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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This episode was recorded on Cameragle Land.

Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life.
I'm cut, I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and this is us
gun cut where we answer can you burn in questions?

Speaker 3 (00:21):
You know you're lucky that I'm even here today.

Speaker 2 (00:23):
Your dramatic message in the group chat, which was if
I disappear, I've been abducted by an Uber driver was
very ominous.

Speaker 1 (00:30):
Also doesn't give Uber drivers a good rap.

Speaker 3 (00:33):
Sorry, I love Uber drivers, but Uber drivers have done
stuff before like this. Not to me, No, but there's
been reports of people how we want to start. There's
been reports like problems over in the US, not so
much here in Australia, but there has been something in Australia. No,
So I don't know if I watched too much crime.

Speaker 2 (00:50):
I enjoy that you doubled down on that and you
were like, no, I will give Uber drivers a bad rap.

Speaker 1 (00:54):
They've done a lot.

Speaker 2 (00:55):
Uber drivers would come to the rescue for me so
many times, the amount of times I leave things place,
I forget my laptop, my charger, and I'm.

Speaker 1 (01:03):
My child, I first born. Can you please Uber marling
may back to me.

Speaker 3 (01:07):
I've left I will take an Uber delivery for the try,
or you don't have to get a proper car. No,
I'm pro Uber drivers. I love Uber drivers. But it'll
be remiss of us to say that some things haven't
happened to people in the past.

Speaker 1 (01:19):
True. True, But I got in the.

Speaker 3 (01:21):
Uber yesterday and I don't want to judge a book
by its cover. But you know, when their picture pops up,
I always look at their picture. And when I look
at the license number, like you're looking at what car
you're getting in, people say that you should share it
in case something happens. Whatever, I looked at the picture
and I thought, that doesn't look like him. No, I
was just thought this, this guy looks like someone that
could kidnap someone. That was my thought, as a bit

(01:42):
of a joke, prejudice, that's what I'm saying. I just
said that I called a space bait. I understand it.

Speaker 1 (01:48):
You can't cancel me for it if myself identify it.

Speaker 3 (01:51):
But no, but I didn't like as a bit of
a joke. I was like, Oh, that guy looks like
a good kidnap someone. That was my internal monologue before
I got in the car. Still got in the car,
wasn't that put off by it.

Speaker 2 (02:00):
I love when your intuition tells you something is not
right and you go, nah, fuck it, because it's worth
the risk, because I know.

Speaker 3 (02:07):
More than anyone you can't did a book by its cover,
Like I've had that experience so many times in life
with different people I've met, and I don't. I just
had the thought, didn't deter me. Still got in the car. Anyway,
We're driving along. He was I think, he said, somewhere
from Poland or something, but he'd been here for quite
a while. Still I'd a bit of an accent. But anyway,
so we're cruising along, and you know when Uber drivers,
sometimes I'm up for a chat. Sometimes you're not right,

(02:30):
so sometimes you just not. So I had had my
headphones in and I was just doing some work and
listening to a podcast, prepping for like the week or whatever,
like you prepare for this, no, not for this one,
for another one for tomorrow's interview. But I was just
doing some listening and prepping, and he kept trying to
have a convo, and I would take my I phone
out and talk to him and whatever else. Anyway, he
just wanted to talk about his friend's relationships and like

(02:53):
marriages and stuff, and it was just so weird because
it was coming out of nowhere. There was no prompt
from me, and he was telling me about but he
was going to his friend's house later because his friend's
nearly divorced. And then he told me why his friend
was divorcing, because his friend was divorcing because the wife
wouldn't let him do anything and wouldn't let him have
people over and all this stuff. And now I know

(03:13):
you're thinking that this is weird that I'm telling you
this story, but he was dropping this information. I was like, oh,
that is strange, and he was like, yeah, she would
never just let him have people over, and I was
like okay. And then I looked down at the map
because you know how they have their phone, and the
map was going the weirdest way, like obviously he was
avoiding tolls, but it was like I'd just never seen
it go that way, and I was like, Okay, that's weird.

