September 19, 2025 • 51 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Look up with cound all the things on the bottom.
Ah A wold is you.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
You're my favorite view. But that's not the Grand Rising family.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
Welcome back, beautiful bitches.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
I am so much louder on my microphone than you are.
I don't know if it's because I talk louder, but
you see how I'm in the red.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
I do see that.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
When you talk, unless it's the first word, you're not
really in the red. But I totally clipped out there.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
I wonder what that is.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
No idea anyways, Maybe my MIC's too close. Maybe I'm
just too fucking loud, man. It could be a bit
of both. I am. I am a pretty loud person. Yeah,
all right, So I have a couple of things. Today's
Today's I think we're gonna we're gonna do emails, so
either way, this is gonna be an email episode. But
I have things that I want to talk to you
about before we get into the email things. Do you
(00:59):
remember the episode we did where we talked about taking
Little Man's straws and clothes hangers the toy thing.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
One of the deepest wounds surrounding self sabotaging behavior is
a toxic misbelief that anything good that you have rightfully
achieved or received will be taken away from you.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
It comes from abuse too.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Yeah, for me, I think that started with love.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Well, I mean it makes sense because your love was
withheld as a punishment, you know, but that's exactly what
it is. You get any type of manipulator, any type
of parent that will dangle something over your head like
a carrot gets you to perform, or the moment that
you do something disappoints them, they can just strip everything
away from you. Like, there are certain aspects of grounding
(01:41):
that I think makes sense, right, like taking a TV
out of the room, Like that's totally fair. It's not
your TV, it's mine. But Christmas gifts and Birthday gifts
and all of those things, like I don't know, I
have a hard time with that because it's theirs, Like
that was a gift that was bought for them. It's
not a high end item. You know. Little Man plays
with straws and hangers. Yeah, so like I could take
(02:03):
a straw or a coade hanger straw and they're my
coat hangers, right, Like that's how I view that. But
like his big dinosaurs and shit, we don't ever take
any of the stuff fromhim, because it was always big
gifts like those are his. And I think that we
learn that our house is our home, and the things
that we own our ours until somebody takes it. And
when you're a little in powerless and can't stop them
from taking it. Now you have that fear of somebody's
(02:27):
to take this from.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
Me, right, somebody bigger than me, somebody with more authority.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
So in the comment section of that TikTok, there was
a whole lot of people who were saying things like, well,
what about their cell phones and their tablets for teenagers
or their computers? And I got it on TikTok and Instagram,
same comments from different people asking about cell phones and technology.
So I want to talk about that.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Okay, let's go.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Our kids are six and seven, and the imagination has
not been shit on like we cultivate that imagination. We
want the kids to thrive in their creative mindset. We
want them to be free thinking individual as they grew up.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
I'm gonna pause you. Will you remember this, Yes, if
there are children in the room, parents listening to this,
we are about to discuss Santa Claus.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Good call this.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
This is your warning to pause, turn the volume down,
kick them out of the room. Our children. We've recently
told our children that Santa Easter, Bunny tooth Fairy doesn't exist,
and they handled it fairly well. There is a lot
of you lied to us. There is creativity and imagination
to an extent, because it did feel like lying on
(03:32):
our part, especially with how intelligent they are and they've
been asking questions already. I just wanted to add that
on to the free thinking, cultivating imagination, that it does
end at a certain extent because we don't want to
feel a certain way about what's going on.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
It just dawned on me that the next time they
bring up the whole Santa and you lied thing, or
the next time they lie to us, we can bring
that up and be like, do you remember how you
felt when we told you there was no such thing
as Santa and how you felt betrayed and lied to?
That's how you make us feel when you lie to us.
Didn't think about that until just now. That's a good
call anyways, so we've not stifled that creativity. We want
to make sure that they are free thinking adults and
(04:08):
not just drones. I want our children to be able
to creatively. Think now, with that TikTok and with the
conversation that was being had, I don't think that you
should be buying big ticket items for holidays, birthdays, Christmas,
because that is a gift to the child. It is theirs.
When it comes to cell phones, laptops, tablets, any of
those high ticket items, even gaming consoles, they should be
(04:31):
communal property until they're able to afford their own. Like,
I don't think the kids should have smartphones. I think
if we bought the bought the kids cell phones, it
should be like a flip phone, like a dumb ass
flip phone that they can't use Facebook or TikTok or Instagram.
I don't want them to have access to the Internet
at all until they are old enough to figure out
(04:51):
how to make enough money to purchase the device and
pay for the plan every month.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
Yeah. I also want to have really big conversations about
Internet safety. You know, by the time I was I
was twelve year yars old of sending inappropriate photos two
older men on the Internet.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
And that was before it was illegal for people to
post you onto inappropriate websites. Yeah, you know, you look
at things like roadblocks in Fortnite and all of those
games that have communities built around them, there are a
whole lot of predators that are on those games. Roadblocks
is huge for that, like that is and that's a
game that is promoted to little kids. So I don't
want them to have access to that kind of shit.
(05:29):
And like communal property for computers, Little man is in
the Minecraft now, and we're going to set up a
computer somewhere in the house that is in a communal
area that they get timed things. And I don't care
if that looks strict or like fucked up or let
the kid have a computer, fuck you right. I want
the kids to be in a room where we can
hear what's going on, and we can know who they're
talking to, and we can hear their side of the conversation,
(05:50):
and we can monitor their children still now when they're fifteen, sixteen, seventeen,
eighteen years old, we'll have different conversations of what that
looks like. But they have to earn the right to
use those tablets or computers. And if they ever got
to the point where they got a computer or a
laptop in their room, it would be password protected and
I would be the one that had the password, or
you would be the one who had the password, and
it would be used for schoolwork, and in the event
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they wanted to game or do something else, it would
have to be done through chores. You would have an
allotted time that starts at the beginning of the week,
like say you get four hours of computer time a week,
or two hours a day, or however you wanted to
work that, and we would have a list of everything
that has to get done during the daytime, and then
there would be infractions of negative timeframes of what that
would look like. In the event that they didn't do X,
(06:34):
Y and Z, had a bad day at school, lose
an hour, have an attitude with mom, lose thirty minutes, lie,
lose the day, and we would keep a tally of
that and it would be seen and that would that
would be the way that we teach them responsibility and
consequences for their actions. But if they are paying for
their device, you don't get to take that from them.
(06:54):
It's theirs. If you buy it to them for them
for Christmas and you give it to them, it's theirs.
If your kid turns six and you buy them a
car and it's in your name, it's not their car.
I am buying a car for you to utilize. This
is not yours. You don't get to put stickers all
over it, you don't get to put a sound system
in it unless you okay all of it with us.
(07:15):
Because of the car is in our name, we are
paying the insurance. Blah blah blah blah blah. This is
for you to utilize to make your life easier, and
the event that you don't do X, Y and Z,
this is no longer an asset to you, and we
will put the car for sale. That's the conversation. The
issue that I had with all of that in that
TikTok that we were talking about is that people give
(07:35):
things to their kids and then dangle it over their
head like a carrot, and then want their kid to
be grateful that you're not taking their shit away when
you bought it for them and gave it to them
as a gift, which makes it theirs. You don't get
to take away somebody else's shit. I was one of
those kids who had things dangled and fucking always had
shit taken away once it was given to me as
a gift, and it was from a parent who had
(07:56):
bragged everyone about all the cool shit that they would do,
but they you know, it was more of about them
than about me, and the moment that they got drunk
or something happened, it was taken away from me. So
I'm very I think it's very important that there is
a distinction between this is not yours and this is
a gift, because if it is a gift, you don't
get to take it away. It's theirs. Now there's gonna
(08:18):
be people who are like, well, what if you buy
your kid a bike and you don't let him ride
their bike or whatever. There's ways that you explain it
when they get the gift, because now you're giving a
gift with stipulations, right, and I think that that's going
to vary from house to house and gift to gift.
You know, if you get grounded, like if they if
little man liked riding his bike and he got grounded,
I wouldn't ground him from his bike. I would ground
(08:38):
him from going outside because now I'm not taking his
bike away, I'm taking away his ability to go outside
and play. He's grounded, right, you just have to finangle that.
So I wanted to talk about that because of the
TikTok is getting a lot of those comments, and I
didn't want to make a TikTok about it because fuck TikTok, right,
that app has gone to shit. You know what they've
started doing. I know, we don't. I know you don't scroll.
(08:59):
You have gone like crazy off the rails with your
social media. Like I have to ask you to make content, yeah,
because you're you're anti all of it.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
And I'm doing other things with my time.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Right And I'm not hating on you for it. I
love that you are that disconnected. I wish you would
make content.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
When I remind you I do, I always text you afterwards.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
It's like two or three days later.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Now, not a fib. I will pull up my phone
right now.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
It took you three days when I asked you to
make a TikTok about your garden stuff. That's not a fib.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
That's what was I doing with that three days?
Speaker 2 (09:29):
All kinds of other shit. But it takes two minutes
or less to make a TikTok.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
That is one instance in like the last three months.
Where's the credit for all the time I texted you
back ten minutes later? It's done?
Speaker 2 (09:42):
There's credit there? Yeah, I appreciate you that you stay
on top of the TikTok thing. That is a minor
source of revenue, but it is a way to filter
people to YouTube. I hate TikTok and I'm on Instagram
way more than TikTok. Now, all right, guys, as you know,
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Speaker 2 (11:44):
Anyways, the reason why I brought that up is because
TikTok now when I scroll my feed will be like
video ad video store, ad ad video Store ad like right,
and in between those is promote your own video. Promote
your own video, promote your own video. They want us
to pay to make our our video go out to
our followers and our video our view count is less
than ten thousand a video with one point four million followers.
(12:06):
And every time somebody sees our video that hasn't seen
our video in the while, like oh my god, we
haven't seen you on our FIPN forever. They're just not
promoting our content like at all. And I know it's
because they're getting ready to sell TikTok. So the algorithm
has changed. They're swapping the algorithm so that when it
does sell, they don't get the Chinese algorithm that China has,
and they're trying to make it so that it looks
(12:28):
like it's making a whole lot more money between ads
and boosted posts and the TikTok shop to get a
bigger price point for it, and this whole thing is
going to I don't think TikTok is going to be
here in a year. I think that. I think it's
on a very big decline right now. And I see
it in the Discord community. Every time I log into
Discord and I complain about TikTok, people like, yeah, we
stop using the app. People. I sent Sean a TikTok
of our garden yesterday and he's like, bro, I haven't
(12:49):
logged into TikTok in like three months.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
He uses Instagram. He scrolls Instagram in his downtime. Now,
I think, and the Instagram algorithm is better.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
Oh, the TikTok era is dying.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
You believe it is dying. Yes, ma'am.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
You know what. I'm okay with that. I feel like
Instagram is of higher quality when it comes to everything.
Interactions talking with people in the comments, even disagreeing comments
on Instagram are conversation worthy. They're not nasty, and.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
It's because there's a I think there's a different mindset
to the user base. Yeah, and what if TikTok is
bought by Meta, because that's a huge assumption. Right now,
there's a whole lot of speculation that Mark Zuckerberg has
already bought TikTok and that they're making the changes necessary
so that they can acquisition the product, and all of
this right now is just filler until it's ready to
(13:39):
be released onto the meta platforms. At that point, I mean,
I don't know what TikTok would look like because Meta
owns Instagram, you know what I mean? So, like, I
don't know, do you have anything else that you want
to talk about about the video, because otherwise I'm going
to move on to the next topic the video, yeah,
or anything for that matter.
Speaker 3 (13:56):
No, not the video. There was something I wanted to
talk about and I can't remember what it was. I
did so much this morning. You can go on to
the next thing.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
I am this is not the next thing, Okay, since
you did a whole lot this morning. I saw you
go out there and water and do all of that.
