July 31, 2025 • 39 mins
This week on The She Said It First Podcast, Jerrilyn Lake aka Indeskribeabull and Lynee’ Monae discusses various topics, but before they get into that, they tell the fans What Irritated Them this week. Jerrilyn hates a mean girl and wants all of them to stay away from her. As for Lynee’, please do not tell her about her hair, nails, or makeup if you are not paying for it. You pay to build-a-bear, you must pay to build-a-b%$ch.
During Girl, What Happened, Jerrilyn and Lynee’ spoke about being able to be with a partner who does not take care of their health. Is it a red flag if they do not do the things that they are supposed to do for their health, like drink water, exercise, or go to the doctor. The host also spoke about the wave of “ratchet” women rappers like Sexyy Red, Pluto, and others. They talk about how their music is impacting people and will it last.
The conversation transitioned to Girl Talk, Jerrilyn and Lynee’ spoke about attire in the workplace, especially for black women. They spoke about while black women like to express themselves with their hair, makeup, etc... but what should not be worn in the workplace. Also, it is vacation time. And if you have that special person, who is paying for this baecation?
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
What's for everybody?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
It's your girl, indescribable akaa jerld Lake and I'm checking
in with my bestie father arrested and you are listening
to that, she said the first podcast in Urban one
podcast from the urber one podcast network, Get.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Very Yet, I'm on, y'ah. I love a good podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
You now before we start talking about the things that
are going on in the next ship to there's so
much going on, honey, I got to know what irritates
you this week?
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Child? You know what I don't like? What tell me
I don't.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Like when people get up in my DMS and comments
and tell me, oh, I don't like your nails, I
don't like your hair.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
And then you know what I do?
Speaker 2 (00:40):
I send them my cash for the envoy Because the
only people who can ever have an opinion on anything
that I got going on is people who finance it,
I think.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
And here I am trying to give you a voice,
and you don't want to.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Take it, Okay, Like when you go to build a bed,
don't they make you pay the build the band?
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Well, how much you think I'm gonna charge you the building?
You could sleep that out? You bleep that part out? Actually,
how much are you going to be charged to be
able to Okay, that's what you know what. I think
that's fair.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
I think that's more than fair, actually, because why are
you giving your opinion about something that doesn't concern you.
You didn't you didn't contribute at all, didn't try. You
didn't even try anybody.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
And this was never about how I look. Did you
listen to the comedy?
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Did you watch the food review like they always getting
distracted something?
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Did you learn this? Lord have mercy? It struck me
right on now I understand what about you understand?
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Well, I'm a little more serious, but I'm still I
still gotta say this. I can't stand a mean girl,
especially an older one. And you know, the thing that
I hate the most is being insecure, taking little quiet
jabs at people.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
And trying to be funny. I don't like that because
when you be fun with me, I started acting real.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Hilarious hello, And I don't think you want to laugh
when I'm cracking jokes. I'm telling it all I'm saying.
But you know, I think that it's such a sad experience.
And a lot of girls first mean girl experience is
from their.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Mother or some woman in their family.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
So I just think that as a mean girl, I
want to say, go ahead and hang it up. Retire, Yeah, retire.
We've got enough going on. We're in a recession. People
can't afford food, they don't have health insurance and therapy.
And I just want to say that if you are,
in fact a me and girl, gone go to hell. Okay, hello,
gone go to hell. Because every time you see me,
(02:39):
every time, I'm gonna look better than.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
You, girl, gonna make them sick today, going to have
you vomiting uncontrollably. So I just thought that I should
throw that out there.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I feel that friend, I feel that that's what it
was saying to me this week, because we could look
very easily build together, have friendship with one another. Yeah.
I don't know about building, but old an empire together,
not like an actual house or something. No, just like,
if if that's your energy. No, I'm saying, if you weren't.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
A mean girl, okay, got you, got you got No,
I'm like you, we get taps together.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
But if you're a mean girl with fank energy, I
want you to know I see you.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yeah, and I don't like And so while you were
playing checkers, come on, come on, come on, come on,
your girl was playing backgammon. Oh you didn't even know
my next movie?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
You thought I was going to say, yeah, yeah, because
that's how you.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Play Russian Okay, but I hope it's not your turn. Yeah,
because because when it's my turn, I'm gonna turn you
every way.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
But I'm sorry, we play entirely too much. Friend, It
is too much going on. We gotta get serious. Other
people wasn't going on?
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Girl, girl, what happen? Oh my god, friend, I'm glad
you asked? Was about that time? Girl?
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Is it a red flag if your man doesn't really
or a partner, man, a partner, whomever you're with, Is
it a red flag if they don't take care of
themselves like going to the regularly schedule checkups and things
like that, exercise and maybe trying to eat right, it's.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
A red flag?
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Oh yeah, I think it's a red flag. Yeah, you know, like, girl,
I don't want no battery acid on me, not.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Toxic fluids. I don't want no toxic fluids on me.
You got to get about of here with that. Oh god,
My thing is just I feel like I feel like
that I don't know to stop me when I'm wrong. Okay, Okay,
I got you.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
I feel like I'm a pretty decent looking person.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
Girl. This it's crazy. I means the ball.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
Okay, I'm sorry, ate that up, but no, I feel like,
you know, like, without sounding arrogant or anything, I feel
like I'm I feel like I'm a nice looking woman,
and I think that it's fair for me to require
somebody to keep themselves up to at least my level
or gatterer.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
I think that that's fair.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
But you have some people that just be like, oh,
I can do what I want because I'm grown or well,
is that what adulting looks like? Because I don't want
no pop literally looking hella unhealthy over there. I don't
want that either. I know it's a lot of things.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
I don't want one back two.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
All I'm saying, you know, this is not because I
know people gonna get back last.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
This is not fat shaming in any way.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Oh no, we're not doing that unhealthy look. So there's
no way exactly. The fact of the matter is people
will not take their health seriously, and it's not just
what you eat or exercising, it's just going to the
doctor and finding out what your cholesterol level is, and
I'm glad we're having this discussion because y'all, what how
can let's they told me, oh friend, they told me. Now,
(06:04):
my my dad had.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
Some issues with his chlestraw, and so I don't know
if it's hereditary or not. But my doctor just she said,
these are your levels and you should, you know, work
everything else. What's freaking like? I did?
Speaker 2 (06:15):
I exam, I did my my coochie doctor, you know,
went to the dinners, did everything that I was supposed
to do. And then I get this little nagging girl
cholestero of all the things I know, and so I
ordered the seafood boy of bag Last, like Jesus, cause
this one ain't never gonna stop eating, honey. I mean,
(06:36):
she should eat you out of a house and a
home if you invite her and be careful. Okay, just
that was gonna eat. This is my last hurrah.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Like I won't. I won't do it no more. But
last night saw it up.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Last night I got off in them crably. Oh my
ma was delicious, loved every leg, shrimp.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Potato doing suicide. That's but the core. Maybe I ate
all of it.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
I ate all of it, but I'm glad that that's
a red flag because I feel like just in general,
we need to all take better care of strinking more water,
being physically active, just watching what we put in our body.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
I mean, I have to agree.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
You know, I got a whole food page, so you know,
girl like, but I go to the doctor's worgularly and
I do take a lot of like supplement as far
as vitamins and things like that, just to keep all
of my stuff intact because my mother has high blood
pressure and my father has the diabeat us.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
It's not the sugar girl, the die beat us. So
I got to be careful with that big mama, your
arm and nobody cutting off my legs.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Oh I'm sorry, Okay, Okay, my gods, this girl stupid.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
That's what she said. And that leg that's the worst
part about her that she said that book and you
want to keep your life. They had to get rid
of that leg. They got that leg. Do you think
you could they got? I really am trying to get
(08:10):
through this, y'all.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
Okay, Oh my gosh, okay, together, I don't so do
you think you could? You think stay with them like
while they like figure it out? Do you want to
try like because I feel like a lot of times
we get resistance, like oh my god, especially for me.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
And men don't want to go to the doctor. They
don't want to get checked for s c I. They
don't want to do nothing. That creeps me up.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Why you don't Why you wait for you to go
to the doctors so you can tell them what they got.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
I ain't going. It's a stalemate. We're gonna. I'll go
when you go. So now we don't know anybody can
have anything. Hell no, I'm going.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
I'm gonna go on both for y'all behalf because ain't
no way, Ain't nobody going now.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
We gotta go now. We got to waste time because
you stubborn.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
But I think it's so important for us to just
like prioritize it, especially now, not just physical but mental
health because growing in the middle of some foolishness. And
you know, America is literally the most obese country and
and I don't want to say friends, I have to
be like specific because I don't want to say obese,
(09:13):
the most unhealthiest country, you know what I mean? Because
like I said, skinny people can be very unhealthy too,
and they feel like they can get away with it,
so they.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Eat the worst.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
So I definitely, yeah, friend can eat I'm gonna eat it.
