Are You 'Sledging' Your Partner? The Paradox of Choice and Laura Questioning Her Lifestyle Habits

Hey Lifers!

We had the Australian podcast awards but the real take away in the media is how unhinged Laura is and that she (and I quote) "leaves fans questioning her lifestyle habits".

Britt is having a bit of a mid wedding planning crisis. Actually a big mid wedding crisis.
If you've planned a wedding, did you chop and change your mind on things like your dress in the lead up to your wedding? 
We discuss the paradox of choice and decision fatigue.

It's sledging season! A new term for how people are strung along over the Christmas/New Years period, delaying a break-up or continuing dating someone they know they're not interested in. 
We chat about when "is" the right time to end a relationship around this time and the reasons why so many couples break up around this time of the year.
New Year, New Relationship!

 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
This episode was recorded on Cameragle Land. Hi guys, and
welcome back to another episode of Life on Cut.

Speaker 2 (00:14):
I'm Laura, I'm Brittany.

Speaker 1 (00:16):
I think I'm getting sick.

Speaker 2 (00:17):
Oh no, why work up with a really sore throat
this morning? I mean, I say why, but I know why.
Oh you're at razor blades. That's like COVID. The only
time I've had proper razor blades in my throat was COVID.

Speaker 1 (00:31):
If we don't talk about COVID anymore, do Yeah? But
like people do people care?

Speaker 2 (00:36):
No, they don't. The all the one that brought it up.

Speaker 1 (00:38):
I didn't say the sea word.

Speaker 2 (00:43):
What is going on?

Speaker 3 (00:45):
The thing that worries me about COVID is that you
and I go down like flies.

Speaker 2 (00:49):
Do you remember that time that we got COVID?

Speaker 1 (00:51):
Mitch did too? Somehow, britt scott Free.

Speaker 2 (00:53):
Have you got Laura teacher?

Speaker 1 (00:55):
What's your name?

Speaker 2 (00:56):
You taught me to hospital when I had COVID? What
do you mean I got off Scott Free? You picked
me up and took me to emergency And I was
admitted that.

Speaker 3 (01:02):
Was strange because I didn't get it then, but I
did get at the time that everyone else did.

Speaker 1 (01:06):
Maybe you still had immunity from that.

Speaker 3 (01:08):
But somehow the whole of our team went down like flies,
and you were the one carrying the team.

Speaker 1 (01:14):
And you sailed through.

Speaker 2 (01:15):
Well.

Speaker 1 (01:15):
I don't know what this is, but I work up
this morning and you know when you wake up, it's
always worse in the morning, and you're like, it's coming
for me. But anyway, I'm here, so i' stop complaining.
Happy Monday, everybody.

Speaker 2 (01:25):
You just don't touch me at all, not with shamee,
not with your feet, not with your hands.

Speaker 1 (01:29):
I lipped. I was going to try and make out
with you later. So let's really put a debt or
on my day.

Speaker 2 (01:34):
You do did it on a Monday. You like to
start your week with a high. Okay, we'll get better.

Speaker 1 (01:38):
So last week, you guys might be aware because we
did post it on social media. We shared that we
went to the Australian Podcast Awards. So I posted last
week that we won an award for best team in
the entire World. But everyone thought that that was actually
an award because people keep on congratulating me and I
just want to I really want to clear it up
in case there was any confusion. We didn't win an award,

(01:59):
but if there was one for best team in the
entire world, it's you, guys.

Speaker 2 (02:02):
Well, don't clear that up. That's the kind of rumor
you're happy to let float around.

Speaker 1 (02:05):
This is it? Well done, beautiful ladies. Congratulations so deserving. Well,
we might not have won anything this year, but Tony
and Ryan won the People's Choice Award, and that we
could not be happy if we're going to lose to anyone.

Speaker 2 (02:18):
Tony and Ran.

Speaker 1 (02:18):
Losing to Tony and Ryan is like, it's a treat.
Listen to them on the way here.

Speaker 2 (02:22):
So I put them on my stories saying congratulations, like
I love them. I'm so happy for them. But we
do want to just say thank you to every single
one of you lifers and not lifers maybe life as
partners that voted for us to get in. We did
make it to the top six. Like the finalists of
the Listener's Choice. We have won it three or four
times in the past. I think I can't remember three
or four times. But you guys didn't come through for

(02:43):
us this time, and that's okay. Tony and Ryan did.
It's amazing. It's amazing that we even got there, and
we appreciate every single one of you that voted. It
was really nice to go and sort of mingle with
other people in the industry because we don't often get
to do that.

Speaker 1 (02:55):
Yeah. And also to everyone who started a burner account,
I know every year every year, some of you, you
were so committed.

Speaker 2 (03:01):
And like university accounts.

Speaker 1 (03:03):
Yeah, you don't just vote from your own account. You
vote from all the fake accounts that you've created. And
we're here for it. Like you know, we're okay for
a dirty weight if it comes that way as well.

Speaker 2 (03:11):
Yeah, it doesn't have to be an honest win. I
think there's more interesting things that came out of the
Podcast Awards, like I don't know you're titty.

Speaker 1 (03:17):
Well, yeah, that was the other thing. So I thought, look,
it was a day of comical errors. I was running
late for the awards. I posted that I was like
stuck in an uber on my way home from work,
and then some asshole named Stephen said, why are you
always so unorganized?

Speaker 2 (03:33):
And I know I am. I get it, Steve, And
I would also like to thanks for asking.

Speaker 1 (03:39):
You're not the only one who asked this question, Stephen.
And then I got myself to the Podcast Awards. I
made it. I pulled myself together. I went with a
slicked back hairstyle, which really just takes about three seconds
to do.

Speaker 2 (03:50):
To go to for sure, and I was ready.

Speaker 1 (03:53):
I felt so well put together until we had our
team photos. And then I looked back on those team
photos and in every photo I had my tit out
because my I was wearing like one of those like
stretchy liddy dresses, Lyddy Letty Little Citty, And as soon
as you put your arm above kind of like a
ninety degree angle, the thing just stays, but the tit

(04:14):
goes high.

Speaker 2 (04:14):
No, because you had a Yeah, it's not the dress's fault,
it was your fault. So basically I agree, Lyddy. We
don't know, but I love them. My mom's wearing them
to my wedding.

Speaker 1 (04:26):
I've already picked her wedding dress.

Speaker 2 (04:28):
My mom she has already, she picked it ages ago.
But she's wearing one of their outfits, which is really cute. No,
it's because it's like satin. And then you had a
stick on thing on that's like a slippery satin thing too,
so it's like two slippery seals sliding on each other.
So when you lift an arm up, it shoots right down.
I am.

Speaker 1 (04:42):
I'm a big fan of a stick on bra, Like,
I really like them. I find them comfortable, I find
them surprisingly supportive for these little iaty bitty titties, and
I wear them often, Like I don't. You never wear them.

Speaker 2 (04:53):
I freeboob. I barely wear a bra. No, I don't
hate bras.

Speaker 3 (04:57):
My bras have to have four to five clips at
the back. Yeah, see, I don't need that.