How does that feel in the morning to have that
thirty minutes of just you time and solitude with the
spray in your hand.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
I like it. I'm getting a lot of audio books done,
a lot of thinking is happening.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
You know that you can find meditation in those moments too. Yeah,
I think that I'm gonna have Niki to build that platform.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
I love that. Uh.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
And then I obviously the garden's almost done, He's got
half the roof put on it. And then hopefully that
shade thing will get delivered, and then Trevor's coming out
on Wednesday. We're going to bury all these things and
get it going. I'm very surprised with my want to
do the garden.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
Me too, right, Yeah, I'm pretty I'm pretty sure. I mean,
I love it and I'm stoked by it. I'm enjoying
this quality time with you.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
It gives us something new to discuss and talk about.
And like, I don't know shit about gardening, so everything
is new to me. And I can spend all of
my boring downtime watching gardening shit on YouTube and gain
new knowledge. That is feeding mytism, my need to learn
and expand my brain. And there's so much that I
(15:17):
would have never even considered being a thing. Like there's
gardening zones all across the United States. I had no
idea that that was a thing. And like where we live,
if you go three miles over, it's a different zone
because we're technically still on the coast. So I'm learning
a bunch of cool new shit about all of that
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and really want to do the food for us thing
and get all of that growing. And when dude came
to do my car this morning, he asked how things
were going, because I haven't really talked to him in
the last three months. And I told him, since we
got back from Costa Rica, all I can taste in
our food while it's gone. Now I don't can't taste
it anymore. But for the first two to three weeks
that we were back, everything tasted like I was eating
(15:59):
like microplastics. No, it tasted like I was eating food
that had chemical cleaners port on it, Like you know,
if you were to spray something that's underneath of your
kitchen sink to clean something and take a breath and
get that in your mouth. Yeah, it tastes like that
with food on it. And I don't want to eat
like that anymore. And he asked me this morning if
(16:20):
I'm losing weight, and I was like a fucking hope.
Speaker 3 (16:21):
So man like I heard that that made me smile. No,
it made you feel good.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
It did make me feel good. But you know what's
making me feel good is I'm not eating shitty food anymore.
Like I've been really good about looking at labels and
making sure that I'm eating. We have become very crunchy
granola hippie fuckers.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
We really have. I ordered a protein pasta from Sprouts
that I'm gonna make for dinner tonight with chicken and broccoli. Yeah,
and it's like for ingredients.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
I love that.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Yeah I have. I still have a sweet tooth. But
I'm eating like grapes and dragon fruit and bananas.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
And we need to get starfruits for the property we do.
That's on my list because I saw how well that
tree was doing a dude's house yesterday, so.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
I'm so impatient. Yeah, oh, how would you feel about
having a fruit stand or like a food stand once
we're producing super.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
Well, I have a better idea. Oh tell me, how
about we deliver food to Sacred Vine for ceremonies. Instead
we get with Naomi and be like, this is what
we have because she cooks everything there. It's all organic,
no pesticides, like it's pure food, right, we'll bring it
up and drop it off the day of ceremony that
we're not coming. So you have food to cook and
(17:34):
we can do that with all the shit that's here,
the fucking sugar apples, the bananas, all of it, so
they have ingredients to cook. I don't want to do
a fruit stand because it's just more work.
Speaker 3 (17:44):
I want to do something to give away fruit for free.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Well we can. We can do that. We could actually
find communities on Facebook. That's like, you know, we can
just set up a box out front, take what you want.
That would be kind of cool.
Speaker 3 (17:57):
Yeah, that's what I meant.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Yeah, yeah, you know, we're actually our area is getting
a pretty big homeless population, and I see homeless people
at the wah Wah every time we go to wah Wah.
So in the event that we're harvesting pounds of food,
I would just go to Wawa to get my drink
and fucking bring bags of food to homeless people. Okay,
we can do that too.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
Yeah I love that. So out of my garden, I
have harvest like seven of my little tiny angel grape tomatoes.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
Those are everglay tomatoes, aren't they.
Speaker 3 (18:27):
No, Okay, they're a little tiny sweet tomato.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
Everglaye, tomatoes are tiny like that.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
Yeah, a bunch more getting ripe I have. They're ugly
looking tomatoes. They're very shapely.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
Yeah. Yeah, they're still forming. One of them is turned
red though.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
Yeah, it's almost ripe. I'm so excited. We have my
pepper senis are coming in. I pulled one yesterday. We
have the hollapeno peppers coming in. And then my onion's
doing well. I checked on that the other day.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
I want to get some corpium peppers. They're hot as fuck.
Speaker 3 (19:02):
But okay, my sweet peas. I got two odds of
sweet peas. That was it. The vine dyed.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
The two vines that were growing up the fence and
into the tree are dead.
Speaker 3 (19:14):
Yeah, those were the sweet peas.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Okay, I thought those were peppers.
Speaker 3 (19:18):
I thought they were too. I didn't label anything.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
We need to buy the labels and on the counter.
Everything we plant, they're on the counter.
Speaker 3 (19:25):
I also have I have like labels that we can
tie onto branches for the trees.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
Okay. I bought the mesh bags for the mangoes.
Speaker 3 (19:33):
Beautiful.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
Those should be here to stay tomorrow.
Speaker 3 (19:35):
Fuck the raccoons. Yeah, I feel like we're in a
little war with them there.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
We will be.
Speaker 3 (19:39):
I feel like we already are. We tied off the
trash can. They ate all of my avocados, every single one.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
They don't hit the trash can anymore.
Speaker 3 (19:45):
Right now, they're hitting where it hurts.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Well, there's got to be things that we can grow
on the base of the tree that will make them
not want to get in there. Put thorny things in
there or something. I don't know, but we'll figure that out.
That's the downside of living in the woods, yeah, is
that there's gonna be critters. They are going to try
to get to our foo. So we are definitely gonna
have to box off the garden with a trellis because
it'll make that chicken wire stronger and make it harder
for raccoons to get into. Okay, we'll figure that out too.
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I didn't look when I went to home depot the
other day to completely slip my mind, but I have
to go back anyways, because I think I need to
buy an new sauce.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
All Okay, so we need to get viney plants to
go up the trellis.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
We don't need to, we can we don't need to. Yeah,
the trellis is more to keep the raccoons out because
of everything that you're going to plant in there. Okay, okay,
so moving, Are you done now?
Speaker 3 (20:31):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (20:31):
Okay?
Speaker 3 (20:32):
Are we still in like just bullshitting? Yes, because I
want to talk about Mount Everest.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
Okay, go ahead, because I have to pull this back
up because it's the app updated.
Speaker 3 (20:40):
So I don't know about you guys, but the times
that I do scroll TikTok, I am getting a a
just influx of Mount Everest content and the things that
are going on in Mount Everest. And the video that
sent me down a deep dive was a video of
climbers and a woman just crying, sobbing and like storming
(21:02):
is happening, and one dead body just slides past them,
and I was like I could not, absolutely could not.
They're in a line. So there's like an amusement park
climbing this mountain and somebody, I don't know how high
up they were could have still been alive. There's no
stopping him. He was like four or five hundred feet away.
(21:24):
You can't just reach out and grab him. And there
was no ledge. He was getting to she was getting
to it was just pure slope, straight down.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
Down the mountain.
Speaker 3 (21:34):
It is, it is. I would be frozen, terrified in fear,
first because of the heights, but secondly, like I'm about
to be where that person just fucked up. Yeah, could not,
So I went down the rabbit hole and Mount Everest
may not be a thing for a bit, may not
(21:57):
be a thing after Yeah, Like they might be shutting
that down for good. The government's making it very hard
for people to come in, putting up a lot of
red tape for tourists, adventure tourist, extreme tourism to climb
the mountain. In nineteen ninety six, one hundred and something
people climbed, like summited Everest and that was like peak
(22:17):
season in ninety six. As of twenty twenty three, season
looks like six hundred to seven hundred people summitting Wow.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
Yeah, which is just I'm sure wrecking the environment.
Speaker 3 (22:28):
Oh, one hundred percent. Shurpas are the people who save.
They said that two thirds of the people who are
summoning Everest at this point have almost zero experience at
those altitudes, so they're needing to be saved. Every time
there's a summit that it's expected that they have to
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put their lives in dangers every time they go up
with a group because somebody doesn't know what they're doing.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
That's insane.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
It costs between five fifty thousand and one hundred thousand
dollars for someone to summit Everest and are making between
five and six thousand dollars per season.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
Yeah, that's their economy too. Yeah, so the them not
getting people climbing is going to wreck that. Those little villages,
well they live.
Speaker 3 (23:11):
On the mountain, right, Yeah, the mountains are like gods
and goddesses, like it's a really big spiritual thing. But
that money, the one hundred thousand dollars is going to
outside adventure companies who are booking the travel, and that
makes sense. So they're not seeing any of that money
as of twenty twenty three, I mean as of September
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of this year. They are implementing that, like a lot
more licenses are needed to actually summit and there is
going to be one sherpa per two people. I listened
to something this morning that there were sherpas who were
chastised because there were people They say sherpas say that
there's a different mindset between summiting Mount Everest and conquering
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Mount Everest, and the people who have that conquering mindset
are more likely to be putting themselves in danger because
they have to prove something. And this guy, it got
to a point where his shirpa was like, we need
to turn around. We're not gonna make this. This isn't
gonna be good. And the guy's like, no, I need
to do this. We're gonna keep going. And the sherpa
was at this point like, okay, so now what do
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I let this guy go and he's gonna die by
himself or do I go back and I save myself.
So they kept summitting because the sherpa had a conscience
and this guy was I would feel like I was
being put in a fucked up position knowing that somebody's
life is on my hands. Like that, they kept submitting,
they were getting luw on oxygen, and it finally got
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to a point where he ended up just dragging this
guy down the mountain.
Speaker 2 (24:42):
That's crazy.
Speaker 3 (24:43):
I don't recall what got them to the point, but
it got them to a point where this guy was
like in delusion. His mind was shutting down to lack
of oxygen, the harsh conditions frostbite, and he was fighting
the sherpa again about summiting down the mountain, and he
was like, no, I'm not I'm not moving anymore. I'm
just gonna stay here. I'm great, I'm fine. Hypothermia kicked
in so he felt warm, and the sharp was like,
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I am leaving, like I have a family. You're either
going to come with me or you're going to sit
here and die. And the guy was like, I'm just
gonna sit here.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
Got left him.
Speaker 3 (25:12):
Yeah, the sharpa left. He barely got down the mountain.
The only reason he got down was because of muscle memory.
He was also suffering from that lack of oxygen to
the brain, so he was getting delirious and there are
at points where he was like, why am I on
a mountain? What's going on? I should be getting ready
for dinner with my family, like those kinds of things. Yeah,
he made it down by muscle memory. And he got
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a lot of shit for that, for leaving the wealthy
adventure behind. Absolutely insane, the things that they have to
go through. And another thing that blew my mind. I
couldn't imagine trying to do something extremely dangerous waiting in
a line of six hundred people like you already know
you're risking your life doing.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
It's like a really really long roller coaster ride. So
just think about it like Disney or something.
Speaker 3 (25:57):
So I fell on the rabbit hole. I feel like
you're getting bored of this. You're checking your watching my phone, so.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
I was looking to see if that was a sale
of a couple's retreat or Okay, so you want to
talk about your women's retreat real quick?
Speaker 3 (26:09):
Yeah, when is it going to be released?
Speaker 2 (26:11):
September, the month that it's happening, So you should still
talk about it because this is the first time we're
doing it.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
Okay, so this is probably going to be released around
the time of or after my first women's retreat. I
don't know what I want to call it yet. I'm
still bouncing around name ideas. So far, it's it sounds
like it's over half sold out.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
It is more than half sold out.
Speaker 3 (26:34):
We are staying in a massive mansion. It's going to
be all women minus my husband for safety reasons, and
photos and photos if women consent to it.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
It sounded dirty. The photos not a consent consent thing.
