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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Do Hey, it's Delilah.
In just a moment, I'm going to talk with a
(00:22):
heartbroken mom. Her heart is heavy and she is mourning
the loss of a relationship with her son, not because
he's gone, not because he's passed, but because he married
somebody who doesn't let anyone near her husband's heart. This
(00:45):
story coming up next. And hey, it's Delilah. Hi, Debbie,
it's Delilah. What can I do for you tonight?
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Oh my gosh, I've been listening with you so many
years and I don't know what happened, and I guess
something tonight and me searched you out and I found you,
and I'm so happy I did to be able to
reconnect with you. And I just want to, first of all,
just tell you how sorry I am to hear about
(01:14):
your family and your loss. I just wanted to share
that with you tonight. But the reason I'm calling is
I just wanted to see if you could play a
song for my son. I had a falling out with him,
or he had a falling out with me, and it's
just been heartbreaking and I haven't been able to connect
(01:36):
with him in like two years.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
How old is your son? He's twenty five and he
hasn't talked to you, spoken to you come home for
Christmas in two years.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Yeah. And it all started with this girl he married.
She was starting to come over and she was married before,
and she is about five or six years older than him.
She was married to an older gentleman, around fifty and
then they had two children together, and then she divorced
(02:12):
him and went really young and went with my son,
and you know, she brought her kids around and we
connected as a family and we were doing audings and
things like that. And then when they'd come over, I
just noticed how she was treating my son, and I
guess as a mom, it hurt my feelings to see
(02:32):
her being really boxy with him, and he would jump
to her every whim and he was catering to her
her kids, and she was just being very bossy with him,
and it hurt my feelings to see that. And I
said to him how it made me feel, and he
said to me, you know, like he recognizes it, but
(02:54):
he's like, you know, if you want to say something
to her, go ahead. He's like, it's fine, because I
wanted to have that open dialogue, but I wanted to
be level headed. I didn't want to speak out of emotion.
I wanted to speak to her like mom to mom
and just let her know how I was feeling about it.
And I guess that's how everything started with us. And
(03:16):
she didn't receive it well, and from that point on,
just the dynamic of the relationship went really downhill, and
I could feel her like pulling him from me. And
beside all that, like my son and I always had
a very very close relationship through you know, all the years,
from the time he was a baby until just prior
(03:38):
to all that happening, you'd know, he's been very very close.
And it just hurts my heart that we're so separated.
I mean, he didn't even want me to go to
his wedding, and it's just been a very torn situation
in the family. And he's got a brother who lives
with me. He's twenty three, and it just caused such
(04:00):
a dilemma and heartbreak all around because my son, my
other son, didn't go to his wedding because he didn't
like the way he was treating me, and just I
don't like the way that everything has been. I've apologized
for anything I've ever done, and it's just a lot.
He just doesn't want to receive it or he doesn't
(04:21):
want to go forward. But I've seen her in other
situations with concerning his friends and things pull him from
other friends that he's had, so I don't know. It
just seems like a very toxic relationship he's involved in
with her, And you know, as a mom, I felt
(04:42):
like I was doing the right thing by being open
and talking to her about how she was treating him,
And now looking back, I think, you know, I made
a mistake, but I can't change it. It's just heartbreaking,
and I just try to cope day by day, and
I have a strong relationship with God and my friend,
and you know, I'm grateful for the really relationship I
(05:03):
have with my other son, and I just try to
have good days, but it's you know, at night, it's
quiet and my heart breaks, and I think about him
a lot and just wonder if you know, we'll ever
be able to reconnect.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Yeah, it's just it's one of those shocking things in life.
You know, like you never never, never ever would ever
expect it to happen. And I think, honestly, if I
didn't have a relationship with God in faith, I would
never be able to function. Because he and I were
very very close. He was my firstborn, and you know,
(05:42):
like I said, we were always very close. And he
used to come over and give me big hugs every
time he'd come home. And you know that's something I
really missed him, you know, running in the door and
just coming up to me and just giving me these
bear hugs because he was a wrestler. He was really strong, and.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Him, I know you do. And I know that the
daughter in law that you had envisioned and prayed for
and looked forward to spending time with and going on
outings and shopping and camping trips and to get a
massage together, I know you missed that. I know you
had planned a completely different life for yourself and your
(06:29):
son and his future family. And he was bewitched, and
he is bewitched, and he is being manipulated by somebody
who does not will not share his love and affection.