(03:34):
Goes back to telling me the story that I was
not engaging in, and he said yeah, you know, like
he would say, can I have some mates over? Can
I have this person over? She'd say absolutely not. I
haven't seen him in ten years.

Speaker 4 (03:45):
And I was like, okay, I know, I know, and
I was like love a Britt was like, I didn't
want to hear about this conversation, but now all of
us are sitting here listening to this man friend's divorced story.

Speaker 1 (03:55):
Does you know?

Speaker 3 (03:56):
Like yes, because then you know picture when you're in
the backseat, you're looking at them in the mirror right
the rear vision mirror. I could see him keep looking
up at me when he was talking. And he looked
up at me and he said, for example, if I
took you home right now, my wife wouldn't care, and
then just stared in the mirror at me. Oh, and
I was like oh, I went ha, And he goes

(04:18):
right like she wouldn't care at all if we went
home right now, and he said it three times. Then
I had this moment where I was like, is he
taking me home? Because am I going home for this man?

Speaker 1 (04:30):
I don't want to go home. Why are we heading south?

Speaker 3 (04:34):
That's what I said, and I had to I actually
had to say something to him, not that I didn't
want to go home with him. I was like, yeah,
that would be crazy, that would never happen though, And
then I was like can we actually go this way?
And I asked him to take me a different way home.
But there was a moment where I was like, is
he taking me home?

Speaker 1 (04:48):
Yeah, that's scary. That's not okay.

Speaker 3 (04:50):
Because I think stuff like that has happened before.

Speaker 1 (04:52):
Yes, it absolutely has.

Speaker 2 (04:54):
And I mean I feel like a lot of people
listening to this will have their own scary versions. I'm
not saying it's Uber, it's no taxi. No, it happens.
Happens all anny ride chair.

Speaker 1 (05:04):
I got robbed by an Uber driver recently.

Speaker 2 (05:05):
Forgot about that. And do you just start done me wonders. Sorry, sorry, guys,
as long as they can rob your child. Speaking of packages,
so we he's not to want now or so.

Speaker 3 (05:15):
I'm not trying to one up your story. I'm glad
I made it. Thank you, I made it.

Speaker 1 (05:19):
Say I'm glad the package arrives safe.

Speaker 3 (05:20):
One more thing, Oh sorry. When we landed landed at
my house, he was a pilot. No, he said, are
you right with the Badjoe? When you take it in
for you? I was like, get the fuck out. I
was like no, and then I started, you know, when
you get out, I started walking the other directions.

Speaker 1 (05:35):
Go into another house. I did, I did.

Speaker 3 (05:37):
I walked just down the street. I was like, oh
my god, you wait until they drive away. He could
have just been being nice, but I didn't get that
feeling anyway, up my story.

Speaker 2 (05:45):
Okay, so I'll try and make this one real quick
so we can answer your questions.

Speaker 1 (05:49):
Guys.

Speaker 2 (05:49):
We use Uber delivery for transferring packages between stores, So
from Paddington to Bondi.

Speaker 1 (05:55):
This is for Tony May.

Speaker 2 (05:57):
If we have jewelry that needs to go between stores,
or if something needs to go from the warehouse to
one of the stores, we'll just book an Uber delivery.

Speaker 1 (06:04):
Driver, right.

Speaker 2 (06:04):
I love Uber Delivery all the time, all the time,
and so we've never ever had a problem.

Speaker 1 (06:08):
So this is like, you know, needle and a haystack situation.

Speaker 2 (06:10):
But we booked an Uber delivery from the Paddington store
and it was going to the Bondei store and the
Uber drove up. He had the same so he had
the correct you know how they can have their thing
in the window so you know that it's the person.
And on the app it was the person's photo who
was in the car, but he was driving a different car.

Speaker 1 (06:28):
On the app it said a land Rover and on.

