The Mystery Bride (Guest: Laterras R. Whitfield)

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
A lot of people keep asking, what's gonna happen to
the Differutuwivy podcast when you get married. Well, I know
some of y'all have seen on social media my big announcement.
I am engaged. I try not to address the negativity
because I love to celebrate all the love that has
been surrounding me. Now, this is some stupid comments up.
He's making this all about him. I've seen somebody say

(00:20):
it's the next thing to do to help save my podcast.
I'm not going to say I do when I know
deep down inside I don't. I saw a video one
day that said I had to fail engagement. I've never
been engaged. The reason why he's keeping her private is
because he don't want people in the past to come
up and mess up his situation. I said, I don't
have no situation. People are so used to toxicity that they'll

(00:41):
take something that's healthy, that's beautiful, that's God center, and
then project their insecurities. Let me get back on my
future wife. I know that my purpose is attached to
my future wife, and that's the reason why I had
to take my time and choose carefully, choose wisely. This
woman who I will be exchanging vows with I felt
like that from the moment I met her. The reason

(01:02):
why I am doing what I am doing is because
I want her to have the wedding of her dreams.
Back in twenty twenty, we sponsored three couples getting married,
and God told me, if you think that I'm not
going to take care of you because you blessing other folks,
he said, watch what happens when it's your time. This
platform was my personal journey to discover, uncovered, recover love,
and she is the love that was recovered. But greater

(01:24):
gift to have her look absolutely beautiful, to know that
I did everything in my power to use the platform
that God has curated for her a gift to her.
I love the fact that you are being encouraged by
the fact that I proposed to the love of my life.
I've seen a comment that said this is for us.
The only person that could ever say something like that

(01:44):
is a person that understands the heart posture of God
that you got to celebrate other people's wins and to
know that if he did it before, he can do
it again. The hardest thing for me not to do
is reveal my future wife. She and I had a
conversation and I said, would you like to say something
to a dear future WIFEI audience, and she said I

(02:05):
would love to. She said, dear future WIFEI family. The
Dear Future Wifie podcast has global impact. From Texas, I
have been on this journey of healing and self discovery,
and this podcast has been a vital part of my process.
God's establishing through you a legacy, a display of freedom,

(02:25):
founding authentic spirituality. California. I learned so much as a
single man through your podcast and continue to learn so
much as now a married man Nigeria. This is just
therapy for me. You know, I've been healed. I've been
strengthening in my convictions on the sto to do single
Hoop Better Amsterdam way that you've shown us how it

(02:48):
is possible for a man to be as intentional as
you are. New Jersey. I appreciate your vulnerability. I appreciate
just being able to see that there is life after divorce.
To New York. I am a single woman, so these
episodes really give me hope, encourage that God does have
a husband for me, discover, uncover and recover love. I'm

(03:11):
laterra Saar Whitfield and this is season ten of the
Dear Future Wifie Podcast. Welcome to a Dear Future Wifie Podcast.
I'm your host, Laterra Sar Whitfield. Listen, are you still
shacking up with us? If you're still shacking up with us,
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Make sure you turn on your notification bell so you'll
be notified about upcoming episodes. You know what. I know

(03:34):
y'all not used to seeing me on this side of
the studio. Well, occasionally I decide to do episodes where
I just take a moment to chop it up with
the lit vam. Those that are new to the podcast.
That's what I refer to you guys, those supporters who
are living intentionally and transparently. When I launched a Dear
Future Wifie podcast in twenty twenty, I said I wanted

(03:56):
to accumulate a group of people we'll believe and keeping
it lit it living intentionally and transparently. So I know
some of y'all have seen on social media my big announcement.
I am engaged. Yes, I am engaged, and I am
so excited about it. To catch y'all up, I propose

(04:20):
to my woman July to thirteenth Sunday at Cali Worship.
It was where I did the Dear Future Wife he
podcasts in November of twenty twenty three, and it was
there that I met her in the audience. Yeah, I
can't wait to have on a podcast so she could
tell us howe the story. So if y'all saw the

(04:42):
Essence magazine matter of fact, I'm gonna put the Essence
Magazine article a link to that in the description so
you can check that out. Y'all been on this journey
with me for five years. For five years, and there's
been an interesting journey. I cannot say that I've kept

(05:05):
the faith every step of the way. Sometimes I've gotten
weary in my well doing. I questioned God, I questioned moments.
I questioned how long am I going to stay single?
Contrary to popular belief who people believe or some people believe.
I see a lot of videos about it that teras
don't want to get married. It has to be the
biggest lie because at the end of the day, I

(05:27):
know that my purpose is attached to my future wife,
and that's the reason why I had to take my
time and choose carefully, choose wisely. This woman who I
will be exchanging vows with, this woman is uniquely different
from every woman I've ever encountered. I feel like she

(05:49):
has been taken from me in the engagement. I said
to her, I feel like my body is calling itself
to itself. And that's what I felt like. I felt
like that from the moment I met her. I felt
that there was a drawing towards her. And even though

(06:10):
we remained platonic friends for about a year and four months,
let's see a year and yeah, a year and four
months back in March. So about March the eighteenth is
when we went on our first date. And so, yeah,
we went on our first date. Then we were always
just platonic friends talking on the phone. I talked to

(06:31):
her about women I'm dating. She'll talk to me about
guys she dated. Just built the strong platonic friendship. And
then I had this dream that I couldn't shape. So
I called her to get some understanding and clarity about it.
And then the conversation, I said, you know what, let's
try to see if this could be more. When are

(06:53):
you available in March? I want to take you out
on a date and we've been out to eat, like
I said in the past, just sitting down breaking bread
when I travel to LA But I said this I
want to be more intentional about. She was open to it,
and that day I was like, Yeah, I want this

(07:13):
to be forever. This is what I want to spend
forever with. And I actually it started before then, but
I had to manage my expectations and say, you know what,
let me let me see what God is saying, let
me see what God is doing, and had to submit
to her being open to it as well. And so,
like I said, we'll get deeper into the weeds as

(07:35):
the time comes. As a time comes November twenty second,
when we get married. Yes, a lot of people keep asking,
what's gonna happen to the Different WYV podcast when you
get married, Well, it's going to still exist. She would
just join me on the podcast. I'll be redesigning my
set where I'll have two couches where she and I
can see on the couch as we interview other couples

(07:57):
and singles. And yeah, we're just gonna keep it moving.
That idea came because I was talking to a major
network and they were wanting to license the Dear Future
wifey podcasts, and they said, what happens when you get married?
I said, oh, well, my wife and I will start
a new podcast and I will knight another bachelor to