And there's nothing you can do but pray.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
And I could see that in her because I remember
asking him, Hey, are you going to go camping with
so and so this guy friend that he had at
one point, and you know, the two of them were together,
him and her, and she just gave him a look
across the room like I don't think so, And I
was like, what's that look for? And she goes, oh,
(07:09):
let's just say I don't care for so and so.
And I'm like, well, like, I met this kid, so
I'm thinking, you know, if he passes my judgment, like,
then what's wrong with him? I'm like, if I like him,
then I don't see why, you know, you wouldn't like him.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
And she doesn't like anybody who her husband loves. She
does not and will not like anyone or accept anyone
that her husband loves. And there's nothing you can do,
(07:46):
so don't.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Yeah, she saw that that we were very close, and
I mean she she knew that. Everybody, everybody knew that,
and she's turned him against me, Like it's evil that
the the things that he has said, it sounds like
it's got to be coming from her, Like he wrote
me a letter in these things, He's never.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
No, he didn't, he did not write you a letter.
I promise you. He did not write you a letter.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
Yeah, I mean it was just like where is this
stuff coming from? All these years? You know, like just
before all that, like the year prior, he was saying
how he wanted us all to live on this big
piece of land, and you know, have his family all
spread apart on this big piece of land like he
said us the year before. And I'm I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
She just.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Really changed him a lot. And aside from that, she
has a very very very very very wealthy, affluent family,
and I think the money thing kind of appealed to him,
and her family's also the same way.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
No, it didn't. It's it has nothing to do with money.
It has nothing to do with her family. It has
everything to do with He has a very young and
tender heart. And she was very sexy and very seductive
and very manipulative. And he did not have any experience.
He had not been round the block three times, maybe four.
(09:14):
And she caught the fish she wanted. She reeled him in,
she ain't gonna let go, she ain't gonna put him
back in the stream and let him swim ever again.
But you can't take it personally. You cannot spend an
ounce of energy wishing for something that isn't because it is.
(09:37):
And here's the thing. You said, you wouldn't have made
it through this without your faith in God. Right, Nope,
So does God ever make mistakes?
Speaker 2 (09:48):
No, he doesn't, he doesn't.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
Could he have prevented them getting together and getting married,
of course, and he chose not to intervene. Therefore he
is in control. And there is a reason for this union,
whether you like it or not.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
And the sooner you accept that, and the sooner you
start praying for them well and praying for God to
show you the sooner you will have peace.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Yeah, you know. And I was at a place like
six months ago where I felt at peace because I
keep every day I do three things I'm grateful for
since the beginning of the year every day. And I
was looking back on my journal tonight actually, and I
came across it said that I was grateful that I
(10:42):
came to a place of peace over the loss of,
you know, my relationship with my son. And I started
thinking a night like what happened that I don't have
that piece anymore? Like where did it go? Because I
did feel even though I felt the loss, I still
I felt at peace, and I don't know why now
I don't again, but I think I'm just thinking about
(11:06):
the future instead of like the moment right now.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
You got to let go of that. And even if
the moment right now is not what you had envisioned
it to be, you gotta you have to let go
of the vision or the dreams that you had imagined
and embrace what is, even if it wasn't your first
or second or third choice.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
And you, yeah, have to pray that God would give
you peace and give you joy and give you an
understanding and take away the heartache.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Yeah, I do. I pray for both of them. I
just I just feel the loss deep inside still, you know.
And I try to be happy every day and grateful,
and you know, I just took a trip to England,
which was fun and something I never imagined I would
(12:05):
ever get an opportunity to do. So, I mean, I
do look at the positive. It's just I do miss
I miss him.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
I know, trust me, I know, yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
I know as a mom, I know you understand.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
That I'm going to play a song for you and
I'm going to say a prayer for you.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on eight, it's Delilah
Hey, it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Do Hey, it's Delilah.
