October 7, 2025 • 10 mins
The Question of the Day sparked fiery discussion: Should a husband have to pay his wife back for family bills she covered while he was unemployed? Listeners flooded the lines, debating whether marriage is about teamwork or financial fairness. Opinions ranged from “for better or worse” loyalty to calls for clear money boundaries, and the segment quickly went viral online.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is the d ugually show you a twenty twenty
five edition. Now, should a husband have to pay a
wife back for paying the family bills?
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Let's skip?
Speaker 3 (00:09):
What do you say, No, it's household bills. Man, that's
it is. You know, you you would think that a
marriage is a team. It is a partnership. It is
a togetherness. What they say, you're no longer too, you
are one one?
Speaker 4 (00:22):
Thank you?
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Simple?
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Yeah, it really isn't that hard. These kind of it's
these kind of women that make me think that young
men have a harder time getting married, These kind of
women with these kind of ideas that I'm gonna pay
the bills this time.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
But you go on, what is all that about? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (00:43):
This is like somebody who tell you that they see
a cursor when McDonald's going up, and then they go, oh, man,
I can't believe that they raising the prices of the
places I ain't never gone to again.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
You know, it's disingenuous, is what it is. We got
more of your cause I'll get you later.
Speaker 5 (00:58):
Nothing.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
So the question we're asking a man loses his job,
he told his wife it take care of me until
I get back on my feet.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
She does.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
But now she wants to be paid. That is a
sorry ass woman, right been married? I don't care how
long If that's a sorry ass woman right there? What
do you think, is Junius? Well, what happened?
Speaker 6 (01:18):
Sorry?
Speaker 4 (01:19):
Yeah? What happened to the for better or for worse?
Speaker 7 (01:22):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (01:22):
Part? What's wrong with being a team? Okay, I'm I'm
a score, but when your time come, I'm not gonna
do nothing. You know, no, man, you're a team. You
supposed to. Everybody's supposed to get in there, and you know,
put up points when you can.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
I think it's people's assessments and worth of relationships. Now, yeah,
I do, I think that, but I think traditionally I
think that that a lot of women feel like if
I borrowed one hundred dollars for me right there, and
I said I was gonna pay you back, you would
want me to pay you back.
Speaker 5 (01:53):
I promise you're not gonna believe this. But it depends
on what our relationship was. I'm saying me to you.
If I asked you to love, you don't need one
hundred dollars for me, Okay, go to all that? Just no, no, no,
honestly speaking, honestly speaking, if you really needed it, which
you don't.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
I would give you the money. So let me ask me,
we had all this qualify really and what do you
need it for?
Speaker 8 (02:16):
And all?
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Because those are very important? You know what forget it
you unpacked your egg?
Speaker 5 (02:20):
Yeah, if you really needed the money, if you was
in a hot spot, was like, I got oh God.
But the thing is, I know you don't need it
for me. If you you were just testing me to
see if I would give it to you or not.
That's the kind of stuff you do. Thank god, I
would have to be testing you because you have one
hundred dollars right now. I will give it to you.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
Okay, I don't need ane. Okay if I pretending to.
Speaker 7 (02:42):
Reach from my bag.
Speaker 5 (02:44):
Five thousand dollars right now, that's not true. That is
not we do need the five thousand dollars for My
first question be like, what's you?
Speaker 2 (02:58):
That's that's the thing.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
But I would you know, why would any why would
they need to be any questions at all?
Speaker 2 (03:04):
I wouldn't ask you one question. I wouldn't go what
are you gonna do with it? Not at all? You see?
Speaker 1 (03:09):
You know when you like that, I tell you to
be a lying ass. You know I would never do that,
and you try to be I would ask you what
you wanted the money for.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
No, but you would ask me what happened. He's a
line ass.
Speaker 5 (03:22):
That's what I expectful. If I ask you right now
to borrow five thousand dollars.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
What would you say?
Speaker 3 (03:28):
I wouldn't have because, first of all, if you asked
me that, I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you
you asked me. Let me tell you. First of all,
I would think if you came to me with that,
you must be in dire streets.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
You must really need it for something.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
And I'm not gonna ask you because it might be
criminal and I have plausible to all right, So if
I had it here, you go hollered me when you can.
Speaker 5 (03:49):
She says, I would ask her and I wouldn't. Okay,
So let's let's go ahead and play this out. Hey,
d Can I borrow five thousand dollars?
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Not now, because you you know what, because you're ungrateful
and you're too good for McDonald's. See wow, all right,
we got to get to your cause in a bit.
With that's true, I think that's not true to the
question with asking this is the scenario.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Let me feature this for you.
