October 10, 2025 • 10 mins
The Question of the Day sparked debate: Was a mother right to stop her 14-year-old son from dating a girl who already has a baby? Listeners weighed in passionately, with most agreeing that both kids were too young for such responsibility, while others argued love and maturity can’t always be dictated by age.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is out of the deal. Here we show you're
twenty twenty five. So a mother is upset that are
fourteen year old is dating a girl with a baby.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Now, Jasmine, what do you think?
Speaker 3 (00:12):
Well, I think at fourteen years old and you have
a baby already, you already have a full plate, Like
I think you have other things that you need to
be thinking about outside of dating.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
I will say that.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
So yes, I would say, yeah, probably not a good
idea to focus on that.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
So you would have been opposed to him dating a.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Woman with it, I mean a girl.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
Well, dating at fourteen is odd to me anyway, like dating, Yeah,
it is, I think. I mean, twelve is too young
to wear a makeup. I would imagine fourteen is too
young to be dating.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
All right, well glad you found dating. Let me ask
you well, to.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
Be clear, I was not pregnant at fourteen, So all
your little jokes, all this based on the line I
was pregnant. I think it's too young. I think it's
too young to have sex. Who I think someone on
the show who was under fourteen when they had sex
got a lot of nerve living.
Speaker 4 (01:15):
In a glass.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
No, No, I was, I was emptying my stones I
wasn't throwing, but.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
You were spelling them nonetheless.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
Yeah, I just yeah, I think that that is very young. Yeah,
I think so.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
It's just weird. You know, it's a weird conversation. Now,
I don't think it's all that weird. I can't stand
some people sometimes. Do you think that fourteen years old?
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Are fourteen? Let me let you his scenario, Junius. What
do you think?
Speaker 5 (01:46):
Well, yeah, I think it's ridiculous. Actually, I mean, if
you're fourteen and you're gonna date someone who's already got
a baby and they're fourteen, yeah, you need to be here.
You hit them books, Yeah, you ain't got time. It's
not skins eloquently eloquently said.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Man, I don't know where they come from.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
I don't know where they come from.
Speaker 6 (02:17):
Boys.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
It's like I got a million of them. Boy, I
can't Where would you go on your date? You know,
you go take that right, Let's go to tears are toys?
Speaker 5 (02:28):
R U.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
They don't have that anymore. They should go to the movies.
All of them get in free.
Speaker 6 (02:34):
Everybody got.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Everybody gotta have a permissions slip. Everybody go to check
or teas.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Wow, you know, let's not make ltter because it's some
people's Uh, it's some people's situations. Let me come on, now,
fourteen year old where babies needs need love to too much.
See that's that's uh. Do you think mother is overacting?
We're going to go to someone.
Speaker 7 (03:03):
I was fourteen years old when I had my first child,
and I had a boyfriend that he was with me
when I was pregnant, and his parents was okay. When
he had his mother and father and his wife and
they was okay with it. They helped me buy the
baby stuff and it wasn't even his baby, and they
knew I was pregnant. I was like five six months
(03:24):
when we got together and I was fourteen years old
and helped me whatever. We stayed together for a long time.
We was in high school together and everything. So it's
according to how she still. I mean, that's her child,
so it's up to her because she raising.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
I think the woman is crazy and she should be
encouraging that young lady to keep going and doing what
she's doing. Right, Because my sister had her first chaild
at fourteen. She graduated, he did thirty seven years down
there at Chelsey p Road and got married and everything,
and she should be a courage stead of talking man
(04:02):
to the girl because she don't realize that could be had.
Absolutely not, absolutely not. At fourteen.
Speaker 8 (04:09):
He's not wise enough or old enough to make those
kinds of decisions for himself. She's she's got a baby,
and he does it at fourteen. He should not be
the father figure for someone else's baby.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
No, absolutely not.
Speaker 8 (04:23):
And I wouldn't allow my fourteen year old child to
date a young lady who had a baby.
Speaker 9 (04:28):
I think that the young man should just step back
from that because that's a ready made family.
Speaker 10 (04:33):
At fourteen, you know, he's not grown, he's.
Speaker 6 (04:37):
Influenced by hormones.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
So now I think your parents are right.
Speaker 10 (04:42):
But telling her no time is not happening because he's
not ready for that type of responsibility period.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
So here's the idea. Who is your just your brother
who's baby? He's fourteen years old?
Speaker 11 (04:58):
He had that's when gotta be Oh, you're gonna have
to go home. I'm sold.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
You can't listen no girl fourteen, You can't mess with
no girl. They gotta be even I'm sorry. Okay, what
a data?