Speaker 1 (05:03):
Mine's more a case of, like I just I need
nipple coverage these days more than anything else, you know,
So that's kind of more what the point of them are. Anyway.
So I had my stick on bra arm out and
then I looked back on the photos and they were
gorgeous photos of the team and I was like, well,
I want to post one, so I'll just embrace it.
And I did, and I posted the fact that I,
you know, am a hot mess and I'm okay with it.

Speaker 2 (05:25):
Yeah, you posted the photo of like the stick on
bra coming out, and you can see it you look
banging Otherwise. I don't think it's a big deal. But
you owned it. These photos didn't get out because of
the media. They got out because you posted it on
your own page.

Speaker 1 (05:37):
Yes, I owned the hot mess nours what I didn't
own and what was truly an unexpected follow on from
This is why the Australian media cares because, like, to me,
a little bit of a wardrobe malfunctioned. Funny, we all laughed, hahaha,
Laura hot mess. Stephen won't like this. But for some reason,
this post of me with a little bit of like
a chicken filet stick on bra went so stupidly viral

(06:00):
over the weekend that I kept getting sent articles and
they were all from different publications. I'm talking sky News,
I'm talking news dot Com, I'm talking which Daily Mail.
I mean, we expect that, but Sky News and this
is the type of headline that was written Ozzie influencer
Laura Burn's embarrassing wardrobe malfunction. Lee's fans questioning her lifestyle habits?

Speaker 2 (06:20):
What were they questioning?

Speaker 1 (06:22):
It's like I'm rolling around in a caravan full of
seventy two dirty nappies, like, what are my lifestyle habits?

Speaker 2 (06:27):
What are they? What are they genuinely questioning? I don't
know what's the question that Sky News is asking.

Speaker 1 (06:33):
I think that my my fans questioning why I'm such
a fucking hot mess.

Speaker 2 (06:38):
But your real fans know why your real fans aren't
questioning anything.

Speaker 1 (06:44):
Also, news dot com reached out from a quote that
I got an email, Please can you comment on your
chicken fill it? News dot com emailed me directly and
they said, Hi, Laura, would you like to give a statement.
We're running an article about your wardrobe malfunction and how
it's upset some fans.

Speaker 4 (07:01):
And I was like, what fantst to sky dot com
his news s doot com influences outfit mishap exposes embarrassing problem.

Speaker 2 (07:14):
What's the problem and why is it embarrassing?

Speaker 1 (07:17):
I'm embarrassed to be me too.

Speaker 2 (07:19):
Not it's sometimes right.

Speaker 1 (07:22):
Oh well, well, you know it's nice to kind of
reflect on your wins in life, and I guess that's
one that's going to live for forever.

Speaker 2 (07:27):
No, there's no bad news. Bad publicity is good publicity.

Speaker 1 (07:31):
And we didn't win any actual awards, so at least
we got some, do you know what? Actually was really
quite disappointing though, so like I mean, the podcast awards,
we know that they don't fare in comparison to other
industry events like logis. There's the acres. They're not even
on this the Arias, and then there's the Australian Podcast Awards,
which kind of is like an awards ceremony in a
big community hall, kind of akin to that.

Speaker 2 (07:52):
It was giving like your twelve Girl Scout.

Speaker 1 (07:55):
Yeah, it does like a little a little bit.

Speaker 2 (07:57):
What's it? What's the girl Scout thing?

Speaker 1 (08:00):
Don't think that's a role. That's a gang simpool, isn't it?

Speaker 2 (08:03):
That's rock and roll?

Speaker 1 (08:04):
Is it?

Speaker 2 (08:05):
Two fingers?

Speaker 1 (08:07):
I don't know, brit what did you do in Girl Scouts?

Speaker 2 (08:13):
What did you do in Girl Scouts?

Speaker 5 (08:15):
No?

Speaker 1 (08:15):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (08:16):
You weren't a girl Scout?

Speaker 3 (08:17):
Were you?

Speaker 1 (08:17):
I was, though I don't remember any of it, suppressed
those memories. All I remember is going to Gumnuts and
having to clean toilets, and I was like, this doesn't
seem fair. It seems like child labor. Yeah, clean the toilet,
Yeah I did. I did Gumnuts and Girl Scouts and
you'd have to go away or like the most people.

Speaker 2 (08:33):
Go out and learn how to try, not you don't
clean the toilet.

Speaker 1 (08:36):
We got sent on like this girl Scout in Woollongong
where I grew up. So Gumnuts is like for the
little kids, and then Girl Scouts you're a bit older.
The most seed in memory from that time of my
life was going away on Girl Scout camp and all
of us staying in this big camp hall, which is
like up in Mount Kira, up in the Green wilderness.

Speaker 2 (08:54):
That's where you just ash.

Speaker 1 (08:59):
With comfalls guys. We drove straight past the Scout Horn.
As we were driving up the hill, my sister and
I were like, oh, wow, that's where we clean toilets.
I remember cleaning toilets there.

Speaker 2 (09:11):
Something has gone so amiss if you look back quote
unquote fondly of your childhood memories at the gum Nuts
and all you can remember is cleaning the toilet.

Speaker 1 (09:20):
No, no, they're not fond memories. I didn't say that. I
do also remember making that, you know, when you'd get
like a doughnut piece of cardboard and you had wool,
and you would wrap the wool around the doughnut piece
of cardboard, and then once it got so fat that
you couldn't fit the wool inside anymore, you cut around
the edges and it turned into a pomp pomp. I
remember making one of those real life high life and

(09:43):
also door knocking with Girl Scout cookies, which now you
couldn't do anymore.

Speaker 2 (09:47):
We were doing taekwondo and stuff. We were like doing
martial arts and learning to tie knots in trees and stuff.
We were like, real, I'm pretty sure I had a
Swiss army knife.

Speaker 1 (09:56):
Wow. I don't know if the Woo and Gone Girl
Scouts back in the eighties was top notch or not.
I'm sure it's better now. I don't want anyone from
the Girl Scout community to come for me. No, you guys,
I'm sure we're doing great things now. How do we
even get here? What were we talking about podcast awards?

Speaker 2 (10:09):
Oh? I was giving Girl Scout hold.

Speaker 1 (10:11):
The only thing I wanted to say about the podcast
awards was only articles that I have seen be written.
Is my ten out?

Speaker 2 (10:18):
Why don't you want me? I think because in general, podcasting.

Speaker 3 (10:26):
And I don't agree with this obviously, I mean, I've
got skin in the game, but I don't think it's
as respected as a medium for media as what other
TV and radio are, which is really funny to me
because I think the most creative and talented. Obviously this
is a little bias, but I think that people in
the podcasting industry are like elite in those fields. Also,

(10:46):
I want to reflect on how much we have evolved,
because four years ago, Laura and I did say this
to you on the night as we were going home.

Speaker 1 (10:53):
It was relatively early.

Speaker 3 (10:54):
When we left the podcast Awards this year, we were
both sober, and I said, Laura, I want to take
this time for us to reflect and think about four
years ago when both of us got so drunk that
you couldn't come to work the next day and I
slept with a strange arm threw up.

Speaker 1 (11:07):
In my bathtop.

Speaker 2 (11:09):
Yeah, and guess who had to carry us again?

Speaker 1 (11:11):
So me, Brittany, I had to do.