(08:18):
take over Dear Future Wife. And they were like, oh,
that doesn't even make sense. Why would you have built
all of this and then put somebody else as the
host of the podcast? What if people don't want to
see them? I said, well, I mean my journey be over.
They said, well, what would be wrong with just her
joining the podcast and you continue on so people can
go back look from when the podcast first started, the

(08:39):
inception of the podcast, and see your journey as a
single man and how you manifested love in your life.
And I said, you know what, Okay, that does make sense.
They're like yeah, So they said, yeah, just just just
keep it bringing on the podcast. So that was about
two and a half years ago, and I decided to say,
you know what, let me listen to wisdom and as

(09:00):
they said, which makes a whole lot of sense. And
even though we didn't even broke her or deal with
that podcast network, I realized that God allowed me to
hear that conversation so that I didn't abandon the call
that God has for us on dear future wifey. I've
seen some comments, and I try not to address the

(09:21):
negativity because I love to celebrate the positivity and all
the love that has been surrounding me with this new journey.
Every time I think about our smileage, I'll see But
as I think about this new journey with my future
WIFEI I seen comments with people. Now, this is some

(09:41):
stupid comments I've seen. I've seen somebody say, and this
is funny because I always get Ladarian. So, Ladarian is
my nephew who I adopted. I know y'all have seen
him on the podcast before the infamous wig video. He
was the one that did the switching for that when
we were recording that. But he has a YouTube channel

(10:03):
or a couple of YouTube channels, and I've always been
trying to use moments that I go through as a
teachable lesson for him. And so I say, all I
have to say that we're driving in the car and
I pulled up some videos because he was so happy
about me getting engaged, I said, and I want you
to know because I want to always give you a
doser reality. A lot of times when we are celebrating,
other people are hating, and so I said, let me

(10:25):
just pull up this video so you can hear what
people are saying. So I pulled up this one video
and this lady was just ranting and saying that I'm
getting married because it's the next thing to do to
help save my podcast because of the episode that went
viral a few months ago from the Steals. And they're
saying that he's just getting married because he got so

(10:46):
much pushed back from that. And Ladarian, as young as
he is, he's sixteen years old, and his exact words
was that don't even make sense. That has to be stupid.
Why would you get married because somebody is saying something
negative about a whole nother couple? He said, wouldn't that
be dumb that you wouldn't be able to sustain a

(11:09):
marriage like that? Because if you married somebody you don't
care about, you don't love, you're gonna end up getting divorced.
She gonna take half of what you own. So why
even put yourself through that? And I said out the
mouth the babes, I said, how in the world's a
sixteen year old man, young man able to think like that?
And I asked him. I said, well, where did you
where you know about taking half? And where you know this?

(11:30):
He said, I watched TikTok. He said, I watched a
lot of TikTok videos, and it doesn't make sense to
get married to somebody that you don't love if it's
going to end in divorce and you got to go
through all the split of finances and everything else. And
I said, it's amazing how Ladarion, with very limited dating experience,
with him being young, don't know anything about marriage on

(11:52):
that degree, had enough common sense to know that my
motive and intention isn't to save some podcasts, especially the
same podcast. Y'all just heard me say that I was
willing to leave because I wanted to night another bachelor
over the podcast, and then my wife and I start

(12:13):
a whole nother thing from scratch. I'm sharing that with
the lip found because I always want y'all to know
what y'all you know, I'm probably beating a dead horse
because you already know my intentions. I'll been rocking with
me forever. But just when you see stuff like that,
I want you to have the heart posture of knowing
that the enemy is always busy to try to destroy
and come against what God has created. And so I

(12:35):
want to encourage y'all in your own personal life. I
know you have people that look at your good intentions
and have it evil spoken of, or try to question
your motives around stuff, and I just want you to
be rooted in that. I want you to be rooted
in knowing that only what you do for Christ will last,
and any other ill motive, any other file intention that

(12:57):
you may have, that you can't trick people for long anyway,
that is going to crash and burn. And so I
know that y'all know the intention of the Dear Future
WIFEI Podcast has always been what it always is, which
is the edify, the uplift, to build, to encourage singles
to understand the gravity of marriage, for people that are married,

(13:19):
to understand that what God has joined together, let no
man put us under. And hopefully it was God that
joined y'all together, that if you are divorced, that God
can give you do overs, He can give you a
second chance at love. Heal before you say I do again.
And so the Dear Future WIFEI Podcast, as I've always said,
especially the beginning of the school, I said beginning the school year.

(13:41):
I'm getting ready for the dear and go back to school.
So I'm saying school year. I can't wait for him
to go back to school. I know you probably don't
like me saying that, but at the beginning of this year,
I said, I want to see marriage rates increase in
the black community, and I want to see divorced statistics
decrease while hiding tools so that we can do relationships better.

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That is the heart posture, that is the mission, that
is the goal. And so during this journey, we've been learning.
I've been learning. What y'all don't realize is that I'm
the Dear Future WiFi podcast. I'll say this. I'll just
go ahead and say this. My publisher maybe get mad
at me because we ain't ready to launch the title

(14:25):
of my book that's coming up. But we've just been
transparent here. So the heart posture I have for dear
future wife you was to sit as a student and
learn from people. That's why when people call me a
relationship expert, I always shy away from that. I always
shun that title because I don't look at myself as

(14:45):
an expert. I'm a student. I'm learning from my mistakes.
I'm learning from the mistakes of other people. I'm learning
how to communicate while I'm on the podcast to hear,
to listen more than speak. I'll share this with you. Well,
let me say this real quick. So, as a student student,
I sat and gleaned information and wisdom from all these
guests that have been on the podcast, and I wrote

(15:08):
a book called Student of Love. So in September, you're
going to hear that amplified very loud with a lot
of promotion in marketing. Shout out to HarperCollins W Publishing
for giving me an amazing book deal. They truly saw me.
They saw the God calling over my life. They saw

(15:30):
the mission, they saw the mandate, they saw the mantle,
and I just thank y'all so much W Publishing for
that huge godwink. So one of the things when I
start the podcast, I said, God, I want you to
teach me to be a better listener and all transparency.

(15:50):
Always I used to listen to respond instead of listening
to listen. And I remember in the earlier days of
the podcast, I would see comments where people say, Gosh,
you're such a good listener, Gosh, you're an amazing listener.
And the reason why that was so powerful is because
that was a secret prayer that I had with God,
is to become a better listener and to know that

(16:13):
God was teaching me that while sitting there. So let
me tell you the key to this. As y'all noticed,
when I interview people, I have no notes. I have
no notes. I don't know what I'm gonna say to them.
I just have to. I'm forced to listen to them.
Or the episode with Fyall dead, So I would just
sit there and listen to them. I will re ask

(16:34):
a question, rephrase it, dig deeper by the question and
what it did. It made me a better partner to
actually date, because I can learn so much about somebody
by listening. The Bible says be slow to speak and
just quick to listen. And so I would find myself

(16:55):
just listening to people and I'm listening to what they're saying.
I'm listening to what they're not saying. I'm listening to
the nuances behind the words. Why did they choose this
word and not that word. I become very keen in listening.
That was one other part about the Dear Future WIFEI podcast.