It's to take pictures of like the meditation, right, you know,
as you guys are doing your group sessions, right, I'm
gonna be in the background taking pictures.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
Yeah, that's like, that's what I meant.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
Yeah, I just with the consent made it sound like
I was trying to take dirty pictures. I'm just that's
not what we're doing.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
No, Okay, the consent to be posted on the internet
for promotional reasons or whatever, and we're going to do
We're doing a plethora of things. We are doing cooking lessons,
we are doing group talks. I am bouncing around the
idea of doing one on one sessions at a separate pricing,
because that's going to take me away from the group.
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I don't know how I feel about that yet.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
Yeah, I think that we should just do this one
the way that it is and then figure that out
for the next one. I think that because there's so
many people going to this first one, that it would
be a disservice to the people who are going to
do that. Yeah, but if it was a smaller group,
you could charge more to do that and just do
like a ten person group instead of a twenty person group.
Speaker 3 (27:44):
That's a good idea. A bunch of group activities, cooking lessons,
we are going to be doing group meditations, sound baths,
Reichy time management, time management. We are going to be
talking about emotions, how to manage them. We're going to
talk about motherhood. There's going to be a whole itinerary
of things. We are still in the development phases because
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I want each group to kind of be hands on
with what we are doing. I don't want to just
present something and then it be useless to over half
the people. So I'm getting a lot of feedback. I'm
collecting data, i am structuring things, and I've actually had
a lot of women reach out and say, hey, I
would love to do this for the group while we're
there if we can fit it in, or do this
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for the group, because I specialize in that and it's
just something that they want to offer for being there.
So I think I'm going to pull some of the
women aside and like one woman offered to do a
cooking lesson because she has a culinary background and it's
something she enjoys doing. So I think I'm going to
offer the ladies, if you want to do a session
of something that I already have planned, but you're fluent
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in it. Yeah, I think that would be fantastic.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
Yeah, I think that would be cool.
Speaker 3 (28:55):
As involvement in it. There will be engagement. It's not
just going to be me lecturing. I think it's going
to be a good environment.
Speaker 2 (29:02):
This will go out to Patreon before it goes out
to everybody else. So if you're on the ten dollars
tier of Patreon and you see this video after we've recorded,
that is still very much available. Today is June thirtieth,
so there's still roughly half availability. So if you guys
are interested in doing that, I would not sleep on
it because she's going to make a TikTok today promoting it,
(29:24):
and that I think once that happens, it's going to
go pretty quick. So we sold out half of it
in less than twenty four hours.
Speaker 3 (29:30):
Yeah, and it's how many spots were available twenty.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
Four it was twenty four spots. Yeah, yeah, sold out
half of it already.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
Massive pool, big old windows. I think I want to
set up a sound bath under an awning somewhere. Very excited.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
Are we near a beach, No, we're in Kasimi. We're
closer to Orlando for that. Okay, all right, so let's
move on to the next thing. Next thing, damn it,
it did it again. I have some phrases that I
want to see if you agree with or disagree with,
and then we can talk about it.
Speaker 3 (29:57):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (29:59):
These are things that are very common in relationships and
very common in the toxic Facebook social media sphere. Okay,
if they wanted to, they would agree or disagree.
Speaker 3 (30:13):
It depends on the context that's being used.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
So what are some examples of wood and wouldn't.
Speaker 3 (30:18):
So if he wanted to write, is that would have
said if he wanted to, or if they wanted to.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
If they wanted to, they would.
Speaker 3 (30:24):
If they wanted to, they would. It's accurate. They have
to be fed into though. There has to be a
reason for them to want to do it. So for example,
if a woman says, if he wanted to, he would
over like a romantic TikTok of a man one hundred
roses flowers on the bed whatever, whatever. I bet he
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did that because his woman is a place for him
to come to after a really hard day, and she
cooks dinner for him, and she maybe cleans the house.
Maybe she also works and doesn't argue about finances, takes
care of the children, she's a teammate.
Speaker 2 (31:00):
Good point, that needs to be clipped. That's a really
good point. Yeah, so, oh man, I didn't even think
about that. I wasn't even ready to have that conversation.
But you're right because all of those tiktoks are bullshit
tiktoks with no context. A hundred roses is not cheap,
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like that's expensive. The time that would have to go
into that, and the planning and all of that. If
you were in a constant warfare with your partner, why
would you want to do something like that. So there
is no want in that aspect. So it's not a
matter of if they wanted to, they would. It's a
matter of if you were worth it to them, they would, right,
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because at that point, you are being a teammate. You
are acting as if you fucking love your person and
they want to reciprocate that love. You didn't even think
about that. There's another side of if they wanted to,
they would that I wanted to touch on, and that's
the fear of abandonment, fear of rejection. I want to
be able to one This will never happen because I
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have no interest in learning the guitar, but I have
the dream in my head of being able to play
guitar around a bonfire and sing a song in front
of a bunch of people. Yeah, just the thought of
that makes my fucking heart race. I don't know how
to play the guitar. My singing voice isn't that good.
I don't do well in front of like a stage
of people all eyes are on me unless I'm talking
about relationships, because all of that is foreign territory. So
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the idea of quickly learning how to strum three chords
so that I can sing a song to like serenade
you in front of a group of people, my heart
racing even faster now, because what if I stuttered the lyrics? Right?
So that's not a matter of if they want to,
they would. There's a whole lot of fear and trauma. Well,
I mean that's the goal, right. I love that dude.
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I haven't talked to him very much lately anyways, But
there's a whole lot of fear and trauma that goes
into those kind of things that you never know what's
holding somebody back from doing that. We had a weird
cut there because she flashed the ca Sorry, guys, and
I don't remember where I was at or.
Speaker 3 (33:04):
Talking about Derek talking about that soull.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
Well, that might have been a great place to just cut.
So maybe they won't even know that it happened. Okay,
But there is a whole lot of fear in things
that people It's the fear of the unknown, the fear
of rejection, the fear of looking foolish in front of
somebody they care about. There's a whole lot of things
that go into making people not take the steps to
do those kind of things. That's where I wanted to
go with a conversation, But with where you went with
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a conversation, that's a much better Yeah, yeah, thank you.
Well you have to think, like and I can't believe
I didn't go there because I am somebody that believes
in reciprocal love. Like if we're going to buy chocolates
and flowers and take you to dinner and do the
roses and all of those things, I want back rubs
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and like my head shaved, and I want to hear
that you're proud of me and that I'm a good man,
and like I want that that team dynamic to make
me feel like I'm working for something that act actually
fucking matters instead of just working because it's expected. It's
a really good.
Speaker 3 (34:05):
Point before we continue on. Does the house looking the
way the house looks now feed into that for you?
Speaker 2 (34:09):
It does. I am much happier with the way the
house is. It's reducing my chaos. Okay, we're for those
of you who don't know, we're in a massive purge.
It's been three months and we've been oh yeah, getting
rid of shit left and right where the goal is
to get rid of like half And you're getting your
shit way faster than I'm getting mine. Because I know
I own a lot of stuff, but like my stuff
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is mainly like work related stuff like or tools. I
don't have a whole lot of knickknacks laying around. So
but we're still doing it. I'm going to go through
all of my clothes and throw away a whole bunch
of clothes. Will donate, donate, guys. When I say throw away,
I donate.
Speaker 3 (34:44):
Yes, Yes. So I just went through everything in the kitchen.
I got what of I said with you gotta make
sure my band don't fall off. I have a nasty
if my third eye was depressed, this is it like
it's ter so I covered it with the bandit. I
want to make sure every them fallen off. I got
rid of maybe twenty pots yesterday, fifteen pots and pans
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that were just sitting in the cabinets that I don't use,
and shout out the phenom in the discord. She's in
my Sacred Sisterhood group chat. She said something in a
group hall and I was like, I didn't want to
hear that, but I clearly needed to hear it because
it hurt my feelings. And she was like, I kind
of live like a college student with nothing on my countertops,
and I try to keep everything.
Speaker 2 (35:28):
Minimal interest house.
Speaker 3 (35:30):
Yeah, And I made excuses and I was like, no,
you're right. I made excuses and I muted myself and
I was like, I muted, and I was like, no,
you're right. So I have a lot of things underneath cabinets. Now.
The next this little area is the next purge I
want to do. Then I want to do our bendroom,
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find a place for my sewing machine, clean out the
dog kennel and stuff next to the kitchen table.
Speaker 2 (35:55):
When you do the kitchen area, I would like to
be a part of that. And when we get to
the bedroom and you do that, like kitchen area is done,
I don't feel well the dining area, Oh, where the
table is. I don't know if there's a whole lot
in the room that I can get rid of, because
I have been getting rid of stuff in there, like
the T shirt cannon that's in there, Like that's a
metal T shirt cannon. I'm not getting rid of that
even if I never use it again. I spent like
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twelve hundred dollars on that thing.
Speaker 3 (36:17):
Yeah, I can go somewhere that's not your bedroom.
Speaker 2 (36:19):
Yeah, I can put in the garage, and there's things
that I can do with it, Like the massage table
that's in there needs to stay in there because with
my back flares up like whatever. But there's definitely stuff
that I can get rid of in there. I don't
want to rent another storage unit. The goal is to
get rid of stuff. And I'm like, if I haven't
used it in six months, do I really need it
until I get rid of it? And like, fuck, I
needed that, which I have been to do a lot,
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so I do that too. All right, let's get back
to this.
Speaker 3 (36:43):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (36:44):
The next one is you shouldn't have to ask for
what you need. This falls into they should know better.
They should just know you.
Speaker 3 (36:51):
Shouldn't have to ask for what you need. So I
eighty percent agree with that. Eighty eighty percent agree with that, okay,
because nobody's a mind reader. You need first you need
to know what you want, and then you need to
be able to say what you want. If you can
talk but don't know what you want, then doesn't matter,
right that. The twenty percent that I disagree with that
(37:15):
is after multiple conversations had been had, and say, somebody
has an emotional response to somebody, to something or a situation.
I kind of expect you, as my husband to know
how to to soothe me in that moment.
Speaker 2 (37:29):
Okay, So way a minute, you eighty percent disagree and
twenty percent agree.
Speaker 3 (37:33):
No, I eighty percent agree with the statement.
Speaker 2 (37:35):
That you shouldn't have to ask for what you need. Okay,
no flippant, Okay, I was very confused. I was like,
we're not onlining here at all, Like we're way the
fuck off here.
Speaker 3 (37:44):
Okay, poset flippit, reverse it. Yeah, So I eighty percent.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
Disagree, Okay, twenty percent agree.
Speaker 3 (37:51):
Because people aren't mind readers. You need to be able
to know what you want, and I twenty percent agree
because in like high stress high emotional situation. If I
know you're on edge in public, I'm not gonna what
do you need me to do in this moment. I'm
just gonna follow your lead and you're gonna tell me
what you need me to do.
Speaker 2 (38:09):
You're gonna need a hate for that. Why because you're
allowing me to tell you what to do.
Speaker 3 (38:14):
Oh no, there's an active shooter situation and I want
my husband to make sure I'm safe.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
Yeah, well, I mean even in that not even that's
that's too an extreme. But like in the event that
I am having a bad day or there's a lot
going on and I'm stressed out and I am in
you can say fight or flight, and I'm trying to
get us out of a situation. The last thing I
need is you fighting with me while I'm trying to
get us out of there. And it could just be
that there's too many fucking people here and I'm overwhelmed.
Autism is a thing. Oh yeah, you know, we both
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go through it. There's been times where you're like, I
can't just get me out of here, grab the belt,
let's go. I'll fucking push people out the way and
give a fuck. Really, don't do that. Yeah, that already happen.
Fuck you, we're going right, so like it. We'll get
out of there right, and if somebody's got a problem,
they can correct it outside where you're safe in the vehicle,
and then I can argue and just leave right. I
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don't care.