Speaker 2 (11:14):
I had to get up the next day because you
guys were so sick and vomiting me.

Speaker 3 (11:17):
You groom there to be fair, I got to your house.
I just wasn't there in spirit.

Speaker 2 (11:22):
I had a solo interview with some random old man
and I was like, I don't know enough about you
right now.

Speaker 1 (11:28):
Brittany did have to take one for the team. You
were the camel of that day. You just carried it.
You carried it on those humps.

Speaker 2 (11:34):
I was the only one that didn't hump.

Speaker 1 (11:35):
I also didn't hump. No, that was look four years ago.
Podcast towards were a different story. It was also Keisha's
very first year with us, and I was a bit excited,
but I was also excited. I just finished breastfeeding Lola,
and I had forgotten where the limit was. It's you know,
you've got to like reacquaint yourself with what it's like
when you go back to drinking post breastfeeding. I was
so unwell. Anyway, you did go and do that interview

(11:58):
on your own.

Speaker 2 (11:59):
Yes, you both left me high and right.

Speaker 1 (12:01):
It was like, it was great. It was the best
interview we've ever done. Don't you have some news about
your wedding dress.

Speaker 2 (12:05):
The other night, I was in bed, I was drifting
off to sleep and then sat bolt upright, eyes open,
and was like, I need to change my wedding dress,
which is already in production. I wasn't thinking about it.
It must have been this like subliminal because I didn't
go to bed thinking about my dress. It's just like
something hit me. While I was sending unconscious sat up
was like, you need to change my dress, but I
don't know what to. I just know that it's not right.

(12:28):
And I messaged my designer and I was like, I
need to come in. I was like, stop the press,
stop the congre production line. I need to come in
and try something different. I don't know. I think it's
leaning into because I don't know what I want to
change it to and I don't know why. I just
know I need to change it. But I think it's
leaning into. I figured it out just yesterday with an

(12:49):
argument that I had with Ben. I have decision fatigue.
Have you ever had to make so many decisions? And
maybe it's because I'm making decisions on my own, not
with Ben. In every aspect of life. So there's like business,
there's some personal things that I'm doing that that are
like really taking a lot of time and energy. There's
the work, there's the wedding. There's trying to go to
see Ben for holidays, there's next year. There's so much shit.

(13:11):
I had a little mini like moment breakdown yesterday to
Ben where I was like, stop asking me questions. I
was like, I don't want to make another decision. I
was like, you plan, you decide, and we're even trying
to just like book a hotel for a holiday over Christmas.
I gave him the job.

Speaker 1 (13:25):
I was like, book the hotel, and then he sent
you like fifty different places and was like, which one
of these do you think looks good? You're like, that's
still me making the decision. He says, dwindled that left out.

Speaker 2 (13:33):
He sent me on with a basketball court.

Speaker 1 (13:35):
He's like, this is for you, Hooper's because you're a baller.

Speaker 2 (13:37):
No, but that's exactly what he did. I was like,
please just make the decision. You know, I've given you
the dates, you know where we're going, Like, just make it.
So Then two minutes later I get a message back
Superior room or Junior Sweet. I'm like, fuck, I don't
want to make it anymore. I think that's where I'm
at because I feel like I'm single. And I know
that's a weird thing to say, but I live a

(13:57):
single life. Like I know, I have a fiance, but
he's not with me every day. He doesn't make the decisions,
he doesn't do anything like I live my life for
the last ten twelve years as a single person and
I don't want to do it anymore. But I don't
know what to do. You're like that, that's.

Speaker 1 (14:12):
Well, I just want to go back to the dress quickly,
therapy session help. I want it to be known I'm
not qualified for this. No, I totally understand that. I
think decision fatigue is a very very big thing, and
I think when you're in a situation, No, it doesn't
just it's not just when you feel as though you're
doing it because you're single, but when you're in a
relationship and you're the one that's having to do all

(14:33):
of the mental load.

Speaker 2 (14:34):
Yeah, imagine mums a lot to do.

Speaker 1 (14:36):
And that's kind of where my brain goes to. But
it's not just something that mums especially you know, suffer
with and I have to go through. I think if
you're constantly making decisions and those decisions also affect and
benefit everybody else around you, Like, it's such a load
that you have to carry. So it's understandable that you
get to a point. But I think it's important to identify, Okay,
is it because I've got decision fatigue? Or is it

(14:56):
because I actually don't like my dress? Like they're two
very different things and we've we've got on a journey.

Speaker 2 (15:02):
How did you when you were picking your dress? Was
it just like this is my dress? Then you didn't
think about it again? Because I don't know if I'm
overthinking it now.

Speaker 1 (15:09):
No, I think it's normal. I mean I put into
perspective also us during this renovation. I lay it awake
at nighttime thinking about changing colors of tiles, or colors
of paint or colors. I think any time that you
make a decision and you can't clearly see what the
outcome's going to be, there's an inherent amount of risk there, right,
especially when you're designing a dress that no one's ever
seen before, it's never been created, so then you're thinking, Okay, well,

(15:31):
what if I've made the wrong decision. There's so much
doubt that goes into it. Like I think, it's a
normal part of the process. There's actually a name for this.

Speaker 3 (15:37):
It's the paradox of choice presented with too many choices
that it actually kind of impairs your ability to make one, so.

Speaker 2 (15:44):
You just don't.

Speaker 3 (15:45):
This is actually could maybe put this into place. If
your designer comes to you with six stress choices and
you only have those six to pick from, you'll be
able to pick one, and you'll probably feel quite content
with that decision because you've picked your favorite of the six. Yeah,
but I'm designed, yes, yeah, and maybe that's the issue.
You also have access to Instagram that has thousands of
dresses and so you've got all these choices that you

(16:08):
you know, because you have the flexibility to do what
you want, you're paralyzed by too many choices.

Speaker 2 (16:14):
Also got nipple tassels and everything.

Speaker 1 (16:17):
But that's the party outfit afterwards, right, So have you
actually paused it? Are you going to change anything about it?
Or are you just having no I'm changing it? Yes,
well I'm trying. I spoke to my designer.

Speaker 2 (16:28):
I said, look, this is the part that I don't
think I'm happy with that. I'm thinking because it's not
the whole dress, it's one aspect of it. It's just
the nipple tassels. I'm like, do I remove them or not?
He's like, we can, but I love what you've picked.
The way we have designed it, I think is perfect.
That's as a designer, He's like, but it's your We
can talk about other things as a still dress. But
then it's hard because he's the professional, and I think, God,

(16:49):
do I trust him or do I? Anyway, I'm going
to go back in, put on the little Caligo thing
and see how I feel.

Speaker 3 (16:55):
Also, Laura and I would be able to help you
with this decision if you were willing to share what
the dress looked.

Speaker 2 (16:59):
Like, Okay, you actually I'm gonna double down on that.
Keisha made me realize that on the weekend that my
choice that I made to not include you guys, and
not not include you but not give anyone's opinion. And
this is exactly why, Right, Kisha, what did you do?

Speaker 1 (17:12):
Why did you make it worse?

Speaker 3 (17:13):
She asked for my honest opinion and my honest reaction,
and I gave it.