Speaker 2 (06:30):
It like it was a I don't know Honda or anyway.
Whoever was that was working that day, was like, okay,
well she checked it. It was him, fine, gave it
to him. The second he'd taken the package, he canceled
the trip. So he had two and a half thousand
dollars worth of jewelry and he canceled the trip. And
we were like, okay, let's give this guy the benefit
of the doubt that it's going to arrive by note,

(06:53):
because I.

Speaker 1 (06:54):
Was like, what do you do?

Speaker 2 (06:55):
Anyway, I found out about two hours after it had happened,
so he'd had two hours for anyone who's from Sydney
Paddington to Bondai is about twenty minutes on a bad date.

Speaker 3 (07:04):
Oh no, that's sold. That's on the black market.

Speaker 1 (07:06):
So everyone was like, oh, I guess it's gone.

Speaker 2 (07:09):
And I was like, no, call the police, like it's
that the theft and we know we got his uber
detail it's the same guy, even if the number plate
was different. So I called the police and I gave
them the registration everything for the Landrover that was the
one that we'd actually booked. And I'm guessing it must
have been like this is the situation I've kind of
put together. So the police are able to track the

(07:31):
license plate, right, so they've obviously called the owner of
the land rover, and I'm guessing it's like a cousin
or a brother, and so he was just you know,
he'd registered through Uber using that car, but he was
just using other ones for deliveries. And the brother has
probably called him and been like, dude, did you steal.

Speaker 1 (07:46):
A fucking baggage?

Speaker 2 (07:48):
Because return it. So another two hours passed. Four hours
later that's when the police had called. I got another
call back from the police saying, oh, we've just spoken
to the landrover guy.

Speaker 1 (07:57):
Hopefully it'll get sorted. And I was like, what is
going on? I walked downstairs from our warehouse and I
get a.

Speaker 2 (08:03):
Fucking package thrown at me by a dude who had
part on the main He literally just well he was
throwing it into the hallway and I just like stepped
out into the hallway at the same time, and I
was like, here it is, thank you for the lovely service.
All we had to do was do a little call
up with the police. So yeah, anyway, I was gonna
put it on socials, but then I was like, I

(08:24):
don't want to pooh pooh the whole situation.

Speaker 1 (08:26):
I want it on a national podcast that gets way
more download.

Speaker 5 (08:30):
I just wonder what he was hoping to get out
of the situations. He's just hoping that you wouldn't worry
about it and go oh well.

Speaker 2 (08:35):
I think he obviously saw it was from a jewelry store,
so he probably thought there's something of value in here,
but he probably just didn't think through the process of
me calling the police and also that you.

Speaker 1 (08:44):
Linked all your details.

Speaker 3 (08:45):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (08:45):
I think he was just like, oh, well, different license plate.
How they going to prove that, you.

Speaker 1 (08:49):
Know, like.

Speaker 2 (08:51):
He's not running any bank thefts.

Speaker 5 (08:57):
Let's get into your questions we have and then subscribe.

Speaker 1 (09:01):
That's right, I forgot about those.

Speaker 2 (09:04):
K Okay, So you guys remember the other week how
the poop Cruise was going viral and everyone was talking
about watching the poop Cruise.

Speaker 3 (09:14):
I watched property. Will you vibed it? Did I vibe
that again?

Speaker 6 (09:18):
Please tell me nothing would make me happy?

Speaker 5 (09:22):
She didn't do it on the podcast, going about on
the radio and then vibe it again.

Speaker 1 (09:28):
If you haven't seen poop Cruise, it's very good.

Speaker 2 (09:30):
And her child is standing up in her room. So actually,
I'm not vibing poop Cruise. I'm vibing the cult of
American apparels. So it's an overarching series called train Wreck,
which is so good, but I will admit it was
the Poop Cruise that sucked me in.

Speaker 1 (09:45):
But there is a series that is on Netflix.