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Through this journey that brought about healing. Another thing is
being extremely vulnerable and transparent. I've always been a person
that has been very vulnerable, but I haven't been the
type of person that could be very transparent. And when
I say transparent, I mean about my weaknesses. I could
be transparent about anything else. But to sit in front

(17:36):
of everybody and share your mistakes, share the growth that
you're experiencing in real time. Y'all know that got to
be hard. And you see why is hard because the
minute that people hear something I struggle with, then they
cast judgment and I can't believe he's doing this and

(17:56):
he's doing that and he's a Christian. But then they
don't remove the plank out of their own I And
every time that would happen, God said, but I got
you on assignment. Keep doing it. And then God would
answer because someone would DM me giving me at asking
for advice or giving me a praise report, saying man,
I thank you so much for you sharing what you

(18:18):
were going through because I'm going through that same thing.
And then I'll be able to minister to them one
on one in my DMS or video called the Brother
on ig video. And so I would watch so much
ministry work that would go and take place and still
does behind the scenes. But again, I want to encourage you.
I want to encourage you to take whatever your testimony

(18:41):
is and share it. Why because in Revelations it said
people will overcome by the word of your testimony and
by the blood of the Lamb. Let me get back
on my future wife. She and I had a conversation
prior to this recording, and I said, would you like

(19:02):
to say something to the dear future wifey audience, and
she said, I would love to, so let me just
before I read this, let's see. No, I'll read it first.
I'll read it first, and then I'll elaborate, she said,
dear future WIFEI family. From the moment I said yes
to Ben Lateris's wife, I also said yes to being
a part of this beautiful community, a family that believes

(19:24):
in love, faith, and the sacredness of marriage. As the
mystery bride. I've been overwhelmed by the outpouring of support, prayers,
and yes, even the hilarious posting videos where y'all have
zoomed in on every glimpse of my hands and feet.
Let me tell you, I've laughed right along with you.
The creativity and humor of this community has truly warmed
my heart and made this journey even more special. Been

(19:48):
hidden in plain sight has been a unique experience. I
watched from behind the scenes as you all speculated, celebrating,
and stood by lateris with such genuine love. Your kindness
and patience have meant the world to me. It's rare
to find a space that uplifts marriage, holds it sacred,
and roots for couples with such intentionality. That's what makes

(20:08):
the Dear Future WIFEI podcast more than just the show.
It's a ministry, a movement. I'm beyond excited to finally
meet you all. I look forward to joining the podcast
and lending my voice to the important mission of increasing
marriage rates in our Black community. This journey isn't just
about Latius. To me, It's about all of us standing together,
changing narratives, and showing that Black love, grounded in God

(20:31):
is not only possible but flourishing. Thank you for loving
us through the unknowns, for championing marriage, and for embracing
me even before knowing my name. I'm honored to step
into this new season with you, hand in hand, heart
to heart with love and gratitude. The mystery bride, but
not for long, she said, and not for loon. That's

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what I'm talking about. I hear comments and read comments
where people say he's making this all about him. Let's
think about how logical that is. So I like to
just talk about stuff that just don't make sense. What
man on this earth? And I'm just gonna tell you

(21:18):
the process of engagement. The process of an engagement is
the man decrees and declares that this is his wife,
whether he does that publicly, privately, or whatever, puts a
ring on her finger and ask her to marry him.
He doesn't have a ring on his finger. See I
still don't have a ring on my finger. She walks
around with a ring on her finger. So the man,
fortunately and unfortunately, no one can see that he's engaged.

(21:43):
No one knows he's engaged. He walks around, he goes
to work, unless he unless he publicizes it. You have
no idea that this man is engaged. He can walk
away and live his single life. I say all that
because I've seen a comment with someone said the reason
why he's keeping her private is because he don't want
people in the past to come up and talk and

(22:06):
mess up his situation. I said, I don't have no situation.
So y'all so used to so much drama. And I
say y'all meaning the negative people, not the lit fawn.
But some of these people are so used to so
much drama that let's unpack this. If that was the case,
what is stopping women from creating videos right now that
go viral, starting YouTube channels and telling all my business

(22:28):
it don't exist. I made sure that I kept my
hands clean. And so the reality is people are so
used to toxicity that they'll take something that's healthy, that's beautiful,
that's God center, and then project their insecurities, project their toxicity,

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project project their fears on a relationship that's not possessing
any of that foolishness. And so the reason why I
am doing what I am doing is because I want
her to have the wedding of her dreams. Let me
tell you something. Those that have had weddings know that

(23:12):
weddings can get extremely expensive. Extremely expensive. I mean, people
spend tens of thousands of dollars for one day. And
my goal is to be a good steward over the
finances that God has given me and her. So it

(23:33):
just made sense to try to create something that would
attract brands to come sponsor the wedding. Now how did
that come to be? If you look on this channel
on the Dear Future Wifie podcast YouTube channel. Back in
twenty twenty, we sponsored three couples getting married. I spent

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twelve thousand dollars out of my own pocket for it.
And let me tell you what happened is that during
the pandemic, a lot of couples were counseled, and my
daughter was going to get married, and so I had
this venue. She decided she didn't want to have a
big wedding. She wanted to have something very small, intimate,
about twenty people. So I had this huge venue that

(24:13):
I already had a deposit on. So I felt like
I heard God tell me go ahead and bless other
people and help them get married. So I did this
big call out on Facebook at the time and said
who wants to get married? Whose wedding was counseled? And
we had three couples have a group wedding. Shout out
the pastor Wilford who officiated that wedding, and we put

(24:36):
this wedding on in a matter of like, I mean
like two weeks or something. It was real short. You
look at the video I said in that. But after
I went through all that, and I spent twelve thousand
dollars of my money to help bless other people getting married.
And then other people came and donated and helped these couples,
so I couldn't have done it without them. But I

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spent twelve thousand hard earned dollars out of my pocket
to bless other folks. And God told me, if you
think that I'm not gonna take care of you because
you bless in other folks. He said, watch what happens
when it's your time. And I'm gonna be honest with you.
I'm gonna be very transparent with you. Sometimes I'm extremely
pessimistic when it comes to the promises of God. I'm

(25:24):
gonna be honest with you. I'm being transparent and vulnerable.
Sometimes I am pessimistic when it comes to the promises
of God because I really be hearing things that God says,
and I go, nah, not for me, not for me. Nah.
Maybe maybe I didn't hear them say that. Maybe I
mean he gonna come on, he gonna bless me and

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pay for my wedding whenever that time comes. So now
I'm in that season to walk out the promise. I'm
in that season to go from the wilderness into the
Promised Land. And I will not dare say I'd rather
be back in Pharaoh's house. I'd rather be back in Egypt.

