September 10, 2024 • 14 mins
In this little bonus episode Mikki chats about something that was channeled through to her in a group healing recently. The concept of unconditional love and whether or not we REALLY have it for ourselves. Such a powerful moment and opportunity for growth.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Apologie Production.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
I'm Mickey Fisher and welcome to the Village Crazy Lady.
People are talking to.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Me and they are not physically in this room, so
let's just strap in for that.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Can't call me crazy, so I said it first.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Whoever's trying to come through, whatever messages need to come through, like,
just bring it on.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Let's do it.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Crazy Crazy Crazy The Village Crazy Lay Podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Hello, gorgeous legends, and welcome to another.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Episode of the Village Crazy Lady. Today it's just me.
It's just a little quickie, a quickie bonus episode. You know,
get in, get out while the kids are watching the Wiggles,
that kind of quickie. Today, I want to chat about
something that came through in a group healing that I
(00:58):
did recently. You can always join the group healings too,
by the way, I do them every single week. They're
like twenty two dollars to join or a fifteen dollars
a week subscription.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
They're pretty they're so cool.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
I've been doing them for years now and my mind
is blown mine. My mind is blown every single time
because the shit that comes through is so crazy, and
I have loved one to come through, like in the
most recent one, there was two people who came through
(01:36):
and they found exactly the person they needed to get to.
Spirit babies coming in, there's a lot of information just
about like what's going on in people's lives and their bodies,
decisions things.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
To work on.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Spirit will like take us through little exercises and practices,
so it like begins is it's a reiki healing, like
a group reiki healing, and no one's present for it.
It's just is done distance and you know people are
still working and doing all sorts of shit.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
You don't have to be present for it.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
And yeah, like I just do I do the reiki,
and as I'm doing the reiki, I'm able to, as
I do with any reiki healing that I do, I'm
getting a lot of messages about what's going on in
someone's body. And it's kind of like energetic surgery where
I'm going in and i can kind of see what's
going on and I'm receiving messages. And we have all
(02:34):
sorts of beings come through the other week, we had
a bunch of angels.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
The week before that, we had this like gorgeous little
fairy come in.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
It is honestly like the every single time I go,
I have no fucking idea what this has gone, like,
what is going to come up? But yeah, in this
one that I did the other week, oh yeah, And
so I do the reiki healing, you receive the reiki healing.
I'm rinning down a bunch of messages as I'm doing it,
channeling a whole heap of stuff, and then I record
(03:00):
everything like a voice note of all of the information,
and then that gets sent to you and you get
to listen to it like it's a podcast basically. So anyway,
I was doing a group healing the other week and
this really beautiful message came through that I just feel
(03:22):
like is beneficial for everyone, and I feel like anybody
listening to this podcast is going to get a lot
out of it. And it's so simple, and yet it's
something that at least for me, felt like almost just
like not brand new information because it's like, fuck, I
(03:43):
know that, but I don't practice that, and it's not
something I consciously think of. Spirit said, where have you
placed conditions on how.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
You love yourself? So obviously we talk a lot about
you know all the time.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Love love, and you need to love yourself and like
yourself and love all the parts of yourself and all
of that crap. And you know, I try and practice
that and work on that as much as I can,
as much as I can, you know, but I've never
really thought of it in regards to unconditional love, and like,
(04:28):
if you were to love anybody unconditionally, should it.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Not be yourself?
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Like, it's so interesting that we placed conditions.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
On our love for ourself.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
And when you think about it, at first, it's like
I don't. Well, actually I straight away was like Jesus,
absolutely I do. And it is something that's just so
ingrained in our subconscious it's something that we're doing without
even realizing. So Spirit was literally like they want us
(05:09):
to really confront it, like this activity that they suggested
is something that can be so profound and confronting at
the same time, because they said they're like literally, sit
down and really think about it, like really really really
think about where where am I placing conditions on my
(05:34):
love for myself? As in like where am I where
is it where I'm like, oh, love myself? If those
sorts of moments and when you sit down and you
write those things down and at first you're like, Okay,
let's do the basic ones, like for me at my
(05:55):
absolute core, despite the fact that I hate it or not,
and it's something I'm constantly working on. I have conditions
around my love for myself based on my body and
my weight and my appearance, and that fucking sucks. And
I preach anything of anything other and like, I never
(06:19):
ever place those conditions on other people. But you know,
because I grew up in the fucking nineties and early
two thousands and with Heroin Chic, it's still something that
I'm absolutely working on. But it's something that I really
pop into the back of my mind because I'm like consciously, no,
absolutely not, you know, I'm all for like like a
(06:43):
body is a body and all of that, and again
would never like I don't, I don't place those same
conditions on anybody else. But if I'm being really, really
honest with myself and I'm sitting there and I'm writing
a list of where I place conditions on my love
for me, fucking oath, I have to write that down,
(07:04):
and that is extremely confronting because then you're sitting there
and you're going, okay, but like, why is that really
and really like that's that's such an interesting thing that
I refuse to love myself outside of these conditions. And
(07:24):
another one for me is around success, Like a big
one is like around success. And if I'm not you know,
doing this, and I'm not making this amount of money
or I'm not achieving this whatever it is, that's another
condition that I placed on whether or not I love myself.