But I'm but I'm gonna go outside and I'm going
to walk around that track. Fact, imagine how many people
who aren't doing it, who it's just genetics.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
They just going to be small.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
So people look at them and feel like because it's
not actually showing on the outside that they're healthier.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Not true. Yeah, and they listen that heart disease is
a silent killer.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
So make sure you getting your cardio in, get your
steps in, drinking water, mine in your beds.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
Then heavy.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Let me tell you, the quickest I ever snatched into
a nice little curvy figure.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
Left that nigga alone. I feel that. I feel that
left that nigga loone. So I think that your body
will give you like signs.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
That's because your pH violence will be id of whack,
you know what I mean. And you're doing all of
the things you're going I mean, you're going to the gym,
you're trying to eat right, you know, you're getting sleep,
you're well rested, all of that good stuff.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
You've done everything and except for look over at that
man you keep sleeping.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Why are we not looking at hill and listen that
rest is the thing.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Girl.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
I promise you you make so much better decisions sometimes.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Just lay down and go to sleep. I'm telling you,
take a nap, girl, go ahead and take a nap.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
Because you're stressed, you're tired, you're not thinking clearly, you're malnourished.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Okay, your heart all out of whack, your mind is pasting.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
I feel that's this is how your heart looks like.
I sai, this is your heart.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
But no, that's.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
Serious though, So hopefully you know, I hope you guys
here you know we're joking and laughing.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
Yeah, I'm serious. I hope you hear our.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Heart about taking your health more seriously. And I know
that everybody can't do nothing overnight. We're not saying that
you gotta make a drastic change tomorrow, but just take it,
take it seriously. You know everybody gotta go, which you
gotta go so soon. Right, So hello, Now let's talk
about something that's also not good for my health is
ratchet rappers and what is going on in music today.
(11:21):
We hear some of what we call ratchet rap with
people like Sexy Red Pluto Bunna Bee and some other
rap artists. Do you think it's a trend that will
go away or do you think they're wow for around
for a while. First of all, friend, the one you
said that is bothering your health, and you woke me
up every day in the rub but to Glowrilla.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
I'm throwed.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
I'm throwed off. You woke me up every day in
a rub, but took glow. Really, all that music that.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
You have kept playing now run a different difference. Thanks
the round, go ratchet as can be. I love me
some grially. I can't that my guilty pleasure.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
If anybody ever think, oh she's too this so she
said that, I just want you to know that I
be listening to the Gorilla, so you can lower your
expectations for the company. Whatever you thought about me dropping
down three pigs, I haven't listened to the Gorilla. She's
gonna listen to Global absolutely. But we're just seeing so
much of it. I mean, like you, when are when
are we gonna get tired of it? I think I
don't think we're gonna get tired of it. I think dang,
I think that just that joint is so why is
(12:24):
it so loud girl, because you got that big TV say, God, damn.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
This guy, look at this? This is what is this?
What is this? I got this big? He won't do
nothing to you change. I don't know why. I like,
because I'm sitting on twenty four.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Why it's right, don't stop stop at all?
Speaker 1 (12:54):
Stop leave me aloud?
Speaker 2 (12:58):
But do I think that's going to go out of south?
I think that people just got to know how to
pivot when time change, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Like ratchet?
Speaker 2 (13:06):
I mean, can we say Little Kim was ratchet? We
could say Foxy Brown was ratchet?
Speaker 1 (13:10):
You know what I mean. We can say that.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
But did they pivot with the times? Not necessarily? So
that's kind of like.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
I think if they able to change their music, they'll
have longevity.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
When you want to stay right where you're at, what
you've been doing, then you kind of get left. But
I had real talk. What other music would you like
to see Little Kim make?
Speaker 2 (13:29):
No?
Speaker 1 (13:29):
I would like a Moulaive ruge again more. We're not
getting it no more. I just want you to know
now we should you can do this.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
And then now.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
That joint was fire, everybody was doing that again, was.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
This is the most ignorance podcast.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
We don't have no more. We need get because without them,
we need to guess every episode we're going to kind
of oh my gosh, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
I could not see Little Kill doing nothing but that
she's already done. But I mean City Girls is kind
of you know, they was holding their own for a minute,
and now we have you know, like Sexy Red and
Globrilla and a lot of these other girls.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
They're coming out and I mean, I think I think
what it is.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I don't think it's a negative thing. I think that
people are becoming more liberal about their sexuality and I
think that that's starting to spill out into the music.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
And I don't think it's a problem.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
I just think that you will be judged by the
content that you that you put out, and uh, you
know like that people gonna do it with this podcast,
you know what I mean, Like they're gonna see it
and be like, oh, I don't like them because x
Y and Z or oh I.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Love them because x yue.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
So it's kind of like one of those things where
I mean, I don't know, I don't necessarily think it's
good or bad for the culture. I think it's just
art and it should be interpreted as just that lifetime band.
It's for who, it's for them, and agree that's the
end of it. Yeah, I agree. Now what you won't
do what they show up at the workplace looking crazy.
(15:12):
Can we have some girls talk room?
Speaker 1 (15:13):
Yeah, let's do it. What's going on? Women? Especially black women?
Speaker 2 (15:16):
You know, we change our parents every day, whether it's
the hair, the makeup and nails that person, tattoos, piercings, whatever.
How do you find a healthy balance in the workplace
because we have non traditional jobs, you know, so we
don't necessarily have to have our nails a certain length,
in our hair, certain type of color, or things like that.
But I just remember being at companies and they would
(15:38):
restrict literally how we look.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
Yeah, and you know what, it's conditioned.
Speaker 2 (15:44):
I will say that that a workplace can definitely give
me the outline of like what I can and cannot wear.
But I think because I come from a place where
I was always like a supervisor.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
I know, I have never thought that in charge large
than that was me, big boo guy. I was definitely
a supervisor.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
So I think I just wanted to be a proper
representation for my team. It was like, I'm not going
to come in here. How I would go out?
Speaker 1 (16:11):
We was going out for girls and your ladies and night.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
Also for me, it's just like I just don't want
to show up like that too, Like I want to
conduct myself in the most professional way ever. Because when
you already come with the nails, and you already come
with the hair, and you're attractive, people already are prejudging you.
So it's very important that you conduct yourself and that
you wear certain things to present well. Like I want
to represent black women in a beautiful way, you know
(16:35):
what I'm saying. And I hate that, you know, there
are stereotypes where you wear certain things and people say
certain things about you. But I just don't want to
start off like that, Like when you interact with me,
I want you to see something that's like, Okay, I
think too.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
I love that you make that point, and I think too.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
Sometimes the argument is that black women are at multitude
of different things and we're not going to just show
up one way because we are so many things, and
so that leads us to have a conversation about you know,
because people are like, well, we're not being racist. We're
just saying be professional, okay, and professional for the longest
time has been akin to whiteness. Yeah, and so when
(17:12):
you think about that, that's not what I think though,
I mean, I don't think it easy. Hey, I'm gonna
say when I think of professional, I don't think about that.
The hair, the nails never changed, and their hair is
always changing.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
That's still been me my whole life.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
I think that the booths out weren't really low shirts
with your chitties up and little teeny shorts like shorts and.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
Things like that.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
I think those are the things that I'm like, I
wouldn't do that in the workplace and then try to
put on a blazer with that outfit and make it
like business cash. Wasn't there someone who wore blazer and
some booty shorts to a god Christians in escaping me?
At the moment, I can't think of.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus my god on today. Who could
you possibly be talking about? Having the foggiest I did
actually actually I don't know.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Oh, but inappropriate though, needless to say.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
And people say that she's not a pastor, she's not
da da da da da da da. Still you in
the house of the Lord. Have some respect for the
thing that you're going to do.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
And I think that's that's what people are saying, like,
just have some respect for the thing that you're going
to do. I think over policing women's hair and nails
and clothing is a problem.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
But also, don't come up in here.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
If I can see the dark part of your booty cheek, hello,
if I can see the little dark cup part right there,
I'm gonna have to ask you, hey, go ahead and
clock out for immediately.
Speaker 1 (18:38):
And why you want them booty cheese to touch people chairs.
You don't know.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
What's what's going on with them chairs or your booty girl,
y'all too free with them cheeks, y'all put them up,
put them cheeks out, and stop.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
Doing that, because I'm tired to see. I'm tired of
seeing that.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Brian, Like, how do y'all feel so comfortable seeing your
bed booty on people's seats? Well, you can ask Lizzo Becau.
She went to the Lakers game and she had the
prince outfit with the booty cut out, and I was out.
I mean, listen, people can do what they want to do.
My dad has always told me this. That's sure, you
can do whatever you want to do, but you've got
(19:15):
to also understand that you cannot control people's perception of
what you put out.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
That is sure.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
If you don't want to be perceived a certain type
of way, certain things you okay. And it may not
be one hundred percent right or fair, but that's just
the way it is right now.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
So when there's a time where.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
We can all show up to work in booty shorts
and our breasts out with shirts, right, what are we
talking everybodys to the kickback? Because it's obviously not a
job now we having a shouldn't exactly lord, But when
it comes to that head, don't talk about my head.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Don't say nothing about my head.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
If a woman wants to come with her natural hair out,
you not have the right to tell her she's being unprofessional.
