August 12, 2025 • 9 mins
The Question of the Day comes from a young man talking about his dating preference when it comes to dating women with children. He said that he could date a woman with children if their father was either dead or in jail. The Question of the Day is he wrong for feeling this way or does he just have a preference.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The question we're asking a young man. He says this,
when it comes to dating women with kids, So how
do you feel about her having children? Like I said,
I'm thirty one. I don't have a problem with it.
I'm open to it. But as long as the father
is even incarcerated or he's dead, do you think he's wrong?
I don't think anybody's wrong for whatever prefaces they have,
(00:21):
you know what I mean. I think you should be
able to have your particular preferences, and I'm not particularly
judgmental about them. That's what you want to do. But
I mean, there are a lot of women, and a
lot of people have children from past relationships, and I
think they have a lot to offer. So I think
you're definitely making it harder on yourself, you know what
(00:43):
I mean. Well, maybe, I mean.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Maybe he's speaking from experience. Maybe she's trying certain things
in the past and it didn't work, so not doing
that again now.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
I don't I'm opposed to dating to women with ugly kids,
you know what I mean? You know what I mean? Why?
Because that's you know, come on, now, we got to
go out sometime, and like these are none of mine.
I don't want to be doing that. Y'all wait over
there by the death Yeah. No, no, y'all, y'all come
up my house, and the y'all come over my house
when it's dark and through the back door. All right,
(01:14):
let's not No one.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
Comes to anybody custom. Yeah, the ugly kids while the
daddy leaught. I'm just down, just down there.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
I'd rather leave or go to jail and be with
these No, I'm just kidding. I think I think that
it's you know, we live in the world where there
are so many things that are going against the relationship,
so many pitfalls and so many drawbacks, and so many
things that could go wrong. If you in a situation
where you can get along with somebody, you have a
(01:49):
good time, you laugh, your love, you have a good
then I think things like that are external. But if
you know, unless the children and the previous relationship are
in comb can be cumbersome, you know what I mean? Yeah,
unless you know, because a lot of women have broke
over the dude but he don't know it. Yeah, we're
good at that, yeah, yeah, for real, And a lot
(02:10):
of dudes that I'm broke with a woman and she
don't know it. So it's a it's a it's a
lot of that going on. But I think the more
hard these hard and fast rules are just probably going
to be harder to keep up once you, you know, start
to move around and live a little more. Uh, A
young man who is uh contemplating dating uh uh women
with children? Do you think he's wrong for that? I
don't think you're Like I said this before, I don't
(02:32):
think you're wrong for whatever preference you have. I think
that's your that's your respond right and responsibility. Let's get
what do you think?
Speaker 4 (02:38):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (02:38):
Yeah, I mean everybody has their uh has their preference.
Speaker 6 (02:41):
And if that's that's it sounds like he's had a
bad experience on somebody, you know, Yeah, cause you know
you're dating somebody or baby daddy or baby mama can
be You got to realize when you're dating that person
you date, Okay, you you also in those kids' lives
and unfortunately in that parent's life if they're still in
there some kind of way, the other parents, you know,
so it's you know, he might not be ready for
(03:03):
he said what I liked that it's like women, So
he didn't.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Want to do that, you know, Yeah, I like women
in menopause because having sex with him like uh, having
sex with Harbachi. It's so nicest.
Speaker 6 (03:12):
So come here, your little air frar.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Oh my goodness, you little ninja air fry, Come here
for me. Hot we hot you man, that's what you mean,
just the way I like it. Yes, guess what happened?
I bet you? I bet you what. I know what
didn't happen? Your hands called alone. It ain't been that
(03:43):
time of the month for fifteen years. Baby, Come on,
stop it.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
People have all kinds of things that go on, man,
for all kinds of things. But you know, hey, some
people it's it's where you live, some people's what you drive,
some people's you know who you like. I said, there's
a lot of stuff going on. We're gonna get to your
calls to do a huge show. The question we're asking
a man says he doesn't mind dating one with kids
as long as the fathers did or locked up. Is
it wrong for that? We're gonna go right to the phones.
Speaker 7 (04:11):
No, man, what a ridiculous acquisition. I mean, obviously a
person will have to have more depth to who they
are in terms of being a man than any prospects
for having a long term meaningful relationship. Obviouly, somebody has kids,
you're gonna have to encompass the fact that they're going
to have a mate that wants to be involved potentially
in those kids' life as well. And if you don't
(04:33):
have someone that doesn't want to be involved in that's
a whole nother consideration. But to say that they need
to either be incarcerated or dead, it's just a ridiculous statement.
