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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Uh so, uh, it's a deal. You can show your
twenty twenty five editions. I think that there's something to
be said. I mean, not in a disrespectful way at all.
But I think if the most insulting thing you could
do who a woman is ask for your change back,
I think they're getting insulted by that.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
I think if if you.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Anything financial, there is an inherent bench toward it being
the purview and responsibility of the man.
Speaker 3 (00:27):
Yeah, but I think you guys make it that way.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
No, we didn't make it.
Speaker 3 (00:30):
You want with that, you want right along.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
With indoctrinated, just like you were indoctrinated. We were too.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
I'm not I'm sure I benefit from the rules. I'm not.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
I'm not casting blame here, Darling sounds like I'm just
not at all.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
I'm trying to.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
Be more reasonable because y'all call the white woman here
called police swat team in here so fast.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Not quite down yet you're safe.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
You won't you won't get me. So, uh yeah, I
think that there's some merit to it. I do.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
I think that, you know, culturally, I think that societally,
Uh yeah, they are.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
But I mean there are a lot of dudes I
know who live off women to now.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
No for sure, but okay, let me let me just
say this. I know without a doubt that more. But
if your daughter called you and said that I'm taking
care of this dude.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Ex right there, that's a blow gun. High power.
Speaker 4 (01:38):
We have.
Speaker 5 (01:38):
We have blow gun.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
So to your point on the frog, you know, yes,
that that would be an issue for me.
Speaker 6 (01:48):
Of course, this is a difference between taking care of
a man and contributing to the households.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Well, yeah, like like where he's from, they hunt and
then women go to the river and beat clothes against rocks.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
So it's not they're called gatherers. Hunters gather and sweep
out the hood. You know, Im, you know what Dowry was.
You know that. But it's true.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
It's it's true. And skip, I'm sure you tell the
same thing to your daughter, because I think there is
a certain kind of I don't know, kind of opinion
that goes with it that if you have to depend
on a man, whether not not not speaking about marriage,
but in a relationship, some men will hold that over
you and you'll be like you owe them something.
Speaker 1 (02:31):
If you have to depend on a man in my
in my house, or if you depend on a man.
You're horrible lesbian. I'm just telling you that that's you're
doing it all wrong.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
It's a little close to home.
Speaker 7 (02:48):
I think.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Yes, thank you beat your brother speak. It's the deal.
You skip. What do you think you all talk thought
that it was?
Speaker 6 (03:01):
You know, you got a son, you take care of
your woman. And if you got a daughter, hey, man's
supposed to take care of you and your day. You
pocket your money in case of emergency, rainy day, you
should be able to take care of yourself. And yeah,
so yeah, some truth to that. Yeah, yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
All right, so we're gonna find out what you say?
Does you have a point eight seven seven six? It's
the deal?
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Huge self.
Speaker 8 (03:25):
Donald Trump said that he was the president of law
and order and whenever he was running by office.
Speaker 5 (03:29):
Well, if you're supposed to be the president of law
and order, that means that you're supposed to be held
accountable by that same statute.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
What's good for the goose is good for the game.
Speaker 9 (03:36):
I think that that happen.
Speaker 10 (03:41):
Yeah, I think he should go straight to jail. Okay,
without Bill, don't miss.
Speaker 9 (03:46):
Your chance to weigh in on today's topic. On the
d l ugly Sell So this is the question we're asking.
Speaker 11 (03:52):
Man with money is expected to share, but a woman
with money, it is told she doesn't need a man,
same income, totally different rules.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Do you We'll go right their phones.
Speaker 7 (04:02):
I think she is so right. I think women are
not act the life women. I do believe that men
are supposed to, you know, be thehead, not to tell.
But you know, eventually when women get up into a
life and get their money right and they are, they're like, okay,
plean to no. You always a man. That's why God
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made men and made women so we can be with
a man.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
First of all, from a man's perspective, a woman should
not think she needs a man. A woman should want
a man. The other thing is, well, other other people
think about you ain't none of your business. So if
they think you cheat, you ain't gonna change your mind.
Speaker 5 (04:44):
I totally disagree with that because throughout my marriage with
my husband, we've been married for over thirty eight years,
and I have always been the I guess I don't
know what you call it, the majority income provider or whatever,
but I've never expected him to match my income because
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he can't match my education, he can't match my experience.
All I ever expected from him was that he provides
some sort of support in our household. But I have
always been the majority earner and he's never had a
problem with that, and so it's never been, you know,
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in my household, it's never been understood that if he
makes more money, he pays more bills. If I make
more money, then I keep my money. That's not how
it works.
Speaker 12 (05:42):
If a woman is gonna be providing the full load
for a man, they should be married and maybe with children.
If the man want to be, they agree to be
a stay home dad or something like that. But as
far as it Dayton, no, I believe it should be
equal a man should you have to share the whole
load and leadership a woman.
Speaker 13 (06:03):
Women have really bumped ahead. I don't know where that
philosophy came from, but I believe that that marriage is
a partnership and that when women have money, they are
supposed to share. If you're in a partnership, it's all
about sharing finances, sharing responsibility. I don't know where the
women got off that if you make a certain amount
(06:25):
of money, you don't have to share, or a man
is obligated to take care of you. I don't know
where that came from, and it is so upsetting.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
More of your calls will come up directly.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
It's today lu question where I asked King Lenzim, she's
a woman, said, this man.
Speaker 11 (06:42):
With money is expected to share, but a woman with
money is till she doesn't need a man, same income,
Totally different rules. Let me explain before you get met.