When it comes to her nails with everly well, girl,
I have to hear, is a bit a little an
unsanitary girl start curving and stuff and you you handling
the food, and I just you know what I'm saying it,
do get a little crazy with that. But if she
want to wear her nails like a normal limp. People
(20:11):
may say we have long nails, but like, that's what
the lady at the nail shop said. She said, you
like your nails long? Huh, I said, don't seem long.
Six women in my apartment company longer nails.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
That's right, Like what do you do?
Speaker 2 (20:22):
Right? So I just think certain things you should leave
off the table. But attire, yeah, I'm gonna have to
say that's unprofessional if you or.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
Just be covered. Yeah, like what to wear.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
I'm just saying I shouldn't see this crack part of
your boob, and I shouldn't see the dark part of
your boot.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
That's all I'm saying. It's all I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
And you can't just put a blaze on and make
some shape exactly. I mean you can, but you.
Speaker 1 (20:45):
Gotta be down at the pink pussy cat, damn at
the pink look. I was born by the river. I
was shaking it open, I was getting I'm sorry, I'm glad,
thank you m mmmmm.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
And you know what else really bothers me too, Like
I think that the natural hair has been demonized for
so long. But the thing that I really can't stand
is people will tell you, oh, I love natural hair
on women. I love natural hair, and is there another
natural in the room with us about the same natural
when you see, baby, this's up under hair.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
It's a reason why my hair is always braided.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
I don't have the energy or the time to be
flat ironing and blow dry and stilk pressing, like I'm
just I'm simply not gonna just the process. So I've
chosen to just keep my hair braided because it's simple
and easy.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
I can get up and go. I don't have a
whole lot of maintenance.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
My hair is healthy up under here, and I don't
have to just be up doing a bunch of stuff.
But people will look you dead in the face and
say I love natural hair, and then when.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
You take your brains nowt one not at their house
after work? I'm sorry, what's that? What's so perfect? So
nervous for that man? I'm sorry, No, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
You know what's so funny about him? But I should
not be telling my business on hair. But my dude,
he don't care about my natural hair. Like he's literally
the first person who ever in my life, ever in
my life, who was just okay with my natural hair,
not like a not a backhanded joke, compliment or anything,
not a slick remark, like I've never gotten that from him.
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And it's so odd because we were raised to kind
of hate our hair, and that's exactly where I was
going from.
Speaker 1 (22:33):
It's like I have the.
Speaker 2 (22:34):
Same thing, like the hair stay braided up under the
wig because it's just such a long, tedious process. And
it does not mean because people will interpret this and
say they hate their hair, I do not hate my
hair at all. I hate doing it though I do
hate the process. But when I see myself, I don't
hate my hair. I just know that it is time
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consuming for me and I just don't got the time,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (22:58):
People who I.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
Admire natural girls because they literally are dedicated to figuring
out everything that their hair needs, how to make it
the best hair that they could possibly be, and all
of that stuff.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
For me, it's just easier.
Speaker 2 (23:09):
But Brad's corn rows and get them the cleo from
set it off real quick. Ain't going by That's it.
It's just I was on work ahead of me. I'm
not gonna spend two right here.
Speaker 1 (23:17):
I'm telling you trying to flood don and roll and
permit it.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
It's just a lot, you know what I mean, And
that's why I said I commend them. But back to
what I was saying. At a young age, we were
conditioned to like think our hair is unmanageable. I mean,
so many women would tell you that's why they hear
so sure because they got a perm in the third grade,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (23:36):
And I just understand where they're coming from when.
Speaker 2 (23:39):
They say, ma'am, your hair is not short at forty
two because you got a perm.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
Thirty years of story, that's her testiment.
Speaker 2 (23:49):
Lady is lying that, like I don't know who the
woman is, but if you friends will the nay. And
she's talking about you being ball headed. I want you
to know that you're a ball headed lie. No okay, no,
oh what I just want you to them y'all being
it's beautiful. So I just felt like we struggle in
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this area because we weren't taught to embrace it.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
There were some women who were, but there was.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
A lot of women who weren't who struggled, who actually
do hate their.
Speaker 1 (24:18):
Hair, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
And so I think me and you have kind of
figured out like how to manage it, but then you
have women who unable to get breaks, unable to buy wigs,
and so even though they hate their hair, that's just
what they have to do, you know what I'm saying.
And it can play a part on your insecurities, like
it can make you really insecure, especially if you're dealing
with people who don't accept you and your wrong onm
(24:40):
like when you can get your hair done, or like
I wish a man would girl, because the way I'm
wouldn't even know his name.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
No, my hand already lost. Don't ever say that. Don't
ever feel comfortable to ever say that. When you're gonna
get your hair done, I have an answer for you
right around the time you put some money in my head.
Speaker 2 (24:59):
Hello, because see that cash out answered a lot of
questions for somebody who ain't finally asked my life.
Speaker 1 (25:03):
You I'm taking that. Listen.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
People always have something to say, and I think this
is we always go left field.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
But like, I want to talk about black hair, yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
Because I feel like we like people say that they
like it, but we know that that's not really the
case all the time.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
Because you know what they see.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
They see when they think natural hair, they think the
girl with the big curly Yeah, you know what I'm saying,
like this is luxury and look a different type of
texture like a two sea or three CS. Baby, it's
over here, it's for zzs. Okay, I ain't mixed with
nothing but black Africa black black, and in black that
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would be me as well. So they don't think about
four sea hair or beyond. They always think about that
pearl pattern. Just like easy to manage, and I'm not
taking away from anything, but I promise you here's a
lot easier to manage and foreseat hair. I'm sorry I
have to go on the record and say you know
I'm saying. So they think that you're gonna wake up
with these luxurious curls. You know, James, that was never
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mind who you thought exactly? You know what I'm saying,
That ain't it when you see me and it's given
and it's sticking that like so.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
Hey, it's Franklin. What you're gonna do when I sign
is smush, But you know what it's given.
Speaker 2 (26:30):
Frederick Douglass and let me say this, Prodrick even know
all the aside, like even the fact that we're sitting
here making jokes about it, like that's that's the part
that I'm talking about like we have literally been conditioned
to find our own hair texture and pattern unfavorable. Yeah,
(26:53):
and it grows out of my No, I'm part of
the full sea community. So hey, I'm not making no
judgment because that's how my hair is. So I could talk.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
About it because it's mine. Y'all.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
Not gonna make me seem like I'm making fun of
y'all because I would never I'm dealing with this because
I look like frend doesn't I tacked my brains down,
nor damn bevery Okay, I don't look like, oh god.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
It's because it's strong, because you never just took your
face out. I'm going to stop right.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
You just looked in the mirror and it was and
it was given, was given eighteen sixty one?
Speaker 1 (27:45):
Like what is happening? Are we cream just going?
Speaker 2 (27:50):
No?
Speaker 1 (27:50):
Master coming around the corner y'all?
Speaker 2 (27:52):
Like she made the way that hair looked tough and
kept even you know.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
How I got teas. I gotta recept hold on you.
Oh my god, land, I have tears in my house
to get it together. What would you saying? Lord?
Speaker 3 (28:14):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (28:15):
Please?
Speaker 3 (28:16):
Young?
Speaker 2 (28:17):
Oh my god, god, dog, this is the dumbest podcast.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Girl, nobody's gonna find this scream.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
Oh my goodness, Oh Lord, Lord Mary say if.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
They put a picture of Lord Dan Barry up there,
Hey Yang cry, Okay, I'm good. Oh all right.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
And then walks gonna go get t shoe and you
don't need Lord, I don't even need it.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
Okay, Jesus, that was funny, is he?
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Hell?
Speaker 1 (29:00):
They're gonna be mad as hell about this one. They
just gotta be mad because I can go with the hair,
so y'all can die, you know what I'm saying, Like
I can talk about it when I take these brains out.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
Baby girl, it's rough and tough with man's mostly tough.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
I'm me tell you for real, say it's stick up here.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
Yes, And people just don't like, people don't understand, like
who wants to.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
When you think about what we do for a living.
Speaker 2 (29:24):
Yeah, girl, I'm on a plane at least both of
us are on a plane at least once a month,
I'm telling you minimum.
Speaker 1 (29:30):
So I just don't have the time.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
Like and then the girls that baby Instagram is not
for just wake up at.
Speaker 1 (29:36):
The bed and go no.
Speaker 2 (29:38):
You you can maybe try that over on TikTok, but
when you're on social media, Like, people want to see
you put together in some kind of way, so can
so if you like I've I've just started doing a
full face of makeup to do like my my YouTube stuff.
Speaker 1 (29:51):
But girl, I ain't want to do it.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
I ain't want to do it because I don't I'm
not a I don't consider myself like a super girly girl,
So I was never gonna do nothing related with hair. Yeah,
but you know, like I'm just getting into the makeup stuff. Like,
once I learn how to do my makeup, it was
over for these girls. I'm telling you, I'm not paying
one hundred and fifty dollars ever every single time you
need your makeup never, it's crazy. It's well worth learning
how to do it on your own. And y'all, YouTube
(30:15):
is free, and even though you may think that it's tedious,
it's worth learning because you're going to spend so much
more money paying somebody.