In just a moment, I'm going to talk with a
(00:22):
heartbroken mom. Her heart is heavy and she is mourning
the loss of a relationship with her son, not because
he's gone, not because he's passed, but because he married
somebody who doesn't let anyone near her husband's heart. This
(00:45):
story coming up next. And hey, it's Delilah. Hi, Debbie,
it's Delilah. What can I do for you tonight?
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Oh my gosh, I've been listening with you so many
years and I don't know what happened, and I guess
something tonight and me searched you out and I found you,
and I'm so happy I did to be able to
reconnect with you. And I just want to, first of all,
just tell you how sorry I am to hear about
(01:14):
your family and your loss. I just wanted to share
that with you tonight. But the reason I'm calling is
I just wanted to see if you could play a
song for my son. I had a falling out with him,
or he had a falling out with me, and it's
just been heartbreaking and I haven't been able to connect
(01:36):
with him in like two years.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
How old is your son? He's twenty five and he
hasn't talked to you, spoken to you come home for
Christmas in two years.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
Yeah. And it all started with this girl he married.
She was starting to come over and she was married before,
and she is about five or six years older than him.
She was married to an older gentleman, around fifty and
then they had two children together, and then she divorced
(02:12):
him and went really young and went with my son,
and you know, she brought her kids around and we
connected as a family and we were doing audings and
things like that. And then when they'd come over, I
just noticed how she was treating my son, and I
guess as a mom, it hurt my feelings to see
(02:32):
her being really boxy with him, and he would jump
to her every whim and he was catering to her
her kids, and she was just being very bossy with him,
and it hurt my feelings to see that. And I
said to him how it made me feel, and he
said to me, you know, like he recognizes it, but
(02:54):
he's like, you know, if you want to say something
to her, go ahead. He's like, it's fine, because I
wanted to have that open dialogue, but I wanted to
be level headed. I didn't want to speak out of emotion.
I wanted to speak to her like mom to mom
and just let her know how I was feeling about it.
And I guess that's how everything started with us. And
(03:16):
she didn't receive it well, and from that point on,
just the dynamic of the relationship went really downhill, and
I could feel her like pulling him from me. And
beside all that, like my son and I always had
a very very close relationship through you know, all the years,
from the time he was a baby until just prior
(03:38):
to all that happening, you'd know, he's been very very close.
And it just hurts my heart that we're so separated.
I mean, he didn't even want me to go to
his wedding, and it's just been a very torn situation
in the family. And he's got a brother who lives
with me. He's twenty three, and it just caused such
(04:00):
a dilemma and heartbreak all around because my son, my
other son, didn't go to his wedding because he didn't
like the way he was treating me, and just I
don't like the way that everything has been. I've apologized
for anything I've ever done, and it's just a lot.
He just doesn't want to receive it or he doesn't
(04:21):
want to go forward. But I've seen her in other
situations with concerning his friends and things pull him from
other friends that he's had, so I don't know. It
just seems like a very toxic relationship he's involved in
with her, And you know, as a mom, I felt
(04:42):
like I was doing the right thing by being open
and talking to her about how she was treating him,
And now looking back, I think, you know, I made
a mistake, but I can't change it. It's just heartbreaking,
and I just try to cope day by day, and
I have a strong relationship with God and my friend,
and you know, I'm grateful for the really relationship I
(05:03):
have with my other son, and I just try to
have good days, but it's you know, at night, it's
quiet and my heart breaks, and I think about him
a lot and just wonder if you know, we'll ever
be able to reconnect.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Yeah, it's just it's one of those shocking things in life.
You know, like you never never, never ever would ever
expect it to happen. And I think, honestly, if I
didn't have a relationship with God in faith, I would
never be able to function. Because he and I were
very very close. He was my firstborn, and you know,
(05:42):
like I said, we were always very close. And he
used to come over and give me big hugs every
time he'd come home. And you know that's something I
really missed him, you know, running in the door and
just coming up to me and just giving me these
bear hugs because he was a wrestler. He was really strong, and.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Him, I know you do. And I know that the
daughter in law that you had envisioned and prayed for
and looked forward to spending time with and going on
outings and shopping and camping trips and to get a
massage together, I know you missed that. I know you
had planned a completely different life for yourself and your
(06:29):
son and his future family. And he was bewitched, and
he is bewitched, and he is being manipulated by somebody
who does not will not share his love and affection.
