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Speaker 1 (00:05):
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Speaker 2 (00:10):
I'm Mickey Fisher, and welcome to the Village Crazy Lady.
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in this room, so just strap in for that. Can't
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Speaker 1 (00:22):
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Speaker 2 (00:23):
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The Village Crazy Lay Podcast. Hello, gorgeous legends, and welcome
to another episode.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
Of the Village Crazy Lady.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
I'm extremely excited today because not only do I love
this guest that I've got on today, but we've actually
managed to do this irl in real life. It's like
the universe has just decided to make this happen. Rosie Rees,
who if you don't know who she is, she's like
the queen of sexual pleasure. She's the queen of I
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don't know, Like you are just the queen of everything
sex to me and everything like self pleasure and everything
self love and everything like connecting to your body and
like creating this really really beautiful relationship with yourself and
like really pushing past all of like the shame that
we hold around so much of ourself. You have like
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a thriving business, the only pleasure place. I just say that, right,
didn't you any pleasure palette? Such a mouthful, and I
get it. And I've just been obsessed with everything that
you've done for so long, and so I'm just so stoked.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
To have you here.
Speaker 3 (01:40):
Thank you so much for having me. I feel like
the universe just yeah, conspired for us to meet in person.
Thank God.
Speaker 1 (01:47):
No, so let's start off with your story.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
I really want to know, like what got you into
Have you always been someone who's like been really connected
to your sexuality.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
I've always been connected to my sexuality, not really in
a healthy way, of course, But it was this experience
that I had in Bali We. I was over there
doing my Kundalini yoga teacher training and I found this
jade just stumbled across this jade egg workshop with this
full like tentry car goddess woman and found myself in
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the rainforest. We were doing this like sensual four hour yoga.
It was intense and it was a lot. It was
out of my comfort zone for sure, like at the time,
and we were like rolling this egg all over our
body and we ended up putting it inside of our vaginas.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
While you were there, while we were there very like.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
Intimately and like facing out, so it wasn't in your
face or anything.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
It was very staring at each other and like inserting it.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
No pussy gazing in this workshot, but I basically put
it in and I had this like wave of just
healing energy. It was like the first time I'd connected
to my pussy in a way that was loving and
caring and tender and just like not I need to
get a orgasm from there, or I need to give
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someone pleasure. It was a really beautiful experience with myself,
and like I've always had a connection to being able
to make myself orgasm from the age of I was
late actually compared to some women, but I was nineteen vibrator,
you know, so I'd always felt like I'd needed a
vibrator to feel pleasure. This egg just blew me away.
I was like, Okay, I get what people are talking
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about now, and then I couldn't shut up about it.
So that was like the beginning of your only pleasure palace.
So we started with that one product and now it's
like two hundred plus pussy products.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
But just to.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
Rewind a little bit, I was climbing the corporate ladder
in Sydney. I was in an awful, toxic relationship with
he was my boss at the time, and I escaped. Essentially,
I survived. I left and I had this spiritual awakening.
I just needed to go to India. I needed to
practice yoga, and I just left and changed. It literally
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changed my life. So that awful toxic man that I
had that experience with was in a way like such
a blessing for me because it literally got me on path.
I realized what I needed to do and who I was.
I realized my purpose was to help people. At the time,
it was just with relationships. I wanted to help other
women get out of like toxic of youse relationships. And
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then it kind of evolved into sexuality because.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
That was my next question was like how do you
go from zero to a hundred like that? But I
guess like when you get yourself out of something like
that and you do go into how can I help
other people do that? So that was like the stepping stone,
I think.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
The key and like I like to make you know,
no mud, no notice, right, So I like to make
my shit into gold. That's called alchemy. So you can
make really awful experiences in your life into the best thing.
It doesn't have to be the best thing that ever
happened to you, but it can be a way to
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pivot and to grow and be like, Okay, I'm not
going to be a victim of this because I went
into this bliss like state after that because I was free. Yes,
and I did it, and it was yeah, Like, but
you can choose. That's the thing. You get the power
to choose how you respond to that whatever situation in
your life.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
One hundred percent. I could not agree more.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
So you went to India, went to India, became a yogi,
realized I couldn't survive off yoga, teaching three yoga classes.
I was like, shit, I was really hoping this yoga
thing would work out.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
How did you get to like, how did you go
from regular yoga to naked yoga?