Speaker 3 (39:03):
Well if it were that situation where you're overwhelmed and overstimulated, whatever, whatever. Yeah,
the last thing I'm doing is asking you a multitude
of questions. What's the matter, what's going on with you?
Why are you talking me that way? Why are you
hurrying making my way downtown? Just walking a little bit
faster behind my husband?
Speaker 2 (39:20):
Yeah, so that comes to okay, So I can agree
with that twenty percent assessment, but I think that's more
along the lines of being in tune emotionally and spiritually
with your person. I agree that speaks to empathy and
understanding the nuances of the person that you're in love with.
Their body language. There, the shift in the tone of
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their voice or the language that they're using. Right, because
there are indicators of stress that you see in everybody.
And the more you know somebody, you can tell by
the way somebody sighs if it's a or a you know,
so you can tell you shouldn't have to ask for
what you need in a relationships to me, says I
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lack communication and you should just know better.
Speaker 3 (40:04):
Because I am not I'm the center of the universe.
Speaker 2 (40:07):
Articulately, I am not able to articulate my needs in
a way that expresses what I want or conveys what
I want. Therefore, you need to just know. And before
anyone gets in the commet and goes well, if they
see the dishes are dirty, they should just wash the dishes.
If you have designated roles in your home of whose
job is what, That's not a thing. It's just not
(40:29):
I don't do dishes. I haven't washed dishes since we've
been together, not once. It's not one fucking time have
I washed it. That's a lie. I did dishes when
you had your surgery. Yes, that's true, but that doesn't count.
Speaker 3 (40:39):
That was years ago, though I know.
Speaker 2 (40:41):
What doesn't count anyways, because I knew going into that
that you were going to be down for the count
for a week or however long it was. But when
you got back on your feet and rolls went back
to normal, like there was a transitionary period where life
got back to normal. I haven't done dishes since then.
But if the laundry is getting piled up and I
realize that you're cleaning the kitchen or you're doing other things,
and I have the extra five seconds, it's not a
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big deal to do that, even though laundry is technically
your job. If you're driving around and your gas tank
gets below an eighth of a tank, which fucking drives
me nuts that you let your carget under a quarter
of a tank, you're just gonna get gas. You're not
gonna call me and make me stop what I'm doing
to drive to the gas station to pump your gas.
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But if you come home and you're like, hey, I'm
at a quarter tank, I can just take the truck
and go. But that comes down to how am I
supposed to know these things if we don't talk about them.
So I think that you shouldn't have to ask for
what you need. Statement or they should just know means
that you are a shitty communicator. And if you say that,
and you use that phrase in your marriage or online
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and other things, you are admitting that you're a shitty
communicator and reach. And now that I've said that, people
are gonna read this shit and be like, oh girl,
you need to learn to communicate.
Speaker 3 (41:55):
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the next one is if it's hard, it's not right.
Speaker 3 (42:19):
If it's hard, it's not right. If it's hard the relationship.
Speaker 2 (42:25):
Yeah, yeah, the relationship. If you have to struggle in
your relationship, it's not the right one. If it's hard,
not struggle hard. This is the term that they've used.
Speaker 3 (42:35):
I feel like that sentence is not clear enough, so
I'm going to disagree with it. I disagree with it too,
because there's going to be hard times. There's going to
be stressful situations that are out of your control that's
going to impact your relationship. There's going to be new
obstacles that you have to learn to overcome together and compromise. Now,
if your person is addicted to pornography and that's the
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hill they want to die on, that this is not
cheating and I'm going to do this whether you like
it or not. That's a different conversation from what I
just said. I was gonna make up a SNAr, BUTO,
I don't.
Speaker 2 (43:09):
Want it's good, you're good. I think that this comes
down to not being realistic. If you've ever disappointed your
person and you know you've disappointed them, they don't have
to tell you. They don't have to look at you
in the face and be like that, you know you're
really disappointing me today. You can tell by the again,
the body language. If you know your person that you
(43:31):
let them down or that something's not right, that sucks
ass and it's hard and you feel like shit over it.
And even if you're anxious about the argument that's coming
or you're afraid of the fallout that's coming, that in
itself is hard. Communication takes time, and it takes work, effort,
a lot of it because there's a whole lot of
(43:53):
this is what I'm trying to convey, and you're not
understanding it. Well, that's not what you're saying Okay, well,
let me just say it a different way. Communication is
ebb and flow. If you are really good at talking
and your person doesn't understand, you're not communicating. You're talking
to a wall. At that point, I could communicate to
a fucking the best of my ability using all of
the correct terms. But if you don't understand English and
(44:14):
you only speak Italian, we're not communicating. Right, I'm talking
at you and you're like.
Speaker 3 (44:20):
My mind went to rocket ships. If someone enters in
the code perfectly but there's not a connection there to
receive it, the rocket's not gonna take off right.
Speaker 2 (44:29):
Right, It is an ebb and flowid it takes two
so to think that if it's not hard, it's not
If it's hard, it's not right. That is basically saying
that if you want you only want a relationship where
you get your way all the time and everything is flawless,
that doesn't exist.
Speaker 3 (44:47):
It also sounds like light narcissism.
Speaker 2 (44:51):
Could be could be. I think that that that comes
down to the people who want the princess treatment or
they just yeah, they just want everything to be perfect
and the moment that things get hard, well, I saw
on the internet that it shouldn't be hard relationships if
they're the right person should just be perfect and they
leave instead of working through things. And if you always
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run from your problems and you don't learn how to
problem solve, you will have nothing but problems in your life.
If your needs aren't being met, just leave.
Speaker 3 (45:23):
That's a real thing that someone said.
Speaker 2 (45:25):
It's been said.
Speaker 3 (45:27):
Read it one more time.
Speaker 2 (45:28):
If your needs aren't being met, just leave.
Speaker 3 (45:31):
I hate that. I hate everything about that sentence. That
sentence can be moved to the recycling then and turned
into something new, like, if my needs aren't being met,
I need to learn how to communicate to my partner
about it. And if you don't feel safe communicating to
your partner about it, I would find the fastest and
(45:52):
safest way to get out of that relationship.
Speaker 2 (45:54):
With that case, I think that there's a whole lot
of things that need to get to the point before leaving.
Yes and a great again. There's definitely levels or scales
of fucked upness. There is though of where that lands.
But like, if your needs aren't being met because you
need quality time and your husband's working eighty hours a
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week to provide to make sure that you guys have
everything that you need and pay for college and do
all of that shit, Like there needs to be an
understanding there, and then you need to have conversations about
missing your person and having date nights and trying to
facilitate time, like maybe on Wednesdays you don't work over time,
and like those kind of things need to be had.
But if those conversations have been, hadn't, hadn't, hadn't, hadn't
had and then we'll use the same one. Right, Let's
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say that a woman says that to her husband and
he is working eighty hours a week every week to
make sure that maybe there's not a savings account, maybe
there's been a delinquent mortgage payment that he's trying to
catch up, right, and there's a whole lot of stress there,
and he's wrong for not saying anything. But maybe he's
kept that to himself to not worry the woman and kids, right, right,
(47:03):
it is because it is his burden. But that same
argument he's wrong for not saying something, I agree because
it is absolutely his job to make sure that everybody
is aware of what's going on. As a leader, you
lead downstream and up. So he's got a whole lot
of things that he needs to work on there. But
that burden and that stress is a problem for a
lot of people, and that falls back onto the other
one with the fears of not being able to articulate things,
(47:28):
or what was the first one. It was the fear
of if they wanted to, they would like he could
want to talk to you and tell you what's going on,
but maybe he's afraid of how you're going to react, right,
So that that falls into that. But there's a lot
that goes into that whole that whole thing. I think
that at some point there has to be an understanding
(47:48):
that both people need to have needs that need to
be met, and a man working eighty hours and putting
everything above himself is no different than a woman missing
her husband because he works eighty hours a week. Like
we both need self care, we both need time to
do the things that we enjoy on top of having
time with each other, because you still need that, Like
(48:11):
you got your thirty minutes of gardening time every day now, right,
Like I have my morning time when I wake up
before everybody gets up in the house most of the time,
So like we have our alone time where we do
what we do to fill our cup into to meditate
or whatever like. There still needs to be that on
top of the time with each other, but those conversations
take a whole lot of back and forth and a
(48:32):
whole lot of figuring out. It's not an easy thing. Yeah,
so you disagree with that one, then I do. Okay.
The next one is, it's not your job to teach
someone how to love you.
Speaker 3 (48:41):
It's not my job to teach somebody how to love me.
What do you come with, like an instruction manual.
Speaker 2 (48:48):
Just a phrase? It's not your job to teach someone
how to love you.
Speaker 3 (48:50):
You come with like a QR code where they can
download an ebook. That's the stupidest sentence I've ever heard.
One of the stupidest sentences I've ever heard. I'm not
going to say the stupidest. I'm sure they're contenders out there.
Speaker 2 (49:06):
Yeah, I mean some of them are are probably gonna
be on this list.
Speaker 3 (49:08):
But that is rubbish.
Speaker 2 (49:13):
That is exactly what you're doing in your relationship, because
the whole point of the relationship, the courting phase, the
dating phase, it's let me go in. Go ahead.
Speaker 3 (49:23):
I don't want to lose my thought. That sentence gives me.
I grew up throwing temper tantrums until my parents offered
me something that made me feel good. I'm not going
to tell you what I want to need, but you're
going to present me options until I tell you what
makes me feel better.
Speaker 2 (49:36):
Right. Well, you're still at that point, still telling them, right,
which further makes that statement stupid. If I loved you
the way that, or if I tried to treat you
the way that I tried to treat every relationship that
I've ever had which failed, there will be no success
in future relationships going forward. Right. So, the idea of
(49:58):
you know, you don't have to teach someone how to
love you is asinine. You have to teach people how
to love you because love languages are Even though it's
pop psychology, it is a thing. And you have to
understand what fills people's cups and what they need to
fill to feel full.
Speaker 3 (50:13):
Bro, do you even know what fills your own cup?
Speaker 2 (50:15):
Most people don't.
Speaker 3 (50:17):
Yep. So there is what is it like to love you?
Speaker 2 (50:22):
It is? It is actually your job and it's their
job to listen. And you guys have to figure out
what it is that you both need in order to
feel fulfilled. And if you can't figure that out. Your
relationship is going to fail. Yes, that was it. That
was the last one. I'm gonna look at a text
message that just came through while you're doing what you're doing.
It's a whole hour of bullshit and it will be
(50:44):
a two hour episode unless you want to wrap up
and just do emails, because that was an hour. We
can wrap up content. It is Friday content, So I lied,
we're not doing an email. I'll just cut that out
if if I can, I'll probably just cut that out.
We were going to do an email today, guys, but
(51:05):
we realize that we're at an hour of content right
now before cuts, and I don't want to get into
that and then spend two hours on an episode. I
know that some of you like the two hour three
hour episodes, but we have shit to do, so we do.
We're going to wrap up this episode, do another episode,
and then go go, go, go buy plants.
Speaker 3 (51:26):
I'm so excited. I want that cocow plants.
Speaker 2 (51:31):
Yes, hopefully they got it.
Speaker 3 (51:32):
So make our own dirt chocolate. Yeah yeah, part healthy.
Speaker 2 (51:37):
All right With that being said, guys, remember you were
the author of your own life and we will see
you on the next one.
Speaker 3 (51:42):
Toodles,
Look up with cound all the things on the bottom.
Ah A wold is you.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
You're my favorite view. But that's not the Grand Rising family.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
Welcome back, beautiful bitches.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
I am so much louder on my microphone than you are.
