本次錄音分為上下集，上集以主持人 Zukkim 的博士論文為基礎，探討台灣同志子女與家人之間「出櫃」的複雜歷程。每個人與家人間的互動是很私密及複雜的，本集中提到的故事僅提供同志朋友參考，讓大家有更多腳本可以面對不同狀況。
核心觀點：出櫃不是一次性的「告知」，而是「和解的過程」。Zukkim 研究發現，主流文化中將出櫃視為「告知」，並不完全符合現實。例如，家人在這個「被告知」的過程中可能感到困惑，也可能會當作沒發生過，導致同志需要重複對家人訴說。
另一個迷思：「出櫃就是誠實面對自己」。Zukkim 發現，許多主流論述將出櫃等於唯一誠實面對自己的方式，或是主張出櫃會使你人生豁然開朗，但她的台灣同志研究顯示，這些論述在台灣並不完全適用，也可能造成同志的壓力和自我批評。
在親子的互動上一個錯誤的預設：在出櫃過程前，或是過程中，有時同志朋友會做出一系列的舉動旁敲側擊父母是否接受同志身份，但預測跟實際情況有時差很多。
回到「和解」的概念：出櫃比較像應是一個「和解」的過程。一開始，同志與家人間發現兩方對於人生規畫有不一樣的想像，因此想要拉近彼此對於這個想像的距離。在這過程中，雙方會用不同的方式讓對方理解自己的想法與現況，包括用個人經歷、朋友經驗、權威的說法等等。此外，有時人生中的生離死別，可能會使家長或是同志子女認為出櫃或同志身份不再那麼重要了。
主持人強調，和解的過程是讓雙方將認知差異調整到一個能夠接受的範圍，至於能不能達到這個目標，就得看天時地利人和，以及對自己和家人的了解和溝通。
閱讀 Zukkim 張竹芩的博士論文：『“She Did Not Come Out, But We’ve Come to Terms” -- Family Reconciliation of Challenged Expectations When a Young Adult Child is Gender and Sexual Minority/Tongzhi: Multiple Perspectives』(University of Texas at Austin, 2019).
台灣同志諮詢熱線協會所提供的相關資源：
出櫃夥伴相談室｜出櫃聊天機器人：m.me/TaiwanHotline?ref=entry_07
打開櫃子說亮話｜出櫃晤談室（1對1諮詢預約表單）：forms.gle/7VgwmXSfKhVVPLtWA
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