Speaker 11 (05:07):
If you don't matter the answer, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Do you think the mother overreacted.
Speaker 12 (05:13):
I think that the mother is one correcting her concern
sounds like she's already made family as a teenager, and I'm.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
Not sure what her situation is.
Speaker 12 (05:23):
Not trying to blame a.
Speaker 4 (05:24):
Young lady, but as a young male.
Speaker 12 (05:29):
That that's too much, way too soon. I have a son,
and I wouldn't be having it. It would definitely be
a problem for the kid. It wouldn't be okay.
Speaker 10 (05:38):
I think that the mother didn't overreact. But I was
fourteen and my girlfriend was eighteen and she had a
couple of babies. And when my grandmother found out, she
told me that I had to wake up with her
and asked me where I met her.
Speaker 9 (05:55):
And I met her when my grandmother took me to
church on on a wed United Bible study, and you know,
they ended up breaking us up and everything. But football
coach everybody got into it and they were gonna charge
you with such toyer, you know as that word.
Speaker 10 (06:11):
And it broke my heart when he made us break up.
But I don't think the mother over the Actually.
Speaker 11 (06:17):
I've been in both situations on both sides. So I
had a sister that was pregnant early on, she was fifteen.
She had a baby, and the girl, I mean, the
boy's mother did not want him dating her. She thought
that my sister was painted and not knowing the situation,
(06:40):
my sister was raped, and back in the sixties in seventies,
they just didn't believe in abortions and things of that nature.
And then I had my own son that was in
his early twenties, he was maybe twenty two, and he
met this girl that was thirty eight. If she had
(07:02):
five kids, my son did not have any children. And
I told my son, I'm totally against this. You don't
have any children. You have five. The girl has five kids.
She is damn they're double your age. So what are
you looking at her to do? You know why, there's
nothing that.
Speaker 10 (07:22):
She can do.
Speaker 11 (07:22):
She already have five children. She's not looking to give
you a baby, so she's looking to have someone take
care of her follies. And so I've seen it on
both ends and know the mother was not wrong or
is not wrong for not wanting her son to date
a young lady, because now she's a young lady at
fourteen with a child.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
All Right, we're gonna find out what life is like
on the yard with that boy. Trade It is to
day Hughley show that boy trade is here to let
us know what life is like.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
In an HBCU with my life.
Speaker 6 (07:58):
On the yard, I love what's good, y'all.
Speaker 13 (08:17):
This is that one shirt back then with something in
my life in New York.
Speaker 6 (08:21):
It's that look at a trec life.
Speaker 13 (08:23):
Man. Your boy has been making moves, make a great move,
staying locked in focus on the main goals, on the
important things.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
And that's been in every aspect all my life.
Speaker 13 (08:34):
Socially, I've been sitting inside time to hang out with
my friends, you know. Academically, I've been killing it with
my grades and now even like on a professional till
like your boy just locked down a job, yes, Sam,
Like it's some little calm stuff at a little closed
store in Linux, But like Bro, it's a job.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
It's some money.
Speaker 13 (08:56):
And that's what I've been hoping, praying and searching for.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
For so long.
Speaker 13 (09:01):
Like I don't think people really understand the job market
right now and how.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
Crappy it is. It's real bad out here. It's doodle.
Speaker 13 (09:10):
For the last year, I was applying the places left
and right, never hearing back swear just it was a
constant cycle. I was losing home like when I was
back home. See, my mom used to get on me.
She was like, boy, you and you don't have a job.
You just sit around here not doing nothing. And she
(09:31):
would just get on me like that, and I was like, Mommy,
you don't understand. It's not like I'm doing it by choice.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
She don't get it. It's like I apply to.
Speaker 13 (09:39):
These places they say they're hiring. They do they say
they're hiring, or it's like it'll be on LinkedIn, or
it'll be on Indeed or something where it's like Target, Kroger,
a whole bunch of clothed places, bro retail stores, restaurants, whatever.
Places say they're hiring, you apply, never hear back. I
(10:00):
guess you're not hiring. Like that, I can't get an interview,
crazy work, you know what. That's why it's such a
breath of fresh air for me to get that weight
off my back of being unemployed because now I have
a job. And for a college kid, man, that's hard
to come by right now. Like they aren't just hiring
cashiers anymore. People don't get that. Like jobs that college
(10:22):
kids used to have, they're giving them the machines now
self checkout revolutionize the game bro Like, they got people
scanning it themselves, looking slow because they don't know how
to work it.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
That's the future. Anyways, That's all I got for you
all today.
Speaker 6 (10:39):
So next time.