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I'm headed to the Promised Land. And so walking to
the Promised Land is to bless this amazing woman. This
is her first marriage. To bless this amazing woman, just
drop the clue, to bless this woman with a wedding
that will blow her mind, to make her feel like

(26:31):
a queen. What greater gift to give to her with
her humility and submission to walk through this thing of
being called the mystery bride, And then to have all
eyes on her when she walks down the aisle because
we're going to stream this wedding live. What greater gift
to have her look absolutely beautiful, To know that I
did everything in my power to use the platform that

(26:54):
God has curated in the last five years. That was
for her, a gift to her. The platform was my
personal journey to discover, uncovered, recover love, and she is
the love that was recovered. And to book in this
journey by saying here Let's celebrate you as loud as

(27:14):
you can be celebrated, as beautifully as you can be celebrated,
as big as you can be celebrated, and try to
spare no expense. The live stream will be free. I'm
not gonna charge. I've seen people charge people to watch

(27:36):
their live stream. I'm not gonna do it. I've always
given to y'all. I don't ask y'all for much at all.
As y'all know, I get criticized a lot because I
haven't monetized my platform on the level that it should
be monetized. And I struggle with that. I struggle with
that a lot. Y'all probably seen episodes where people like,
what you need to do this better than like I know,
But I struggle with that a lot. I'm a giver,

(27:58):
always been a giver, and so I always look for
ways to give to you and not try to take
from you. So I'm we're live streaming the wedding, which
I love the fact that she is in agreement with it.
She was like, oh yeah, absolutely. As y'all heard the letter,
she is so open to giving. You know why, It's
because she came to know about about me through the podcast.

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She was watching the podcast. I think about a year,
a year, a year before we ever met, and so
this is what I mean by how God will prepare
the heart of your mate. I want you all to
hear that. I want you to be encouraged that whoever

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your purpose partner is, God is preparing their heart. We
always hear that God will prepare a table before us
in the presence of our enemies. But I want to
encourage you to know that God is preparing the heart
of your purpose partner to be able to receive you,
so that they can see you, so they can understand you,
so that y'all can be speaking the same language. You go,

(29:02):
hold on, how are we just now meeting? It sounds
like you're talking to yourself. That's when you know that
God is in complete alignment with who he connects you with.
I know you've seen a lot. You've seen couples they
ain't known each other but a week, and you meet him.
You like, how long y'all been dating? Y'all been together
for a long time. They're like, no, actually, this is
our first. This is our second date, And you like,

(29:25):
second day. I thought y'all been married. Because you can
see it, you can see the unity in them. Sometimes
you see a couple and they just look the same.
You be like, y'all, show looks similar. That's because they
were bone of their bone and flesh of their flesh.
And that's what I'm so privileged to have in my
future wife aka the Mystery Bride, is someone who's in

(29:48):
alignment with what God is doing with this ministry. She
doesn't look at this ministry as a singular ministry, meaning
it's my ministry, it's our men intry. It's going to
be our ministry. It's going to be what we are
able to do and do great exploits together. Y'all have

(30:09):
always heard me say, y'all can look at this platform,
celebrate his success, and I give God all the glory
of the praise for all that he's done. When this
video drops, I think I'm well. While I'm recording this,
I'm at six hundred and twenty five thousand subscribers when
my goal was only to hit one hundred thousand. I'm
a six hundred and twenty five thousand subscribers. But that

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pales in comparison to what God is going to do
when he connects me with my future wifey and she
joins this platform and people are able to see the
power of God, the power of unity, to know that
y'all cried with me. Y'all journey with me, y'all, y'all

(30:51):
DM me and talk about the tears that y'all shed
about relationships failing for y'all, getting weary where you feel
like there's no person out there for you. Y'all gone
through issues with infertility with my guests on the podcast. Y'all,
y'all have been here every step of the way, and
now you'll be able to witness me linking up with

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my future wife and been able to see what my
choice looks like, what my choice sounds like, what my
choice acts like, what my choice praise like, what my
choice praise like. Not just pray, but pray praise. And

(31:37):
so I'm excited for y'all to be on this journey
with me. I'm looking at doing I have a Patreon
and this is only the way I'm gonna get motivated
to just start releasing context. There's a lot of content
I don't want to release to the public, but I
get so many dms where people are enjoying this journey,
and so I'm going to breathe life into my Patreon.

(31:58):
I know y'all hear me say that a lot, but
this time it is for real. I'm finna get real
intentional on my patreon because what I want to do
is this. I want to develop a cohort of supporters
so that I'll share this with you. Because she and
I talked about this, and she was like, why don't

(32:19):
you do this through your patreon? So listen to this.
Le'm gonna tell you ia dope this woman is. I said,
I wanted to not only stream the wedding, but I
want to allow people to come to the wedding, you know,
and we're looking at venues, maybe between Dallas or LA.
We're still deciding where, but the venue will be able

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to hold a substantial amount of people that other people
can come. Now, the reception will still remain private, but
the wedding I want to we want to open the
doors and allow other people to witness it. And so
she said, why don't you breathe life into your patreon
so you can see who's really supports you and then

(33:02):
allow them access to come to the wedding. And I
said I because she said, I only want people there
that really support you. I don't want people there that
are being there to be salacious or whatever. I want
a group of people around me on my special day
that I know is rocking for us. And I said, right,
I hear you. I respect that a lot. And so

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that's what I'm end up doing. I'm gonna start putting
behind the scenes footage on my Patreon and so I'm
gonna drop a link in the description. I want you
all to go join the patreon and become a strong
support of the patreon, and we're gonna let y'all know
where the location is gonna be at. Y'all will know

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and probably only y'all will know, and y'all be able
to actually come to the wedding physically at the wedding.
Isn't that dope? That's why I said, you gotta have
a unique woman that's willing to do that. When I
tell you that's let me tell you why that's so important,
Because I know that weddings are so important to women.