I don't know if it's because I talk louder, but
you see how I'm in the red.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
I do see that.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
When you talk, unless it's the first word, you're not
really in the red. But I totally clipped out there.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
I wonder what that is.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
No idea anyways, Maybe my MIC's too close. Maybe I'm
just too fucking loud, man. It could be a bit
of both. I am. I am a pretty loud person. Yeah,
all right, So I have a couple of things. Today's
Today's I think we're gonna we're gonna do emails, so
either way, this is gonna be an email episode. But
I have things that I want to talk to you
about before we get into the email things. Do you
(00:59):
remember the episode we did where we talked about taking
Little Man's straws and clothes hangers the toy thing.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
One of the deepest wounds surrounding self sabotaging behavior is
a toxic misbelief that anything good that you have rightfully
achieved or received will be taken away from you.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
It comes from abuse too.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Yeah, for me, I think that started with love.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Well, I mean it makes sense because your love was
withheld as a punishment, you know, but that's exactly what
it is. You get any type of manipulator, any type
of parent that will dangle something over your head like
a carrot gets you to perform, or the moment that
you do something disappoints them, they can just strip everything
away from you. Like, there are certain aspects of grounding
(01:41):
that I think makes sense, right, like taking a TV
out of the room, Like that's totally fair. It's not
your TV, it's mine. But Christmas gifts and Birthday gifts
and all of those things, like I don't know, I
have a hard time with that because it's theirs, Like
that was a gift that was bought for them. It's
not a high end item. You know. Little Man plays
with straws and hangers. Yeah, so like I could take
(02:03):
a straw or a coade hanger straw and they're my
coat hangers, right, Like that's how I view that. But
like his big dinosaurs and shit, we don't ever take
any of the stuff fromhim, because it was always big
gifts like those are his. And I think that we
learn that our house is our home, and the things
that we own our ours until somebody takes it. And
when you're a little in powerless and can't stop them
from taking it. Now you have that fear of somebody's
(02:27):
to take this from.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
Me, right, somebody bigger than me, somebody with more authority.
Speaker 2 (02:30):
So in the comment section of that TikTok, there was
a whole lot of people who were saying things like, well,
what about their cell phones and their tablets for teenagers
or their computers? And I got it on TikTok and Instagram,
same comments from different people asking about cell phones and technology.
So I want to talk about that.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Okay, let's go.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Our kids are six and seven, and the imagination has
not been shit on like we cultivate that imagination. We
want the kids to thrive in their creative mindset. We
want them to be free thinking individual as they grew up.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
I'm gonna pause you. Will you remember this, Yes, if
there are children in the room, parents listening to this,
we are about to discuss Santa Claus.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
Good call this.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
This is your warning to pause, turn the volume down,
kick them out of the room. Our children. We've recently
told our children that Santa Easter, Bunny tooth Fairy doesn't exist,
and they handled it fairly well. There is a lot
of you lied to us. There is creativity and imagination
to an extent, because it did feel like lying on
(03:32):
our part, especially with how intelligent they are and they've
been asking questions already. I just wanted to add that
on to the free thinking, cultivating imagination, that it does
end at a certain extent because we don't want to
feel a certain way about what's going on.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
It just dawned on me that the next time they
bring up the whole Santa and you lied thing, or
the next time they lie to us, we can bring
that up and be like, do you remember how you
felt when we told you there was no such thing
as Santa and how you felt betrayed and lied to?
That's how you make us feel when you lie to us.
Didn't think about that until just now. That's a good
call anyways, so we've not stifled that creativity. We want
to make sure that they are free thinking adults and
(04:08):
not just drones. I want our children to be able
to creatively. Think now, with that TikTok and with the
conversation that was being had, I don't think that you
should be buying big ticket items for holidays, birthdays, Christmas,
because that is a gift to the child. It is theirs.
When it comes to cell phones, laptops, tablets, any of
those high ticket items, even gaming consoles, they should be
(04:31):
communal property until they're able to afford their own. Like,
I don't think the kids should have smartphones. I think
if we bought the bought the kids cell phones, it
should be like a flip phone, like a dumb ass
flip phone that they can't use Facebook or TikTok or Instagram.
I don't want them to have access to the Internet
at all until they are old enough to figure out
(04:51):
how to make enough money to purchase the device and
pay for the plan every month.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
Yeah. I also want to have really big conversations about
Internet safety. You know, by the time I was I
was twelve year yars old of sending inappropriate photos two
older men on the Internet.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
And that was before it was illegal for people to
post you onto inappropriate websites. Yeah, you know, you look
at things like roadblocks in Fortnite and all of those
games that have communities built around them, there are a
whole lot of predators that are on those games. Roadblocks
is huge for that, like that is and that's a
game that is promoted to little kids. So I don't
want them to have access to that kind of shit.
(05:29):
And like communal property for computers, Little man is in
the Minecraft now, and we're going to set up a
computer somewhere in the house that is in a communal
area that they get timed things. And I don't care
if that looks strict or like fucked up or let
the kid have a computer, fuck you right. I want
the kids to be in a room where we can
hear what's going on, and we can know who they're
talking to, and we can hear their side of the conversation,
(05:50):
and we can monitor their children still now when they're fifteen, sixteen, seventeen,
eighteen years old, we'll have different conversations of what that
looks like. But they have to earn the right to
use those tablets or computers. And if they ever got
to the point where they got a computer or a
laptop in their room, it would be password protected and
I would be the one that had the password, or
you would be the one who had the password, and
it would be used for schoolwork, and in the event
(06:13):
they wanted to game or do something else, it would
have to be done through chores. You would have an
allotted time that starts at the beginning of the week,
like say you get four hours of computer time a week,
or two hours a day, or however you wanted to
work that, and we would have a list of everything
that has to get done during the daytime, and then
there would be infractions of negative timeframes of what that
would look like. In the event that they didn't do X,
(06:34):
Y and Z, had a bad day at school, lose
an hour, have an attitude with mom, lose thirty minutes, lie,
lose the day, and we would keep a tally of
that and it would be seen and that would that
would be the way that we teach them responsibility and
consequences for their actions. But if they are paying for
their device, you don't get to take that from them.
(06:54):
It's theirs. If you buy it to them for them
for Christmas and you give it to them, it's theirs.
If your kid turns six and you buy them a
car and it's in your name, it's not their car.
I am buying a car for you to utilize. This
is not yours. You don't get to put stickers all
over it, you don't get to put a sound system
in it unless you okay all of it with us.
(07:15):
Because of the car is in our name, we are
paying the insurance. Blah blah blah blah blah. This is
for you to utilize to make your life easier, and
the event that you don't do X, Y and Z,
this is no longer an asset to you, and we
will put the car for sale. That's the conversation. The
issue that I had with all of that in that
TikTok that we were talking about is that people give
(07:35):
things to their kids and then dangle it over their
head like a carrot, and then want their kid to
be grateful that you're not taking their shit away when
you bought it for them and gave it to them
as a gift, which makes it theirs. You don't get
to take away somebody else's shit. I was one of
those kids who had things dangled and fucking always had
shit taken away once it was given to me as
a gift, and it was from a parent who had
(07:56):
bragged everyone about all the cool shit that they would do,
but they you know, it was more of about them
than about me, and the moment that they got drunk
or something happened, it was taken away from me. So
I'm very I think it's very important that there is
a distinction between this is not yours and this is
a gift, because if it is a gift, you don't
get to take it away. It's theirs. Now there's gonna
(08:18):
be people who are like, well, what if you buy
your kid a bike and you don't let him ride
their bike or whatever. There's ways that you explain it
when they get the gift, because now you're giving a
gift with stipulations, right, and I think that that's going
to vary from house to house and gift to gift.
You know, if you get grounded, like if they if
little man liked riding his bike and he got grounded,
I wouldn't ground him from his bike. I would ground
(08:38):
him from going outside because now I'm not taking his
bike away, I'm taking away his ability to go outside
and play. He's grounded, right, you just have to finangle that.
So I wanted to talk about that because of the
TikTok is getting a lot of those comments, and I
didn't want to make a TikTok about it because fuck TikTok, right,
that app has gone to shit. You know what they've
started doing. I know, we don't. I know you don't scroll.
(08:59):
You have gone like crazy off the rails with your
social media. Like I have to ask you to make content, yeah,
because you're you're anti all of it.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
And I'm doing other things with my time.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Right And I'm not hating on you for it. I
love that you are that disconnected. I wish you would
make content.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
When I remind you I do, I always text you afterwards.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
It's like two or three days later.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Now, not a fib. I will pull up my phone
right now.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
It took you three days when I asked you to
make a TikTok about your garden stuff. That's not a fib.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
That's what was I doing with that three days?
Speaker 2 (09:29):
All kinds of other shit. But it takes two minutes
or less to make a TikTok.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
That is one instance in like the last three months.
Where's the credit for all the time I texted you
back ten minutes later? It's done?
Speaker 2 (09:42):
There's credit there? Yeah, I appreciate you that you stay
on top of the TikTok thing. That is a minor
source of revenue, but it is a way to filter
people to YouTube. I hate TikTok and I'm on Instagram
way more than TikTok. Now, all right, guys, as you know,
there was a TikTok scare. We lost the app for
a whole twelve hours and we have no idea what
the future of the app looks like. And with that,
(10:04):
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We have a massed almost three million followers across that
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Speaker 2 (11:44):
Anyways, the reason why I brought that up is because
TikTok now when I scroll my feed will be like
video ad video store, ad ad video Store ad like right,
and in between those is promote your own video. Promote
your own video, promote your own video. They want us
to pay to make our our video go out to
our followers and our video our view count is less
than ten thousand a video with one point four million followers.
(12:06):
And every time somebody sees our video that hasn't seen
our video in the while, like oh my god, we
haven't seen you on our FIPN forever. They're just not
promoting our content like at all. And I know it's
because they're getting ready to sell TikTok. So the algorithm
has changed. They're swapping the algorithm so that when it
does sell, they don't get the Chinese algorithm that China has,
and they're trying to make it so that it looks
(12:28):
like it's making a whole lot more money between ads
and boosted posts and the TikTok shop to get a
bigger price point for it, and this whole thing is
going to I don't think TikTok is going to be
here in a year. I think that. I think it's
on a very big decline right now. And I see
it in the Discord community. Every time I log into
Discord and I complain about TikTok, people like, yeah, we
stop using the app. People. I sent Sean a TikTok
of our garden yesterday and he's like, bro, I haven't
(12:49):
logged into TikTok in like three months.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (12:52):
He uses Instagram. He scrolls Instagram in his downtime. Now,
I think, and the Instagram algorithm is better.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
Oh, the TikTok era is dying.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
You believe it is dying. Yes, ma'am.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
You know what. I'm okay with that. I feel like
Instagram is of higher quality when it comes to everything.
Interactions talking with people in the comments, even disagreeing comments
on Instagram are conversation worthy. They're not nasty, and.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
It's because there's a I think there's a different mindset
to the user base. Yeah, and what if TikTok is
bought by Meta, because that's a huge assumption. Right now,
there's a whole lot of speculation that Mark Zuckerberg has
already bought TikTok and that they're making the changes necessary
so that they can acquisition the product, and all of
this right now is just filler until it's ready to
(13:39):
be released onto the meta platforms. At that point, I mean,
I don't know what TikTok would look like because Meta
owns Instagram, you know what I mean? So, like, I
don't know, do you have anything else that you want
to talk about about the video, because otherwise I'm going
to move on to the next topic the video, yeah,
or anything for that matter.
Speaker 3 (13:56):
No, not the video. There was something I wanted to
talk about and I can't remember what it was. I
did so much this morning. You can go on to
the next thing.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
I am this is not the next thing, Okay, since
you did a whole lot this morning. I saw you
go out there and water and do all of that.