Speaker 9 (04:11):
He came home and he was like, you know, Bay,
I lost my job.
Speaker 4 (04:14):
I'm like, all right, cool.
Speaker 9 (04:15):
So a month later, like the bills, it was time
for the bills or whatever, you know, and I'm like,
you know, the bills, Doby or whatever. And he was like, okay,
you know I'm not working and I'm just or whatever.
So I told him, I said, look, if I pay
these bills, are you going to pay me the money back?
This man has the nerve to tell me why should
I pay my wife back for paying our bills? I
(04:37):
told this man from day one, my money is my
money and his money is our money. Why should I
spend my money paying the bills?
Speaker 10 (04:45):
Like?
Speaker 9 (04:45):
No, he should have paid me back.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
So do you think he was wrong?
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Do you think she's wrong for asking for the money
back for the family bills going through the phones?
Speaker 11 (04:54):
Actually think people must have a bad conception of what
marriage is.
Speaker 8 (04:58):
I don't even understand why he would.
Speaker 12 (05:00):
Settle for an agreement where your money is yours and
his money is there. I don't understand that either, But
I think I agree with the man.
Speaker 8 (05:09):
We ain't a thing together. So if you paid the bills.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
For this month, good.
Speaker 9 (05:14):
And you know, when I get the money, I'll pay
for the bills the next month.
Speaker 12 (05:18):
But for her to get to want the money back,
I find that a little bit.
Speaker 8 (05:22):
Not marriage minded.
Speaker 12 (05:24):
He should pay.
Speaker 10 (05:25):
The reason I say that because he was stupid enough.
Speaker 6 (05:28):
To marry her, and that's a verbal contract and he
agreed to that. So me personally, when she had told
me something like that, I was a hotel for opposite direction. No,
I mean she trifling. Yeah, but yeah, he should pay
because he agreed to that.
Speaker 11 (05:44):
Well, I think she's trifling, and one she didn't get
married for the right reasons. And two, you are always
supposed to support the other half. A great example for
me is when my husband lost his job, I had
to go out there and I had to work, and
I paid all that boat and I will and I
had enough left over to get me a ten piece
nugget for McDonald. That's what you're supposed to do, support
(06:05):
the better half.
Speaker 6 (06:06):
She wrong because when your marriage vow to say for better,
for worse, for richard, for poor to death, do his part.
Her money ain't just hers, Her money belongs to him too.
So it's like, hey, she's supposed to pay them bills.
The vaal thing for better or for worse. Let's start there,
let's talk about it.
Speaker 10 (06:24):
He says the worst, right, So why can't she go ahead.
Speaker 7 (06:26):
And pay for it.
Speaker 5 (06:27):
You've been saying, look all these years, you being married,
and then if you don't pay it, then you'll be
She'll be somewhere with no.
Speaker 8 (06:34):
Lights, no water, and nowhere to say.
Speaker 12 (06:36):
Come on, she's delusion.
Speaker 6 (06:38):
He should pay her back and serve her.
Speaker 10 (06:42):
Them papers all at the same time.
Speaker 6 (06:44):
Because that's not a wife.
Speaker 7 (06:46):
She's crazy as hell. I mean the guy work, what
about for better, for worse, for richard, for poor? I
mean the guys at a hard time. He lost his job,
and me to tell me, if you pay the bills,
I got to pay you back. She's awful herself. She's
not even concerned. I mean, he's saying the family bill.
She's just not paying the bill.
Speaker 8 (07:06):
His bill.
Speaker 7 (07:06):
She's saying the family bill. So what does she getting
without a job. And she was on the other foot, well,
she likes the same.
Speaker 8 (07:12):
Thing told of her.
Speaker 7 (07:14):
I'll pay I'll pay your credit cards with jetta, pay
me back when you get a job. That's not, say shit,
a loss.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
Of damn that So a husband loses job say, baby,
take care of me for a while. I get a job,
he gets one. She wants the money back. You think
she was wrong. We're going to the phones.
Speaker 10 (07:29):
That man needs to just go and leave her as
quickly as possible, because when disrespect starts like what she's
doing is only gets worse. I've been I lived through
it twice, and it only gets worse in time. First
it goes with the disrespect about money, Then it's about
disrespect about being a man. Then it's just all type
of all type of mess gonna break out. So the
brother need to go on and try and get a job,
(07:50):
give her a divorce, and walk on up out of there.
Speaker 8 (07:52):
I don't feel right.
Speaker 12 (07:53):
He needs to pay her back, especially if they not
lacking for nothing.
Speaker 6 (07:57):
Man, No, you shouldn't give her her money back.
Speaker 10 (08:00):
You should take that money down to the courthouse and
file for an absolute.