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But if you're so focused on the wedding, then you
forget about the marriage. Let me tell you what I
love about this woman is that, yes, she wants her
wedding to be special. Yes, she wants the wedding to
she wants to feel like a queen walking down the aisle,
which she would. But she also said, I understand what

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you created with your audience, and I want you to
allow them to come to the wedding so that they
can share in this special day. But she said, now
let me give your caveat. I don't want just everybody there.
I want people that support you and rock with you.
And I said, okay. So to have that mindset to
be ministry minded, ministry focused, it's just another moment that

(34:59):
confirmed I'm marrying the right person. Then I'm marrying the
person that is aligned with my heart, that's aligned with
the vision, it's aligned with the mission. We always hear
that there can be no submission unless there's first submission.
And I've laid out my mission with this woman of

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God very clearly. She laid out her mission, her goals,
her desires very clearly, and we share the same heart posture.
That really gets me emotional because I understand how hard

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it is to find people. You can find really good people.
I met good people. She's met good people. You date
all these people and you go, but is this the
person I'm supposed to marry, and then a chiros moment
happens where these two souls from different walks of life,

(36:08):
different backgrounds, come together, a conversation has had, and then
God begins to weave together into connectiveness between two hearts
that become tethered to each other. I used to say
to her in the beginning of us dating. Marriage is

(36:32):
a miracle. When I say miracle, it's not just a
miracle on stand together. It's a miracle of coming together.
It is extremely difficult. I remember Whitney said this. She said,
and I'm talking about Jess Witty, not Whitney Houghton, but

(36:52):
Jess Witty. She said she had to push past herself.
That we are always challenged in relationships to push past ourself,
to push past our own thresholds, to push past our
own triggers, because if we're honest with ourselves, we'll say,
oh no, I can't deal with this, And when you
really unpack it, you'll realize that's the reason why you're

(37:15):
not married, because you can't deal with nothing. Because marriage
requires you to deal with some things. If they're not
total deal breakers, if they're not going against your core values,
then deal with it. Look at the person as God
sees them and say, is this a person that God

(37:36):
has brought in my life to even be a mirror
because a lot of stuff that we can't deal with
you can't deal with facing yourself. Relationships God or dang
relationships will require you to face yourself in the mirror,
to face yourself in the mirror, to look yourself in
the mirror and say, you know what, this person is

(37:58):
reflecting things in me that I need to overcome. I
love this person enough to overcome it, to heal through it,
to grow from it or not, or you say it's
not worth it, They're not worth it and I'll move on.

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And when you find yourself in the common denominator in
every fail relationship, you gotta take a moment to look
at yourself and say, Okay, everybody keeps complaining about this
and me, they keep saying that I have this issue.
At some point you gotta fix it. So this journey
has been very discouraging at moments, but it's also showed

(38:48):
me the consistency of God. It showed me that God
hadn't forgotten about me. Stepan and Heman they said he
remembered in their episode he talks about God remembering them.
It's the most beautiful thing to be remembered by God.

(39:10):
I've captured so many gems from the Dear Future WIFEI
podcast guests that I'm able to bottle up in my
gym bag, g e m bag and apply it in
this engagement, apply it in this marriage, Apply it with

(39:35):
you guys. When y'all are asking me questions or you know,
leaning on me for advice, I just tell y'all what
I know, and I always lay, I always lead this.
This is what I experienced, This is what I went through,
and hopefully you can learn something from it. Let me
think of something else. What else would I like to

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address in this moment? Oh, I saw a video one
day that said I had to fell engagement. I've never
been engaged. That is not true. I wasn't engaged, so
that's not true. What else? Like I said, I'm just
gonna take time to address things that i've seen. You

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know what, I think that's pretty much it. The only
thing that I've seen that just the motive of getting married.
This would be good to talk about because y'all got
to hear this from a man's standpoint, and I want
y'all to hear this. You can't force a man to
get married. You can't. There's nothing you can do to

(40:42):
make that man marry you. It's not gonna happen. You
can give an ultimatum, but how many times have that worked.
It's people that's gotten ultimatums and the person be like,
all right, well, deuces, you can't force a man to
marry you. Now, I will say there has been exceptions
where somebody then gave a man that ultimatum and then
he married him. But I'm telling you overwhelming ninety something

(41:05):
percent of men will never marry you just because you've
done told him that he got to marry you. I
say all that to say, it's not a podcast. Ain't
a failure of me thinking I'm gonna lose my podcast
behind So let me let me address that requid. I
can't lose a podcast behind negativity because that's not what

(41:26):
created my podcast. You can't counsel something that you didn't endorse.
When I hear people say I will counsel this because
he interviewed this person. And counsel that. You can't counsel
what God endors. You can't do it. And this is
what I want to encourage all about if you you
cannot exalt the negativity, the negativity that comes your way,

(41:49):
don't exalt that. You could sit there and look at comments,
and this is what happens sometimes with just human psyche.
You can read comments. It can have two hundred comments,
one hundred and ninety can be positive and the ten
that's negative. Our brain will focus on the ten negative
instead of celebrating one hundred and ninety positive. The way

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I operate is and the Darren can attest to this,
and a lot of my friends they be like, you'd
be reading these comments and just laughing at it, I said,
because it'd be funny to me. I said, this stuff
be so funny because people don't have a clue. As
y'all saw on the podcast. I had a guest on
my podcast that said the Terris ain't interested in being
with nobody, he ain't interested in and getting married, but

(42:35):
she didn't even know I was intentionally dating somebody at
the same time. That's why I would just sit there
and listen. I'd be like, it's not true, it's not true,
and also think about this. While that interview was going
on in March. It was an interview that happened in
February with the Millers, Jamal and Natasha Miller, who prophesied

(42:59):
that I would be connected and getting married to my
wife this year. So here it is two different voices,
the voice of God prophesying destiny and the voice not
assigned by God speaking against the will of God over
my life as well as questioning my intentions with what

(43:22):
God is telling me in my life. Old folks used
to say, whose report would you believe? And so I
would just chuckle at that stuff. I would laugh. I
would hear people say certain stuff about me on social media,
I would just laugh, and I said, I can't wait
till they see. I'm gonna tell y'all some the hardest

(43:43):
thing for me not to do is reveal my future wife.
You gotta think, and I'm gonna tell you a lot
of that is rooted an ego. I can be honest
with you because I want to prove to everybody all
looks he told you, look at it. This is my wife.
Look look at look at look at how we're connected.

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Look how beautiful she is, Look how she thinks, look
at I want to just do that, but I had
to go against my own natural propensity to try to
prove to people and sit back and see what God
is curating behind the scenes. And so I'm taking my
direction from God. A lot of people say, all the

(44:24):
terrace is just a marketing thing. He's just so great
at marketing. Well, I am great at marketing. I'll be
honest with you. I am great at marketing. But this
isn't a marketing moment. This is a movement for me
to see if what I heard from God last in
twenty twenty sponsoring other people's wedding, did I hear him

(44:48):
correctly and create creating this opportunity for our wedding to
be sponsored. You know, I'll shoot from the hip. I'll
tell you exactly what it is. That's what I'm looking for.
I'm trying to see because Lord knows, I ain't got
no money to be paying for all this. Good Lord,
Good Lord, it's so expensive and so oh. Another thing

(45:13):
that I will tell y'all. Some people when I showed
the video, they didn't see if anybody was there at
the engagement. I had thirty people there. Her closest friends
and family were there to witness that. Her mom and
I we made sure that we chose the people that

(45:36):
needed to be there, that she would love and that
she would just she was in so many tears, just
crying seeing how that moment happened. Y'a don't think I
want to show y'all that. Let me tell you something.
You talking about marketing. I would love to show y'all that,
to show y'all the whole proposal, to show you everything
so you can be like, Okay, you did that, litterious.