Speaker 8 (04:43):
I think that everybody nowadays is scared of everybody, and
they come up with, well, I'm gonna do this, but
if that I can date you?
Speaker 4 (04:52):
What if that?
Speaker 8 (04:53):
I mean, at some point in time, you have to
trust somebody at some point in time, otherwise you're gonna
end up alone, better with a whole bunch of cat, dogs,
birds and turtles in your house keeping you company.
Speaker 9 (05:05):
So I think it's really stupid. I don't know what
you guys talking about, incarcerated or or like like, so
you guys want a child that design for that, that's
what you guys are saying. This is embarrassinge. It's just
like I don't agree with with Okay.
Speaker 8 (05:17):
I see the guy does have a problem with it.
He say he's not gonna have something.
Speaker 7 (05:22):
But but he does.
Speaker 8 (05:22):
If the father has to be dead or in jail,
I feel like he still has the things he needs
to work on.
Speaker 10 (05:28):
Within himself in order to have felt it.
Speaker 8 (05:32):
There can be a good cold parenting and nobody is
trying to get back.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
With each other.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
I skipped you said. You said that it wasn't just
that they had kids, it was because of the limitations.
Speaker 7 (05:42):
That you have.
Speaker 5 (05:43):
H You know, I had already been in a relationship,
so I was out, wild and free. I said, I
didn't want you know, I wanted Disneyland at this time.
I didn't want those kind of responsibilities. So you know,
we want on site. We want SOS baby, it's on site.
You don't want to plan it, but Necker car will
as soon as we walk into doing the living room.
Speaker 6 (06:02):
I didn't want that.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
You know, you won't want to have a lot. You
wanted Disneyland, not to take somebody that. Yeah, somebody else
keys if you better hope she ain't got a lot
of people doing, but they can cover up. They'd be
like Mama, when do we get a gymnastic team? Shut
up and go to be a junior. Yes, around was
(06:23):
a lot more live than him.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Yeah, I just hope for this guy that she was
never on the other foot where he's the one that
ends up with the kids and someone doesn't want to
date him. Yeah, but he can always could be worse
than baby dads.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Sometimes he could always be a dead bee dad, like
deny him. He could do that. Well. The girl that
we talked about earlier, she wants to do like that
dead beating. Yeah, so it takes all time. That's the
question we're asking. A man says he doesn't mind dating
the one with kids as long as the father's dead
or locked up. Do you agree? We're going right to
(06:57):
the phones.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
I have a difference of opinion with d L. I
think when you are young twenty two, twenty three, twenty four,
twenty five, it's a lot to get married and take
on somebody else's children. The older you are, I get it,
it's hard to meet someone that is all, hadn't already
(07:20):
been married and.
Speaker 10 (07:21):
Had a child or more.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
But I just think the younger you are, you shouldn't
want to have to start a marriage taking care of
somebody else's children. You should want to be free to
travel to do things and then have children. So when
you make these choices, to have babies with guys and
not be married. Everybody's son's mother that has a twenty
(07:47):
four to twenty five, twenty six year old, it's not
going to be excited that they have to start a
relationship taking care of somebody else's children.
Speaker 11 (07:57):
Man, it's god trip. Here's where feel about it. What's
your intentions? If you don't want the kids father in
they life, that that's a red flag for the woman
right there, and that means watch your kids. Because anytime
a man don't want another other kids father around, that
means that their intentions maybe not be too good. So
(08:18):
for me for a woman, that should be a red flag.
Don't have brother, you know you're gonna probably end up
in conserrator jail. You mess with somebody's kids.
Speaker 10 (08:28):
Well, i's I want to say hello to y'all. But
that guy who's talking about he won't deal with a
single woman with kids unless the father is in jail
or or dad. He's an idiot, you know, because first
of all, what he's doing is he's telling young men
that's growing up that this is okay. It's not okay
because you don't know why she's single, you know. And
(08:51):
the thing is, you don't know what that man could
have been, beating her or whatever, and that's why you
know he's out of the picture. Make us like locked up.
But a real man is supposed to teach these young
boys how to be men, and that is so shallow.
Speaker 4 (09:07):
I'm on now, Well, when I.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Was dating, I'm married now.
Speaker 4 (09:10):
I don't want to think it for but I dated.
Speaker 10 (09:12):
If it's women with kids, it wasn't.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
You know, a dail breaker for me.
Speaker 10 (09:16):
But I didn't have any hard or experience as evil.