Speaker 3 (05:45):
My god, well, I kind of so I went back
into a recruitment job. I kind of repeated some patterns, actually,
but I figured it out pretty quickly. And then I
was starting to take on more like relationship coaching clients
because I've done a certification with Tony Robbins his institute,
and I moved to Perth actually to study sexology. So
my family I had kind of all migrated over there
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over the years for oil and gas. They're very different to.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
Me, Yeah, I are very different.
Speaker 3 (06:14):
I mean I'm into crystals, like you know, from the earth.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
I guess that's so true.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
So I got there and moved in with a newdist
actually like a little beach shack. And he just said
to me, Rosie, You're welcome to be naked here as
much or as little as you like. But I'm just
letting you know, I do walk around that house naked sometimes.
And he, you know what, he was just this big
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ass permission slip for me to just he was like,
you can have loud sex here, like do whatever. And
he wasn't a creep, like, he wasn't a weirdo.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
And I from that day I started doing naked yoga
outside of like in my backyard, and I just remember
looking down at my body and I just I didn't
like the way my belly was. I like all my
like dimples and wrinkles and scars, and you know, my
nipples were too big and my booths were too small,
and like I just could literally go to town on myself,
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you know, with all the things that I hated about
my body, and then getting naked just was so natural.
It wasn't Initially it was confronting and exposing, but then
I had this like meditation and I really believe like
spirit just comes through sometimes, and it was just like this,
I just plucked it out and it was like, you
need to teach naked yoga for women to help them
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love their bodies, but you need to do this first.
And so I just did it. And you know what,
every single class since then has sold out. It's just
been in flow, and I was worried no one would
show up, but it's been quite the opposite.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
I guess it.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
Really it is the permission slip for so many people,
because like I've been wanting to do a class for as.
I was even talking to like my producer out there
for a while and I was telling her about the
naked yoga classes and I was like, I'm like, I
really want to do one. I'm like, I know.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
It would be I will be terrified.
Speaker 2 (08:04):
Yeah, And like the concept of like just being naked
for starters and being naked with other women, I think
is like that's not too bad for me. Because I
grew up in an all girl household, so like seen
it all. I'm used to seeing vaginas everywhere, volvers everywhere,
but it would be me looking at me and in
like yoga positions right where I'm like the thought of
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doing a downward dog and watching my like postpartum breastfeeding
tits just like literally like blowing in the wind and
seeing that I'm like das exactly how I picture it
would be. And then I look down and I seem
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and then like you're looking at your flaps, you're seeing
everything at all. But that's why it's so good, That's
what I think, And because like you have to sort
of like get to this point, especially if you're seeing
yourself them, because how many people even allow them like
be naked that much.
Speaker 3 (09:03):
They don't. Most people go from them shower to the
wardrobe naked and that's it, or say have sex and
they're semi naked. That there's not many times you are
naked in a non sexual or non practical setting. And
that's why I wanted to create a safe, honoring, sacred
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space for women to come to candlel its. So it's
not like fluorescent lights and stuff like that. And we're
in a circle. We're not in rows, so there's no
butts in faces or anything like that because it doesn't exist.
And what the magic that happens is you sit around
this circle and you're looking. One of the first things
that I get the women to do after we've gone
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through a relaxation at the start is to come back
up to the seat and open their eyes and just
look at every single woman just in their eyes around
the whole space and witness and see who they're sharing
the space with tonight. Every time, it's just like you
just feel because you're so proud of that woman across
the room. She's taken some serious fucking courage to turn
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up to even just get in the car and drive
to the freaking workshop is a lot. And this is
why I always say like vulnerability is a fucking superpower,
because how much strength does it take to actually show
up to something that scares the shit out of you totally?
And then you see all these incredible women of all
shapes and sizes and ages and colors and all walks
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of life, and you're like, so proud of her for
showing up. And then you realize, I've got to look
at that in me, and I see the beauty and
all these other women, I've got to look at that
in me.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
Oh my god, that's actually so just the recognition because
I can just imagine myself in that situation, and that
would be my first thought, is like being so proud
of all the other women, and like, you know, it's
so interesting how it's so easy to see other people
and see them in such a different way to how
they see themselves. So do you feel like you started
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with the like the getting naked? How do you bring
it into eve and like your home, like you've got
like a step daughter, you've got your wife. Do you
all walk around naked?