Speaker 13 (10:39):
This has been that boy Tray and this has been
my life on the York.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
It's I look at HBC like thank you, Drake
It is out of the deal. Here we show you're
twenty twenty five. So a mother is upset that are
fourteen year old is dating a girl with a baby.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Now, Jasmine, what do you think?
Speaker 3 (00:12):
Well, I think at fourteen years old and you have
a baby already, you already have a full plate, Like
I think you have other things that you need to
be thinking about outside of dating.
Speaker 2 (00:23):
I will say that.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
So yes, I would say, yeah, probably not a good
idea to focus on that.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
So you would have been opposed to him dating a.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Woman with it, I mean a girl.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
Well, dating at fourteen is odd to me anyway, like dating, Yeah,
it is, I think. I mean, twelve is too young
to wear a makeup. I would imagine fourteen is too
young to be dating.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
All right, well glad you found dating. Let me ask
you well, to.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
Be clear, I was not pregnant at fourteen, So all
your little jokes, all this based on the line I
was pregnant. I think it's too young. I think it's
too young to have sex. Who I think someone on
the show who was under fourteen when they had sex
got a lot of nerve living.
Speaker 4 (01:15):
In a glass.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
No, No, I was, I was emptying my stones I
wasn't throwing, but.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
You were spelling them nonetheless.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
Yeah, I just yeah, I think that that is very young. Yeah,
I think so.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
It's just weird. You know, it's a weird conversation. Now,
I don't think it's all that weird. I can't stand
some people sometimes. Do you think that fourteen years old?
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Are fourteen? Let me let you his scenario, Junius. What
do you think?
Speaker 5 (01:46):
Well, yeah, I think it's ridiculous. Actually, I mean, if
you're fourteen and you're gonna date someone who's already got
a baby and they're fourteen, yeah, you need to be here.
You hit them books, Yeah, you ain't got time. It's
not skins eloquently eloquently said.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
Man, I don't know where they come from.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
I don't know where they come from.
Speaker 6 (02:17):
Boys.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
It's like I got a million of them. Boy, I
can't Where would you go on your date? You know,
you go take that right, Let's go to tears are toys?
Speaker 5 (02:28):
R U.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
They don't have that anymore. They should go to the movies.
All of them get in free.
Speaker 6 (02:34):
Everybody got.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
Everybody gotta have a permissions slip. Everybody go to check
or teas.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Wow, you know, let's not make ltter because it's some
people's Uh, it's some people's situations. Let me come on, now,
fourteen year old where babies needs need love to too much.
See that's that's uh. Do you think mother is overacting?
We're going to go to someone.
Speaker 7 (03:03):
I was fourteen years old when I had my first child,
and I had a boyfriend that he was with me
when I was pregnant, and his parents was okay. When
he had his mother and father and his wife and
they was okay with it. They helped me buy the
baby stuff and it wasn't even his baby, and they
knew I was pregnant. I was like five six months
(03:24):
when we got together and I was fourteen years old
and helped me whatever. We stayed together for a long time.
We was in high school together and everything. So it's
according to how she still. I mean, that's her child,
so it's up to her because she raising.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
I think the woman is crazy and she should be
encouraging that young lady to keep going and doing what
she's doing. Right, Because my sister had her first chaild
at fourteen. She graduated, he did thirty seven years down
there at Chelsey p Road and got married and everything,
and she should be a courage stead of talking man
(04:02):
to the girl because she don't realize that could be had.
Absolutely not, absolutely not. At fourteen.
Speaker 8 (04:09):
He's not wise enough or old enough to make those
kinds of decisions for himself. She's she's got a baby,
and he does it at fourteen. He should not be
the father figure for someone else's baby.
Speaker 4 (04:22):
No, absolutely not.
Speaker 8 (04:23):
And I wouldn't allow my fourteen year old child to
date a young lady who had a baby.
Speaker 9 (04:28):
I think that the young man should just step back
from that because that's a ready made family.
Speaker 10 (04:33):
At fourteen, you know, he's not grown, he's.
Speaker 6 (04:37):
Influenced by hormones.
Speaker 4 (04:40):
So now I think your parents are right.
Speaker 10 (04:42):
But telling her no time is not happening because he's
not ready for that type of responsibility period.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
So here's the idea. Who is your just your brother
who's baby? He's fourteen years old?
Speaker 11 (04:58):
He had that's when gotta be Oh, you're gonna have
to go home. I'm sold.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
You can't listen no girl fourteen, You can't mess with
no girl. They gotta be even I'm sorry. Okay, what
a data?
Speaker 11 (05:07):
If you don't matter the answer, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Do you think the mother overreacted.