In our culture, men are taught from day one that
if they're not earning, they're failing. If they can't provide,
they're not real men. If they don't pick up the check,
they're broker stinchy. A man's value is areen reduced to
his financial output. Now flip the script. When women become successful,
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we don't expect them to carry anybody. In fact, we
celebrate it as a form of freedom. Yes, queen, you're independent.
She doesn't need a man. He's expected to provide, but
she's expected to escape. Because if we really want partnership,
then we need to stop placing all the financial burden
on one side, well celebrating freedom on the other.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
What do you think do you have? What we're gonna
write their phones.
Speaker 14 (07:26):
Being from old school, I believe that yours is ours,
what's mine is mine? You're not supposed to provide and
take care of me with my money. Is not that
I'm gonna thwong on it like you would.
Speaker 7 (07:41):
It's for up. I got your back if something goes wrong.
Speaker 14 (07:44):
A woman always supposed to have a stat If something
goes wrong, then she fixes it.
Speaker 12 (07:50):
When it comes to people paying for this to paying
for that, if they're married, they should share the resources,
pool of resource. If you're single, you should pay your
own way. Because it's someone keeps buying you things, food, jewelry,
night out. It's a down payment on you know what.
It's a power and control thing, and so it's an
investment in you and that it creates a power dynamic
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in a relationship if it gets too out of wack.
Speaker 15 (08:17):
I think that she is absolutely correct. However, men have
always been the providers and women have been a nurturist. However,
I'm not saying that that role has never been flipped,
because I don't think studman has ever had a job.
I'm just saying open one of the one of the
most higher staid women that I know of, and she's
carried her men forever.
Speaker 8 (08:38):
American women are thirsty. You know, I've been through this
situation with when American women I had UH and my partners.
You know, I had one of my exes divorced me
for over a cat, you know. So it's just about
the way, you know, the side of this planet that
you were brought up on. Non American women more strive
(09:01):
for perfection and UH inclusion and the sharing of They're
more willing to share, you know, to put two and two,
one and one together to make two instead of you know,
being an American woman. Of boy, you gotta pay everything.
And I change with the weather, so I'm gonna need
more every time I change.
Speaker 10 (09:23):
That just made me mad when I heard it. First
of all, if a man is providing for his family,
he don't have to have six figures or nothing like that.
Nucause he's providing and doing they say best that he can.
Speaker 8 (09:42):
That shall be good enough. He don't have to have.
Speaker 10 (09:46):
Six figures, you know, saying these women's out here, if
they sit up there and they want a man to
have six figures in all this stuff and all that,
But when they when a man is doing the best,
that he's here for his suffering, his kiss, that should
be good enough.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
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Speaker 9 (10:10):
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Speaker 1 (10:13):
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That boy Tray is here to let us know what
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Speaker 8 (10:55):
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Speaker 16 (10:58):
Myspce, I love what's good y'all. This is that boy
Tray back getting with another episode of My Life on
the Yard inside look at HBC life.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Man, this break didn't me so nice.
Speaker 16 (11:18):
It's always great coming back to Thanksgiving, hanging out with friends, family.
Like I said in the last episode, it always feels
like a reset for me. But man, it didn't say
relaxing that whole time.
Speaker 9 (11:30):
We ended it off on a teed up till you feel.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Me me and Miamies.
Speaker 16 (11:35):
We realized, Hey, yo, the last day that I'm like
in the city for real. It's also like the last
home game that they get to experience as college students
at their school. So they were gonna get teed up
on something different like weekend for the ages kind of vibe.
So I just had to be there, Like, dude, we've
(11:56):
been talking about getting me out to a football game.
It just never shook out that way. The way the
universe work, it just happened that the last opportunity that
we had to even do this was the time that
we did it.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
So Oklahoma, they.
Speaker 16 (12:09):
Was up there playing LSU, and there was a whole
bunch of festivities that went along with that. Bro a
whole bunch of tailgating, a whole bunch of day drinking,
a whole bunch of just doing degenerate, crazy stuff while drunk.
That's essentially what I get out of these SEC football games.
They be talking about us getting too t they talk
(12:30):
about us doing degenerous stuff.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
It's really all deflection.
Speaker 16 (12:34):
White boys are the wildest and nuttiest dudes you can
ever hang out with. Off the alcohol, I see the
craziest stuff I've ever seen in my life. I seen
dudes jump off of two story frat houses perfectly fine
after that. That is some crackhead energy, but I know
it's purely alcohol and cocaine. That combination it does amazing
work in the white body, and the vibes were just
(12:57):
so amazing.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
I had a great time.
Speaker 16 (13:00):
Really had me thinking, like damn, if a HBCU had
the ability to really turn up athletically like all these
big white schools, it would be the best vibe on earth.
Combining the tailgating, all the music that we have going,
you know, just putting our black flavor on everything, it
would be the best time ever. But you know, HBCUs
(13:20):
they get a little stingy with the funding when it
comes to athletics, and I understand because the government and
stuff gets stingy with our funding in general.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
But anyways, I'm ready.
Speaker 16 (13:30):
To get back to the A and finish out this
semester strong because it's fourth quarter stuff and I ain't
about to choke this lead I have. You know, we
finishing out with straight a's and few hot bies. That's
all I got for you all today. So next time,
there's been that boy tray. This has been my life
on the yard and so I look at HBCUs life.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Thank you so much, nephew.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
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Speaker 16 (14:00):
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