Speaker 3 (11:12):
We all walk around a lot naked? And can I
just preps this by saying I did not grow up
in a Newdas's household. I never saw my mom's boobs
or evolve, or might have remembered seeing evolverm maybe once
like yea when I was really young. Never saw my
sister naked. We were a very private family. I wasn't,
but they were very private. So it's not like a
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natural like, oh, this is just my upbringing for me,
I think, well, it really does come back to that.
Bali experience with the jade egg. Because I came home
to Perth after that and I started doing Tantra workshops.
I started just exploring because I feel like you can't
explore your body, or like you can't accept and love
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your body unless you fully accept it and love your sexuality.
Because it's like you just got to start down here
at the base and work your way up. And I
think it kind of goes hand in hand. Having a
sexual awakening helped me to have this naked what I
call a naked awakening where I completely, you know, fell
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in love with my body. And I started at the
pussy and putting the yoni again and like channeling an
intention into my crystal egg. What do I want to feel,
what do I want to receive? What do I want
to let go? And then gently guiding that into my body.
And I did that for thirty days straight, every day,
and for me, that shifted everything. Plus you know, I
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had a coach, and plus I went to Temptra workshop,
so I was moving a lot of trauma out of
my body as well, like I was holding a lot
from past traumas and experiences, because it lives in your
body until you clear it through breath, sound, movement, and touch.
Speaker 2 (12:53):
Especially the womb, like that whole like that whole area,
just so much trauma gets stuck there, and not just ours,
but like generations and generations of women before us, we're
holding on to.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
I came off the pill when I was twenty six,
so eleven years ago, and my periods were violent, like
just right there, she was raging at me, like, fuck
you for being on the pill. I don't know how
long it was, nearly ten years, fuck you, I'm pissed
at you. And just the pain was awful. But I
remember lying on the ground one day, just bleeding and
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just in agony, and the message came through, this isn't yours,
this was my mom's and my step my grandma's. Wow,
the sexual trauma, because I hadn't had like I hadn't
had sexual trauma. I'd had sexual experiences that were definitely
not consensual or like you know, a full body yes,
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but I felt like I was carrying my grandma's and
my mom's stuff, and I decided to really actively clear
that because it's not mine to carry anymore.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
So have you always been, because like you've mentioned so
so much as well, like you've had this connection to
spirit You've been able to like connect in with like
what's going on? Has that been an always thing or
was that like within the like the yoga spiritual journey, like.
Speaker 3 (14:18):
I think it became more attuned and louder. Yeah, doing
those yoga meditation practices in tantra and that kind of thing.
But I've always been a spiritual little soul, Like as
a little kid I was. I swear I saw Jesus once,
Like I just I don't see spirits. I don't see
souls or anything like that, but I just feel I
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feel it, And yeah, it's there's definitely a channel there.
It's always been there, and it's just getting more and
more clear as I get older.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
Something I'm obsessed with is like understanding how people.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Feel here see.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Experienced spirit because especially like even the classes that I'm doing,
everything is about like it's pretty much the whole concept
is basically like, all right, let's tune into how you
are receiving this information. And because I always say, it's
like it's so obvious and not obvious at all at
the same time, because it's like exactly as you said,
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it's like a feeling, right, and most people are experiencing
often just those feelings of like I just feel something
about this, or I just have this knowing about something,
or I have this like you know, They'll get like
an image or a memory or something that flashes in
their head and they have no idea that that is
like spirit or God or whoever connecting to them and going, hey,
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we're trying to help you out here, like this is
that's all part of you. But instead they're.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
Like, we're so used to just going, oh, I've got such.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
A wild imagination. I'm not really sure which one's me,
which one's not, which is my thought, which is like
my you know, Like so I just love like hearing
how people are receiving this information. Does it feel like
a real body thing for you or like where do
you see it?
Speaker 3 (16:03):
Hear it, feel it. It's definitely like a feeling, like
a knowing. But then I also just received signs. It's
like signs and symbols. The other day, I was watching
an Instagram reel and it made me cry. It was
a mum her two kids had come to surprise her
and she just burst into tears. And witnessing that, I
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just burst into tears because it reminded me of my
mom and that's how she would have reacted. And I
just was in My heart was so sore and I
was crying, and I just said, please just show me
a sign that you're here with me. And I don't
ask for them very often because I already see them
and I feel her, but I just needed something. And
as I did that, this woman messaged me and it
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was the same woman who a year ago i'd gone
to her sound healing six weeks after my Mamma died,
and she after the sound healing was profound, she said,
there's a very strong mother energy in this room tonight,
here with you. And I just said, yeah, I lost
my mum. It's her. And she had a message for
me afterwards, and she delivered this message. She just messaged
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and she said she'd been feeling my mum and yeah,
like it was instant, like I'm not even kidding you,
bang on, second on and that's only happened to me
a few times. Like that level of like serendipity or synchronicity.