Speaker 1 (30:21):
To do it then versus just learning how to do
it yourself.
Speaker 2 (30:24):
You know, So I think taking advantage of that is
definitely worth your girl.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
Now, we can say that about makeup, but hair is different.
Speaker 2 (30:31):
It is different because you know what I hear from
the natural hair girls, is that, Like you will have
to go through so many products before you actually find
out what works for your hair, and it can get
really expensive. Like you just be like you can get
a little lipstick for five dollars if you don't like it.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
We don't like that no more.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
But when you buy a conditioner and detangular and just
leaving conditioning, then you got to get something to level
out your phe balance in your hair. Like that's something
new that I just learned about that, like the pH
balance of your hair is now I can't control. I'm
sick of this. It's the battlem my probiotics. I'm needing
a yo, girl, I can't do. I stopped messing with that, dude,
(31:07):
I don't need to control no more phes.
Speaker 1 (31:09):
I'm done. It's crazy. It's a whole process.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
And the natural girl is to tell you, like it's
expensive to be natural full time, you know, And then
when you I mean maybe if you had, like I
don't know, people just when you're an entrepreneur, like stuff
ain't just as steady and stable as people might always think.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
And so I'm not interested.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
In I just got five hundred dollars and now I
got to spend two hundred of it on hair products
and then that's gonna take me.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
Hour and a half of the mornings.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
I don't have time for that. You know, it's time
consuming and a lot of people just simply don't want
to do it. And I think black women as a
whole should invest in paying.
Speaker 1 (31:47):
Somebody to do things that they don't want to do.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
Yeah, if you got your phones, I don't see why not.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:52):
Period, All my whigs is free. Okay, listen by name
on the squad moment you heard it, come on.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
Me a shameless brother, that's what you got.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
Friends, and you know what else? I like paid for
about other people, but vacations. I'm glad we brought it
up because when you going on a vacation, who is
putting the bill?
Speaker 1 (32:16):
Who I did? Was it? That's not enough for me
because I don't care. I don't want to pay.
Speaker 2 (32:21):
I'm not gonna act like I never paid for a trip.
Speaker 1 (32:23):
Friend.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
First of all, you are lie because I can pull
up receipts where you said you paid for that man
and you said you got to you and then he
had did some weird stuff and then you was like,
I'm never doing that again. But you had d and
you paid for the flight in the hotel and you
said it, Okay, you got amnesia, I too have fallen. Pray,
(32:51):
yes you have so like we had took me.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
Once, though I compromish you, I ain't never do that again.
Speaker 2 (32:57):
Yeah, I just don't be I can't fund him, I can't,
I can't and stuff. Yeah, but it's initially like you
need to be like that needs to follow you to
take me out, you know what I'm saying. And then
once I see that, like, okay, maybe this is a
safe space, then you know I can tappen. I'll be
knowing how how safe is it? Because okay, question how
(33:18):
soon in the relationship are we doing this? Because safe
to me? I mean, oh, I know he gonna do
this one little thing that I need him to do,
Like he's consistent in taking my trash out, he's consistent
in pumping my gas thing, you know, full of my
basic needs. I mean, I'm just saying, not my basic needs, man,
Matt girl, I'm just saying, like you.
Speaker 1 (33:38):
You don't get no prize for doing things I can
already do for myself.
Speaker 2 (33:41):
Well, I'm just saying that the interwebs is saying that
this is stuff that men are just it's a connundrum. Honey,
taking the trash out, girl, playing games in my car?
Speaker 1 (33:50):
Want anything?
Speaker 2 (33:52):
I know people that don't even want to text you
bad and you should not be talking to me. You're right,
do not text back. You're correct, that's the right answer,
right answer.
Speaker 1 (34:05):
Like, h don't text me back, don't talk to me.
Speaker 2 (34:07):
If you can't do basic things for me, or you
feel like you're going out of your way to do
small things for me, why in the world would I
ever consider taking you anywhere with me?
Speaker 1 (34:15):
But you're not gonna do nothing there either.
Speaker 2 (34:17):
I'm saying if somebody is consistent in smaller things, I'm wondering,
like when is a When is the time to step
it up? Because to me, I'm the lulu. Okay, I
think you should. I think you should want to take
me out of town as soon as you meet me. Wow,
now am I gonna go now? But should you want to?
You should offer yet? Let me say, I'm not comfortable,
(34:38):
but I think that you should want to take me somewhere.
Speaker 1 (34:40):
Why? Because I'm mean, you get on MYRD. What are
we discussing here? I'm done? You ain't hearing my mercy?
Speaker 2 (34:48):
No, No, I think I just of course. My thing
is this, if I meet you and you want to
take me out of town, I got a check you
right quick, because the last thing you're gonna do is
book a one bedroom with a king.
Speaker 1 (35:04):
Size b I need to see two bedrooms. Dude down the.
Speaker 2 (35:08):
Hall though, like, but if I if I feel like that,
I wouldn't even agree to go.
Speaker 1 (35:12):
But you don't know though I do, because if you get.
Speaker 2 (35:16):
If you if you book a trip and you're like, yeah,
I got it's a trip. But first of all, I'm
never going away where I can't get my own room,
That's all. I never like, I can't just if.
Speaker 1 (35:24):
I'm sleeping in the same bed with you, but you,
I would never feel comfortable and want to tell me go. Okay.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
But that's why I said I'm delusional, because I do
believe you Comedian, you meet me, you should probably want
to take me to believe they're pandam off Portugal. Wow,
I like, Okay, Philip, I'm not mad at that Turkey. Okay,
(35:54):
I'm sorry, Okay, I do I do I think that
I think that you should want to spend time with
me somewhere else, esp if you know a little bit
about me. You know, I love to travel, that's my
love language. So I might not be ready to do
it after like a month or two, but I don't know,
maybe six months down the line. Six months, yeah, six months,
I can talk about it. We could talk about it,
because by that time I should know if I'm even
(36:16):
feeling even the idea of it, you know.
Speaker 1 (36:18):
What I mean. But like initially I don't know. I mean,
some people you can't even take to Kroger. So it depends,
it depends.
Speaker 2 (36:25):
But as far as before all them courting courting, before
all of that, people do not court anymore front Like
that is like not a thing. People just don't feel
like they need to take you out anymore. They don't
feel like, you know, open open the door.
Speaker 1 (36:41):
That's girl.
Speaker 2 (36:42):
All them videos went viral to open the door things,
so people don't feel like they need to do that. Like,
I just want to know where.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
It is hivalry. They say women killed it. How I
don't know.
Speaker 2 (36:52):
I'm trying to figure out which women they are talking about,
because me personally, I'm a princess and I want you
to do everything for me really, and.
Speaker 1 (36:57):
I've just now gotten into this place.
Speaker 2 (37:00):
It's like my daddy's foiled me growing up, but as
a young woman who dates me and my daddy also
taught me not to depend on me anything. So there
has been this weird symbiosis in my life of I
want this, I don't need I mean it should be
like that. And so now this, you know guy, I'll
(37:22):
be looking for him. I'd be like, hey, I need something.
Speaker 1 (37:27):
I love that and god before I'd be like, hey, babe,
can you do this? Can you?
Speaker 2 (37:32):
And I remember he's I'm really bad about this because
I'll be trying to do something. He'll watch me struggle
and I and I'd be like, can you do this?
You know I have an attitude, but I can do this.
He'd be like, I know you can, but you don't
have to.
Speaker 1 (37:45):
Yeah, I love that, I do it. You know you
don't have to do that. I can do that.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
And I'm just like, just do thing like I told
you to do, like I told you. No, I want
I love that for you because I know me and
you are kind of in similar boats when it comes
to just allowing people to do things for us, and like,
you know, because we just take on a lot. So
sometimes when you just naturally that's your like like default
setting where you just, oh, we gotta get done, let
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me get doing it.
Speaker 1 (38:12):
Then you don't know.
Speaker 2 (38:13):
How to allow other people to come in your life
and do that. And I too have learned how the
girl let go and.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
Let go you and me and I love it. It
always works out.
Speaker 2 (38:22):
Hellout else want to you know, and you know, just
divide all of the chores.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
You get a chore, You get a chore, You'll get
a chore.
Speaker 2 (38:29):
I am now off my plate and delegate accepting, and
delegate for the roster. We got an opening this season only.
We got six open spots.
Speaker 1 (38:39):
On anything you wanted.
Speaker 2 (38:41):
One for the car, one for the rents, want to
take the gas side, want.
Speaker 1 (38:45):
To feed me? One for trips, and one for legal purposes. Wait,
because the legal purposes. What's happening? What's going on? I'm
just staying. You just need one. You just need want
somebody over here that don't mind getting dirty. You feel okay.
I don't know what Joline got grew up. I'm just playing, y'all.
I love it. Man. Anyway, you gonna see this and
(39:07):
he probably gonna cut me out, but I had none
to do this. It's fine, he'll be he'll feel batter
in Panama.
Speaker 2 (39:14):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (39:16):
On that note, hell stay out. We're gonna have a
head out.
Speaker 2 (39:20):
Okay, y'all know, y'all can catch us here every Thursday.