And there's nothing you can do but pray.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
And I could see that in her because I remember
asking him, Hey, are you going to go camping with
so and so this guy friend that he had at
one point, and you know, the two of them were together,
him and her, and she just gave him a look
across the room like I don't think so, And I
was like, what's that look for? And she goes, oh,
(07:09):
let's just say I don't care for so and so.
And I'm like, well, like, I met this kid, so
I'm thinking, you know, if he passes my judgment, like,
then what's wrong with him? I'm like, if I like him,
then I don't see why, you know, you wouldn't like him.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
And she doesn't like anybody who her husband loves. She
does not and will not like anyone or accept anyone
that her husband loves. And there's nothing you can do,
(07:46):
so don't.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Yeah, she saw that that we were very close, and
I mean she she knew that. Everybody, everybody knew that,
and she's turned him against me, Like it's evil that
the the things that he has said, it sounds like
it's got to be coming from her, Like he wrote
me a letter in these things, He's never.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
No, he didn't, he did not write you a letter.
I promise you. He did not write you a letter.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
Yeah, I mean it was just like where is this
stuff coming from? All these years? You know, like just
before all that, like the year prior, he was saying
how he wanted us all to live on this big
piece of land, and you know, have his family all
spread apart on this big piece of land like he
said us the year before. And I'm I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
She just.
Speaker 2 (08:35):
Really changed him a lot. And aside from that, she
has a very very very very very wealthy, affluent family,
and I think the money thing kind of appealed to him,
and her family's also the same way.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
No, it didn't. It's it has nothing to do with money.
It has nothing to do with her family. It has
everything to do with He has a very young and
tender heart. And she was very sexy and very seductive
and very manipulative. And he did not have any experience.
He had not been round the block three times, maybe four.
(09:14):
And she caught the fish she wanted. She reeled him in,
she ain't gonna let go, she ain't gonna put him
back in the stream and let him swim ever again.
But you can't take it personally. You cannot spend an
ounce of energy wishing for something that isn't because it is.
(09:37):
And here's the thing. You said, you wouldn't have made
it through this without your faith in God. Right, Nope,
So does God ever make mistakes?
Speaker 2 (09:48):
No, he doesn't, he doesn't.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
Could he have prevented them getting together and getting married,
of course, and he chose not to intervene. Therefore he
is in control. And there is a reason for this union,
whether you like it or not.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
And the sooner you accept that, and the sooner you
start praying for them well and praying for God to
show you the sooner you will have peace.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Yeah, you know. And I was at a place like
six months ago where I felt at peace because I
keep every day I do three things I'm grateful for
since the beginning of the year every day. And I
was looking back on my journal tonight actually, and I
came across it said that I was grateful that I
(10:42):
came to a place of peace over the loss of,
you know, my relationship with my son. And I started
thinking a night like what happened that I don't have
that piece anymore? Like where did it go? Because I
did feel even though I felt the loss, I still
I felt at peace, and I don't know why now
I don't again, but I think I'm just thinking about
(11:06):
the future instead of like the moment right now.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
You got to let go of that. And even if
the moment right now is not what you had envisioned
it to be, you gotta you have to let go
of the vision or the dreams that you had imagined
and embrace what is, even if it wasn't your first
or second or third choice.
Speaker 2 (11:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
And you, yeah, have to pray that God would give
you peace and give you joy and give you an
understanding and take away the heartache.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Yeah, I do. I pray for both of them. I
just I just feel the loss deep inside still, you know.
And I try to be happy every day and grateful,
and you know, I just took a trip to England,
which was fun and something I never imagined I would
(12:05):
ever get an opportunity to do. So, I mean, I
do look at the positive. It's just I do miss
I miss him.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
I know, trust me, I know, yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
I know as a mom, I know you understand.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
That I'm going to play a song for you and
I'm going to say a prayer for you.
Speaker 2 (12:26):
Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as
much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share
more with you each weekday on eight, it's Delilah
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