Speaker 6 (08:03):
Divorce and get rid of that crash test dummy.
Speaker 8 (08:06):
She crazy.
Speaker 12 (08:07):
She needs to sit down somewhere, because, first of all,
when you take those violence for better off of worse. Hello,
they said to both of them, for better for worse.
That manant was at his worst. She's supposed to pick
up that tab. That's why it's called marrine meaning two people.
So I don't know what she's talking about. She's just
being selfish. We do joke around about oh my money
(08:28):
is mine and he is his. Ousand that's a joke.
But when it comes down a serious and bill taking
care of your family which consists of more than one,
it ain't about you, It's about our family. I'm gonna
need to get her little self as something to sit
down somewhere because that's not cool. He need to check
that and for her in her place and say no,
you want to pay these bills or we going to
be in that.
Speaker 7 (08:47):
It ain't no you and me.
Speaker 6 (08:49):
I don't think that woman that lost her rabbit ass
mile one of the men lost his job duty because
he got hurt. Res This man lost his job due
to an illness, and that will yours is known. It
was mommy's mom especially Bs.
Speaker 8 (09:04):
You know.
Speaker 6 (09:05):
I hope that man will leave her because she don't
deserve him.
Speaker 7 (09:09):
If I were him, I trade her in.
Speaker 5 (09:13):
I don't know where she gets the idea that he
pays all the bills and she keeps her money.
Speaker 8 (09:17):
That is absolutely absurd.
Speaker 7 (09:19):
I don't even know why that even deserves a question
on dio here the show.
Speaker 8 (09:23):
But no, absolutely cannot.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
I think is at the end of the day, if
we are married, it's us.
Speaker 4 (09:30):
Not one on one.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Especially not saying my money is my money and your
money is my money.
Speaker 8 (09:35):
That even makes sense.
Speaker 10 (09:35):
That's not a marriage. That's a partridge in the pear
tree that's falling apart. He need to divorce her and
move on because they ain't gonna work out.
Speaker 8 (09:42):
I think this guy's wife is trifle ling. Marriage is
a partnership. You are a team. You have to move
forward together and sometimes another person has to pick up
the sweat. But one thing I think she said was
before they got married. She said that her money was
her money, his money was both of their money. So
(10:04):
he should have not married her to begin with because
she told him right off the bat that her money
was her money. So you know who fought is that
he should have paid attention to what she said.
It is the d ugually show you a twenty twenty
five edition. Now, should a husband have to pay a
wife back for paying the family bills?
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Let's skip?
Speaker 3 (00:09):
What do you say, No, it's household bills. Man, that's
it is. You know, you you would think that a
marriage is a team. It is a partnership. It is
a togetherness. What they say, you're no longer too, you
are one one?
Speaker 4 (00:22):
Thank you?
Speaker 2 (00:23):
Simple?
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Yeah, it really isn't that hard. These kind of it's
these kind of women that make me think that young
men have a harder time getting married, These kind of
women with these kind of ideas that I'm gonna pay
the bills this time.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
But you go on, what is all that about? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (00:43):
This is like somebody who tell you that they see
a cursor when McDonald's going up, and then they go, oh, man,
I can't believe that they raising the prices of the
places I ain't never gone to again.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
You know, it's disingenuous, is what it is. We got
more of your cause I'll get you later.
Speaker 5 (00:58):
Nothing.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
So the question we're asking a man loses his job,
he told his wife it take care of me until
I get back on my feet.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
She does.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
But now she wants to be paid. That is a
sorry ass woman, right been married? I don't care how
long If that's a sorry ass woman right there? What
do you think, is Junius? Well, what happened?
Speaker 6 (01:18):
Sorry?
Speaker 4 (01:19):
Yeah? What happened to the for better or for worse?
Speaker 7 (01:22):
Yeah?
Speaker 4 (01:22):
Part? What's wrong with being a team? Okay, I'm I'm
a score, but when your time come, I'm not gonna
do nothing. You know, no, man, you're a team. You
supposed to. Everybody's supposed to get in there, and you know,
put up points when you can.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
I think it's people's assessments and worth of relationships. Now, yeah,
I do, I think that, but I think traditionally I
think that that a lot of women feel like if
I borrowed one hundred dollars for me right there, and
I said I was gonna pay you back, you would
want me to pay you back.
Speaker 5 (01:53):
I promise you're not gonna believe this. But it depends
on what our relationship was. I'm saying me to you.
If I asked you to love, you don't need one
hundred dollars for me, Okay, go to all that? Just no, no, no,
honestly speaking, honestly speaking, if you really needed it, which
you don't.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
I would give you the money. So let me ask me,
we had all this qualify really and what do you
need it for?