How does that feel in the morning to have that
thirty minutes of just you time and solitude with the
spray in your hand.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
I like it. I'm getting a lot of audio books done,
a lot of thinking is happening.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
You know that you can find meditation in those moments too. Yeah,
I think that I'm gonna have Niki to build that platform.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
I love that. Uh.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
And then I obviously the garden's almost done, He's got
half the roof put on it. And then hopefully that
shade thing will get delivered, and then Trevor's coming out
on Wednesday. We're going to bury all these things and
get it going. I'm very surprised with my want to
do the garden.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
Me too, right, Yeah, I'm pretty I'm pretty sure. I mean,
I love it and I'm stoked by it. I'm enjoying
this quality time with you.
Speaker 2 (14:55):
It gives us something new to discuss and talk about.
And like, I don't know shit about gardening, so everything
is new to me. And I can spend all of
my boring downtime watching gardening shit on YouTube and gain
new knowledge. That is feeding mytism, my need to learn
and expand my brain. And there's so much that I
(15:17):
would have never even considered being a thing. Like there's
gardening zones all across the United States. I had no
idea that that was a thing. And like where we live,
if you go three miles over, it's a different zone
because we're technically still on the coast. So I'm learning
a bunch of cool new shit about all of that
(15:38):
and really want to do the food for us thing
and get all of that growing. And when dude came
to do my car this morning, he asked how things
were going, because I haven't really talked to him in
the last three months. And I told him, since we
got back from Costa Rica, all I can taste in
our food while it's gone. Now I don't can't taste
it anymore. But for the first two to three weeks
that we were back, everything tasted like I was eating
(15:59):
like microplastics. No, it tasted like I was eating food
that had chemical cleaners port on it, Like you know,
if you were to spray something that's underneath of your
kitchen sink to clean something and take a breath and
get that in your mouth. Yeah, it tastes like that
with food on it. And I don't want to eat
like that anymore. And he asked me this morning if
(16:20):
I'm losing weight, and I was like a fucking hope.
Speaker 3 (16:21):
So man like I heard that that made me smile. No,
it made you feel good.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
It did make me feel good. But you know what's
making me feel good is I'm not eating shitty food anymore.
Like I've been really good about looking at labels and
making sure that I'm eating. We have become very crunchy
granola hippie fuckers.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
We really have. I ordered a protein pasta from Sprouts
that I'm gonna make for dinner tonight with chicken and broccoli. Yeah,
and it's like for ingredients.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
I love that.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Yeah I have. I still have a sweet tooth. But
I'm eating like grapes and dragon fruit and bananas.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
And we need to get starfruits for the property we do.
That's on my list because I saw how well that
tree was doing a dude's house yesterday, so.
Speaker 3 (17:04):
I'm so impatient. Yeah, oh, how would you feel about
having a fruit stand or like a food stand once
we're producing super.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
Well, I have a better idea. Oh tell me, how
about we deliver food to Sacred Vine for ceremonies. Instead
we get with Naomi and be like, this is what
we have because she cooks everything there. It's all organic,
no pesticides, like it's pure food, right, we'll bring it
up and drop it off the day of ceremony that
we're not coming. So you have food to cook and
(17:34):
we can do that with all the shit that's here,
the fucking sugar apples, the bananas, all of it, so
they have ingredients to cook. I don't want to do
a fruit stand because it's just more work.
Speaker 3 (17:44):
I want to do something to give away fruit for free.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Well we can. We can do that. We could actually
find communities on Facebook. That's like, you know, we can
just set up a box out front, take what you want.
That would be kind of cool.
Speaker 3 (17:57):
Yeah, that's what I meant.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
Yeah, yeah, you know, we're actually our area is getting
a pretty big homeless population, and I see homeless people
at the wah Wah every time we go to wah Wah.
So in the event that we're harvesting pounds of food,
I would just go to Wawa to get my drink
and fucking bring bags of food to homeless people. Okay,
we can do that too.
Speaker 3 (18:15):
Yeah I love that. So out of my garden, I
have harvest like seven of my little tiny angel grape tomatoes.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
Those are everglay tomatoes, aren't they.
Speaker 3 (18:27):
No, Okay, they're a little tiny sweet tomato.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
Everglaye, tomatoes are tiny like that.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
Yeah, a bunch more getting ripe I have. They're ugly
looking tomatoes. They're very shapely.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
Yeah. Yeah, they're still forming. One of them is turned
red though.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
Yeah, it's almost ripe. I'm so excited. We have my
pepper senis are coming in. I pulled one yesterday. We
have the hollapeno peppers coming in. And then my onion's
doing well. I checked on that the other day.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
I want to get some corpium peppers. They're hot as fuck.
Speaker 3 (19:02):
But okay, my sweet peas. I got two odds of
sweet peas. That was it. The vine dyed.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
The two vines that were growing up the fence and
into the tree are dead.
Speaker 3 (19:14):
Yeah, those were the sweet peas.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Okay, I thought those were peppers.
Speaker 3 (19:18):
I thought they were too. I didn't label anything.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
We need to buy the labels and on the counter.
Everything we plant, they're on the counter.
Speaker 3 (19:25):
I also have I have like labels that we can
tie onto branches for the trees.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
Okay. I bought the mesh bags for the mangoes.
Speaker 3 (19:33):
Beautiful.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
Those should be here to stay tomorrow.
Speaker 3 (19:35):
Fuck the raccoons. Yeah, I feel like we're in a
little war with them there.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
We will be.
Speaker 3 (19:39):
I feel like we already are. We tied off the
trash can. They ate all of my avocados, every single one.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
They don't hit the trash can anymore.
Speaker 3 (19:45):
Right now, they're hitting where it hurts.
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Well, there's got to be things that we can grow
on the base of the tree that will make them
not want to get in there. Put thorny things in
there or something. I don't know, but we'll figure that out.
That's the downside of living in the woods, yeah, is
that there's gonna be critters. They are going to try
to get to our foo. So we are definitely gonna
have to box off the garden with a trellis because
it'll make that chicken wire stronger and make it harder
for raccoons to get into. Okay, we'll figure that out too.
(20:09):
I didn't look when I went to home depot the
other day to completely slip my mind, but I have
to go back anyways, because I think I need to
buy an new sauce.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
All Okay, so we need to get viney plants to
go up the trellis.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
We don't need to, we can we don't need to. Yeah,
the trellis is more to keep the raccoons out because
of everything that you're going to plant in there. Okay, okay,
so moving, Are you done now?
Speaker 3 (20:31):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (20:31):
Okay?
Speaker 3 (20:32):
Are we still in like just bullshitting? Yes, because I
want to talk about Mount Everest.
Speaker 2 (20:36):
Okay, go ahead, because I have to pull this back
up because it's the app updated.
Speaker 3 (20:40):
So I don't know about you guys, but the times
that I do scroll TikTok, I am getting a a
just influx of Mount Everest content and the things that
are going on in Mount Everest. And the video that
sent me down a deep dive was a video of
climbers and a woman just crying, sobbing and like storming
(21:02):
is happening, and one dead body just slides past them,
and I was like I could not, absolutely could not.
They're in a line. So there's like an amusement park
climbing this mountain and somebody, I don't know how high
up they were could have still been alive. There's no
stopping him. He was like four or five hundred feet away.
(21:24):
You can't just reach out and grab him. And there
was no ledge. He was getting to she was getting
to it was just pure slope, straight down.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
Down the mountain.
Speaker 3 (21:34):
It is, it is. I would be frozen, terrified in fear,
first because of the heights, but secondly, like I'm about
to be where that person just fucked up. Yeah, could not,
So I went down the rabbit hole and Mount Everest
may not be a thing for a bit, may not
(21:57):
be a thing after Yeah, Like they might be shutting
that down for good. The government's making it very hard
for people to come in, putting up a lot of
red tape for tourists, adventure tourist, extreme tourism to climb
the mountain. In nineteen ninety six, one hundred and something
people climbed, like summited Everest and that was like peak
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season in ninety six. As of twenty twenty three, season
looks like six hundred to seven hundred people summitting Wow.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
Yeah, which is just I'm sure wrecking the environment.
Speaker 3 (22:28):
Oh, one hundred percent. Shurpas are the people who save.
They said that two thirds of the people who are
summoning Everest at this point have almost zero experience at
those altitudes, so they're needing to be saved. Every time
there's a summit that it's expected that they have to
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put their lives in dangers every time they go up
with a group because somebody doesn't know what they're doing.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
That's insane.
Speaker 3 (22:53):
It costs between five fifty thousand and one hundred thousand
dollars for someone to summit Everest and are making between
five and six thousand dollars per season.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
Yeah, that's their economy too. Yeah, so the them not
getting people climbing is going to wreck that. Those little villages,
well they live.
Speaker 3 (23:11):
On the mountain, right, Yeah, the mountains are like gods
and goddesses, like it's a really big spiritual thing. But
that money, the one hundred thousand dollars is going to
outside adventure companies who are booking the travel, and that
makes sense. So they're not seeing any of that money
as of twenty twenty three, I mean as of September
(23:31):
of this year. They are implementing that, like a lot
more licenses are needed to actually summit and there is
going to be one sherpa per two people. I listened
to something this morning that there were sherpas who were
chastised because there were people They say sherpas say that
there's a different mindset between summiting Mount Everest and conquering
(23:55):
Mount Everest, and the people who have that conquering mindset
are more likely to be putting themselves in danger because
they have to prove something. And this guy, it got
to a point where his shirpa was like, we need
to turn around. We're not gonna make this. This isn't
gonna be good. And the guy's like, no, I need
to do this. We're gonna keep going. And the sherpa
was at this point like, okay, so now what do
(24:16):
I let this guy go and he's gonna die by
himself or do I go back and I save myself.
So they kept summitting because the sherpa had a conscience
and this guy was I would feel like I was
being put in a fucked up position knowing that somebody's
life is on my hands. Like that, they kept submitting,
they were getting luw on oxygen, and it finally got
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to a point where he ended up just dragging this
guy down the mountain.
Speaker 2 (24:42):
That's crazy.
Speaker 3 (24:43):
I don't recall what got them to the point, but
it got them to a point where this guy was
like in delusion. His mind was shutting down to lack
of oxygen, the harsh conditions frostbite, and he was fighting
the sherpa again about summiting down the mountain, and he
was like, no, I'm not I'm not moving anymore. I'm
just gonna stay here. I'm great, I'm fine. Hypothermia kicked
in so he felt warm, and the sharp was like,
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I am leaving, like I have a family. You're either
going to come with me or you're going to sit
here and die. And the guy was like, I'm just
gonna sit here.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
Got left him.
Speaker 3 (25:12):
Yeah, the sharpa left. He barely got down the mountain.
The only reason he got down was because of muscle memory.
He was also suffering from that lack of oxygen to
the brain, so he was getting delirious and there are
at points where he was like, why am I on
a mountain? What's going on? I should be getting ready
for dinner with my family, like those kinds of things. Yeah,
he made it down by muscle memory. And he got
(25:34):
a lot of shit for that, for leaving the wealthy
adventure behind. Absolutely insane, the things that they have to
go through. And another thing that blew my mind. I
couldn't imagine trying to do something extremely dangerous waiting in
a line of six hundred people like you already know
you're risking your life doing.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
It's like a really really long roller coaster ride. So
just think about it like Disney or something.
Speaker 3 (25:57):
So I fell on the rabbit hole. I feel like
you're getting bored of this. You're checking your watching my phone, so.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
I was looking to see if that was a sale
of a couple's retreat or Okay, so you want to
talk about your women's retreat real quick?
Speaker 3 (26:09):
Yeah, when is it going to be released?
Speaker 2 (26:11):
September, the month that it's happening, So you should still
talk about it because this is the first time we're
doing it.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
Okay, so this is probably going to be released around
the time of or after my first women's retreat. I
don't know what I want to call it yet. I'm
still bouncing around name ideas. So far, it's it sounds
like it's over half sold out.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
It is more than half sold out.