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That's why it ain't about me. It's about me trying
to create a moment for her wedding or our wedding,
but her wedding because I'm doing all this to try
to bless her and blow her mind. So yeah, I'm
not gonna be before you long. I'm about to wrap
this up. But Darren, how long have I been talking?

(46:18):
Forty three minutes? Good lord, trying to get to sixty minutes.
But I don't be liking just talking to myself. So
let me tell you this the reason why I like
talking to myself. When we did the Dear Future WIFEI
podcast when it first started, I said, I did a
couple of episodes talking by myself and I hated it
and it sucked, And I said, I don't even know
what I'm saying. I'm rambling, and so I said, I

(46:41):
got to have guests. And so in the middle of
the pandemic, I started calling up people when we were
supposed to be socially distanced or whatever. I say, I
ain't gonna follow that. Y'all gonna come here and we're
gonna do this episodes. And if y'all go look back
at the beginning of Dear Future Wifey that was in
the heart of the pandemic and we were doing episodes
with guests in studio where places were locked down, and yeah,

(47:02):
I just did that. But again God's hand over. Nobody
came on my podcast got COVID. I never contracted covid
from anybody on my podcast, And it was just God
just creating this beautiful moment of healing emotionally, mentally, spiritually,
and a protection of healing physically on our bodies. So
it's all these things that were happening behind the scenes

(47:23):
that kept showing me that God was always in the
details of the Dear Future Wifey podcast. So that's another
little fun fact that happened. Again, as you see stuff
on social media, you know, respond say something. If you
hear people lying and saying certain stuff, comment and be like, nah,

(47:44):
that's not even him. Stop lying, stop lying. Don't do that,
because as Christians and believers, we got to start being
better gatekeepers with things that we experience and know that
we've been blessed and we know that God is covering
whatever that is. You need to stand guard and be like, na, no,
not that one. I have people call me up at
DM and hold on, now, I ain't gonna be talking

(48:06):
about no dear Future wife. And they used to be
so funny, but they'll be defending me in the comments
or whatever. Which, Hey, if y'all the people that defend
thank y'all so much. I appreciate y'all because we got
to always come against the attack of the enemy. The
devil is busy and there's nothing that he wants more

(48:26):
than to tear down what God is building. Nothing he
wants more than to do that. And so shout out
to y'all for being gatekeepers and defending my honor and
defending the heart posture and the mission of the Dear
Future WIFEI podcast. I want to conclude this by just
encouraging y'all. When I do these singles events, it really

(48:57):
a grees my heart when I see how many women
outnumber the men. It's an embarrassing percentage, and it breaks
my heart because I look and I go, Wow, that
is the biggest indicator of what the struggle is where
you look at the ratio for men and women and

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all that, and it really a greeves my heart. So
I just want y'all know that I'm looking to find
a solution to find out how can I get more
men involved and start really discipling and talking to them
and trying to figure out what language I need to
do to draw more men at events. And this is
what churches have problems with this. A lot of singles

(49:39):
events had problems with period. So I'm just asking God
and seeking God for direction to help try to solve that.
And not just any men, but men that will treat
y'all well emotionally and spiritually as well as physically. So
I'm looking for that. But I say all this to say,

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I hear you, I hear your struggle, I hear your journey.
I love the fact that you are being encouraged by
the fact that I propose to the love of my life.
Y'all not salty about it. Y'all not mad about it,
y'all not hating on it. Y'all said, I've seen a

(50:22):
comment that said this is for us. Who says that,
who says that someone else's engagement is for all of us?
The only person that could ever say something like that
is a person that understands the heart posture of God

(50:44):
that you got to celebrate other people's wins and to
know that if he did it before, he can do
it again. The God is the giver of life, the
giver of blessings, the giver of miracles and wonder So

(51:05):
thank you for celebrating this proposal. I soon to be
bride in this marriage. Use that as fuel to inspire you,
to encourage you to know that God hadn't forgotten about you.
Use it get extremely intentional, start declaring things over your life.

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Last September, I started declaring that I was gonna get
married by the end of twenty twenty five. With no
prospects in sight. I just started saying, I'm gonna get married.
And let me tell you it was an episode that
I did with Egyptian Ride and Mike Jackson on their podcast,

(51:49):
and at the beginning of the podcast, I said, I'm
gonna get married about the end of this year. We
shot this in March. I said, I'm gonna get married
and then by the end of it, I mean about
ten to fifteen minutes later in the conversation, I said, well,
I mean, if I'm not married, I at least have
a ring on her finger. And then Mike called me.
I said, hold on, you just said you're gonna be
married about the by the end of this year. No,

(52:11):
stated keep that. Keep that. I said, Oh, he said,
own it, I said, And I got nervous because I
was like, can God do it that fast? And the
minute he told me to own that, I said, God can.
I wasn't racing against a deadline. I'm not going to

(52:33):
say I do when I know deep down inside I don't,
especially having gone through a failed marriage. Why would I
do that? Then? Why just think about this? I'm just
gonna entertain something. I know I'm spost to encourage y'all,
but I just want to unpack this real quick. I've
been divorced. I did a whole ted talk back in
twenty twenty one about the likelihood of divorce in set

(53:00):
at marriages, so I know the statistics on that. I'm
going to willingly go take vows with somebody with a
platform as big as I have to have a public
failure because that mayorge don't work, and then people are
discouraged in saying see man, now, this process was extremely intentional.

(53:27):
I went through therapy with Love Macpherson. Love. I went
through three months of therapy, she and I, Me and
my future wife. He went through three months of therapy
with Love Macpherson, and we unpacked everything everything. Oh, we

(53:47):
talked about everything. Because what people don't understand is this
before there's ever premarital counseling for me, I desire engagement counseling.
Why do I say that? It's because I don't want
to go through all the hoop lie, all the beautiful gestures,

(54:09):
all the talking to the parents and getting the blessings
of friends and family and going out to go get
a ring and try to orchestrate this beautiful moment to
propose to her. Only to know that she said yes,
but we haven't dealt with the real stuff that's going
to even get us to the altar doesn't make sense
to me. It's not a wise investment. Doesn't make sense

(54:30):
because I can go get this nice ring and then
it falls apart when we start going through pre marital counseling.
Don't make sense. It's not wise. Shout out to Philadelphia
Diamond Company for curating this amazing show stopping stunning ring.
I'm gonna get them on the podcast. I want to
talk to this dynamic couple. They are absolutely amazing. But

(54:53):
why would I do all that to then it don't
even make it to the wedding, or we make it
to the wedding, stay married a year, two years, three years,
and then go through divorce. I don't have time to
go through another divorce. I don't have time to waste.