Speaker 11 (09:19):
But that guy sounds like a typical dummy.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Just say you don't want to date women with kids,
you know what I mean, somebody's dad or And that's
the dumbest thing I've heard.
The question we're asking a young man. He says this,
when it comes to dating women with kids, So how
do you feel about her having children? Like I said,
I'm thirty one. I don't have a problem with it.
I'm open to it. But as long as the father
is even incarcerated or he's dead, do you think he's wrong?
I don't think anybody's wrong for whatever prefaces they have,
(00:21):
you know what I mean. I think you should be
able to have your particular preferences, and I'm not particularly
judgmental about them. That's what you want to do. But
I mean, there are a lot of women, and a
lot of people have children from past relationships, and I
think they have a lot to offer. So I think
you're definitely making it harder on yourself, you know what
(00:43):
I mean. Well, maybe, I mean.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Maybe he's speaking from experience. Maybe she's trying certain things
in the past and it didn't work, so not doing
that again now.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
I don't I'm opposed to dating to women with ugly kids,
you know what I mean? You know what I mean? Why?
Because that's you know, come on, now, we got to
go out sometime, and like these are none of mine.
I don't want to be doing that. Y'all wait over
there by the death Yeah. No, no, y'all, y'all come
up my house, and the y'all come over my house
when it's dark and through the back door. All right,
(01:14):
let's not No one.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
Comes to anybody custom. Yeah, the ugly kids while the
daddy leaught. I'm just down, just down there.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
I'd rather leave or go to jail and be with
these No, I'm just kidding. I think I think that
it's you know, we live in the world where there
are so many things that are going against the relationship,
so many pitfalls and so many drawbacks, and so many
things that could go wrong. If you in a situation
where you can get along with somebody, you have a
(01:49):
good time, you laugh, your love, you have a good
then I think things like that are external. But if
you know, unless the children and the previous relationship are
in comb can be cumbersome, you know what I mean? Yeah,
unless you know, because a lot of women have broke
over the dude but he don't know it. Yeah, we're
good at that, yeah, yeah, for real, And a lot
(02:10):
of dudes that I'm broke with a woman and she
don't know it. So it's a it's a it's a
lot of that going on. But I think the more
hard these hard and fast rules are just probably going
to be harder to keep up once you, you know, start
to move around and live a little more. Uh, A
young man who is uh contemplating dating uh uh women
with children? Do you think he's wrong for that? I
don't think you're Like I said this before, I don't
(02:32):
think you're wrong for whatever preference you have. I think
that's your that's your respond right and responsibility. Let's get
what do you think?
Speaker 4 (02:38):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (02:38):
Yeah, I mean everybody has their uh has their preference.
Speaker 6 (02:41):
And if that's that's it sounds like he's had a
bad experience on somebody, you know, Yeah, cause you know
you're dating somebody or baby daddy or baby mama can
be You got to realize when you're dating that person
you date, Okay, you you also in those kids' lives
and unfortunately in that parent's life if they're still in
there some kind of way, the other parents, you know,
so it's you know, he might not be ready for
(03:03):
he said what I liked that it's like women, So
he didn't.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Want to do that, you know, Yeah, I like women
in menopause because having sex with him like uh, having
sex with Harbachi. It's so nicest.
Speaker 6 (03:12):
So come here, your little air frar.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Oh my goodness, you little ninja air fry, Come here
for me. Hot we hot you man, that's what you mean,
just the way I like it. Yes, guess what happened?
I bet you? I bet you what. I know what
didn't happen? Your hands called alone. It ain't been that
(03:43):
time of the month for fifteen years. Baby, Come on,
stop it.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
People have all kinds of things that go on, man,
for all kinds of things. But you know, hey, some
people it's it's where you live, some people's what you drive,
some people's you know who you like. I said, there's
a lot of stuff going on. We're gonna get to your
calls to do a huge show. The question we're asking
a man says he doesn't mind dating one with kids
as long as the fathers did or locked up. Is
it wrong for that? We're gonna go right to the phones.
Speaker 7 (04:11):
No, man, what a ridiculous acquisition. I mean, obviously a
person will have to have more depth to who they
are in terms of being a man than any prospects
for having a long term meaningful relationship. Obviouly, somebody has kids,
you're gonna have to encompass the fact that they're going
to have a mate that wants to be involved potentially
in those kids' life as well. And if you don't
(04:33):
have someone that doesn't want to be involved in that's
a whole nother consideration. But to say that they need
to either be incarcerated or dead, it's just a ridiculous statement.
Speaker 8 (04:43):
I think that everybody nowadays is scared of everybody, and
they come up with, well, I'm gonna do this, but
if that I can date you?
