Chapter 167: Say Say Say

Should I (42m) really WANT to go grocery shopping with my wife?

So I'll try to make this short and can add some detail if needed.

Married for almost 13 years, we have 3 kids, a house, she's a stay at home mom and I work full time.

I work long hours, 50 hours, sometimes as many as 60, but lately it's been 48-52 hours. I'm a popular write-in comedian for a radio show that takes submissions. I do a lot of food based humor, like talking about Spotted Dick and other weird and funny British foods, strange regional pizzas and sandwiches, random recipe generators, and sesame seed grinding. So I spend all day, every day thinking about food. All day. My last job was the same thing but for a manzai duo, longer days, less pay and heavier physical work because my partner would hit me as part of the routine. I've spent the last 3 years "grocery shopping in my brain" as I jokingly call it... And I hate grocery shopping. I hate it even more when I'm spending my money to do it and not getting paid. I joke that's the ultimate irony that I ended up in a career basically doing something I hate... But it pays well especially given my education background. My wife can afford to stay home and do her podcasting stuff.

The problem, she keeps wanting me to go grocery shopping with her. We got into a big fight last night... It escalated over the course of the evening but ended up with her yelling that she wanted a partner who wanted to spend time with her no matter what and wherever she wanted to go. I pointed out the irony of her saying that when every week she finds every excuse not to go along with me and the kids for things. Going for a drive through the country, no bathrooms. Driving out to the beach, hates the sand. Drive in circles around the block, it's too hot. Just drive until we run out of gas, she gets carsick on long trips. I started suggesting things to do... And she yells she doesn't care about that shit, that's stuff I like to do. I look at her and I'm like you literally just yelled at me because I didn't want to go grocery shopping (something I still do by the way, usually a couple times per week) on my day off. Then in the same breath you're shooting down my ideas and tell me you don't care about that stuff.

This is a semi regular conflict, she loves to shop, I hate it, I just don't wanna do it on my days off.

For context I help around the house, I shop, she has my debit card she can go shopping without me, I even drive her there and sit in the truck so she doesn't have to drive (she hates driving).

Any suggestions here?

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