Speaker 2 (17:16):
This is maybe I should have faked it not to
the dress. Hang on, I'll explain Laura, because I can
see Laura's brain ticking over. So this is why I
think it's important for these kind of things, when it's
something that's important to you, not to have too many
voices because it would send you into a spiral. Right,
So I made the mistake of saying to Keisha on
the weekend, I found an aisle that I like for
the wedding, but I'm not sure about it. My immediate

(17:39):
My immediate thought was like, I love that it's different,
but I love it something about it? Can I show
you and give me your immediate reaction? Now, this is
my fault because I asked her, So I showed her.
She set silence, radio silence, crickets and she looks up.
She's like, so a no from me.

Speaker 1 (17:57):
She asked for my honest feeble.

Speaker 2 (17:58):
Then's my wedding aisle. And now I'm like, well now
I can't have it.

Speaker 1 (18:03):
I recommend organizing a wedding in six weeks. It makes
your decision making real snappy and you don't have a
chance to second guess anything.

Speaker 2 (18:09):
Yeah, you almost don't have a chair, you know, well,
you know.

Speaker 1 (18:12):
Yes, and everyone sat on those chairs and they look beautiful.
You you should be grateful.

Speaker 2 (18:18):
It is that time of year again where I feel
like we're a couple of weeks out from the silly season.
Christmas is coming, New Year's is coming.

Speaker 1 (18:24):
It's Black Friday. Everyone's in it.

Speaker 2 (18:26):
Is that a quick little plug Black Friday?

Speaker 1 (18:28):
Every Black Fridays started, No, but it is. I think
Black Friday is now the identifier that Christmas is here
because everyone's doing their Christmas shopping.

Speaker 2 (18:37):
Okay, that's not what I was gonna say, but if
you want to go Black Friday's shopping years I was
saying that it's that time of year again where we
come up with a new dating term, like they.

Speaker 1 (18:45):
Pop up out of nowhere. All the time.

Speaker 2 (18:46):
They really do. And I'm like, who's who is making
this up? Like who was sat down and thought like
is it Ai?

Speaker 1 (18:52):
That's the gen Zettters. They're the ones that come up
with all the new terms. Keisha just wrote down one
and she was like, everyone knows it's coughing season, and
I was like, the fuck just mean I'm a sex
in Relationships podcast, so I don't even know what these
things mean anymore.

Speaker 2 (19:04):
I knew what cuffing is.

Speaker 1 (19:05):
So if you didn't know what cuffing is because you're
an old boomer like me, Coffing is when you settle
down with someone and you get coupled up for this
summer or for the winter.

Speaker 2 (19:14):
What's usually winter? They say winter. It was an American
term originally because people are cold and they might not
have heating. They want a goddle on the lounge.

Speaker 1 (19:22):
It's when everyone is like single, ready to mingle for
summer time, but everyone gets coupled up for the winter
so that they can be warm and watch movie marathons.
Bear and Bone, Okay, well the popcorn.

Speaker 2 (19:32):
The new term is called sledging. It's sledging is where
you purposely drag someone along, So think of a sledge
in the winter. It's like you're dragging a little kid
along on a sledge. Well, that's what this term is.
It's saying that someone is intentionally delaying a breakup to
get through a season. So it's maybe delaying it to
get through Christmas, to get through the New Year period,

(19:53):
like hanging onto something that should be well gone.

Speaker 1 (19:55):
Now, we came across this as a new dating term
because there's a couple of articles that have come out
talking about how it's a red flag in dating. Obviously,
the person's going to break up with you a bit
of a red flag that things aren't good. But I
think it's an interesting one. And the reason for that
is is because I don't think it makes you a
bad person if you are not sure when or how
to break up with someone around this period, Like we

(20:16):
know that this is the time of year when breakups
are high. A lot of people go through the transition
of like wanting something different for their life. I also
think the fact that New Year's is coming and it's
a real time for self reflection means that there's just
more breakups. In general. People are also wanting to be
out and be like in the summertime enjoying their single
best life. But it is a really hard time for

(20:37):
breakups if you find yourself unhappy in your relationship. It's
really hard to figure out when is the most appropriate
time to break up with someone, because you don't want
to do it too close to Christmas, you don't want
to do it in between that weird purgatory time between
Christmas and New Years, and then you don't want to
do it too soon after New Years. Like, everyone has
a different barometer as to when is or isn't acceptable breakometer, breakometer.

Speaker 2 (20:59):
Yeah, So here are some stats. This is all by
the dating app Happen. So fifteen percent of singles from
eighteen to twenty five continued to keep dating the same
person of Christmas even though they didn't fancy them. Fifteen
percent of gen Z have wanted to break up with
their partner for some time but decided to wait until
after Christmas in New Years, and seventy five percent of
these people made the decision to split in November but

(21:22):
delayed it until after New Years. So that's a big
time period, Like if you've decided in November, but you
need to wait till January, which I think is interesting
because for me personally, I would probably think maybe the
first of December for me would be the cutoff. Like
I think anything sooner than that, I'd probably just get
through the season.

Speaker 1 (21:41):
But it depends on the type of person, right, Like
anyone who has been through a significant breakup where you've
been with the person for a long time, you've made
a really conscious decision that you no longer want to
be in a relationship. It is a really hard thing
to break up with someone, to hurt their feelings to
you know, dismantle your lives together. And so I don't
think it makes you a shitty person if it takes

(22:03):
you several weeks to get to that point, because also,
what are you going to do if you're living with them,
You're going to move out, You're going to try and
like find a new rental. Like, there are so many
other aspects of this time of year that make it
really challenging. So I don't think it's just an idea
of like do you want to be alone? How do
you navigate the Christmas period with your families or like
your you know, your spouse's family. I think there's so
many more layers to it that make this particular time

(22:26):
of year one more common for breakups to happen, but
also a really really tricky time to navigate them when
they do.

Speaker 2 (22:32):
I'm glad you brought that up, Laura, because I have
the top reasons for sledging. Sixty percent have said it's
just to have someone to have sex with over the
holiday season, like they don't want to be dry that
I mean, it's a step forty percent to avoid feeling
lonely in this magical time of year, thirty percent to
avoid answering questions about being single, you know when you
go back to the Christmas families and you're like, fuck off,

(22:53):
jan I don't want to talk about why I'm single.
And twenty percent to have someone to bring to the
Christmas and News party. So they're the main reasons that
people are sledging the whole to their relationships.

Speaker 1 (23:03):
I just don't agree. I mean, I think it's a
very simplified breakdown as too, and a really selfish breakdown
as to why people do this. There are so many
more nuanced explanations as to why someone would hold onto
a relationship at this time a year. Yeah, and a
lot of it is because they just don't want to
hurt the other person and feeling as though you're doing
it so close to Christmas. It's like, I don't want
to ruin their Christmas. I don't want to ruin this

(23:24):
time of year that's meant to be important to them.
So I'm going to do it in the new year
when things feel a little bit more like I have.
You know, there's less things that we have to show
up for, like that have a little bit more control
over what that's going to look like.