Speaker 8 (02:16):
And all?
Speaker 1 (02:16):
Because those are very important? You know what forget it
you unpacked your egg?
Speaker 5 (02:20):
Yeah, if you really needed the money, if you was
in a hot spot, was like, I got oh God.
But the thing is, I know you don't need it
for me. If you you were just testing me to
see if I would give it to you or not.
That's the kind of stuff you do. Thank god, I
would have to be testing you because you have one
hundred dollars right now. I will give it to you.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
Okay, I don't need ane. Okay if I pretending to.
Speaker 7 (02:42):
Reach from my bag.
Speaker 5 (02:44):
Five thousand dollars right now, that's not true. That is
not we do need the five thousand dollars for My
first question be like, what's you?
Speaker 2 (02:58):
That's that's the thing.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
But I would you know, why would any why would
they need to be any questions at all?
Speaker 2 (03:04):
I wouldn't ask you one question. I wouldn't go what
are you gonna do with it? Not at all? You see?
Speaker 1 (03:09):
You know when you like that, I tell you to
be a lying ass. You know I would never do that,
and you try to be I would ask you what
you wanted the money for.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
No, but you would ask me what happened. He's a
line ass.
Speaker 5 (03:22):
That's what I expectful. If I ask you right now
to borrow five thousand dollars.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
What would you say?
Speaker 3 (03:28):
I wouldn't have because, first of all, if you asked
me that, I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you
you asked me. Let me tell you. First of all,
I would think if you came to me with that,
you must be in dire streets.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
You must really need it for something.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
And I'm not gonna ask you because it might be
criminal and I have plausible to all right, So if
I had it here, you go hollered me when you can.
Speaker 5 (03:49):
She says, I would ask her and I wouldn't. Okay,
So let's let's go ahead and play this out. Hey,
d Can I borrow five thousand dollars?
Speaker 1 (03:55):
Not now, because you you know what, because you're ungrateful
and you're too good for McDonald's. See wow, all right,
we got to get to your cause in a bit.
With that's true, I think that's not true to the
question with asking this is the scenario.
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Let me feature this for you.
Speaker 9 (04:11):
He came home and he was like, you know, Bay,
I lost my job.
Speaker 4 (04:14):
I'm like, all right, cool.
Speaker 9 (04:15):
So a month later, like the bills, it was time
for the bills or whatever, you know, and I'm like,
you know, the bills, Doby or whatever. And he was like, okay,
you know I'm not working and I'm just or whatever.
So I told him, I said, look, if I pay
these bills, are you going to pay me the money back?
This man has the nerve to tell me why should
I pay my wife back for paying our bills? I
(04:37):
told this man from day one, my money is my
money and his money is our money. Why should I
spend my money paying the bills?
Speaker 10 (04:45):
Like?
Speaker 9 (04:45):
No, he should have paid me back.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
So do you think he was wrong?
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Do you think she's wrong for asking for the money
back for the family bills going through the phones?
Speaker 11 (04:54):
Actually think people must have a bad conception of what
marriage is.
Speaker 8 (04:58):
I don't even understand why he would.
Speaker 12 (05:00):
Settle for an agreement where your money is yours and
his money is there. I don't understand that either, But
I think I agree with the man.
Speaker 8 (05:09):
We ain't a thing together. So if you paid the bills.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
For this month, good.
Speaker 9 (05:14):
And you know, when I get the money, I'll pay
for the bills the next month.
Speaker 12 (05:18):
But for her to get to want the money back,
I find that a little bit.
Speaker 8 (05:22):
Not marriage minded.
Speaker 12 (05:24):
He should pay.
Speaker 10 (05:25):
The reason I say that because he was stupid enough.
Speaker 6 (05:28):
To marry her, and that's a verbal contract and he
agreed to that. So me personally, when she had told
me something like that, I was a hotel for opposite direction. No,
I mean she trifling. Yeah, but yeah, he should pay
because he agreed to that.
Speaker 11 (05:44):
Well, I think she's trifling, and one she didn't get
married for the right reasons. And two, you are always
supposed to support the other half. A great example for
me is when my husband lost his job, I had
to go out there and I had to work, and
I paid all that boat and I will and I
had enough left over to get me a ten piece
nugget for McDonald. That's what you're supposed to do, support
(06:05):
the better half.
Speaker 6 (06:06):
She wrong because when your marriage vow to say for better,
for worse, for richard, for poor to death, do his part.
Her money ain't just hers, Her money belongs to him too.
So it's like, hey, she's supposed to pay them bills.