Speaker 3 (26:34):
We are staying in a massive mansion. It's going to
be all women minus my husband for safety reasons, and
photos and photos if women consent to it.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
It sounded dirty. The photos not a consent consent thing.
It's to take pictures of like the meditation, right, you know,
as you guys are doing your group sessions, right, I'm
gonna be in the background taking pictures.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
Yeah, that's like, that's what I meant.
Speaker 2 (26:59):
Yeah, I just with the consent made it sound like
I was trying to take dirty pictures. I'm just that's
not what we're doing.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
No, Okay, the consent to be posted on the internet
for promotional reasons or whatever, and we're going to do
We're doing a plethora of things. We are doing cooking lessons,
we are doing group talks. I am bouncing around the
idea of doing one on one sessions at a separate pricing,
because that's going to take me away from the group.
(27:25):
I don't know how I feel about that yet.
Speaker 2 (27:26):
Yeah, I think that we should just do this one
the way that it is and then figure that out
for the next one. I think that because there's so
many people going to this first one, that it would
be a disservice to the people who are going to
do that. Yeah, but if it was a smaller group,
you could charge more to do that and just do
like a ten person group instead of a twenty person group.
Speaker 3 (27:44):
That's a good idea. A bunch of group activities, cooking lessons,
we are going to be doing group meditations, sound baths,
Reichy time management, time management. We are going to be
talking about emotions, how to manage them. We're going to
talk about motherhood. There's going to be a whole itinerary
of things. We are still in the development phases because
(28:08):
I want each group to kind of be hands on
with what we are doing. I don't want to just
present something and then it be useless to over half
the people. So I'm getting a lot of feedback. I'm
collecting data, i am structuring things, and I've actually had
a lot of women reach out and say, hey, I
would love to do this for the group while we're
there if we can fit it in, or do this
(28:29):
for the group, because I specialize in that and it's
just something that they want to offer for being there.
So I think I'm going to pull some of the
women aside and like one woman offered to do a
cooking lesson because she has a culinary background and it's
something she enjoys doing. So I think I'm going to
offer the ladies, if you want to do a session
of something that I already have planned, but you're fluent
(28:49):
in it. Yeah, I think that would be fantastic.
Speaker 2 (28:52):
Yeah, I think that would be cool.
Speaker 3 (28:55):
As involvement in it. There will be engagement. It's not
just going to be me lecturing. I think it's going
to be a good environment.
Speaker 2 (29:02):
This will go out to Patreon before it goes out
to everybody else. So if you're on the ten dollars
tier of Patreon and you see this video after we've recorded,
that is still very much available. Today is June thirtieth,
so there's still roughly half availability. So if you guys
are interested in doing that, I would not sleep on
it because she's going to make a TikTok today promoting it,
(29:24):
and that I think once that happens, it's going to
go pretty quick. So we sold out half of it
in less than twenty four hours.
Speaker 3 (29:30):
Yeah, and it's how many spots were available twenty.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
Four it was twenty four spots. Yeah, yeah, sold out
half of it already.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
Massive pool, big old windows. I think I want to
set up a sound bath under an awning somewhere. Very excited.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
Are we near a beach, No, we're in Kasimi. We're
closer to Orlando for that. Okay, all right, so let's
move on to the next thing. Next thing, damn it,
it did it again. I have some phrases that I
want to see if you agree with or disagree with,
and then we can talk about it.
Speaker 3 (29:57):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (29:59):
These are things that are very common in relationships and
very common in the toxic Facebook social media sphere. Okay,
if they wanted to, they would agree or disagree.
Speaker 3 (30:13):
It depends on the context that's being used.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
So what are some examples of wood and wouldn't.
Speaker 3 (30:18):
So if he wanted to write, is that would have
said if he wanted to, or if they wanted to.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
If they wanted to, they would.
Speaker 3 (30:24):
If they wanted to, they would. It's accurate. They have
to be fed into though. There has to be a
reason for them to want to do it. So for example,
if a woman says, if he wanted to, he would
over like a romantic TikTok of a man one hundred
roses flowers on the bed whatever, whatever. I bet he
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did that because his woman is a place for him
to come to after a really hard day, and she
cooks dinner for him, and she maybe cleans the house.
Maybe she also works and doesn't argue about finances, takes
care of the children, she's a teammate.
Speaker 2 (31:00):
Good point, that needs to be clipped. That's a really
good point. Yeah, so, oh man, I didn't even think
about that. I wasn't even ready to have that conversation.
But you're right because all of those tiktoks are bullshit
tiktoks with no context. A hundred roses is not cheap,
(31:20):
like that's expensive. The time that would have to go
into that, and the planning and all of that. If
you were in a constant warfare with your partner, why
would you want to do something like that. So there
is no want in that aspect. So it's not a
matter of if they wanted to, they would. It's a
matter of if you were worth it to them, they would, right,
(31:40):
because at that point, you are being a teammate. You
are acting as if you fucking love your person and
they want to reciprocate that love. You didn't even think
about that. There's another side of if they wanted to,
they would that I wanted to touch on, and that's
the fear of abandonment, fear of rejection. I want to
be able to one This will never happen because I
(32:01):
have no interest in learning the guitar, but I have
the dream in my head of being able to play
guitar around a bonfire and sing a song in front
of a bunch of people. Yeah, just the thought of
that makes my fucking heart race. I don't know how
to play the guitar. My singing voice isn't that good.
I don't do well in front of like a stage
of people all eyes are on me unless I'm talking
about relationships, because all of that is foreign territory. So
(32:25):
the idea of quickly learning how to strum three chords
so that I can sing a song to like serenade
you in front of a group of people, my heart
racing even faster now, because what if I stuttered the lyrics? Right?
So that's not a matter of if they want to,
they would. There's a whole lot of fear and trauma. Well,
I mean that's the goal, right. I love that dude.
(32:48):
I haven't talked to him very much lately anyways, But
there's a whole lot of fear and trauma that goes
into those kind of things that you never know what's
holding somebody back from doing that. We had a weird
cut there because she flashed the ca Sorry, guys, and
I don't remember where I was at or.
Speaker 3 (33:04):
Talking about Derek talking about that soull.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
Well, that might have been a great place to just cut.
So maybe they won't even know that it happened. Okay,
But there is a whole lot of fear in things
that people It's the fear of the unknown, the fear
of rejection, the fear of looking foolish in front of
somebody they care about. There's a whole lot of things
that go into making people not take the steps to
do those kind of things. That's where I wanted to
go with a conversation, But with where you went with
(33:28):
a conversation, that's a much better Yeah, yeah, thank you.
Well you have to think, like and I can't believe
I didn't go there because I am somebody that believes
in reciprocal love. Like if we're going to buy chocolates
and flowers and take you to dinner and do the
roses and all of those things, I want back rubs
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and like my head shaved, and I want to hear
that you're proud of me and that I'm a good man,
and like I want that that team dynamic to make
me feel like I'm working for something that act actually
fucking matters instead of just working because it's expected. It's
a really good.
Speaker 3 (34:05):
Point before we continue on. Does the house looking the
way the house looks now feed into that for you?
Speaker 2 (34:09):
It does. I am much happier with the way the
house is. It's reducing my chaos. Okay, we're for those
of you who don't know, we're in a massive purge.
It's been three months and we've been oh yeah, getting
rid of shit left and right where the goal is
to get rid of like half And you're getting your
shit way faster than I'm getting mine. Because I know
I own a lot of stuff, but like my stuff
(34:30):
is mainly like work related stuff like or tools. I
don't have a whole lot of knickknacks laying around. So
but we're still doing it. I'm going to go through
all of my clothes and throw away a whole bunch
of clothes. Will donate, donate, guys. When I say throw away,
I donate.
Speaker 3 (34:44):
Yes, Yes. So I just went through everything in the kitchen.
I got what of I said with you gotta make
sure my band don't fall off. I have a nasty
if my third eye was depressed, this is it like
it's ter so I covered it with the bandit. I
want to make sure every them fallen off. I got
rid of maybe twenty pots yesterday, fifteen pots and pans
(35:06):
that were just sitting in the cabinets that I don't use,
and shout out the phenom in the discord. She's in
my Sacred Sisterhood group chat. She said something in a
group hall and I was like, I didn't want to
hear that, but I clearly needed to hear it because
it hurt my feelings. And she was like, I kind
of live like a college student with nothing on my countertops,
and I try to keep everything.
Speaker 2 (35:28):
Minimal interest house.
Speaker 3 (35:30):
Yeah, And I made excuses and I was like, no,
you're right. I made excuses and I muted myself and
I was like, I muted, and I was like, no,
you're right. So I have a lot of things underneath cabinets. Now.
The next this little area is the next purge I
want to do. Then I want to do our bendroom,
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find a place for my sewing machine, clean out the
dog kennel and stuff next to the kitchen table.
Speaker 2 (35:55):
When you do the kitchen area, I would like to
be a part of that. And when we get to
the bedroom and you do that, like kitchen area is done,
I don't feel well the dining area, Oh, where the
table is. I don't know if there's a whole lot
in the room that I can get rid of, because
I have been getting rid of stuff in there, like
the T shirt cannon that's in there, Like that's a
metal T shirt cannon. I'm not getting rid of that
even if I never use it again. I spent like
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twelve hundred dollars on that thing.
Speaker 3 (36:17):
Yeah, I can go somewhere that's not your bedroom.
Speaker 2 (36:19):
Yeah, I can put in the garage, and there's things
that I can do with it, Like the massage table
that's in there needs to stay in there because with
my back flares up like whatever. But there's definitely stuff
that I can get rid of in there. I don't
want to rent another storage unit. The goal is to
get rid of stuff. And I'm like, if I haven't
used it in six months, do I really need it
until I get rid of it? And like, fuck, I
needed that, which I have been to do a lot,
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so I do that too. All right, let's get back
to this.
Speaker 3 (36:43):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (36:44):
The next one is you shouldn't have to ask for
what you need. This falls into they should know better.
They should just know you.
Speaker 3 (36:51):
Shouldn't have to ask for what you need. So I
eighty percent agree with that. Eighty eighty percent agree with that, okay,
because nobody's a mind reader. You need first you need
to know what you want, and then you need to
be able to say what you want. If you can
talk but don't know what you want, then doesn't matter,
right that. The twenty percent that I disagree with that
(37:15):
is after multiple conversations had been had, and say, somebody
has an emotional response to somebody, to something or a situation.
I kind of expect you, as my husband to know
how to to soothe me in that moment.
Speaker 2 (37:29):
Okay, So way a minute, you eighty percent disagree and
twenty percent agree.
Speaker 3 (37:33):
No, I eighty percent agree with the statement.
Speaker 2 (37:35):
That you shouldn't have to ask for what you need. Okay,
no flippant, Okay, I was very confused. I was like,
we're not onlining here at all, Like we're way the
fuck off here.
Speaker 3 (37:44):
Okay, poset flippit, reverse it. Yeah, So I eighty percent.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
Disagree, Okay, twenty percent agree.
Speaker 3 (37:51):
Because people aren't mind readers. You need to be able
to know what you want, and I twenty percent agree
because in like high stress high emotional situation. If I
know you're on edge in public, I'm not gonna what
do you need me to do in this moment. I'm
just gonna follow your lead and you're gonna tell me
what you need me to do.
Speaker 2 (38:09):
You're gonna need a hate for that. Why because you're
allowing me to tell you what to do.
Speaker 3 (38:14):
Oh no, there's an active shooter situation and I want
my husband to make sure I'm safe.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
Yeah, well, I mean even in that not even that's
that's too an extreme. But like in the event that
I am having a bad day or there's a lot
going on and I'm stressed out and I am in
you can say fight or flight, and I'm trying to
get us out of a situation. The last thing I
need is you fighting with me while I'm trying to
get us out of there. And it could just be
that there's too many fucking people here and I'm overwhelmed.