And like when you sit there and you write these
things down and you and it's and it's at the beginning,
(07:47):
it kind of feels a bit surface level and you're
kind of like writing down a lot of the obvious ones,
but you kind of get deeper and deeper and deeper
and deeper. And the interesting thing about writing it down
is you also start to like already put together why
the why. And I think I've said this before, but
(08:10):
the whys they've never come from us. At some point
in our life, it's being told to us. We've been
given a reason as to why there is a condition,
whether it's someone putting a condition on whether or not
we are lovable outside of those conditions. And so then
(08:34):
we also go, well, if that person doesn't love me,
if I'm not skinny, or if I'm not successful, or
if I'm not achieving and already as I'm saying these things,
I fucking.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Know exactly the people.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Then surely I can't love myself either, you know, because
we kind of grow up basing our love for ourself
around whether or not other people love us. And if
someone else loves us for something, then we love ourself
for that as well. But if someone doesn't love us
for something, then we're like, well that's unlovable. That's an
(09:13):
unlovable part of myself. It is quite an interesting practice.
It's basically a therapy session with like from you to you,
and when you're doing it, really you can if you
can really think about having that perspective of like and
because the other thing they said is that it's in
(09:34):
regards to like mothering yourself. Okay, so like, imagine as
you're writing this list down, it's like you mothering you,
so you write down the thing the condition. Imagine now,
if you were to mother yourself through that, if it
was like you speaking to your you know, whether you've
(09:55):
got children or not. Imagine explaining it to a child.
If a child comes to you and they go, I
only love myself if I look like this. I only
love myself if I'm achieving a certain thing, and you
would say, like, but you're you know, that doesn't define you,
(10:18):
or like whether or not you look a certain way
or you achieve a certain thing makes no difference to
who you are and is not a measurement of whether
or not you are loved, you know, And but we
need to do that for us. It is a very
(10:39):
quite profound practice, and it's something that I recommend everybody
does and even just to think about it and consider
this concept of like where am I placing conditions on
my love for myself? And because once you start to realize,
even putting the dots together of like where this story
has come from, where this condition has come from, And
(11:03):
it's sort of we take it from this conscious and
we make it conscious. It takes away its charge and
its power, and it gives us control over it, and
it gives us a choice as to whether or not
that's like a story that we want to continue, and
can I make a decision right here and now that
(11:25):
like I'm done with that story. And it doesn't mean
it's going to just fuck off into the void and
it's going to disappear forever. But when it pops up,
I'm able to notice it, and I'm able to rewire
the story and remind it. Okay, I understand why you
(11:48):
think that. I understand why you've actually placed that condition
on yourself, But we don't need to anymore. So we're
going to work on reminding ourselves that we're lovable regardless.
So I hope that can help you and be a
powerful practice. I'd love to know how everybody goes and
(12:09):
how that feels, and what comes up in the stories
that you kind of reveal to yourself.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
It's so interesting, even just.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
From the group healing, I had a lot of people
message me sharing their experiences, and it's just really beautiful
to be able to like re recreate this relationship with
ourself and with like such a gentleness. They're just sort
of like even showing me, they're like, we kind of
come at this. I need to love myself almost from
(12:40):
a place of like self hatred, not self hatred, but
we're like, I need to love myself. I'm supposed to
love myself. I need to love all of myself self love,
self love, self love. Except we have to sort of
like treat ourself almost like a I don't know, like
a battered dog in a way.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
Where it's like, well, you've lost trust.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Along the way, so we're recreating this trust from like
me to me, this relationship, it's gonna take more than
me just telling you you need to trust me and
you need to love me. It's so much more than that.
It's a building and it's a conversation, and it's like
a constant sort of like regaining of trust and a
(13:24):
rebuilding between you and you. So anyway, I hope that
is helpful, and as I said, i'd love to hear
how that feels for you and how that practice goes.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
But I hope you all have a really beautiful week.
Please if you can.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
Not if you can, because you absolutely can, but if
you're not already, it helps the podcast out a whole
effing lot. When you follow rate and leave reviews like
so much, it helps it heaps. I get so many
messages from people telling me about episodes that they loved
(14:04):
and how the podcast has helped.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
Them, and I love those messages.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
Sorry much, but it would be extra great if you
could put those messages in an Apple review as well,
because then Apple is like fuck yeah, and that's what
we want Apple to say.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
Thank you so much. Guys have a beautiful week, and
i'll talk to you soon Bye.