Speaker 2 (09:48):
It's called train Wreck, and they deep dive into something
like whether it's a conspiracy, a brand, or a situation
that's happened in terms of like it's a documentary, but
it's also super entertaining actually quite funny as well. This
one isn't particularly funny, but it is an insight into
American apparel and anyone who lived through like the early

(10:09):
two thousands, which I'm sure we all did if you're
listening to this podcast, I don't think I had many
nine year old listeners. It was like the height of fashion,
Like American apparel took over the world.

Speaker 1 (10:18):
They were one of.

Speaker 2 (10:19):
The abhole property, biggest fashion yet experts out of America.
They also at the time really pushed the boundaries in
terms of fashion marketing and it really kind of straddled
this sort of like soft porn s. Well, it's true,
they kind of straddled this sort of soft porn look
and feel. At the time, it was cutting edge and
it was very fashion. Now you would look back on
it and be like, that's very problematic.

Speaker 1 (10:41):
I never wore it. You never know.

Speaker 2 (10:43):
To be fair, it wasn't something that I think was
as mainstream because it was like bright leggings and like
tiny leotards and stuff.

Speaker 1 (10:49):
But huge stars did, like Rihanna did.

Speaker 2 (10:52):
They had a bespoke range for Beyonce, like it was
literally absolutely massive. The thing is, though, it goes into
the structure of the business. So originally the business started
as like a bit altruistic in that it was one
of the only major fashion houses that was doing all
of its manufacturing from within America and not outsourcing anything
to any third world countries.

Speaker 1 (11:11):
Trump would love that. Now.

Speaker 2 (11:12):
Yes, it was deemed as being like an amazing place
to work. That is until all the people who work
there came out and spoke about a man named Dove
chari Now, Duve Charani is the CEO of American Apparel,
and he is hugely problematic. I think people originally saw
him as a bit of a visionary, but it becomes
increasingly evident in watching this doco that he is also

(11:34):
just a revolting narcissist. It's one hour. It's such a
good watch. Like I found it so so fascinating. There's
also a real nostalgia element about it as well, because
the brand was something that was like so well known
to so many of us. But also there is a
cook at the end which I think you guys would
find very interesting, and it's about the company that Dove
Charny went on to manage and be the head of

(11:57):
after he left American Apparel. And I think that it
will volumes. I don't want to give that away, So
go and watch it.

Speaker 1 (12:02):
There's your little fascinating It's very good, very good train wreck.
I'm all about it all right.

Speaker 3 (12:06):
Well, what I want to preface mine with is that
for all the listeners listening right now, we talk about
our vibes before we say them, and then we decide
what we're gonna do. And because Laura's was a little
bit more intellectual, I have gone for something that isn't.

Speaker 1 (12:22):
Do not use me as your skategoat. I am.

Speaker 3 (12:26):
I had a medical pub journal article to recommend you,
and then when you did that, I decided to go
for a Netflix show.

Speaker 1 (12:32):
So this, well that was also Netflix, So now we're
doubling up.

Speaker 3 (12:35):
Yeap, not sponsored by Netflix should be. So you know,
all of you that know me, well, you know that,
like my favorite things to watch are something that you
can get lost in for like a year, so not
one or two seasons. I love things that have like five, six,
seven seasons.

Speaker 2 (12:50):
Your favorite things are like true crime ory and like
hideous and absolutely petrifying or lovey dovey yeah, or like
so like so fluffy and lovey that it's like what
is that one that? Oh God, something something virgin by
the river or something what Virgin River?

Speaker 1 (13:08):
There you go version.

Speaker 3 (13:11):
I actually didn't watch that, but maybe I'll adds to this.

Speaker 1 (13:15):
That's the bible.