Autism is a thing. Oh yeah, you know, we both
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go through it. There's been times where you're like, I
can't just get me out of here, grab the belt,
let's go. I'll fucking push people out the way and
give a fuck. Really, don't do that. Yeah, that already happen.
Fuck you, we're going right, so like it. We'll get
out of there right, and if somebody's got a problem,
they can correct it outside where you're safe in the vehicle,
and then I can argue and just leave right. I
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don't care.
Speaker 3 (39:03):
Well if it were that situation where you're overwhelmed and overstimulated, whatever, whatever. Yeah,
the last thing I'm doing is asking you a multitude
of questions. What's the matter, what's going on with you?
Why are you talking me that way? Why are you
hurrying making my way downtown? Just walking a little bit
faster behind my husband?
Speaker 2 (39:20):
Yeah, so that comes to okay, So I can agree
with that twenty percent assessment, but I think that's more
along the lines of being in tune emotionally and spiritually
with your person. I agree that speaks to empathy and
understanding the nuances of the person that you're in love with.
Their body language. There, the shift in the tone of
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their voice or the language that they're using. Right, because
there are indicators of stress that you see in everybody.
And the more you know somebody, you can tell by
the way somebody sighs if it's a or a you know,
so you can tell you shouldn't have to ask for
what you need in a relationships to me, says I
(40:02):
lack communication and you should just know better.
Speaker 3 (40:04):
Because I am not I'm the center of the universe.
Speaker 2 (40:07):
Articulately, I am not able to articulate my needs in
a way that expresses what I want or conveys what
I want. Therefore, you need to just know. And before
anyone gets in the commet and goes well, if they
see the dishes are dirty, they should just wash the dishes.
If you have designated roles in your home of whose
job is what, That's not a thing. It's just not
(40:29):
I don't do dishes. I haven't washed dishes since we've
been together, not once. It's not one fucking time have
I washed it. That's a lie. I did dishes when
you had your surgery. Yes, that's true, but that doesn't count.
Speaker 3 (40:39):
That was years ago, though I know.
Speaker 2 (40:41):
What doesn't count anyways, because I knew going into that
that you were going to be down for the count
for a week or however long it was. But when
you got back on your feet and rolls went back
to normal, like there was a transitionary period where life
got back to normal. I haven't done dishes since then.
But if the laundry is getting piled up and I
realize that you're cleaning the kitchen or you're doing other things,
and I have the extra five seconds, it's not a
(41:02):
big deal to do that, even though laundry is technically
your job. If you're driving around and your gas tank
gets below an eighth of a tank, which fucking drives
me nuts that you let your carget under a quarter
of a tank, you're just gonna get gas. You're not
gonna call me and make me stop what I'm doing
to drive to the gas station to pump your gas.
(41:23):
But if you come home and you're like, hey, I'm
at a quarter tank, I can just take the truck
and go. But that comes down to how am I
supposed to know these things if we don't talk about them.
So I think that you shouldn't have to ask for
what you need. Statement or they should just know means
that you are a shitty communicator. And if you say that,
and you use that phrase in your marriage or online
(41:43):
and other things, you are admitting that you're a shitty
communicator and reach. And now that I've said that, people
are gonna read this shit and be like, oh girl,
you need to learn to communicate.
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the next one is if it's hard, it's not right.
Speaker 3 (42:19):
If it's hard, it's not right. If it's hard the relationship.
Speaker 2 (42:25):
Yeah, yeah, the relationship. If you have to struggle in
your relationship, it's not the right one. If it's hard,
not struggle hard. This is the term that they've used.
Speaker 3 (42:35):
I feel like that sentence is not clear enough, so
I'm going to disagree with it. I disagree with it too,
because there's going to be hard times. There's going to
be stressful situations that are out of your control that's
going to impact your relationship. There's going to be new
obstacles that you have to learn to overcome together and compromise. Now,
if your person is addicted to pornography and that's the
(42:59):
hill they want to die on, that this is not
cheating and I'm going to do this whether you like
it or not. That's a different conversation from what I
just said. I was gonna make up a SNAr, BUTO,
I don't.
Speaker 2 (43:09):
Want it's good, you're good. I think that this comes
down to not being realistic. If you've ever disappointed your
person and you know you've disappointed them, they don't have
to tell you. They don't have to look at you
in the face and be like that, you know you're
really disappointing me today. You can tell by the again,
the body language. If you know your person that you
(43:31):
let them down or that something's not right, that sucks
ass and it's hard and you feel like shit over it.
And even if you're anxious about the argument that's coming
or you're afraid of the fallout that's coming, that in
itself is hard. Communication takes time, and it takes work, effort,
a lot of it because there's a whole lot of
(43:53):
this is what I'm trying to convey, and you're not
understanding it. Well, that's not what you're saying Okay, well,
let me just say it a different way. Communication is
ebb and flow. If you are really good at talking
and your person doesn't understand, you're not communicating. You're talking
to a wall. At that point, I could communicate to
a fucking the best of my ability using all of
the correct terms. But if you don't understand English and
(44:14):
you only speak Italian, we're not communicating. Right, I'm talking
at you and you're like.
Speaker 3 (44:20):
My mind went to rocket ships. If someone enters in
the code perfectly but there's not a connection there to
receive it, the rocket's not gonna take off right.
Speaker 2 (44:29):
Right, It is an ebb and flowid it takes two
so to think that if it's not hard, it's not
If it's hard, it's not right. That is basically saying
that if you want you only want a relationship where
you get your way all the time and everything is flawless,
that doesn't exist.
Speaker 3 (44:47):
It also sounds like light narcissism.
Speaker 2 (44:51):
Could be could be. I think that that that comes
down to the people who want the princess treatment or
they just yeah, they just want everything to be perfect
and the moment that things get hard, well, I saw
on the internet that it shouldn't be hard relationships if
they're the right person should just be perfect and they
leave instead of working through things. And if you always
(45:12):
run from your problems and you don't learn how to
problem solve, you will have nothing but problems in your life.
If your needs aren't being met, just leave.
Speaker 3 (45:23):
That's a real thing that someone said.
Speaker 2 (45:25):
It's been said.
Speaker 3 (45:27):
Read it one more time.
Speaker 2 (45:28):
If your needs aren't being met, just leave.
Speaker 3 (45:31):
I hate that. I hate everything about that sentence. That
sentence can be moved to the recycling then and turned
into something new, like, if my needs aren't being met,
I need to learn how to communicate to my partner
about it. And if you don't feel safe communicating to
your partner about it, I would find the fastest and
(45:52):
safest way to get out of that relationship.
Speaker 2 (45:54):
With that case, I think that there's a whole lot
of things that need to get to the point before leaving.
Yes and a great again. There's definitely levels or scales
of fucked upness. There is though of where that lands.
But like, if your needs aren't being met because you
need quality time and your husband's working eighty hours a
(46:17):
week to provide to make sure that you guys have
everything that you need and pay for college and do
all of that shit, Like there needs to be an
understanding there, and then you need to have conversations about
missing your person and having date nights and trying to
facilitate time, like maybe on Wednesdays you don't work over time,
and like those kind of things need to be had.
But if those conversations have been, hadn't, hadn't, hadn't, hadn't
had and then we'll use the same one. Right, Let's
(46:40):
say that a woman says that to her husband and
he is working eighty hours a week every week to
make sure that maybe there's not a savings account, maybe
there's been a delinquent mortgage payment that he's trying to
catch up, right, and there's a whole lot of stress there,
and he's wrong for not saying anything. But maybe he's
kept that to himself to not worry the woman and kids, right, right,
(47:03):
it is because it is his burden. But that same
argument he's wrong for not saying something, I agree because
it is absolutely his job to make sure that everybody
is aware of what's going on. As a leader, you
lead downstream and up. So he's got a whole lot
of things that he needs to work on there. But
that burden and that stress is a problem for a
lot of people, and that falls back onto the other
one with the fears of not being able to articulate things,
(47:28):
or what was the first one. It was the fear
of if they wanted to, they would like he could
want to talk to you and tell you what's going on,
but maybe he's afraid of how you're going to react, right,
So that that falls into that. But there's a lot
that goes into that whole that whole thing. I think
that at some point there has to be an understanding
(47:48):
that both people need to have needs that need to
be met, and a man working eighty hours and putting
everything above himself is no different than a woman missing
her husband because he works eighty hours a week. Like
we both need self care, we both need time to
do the things that we enjoy on top of having
time with each other, because you still need that, Like
(48:11):
you got your thirty minutes of gardening time every day now, right,
Like I have my morning time when I wake up
before everybody gets up in the house most of the time,
So like we have our alone time where we do
what we do to fill our cup into to meditate
or whatever like. There still needs to be that on
top of the time with each other, but those conversations
take a whole lot of back and forth and a
(48:32):
whole lot of figuring out. It's not an easy thing. Yeah,
so you disagree with that one, then I do. Okay.
The next one is, it's not your job to teach
someone how to love you.
Speaker 3 (48:41):
It's not my job to teach somebody how to love me.
What do you come with, like an instruction manual.
Speaker 2 (48:48):
Just a phrase? It's not your job to teach someone
how to love you.
Speaker 3 (48:50):
You come with like a QR code where they can
download an ebook. That's the stupidest sentence I've ever heard.
One of the stupidest sentences I've ever heard. I'm not
going to say the stupidest. I'm sure they're contenders out there.
Speaker 2 (49:06):
Yeah, I mean some of them are are probably gonna
be on this list.
Speaker 3 (49:08):
But that is rubbish.
Speaker 2 (49:13):
That is exactly what you're doing in your relationship, because
the whole point of the relationship, the courting phase, the
dating phase, it's let me go in. Go ahead.
Speaker 3 (49:23):
I don't want to lose my thought. That sentence gives me.
I grew up throwing temper tantrums until my parents offered
me something that made me feel good. I'm not going
to tell you what I want to need, but you're
going to present me options until I tell you what
makes me feel better.
Speaker 2 (49:36):
Right. Well, you're still at that point, still telling them, right,
which further makes that statement stupid. If I loved you
the way that, or if I tried to treat you
the way that I tried to treat every relationship that
I've ever had which failed, there will be no success
in future relationships going forward. Right. So, the idea of
(49:58):
you know, you don't have to teach someone how to
love you is asinine. You have to teach people how
to love you because love languages are Even though it's
pop psychology, it is a thing. And you have to
understand what fills people's cups and what they need to
fill to feel full.
Speaker 3 (50:13):
Bro, do you even know what fills your own cup?
Speaker 2 (50:15):
Most people don't.
Speaker 3 (50:17):
Yep. So there is what is it like to love you?
Speaker 2 (50:22):
It is? It is actually your job and it's their
job to listen. And you guys have to figure out
what it is that you both need in order to
feel fulfilled. And if you can't figure that out. Your
relationship is going to fail. Yes, that was it. That
was the last one. I'm gonna look at a text
message that just came through while you're doing what you're doing.
It's a whole hour of bullshit and it will be
(50:44):
a two hour episode unless you want to wrap up
and just do emails, because that was an hour. We
can wrap up content. It is Friday content, So I lied,
we're not doing an email. I'll just cut that out
if if I can, I'll probably just cut that out.
We were going to do an email today, guys, but
(51:05):
we realize that we're at an hour of content right
now before cuts, and I don't want to get into
that and then spend two hours on an episode. I
know that some of you like the two hour three
hour episodes, but we have shit to do, so we do.
We're going to wrap up this episode, do another episode,
and then go go, go, go buy plants.
Speaker 3 (51:26):
I'm so excited. I want that cocow plants.
Speaker 2 (51:31):
Yes, hopefully they got it.
Speaker 3 (51:32):
So make our own dirt chocolate. Yeah yeah, part healthy.
Speaker 2 (51:37):
All right With that being said, guys, remember you were
the author of your own life and we will see
you on the next one.
Speaker 3 (51:42):
Toodles,
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