and I guess he was approached by two females in
the store to get a little help from him. But
this is how she viewed the whole situation.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
And you would not believe audentity. Some people, me and
my husband Amy shopping, were in Croker shopping. We're on
a house and I'm looking at stuff and this woman
is with another woman and she's like, sir, excuse me, sir,
can you reach this off the top chef for me?
Speaker 3 (00:38):
We're sure.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
I look at them, I look at him, he look
at me.
Speaker 4 (00:42):
He said booth.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
The fact that he knew he needed permission. They helped
these people, in the fact that they about they could
just ask him and he was gonna move for them.
The audacity to say that, to say this, if you
are in the store, married or sing by yourself and
you need help and you noticed that the man that
(01:08):
you about to ask help from is with a woman,
the correct thing to say is excuse me, ma'am. Is
it okay if your husband can help me get something
from the ship. Don't put that man there with a situation.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Go now, tell me. Do you feel that the lady
was right in her opinion that you really need to
be asking the woman for a permission before you ask
her man to do anything for you, you know, just
the simple manner of etiquette. Or do you feel that
maybe that's just a little bit blown out of proportion,
Maybe she was just doing too much. It didn't matter
(01:40):
if he helped some women get something off the top
of the shelf. Guys, tell me, would you feel that
you were being put in an awkward position if someone
asked you something like that? Would your wife mind if
some women approached you and asked you to do something?
Call me up, tell me how you feel. Did they
put the man in a bad position.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
That she blew or the whole thing?
Speaker 3 (02:01):
I support you, okay, because if he was calling enough
to reach to reach what she needed off that shelf,
she didn't even have to even blow up like that.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
So the the wife was out of proportion. It was
it was too much the wife.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
She didn't have to do all of that.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
So you wouldn't have mind if you were in the
store and some ladies walked up to your husband and
was like, can you reach this for me? Sir? I
wouldn't mind. What if they were real cute?
Speaker 3 (02:29):
If everybody need help somebody.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
What if they real real cute, you know, mind? I
still I still wouldn't mind.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
Okay, okay because because I because I know he ain't
going nowhere.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
I heard that, all right, sis, all right, thanks for
your com Tell me how you feel.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Goodman, Julia first of all, and will tell Sam he's
playing hooky.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Just a little break, just break right.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
But you know, I don't see anything wrong with you know,
a female asking of a man if he's with his
lady for something in that in that capacity, I just
don't see. I was it's offensive to anybody, you know,
if the ladies are short and they approach you in
a respectful mind and say so, would you mind reaching
(03:16):
this for me? Because we can't reach it and you're
standing there. I mean, I don't see what a disrespect
is at.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yeah, maybe they were like flirty or something. Maybe they
took a shoulder out.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Nembe we're missing that part then, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (03:29):
Right?
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Yes? Because I do. I'll do anything for a woman
or an elderly man. You know, someone's a disability. You know,
if I just see things, I just do it. Now.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
If she fine, though, if she if she's real cute
and you breaking your neck offering stuff, then you might
get in trouble.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
But that's a different that's a different scenario. That's definitely
a different scenario.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
All right, all right, take care, z Ak. Tell me
how you feel. Was it disrespect for some ladies to
approach this woman's husband without addressing her first?
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Ye?
Speaker 5 (04:06):
I said it was very disrespectful and and a wife
was right. It's called respect. It's like if you go
by the person with the same sex as Hugh. So
if it was a man, if you want to say
something to the man's wife, he's supposed to address the
man first. If it was a woman, you addressed them.
If there was another woman, she's supposed to address the
(04:26):
wife to say something to her husband. It's just all
out of respect. And also the like I said, don't
have trouble or nothing. But it's part of respect. That's
all it is. I mean, that's how you're doing. In
other cultures, a woman only speak to a woman and
a man only speak to a man, you know, So
if you go to other cultures, I'm a college graduate,
(04:47):
and I learned that. I went to school for social
words and I learned that and cultural anyway, So it
was very respectful what the wife said.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
Yeah, right, it's respectful.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
All right, thanks for your com Those women put her
husband in an awkward position. Do you think it was
a little disrespectful?
Speaker 4 (05:05):
Yeah, it definitely was. I don't know so much about
the etiquette. But if you've been with that woman long
enough to get married to common sense kicking on that one,
I wouldn't I depended like I hadn't even heard that.
I mean, because if it was reversed and it was
some some guy asked your wife, Hey, what do you
think I looked like in this outfit?
Speaker 3 (05:25):
Here? Man?
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Come on, so you said, you said you would have
just ignored the ladies altogether.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Yeah, man, don't don't come in my world and check
yourself in my world? And how men suffering all week
or weekend or whatever you know you said in that mess.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
I understand, all right? Thanks, no ze, aka, tell me
how you feel. Was this woman on point? Were they
a little out of line by approaching her husband for
some help?
Speaker 4 (05:56):
No, I don't think so.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
I've been married thirty eight years and when we go in.
Speaker 6 (06:01):
The store and some old woman or women asked my
husband to do something, They've always said something to me first,
and I think that's like the ultimate respect. I have
no problem with that, and I don't see why anybody would.
You can't get more respect than that. And I and
my husband usually does help. But there have been women
(06:21):
that have come up before and said, you know something
by themselves, and my husband does it, and I'm okay
with that, but I but the ultimate respect is to
ask the wife first.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Okay. So so she the wife was right that you
need to say something to the wife first. She don't
just go to the to the husband.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
I agree, I agree.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
All right, thanks for your car.
Speaker 4 (06:44):
You're welcome.
I'm Kenya Brown, and today for telling him how you feel.