The vaal thing for better or for worse. Let's start there,
let's talk about it.
Speaker 10 (06:24):
He says the worst, right, So why can't she go ahead.
Speaker 7 (06:26):
And pay for it.
Speaker 5 (06:27):
You've been saying, look all these years, you being married,
and then if you don't pay it, then you'll be
She'll be somewhere with no.
Speaker 8 (06:34):
Lights, no water, and nowhere to say.
Speaker 12 (06:36):
Come on, she's delusion.
Speaker 6 (06:38):
He should pay her back and serve her.
Speaker 10 (06:42):
Them papers all at the same time.
Speaker 6 (06:44):
Because that's not a wife.
Speaker 7 (06:46):
She's crazy as hell. I mean the guy work, what
about for better, for worse, for richard, for poor? I
mean the guys at a hard time. He lost his job,
and me to tell me, if you pay the bills,
I got to pay you back. She's awful herself. She's
not even concerned. I mean, he's saying the family bill.
She's just not paying the bill.
Speaker 8 (07:06):
His bill.
Speaker 7 (07:06):
She's saying the family bill. So what does she getting
without a job. And she was on the other foot, well,
she likes the same.
Speaker 8 (07:12):
Thing told of her.
Speaker 7 (07:14):
I'll pay I'll pay your credit cards with jetta, pay
me back when you get a job. That's not, say shit,
a loss.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
Of damn that So a husband loses job say, baby,
take care of me for a while. I get a job,
he gets one. She wants the money back. You think
she was wrong. We're going to the phones.
Speaker 10 (07:29):
That man needs to just go and leave her as
quickly as possible, because when disrespect starts like what she's
doing is only gets worse. I've been I lived through
it twice, and it only gets worse in time. First
it goes with the disrespect about money, Then it's about
disrespect about being a man. Then it's just all type
of all type of mess gonna break out. So the
brother need to go on and try and get a job,
(07:50):
give her a divorce, and walk on up out of there.
Speaker 8 (07:52):
I don't feel right.
Speaker 12 (07:53):
He needs to pay her back, especially if they not
lacking for nothing.
Speaker 6 (07:57):
Man, No, you shouldn't give her her money back.
Speaker 10 (08:00):
You should take that money down to the courthouse and
file for an absolute.
Speaker 6 (08:03):
Divorce and get rid of that crash test dummy.
Speaker 8 (08:06):
She crazy.
Speaker 12 (08:07):
She needs to sit down somewhere, because, first of all,
when you take those violence for better off of worse. Hello,
they said to both of them, for better for worse.
That manant was at his worst. She's supposed to pick
up that tab. That's why it's called marrine meaning two people.
So I don't know what she's talking about. She's just
being selfish. We do joke around about oh my money
(08:28):
is mine and he is his. Ousand that's a joke.
But when it comes down a serious and bill taking
care of your family which consists of more than one,
it ain't about you, It's about our family. I'm gonna
need to get her little self as something to sit
down somewhere because that's not cool. He need to check
that and for her in her place and say no,
you want to pay these bills or we going to
be in that.
Speaker 7 (08:47):
It ain't no you and me.
Speaker 6 (08:49):
I don't think that woman that lost her rabbit ass
mile one of the men lost his job duty because
he got hurt. Res This man lost his job due
to an illness, and that will yours is known. It
was mommy's mom especially Bs.
Speaker 8 (09:04):
You know.
Speaker 6 (09:05):
I hope that man will leave her because she don't
deserve him.
Speaker 7 (09:09):
If I were him, I trade her in.
Speaker 5 (09:13):
I don't know where she gets the idea that he
pays all the bills and she keeps her money.
Speaker 8 (09:17):
That is absolutely absurd.
Speaker 7 (09:19):
I don't even know why that even deserves a question
on dio here the show.
Speaker 8 (09:23):
But no, absolutely cannot.
Speaker 3 (09:26):
I think is at the end of the day, if
we are married, it's us.
Speaker 4 (09:30):
Not one on one.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Especially not saying my money is my money and your
money is my money.
Speaker 8 (09:35):
That even makes sense.
Speaker 10 (09:35):
That's not a marriage. That's a partridge in the pear
tree that's falling apart. He need to divorce her and
move on because they ain't gonna work out.
Speaker 8 (09:42):
I think this guy's wife is trifle ling. Marriage is
a partnership. You are a team. You have to move
forward together and sometimes another person has to pick up
the sweat. But one thing I think she said was
before they got married. She said that her money was
her money, his money was both of their money. So
(10:04):
he should have not married her to begin with because
she told him right off the bat that her money
was her money. So you know who fought is that
he should have paid attention to what she said.
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