Speaker 2 (23:35):
I just think people put in the two hard basket,
Like the last thing you want to do at Christmas
time is go through a breakup. I've been in this
situation before, and I think it's been more about the
fact that I didn't want to have those really low
feelings and I didn't want to make someone else have
those low feelings over a really happy time, like what's
supposed to be happy time with your family. Like if
you've just been dumped, even if you haven't been dumped,

(23:56):
even if you're the dumper, you still feel shitty, right,
Like most most people still feel sad that their relationship's over.
Some people might not, But if you've just been dumped
at Christmas time, it's all you can think about, like
you are so upset and so sad, you don't know
what direction in your life is going to take, You
don't know why you might not have closure. I think
it's pretty in a way, and I'd hate to say this,

(24:19):
but it's almost a little bit selfish to implement that
pain on someone if it wasn't one hundred percent necessary,
Like if you've been with someone for a long time
and it's not the end of the world to let
them have a nice holiday season with their family and
then get through dump them in January. I think that's okay.
People will disagree with me.

Speaker 1 (24:34):
It's funny because I think any other time of year
you would say, don't string someone along, but this time
of year it seems to have slightly different rules. I
think it's easy, and I know I said at the
very start, it's very easy to villainize someone who is
the breakup ber. It's very easy to think that there
is like really selfish motives around it. But often and
I know this because I, like, you know, I have
experiences myself, and I have friends who have gone through this,

(24:56):
Like it can take someone a really long time to
build up the courage to do the breaking up because
they know how much hurt it's going to cause, and
they're not doing it because they don't love the person
or care about them anymore, or because they want to
inflict that type of pain on them. So it is
such a considered and drawn out process for some people.
I know other people can discard people's feelings as though

(25:16):
they mean nothing, But I think normal, non psychopathic people
who are just trying to navigate good relationships aren't doing
it to inflict hurt on people, you know, and it
causes them pain as well. We did a very quick
poll on Life on Cut went to the Brain's Trust
to ask what do you think would be the kindest
time frame pre or post Christmas for breakups? Seventy percent

(25:37):
of you said that one month before. So now, if
you're considering breaking up with someone, now is the ideal
time to do it.

Speaker 2 (25:44):
Now's the cutoff?

Speaker 1 (25:45):
Now, is it? And that's why we're talking about it.
If because you're home, break up with your lover today,
don't wait another day because you're wasting time, say, Life
on Cut said, seventy percent of you said one month
is acceptable now. Only eight percent of you said that
two weeks is acceptable before Christmas two percent of you

(26:05):
said one week was acceptable before Christmas.

Speaker 2 (26:08):
Mate, that's rough. That is rough to be dumped a
week before a week before Christmas. And I think if
it's a normal relationship, like and I want to preface
all these conversations are basically around the fact of an
amicable breakup, like nothing's happened, because if someone's cheated on
you or someone's sorry, fuck with You're gonna dump them,
whether it's an hour before Christmas. This is based off

(26:28):
the fact of like, Okay, maybe our relationships run its course,
but I'll drag them along a little bit longer.

Speaker 1 (26:33):
Well, there is another start in here. So twenty one
percent of you said after New Year's is the preferred
time to break up with someone. So the two highest
was one month before or after New Year's happens, which
I think if you are at a point in your
relationship now where you're thinking about it now, is probably
the preferred time because it also means that you don't
have to go into New Year's holding onto something that

(26:55):
you don't want, you know, and holding onto a relationship
that you know has run its course, because I think
that then you run the risk of it turning into
something that feels really resentful and you're stuck spending time
with someone, or you're stuck giving someone to kiss it
bloody New Years, when you're like in your head thinking,
oh my god, I have to break up with this
person in two weeks, and this is just a horrible
experience for me.

Speaker 2 (27:15):
If I was in that situation and I was about
to be dumped, my partner was going to dump me,
and they could have dumped me a week or two
before Christmas, or just faked it for it and held
on for an extra couple of weeks and dumped me
in jan. I would take being dumped in Jan. I
know every part of our core. We would usually say
it's best to know and best to know your worth
and all of that stuff. But if it's a difference
when you're a week before Christmas, nothing bad has happened,

(27:39):
You just know your relationships run its course, and someone
dumped me, I would have been like bro a couple
more weeks, same way I felt same way at present,
at least same way I feel about the Honey Badger.
I was like, mate, just just lock me down for
a week and break up with me off air. I
was like, why would you break up with me live
on TV.

Speaker 1 (27:56):
You actually would have preferred you would have for him
to have said that he wanted to be with you
on the show and then a couple of weeks later,
dum't you.

Speaker 2 (28:05):
Yep, you would have preferred that. Not Now, hindsight's a
wonderful thing. At the time, I remember saying and thinking,
like to my friends and stuff. I was like, wouldn't
you just but that was more about giving you to
go off and not just like faking it if he
absolutely was like I can't stand on the girl she
gives me to it cool whatever. To be clear, that's
not where he's at.

Speaker 1 (28:26):
He's like, I can't He's like, I can't stand a
single day of being with you in the real world.

Speaker 2 (28:30):
I'd rather know, Laura. I don't have to imagine that
was it. That was it. He would rather never see
me again than trifle one day.

Speaker 1 (28:40):
Yes, it's only funny now because you're happy it wasn't
funny a year ago.

Speaker 2 (28:45):
Am I laughing? Is this my laughy face? Remind me?
At the time, I was absolutely like, give it a go,
like one day or even even if. And I remember saying,
and I hate that I sat up, But I remember saying,
and if you didn't like me, don't let me be
the first person in the world to not be good
enough to even have one day in the real world.

Speaker 1 (29:06):
Oh no, it's not true because then you kind of
like discount Sophie and all of that as well, Like,
you know, it wasn't just you he dumped, He dumbe
two people that he didn't want to give a go
in the real world.

Speaker 2 (29:14):
Yes, but I'm saying it's never happened on any other
series ever. Everyone I felt embarrassed and I would I
was like, just hang on, yes, just hang on to
me a little bit longer. But obviously hindsight's a wonderful
thing that happens the best way he could have. But
I just think if you're in that situation and you're
that close, a week is too close. But I did
ask my audience.

Speaker 1 (29:33):
You're also like, no hard feelings. It's only been six years.
But I'm fine, everything's fine. I'm sorry for it. Oh.
I couldn't give a fuck. I could not care this.
I couldn't give fuck. I mean fuck you, I mean
I couldn't give a fuck.

Speaker 2 (29:42):
I'm still not laughing.

Speaker 1 (29:44):
I don't care who cares for me?

Speaker 2 (29:46):
It's easy for the person to that won the Bachelor
and had two kids and got married to laugh, isn't it.

Speaker 1 (29:50):
And he told me, what a giggle?

Speaker 2 (29:53):
Yeah, watch my finale of the Bachelor. Great, thanks, Laura.

Speaker 1 (29:55):
Maybe we should one day no life that exercise. We
could all have like a sleepover party and watch the
finales together.

Speaker 2 (30:04):
I will say, yes, that had a very different experience
for you and Brits.

Speaker 1 (30:08):
We can all laugh and how absurd the whole thing was.
I tried to show the girls once the finale of
Matt and I and Mally was so overcome that she
would not stop crying, and she cried for an entire hour.

Speaker 2 (30:19):
She just sounds similar.

