LOVERS by shan

LOVERS by shan

Lovers by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram’s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right. Past guest include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away. When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach.

Episodes

S2 Ep123: I Wanted My Man, Not the Sex: Tamsen Fadal on Losing Her Libido At the Worst Possible Time

June 11, 2025 • 54 mins
Have you ever wondered where your libido went? In this episode we do a deep dive on sexual slumps, low libido and lack of sexual desire that is frustrating (lack of desire that is not frustrating is not a problem!). We get to have this conversation first from the lens of Emmy-winning journalist Tamsen Fadal whose journey with low libido started in perimenopause and peaked on her honeymoon! From hot flashes and brain fog in the...
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S2 Ep122: Go Where you are Celebrated, Not Just Tolerated ft. Kennedy Ryan

June 4, 2025 • 50 mins
From fatphobia to racism to ageism and ableism, Kennedy challenges the norms around love, desirability, and who gets to be the “main character.” This one’s for anyone who's ever felt left out of the story — and is ready to take the pen back.

Bestselling romance author Kennedy Ryan (Before I Let Go, Reel) sits down with Shan to talk about what happens when women stop shrinking themselves to be chosen. From rewriting th...
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S2 Ep121: Having the Sex I’d Want My Daughter to Expect with Xosha

May 28, 2025 • 65 mins
What kind of stories do we pass down through the way we love?

Actor and mom Xosha Roquemore sits down with Shan to talk about sex, self-worth, and how becoming a mother shifted everything. It starts with one question she asked that stopped us both: “Have the kind of sex you’d be proud to tell your daughter about.”

We talk about the early messages she got about sex, how sexual coercion showed up in her past, a...
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S2 Ep120: Jessie Woo Opens Up About Surviving Sexual Assault, Reclaiming Pleasure and Building Healthy Love After Trauma

May 21, 2025 • 69 mins

Reclaiming Intimacy: Jessie Woo’s Journey Beyond Trauma. Comedian and media personality Jessie Woo joins Shan for a powerful conversation about healing, love, and rediscovering sexual joy after surviving sexual assault. Jessie shares her painful story of her assault and her joyful story of her relationship with Jay Allen aka Mr Easter.


Now Jessie is on the path to reclaiming pleasure and building healthy re...
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S2 Ep119: Alessia Cara Opens Up About How Death Anxiety Affects Her Relationships

May 14, 2025 • 53 mins
Nothing good lasts. Right? In this deeply moving episode, Canadian singer-songwriter Alessia Cara joins Shan Boodram to explore the connection between intimacy, loss, and the fear of death (thanatophobia). Inspired by her song "Subside" from Love and Hyperbole, Alessia opens up about her personal journey with grief and how it shapes the way she loves and creates. Together, they dive into universal questions: How do we hold on ...
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S2 Ep118: Raven-Symoné and Miranda on How Sleep Divorce Strengthened Their Marriage

May 7, 2025 • 54 mins
In this week’s episode, I sit down with Raven-Symoné and her wife Miranda Pearman-Maday for a refreshingly honest conversation about love and what it really takes to sustain a modern relationship. They share why they chose a sleep divorce, and how sleeping separately has deepened their emotional bond, sharpened their communication, and brought them even closer.

This episode is a masterclass in emotional maturity and i...
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S2 Ep117: Cree Summer Opens Up About How Emotional Safety Reignited Her Sex Drive After 50

April 29, 2025 • 56 mins
In this week’s episode, I sit down with the legendary Cree Summer to talk about her journey through love, loss, and rediscovery in her 50s. Cree opens up about losing her sex drive during her marriage due to a lack of emotional shelter and the importance of finding a partner who provides safety and calm during life’s storms. We also dive into how her sex drive has improved post-menopause and what she’s looking forward to as sh...
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    S2 Ep116: Don't Waste Your Time With People Like This!

    April 23, 2025 • 41 mins
    This is a rare solo episode with just Shan behind the mic—no guests, no distractions. Just her, answering some of your most pressing, unfiltered questions. From personal reflections to deeper dives on topics you’ve been dying to hear her take on, this one’s intimate, insightful, and straight from the heart

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    S2 Ep115: B. Simone Opens Up About Putting God First, Chastity and Demisexuality

    April 16, 2025 • 53 mins
    Are you ready to dive deep into the complexities of love, faith, and identity? In this thought-provoking episode, Shan Boodram sits down with B. Simone to discuss the transformative journey of embracing chastity, understanding soul ties, and exploring the nuances of identity and connection.
    While B. Simone does not identify as demisexual, Shan suggests the possibility during their candid conversation, sparking an insightfu...
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    S2 Ep114: Karamo Brown on Evolving Sexual and Emotional Needs Over Time

    April 9, 2025 • 46 mins
    Does a change in your intimate needs have to mean a change of heart? In this episode of Lovers Shan Boodram sits down with Karamo Brown, TV personality (Karama and Queer Eye), author, and culture expert, for a raw and revealing conversation about intimacy and growth. Karamo opens up about how his intimate needs evolved through his 20s, 30s, and 40s—both emotionally and in the bedroom. He shares how these changes led to the end...
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    S2 Ep113: Khadeen and Devale Ellis on Defying Gender Roles to Save Their Marriage