Speaker 1 (39:24):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (39:24):
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Speaker 1 (39:33):
All right, y'all. Thane
What's for everybody?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
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to that, she said the first podcast in Urban one
podcast from the urber one podcast network, Get.
Speaker 1 (00:14):
Very Yet, I'm on, y'ah. I love a good podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
You now before we start talking about the things that
are going on in the next ship to there's so
much going on, honey, I got to know what irritates
you this week?
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Child? You know what I don't like? What tell me
I don't.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Like when people get up in my DMS and comments
and tell me, oh, I don't like your nails, I
don't like your hair.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
And then you know what I do?
Speaker 2 (00:40):
I send them my cash for the envoy Because the
only people who can ever have an opinion on anything
that I got going on is people who finance it,
I think.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
And here I am trying to give you a voice,
and you don't want to.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Take it, Okay, Like when you go to build a bed,
don't they make you pay the build the band?
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Well, how much you think I'm gonna charge you the building?
You could sleep that out? You bleep that part out? Actually,
how much are you going to be charged to be
able to Okay, that's what you know what. I think
that's fair.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
I think that's more than fair, actually, because why are
you giving your opinion about something that doesn't concern you.
You didn't you didn't contribute at all, didn't try. You
didn't even try anybody.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
And this was never about how I look. Did you
listen to the comedy?
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Did you watch the food review like they always getting
distracted something?
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Did you learn this? Lord have mercy? It struck me
right on now I understand what about you understand?
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Well, I'm a little more serious, but I'm still I
still gotta say this. I can't stand a mean girl,
especially an older one. And you know, the thing that
I hate the most is being insecure, taking little quiet
jabs at people.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
And trying to be funny. I don't like that because
when you be fun with me, I started acting real.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Hilarious hello, And I don't think you want to laugh
when I'm cracking jokes. I'm telling it all I'm saying.
But you know, I think that it's such a sad experience.
And a lot of girls first mean girl experience is
from their.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Mother or some woman in their family.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
So I just think that as a mean girl, I
want to say, go ahead and hang it up. Retire, Yeah, retire.
We've got enough going on. We're in a recession. People
can't afford food, they don't have health insurance and therapy.
And I just want to say that if you are,
in fact a me and girl, gone go to hell. Okay, hello,
gone go to hell. Because every time you see me,
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every time, I'm gonna look better than.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
You, girl, gonna make them sick today, going to have
you vomiting uncontrollably. So I just thought that I should
throw that out there.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
I feel that friend, I feel that that's what it
was saying to me this week, because we could look
very easily build together, have friendship with one another. Yeah.
I don't know about building, but old an empire together,
not like an actual house or something. No, just like,
if if that's your energy. No, I'm saying, if you weren't.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
A mean girl, okay, got you, got you got No,
I'm like you, we get taps together.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
But if you're a mean girl with fank energy, I
want you to know I see you.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Yeah, and I don't like And so while you were
playing checkers, come on, come on, come on, come on,
your girl was playing backgammon. Oh you didn't even know
my next movie?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
You thought I was going to say, yeah, yeah, because
that's how you.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Play Russian Okay, but I hope it's not your turn. Yeah,
because because when it's my turn, I'm gonna turn you
every way.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
But I'm sorry, we play entirely too much. Friend, It
is too much going on. We gotta get serious. Other
people wasn't going on?
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Girl, girl, what happen? Oh my god, friend, I'm glad
you asked? Was about that time? Girl?
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Is it a red flag if your man doesn't really
or a partner, man, a partner, whomever you're with, Is
it a red flag if they don't take care of
themselves like going to the regularly schedule checkups and things
like that, exercise and maybe trying to eat right, it's.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
A red flag?
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Oh yeah, I think it's a red flag. Yeah, you know, like, girl,
I don't want no battery acid on me, not.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Toxic fluids. I don't want no toxic fluids on me.
You got to get about of here with that. Oh god,
My thing is just I feel like I feel like
that I don't know to stop me when I'm wrong. Okay, Okay,
I got you.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
I feel like I'm a pretty decent looking person.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
Girl. This it's crazy. I means the ball.
Speaker 3 (04:58):
Okay, I'm sorry, ate that up, but no, I feel like,
you know, like, without sounding arrogant or anything, I feel
like I'm I feel like I'm a nice looking woman,
and I think that it's fair for me to require
somebody to keep themselves up to at least my level
or gatterer.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
I think that that's fair.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
But you have some people that just be like, oh,
I can do what I want because I'm grown or well,
is that what adulting looks like? Because I don't want
no pop literally looking hella unhealthy over there. I don't
want that either. I know it's a lot of things.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
I don't want one back two.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
All I'm saying, you know, this is not because I
know people gonna get back last.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
This is not fat shaming in any way.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Oh no, we're not doing that unhealthy look. So there's
no way exactly. The fact of the matter is people
will not take their health seriously, and it's not just
what you eat or exercising, it's just going to the
doctor and finding out what your cholesterol level is, and
I'm glad we're having this discussion because y'all, what how
can let's they told me, oh friend, they told me. Now,
(06:04):
my my dad had.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
Some issues with his chlestraw, and so I don't know
if it's hereditary or not. But my doctor just she said,
these are your levels and you should, you know, work
everything else. What's freaking like? I did?
Speaker 2 (06:15):
I exam, I did my my coochie doctor, you know,
went to the dinners, did everything that I was supposed
to do. And then I get this little nagging girl
cholestero of all the things I know, and so I
ordered the seafood boy of bag Last, like Jesus, cause
this one ain't never gonna stop eating, honey. I mean,
(06:36):
she should eat you out of a house and a
home if you invite her and be careful. Okay, just
that was gonna eat. This is my last hurrah.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Like I won't. I won't do it no more. But
last night saw it up.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Last night I got off in them crably. Oh my
ma was delicious, loved every leg, shrimp.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Potato doing suicide. That's but the core. Maybe I ate
all of it.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
I ate all of it, but I'm glad that that's
a red flag because I feel like just in general,
we need to all take better care of strinking more water,
being physically active, just watching what we put in our body.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
I mean, I have to agree.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
You know, I got a whole food page, so you know,
girl like, but I go to the doctor's worgularly and
I do take a lot of like supplement as far
as vitamins and things like that, just to keep all
of my stuff intact because my mother has high blood
pressure and my father has the diabeat us.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
It's not the sugar girl, the die beat us. So
I got to be careful with that big mama, your
arm and nobody cutting off my legs.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Oh I'm sorry, Okay, Okay, my gods, this girl stupid.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
That's what she said. And that leg that's the worst
part about her that she said that book and you
want to keep your life. They had to get rid
of that leg. They got that leg. Do you think
you could they got? I really am trying to get
(08:10):
through this, y'all.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
Okay, Oh my gosh, okay, together, I don't so do
you think you could? You think stay with them like
while they like figure it out? Do you want to
try like because I feel like a lot of times
we get resistance, like oh my god, especially for me.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
And men don't want to go to the doctor. They
don't want to get checked for s c I. They
don't want to do nothing. That creeps me up.
Speaker 2 (08:30):
Why you don't Why you wait for you to go
to the doctors so you can tell them what they got.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
I ain't going. It's a stalemate. We're gonna. I'll go
when you go. So now we don't know anybody can
have anything. Hell no, I'm going.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
I'm gonna go on both for y'all behalf because ain't
no way, Ain't nobody going now.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
We gotta go now. We got to waste time because
you stubborn.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
But I think it's so important for us to just
like prioritize it, especially now, not just physical but mental
health because growing in the middle of some foolishness. And
you know, America is literally the most obese country and
and I don't want to say friends, I have to
be like specific because I don't want to say obese,
(09:13):
the most unhealthiest country, you know what I mean? Because
like I said, skinny people can be very unhealthy too,
and they feel like they can get away with it,
so they.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Eat the worst.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
So I definitely, yeah, friend can eat I'm gonna eat it.
But I'm but I'm gonna go outside and I'm going
to walk around that track. Fact, imagine how many people
who aren't doing it, who it's just genetics.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
They just going to be small.
Speaker 2 (09:33):
So people look at them and feel like because it's
not actually showing on the outside that they're healthier.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Not true. Yeah, and they listen that heart disease is
a silent killer.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
So make sure you getting your cardio in, get your
steps in, drinking water, mine in your beds.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
Then heavy.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Let me tell you, the quickest I ever snatched into
a nice little curvy figure.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
Left that nigga alone. I feel that. I feel that
left that nigga loone. So I think that your body
will give you like signs.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
That's because your pH violence will be id of whack,
you know what I mean. And you're doing all of
the things you're going I mean, you're going to the gym,
you're trying to eat right, you know, you're getting sleep,
you're well rested, all of that good stuff.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
You've done everything and except for look over at that
man you keep sleeping.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Why are we not looking at hill and listen that
rest is the thing.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Girl.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
I promise you you make so much better decisions sometimes.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Just lay down and go to sleep. I'm telling you,
take a nap, girl, go ahead and take a nap.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
Because you're stressed, you're tired, you're not thinking clearly, you're malnourished.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Okay, your heart all out of whack, your mind is pasting.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
I feel that's this is how your heart looks like.