It's just like insane.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
Where she's just like just so you know, I definitely
am here and around.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
I love that. I love it's so beautiful to me.
Speaker 2 (17:37):
Like I often think with loved ones when they pass,
I think it's really it's a hard concept to understand
that they can still parent us, mother us, have the
relationship with.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
Us in the way that they did.
Speaker 2 (17:55):
It's just that it's not physical, and which is so
hard because we live in a physical reality and not
having them physically there is just so painful. But from
their perspective, they're like, I'm your mother just the same,
I support you just the same. If anything, They're like,
I can actually help you so much now, Like from
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because they're not in the human body, they don't have
the density stopping them, and they don't have old stories
that are like you know, complicating their own experience. They're
able to just like support you completely.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
Which my mom is doing. Yes, she's like the most
incredible mum now that she could never have been. Yeah wow,
no human body ever. But she's giving it to me
now and a really I know that sounds just so strange,
but she's really with me, No, she calms me.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
Mm yeah, I mean as a medium that makes complete sense.
And I've like connected to your mum and everything before,
and she is like she is that very She even
before she just kepts it mentioning something like something white
when you are like talking about like sign she's like
something white, like a white something that she'll like show
you that she's around.
Speaker 3 (19:12):
Wow, or a white dress yesterday. I just I don't
know who knows.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
But going back to sort of like the connecting with
your self sexually and like really intertwining that sort of
spiritual side, I mean something that I think even within
my own journey as someone who's like experienced a lot
of sexual trauma, I realized for me, I was like
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basically dead from like the neck down and that. And
I don't I don't think like that's a unique experience.
I think most women, you know, growing up being completely
disconnected to our cycles, being like there was so much
shame around everything, Like everything was embarrassing. Having a like
having evolval was embarrassing, how it looked was embarrassing. Having
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it harry was embarrassing. Not knowing, like having a period
was embarrassing, using a tampon, having like having a boyfriend
or whatever and getting your period and like not being
able to have sex with them or whatever was like
everything about being a woman was basically embarrassing and shameful,
and I think like so many women still are like
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really trying to move through those layers and layers and
layers and layers of shame, and not just theirs, but
exactly as you said before, like when you're you had
that realization that it wasn't just yours, but it was
like your mum's and your grandmother's, and like it's just
so huge what we're doing. How do you think for
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people I guess listening to this who were like like
where would I like, where do I even start? You know, like,
what what do you think is like that journey? I
guess you know you've spoken about the like the being
naked and like just being okay with that, and then
the egg and then the movie. Think through all of
those things, what do you think is the process?
Speaker 3 (21:10):
It's a long one, it's a hefty one, but it's
never too late, That's what I want to say. And
you know, we are all tarnished and painted with this
good girl syndrome that is kind of imposed and inflicted
on us from such a young age, and we're meant
to be this good little girl until we get married,
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and then we're meant to just all like you know,
find a partner and then we're meant to be sexually
embodied and like multi orgasmic. And what I'm interested in
is bridging that gap. And like, you know, we've been
told to be this good little girl and push it
all down, don't touch yourvolva, don't do this, don't do that,
don't have sex before marriage. Like I had so much
sexual shame and guilt from having sex before marriage because
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I went to a really Christian boarding school and I
only let that go when I was twenty six, Like
I was carrying it for some time. And yeah, so
it's never too late and you can start now. And
it's honestly just a matter of like like starting to
build a relationship with your yoni. Youoni just mean sacred
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space in Indian Sanskrit. So if anyone's like, what does
yoni mean? Some people call me yoni, it's not but
I'll take it.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
I love it.
Speaker 3 (22:26):
Gyang was recognized in a Burly store the other day
and she's like, are you the yonie lady?
Speaker 1 (22:31):
And I was like, yes, I'll take it.