Apologie Production.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
I'm Mickey Fisher and welcome to the Village Crazy Lady.
People are talking to.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Me and they are not physically in this room, so
let's just strap in for that.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Can't call me crazy, so I said it first.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Whoever's trying to come through, whatever messages need to come through, like,
just bring it on.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Let's do it.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Crazy Crazy Crazy The Village Crazy Lay Podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Hello, gorgeous legends, and welcome to another.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Episode of the Village Crazy Lady. Today it's just me.
It's just a little quickie, a quickie bonus episode. You know,
get in, get out while the kids are watching the Wiggles,
that kind of quickie. Today, I want to chat about
something that came through in a group healing that I
(00:58):
did recently. You can always join the group healings too,
by the way, I do them every single week. They're
like twenty two dollars to join or a fifteen dollars
a week subscription.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
They're pretty they're so cool.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
I've been doing them for years now and my mind
is blown mine. My mind is blown every single time
because the shit that comes through is so crazy, and
I have loved one to come through, like in the
most recent one, there was two people who came through
(01:36):
and they found exactly the person they needed to get to.
Spirit babies coming in, there's a lot of information just
about like what's going on in people's lives and their bodies,
decisions things.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
To work on.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Spirit will like take us through little exercises and practices,
so it like begins is it's a reiki healing, like
a group reiki healing, and no one's present for it.
It's just is done distance and you know people are
still working and doing all sorts of shit.
Speaker 2 (02:10):
You don't have to be present for it.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
And yeah, like I just do I do the reiki,
and as I'm doing the reiki, I'm able to, as
I do with any reiki healing that I do, I'm
getting a lot of messages about what's going on in
someone's body. And it's kind of like energetic surgery where
I'm going in and i can kind of see what's
going on and I'm receiving messages. And we have all
(02:34):
sorts of beings come through the other week, we had
a bunch of angels.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
The week before that, we had this like gorgeous little
fairy come in.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
It is honestly like the every single time I go,
I have no fucking idea what this has gone, like,
what is going to come up? But yeah, in this
one that I did the other week, oh yeah, And
so I do the reiki healing, you receive the reiki healing.
I'm rinning down a bunch of messages as I'm doing it,
channeling a whole heap of stuff, and then I record
(03:00):
everything like a voice note of all of the information,
and then that gets sent to you and you get
to listen to it like it's a podcast basically. So anyway,
I was doing a group healing the other week and
this really beautiful message came through that I just feel
(03:22):
like is beneficial for everyone, and I feel like anybody
listening to this podcast is going to get a lot
out of it. And it's so simple, and yet it's
something that at least for me, felt like almost just
like not brand new information because it's like, fuck, I
(03:43):
know that, but I don't practice that, and it's not
something I consciously think of. Spirit said, where have you
placed conditions on how.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
You love yourself? So obviously we talk a lot about
you know all the time.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Love love, and you need to love yourself and like
yourself and love all the parts of yourself and all
of that crap. And you know, I try and practice
that and work on that as much as I can,
as much as I can, you know, but I've never
really thought of it in regards to unconditional love, and like,
(04:28):
if you were to love anybody unconditionally, should it.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
Not be yourself?
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Like, it's so interesting that we placed conditions.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
On our love for ourself.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
And when you think about it, at first, it's like
I don't. Well, actually I straight away was like Jesus,
absolutely I do. And it is something that's just so
ingrained in our subconscious it's something that we're doing without
even realizing. So Spirit was literally like they want us
(05:09):
to really confront it, like this activity that they suggested
is something that can be so profound and confronting at
the same time, because they said they're like literally, sit
down and really think about it, like really really really
think about where where am I placing conditions on my
(05:34):
love for myself? As in like where am I where
is it where I'm like, oh, love myself? If those
sorts of moments and when you sit down and you
write those things down and at first you're like, Okay,
let's do the basic ones, like for me at my
(05:55):
absolute core, despite the fact that I hate it or not,
and it's something I'm constantly working on. I have conditions
around my love for myself based on my body and
my weight and my appearance, and that fucking sucks. And
I preach anything of anything other and like, I never
(06:19):
ever place those conditions on other people. But you know,
because I grew up in the fucking nineties and early
two thousands and with Heroin Chic, it's still something that
I'm absolutely working on. But it's something that I really
pop into the back of my mind because I'm like consciously, no,
absolutely not, you know, I'm all for like like a
(06:43):
body is a body and all of that, and again
would never like I don't, I don't place those same
conditions on anybody else. But if I'm being really, really
honest with myself and I'm sitting there and I'm writing
a list of where I place conditions on my love
for me, fucking oath, I have to write that down,
(07:04):
and that is extremely confronting because then you're sitting there
and you're going, okay, but like, why is that really
and really like that's that's such an interesting thing that
I refuse to love myself outside of these conditions. And
(07:24):
another one for me is around success, Like a big
one is like around success. And if I'm not you know,
doing this, and I'm not making this amount of money
or I'm not achieving this whatever it is, that's another
condition that I placed on whether or not I love myself.
