Girl Talk | Men Need to Create Spaces for Themselves

On Girl Talk Jerrilyn Lake aka Indeskribeabull and Lynee’ Monae reflect on November being National Men's Health Month. They have a heartfelt call for men to prioritize therapy during Men’s Mental Health Month — preferably before buying another bottle of Hennessy or pair of Jordans.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
But speaking of waste, November is National Men's Health Month.
Oh my guys, I have to get that. Sure. I
had to get that off though. I had to do
it because my bad. I'm sorry, I had to get
that on off. But no, November is mental men's Mental
health month, and I could have swore that it was June.

(00:21):
But whatever. Another inconsistency among them. Okay, but no, I'm
just kidding. Uh no, seriously, that we talk about me
in all the time, and a lot of time we
you know, we go kind of hard on them. But unfortunately,
twenty four year old Dallas cowboy Marshawn Kneelan died by
a parent self inflicted gunshot won after police chase. His
girlfriend was aware that he was struggling with mental illness,

(00:44):
and she let them know that, you know, he had
said some uh some alarming things he had texted her,
and so unfortunately he did to come to you know,
that that mental health issue. And I think that there
are just not enough safe spaces for men, and I
think that men need to be the ones to create them.
I do too. I don't think it's gonna come from

(01:05):
women at all. I think men have to get more
comfortable with having those uncomfortable conversations without feeling like they
gonna be triggered or they don't want to go there,
they don't want to have that conversation. Like it's up
to y'all to create that space, because one thing I
can tell you about women is that we create safe
spaces all the time, like women each other, Yeah, all
the time. Like we could just create community under posts.

(01:26):
You see it, under your posts, under my post, like girl,
you changed my life. We got like dms of people
just saying like they've been going through like depression and
just like different things in how our podcast has helped
them through it and like helped them maintain. So women
can create community out of anything because we just have
a sisterhood. And I challenge you guys to create the
same thing for yourselves, like talking to one another. When

(01:49):
you're a friend, pick up the phone and he like you, like,
you know, he going through something. You ask him if
he good, and he like, yeah, I'm straight, all right,
I'm a B. I'm a BI that deserves a little
bit more investigative. Okay, that me right? You know what
I'm saying. That is him fighting through You're like, yeah,
you're right, you're gonna be all. That's how y'all. Y'all
go on to talk about football. Is that the cure?

(02:10):
Raggedy Saints? Right? One but three games, it seems, And
y'all know, I wouldn't I saint it? Like, yeah, so
I think that it's it's sad first of all. Yeah,
that's just the whole say it's terrible. It's terrible because
he's not the only one. And I like, it's not
that I don't want to create a safe space for men.
And I'm not saying, oh, men need to do this

(02:31):
they self because I don't want to do it. I'm
saying this because as a man, I don't know what
you need. Thank you. I don't know what you lack.
I don't know what you're looking for. You have to
be able to create this space over here. Yeah, your
friends too, Okay. I will be a safe space for you. Always.
Also have to have other safe spaces because if you
looking to me for the only time that you can

(02:51):
be vulnerable, you're treating me like a therapist and that's
not my job's time. I want you to have a therapist.
I want you to go to church. It's so too heavy. Sorry,
turn them around, look that, do it? Turn it around?
Don't you turn that? Don't you turn it? Please insert

(03:17):
the round. Okay, don't hit me with a good time,
because I'll take it. I'll get up at it. But yeah,
like I think it do be kind of heavy, and
I like, I want them to know that you can.
There's a way to do this. There's you know, I'm
not trying to be insensitive because people are like, oh, well,
therapy is expensive. I know. But you also got your

(03:39):
favorite cowboys jersey. Y'all drink gallons of Hennessee yallous? Okay
every week, go to the liquid. That's expensive. It is
smoking weed every day is expensive. Y'all got you want
the newest Jordan's. You want the ladies cloth, y'all want
gold chains, gold seef, goat everything. Getting that haircut all
the time is expensive. Like, it's all expensive, y'all just

(04:01):
picking chose where you want to put your money to.
You don't really want to. You want to do everything
on the outside to look like you're okay. It's better
like spending the actual money to work on the inside
to make sure you're okay, so you can put your
money in therapy. If you look at where your money
is actually going, eating Uber East every day because you
don't know how to cook. Now, hold on, it's expensive.
Oh I'm sorry for that same man. Okay, but she'd

(04:26):
be male propate. I see you at the farmers market.
You made that concoction of juice with that up because
that just was an she talked about my juice, but
that juice was banging. That the juice is me banging. Okay, yeah,
but I think it's important. I think it's important for
people to do that. I mean, just we want you
to prioritize it. Thanks. Instead of saying women need to

(04:47):
be a safe space, women need to do this, just
prioritize your mental health. Thank you for asking you right
now today. Please, when I see you doing it, I
promise I'm going to fall right on in line, absolutely,
and we can be a safe space. But but what
you're not going to do is dump off on me.
Every chance you go through something. You need friends and
you need a therapist. Okay, double doubled on that. Yeah,

(05:09):
So I think that they need to create their own spaces.