Speaker 3 (22:34):
I'll be the lady, the nie queen. So just starting
to build a relationship with your pussy in a way,
that's non initially non sexual, And that's what I love
about the Yoni egg is it's not a sexual practice. Like, yes,
it can be, but really it's just about touching your volver,
your vagina and connecting with her. And actually, like sometimes
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in my client sessions, I'll just get the women to
cup their vulver and listen because she has a voice, right,
just like you have your mind for your brain voice,
you have your heart voice or like a heart intelligence,
you have your womb and pussy intelligence, and she's just
waiting there for you to connect with her with that
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part of the body, and she'll tell you. Like you
can just ask her what do you need or how
do you feel today? Or you know, what do you
need to let go? What are you holding? Sometimes it
helps to have a guide someone asking you these questions
so you can kind of get out of your head.
But there might be a sexual abuse experience that is
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kind of just stored in there energetically. There might be
at a surgery or an operation or an abortion that
has kind of left a residue of trauma on or
imprint on that space on your cervix. Then could be anything, Honestly,
it could be that one time you're with your boyfriend
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or your partner and you had sex when you weren't
quite ready and it wasn't a fuck yes, and you're
only shut down, or maybe someone commented negatively on that
part of your body and you've just held onto it
and thought, Okay, never showing my pussy to anyone ever again.
Or I'm not having sex with the lights on, or
whatever it is. But I do think we need to
go down there and listen and create a relationship and
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honor your boundaries and start saying no if you know,
start knowing what your yeses are and what your nose
are and write them down, you know, what is it
yes and what is a no? And then finding out
where she's at. And it's totally possible to clear trauma,
because that's the biggest block to pleasure that I find
in a lot of women, my followers, my clients, is
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they're still holding and harboring something bad that's happened to them.
And you can you have the power to clear that
and release that from your body and that doesn't have
to be your story, and you can become multi orgasmic
and you know, pleasure filled from releasing that without even
you don't even need to necessarily go back into it.
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But also you know, being in fight or flight, being
in survival mode, not being in alignment, there's so many
blocks to pleasure totally even like just as you were
saying that, like even just like women's specially inability or
discomfort when it comes to just receiving in general, like.
Speaker 2 (25:31):
I know, even for me, like TMI for everyone, but
fuck it, Like I still find it hard if I've
orgasmed when we're having sex and he's going in again
to like get another one out, I literally straightway go
into like, oh, there's no way that I could possibly
like it. Just there's so much that comes up with
like that's too much receiving.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
Like there has to be like a give and take.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
Here, Like I can't just possibly just receive and receive
and receive and receive, you know, so indulgent, right, And
it's actually amazing how much exploring your sexuals and as
you say, like actually figuring out what like if you
are uncomfortable with seeing yourself touching yourself, allowing yourself pleasure like.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
The wise is like so wild.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
You learn a lot about yourself when it comes to
you even like even when it comes to just sex
with another person, Like, why do you struggle with saying
no when something gets right? Why do you struggle like
speaking up when you want something? Like so many things
you can find out about yourself in those situations.
Speaker 3 (26:39):
Absolutely, And it's you know, the voice. I love that
you brought up the voice connection because you know, I
always say, like, your throat is quite close to your heart,
so it's easy to speak from the heart end to
the head. It's like quite close. You can speak your mind,
you can speak your heart, but it's a long distance
from pussy to throat.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
It is a long distance.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
And so and I feel like sometimes for me in
the past, I couldn't speak up.
Speaker 2 (27:01):
Yeah, and I.
Speaker 3 (27:02):
Still have days where I'm like, I can. I amruggling
to say what I need right now because it kind
of gets jumbled on. It's like there's this like you know,
interference on the way up. I'm like, oh my god,
I need to say this thing. But sometimes it's so
hard to speak your what your yoni needs or wants
or fears or desires. Yeah, And so I do recommend
doing it outside the bedroom. Yeah, So for being intimate
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and near, like halfway through having sex, or putting a coon,
whatever you're doing. Maybe just first it's like speak out,
speak those fears out loud, speak those desires out loud,
and yeah, start to build and fine tune that connection
from pussy to voice, because your pussy needs is relying
on your voice to speak up for her.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
Yeah, just because she's got lips, she can't talk, She
can't talk exactly. You need to give her that voice.
Got to use your others, your lips. And it's hard,
it's so hard really plain.
Speaker 3 (27:57):
Your fantasy or tell them no, a little to the
left or whatever. And I'm still like, I'm always on
this journey, you know, I'm always constantly growing, always a
student of this work. But yeah, so speaking up for
your volver and learning what she needs is so important.