Speaker 1 (30:22):
And then she said, she said, Mommy, no one's ever
gonna love me like that. And I was like, you've
watched way too much TV for a five year old.

Speaker 3 (30:29):
Wow, she starts mentioning her journey or being here for
the right reason.

Speaker 1 (30:32):
I think she was upset because, like, because she's always
been this God this is a real sick way. She's
always thought that like our wedding was our wedding, like
as a family, like she thought we got married together.
And so then I this was the first time that
she'd realized that we had a relationship before she was born,
and she had always said, like, I married my daddy,
and so she's also like married too. And then I

(30:53):
think she put into perspective that actually, yeah, she felt
cheated on.

Speaker 2 (30:59):
The did Dirtie Matt.

Speaker 1 (31:00):
Is the first person to betray her. Now she knows
what it's like.

Speaker 2 (31:03):
You have to set them up young for life.

Speaker 1 (31:07):
It's going to.

Speaker 2 (31:07):
Happen to her. She's gonna be shout on maybe literally,
maybe it's coming.

Speaker 1 (31:11):
It's coming. Pachologically, you always wonder how you're gonna traumatize
your children. I didn't think the Bachelor was going to
traumatize them. They traumatized me life.

Speaker 2 (31:18):
Before her like her pre preconception.

Speaker 1 (31:22):
I traumatized my children before they were even born.

Speaker 2 (31:25):
Why she's going to grow up with so much trauma?
She's like, I was cheated on before I was even
conceived by my dad.

Speaker 1 (31:31):
That's so weird.

Speaker 2 (31:33):
How did we get here?

Speaker 1 (31:34):
They?

Speaker 2 (31:35):
Okay, we did have some responses from the lifers. I
broke up with my boyfriend on Wednesday, so a month
at least. My ex boyfriend of four years broke up
with me two days before Christmas. What a cock, but
he wanted us to pretend to still be together, so
we didn't ruin Christmas Browns families. Oh I'm sorry, bro,
you ruined it.

Speaker 1 (31:53):
No, you can't. If they break up with you two
days before Christmas, you're not putting on an act just
to save their face.

Speaker 2 (31:58):
But also, just just you pretend, don't tell her break
up with her in a couple of days. Yeah, one
pretender is easier than too.

Speaker 1 (32:05):
You can't do that. Another person wrote in saying there
is never a good time for breakup, so I just
say go for it. Because I got dumped on Christmas Day,
Well what does she do? And it was not a
pleasant experience. We decided to give our relationship another chance
three days later, but we ended up breaking up again
on New Year's Eve. We were camping at Seal Rocks
when he left me there and told me that he

(32:26):
was no longer in love with me. However, you know what,
it turned out that it was the best painful gift
he could have given me.

Speaker 2 (32:33):
Hang on, he just left you there.

Speaker 1 (32:35):
He just left her there at Seal Rocks. See that's
rough because there's no phone reception there. Yeah, you can't
just get straight back on Tinder and start swiping this
other person.

Speaker 2 (32:43):
I think it's about that. I think it's about actually
having access to leave this.

Speaker 1 (32:46):
Other person wrote, my partner broke up with me two
days before Christmas. He was an asshole. There is a
sentiment that if you leave it too close to a
really important day like Christmas or New Year's then that
is more selfish. It's like you've done it to get
it over with so that you could then enjoy the day. Right.
I think that the closer you leave it to something
that's like a huge milestone like Christmas or New Years,
there is a selfishness that's attached if you've had time

(33:09):
to plan it out better, but then you got so
close and pushed up to that deadline that you were like,
oh fuck, Christmas is in two days and I don't
want you there with my family. That's the shitty move.

Speaker 2 (33:18):
We'll talk about planning and not planning. I asked on Instagram.
I did my own market research, my own poll about
how many people have reached New Year's Eve? So it's
not planned. You pit New's Eve. You're at the party,
you're having fun, you're looking forward to the next year,
you're planning what you want. You're thinking of your resolutions,
what I want from life, what I want from a relationship,
and you have the moment on New Years that your partner,

(33:39):
for whatever reason, is not it and then you break up.
I asked you guys that, and twenty five percent of
people have said they've had that exact moment on New
Year's where they've projected into their future and they're like,
that is not my person. I actually had a friend
that did exactly that last Year's. They had been in
a relationship for seven years. Everything was fine, nothing was wrong,

(34:02):
and she said, twelve o'clock struck and everyone went and
had their kiss. And she looked over at her partner
and she said, I don't know what happened. She's like,
I don't think I want to have that Newye's kiss.
So she did it anyway. She went and kissed him,
and then in that moment she was like, this is
not it anymore and broke up with the next.

Speaker 1 (34:19):
Day, she got the ick. He turned into a pumpkin.

Speaker 2 (34:21):
On you as the clock struck twelve.

Speaker 1 (34:23):
She got the ick.

Speaker 2 (34:24):
Yeah, this other life, I wrote in I split up
with my eight year long partner, two houses, two dogs
on Year's day after going to a New Year's Eve
celebration the night before. We had been inseparable for eight years.
But then I just realized it's not it and if
I don't do it now, it'll never happen. Fast forward
three years. I'm now married and have a house with

(34:45):
my husband and a two year old and my ex
is now gay. So everyone won Wow, maybe she knew.

Speaker 1 (34:51):
Yeah, look, there's probably some telltale signs. I even think, Well,
I don't know. I we've all seen that episode of
More episode the movie Broke Back Out in where he's
trying flip a Okay.

Speaker 2 (35:01):
I haven't, am I the only person in the world.
I haven't seen break Back Mountain.

Speaker 1 (35:04):
Oh, so there's a really famous scene and Broke Back Mountain.
He's married to Michelle Bridges to Brittany, I didn't mean that.
Michelle Williams to Michelle Williams. He's married to Michelle Williams,
and he keeps trying to like flipper over the door
from behind, but well, who knows or just doggy?

Speaker 2 (35:22):
I think, doggie, Well you watched it, what happened?

Speaker 1 (35:24):
Well I don't. They don't show which hole he's trying
to stick it in. Britt I don't know. You can't tell.

Speaker 2 (35:29):
One goes in easier. You would know, wouldn't you probably
to get into the research to fly. People like to
have these reasons to break up.

Speaker 1 (35:39):
If your partner wants to do you from behind it
it's absolutely not an indication that they're gay. Doesn't break
back mount, it doesn't mean anything. I just it reminded
me of the movie that was All Sorry. So there
are three reasons people tend to break up around New Year's.

Speaker 3 (35:55):
Reason Number one is the new year forces you to
reflect on unexpectations.

Speaker 1 (36:00):
I think that's very obvious though. I think New Year's
is such a it's such a defining benchmark for what
you want in your life. It's a moment to reflect.
It's a moment to kind of look forward and to go, Okay, well,
did last year match up to the expectations that I
had for myself and if it didn't. I think a
big one of those is like the expectations we have
around our relationships and what we want from our partners.

Speaker 2 (36:20):
Yea. And people see it as a fresh start, which
I think is interesting because it's just a day. It's
the same day as every other day of the year,
Like you can start your fresh start at any point,
but we save it up to have to be like
this big, huge deal when we enter the first of
the next year. But at the end of the day,
like have you fresh start whenever if you're in June.