I sai, this is your heart.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
But no, that's.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
Serious though, So hopefully you know, I hope you guys
here you know we're joking and laughing.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
Yeah, I'm serious. I hope you hear our.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
Heart about taking your health more seriously. And I know
that everybody can't do nothing overnight. We're not saying that
you gotta make a drastic change tomorrow, but just take it,
take it seriously. You know everybody gotta go, which you
gotta go so soon. Right, So hello, Now let's talk
about something that's also not good for my health is
ratchet rappers and what is going on in music today.
(11:21):
We hear some of what we call ratchet rap with
people like Sexy Red Pluto Bunna Bee and some other
rap artists. Do you think it's a trend that will
go away or do you think they're wow for around
for a while. First of all, friend, the one you
said that is bothering your health, and you woke me
up every day in the rub but to Glowrilla.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
I'm throwed.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
I'm throwed off. You woke me up every day in
a rub, but took glow. Really, all that music that.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
You have kept playing now run a different difference. Thanks
the round, go ratchet as can be. I love me
some grially. I can't that my guilty pleasure.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
If anybody ever think, oh she's too this so she
said that, I just want you to know that I
be listening to the Gorilla, so you can lower your
expectations for the company. Whatever you thought about me dropping
down three pigs, I haven't listened to the Gorilla. She's
gonna listen to Global absolutely. But we're just seeing so
much of it. I mean, like you, when are when
are we gonna get tired of it? I think I
don't think we're gonna get tired of it. I think dang,
I think that just that joint is so why is
(12:24):
it so loud girl, because you got that big TV say, God, damn.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
This guy, look at this? This is what is this?
What is this? I got this big? He won't do
nothing to you change. I don't know why. I like,
because I'm sitting on twenty four.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Why it's right, don't stop stop at all?
Speaker 1 (12:54):
Stop leave me aloud?
Speaker 2 (12:58):
But do I think that's going to go out of south?
I think that people just got to know how to
pivot when time change, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Like ratchet?
Speaker 2 (13:06):
I mean, can we say Little Kim was ratchet? We
could say Foxy Brown was ratchet?
Speaker 1 (13:10):
You know what I mean. We can say that.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
But did they pivot with the times? Not necessarily? So
that's kind of like.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (13:16):
I think if they able to change their music, they'll
have longevity.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
When you want to stay right where you're at, what
you've been doing, then you kind of get left. But
I had real talk. What other music would you like
to see Little Kim make?
Speaker 2 (13:29):
No?
Speaker 1 (13:29):
I would like a Moulaive ruge again more. We're not
getting it no more. I just want you to know
now we should you can do this.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
And then now.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
That joint was fire, everybody was doing that again, was.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
This is the most ignorance podcast.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
We don't have no more. We need get because without them,
we need to guess every episode we're going to kind
of oh my gosh, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
I could not see Little Kill doing nothing but that
she's already done. But I mean City Girls is kind
of you know, they was holding their own for a minute,
and now we have you know, like Sexy Red and
Globrilla and a lot of these other girls.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
They're coming out and I mean, I think I think
what it is.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I don't think it's a negative thing. I think that
people are becoming more liberal about their sexuality and I
think that that's starting to spill out into the music.
Speaker 1 (14:37):
And I don't think it's a problem.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
I just think that you will be judged by the
content that you that you put out, and uh, you
know like that people gonna do it with this podcast,
you know what I mean, Like they're gonna see it
and be like, oh, I don't like them because x
Y and Z or oh I.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Love them because x yue.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
So it's kind of like one of those things where
I mean, I don't know, I don't necessarily think it's
good or bad for the culture. I think it's just
art and it should be interpreted as just that lifetime band.
It's for who, it's for them, and agree that's the
end of it. Yeah, I agree. Now what you won't
do what they show up at the workplace looking crazy.
(15:12):
Can we have some girls talk room?
Speaker 1 (15:13):
Yeah, let's do it. What's going on? Women? Especially black women?
Speaker 2 (15:16):
You know, we change our parents every day, whether it's
the hair, the makeup and nails that person, tattoos, piercings, whatever.
How do you find a healthy balance in the workplace
because we have non traditional jobs, you know, so we
don't necessarily have to have our nails a certain length,
in our hair, certain type of color, or things like that.
But I just remember being at companies and they would
(15:38):
restrict literally how we look.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
Yeah, and you know what, it's conditioned.
Speaker 2 (15:44):
I will say that that a workplace can definitely give
me the outline of like what I can and cannot wear.
But I think because I come from a place where
I was always like a supervisor.
Speaker 1 (15:53):
I know, I have never thought that in charge large
than that was me, big boo guy. I was definitely
a supervisor.
Speaker 2 (16:05):
So I think I just wanted to be a proper
representation for my team. It was like, I'm not going
to come in here. How I would go out?
Speaker 1 (16:11):
We was going out for girls and your ladies and night.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
Also for me, it's just like I just don't want
to show up like that too, Like I want to
conduct myself in the most professional way ever. Because when
you already come with the nails, and you already come
with the hair, and you're attractive, people already are prejudging you.
So it's very important that you conduct yourself and that
you wear certain things to present well. Like I want
to represent black women in a beautiful way, you know
(16:35):
what I'm saying. And I hate that, you know, there
are stereotypes where you wear certain things and people say
certain things about you. But I just don't want to
start off like that, Like when you interact with me,
I want you to see something that's like, Okay, I
think too.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
I love that you make that point, and I think too.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
Sometimes the argument is that black women are at multitude
of different things and we're not going to just show
up one way because we are so many things, and
so that leads us to have a conversation about you know,
because people are like, well, we're not being racist. We're
just saying be professional, okay, and professional for the longest
time has been akin to whiteness. Yeah, and so when
(17:12):
you think about that, that's not what I think though,
I mean, I don't think it easy. Hey, I'm gonna
say when I think of professional, I don't think about that.
The hair, the nails never changed, and their hair is
always changing.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
That's still been me my whole life.
Speaker 2 (17:23):
I think that the booths out weren't really low shirts
with your chitties up and little teeny shorts like shorts and.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
Things like that.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
I think those are the things that I'm like, I
wouldn't do that in the workplace and then try to
put on a blazer with that outfit and make it
like business cash. Wasn't there someone who wore blazer and
some booty shorts to a god Christians in escaping me?
At the moment, I can't think of.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus my god on today. Who could
you possibly be talking about? Having the foggiest I did
actually actually I don't know.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Oh, but inappropriate though, needless to say.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
And people say that she's not a pastor, she's not
da da da da da da da. Still you in
the house of the Lord. Have some respect for the
thing that you're going to do.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
And I think that's that's what people are saying, like,
just have some respect for the thing that you're going
to do. I think over policing women's hair and nails
and clothing is a problem.
Speaker 1 (18:26):
But also, don't come up in here.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
If I can see the dark part of your booty cheek, hello,
if I can see the little dark cup part right there,
I'm gonna have to ask you, hey, go ahead and
clock out for immediately.
Speaker 1 (18:38):
And why you want them booty cheese to touch people chairs.
You don't know.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
What's what's going on with them chairs or your booty girl,
y'all too free with them cheeks, y'all put them up,
put them cheeks out, and stop.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
Doing that, because I'm tired to see. I'm tired of
seeing that.
Speaker 2 (18:53):
Brian, Like, how do y'all feel so comfortable seeing your
bed booty on people's seats? Well, you can ask Lizzo Becau.
She went to the Lakers game and she had the
prince outfit with the booty cut out, and I was out.
I mean, listen, people can do what they want to do.
My dad has always told me this. That's sure, you
can do whatever you want to do, but you've got
(19:15):
to also understand that you cannot control people's perception of
what you put out.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
That is sure.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
If you don't want to be perceived a certain type
of way, certain things you okay. And it may not
be one hundred percent right or fair, but that's just
the way it is right now.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
So when there's a time where.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
We can all show up to work in booty shorts
and our breasts out with shirts, right, what are we
talking everybodys to the kickback? Because it's obviously not a
job now we having a shouldn't exactly lord, But when
it comes to that head, don't talk about my head.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Don't say nothing about my head.
Speaker 2 (19:50):
If a woman wants to come with her natural hair out,
you not have the right to tell her she's being unprofessional.
When it comes to her nails with everly well, girl,
I have to hear, is a bit a little an
unsanitary girl start curving and stuff and you you handling
the food, and I just you know what I'm saying it,
do get a little crazy with that. But if she
want to wear her nails like a normal limp. People
(20:11):
may say we have long nails, but like, that's what
the lady at the nail shop said. She said, you
like your nails long? Huh, I said, don't seem long.
Six women in my apartment company longer nails.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
That's right, Like what do you do?
Speaker 2 (20:22):
Right? So I just think certain things you should leave
off the table. But attire, yeah, I'm gonna have to
say that's unprofessional if you or.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
Just be covered. Yeah, like what to wear.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
I'm just saying I shouldn't see this crack part of
your boob, and I shouldn't see the dark part of
your boot.