Our digital editor bridget Well, she sent me something a
video of a woman who was shopping with her husband,
and I guess he was approached by two females in
the store to get a little help from him. But
this is how she viewed the whole situation.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
And you would not believe audentity. Some people, me and
my husband Amy shopping, were in Croker shopping. We're on
a house and I'm looking at stuff and this woman
is with another woman and she's like, sir, excuse me, sir,
can you reach this off the top chef for me?
Speaker 3 (00:38):
We're sure.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
I look at them, I look at him, he look
at me.
Speaker 4 (00:42):
He said booth.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
The fact that he knew he needed permission. They helped
these people, in the fact that they about they could
just ask him and he was gonna move for them.
The audacity to say that, to say this, if you
are in the store, married or sing by yourself and
you need help and you noticed that the man that
(01:08):
you about to ask help from is with a woman,
the correct thing to say is excuse me, ma'am. Is
it okay if your husband can help me get something
from the ship. Don't put that man there with a situation.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Go now, tell me. Do you feel that the lady
was right in her opinion that you really need to
be asking the woman for a permission before you ask
her man to do anything for you, you know, just
the simple manner of etiquette. Or do you feel that
maybe that's just a little bit blown out of proportion,
Maybe she was just doing too much. It didn't matter
(01:40):
if he helped some women get something off the top
of the shelf. Guys, tell me, would you feel that
you were being put in an awkward position if someone
asked you something like that? Would your wife mind if
some women approached you and asked you to do something?
Call me up, tell me how you feel. Did they
put the man in a bad position.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
That she blew or the whole thing?
Speaker 3 (02:01):
I support you, okay, because if he was calling enough
to reach to reach what she needed off that shelf,
she didn't even have to even blow up like that.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
So the the wife was out of proportion. It was
it was too much the wife.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
She didn't have to do all of that.
Speaker 1 (02:18):
So you wouldn't have mind if you were in the
store and some ladies walked up to your husband and
was like, can you reach this for me? Sir? I
wouldn't mind. What if they were real cute?
Speaker 3 (02:29):
If everybody need help somebody.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
What if they real real cute, you know, mind? I
still I still wouldn't mind.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
Okay, okay because because I because I know he ain't
going nowhere.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
I heard that, all right, sis, all right, thanks for
your com Tell me how you feel.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Goodman, Julia first of all, and will tell Sam he's
playing hooky.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Just a little break, just break right.
Speaker 3 (02:53):
But you know, I don't see anything wrong with you know,
a female asking of a man if he's with his
lady for something in that in that capacity, I just
don't see. I was it's offensive to anybody, you know,
if the ladies are short and they approach you in
a respectful mind and say so, would you mind reaching
(03:16):
this for me? Because we can't reach it and you're
standing there. I mean, I don't see what a disrespect
is at.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yeah, maybe they were like flirty or something. Maybe they
took a shoulder out.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Nembe we're missing that part then, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (03:29):
Right?
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Yes? Because I do. I'll do anything for a woman
or an elderly man. You know, someone's a disability. You know,
if I just see things, I just do it. Now.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
If she fine, though, if she if she's real cute
and you breaking your neck offering stuff, then you might
get in trouble.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
But that's a different that's a different scenario. That's definitely
a different scenario.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
All right, all right, take care, z Ak. Tell me
how you feel. Was it disrespect for some ladies to
approach this woman's husband without addressing her first?
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Ye?
Speaker 5 (04:06):
I said it was very disrespectful and and a wife
was right. It's called respect. It's like if you go
by the person with the same sex as Hugh. So
if it was a man, if you want to say
something to the man's wife, he's supposed to address the
man first. If it was a woman, you addressed them.
If there was another woman, she's supposed to address the
(04:26):
wife to say something to her husband. It's just all
out of respect. And also the like I said, don't
have trouble or nothing. But it's part of respect. That's
all it is. I mean, that's how you're doing. In
other cultures, a woman only speak to a woman and
a man only speak to a man, you know, So
if you go to other cultures, I'm a college graduate,
(04:47):
and I learned that. I went to school for social
words and I learned that and cultural anyway, So it
was very respectful what the wife said.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
Yeah, right, it's respectful.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
All right, thanks for your com Those women put her
husband in an awkward position. Do you think it was
a little disrespectful?
Speaker 4 (05:05):
Yeah, it definitely was. I don't know so much about
the etiquette. But if you've been with that woman long
enough to get married to common sense kicking on that one,
I wouldn't I depended like I hadn't even heard that.
I mean, because if it was reversed and it was
some some guy asked your wife, Hey, what do you
think I looked like in this outfit?
Speaker 3 (05:25):
Here? Man?
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Come on, so you said, you said you would have
just ignored the ladies altogether.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Yeah, man, don't don't come in my world and check
yourself in my world? And how men suffering all week
or weekend or whatever you know you said in that mess.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
I understand, all right? Thanks, no ze, aka, tell me
how you feel. Was this woman on point? Were they
a little out of line by approaching her husband for
some help?
Speaker 4 (05:56):
No, I don't think so.
Speaker 3 (05:58):
I've been married thirty eight years and when we go in.
Speaker 6 (06:01):
The store and some old woman or women asked my
husband to do something, They've always said something to me first,
and I think that's like the ultimate respect. I have
no problem with that, and I don't see why anybody would.
You can't get more respect than that. And I and
my husband usually does help. But there have been women
(06:21):
that have come up before and said, you know something
by themselves, and my husband does it, and I'm okay
with that, but I but the ultimate respect is to
ask the wife first.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Okay. So so she the wife was right that you
need to say something to the wife first. She don't
just go to the to the husband.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
I agree, I agree.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
All right, thanks for your car.
Speaker 4 (06:44):
You're welcome.
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