Speaker 3 (13:16):
This is something this is just to show on Netflix.
I think it came out in twenty eighteen. There's six seasons,
which is why I frothed it. Actually, my sister Sherry
got me onto it not that long ago, and I've
just been binge watching it. It's called The Rookie Now.
It is a show that is about rookie cops. But

(13:37):
it's not a doco show. It's a scripted comedy drama.
Like there's very serious parts and you're crying. Then there's
bits that are really like and funny, but you absolutely
just fall in love with the characters. It's the same
characters that go over six seasons, over many, many years.
So it's one of those shows that you get sucked
into the people more than the storyline. So like, the
storyline is the same kind of thing every No, I

(13:58):
don't want to say, same thing, but they're rookie cops
that are in the streets of la and they grow
together over the years and you get so sucked in
in Probably I'm shamed to say this, but maybe in
a month. I'm up to season five and twenty two.
There's twenty two episodes in a season. Yeah, I'm not
proud of it. Okay, I'm not proud of it.

Speaker 2 (14:16):
We had a break, we had a podcast break, guys.
There's plenty of Netflix time.

Speaker 1 (14:19):
I live alone, all right.

Speaker 3 (14:21):
Anyway, it's it's on Netflix. It's the Rookie. What I
will say is I didn't love the first episode. I
was like, I don't really get it, and you know,
Sheridan was like sit tight and strappy and you will
be obsessed. And three episodes later, I can't turn off.
I might actually think I have an addiction to the
Rookie Cops.

Speaker 1 (14:35):
I have a question for you, what time do you
go to bed?

Speaker 2 (14:37):
If you're like Jerry watching episode after episode, Like, what
time do you clock off?

Speaker 1 (14:40):
And then go okay, I.

Speaker 3 (14:41):
Have not been to bed before midnight ten years.

Speaker 1 (14:45):
Because you're just watching the Rookie cop I just.

Speaker 3 (14:46):
Can't sleep before me night. My brain will not not
the Rookie Corp. You're watching the Rookie copetents. I'm always
a night out. My brain will turn on at like
nine pm and then I do all my thinking. I
get on and do like so much. Many people would
wake up and get emails from me that have been
sent at twelve one, two am. I'm just up. I'm like, hey,
sorry for the late email, Like I don't expect you

(15:07):
to respond now because you're asleep, But that's when my
brain works better. I don't know, yeah, very late. Not proud.

Speaker 5 (15:13):
Speaking of sleep, my favorite topic my vibe for the
week actually has to do with sleep, and I'll keep
it quick. It is a brand of sheets company called
Mulberry Threads. I was given a set of these sheets
a couple of years ago, but I recently purchased more so,
I purchased two sets, one on the end of financial
year sales and they are one hundred percent organic bamboo.

(15:33):
And for people who know anything about materials, apparently bamboo
is really good for like thermoregulation, so really good for women,
especially in different hormonal cycles. Like I have a lot
of friends and I myself experienced this. When I'm in
certain phases of my cycle, I get like night sweats
and all that kind of thing. Bamboo is apparently meant
to be really good for that. I would say that
that is a part of the recommendation. The actual recommendation

(15:55):
that I have is it's just so soft and they're
like they're not as like slippery silk, but they're close
enough and there's just so much more enjoyable than what
I find cotton or linen to be. So yeah, my
recommendation is Mowbray Threads. There are a female founded business
from wa So there's three women that are.

Speaker 1 (16:13):
Actually life as they came to our Lives Show a
couple of years ago.

Speaker 3 (16:16):
Per I have a set of their sheets too.

Speaker 5 (16:19):
Yeah, and they get soft, like they get more and
more soft after everyone.

Speaker 3 (16:22):
More sex you have yet, no, so what I wouldn't know.

Speaker 1 (16:26):
I don't have any I need to get on the multitude.
They're really really comfortable.

Speaker 5 (16:31):
And also something that I like about them is that
they have excess material for what you need. You know how, sometimes,
especially if you're sleeping in bed with someone else, there's
not enough sheet to go over the two of you properly.
These are like extra long, like I have the Queen
because I have a Queen mattress, but the sheets are
extra long and they kind of droop almost to the
ground that you can tuck in. And you know, I

(16:53):
really really love them, And yes, Law's you absolutely should
get them.

Speaker 1 (16:56):
Do you know.