Speaker 12 (05:13):
I think that the mother is one correcting her concern
sounds like she's already made family as a teenager, and I'm.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
Not sure what her situation is.
Speaker 12 (05:23):
Not trying to blame a.
Speaker 4 (05:24):
Young lady, but as a young male.
Speaker 12 (05:29):
That that's too much, way too soon. I have a son,
and I wouldn't be having it. It would definitely be
a problem for the kid. It wouldn't be okay.
Speaker 10 (05:38):
I think that the mother didn't overreact. But I was
fourteen and my girlfriend was eighteen and she had a
couple of babies. And when my grandmother found out, she
told me that I had to wake up with her
and asked me where I met her.
Speaker 9 (05:55):
And I met her when my grandmother took me to
church on on a wed United Bible study, and you know,
they ended up breaking us up and everything. But football
coach everybody got into it and they were gonna charge
you with such toyer, you know as that word.
Speaker 10 (06:11):
And it broke my heart when he made us break up.
But I don't think the mother over the Actually.
Speaker 11 (06:17):
I've been in both situations on both sides. So I
had a sister that was pregnant early on, she was fifteen.
She had a baby, and the girl, I mean, the
boy's mother did not want him dating her. She thought
that my sister was painted and not knowing the situation,
(06:40):
my sister was raped, and back in the sixties in seventies,
they just didn't believe in abortions and things of that nature.
And then I had my own son that was in
his early twenties, he was maybe twenty two, and he
met this girl that was thirty eight. If she had
(07:02):
five kids, my son did not have any children. And
I told my son, I'm totally against this. You don't
have any children. You have five. The girl has five kids.
She is damn they're double your age. So what are
you looking at her to do? You know why, there's
nothing that.
Speaker 10 (07:22):
She can do.
Speaker 11 (07:22):
She already have five children. She's not looking to give
you a baby, so she's looking to have someone take
care of her follies. And so I've seen it on
both ends and know the mother was not wrong or
is not wrong for not wanting her son to date
a young lady, because now she's a young lady at
fourteen with a child.
Speaker 1 (07:44):
All Right, we're gonna find out what life is like
on the yard with that boy. Trade It is to
day Hughley show that boy trade is here to let
us know what life is like.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
In an HBCU with my life.
Speaker 6 (07:58):
On the yard, I love what's good, y'all.
Speaker 13 (08:17):
This is that one shirt back then with something in
my life in New York.
Speaker 6 (08:21):
It's that look at a trec life.
Speaker 13 (08:23):
Man. Your boy has been making moves, make a great move,
staying locked in focus on the main goals, on the
important things.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
And that's been in every aspect all my life.
Speaker 13 (08:34):
Socially, I've been sitting inside time to hang out with
my friends, you know. Academically, I've been killing it with
my grades and now even like on a professional till
like your boy just locked down a job, yes, Sam,
Like it's some little calm stuff at a little closed
store in Linux, But like Bro, it's a job.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
It's some money.
Speaker 13 (08:56):
And that's what I've been hoping, praying and searching for.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
For so long.
Speaker 13 (09:01):
Like I don't think people really understand the job market
right now and how.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
Crappy it is. It's real bad out here. It's doodle.
Speaker 13 (09:10):
For the last year, I was applying the places left
and right, never hearing back swear just it was a
constant cycle. I was losing home like when I was
back home. See, my mom used to get on me.
She was like, boy, you and you don't have a job.
You just sit around here not doing nothing. And she
(09:31):
would just get on me like that, and I was like, Mommy,
you don't understand. It's not like I'm doing it by choice.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
She don't get it. It's like I apply to.
Speaker 13 (09:39):
These places they say they're hiring. They do they say
they're hiring, or it's like it'll be on LinkedIn, or
it'll be on Indeed or something where it's like Target, Kroger,
a whole bunch of clothed places, bro retail stores, restaurants, whatever.
Places say they're hiring, you apply, never hear back. I
(10:00):
guess you're not hiring. Like that, I can't get an interview,
crazy work, you know what. That's why it's such a
breath of fresh air for me to get that weight
off my back of being unemployed because now I have
a job. And for a college kid, man, that's hard
to come by right now. Like they aren't just hiring
cashiers anymore. People don't get that. Like jobs that college
(10:22):
kids used to have, they're giving them the machines now
self checkout revolutionize the game bro Like, they got people
scanning it themselves, looking slow because they don't know how
to work it.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
That's the future. Anyways, That's all I got for you
all today.
Speaker 6 (10:39):
So next time.
Speaker 13 (10:39):
This has been that boy Tray and this has been
my life on the York.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
It's I look at HBC like thank you, Drake
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