(55:14):
I would just stay single. I'm telling you that's the
reason why I was single. I said, I am going
to be single until God brings me the right person,
and I better know it's God. And how do I
know it's God is when I put that ring on
her finger. I ain't been no other woman with a
ring on their finger since the woman I got married

(55:35):
to that and I've been divorced going on ten years
in December be ten years. So I was very intentional
about this process. I sought wise counsel. I had my pastor.
Shout out to pastor Evan Connor and Sharis Connor. I

(55:57):
had them come over talk to her, meet with us
US to give their blessing. I talked to her dad.
I talked to her mom. This is powerful. I talked
to my kids. Let's talk about that. Let me tell

(56:20):
you one of the things. I want to save this
for later, but I'll just say this real quick. My daughter, Lataria,
I think this was in twenty nineteen or twenty twenty.
She was watching Israel Holten and Adrian Bally on she
was watching the YouTube of no she was watching the

(56:41):
on his YouTube Instagram of Adrian cooking or doing something
with Israel Holton's daughter and you know, and her bonus daughter.
So he said, she said, I want whoever you marry,
I want to have a relationship with her like Adrian
has with Israel Holton's daughter, which is adrian stepdaughter. I

(57:06):
like using step but bonus daughter. And I said, hmm,
And she just said that to me. Never forgot it.
I just said, that's good to know. The way my
future wife. He shows up in Latia's life checks in
where her talks to her. She knows stuff about my daughter.
I don't even know that that you know, current stuff

(57:28):
that's going on. I'd be like what. And we went
out to eat one day and Latia said, you remember
when I said, I said, I remember, and she was like, wow,
that's how I feel with her messed me up. Ladarian.

(57:49):
Ladarian does not warm up to people easily. He doesn't.
I understand why. He's been through a lot of trauma
when it comes to the foster care system and you know,
things with you know, as he was being raised without
sharing all his business. But he's been through a lot
of stuff when it comes to you know, stuff like that.
So he don't trust. We don't trust people that quickly.

(58:13):
And so one of the things he said to her
what he said to me before he ever said to her.
He was like, yeah, I rock with her. And then
after he got a chance to really meet her and
be around her, he was just like, I mean one day,
I guess that was about a week ago, And Darren was,
that was a week ago when you told her you
love her a week ago. I just let him talk
on the phone. I let them talk on the phone.

(58:46):
In this moment, she was helping giving them advice about
how to show up his senior year and how to
reach its fullest potential. Ladarreen said thank you for taking

(59:10):
the time out to talk to me and to help
me do better, and he said, I love you. I
was in the room when he said that, and I

(59:30):
walked out of the living room into my bedroom and
I just cried. Let me tell you why that's important,
because La Darren witnessed me dating one of the most
toxic women I could have ever dated years ago. This
was in twenty fifteen to twenty eighteen. Don't even share

(59:53):
this story often. I don't even share it much at all,
but twenty fifteen, twenty eighteen. And he will always say
stuff like any time he heard me dating somebody else,
he said, I hope she ain't crazy like the other woman.

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And I'll be sitting there, I'll be like, I hate
that he had to witness that, and so to hear
his stamp of approval to tell me and confirm that
I chose wise and I made a great choice. And

(01:00:34):
it's somebody that he respects, somebody he honors. It's no
greater validation because he has to live with her until

(01:00:56):
he graduates and go to college or whatever. He will
be pressed in the home with her, and so it
meant the world to me to know that he sees her,
he values her, he respects her, and he loves her.
Two So, as y'all single parents date, when you are

(01:01:28):
vetting these guys, when you're vetting these women, listen to
how they speak about your kids and see if they
use terms like those are your kids. If they speak

(01:01:49):
like that, they're letting you know they've already disassociated themselves
from what should be y'all's kids. To know this woman

(01:02:10):
sees my kids as her own was a cherry on top.
It was a non negotiable. I didn't try to force it.
I just let her be her. I'm gonna share this
with y'all now, I'm just telling all my business. One

(01:02:30):
day she came to visit. And you know, every time
she comes, she'll talk to La Darren and spend time
with them, but in the earliest stages, one day she
the whole day, we just sat around the house and
the Darren stayed in the room the whole time, as
teenagers do. And that was the last day that she
was here at that time. And so she was flying

(01:02:52):
to go back home. And when I was taking her
to the airport at five in the morning, she said
God convicted me. I said, about what she said, because
we sat in this house all day yesterday and I
didn't see La Darren's face or speak to him, and
he stayed in his room the whole time. I said, well,
that's just how teenagers are, you know, teenage You gotta

(01:03:13):
get used to that. Teenagers ain't gonna be coming around
to do this. She said, But that's not okay for me.
I said, well, if you ever feel like you want to,
feel free to go knock on his door and go
talk to him. She said, okay, I just don't want
to overstep my boundaries. I said, no, you're not overstepping anything.
Matter of fact, he would appreciate that. She said. That's
all I need to know, because I just don't like that.

(01:03:36):
I got to see his face. I gotta see how
he's doing. I gotta check and make sure he's okay.
Did I ever tell you that Darren, that conversation that
she had about she wanted to make sure that she
sees you before she ever leaves. You don't want a
whole day to go by without talking to you. Yep, yep.

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At that moment, I said, oh, she's the one. She
is the one. And it was heavy on her. I said,
I said, it's okay, you ain't got to I mean,
it's not that serious. She said it is though, I said,
Good Lord. So thank you Future Wife aka the Mystery Bride,

(01:04:28):
for operating with such a nurturing spirit, for caring for
loving not just me but my kids. Thank you. Oh yeah,
back to encourage y'all again, Be encouraged. Don't go. We're

(01:04:50):
and you're well doing. Know that God is able to
do exceedingly, abundantly above all you could ever ask, think
or imagine. November twenty second is approaching extremely quickly. Make
sure you go visit the link in the description join

(01:05:12):
the Patreon so you can get an inside look. I'm
gonna be dropping videos on how I prepared my home
for my future wife, and how I bought a home,
how I decorated it in preparation for her. I'm gonna
show you all kind of stuff I'm gonna show y'all
when I travel to go see her, and I'm gonna
show y'all a whole lot. It's gonna get extremely personal

(01:05:34):
because I want y'all to join this journey. Ahi, y'all, God,
this was beautiful. I hope y'all got value out of this.
I hope y'all got a inside look into my heart,
my life, my journey. I want to Yeah, like I said,

(01:05:54):
book Student of Love, You'll see all the stuff as
I begin to promote that song. And I'm I'm gonna
tell you all right now, I'm a plant to see
right now, I'm a need everybody, and I mean every
one of y'all to buy this book once that thing
is released in pre orders. I want y'all to blow
the publisher's mind. I want ad minute I dropped that link,

(01:06:17):
go spend maybe twenty five twenty six, between twenty five
and thirty dollars. That ain't nothing. That is the easiest
way to show me. Thank you, La Terris. I just
want to just I just want to bless you and
buy this book. And the turn is gonna bless you
because when I tell you, the gems that's in that book,
I bled when I wrote this book, bled on those pages.