    April 2, 2025 • 43 mins

    Are You Loyal to Your Gender or Your Relationship? Shan Boodram sits down with Khadeen and Devale Ellis, the dynamic married duo known for their raw honesty, humor, and insights on love and relationships. Together, they share how they saved their marriage by breaking free from traditional gender roles and prioritizing their partnership above all else.
    Khadeen and Devale Ellis are actors, content creators, and authors...
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    S2 Ep112: Jessie Reyez on Why Boundaries Are a Form of Love

    March 26, 2025 • 44 mins
    Jessie Reyez joins the podcast to celebrate her new album, Paid in Memories and to dive into the complexities of boundaries and self-respect. Together, we unpack what it means to be labeled a "villain" (by both yourself and others) for setting boundaries and standing firm in your self-worth. Jessie shares her personal journey of choosing to stay single rather than settling for less in love, reflecting on the regret of taking t...
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    S2 Ep111: Deepica Mutyala Breaks Down Dating as a Successful Woman and Manifesting a Relationship With Purpose

    March 18, 2025 • 41 mins
    In this episode of Lovers and Friends, Shan Boodram sits down with Deepica Mutyala, founder of Live Tinted and a trailblazing entrepreneur, for an honest and empowering conversation about being single, thriving in your 30s, and preparing for the love and family you deserve. Deepica shares her journey of building a successful career while staying true to her dreams of finding the right partner and creating a family. Together, S...
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    S2 Ep110: Lena Waithe Reflects on Emotional Intimacy and Platonic Relationships

    March 12, 2025 • 52 mins

    Lena Waithe on Cuddling Over Climaxing
    In this episode of Lovers and Friends, Shan Boodram sits down with Emmy-winning writer, producer, and actress Lena Waithe (Queen & Slim, Master of None, The Chi) for an eye-opening conversation about intimacy, love, and meaningful connections. Lena shares why you should never have sex with someone unless you can imagine a positive aftermath for both of you. She dives into ho...
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    S2 Ep109: Tika Sumpter Breaks Down What Sex Education Looks At Home

    March 5, 2025 • 44 mins
    What kind of relationship with sex do we want young people to have? In this episode myself and Tika Sumpter, known for her multifaceted career as an actor and creator, explore this question as parents and as people reparenting themselves. In this episode Tika shares her compelling personal story that shaped her approach to intimacy and education. Growing up in a Christian household, discussions about sex were often avoided or ...
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    S2 Ep108: Singer Mario Opens Up About Emotional Healing After Maternal Trauma

    February 26, 2025 • 52 mins
    In this deeply personal episode presented by Bumble, singer Mario opens up about the profound impact of unresolved trauma stemming from his relationship with his mother. He shares how this pain shaped his early behavior towards women, leading to manipulation and broken connections. Mario takes us on his journey of self-reflection, healing, and ultimately embracing his inner feminine energy—a process that not only reshaped his ...
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    S1 Ep107: Forget What You Thought You Knew About Good Sex and Start HERE

    February 21, 2025 • 39 mins

    Beyond Pleasure: Three Keys to Truly Fulfilling Sex

    Sex is at the intersection of life and humanity. For the majority of us, it’s how we got here and for parents, it’s how we will continue on after we are gone. We often hear the term “better” sex, which begs two questions: what does that mean? And, why is the sex we are currently having not good enough?

    In this episode we will define the goal of sex - r...
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    S1 Ep106: Kerry Washington: We Are as Sick as Our Secrets

    July 26, 2024 • 60 mins
    Kerry Washington, you read right. Award-winning actor, director, producer, and activist Kerry Washington. In support of the second season of her hit show UnPrisoned on Hulu Onyx Collective, Kerry stopped by Lovers and Friends to discuss what she learned from Paige, how learning that her biological father was a sperm donor changed her family for the better, therapy with her parents and husband, how real parents should get with ...
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    S1 Ep105: Kelly Rowland on Sex, Kink, Divorce and Repressed Desires

    February 26, 2024 • 56 mins
    Kelly Rowland, you read right. This is a CAN NOT MISS, special release Lovers and Friends episode with Shan Boodram AND it is best experienced after you watch Mea Culpa now streaming worldwide on Netflix. In this intimate, first-of-its-kind conversation Kelly Rowland shares how she went from a sexually repressed upbringing to living up to her pleasure potential as a sensualist, plus how her sexual awakening gave her the confid...
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    S1 Ep104: Ride Our Emotional Roller Coaster: The Concluding Episode of Lovers & Friends

    December 27, 2023 • 88 mins
    Welcome to (some of) the best of Lovers and Friends the podcast. Hear from JESSIE REYES, MELISSA AND KEV OnSTAGE, ABBY DE LA ROSA, SHANOLA HAMPTON, TIM Chantrangsu aka DE LA GHETTO, DREW LOVE from THEY, RACHEL LINDSAY and GLO ATANMO during this special recap episode.


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