And that starts honestly with self pleasure, with masturbation, Like
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it is important to be able to have these experiences
with a partner, but start here with yourself, Like, just
sit in front of a mirror and start to look
at your yoni that if that's anything that you can
you know, that's quite achievable. You know, it's scary and
it's a lot, but just opening your legs and gazing
at your yoni after you get out of the bath
of the shower and just witnessing, maybe put on one song,
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one track three minutes brief with her and notice what
you see, the colors, the textures, the shape, how big
you're or little your glitteris, is which side's a little fuller?
You know. Just start to witness and just be like
and start to greet her, like meet her, give your
a name if you want connect.
Speaker 2 (29:05):
I mean, like, I've literally never looked at my vulva
like that ever, and so like the thought of and
like I just even just had that real I'm like,
I've had my body for almost thirty three years and
I've never like looked, like actually fully looked at my
vulva because like I feel like it would be so
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confronting because you have like I can just imagine if
if I was doing that, and I'm going to challenge myself.
I'm going to do it.
Speaker 3 (29:35):
But yes you are, and everyone who is watching or
listening you are doing. Yes, we need to loving you accountable.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Yes, our challenge is to is to is to legs
open in front of the mirror, look at our.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
Wad a ceiling mirror or just get a mirror that
you can put on the floor. Yeah, yet big about that,
because that's yours and that's your temple space. That's a
space you can go to to gaze at your Yoni,
gaze with like loving like imagine like a really beautiful, soft, loving,
nurturing gaze, you know, rather than make that critiquey yes, okay, yoh,
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and just and touch her slowly and gently, maybe put
some oil, ask her what she wants, because she she's
got a mind of her own, right, she'll tell you.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
And then when do you start so obviously like you've
built this empire of like amazing sex toys, which I
own a fair few of, and I love them so much,
so do so do my my children?
Speaker 3 (30:33):
Oh for the reason yeah.
Speaker 2 (30:36):
And not for very different reasons, because it doesn't matter
how many times I change what draw Actually I don't.
Speaker 3 (30:41):
Even because like I'm like, I still find them. They're pretty,
they're shiny.
Speaker 2 (30:45):
Literally, My son is so funny. He's going to be
listening to this one day when he's like, you know, sixteen,
and I'm telling him about it, but he literally is
obsessed with the is it called the octopussy and just
the word itself. It's so funny, my five year old
is obsessed with my octopussy.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
Because he loves crystals.
Speaker 2 (31:06):
He loves my crystal so much, and he's always like, oh, Mummy,
my favorite crystal is your seahorse octopus one.
Speaker 3 (31:15):
And that one's not even crystal, that's glass. But there's
you know, same, same, a little bit different. But yeah,
kids are just so they just they're fascinated by them,
and like, you know, sometimes I get mums being like,
why do you leave you know, your dildos lying around
because they're fucking art and kids don't think like that,
and like and often the ones around my house haven't
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really like they're just displays or they're samples or something.
And so they're beautiful. They are things that you could
put on the mantlepiece. They're crystal, you know, gorgeous specimens
that you can use internally. And a lot of people say,
you know, why why are you so big on glass
and crystal? For me, like, I'd use silicon vibrators for
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five years before realizing that I really wanted to try
something different. There's when you use them, they're so sleek
and they just especially when they're warmed up and you
put some lubricant on there. It just glides in and
it's like there's no resistance, there's no gripping, and it
just it's so smooth and you can really stimulate your
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aerogenis so it's like your g spot and your cervix.
Using them, it's just a whole different experience. And obviously
if they're crystal, you can put an energy, like an
attention into it as well. What do you love about them?
Speaker 2 (32:29):
Well that and I think like I even learned from you,
and this is what I want to talk about as well,
is like the difference between not the difference, but I
guess using a vibrator versus say, like using a crystal
or glass wand and because you know I always was
just had the like the sucky vibrating thingy, and that
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gets you off pretty quick.
Speaker 1 (32:52):
It does the job. You get in, you get out.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
You know, it's effective, it's effective, it knows how to
do its job. And then versus and you must have
been speaking about this one time and about like you know,
having something that it's like it's just the tool basically,
and then you're really doing it really gives you an
opportunity to actually fully explore yourself. And for me, what
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I really like about the wands is because it gave
me a chance to explore the inside of myself. And like,
because you know, people are like the g spot that this,
that that, and it's like everyone outside looks different, but
I feel like everyone inside is all very different too,
And I'm like, I need, like, you know, a Google
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Maps to give me a description of what's going on
and where everything is, and like, you know, like I
need like a GPS up there. And because even like
being pregnant was such a that taught me a lot
about because they would be like, oh, your cervix is this,
or your vaginal.