Speaker 1 (20:38):
That's all I'm saying. It's all I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
And you can't just put a blaze on and make
some shape exactly. I mean you can, but you.
Speaker 1 (20:45):
Gotta be down at the pink pussy cat, damn at
the pink look. I was born by the river. I
was shaking it open, I was getting I'm sorry, I'm glad,
thank you m mmmmm.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
And you know what else really bothers me too, Like
I think that the natural hair has been demonized for
so long. But the thing that I really can't stand
is people will tell you, oh, I love natural hair
on women. I love natural hair, and is there another
natural in the room with us about the same natural
when you see, baby, this's up under hair.
Speaker 1 (21:26):
It's a reason why my hair is always braided.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
I don't have the energy or the time to be
flat ironing and blow dry and stilk pressing, like I'm
just I'm simply not gonna just the process. So I've
chosen to just keep my hair braided because it's simple
and easy.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
I can get up and go. I don't have a
whole lot of maintenance.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
My hair is healthy up under here, and I don't
have to just be up doing a bunch of stuff.
But people will look you dead in the face and
say I love natural hair, and then when.
Speaker 1 (21:51):
You take your brains nowt one not at their house
after work? I'm sorry, what's that? What's so perfect? So
nervous for that man? I'm sorry, No, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
You know what's so funny about him? But I should
not be telling my business on hair. But my dude,
he don't care about my natural hair. Like he's literally
the first person who ever in my life, ever in
my life, who was just okay with my natural hair,
not like a not a backhanded joke, compliment or anything,
not a slick remark, like I've never gotten that from him.
(22:26):
And it's so odd because we were raised to kind
of hate our hair, and that's exactly where I was
going from.
Speaker 1 (22:33):
It's like I have the.
Speaker 2 (22:34):
Same thing, like the hair stay braided up under the
wig because it's just such a long, tedious process. And
it does not mean because people will interpret this and
say they hate their hair, I do not hate my
hair at all. I hate doing it though I do
hate the process. But when I see myself, I don't
hate my hair. I just know that it is time
(22:54):
consuming for me and I just don't got the time,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (22:58):
People who I.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
Admire natural girls because they literally are dedicated to figuring
out everything that their hair needs, how to make it
the best hair that they could possibly be, and all
of that stuff.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
For me, it's just easier.
Speaker 2 (23:09):
But Brad's corn rows and get them the cleo from
set it off real quick. Ain't going by That's it.
It's just I was on work ahead of me. I'm
not gonna spend two right here.
Speaker 1 (23:17):
I'm telling you trying to flood don and roll and
permit it.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
It's just a lot, you know what I mean, And
that's why I said I commend them. But back to
what I was saying. At a young age, we were
conditioned to like think our hair is unmanageable. I mean,
so many women would tell you that's why they hear
so sure because they got a perm in the third grade,
you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (23:36):
And I just understand where they're coming from when.
Speaker 2 (23:39):
They say, ma'am, your hair is not short at forty
two because you got a perm.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
Thirty years of story, that's her testiment.
Speaker 2 (23:49):
Lady is lying that, like I don't know who the
woman is, but if you friends will the nay. And
she's talking about you being ball headed. I want you
to know that you're a ball headed lie. No okay, no,
oh what I just want you to them y'all being
it's beautiful. So I just felt like we struggle in
(24:10):
this area because we weren't taught to embrace it.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
There were some women who were, but there was.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
A lot of women who weren't who struggled, who actually
do hate their.
Speaker 1 (24:18):
Hair, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
And so I think me and you have kind of
figured out like how to manage it, but then you
have women who unable to get breaks, unable to buy wigs,
and so even though they hate their hair, that's just
what they have to do, you know what I'm saying.
And it can play a part on your insecurities, like
it can make you really insecure, especially if you're dealing
with people who don't accept you and your wrong onm
(24:40):
like when you can get your hair done, or like
I wish a man would girl, because the way I'm
wouldn't even know his name.
Speaker 1 (24:46):
No, my hand already lost. Don't ever say that. Don't
ever feel comfortable to ever say that. When you're gonna
get your hair done, I have an answer for you
right around the time you put some money in my head.
Speaker 2 (24:59):
Hello, because see that cash out answered a lot of
questions for somebody who ain't finally asked my life.
Speaker 1 (25:03):
You I'm taking that. Listen.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
People always have something to say, and I think this
is we always go left field.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
But like, I want to talk about black hair, yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
Because I feel like we like people say that they
like it, but we know that that's not really the
case all the time.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
Because you know what they see.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
They see when they think natural hair, they think the
girl with the big curly Yeah, you know what I'm saying,
like this is luxury and look a different type of
texture like a two sea or three CS. Baby, it's
over here, it's for zzs. Okay, I ain't mixed with
nothing but black Africa black black, and in black that
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would be me as well. So they don't think about
four sea hair or beyond. They always think about that
pearl pattern. Just like easy to manage, and I'm not
taking away from anything, but I promise you here's a
lot easier to manage and foreseat hair. I'm sorry I
have to go on the record and say you know
I'm saying. So they think that you're gonna wake up
with these luxurious curls. You know, James, that was never
(26:08):
mind who you thought exactly? You know what I'm saying,
That ain't it when you see me and it's given
and it's sticking that like so.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
Hey, it's Franklin. What you're gonna do when I sign
is smush, But you know what it's given.
Speaker 2 (26:30):
Frederick Douglass and let me say this, Prodrick even know
all the aside, like even the fact that we're sitting
here making jokes about it, like that's that's the part
that I'm talking about like we have literally been conditioned
to find our own hair texture and pattern unfavorable. Yeah,
(26:53):
and it grows out of my No, I'm part of
the full sea community. So hey, I'm not making no
judgment because that's how my hair is. So I could talk.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
About it because it's mine. Y'all.
Speaker 2 (27:02):
Not gonna make me seem like I'm making fun of
y'all because I would never I'm dealing with this because
I look like frend doesn't I tacked my brains down,
nor damn bevery Okay, I don't look like, oh god.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
It's because it's strong, because you never just took your
face out. I'm going to stop right.
Speaker 2 (27:34):
You just looked in the mirror and it was and
it was given, was given eighteen sixty one?
Speaker 1 (27:45):
Like what is happening? Are we cream just going?
Speaker 2 (27:50):
No?
Speaker 1 (27:50):
Master coming around the corner y'all?
Speaker 2 (27:52):
Like she made the way that hair looked tough and
kept even you know.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
How I got teas. I gotta recept hold on you.
Oh my god, land, I have tears in my house
to get it together. What would you saying? Lord?
Speaker 3 (28:14):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (28:15):
Please?
Speaker 3 (28:16):
Young?
Speaker 2 (28:17):
Oh my god, god, dog, this is the dumbest podcast.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Girl, nobody's gonna find this scream.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
Oh my goodness, Oh Lord, Lord Mary say if.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
They put a picture of Lord Dan Barry up there,
Hey Yang cry, Okay, I'm good. Oh all right.
Speaker 2 (28:53):
And then walks gonna go get t shoe and you
don't need Lord, I don't even need it.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
Okay, Jesus, that was funny, is he?
Speaker 2 (29:00):
Hell?
Speaker 1 (29:00):
They're gonna be mad as hell about this one. They
just gotta be mad because I can go with the hair,
so y'all can die, you know what I'm saying, Like
I can talk about it when I take these brains out.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
Baby girl, it's rough and tough with man's mostly tough.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
I'm me tell you for real, say it's stick up here.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
Yes, And people just don't like, people don't understand, like
who wants to.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
When you think about what we do for a living.
Speaker 2 (29:24):
Yeah, girl, I'm on a plane at least both of
us are on a plane at least once a month,
I'm telling you minimum.
Speaker 1 (29:30):
So I just don't have the time.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
Like and then the girls that baby Instagram is not
for just wake up at.
Speaker 1 (29:36):
The bed and go no.
Speaker 2 (29:38):
You you can maybe try that over on TikTok, but
when you're on social media, Like, people want to see
you put together in some kind of way, so can
so if you like I've I've just started doing a
full face of makeup to do like my my YouTube stuff.
Speaker 1 (29:51):
But girl, I ain't want to do it.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
I ain't want to do it because I don't I'm
not a I don't consider myself like a super girly girl,
So I was never gonna do nothing related with hair. Yeah,
but you know, like I'm just getting into the makeup stuff. Like,
once I learn how to do my makeup, it was
over for these girls. I'm telling you, I'm not paying
one hundred and fifty dollars ever every single time you
need your makeup never, it's crazy. It's well worth learning
how to do it on your own. And y'all, YouTube
(30:15):
is free, and even though you may think that it's tedious,
it's worth learning because you're going to spend so much
more money paying somebody.
Speaker 1 (30:21):
To do it then versus just learning how to do
it yourself.
Speaker 2 (30:24):
You know, So I think taking advantage of that is
definitely worth your girl.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
Now, we can say that about makeup, but hair is different.
Speaker 2 (30:31):
It is different because you know what I hear from
the natural hair girls, is that, Like you will have
to go through so many products before you actually find
out what works for your hair, and it can get
really expensive. Like you just be like you can get
a little lipstick for five dollars if you don't like it.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
We don't like that no more.