Speaker 1 (36:38):
Yeah, but there is something that's quite special about it though,
like I mean, but dumping on you. No, there's something
quite special about a new year, like it is even
if you say it is just a day. Absolutely, but
at the same time, like opening up a new like
year calendar planner, like everything is fresh. It really does
feel like when you ever opened a calendar. I always
every year, every single year, I get the jumbled day

(37:00):
plan a book, and every single year, by January I've
stopped usey shot shot. Well, that was actually reason three.
So the desire for a fresh start sparks bulb moves.

Speaker 3 (37:11):
But there was one other and it said holiday stresses
highlight relationship weaknesses.

Speaker 1 (37:16):
So I guess all of the you know, it's a
bit of a pressure cooker.

Speaker 3 (37:19):
Family obligations, one person's usually compromising more than the other.
There's financial strains, unexpectations. That was reason number two for
why people seem to break up around New Year's I
think it's also.

Speaker 2 (37:31):
The time that you if you're in maybe a new
relationship too, like just say you've never spent that time together.
It's a pretty telltale sign of what a partner will
be and what they're going to be, what they bring
to the table, how much they do, because it's not
like the rest of the year when you're just churning
through a work week. You're getting home, you're going to
to dinner, you're having drinks, Like when you've got a
couple of weeks off, you're on holidays with people. You've

(37:51):
got a lot of time where you're not working with people,
you're with each other's family. So you get to see
how each other interact with family. Do they pull their weight,
Are they helping with the cooking, or they helping with
the cleaning, Are they wanting to buy presents or whatever
it is. It can be a very eye opening time
for a lot of relationships. So I think a lot
of people like have this moment where they see their
future and they're like, I can't have this person as

(38:13):
my future, Like they're not even showing up for me now.

Speaker 1 (38:16):
I would love to know if you're someone who is
currently either sledging your partner thinking about it, like if
you are no genuinely I know it's a stupid term,
but like if you are currently in a situation where
you're thinking that you know you don't want to be
with them, but you're trying to build out the courage
to break up, and now that we've had this conversation,
you're like, fuck, I got to do it now or
I got to do it in twenty twenty five. I
would love to know, like where it is that you

(38:37):
sit on the spectrum and like what is it that's
holding you back from doing it sooner or rather than later,
Because not everyone, but ninety nine percent of people are
going to go through a bad breakup at some point
in their life.

Speaker 5 (38:45):
Right.

Speaker 1 (38:46):
It's just kind of part and parcel of relationships. But
it is unfortunate the timing of when some of these happen.
So I would love to know from anyone who is
going through this right now and how you plan on
navigating it, and we will report back next week. I've
accidentally unfiltered your most embarrassing stories. If you have an
embarrassing story, that thing that like you just wish you

(39:06):
could fucking forget and never ever ever think of again,
send it to send it to us so we can
all laugh about it together and at you. You know,
it's it's kind of like the one humbling thing is
that we all have an embarrassing story. I think, all right,
my partner and I were going through self checkout and
had enough items that we could carry them without a bag,
or so I thought.

Speaker 2 (39:24):
Now.

Speaker 1 (39:25):
I picked up a few items first, and then I said,
I'm out of hands. He froze. I said it again,
I don't have another hand. Again, he didn't move. I
proceeded to say, loudly multiple times, can you get the
rest because I don't have a spare hand? Lo And behold,
the lady working at the self checkout only had one hand.

Speaker 2 (39:50):
I'm not laughing.

Speaker 1 (39:51):
Well, I mean he could have just picked up the
other pieces. He didn't have to stand there like a
fucking stun mullet.

Speaker 2 (39:55):
Diddy or he said, she's only got one and he's like, yeah,
you and her both. Oh my god, you know what
I just remembered. I think I've told you guys this
years ago, but I had an experience similar to that
when I was working in a hospital. A patient came
into the room and they always get wheeled in in
the bed and I had to get him up to
do some scans and I was like, all right, let's
jump out of bed and he was like no, and

(40:18):
I was like, yeah, come on, because some things are better.
And anyone that works in healthcare knows that you have
to really encourage people to get out of the bed
because sometimes they are just feeling lazy.

Speaker 1 (40:28):
Elderly people.

Speaker 2 (40:29):
Elderly people, yes, because things are better for them when
they stand up, but they will usually fight it, but
you have to get them up. So I was very
encouraging of this person. I was like, come on, we
have to get you up, and he's like, no, I can't.
I'm like, yes, you can, Barry, Like come on, I
know you can because he looked really well, and I
was like, Barry, you can do this. I was believing you, Barry,

(40:49):
I'll stay it on your own two legs. Yes. I
was like, let me get you up. I was like here,
I'll help you. He's like I can't. I was like
you can, and I got his hands and I sat
him up in the bed and I was like, just
swing your legs around and I'll help you stand. So
he whips the blanket off Barry has no legs, none,
not even a prosthesis. I was like, Barry, I'm so sorry. Also,

(41:10):
his name wasn't Barry.

Speaker 1 (41:12):
Indeed, you can't. I.

Speaker 2 (41:14):
I was like, sorry, Barry, thought you've been lazy.

Speaker 1 (41:16):
That's why you don't work in healthcare anymore. Someone gets
wheeled in on a bed with obviously no legs. There's
no lump there, it's a flat flat there and Britney's
land up. You're lazy, preak.

Speaker 2 (41:28):
No, you can't tell. Honestly, if I could tell, I
wouldn't have asked if to stand up, I wouldn't have pulled.
I tried to pull him out of the bed with
his hands. I was like, I'll guide you, Barry, come on,
let me go.

Speaker 1 (41:39):
You did you? Did Barry have a lot? Was he
real smug? Because I would have been. I would have
been like, I got you.

Speaker 5 (41:45):
It was a look where he knew he was about
to mic drop, so he was like playing it up
for sure, Baz, I told you, no, Brittany, you all right,
well suck and sweet?

Speaker 1 (41:55):
What is your suck for the week? Britt I don't
want to do it. Okay, my suck, my sack for
the week is again renovation esque. I think that that's
going to be my suck ongoing for the next few weeks. Now,
we had to do an emergency trip down to a
La Dulla on the weekend, which is not a bad thing.
It's beautiful down there, so lovely egency. It's also my suite, Like,
it's so great going down there for the weekend. But

(42:16):
we went down there because there was a bit of
a drama once again surrounding the tiles. Okay, there was
a drama with the glue and the tiles and the
colors changing, and we drove down there on the weekend.
It's not great, Like, it's still a bit of a suck,
but the problem is going to get solved.

Speaker 2 (42:31):
My favorite thing about this is when you started to
do this, you're like eight weeks we're in. I was like,
eight weeks you will not be in. But I'm not
gonna say that.

Speaker 1 (42:39):
Well, maybe that's my suck then, because we were originally
we had it targeted our brain that we were going
to do Christmas down there, and now we're thinking like April, no.

Speaker 2 (42:45):
Christmas, twenty twenty five, April.