(01:06:40):
God is going to do some amazing work through this book.
Watch what I tell you, Watch what I tell you.
I know y'all saw last week Gary Chapman praying over
this book before it was even written. The only thing
that was written at that moment was the proposal, and
that prayer fueled me as that I guess that book

(01:07:06):
bad Angleize is bad. So the whole published company they excited.
They're like, oh my god, we believe this is gonna
be huge, And so I want y'all to just buy
the book to show them that y'all rock with me, period,
and then we'll hit that New York Times bestsellers list.
We'll celebrate. I'll end up doing book tours through cities
all across the United States. I want to come to

(01:07:27):
some islands and go to South Africa and all that.
Want y'all to pull up on me. But the way
that happens, and I'm gonna tell y'all the way that happens,
is when y'all support it in pre sales and pre orders.
Y'all started hitting Amazon and wherever you get your books from,
you start buying those books. It makes the publisher get
excited and say, oh, now we got to create a

(01:07:49):
wider reach. So I'm gonna tell y'all that another thing
that I did. I want y'all to hear this is,
as y'all noticed throughout the last five years of my
pote I've always brought other authors on to promote their books.
I did it because I always believe in sewing where
you want to go, So I sew where I want
to go. And so I kept sewing, amplifying other people's books,

(01:08:13):
telling y'all to go support their books, while I was
believing God to open up the doors for me to
have my own book. And here it is, so support it. Hey, listen,
thank y'all for listening to the Dear Future WIFEI Podcast.
And next up is I'm gonna share the letter that
I wrote to my future wife. Y'all be dressed, stay

(01:08:36):
tuned to the end for a letter to my future wife.
He writing this loving letters to Ladarim thrust it suddenly
into child protective services. In twenty fifteen, my nephew black
a boy. The likelihood have been adopted outside of kinship

(01:08:58):
slim to none Rmione, sixteen years old, black a boy
with five years in the Falter care system before I
even knew his name. The likelihood have ever been adopted? Yep,
you guessed it. Slim to none. While Laderian and Ourmiani
were trying to survive and barely thrive in an overpopulated

(01:09:20):
and underfunded, false care system. I was living my own life,
doing well professionally, having been a single father with a
daughter who at that point was doing well in college.
It was my time to live my life right. Wrong.
I felt unsettled, tireless, agitated. There are just two many
of our black children stuck in ambiguity and in the

(01:09:43):
limbo of the Falter care system. In twenty seventeen, I
legally adopted my nephew Ladarian. Fast forward to twenty nineteen.
I had no ties to this other young king, but
I felt God instructed me to adopt him also in
an babe starting over with parenting should have been enough. Right,
Working with areous foster care and adoption agencies to help
bring awareness to the countless young Black kings and the

(01:10:05):
foster care system should have decreased my agitation. Right join
the board of directors of Advantage of Adoption and organization
that helps find permanent adoptive homes for children in falseter
care should have led to some type of resolve. Right. No,
not at all. None of it felt like I had
done enough. I now realized that every one of those

(01:10:28):
experiences was land the fundamental foundation for my life's mission.
Kingdom Royal. Kingdom Royal would be a luxury, state of
the art home for foster boys. Our first location will
be in the Dallas Fort Worth Metroplex. We will utilize
the whole person approach that instills identity, empowers them to
advocate for themselves, and enlightens them regarding new perspectives and

(01:10:51):
limitless options that they thought were impossible. Though the young
Kings will attend the local public schools that are in
proximity to care in the Royale, our at home curriculum
will broaden their worldview through participating in the arts, attending
various cultural events, learning about and engaging in multifaceted discussions
about current events and even relevant historical contexts, introducing them

(01:11:15):
to gardening and landscaping, and even caring for our animals
on our form and on site stables. We just launched
our startup capital campaign with the goal of raising two
point eight million dollars. Now why two point eight million dollars? Well?
In twenty seventeen, I created a web series in which
I performed random acts of kindness for targeting the homeless community.

(01:11:36):
One of the most notable successes was that one of
the videos went viral garnering twenty eight million views. However,
one of my biggest regrets is that I didn't raise
a single dollar to help in implementing a more sustainable
plan for the homeless community. So throughout the years, with
much remorse, I reflect that I'm not maximizing that moment.

(01:11:57):
I knew if at that time just ten percent of
the viewers donated one dollar, we would have raised at
least two point eight million dollars that could have really
established long term support for the homeless community, or at
least started a long term initiative to do so. This
is my do over, this is our new beginning. Together,

(01:12:19):
we can attack this at the route by specifically helping
our homeless Black boys who are already disproportionately represented in
the American fossil care system. I'm a Terisarwhickfield. I've been
nominated for three regional Emmys documenting my work with the
homeless as well as my personal adoption journey. Despite those accolades,

(01:12:39):
the greatest award for me is truly providing the infrastructure
for a transformed life. Visit Kingdom Royal dot com for
more details Crown of King and make a donation today.

(01:13:00):
So here's my favorite part of the podcast where I
speak to my future wife. Dear future wife, he one
day soon the doors will open, and there you'll be
wrapped in grace, beauty, and the answered prayer I've whispered
for years. The music will swell, the crowd will rise,
and time will hold its breath as I watch you
take that sacred walk towards forever. Our wedding will be

(01:13:23):
more than the ceremony. It will be a ministry that
will vibrate across the universe, a living reminder that hope
doesn't disappoint, that love, even when delayed, is never denied,
that the right love and the right season brings healing
to every broken place. On that day, when our hands
meet and our vows echo Heaven's intention, I pray our

(01:13:45):
union preaches a sermon without words, that every soul in
the room feels the presence of promise fulfilled, that someone's
faith in love is revived, that someone dares to believe again.
You are the perfect person to do this with your
strength and your and wavering faith. That's everything I prayed for.
But what humbles me most is your quiet power, the

(01:14:06):
way you've gracefully chosen to remain hidden to be our
mystery bride, trusting the unveiling to God's timing and design.
Your humility is done it and finally you will make
your grand interest. And at that time the world will
not only see beauty, they'll witness destiny. Your future heaby.

(01:14:29):
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