Speaker 3 (33:58):
Wallp you never think about your slave you get pregnant.
Speaker 1 (34:01):
Literally, I know when you're hearing all this.
Speaker 2 (34:03):
Stuff and I'm like, what do you I'm like, can
you while you're there telling me that I've got like
a collapsed vaginal wall or it's lazy or it's something
or other, can.
Speaker 1 (34:11):
You take a picture? Can you tell me like what
that fucking means?
Speaker 3 (34:14):
I have a wand for that. It's called the Polar
Wand and it's got a camera on the end. What
I'm not even joking. You brought it out last year.
It's got like this glass end with a camera and
a light and you put it inside you and you
can look at your cervix because my partner and I
we obviously both have cervixes, and they look completely different.
Ashes had a baby, so the cervix is a lot
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bigger and mine is like it's tiny, little one because
I haven't had a baby yet. So it's really interesting
to look at your cervix. And I feel like, because
the polar one isn't for self diagnosing or anything like that.
It is just for looking and feeling and understanding and
navigating your pussy because you don't know what it looks like. No,
but the cervix is like the deepest part of your
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body other than like the back of your throat. I
guess that you can feel in touch and potentially see.
And I feel like a lot of women have had
cancerous cells there and trauma there, and it gets poked
and prodded and you know, scraped and this and that,
and it's like, how can we resensitize this. This is
another thing that I'm really interested in, is civical deamoring
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vaginal deamoring, because a lot of women hold tension and
pain and negative experiences in that place in their body,
especially if they've had birth trauma or anything like that.
So yeah, really acquainting yourself with that part of your
body is just amazing. And I've been able to because
I was addicted to my vibrator and I thought I
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needed it to climax basically, And when I started using
the Yoni egg my inside my pussy just woke up.
I think before that, and it just woke up. And
I swear to God, my vagina or my you know,
and all the eurogenous zones within it is just as
what's the word. There's just as much erectile tissue in
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there as there is on my clip. It just feels
like an extension of my clitterists. And in a way
it is because the clitorist is just like the bulb
the gland, and then there's legs and bulbs that extend
through the g spot and like the urethral sponge, and
so it's all within as well. But you know where
attention goes or where energy goes attention? What is it
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when attention goes, energy flows? So if you are bringing
more attention to your internal vaginal passage, it is going
to start to light up. It is going to start
to be more orgasmic because you're bringing attention and energy there.
So many women come to me saying I'm just you know,
not feeling anything inside me. I'm like, well, what are you?
How are you touching that space? How are you bringing
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presence and aliveness to that space? Because a penis or
a dildo just sliding in and out is not going
to do too much. Sometimes, having a little bit of
you know, massage using fingers, or the cervic serpent pleasure
one which is a really long one that you can
kind of need in there.
Speaker 2 (37:01):
Yeah, I think I've got that one too, that.
Speaker 3 (37:03):
Can help to release it.
Speaker 2 (37:04):
Yeah, the needing the like I was like, oh yeah, no,
I feel that sounds familiar. So the diamoring, So is
that what that is like when you speak about like deamoring,
like the cervix and stuff.
Speaker 3 (37:18):
Yeah, yeah, Well, dearmoring is essentially massaging or if you
think about armor, we can hold armor in any part
of our body really, as you were, usually holding armor
around a space that we've been hurt or that we've
experienced pain. So a lot of women all feel it
around their heart space. And that's why I teach breast
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massage as well, but also the pussy. You know, if
you've had negative experiences in the bedroom, you can hold
that energy in there, and so dearmoring is literally a
process of massaging, pressing, tapping, holding, breathing, sounding, and moving
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and letting that be released. I remember getting a y
only massage once and he I haven't had it with
many male practitioners, but he was one of them that
I had, and he was very good and he I
remember him pressing because it's a very gentle process and
it's not it's not necessarily a sexual experience. It's healing.
And we have a whole YEARNY massage directory of people
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in Australia that we promote and recommend because it's a
it's a crazy world out there. Yeah, and he pressed
on a spot inside my vagina and it was really
unlike I wasn't prepared for it, to be honest, and
my whole body started shuddering and shaking and completely uncontrollable.
I wasn't even crying, I wasn't laughing, I wasn't there was.