Speaker 2 (30:47):
But when you buy a conditioner and detangular and just
leaving conditioning, then you got to get something to level
out your phe balance in your hair. Like that's something
new that I just learned about that, like the pH
balance of your hair is now I can't control. I'm
sick of this. It's the battlem my probiotics. I'm needing
a yo, girl, I can't do. I stopped messing with that, dude,
(31:07):
I don't need to control no more phes.
Speaker 1 (31:09):
I'm done. It's crazy. It's a whole process.
Speaker 2 (31:14):
And the natural girl is to tell you, like it's
expensive to be natural full time, you know, And then
when you I mean maybe if you had, like I
don't know, people just when you're an entrepreneur, like stuff
ain't just as steady and stable as people might always think.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
And so I'm not interested.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
In I just got five hundred dollars and now I
got to spend two hundred of it on hair products
and then that's gonna take me.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
Hour and a half of the mornings.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
I don't have time for that. You know, it's time
consuming and a lot of people just simply don't want
to do it. And I think black women as a
whole should invest in paying.
Speaker 1 (31:47):
Somebody to do things that they don't want to do.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
Yeah, if you got your phones, I don't see why not.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:52):
Period, All my whigs is free. Okay, listen by name
on the squad moment you heard it, come on.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
Me a shameless brother, that's what you got.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
Friends, and you know what else? I like paid for
about other people, but vacations. I'm glad we brought it
up because when you going on a vacation, who is
putting the bill?
Speaker 1 (32:16):
Who I did? Was it? That's not enough for me
because I don't care. I don't want to pay.
Speaker 2 (32:21):
I'm not gonna act like I never paid for a trip.
Speaker 1 (32:23):
Friend.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
First of all, you are lie because I can pull
up receipts where you said you paid for that man
and you said you got to you and then he
had did some weird stuff and then you was like,
I'm never doing that again. But you had d and
you paid for the flight in the hotel and you
said it, Okay, you got amnesia, I too have fallen. Pray,
(32:51):
yes you have so like we had took me.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
Once, though I compromish you, I ain't never do that again.
Speaker 2 (32:57):
Yeah, I just don't be I can't fund him, I can't,
I can't and stuff. Yeah, but it's initially like you
need to be like that needs to follow you to
take me out, you know what I'm saying. And then
once I see that, like, okay, maybe this is a
safe space, then you know I can tappen. I'll be
knowing how how safe is it? Because okay, question how
(33:18):
soon in the relationship are we doing this? Because safe
to me? I mean, oh, I know he gonna do
this one little thing that I need him to do,
Like he's consistent in taking my trash out, he's consistent
in pumping my gas thing, you know, full of my
basic needs. I mean, I'm just saying, not my basic needs, man,
Matt girl, I'm just saying, like you.
Speaker 1 (33:38):
You don't get no prize for doing things I can
already do for myself.
Speaker 2 (33:41):
Well, I'm just saying that the interwebs is saying that
this is stuff that men are just it's a connundrum. Honey,
taking the trash out, girl, playing games in my car?
Speaker 1 (33:50):
Want anything?
Speaker 2 (33:52):
I know people that don't even want to text you
bad and you should not be talking to me. You're right,
do not text back. You're correct, that's the right answer,
right answer.
Speaker 1 (34:05):
Like, h don't text me back, don't talk to me.
Speaker 2 (34:07):
If you can't do basic things for me, or you
feel like you're going out of your way to do
small things for me, why in the world would I
ever consider taking you anywhere with me?
Speaker 1 (34:15):
But you're not gonna do nothing there either.
Speaker 2 (34:17):
I'm saying if somebody is consistent in smaller things, I'm wondering,
like when is a When is the time to step
it up? Because to me, I'm the lulu. Okay, I
think you should. I think you should want to take
me out of town as soon as you meet me. Wow,
now am I gonna go now? But should you want to?
You should offer yet? Let me say, I'm not comfortable,
(34:38):
but I think that you should want to take me somewhere.
Speaker 1 (34:40):
Why? Because I'm mean, you get on MYRD. What are
we discussing here? I'm done? You ain't hearing my mercy?
Speaker 2 (34:48):
No, No, I think I just of course. My thing
is this, if I meet you and you want to
take me out of town, I got a check you
right quick, because the last thing you're gonna do is
book a one bedroom with a king.
Speaker 1 (35:04):
Size b I need to see two bedrooms. Dude down the.
Speaker 2 (35:08):
Hall though, like, but if I if I feel like that,
I wouldn't even agree to go.
Speaker 1 (35:12):
But you don't know though I do, because if you get.
Speaker 2 (35:16):
If you if you book a trip and you're like, yeah,
I got it's a trip. But first of all, I'm
never going away where I can't get my own room,
That's all. I never like, I can't just if.
Speaker 1 (35:24):
I'm sleeping in the same bed with you, but you,
I would never feel comfortable and want to tell me go. Okay.
Speaker 2 (35:33):
But that's why I said I'm delusional, because I do
believe you Comedian, you meet me, you should probably want
to take me to believe they're pandam off Portugal. Wow,
I like, Okay, Philip, I'm not mad at that Turkey. Okay,
(35:54):
I'm sorry, Okay, I do I do I think that
I think that you should want to spend time with
me somewhere else, esp if you know a little bit
about me. You know, I love to travel, that's my
love language. So I might not be ready to do
it after like a month or two, but I don't know,
maybe six months down the line. Six months, yeah, six months,
I can talk about it. We could talk about it,
because by that time I should know if I'm even
(36:16):
feeling even the idea of it, you know.
Speaker 1 (36:18):
What I mean. But like initially I don't know. I mean,
some people you can't even take to Kroger. So it depends,
it depends.
Speaker 2 (36:25):
But as far as before all them courting courting, before
all of that, people do not court anymore front Like
that is like not a thing. People just don't feel
like they need to take you out anymore. They don't
feel like, you know, open open the door.
Speaker 1 (36:41):
That's girl.
Speaker 2 (36:42):
All them videos went viral to open the door things,
so people don't feel like they need to do that. Like,
I just want to know where.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
It is hivalry. They say women killed it. How I
don't know.
Speaker 2 (36:52):
I'm trying to figure out which women they are talking about,
because me personally, I'm a princess and I want you
to do everything for me really, and.
Speaker 1 (36:57):
I've just now gotten into this place.
Speaker 2 (37:00):
It's like my daddy's foiled me growing up, but as
a young woman who dates me and my daddy also
taught me not to depend on me anything. So there
has been this weird symbiosis in my life of I
want this, I don't need I mean it should be
like that. And so now this, you know guy, I'll
(37:22):
be looking for him. I'd be like, hey, I need something.
Speaker 1 (37:27):
I love that and god before I'd be like, hey, babe,
can you do this? Can you?
Speaker 2 (37:32):
And I remember he's I'm really bad about this because
I'll be trying to do something. He'll watch me struggle
and I and I'd be like, can you do this?
You know I have an attitude, but I can do this.
He'd be like, I know you can, but you don't
have to.
Speaker 1 (37:45):
Yeah, I love that, I do it. You know you
don't have to do that. I can do that.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
And I'm just like, just do thing like I told
you to do, like I told you. No, I want
I love that for you because I know me and
you are kind of in similar boats when it comes
to just allowing people to do things for us, and like,
you know, because we just take on a lot. So
sometimes when you just naturally that's your like like default
setting where you just, oh, we gotta get done, let
(38:11):
me get doing it.
Speaker 1 (38:12):
Then you don't know.
Speaker 2 (38:13):
How to allow other people to come in your life
and do that. And I too have learned how the
girl let go and.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
Let go you and me and I love it. It
always works out.
Speaker 2 (38:22):
Hellout else want to you know, and you know, just
divide all of the chores.
Speaker 1 (38:27):
You get a chore, You get a chore, You'll get
a chore.
Speaker 2 (38:29):
I am now off my plate and delegate accepting, and
delegate for the roster. We got an opening this season only.
We got six open spots.
Speaker 1 (38:39):
On anything you wanted.
Speaker 2 (38:41):
One for the car, one for the rents, want to
take the gas side, want.
Speaker 1 (38:45):
To feed me? One for trips, and one for legal purposes. Wait,
because the legal purposes. What's happening? What's going on? I'm
just staying. You just need one. You just need want
somebody over here that don't mind getting dirty. You feel okay.
I don't know what Joline got grew up. I'm just playing, y'all.
I love it. Man. Anyway, you gonna see this and
(39:07):
he probably gonna cut me out, but I had none
to do this. It's fine, he'll be he'll feel batter
in Panama.
Speaker 2 (39:14):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (39:16):
On that note, hell stay out. We're gonna have a
head out.
Speaker 2 (39:20):
Okay, y'all know, y'all can catch us here every Thursday.
Speaker 1 (39:24):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (39:24):
You can listen to us wherever you listen to your podcast.
If you want the visual, you want to see us
in person, head over to YouTube and make sure you
like comment answers.
Speaker 1 (39:33):
All right, y'all. Thane
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