Speaker 1 (42:47):
Is when this renovation will be done. And also, here's
my other suck. So we've gone with the checkerboard everyone.
We've gone single tile. We did a poll, everyone said,
go four tiles. We ignored you all. We went single tiles,
pulled four tiles. Everyone polled. Bit that the mass number
of you it was like eighty twenty, but that twenty
percent we lent it in hard.

Speaker 2 (43:08):
Why do you ask the question if you're going to
ignore it anyway?

Speaker 1 (43:11):
Rage baiting? I think I like to rage bait. I
was having self doubt.

Speaker 4 (43:15):
I was.

Speaker 1 (43:15):
I woke up in the middle of the night in
a frenzy, in a hot sweat. I didn't know and
then I realized I was being crazy and it doesn't matter.
So I just went singles anyway.

Speaker 2 (43:25):
But he had just gone on a real journey with
you this last thirty seconds.

Speaker 1 (43:28):
To hear me out. So we did the singles everyone,
and let me guess you regret it. No, I don't
regret it. I sent photos to Matt's mum. We sent
photos to my mom, to Matt's mom. Matt's mom was like, oh,
looks good. Anyway. We went it out for dinner with
Matt's sister last night after we got back from Ala,
Dalla and Matt sister was like, oh my god, Mom
is freaking the fuck out. I was like, why is

(43:48):
she freaking out? She's like, she thinks it looks bad
and she thinks it looks too busy, and I was like, Ellie,
it does.

Speaker 2 (43:56):
I couldn't focus my eyes on the single. It was
making me go cross eyed. They're too close. The squares
were too close together for me.

Speaker 1 (44:03):
Imagine if we do mushrooms down there and just sit
on the floors, why would we ever do that. I
don't know.

Speaker 5 (44:08):
I might.

Speaker 1 (44:10):
Oh, come, yeah, guys.

Speaker 2 (44:13):
Sorry, I was just trying to be diplomatic on a
national podcast and an illegal drug.

Speaker 1 (44:17):
There's lots of research into psilocybin these days. My sweep
for the week is, I mean, it's a very base sweep,
but I'm going to go with it. It was we've
been down there so much, but we haven't really been
to the beach yet. There's been no time because we've
been so busy worried about the tiles. And we took
the kids down and we had an afternoon down there
and there was not a single person on the beach,

(44:37):
just us. It's just like this massive beach. Guesses the
South Coast is not as populated as Bondai. It's very
different and it was so nice.

Speaker 2 (44:45):
That's wonderful.

Speaker 1 (44:46):
Yeah, the kids were swimming naked because we were like
this one here, okay, well don't tell anyone so they
can just live their free naked life. It was so nice.
I also was naked all of a sudden.

Speaker 2 (44:58):
Laura is down the ste to a mushroom naked.

Speaker 1 (45:01):
I want to be down the South coast and I
want to be naked literally one hundred percent of my time.
What was that headline about questioning your life?

Speaker 2 (45:10):
I almost don't want you to stop talking. This is
a lot going on right now.

Speaker 1 (45:14):
I've lost it, guys, Britt, what's yours suck for the week?

Speaker 2 (45:17):
I'm not psychedelics. My saxe for the week is so
when I have been going over to see Ben in Scotland,
the weather difference I don't need to do this is astronomical.
It is so cold over there. It snows there. It's
not like a normal winter here. So I didn't have clothes, right,
so I bought my winter wardrobe in the UK and

(45:39):
left it at Ben's house so that it could stay
over there, so I didn't have to come back and forth. Now,
he's moved somewhere even colder now we're in here. We
are in Romania, where it's already minus four and five
degrees and we're not even at Christmas yet. So I
said to Ben, hey, I'm thinking about packing my bag.
Can you just remind me what winter clothes I have
over there so I know what to pack because I'm
only taking one back. He goes, Babe, I don't know

(46:03):
how to tell you this, And I said what, And
he said, I put all your clothes in storage and
left them in the UK. So he didn't take any
of my winter clothes to Romania when he moved, so
I don't have anything there. So that is my suck
because it is so cold, and I don't own the clothes.
I've already purchased the clothes and now they're in another country,
So that is my current suck. My sweet, this is

(46:25):
a bit of a sweet and a suck. But I
didn't speak to oh. I spoke to one human the
whole weekend, right like I've talked to you guys before
about have Sometimes I go into a hole and I
just hang out with my dog and we don't I
don't see anyone else but the only person I did
speak to was I was walking back from the beach
yesterday and a girl sort of like I had headphones
in and a girl sort of waved me and stopped
me on the street and she came over and she said,
oh my god. She says, I'm a lifer and I

(46:48):
don't live in Sydney, and I thought, what are the
odds that I could possibly run into like you or Laura?
And she said, I'm not just a lifer. She's like,
I've listened to every episode but two every episode, no,
I know, she told me. I asked her the very start,
so like she said, she started tuning in. Actually, good question, man,

(47:08):
if you're listening, go back and listen to the first too,
and then you've got one hundred percent success rate. She
tuned in halfway or just before halfway of the first
ever season. And it really blew my mind because we
put out so much content. I know a lot of
lifers listen religiously, but I'm sure there are so many
episodes that they missed. But she reckons she hasn't missed one.

Speaker 1 (47:26):
That's amazing. I also met some cracking lifers over the weekend,
Guys like come and speak to us. We love it.
It makes us so happy. Can I tell my own
version of this? It is so sweet.

Speaker 3 (47:34):
There was this one day I was walking to Lilah
up on Bondai Promenade and these two girls. I had
a podcast in so I couldn't hear what they were saying,
but I noticed that they were kind of making gestures
near me right, and so I paused the podcast and
they both had accents. One was Irish, one was British,
and they said that it was their first day in Bondai.
They had listened to the podcast from the UK for

(47:56):
Ages and they were like, we actually can't believe that
this is all happening. This is our first swim on
Bondei beach and you're listen.

Speaker 2 (48:03):
To you for so long. This is Delilah, Like what
is the what are the chances of this?

Speaker 3 (48:08):
And I laughed and I said, well, the chances of
seeing Delilah along Bondo Promenade are probably higher than what
you think.

Speaker 2 (48:14):
But I'm really glad that we're here for the first time.

Speaker 1 (48:17):
Like we trawl this area looking for lifers, will come
here looking for any tourist lifers that are If you
come to Bonde there's like one hundred percent strike rate
that you're going to see one of us, at.

Speaker 2 (48:26):
Least Delilah running rogue somewhere trying to.

Speaker 1 (48:28):
Get pat the other one. There was one other. I
had a really another amazing encounter. So I was lining
up to use the toilet in a restaurant and this
girl comes running up to me, and I thought she
was going to ask that. She goes, excuse me, I'm
so sorry, and I was like, oh, it's fine, like
you can go. She was like no, She's like I
had to come say hi, and I thought she needed
to use the toilet, but actually she was just a
mad listener. And it's the best. Like I know we've

(48:49):
said this for years, but it means so much to us,
Like we love it so much when you guys come
and say hello. So please never ever think, oh my god,
I don't want to go and say hi to them,
Like it is like the fucking best buzz ever. That
is always going to be the sweet for us. It
means more than a podcast toward yeah, it does. Of
flashing my titty anyway, guys, that is it from us.

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