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It was just my body was almost like a wounded
animal that was shaking off something that he just tapped
onto you just pressed. It wasn't orgasmic, it wasn't painful,
It was just my body was leaving something and releasing something.
Speaker 2 (38:59):
Wow, a full metabolizing Yeah.
Speaker 3 (39:02):
But you can do that to yourself. You don't need
a you ony practicition. Know, it's great to try that
if you feel drawn to and you feel safe with somebody,
but to give that to yourself you can also do that.
Speaker 2 (39:12):
Well. Can we talk about the yoni massage for a
sec because even like again my producer and I were
talking about this for a like before you even came in,
and like I'd heard about, you know, getting yony massages,
but sort of like how did it not how did
it come about? But because you know, like how does
someone go I want to massage someone else's yoni? And
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like is it to help? I guess sort of move trauma?
Speaker 1 (39:39):
Is it to help?
Speaker 2 (39:40):
Like? What is it for? Can you talk a bit
more about it?
Speaker 3 (39:43):
That was bad?
Speaker 1 (39:44):
That was a badly bad question.
Speaker 3 (39:45):
I get it.
Speaker 1 (39:47):
I'm getting what you're putting down.
Speaker 3 (39:50):
Like when you go get a massage, they avoid your breasts,
your belly, your balm, and your yoni unless you're going
to some erotic massage.
Speaker 2 (40:00):
Different.
Speaker 3 (40:00):
But for women, it's those places on the body are
very neglected and not touched or stimulated for certain reasons,
which is a good reason. Obviously you don't want random
people's touching you there, but that can kind of lead
to this feeling of starvation, I guess from your breast
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to your belly and your volver that aren't getting touched,
especially if you're a single person. But also, yeah, if
you are wanting to receive a massage that includes the
breasts and the volver and the belly and the bomb,
then it is such a but I've had so many
and it's such a beautiful experience. It's different every time
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with where you're at in your life and the practitioner
that you're using. There are certain like Lommy Lommy Hawaiian
massages that include the breasts, which is really beautiful, and
some in Bali do as well. But with the volver
and the vagina. To let someone a really safe, trained practitioner,
to let somebody touch you in this space that's non
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sexual because let's be honest, our breasts and pussy are
not just sexual parts of our body one hundred. They've
been over sexualized, they've been objectified and leered at and like,
you know all the things, but I mean, the breasts
are food source for babies. The vagina it bleeds, that's
very non sexual, bleeds once a month. The births again
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not necessarily sexual. Things like these parts of our body
are also just parts of our body that require love, touch, presence,
and to be massaged on your vulva in a way
that you don't need to give anything back to this person.
Obviously there is a financial exchange. You don't need to
give this person a hand job or whatever. And just
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to fully and you said the word before receive, to
fully fully receive sensual not sexual, like it is a
sensual touch or pressing or needing or tap or touching.
It gives you this opportunity to just release like you
most likely and I've cried almost in every single one
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because it just feels so good to No, you don't
have to give anything back. You are just in a
receptive mode for a woman.
Speaker 2 (42:22):
That is massive, totally, and even I guess like the
financial exchange kind of like relieves that sort of feeling
of I do need to give something back because it's like, well,
I've literally I've just paid for this, paid you. Yeah,
like I'm literally just getting a service right now.
Speaker 3 (42:39):
Yep. Yeah. And it's mostly women that I or women
actually that I promote on the Only Massage directory, and
it's women who know how to hold space. I couldn't
do it. It's the sessions of three to five hours long.
Wow titially because it's it is a whole ordeal and
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you get a full body massage and it is a
breast massage, and then if the woman is ready, then
they might go internal, but it's all like, you know,
you don't have to, and it might be the second
or third time that you go to the practitioner that
you receive internal touch. But for some women, especially if
they've been abused in some capacity, it can be a
really healing experience when done in a safe space with
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the right person.
Speaker 2 (43:24):
Interesting. Yeah, I feel like I'm like, it's so intrigued now,
because at first I was like, oh God, I don't
know how i'd feel about that. But now I'm like,
like the concept of the over sexualizing is so true,
and I feel like that's a good segue into like
what I want to talk about next.
Speaker 1 (43:40):
Which is like teaching this sort of stuff to our.
Speaker 2 (43:43):
Kids, because Rosie has so much to share with us.
We are making this a two part episode because the
chat goes for quite a while, so tune in next
week for the second part of my chat with Rosie