And like when you sit there and you write these
things down and you and it's and it's at the beginning,
(07:47):
it kind of feels a bit surface level and you're
kind of like writing down a lot of the obvious ones,
but you kind of get deeper and deeper and deeper
and deeper. And the interesting thing about writing it down
is you also start to like already put together why
the why. And I think I've said this before, but
(08:10):
the whys they've never come from us. At some point
in our life, it's being told to us. We've been
given a reason as to why there is a condition,
whether it's someone putting a condition on whether or not
we are lovable outside of those conditions. And so then
(08:34):
we also go, well, if that person doesn't love me,
if I'm not skinny, or if I'm not successful, or
if I'm not achieving and already as I'm saying these things,
I fucking.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Know exactly the people.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
Then surely I can't love myself either, you know, because
we kind of grow up basing our love for ourself
around whether or not other people love us. And if
someone else loves us for something, then we love ourself
for that as well. But if someone doesn't love us
for something, then we're like, well that's unlovable. That's an
(09:13):
unlovable part of myself. It is quite an interesting practice.
It's basically a therapy session with like from you to you,
and when you're doing it, really you can if you
can really think about having that perspective of like and
because the other thing they said is that it's in
(09:34):
regards to like mothering yourself. Okay, so like, imagine as
you're writing this list down, it's like you mothering you,
so you write down the thing the condition. Imagine now,
if you were to mother yourself through that, if it
was like you speaking to your you know, whether you've
(09:55):
got children or not. Imagine explaining it to a child.
If a child comes to you and they go, I
only love myself if I look like this. I only
love myself if I'm achieving a certain thing, and you
would say, like, but you're you know, that doesn't define you,
(10:18):
or like whether or not you look a certain way
or you achieve a certain thing makes no difference to
who you are and is not a measurement of whether
or not you are loved, you know, And but we
need to do that for us. It is a very
(10:39):
quite profound practice, and it's something that I recommend everybody
does and even just to think about it and consider
this concept of like where am I placing conditions on
my love for myself? And because once you start to realize,
even putting the dots together of like where this story
has come from, where this condition has come from, And
(11:03):
it's sort of we take it from this conscious and
we make it conscious. It takes away its charge and
its power, and it gives us control over it, and
it gives us a choice as to whether or not
that's like a story that we want to continue, and
can I make a decision right here and now that
(11:25):
like I'm done with that story. And it doesn't mean
it's going to just fuck off into the void and
it's going to disappear forever. But when it pops up,
I'm able to notice it, and I'm able to rewire
the story and remind it. Okay, I understand why you
(11:48):
think that. I understand why you've actually placed that condition
on yourself, But we don't need to anymore. So we're
going to work on reminding ourselves that we're lovable regardless.
So I hope that can help you and be a
powerful practice. I'd love to know how everybody goes and
(12:09):
how that feels, and what comes up in the stories
that you kind of reveal to yourself.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
It's so interesting, even just.
Speaker 1 (12:18):
From the group healing, I had a lot of people
message me sharing their experiences, and it's just really beautiful
to be able to like re recreate this relationship with
ourself and with like such a gentleness. They're just sort
of like even showing me, they're like, we kind of
come at this. I need to love myself almost from
(12:40):
a place of like self hatred, not self hatred, but
we're like, I need to love myself. I'm supposed to
love myself. I need to love all of myself self love,
self love, self love. Except we have to sort of
like treat ourself almost like a I don't know, like
a battered dog in a way.
Speaker 2 (12:58):
Where it's like, well, you've lost trust.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Along the way, so we're recreating this trust from like
me to me, this relationship, it's gonna take more than
me just telling you you need to trust me and
you need to love me. It's so much more than that.
It's a building and it's a conversation, and it's like
a constant sort of like regaining of trust and a
(13:24):
rebuilding between you and you. So anyway, I hope that
is helpful, and as I said, i'd love to hear
how that feels for you and how that practice goes.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
But I hope you all have a really beautiful week.
Please if you can.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
Not if you can, because you absolutely can, but if
you're not already, it helps the podcast out a whole
effing lot. When you follow rate and leave reviews like
so much, it helps it heaps. I get so many
messages from people telling me about episodes that they loved
(14:04):
and how the podcast has helped.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
Them, and I love those messages.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
Sorry much, but it would be extra great if you
could put those messages in an Apple review as well,
because then Apple is like fuck yeah, and that's what
we want Apple to say.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
Thank you so much. Guys have a beautiful week, and
i'll talk to you soon Bye.
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