Speaker 4 (04:52):
What if that?
Speaker 8 (04:53):
I mean, at some point in time, you have to
trust somebody at some point in time, otherwise you're gonna
end up alone, better with a whole bunch of cat, dogs,
birds and turtles in your house keeping you company.
Speaker 9 (05:05):
So I think it's really stupid. I don't know what
you guys talking about, incarcerated or or like like, so
you guys want a child that design for that, that's
what you guys are saying. This is embarrassinge. It's just
like I don't agree with with Okay.
Speaker 8 (05:17):
I see the guy does have a problem with it.
He say he's not gonna have something.
Speaker 7 (05:22):
But but he does.
Speaker 8 (05:22):
If the father has to be dead or in jail,
I feel like he still has the things he needs
to work on.
Speaker 10 (05:28):
Within himself in order to have felt it.
Speaker 8 (05:32):
There can be a good cold parenting and nobody is
trying to get back.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
With each other.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
I skipped you said. You said that it wasn't just
that they had kids, it was because of the limitations.
Speaker 7 (05:42):
That you have.
Speaker 5 (05:43):
H You know, I had already been in a relationship,
so I was out, wild and free. I said, I
didn't want you know, I wanted Disneyland at this time.
I didn't want those kind of responsibilities. So you know,
we want on site. We want SOS baby, it's on site.
You don't want to plan it, but Necker car will
as soon as we walk into doing the living room.
Speaker 6 (06:02):
I didn't want that.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
You know, you won't want to have a lot. You
wanted Disneyland, not to take somebody that. Yeah, somebody else
keys if you better hope she ain't got a lot
of people doing, but they can cover up. They'd be
like Mama, when do we get a gymnastic team? Shut
up and go to be a junior. Yes, around was
(06:23):
a lot more live than him.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Yeah, I just hope for this guy that she was
never on the other foot where he's the one that
ends up with the kids and someone doesn't want to
date him. Yeah, but he can always could be worse
than baby dads.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Sometimes he could always be a dead bee dad, like
deny him. He could do that. Well. The girl that
we talked about earlier, she wants to do like that
dead beating. Yeah, so it takes all time. That's the
question we're asking. A man says he doesn't mind dating
the one with kids as long as the father's dead
or locked up. Do you agree? We're going right to
(06:57):
the phones.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
I have a difference of opinion with d L. I
think when you are young twenty two, twenty three, twenty four,
twenty five, it's a lot to get married and take
on somebody else's children. The older you are, I get it,
it's hard to meet someone that is all, hadn't already
(07:20):
been married and.
Speaker 10 (07:21):
Had a child or more.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
But I just think the younger you are, you shouldn't
want to have to start a marriage taking care of
somebody else's children. You should want to be free to
travel to do things and then have children. So when
you make these choices, to have babies with guys and
not be married. Everybody's son's mother that has a twenty
(07:47):
four to twenty five, twenty six year old, it's not
going to be excited that they have to start a
relationship taking care of somebody else's children.
Speaker 11 (07:57):
Man, it's god trip. Here's where feel about it. What's
your intentions? If you don't want the kids father in
they life, that that's a red flag for the woman
right there, and that means watch your kids. Because anytime
a man don't want another other kids father around, that
means that their intentions maybe not be too good. So
(08:18):
for me for a woman, that should be a red flag.
Don't have brother, you know you're gonna probably end up
in conserrator jail. You mess with somebody's kids.
Speaker 10 (08:28):
Well, i's I want to say hello to y'all. But
that guy who's talking about he won't deal with a
single woman with kids unless the father is in jail
or or dad. He's an idiot, you know, because first
of all, what he's doing is he's telling young men
that's growing up that this is okay. It's not okay
because you don't know why she's single, you know. And
(08:51):
the thing is, you don't know what that man could
have been, beating her or whatever, and that's why you
know he's out of the picture. Make us like locked up.
But a real man is supposed to teach these young
boys how to be men, and that is so shallow.
Speaker 4 (09:07):
I'm on now, Well, when I.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Was dating, I'm married now.
Speaker 4 (09:10):
I don't want to think it for but I dated.
Speaker 10 (09:12):
If it's women with kids, it wasn't.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
You know, a dail breaker for me.
Speaker 10 (09:16):
But I didn't have any hard or experience as evil.
Speaker 11 (09:19):
But that guy sounds like a typical dummy.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Just say you don't want to date women with kids,
you know what I mean, somebody's dad or And that's
the dumbest thing I've heard.
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