Speaker 3 (16:56):
I learned recently and I just found this so weird,
Like this is quite sociopathic to me. It might have
even been you, Laura. There are people that don't tuck
their top sheet in.

Speaker 1 (17:05):
That's me. Hate it. It's so tucking in. What do
you mean, Nah, it's I've got to free.

Speaker 3 (17:10):
The Who do you just lay your sheet on? And
that's it?

Speaker 2 (17:13):
So if I'm going to a hotel and they've tucked it,
I have to untuck the sheet and then get in
bed because I feel like I'm in a straight jacket.

Speaker 6 (17:19):
Same.

Speaker 3 (17:20):
I feel like as well. I want to be in
my nook. No, and then I just I just pull
out enough for one leg to come out and over.

Speaker 1 (17:28):
Oh I hate it. Can't stand like.

Speaker 2 (17:30):
There's nothing worse to me than feeling like I'm in
a burrito in my bed.

Speaker 1 (17:33):
M Bruno, it's gonna do your question, all.

Speaker 2 (17:37):
Right, question at number one. Hi, ladies, My partner and
I have been going out for just over a year.
We were long distance at the start for seven months,
only seeing each other once a month. Fast forward to
now we are living together and have been for almost
three months. Throughout our whole relationship, he has never initiated
trying to finish me when having sex. I have brought

(18:00):
this up with him and he said he doesn't like
giving head. I went out and got a vibrator for
us to use, but he still won't finish me off.

Speaker 3 (18:08):
I'm sorry. I really love the.

Speaker 2 (18:09):
Way that you've described this as well. For mate, you
won't finish me off. I have tried asking him, and
he then will, but always look so unhappy about it,
so I am stuck faking it. Here's my penguin, and
I want to marry him one day, but this has
caused me to have thoughts of cheating just to get
a good route. I am not one to have ever cheated, though.
My question is how do I make him want to

(18:31):
finish me off so I don't get the feeling of
being used? And should I just keep finishing myself while
he's at work so that I don't get thoughts about
wanting to sleep with other people?

Speaker 3 (18:40):
So much wrong with this question?

Speaker 1 (18:42):
Please can help.

Speaker 2 (18:43):
I really enjoyed the title for this. This one was
titled partner never finishes me off?

Speaker 3 (18:47):
Even when I ask, do you know what? Firstly that
I want to break down. I was talking about this
on the weekend. I haven't used the term root since
I was like the word root was really prime when
we were maybe like seventeen. Like you know, when you
start having sex or your friends start having sex way back,
it's like, did you root him? Did you root?

Speaker 1 (19:06):
Did you have root?

Speaker 5 (19:07):
Like?

Speaker 3 (19:07):
I just hate I don't like it. It's it's crude
to me. But hey, you want to use it, let's
go for it.

Speaker 1 (19:11):
What do you prefer in its place?

Speaker 3 (19:12):
Finish me off?

Speaker 5 (19:14):
No?

Speaker 2 (19:14):
But like shagged said, wax out of now and then yeah,
Shagg's good.

Speaker 6 (19:19):
Yeah, I like that. That's too many syllables or too many. Okay,
this is very problematic. We can laugh and laugh and laugh,
but it's very problematic.

Speaker 3 (19:29):
Firstly, I don't think that the answer here is for
you to be faking it and or finishing yourself off
in the day, like orgasm in the day alone, just
so that you can get an orgasm and get through
the night. Yea. Also, I just had this image of
him when you're like, he does it but begrudgingly picture
just like going down. It's strange to me that like, Okay,

(19:50):
on one hand, you've done the right thing where you're
bringing up with him and you're saying this is a
problem and you want more. But then the answer then
is to not fake it because he now thinks that
you're all like, if you're faking that, he thinks he's
done his job. So I don't think that is the answer.
I think you need to have a real sit down
conversation with him. It also doesn't have to be about
going down on you unless that's the only way that

(20:11):
you can personally orgasm is by oral sex, then like
that is more of an issue if he detests oral sex.

Speaker 2 (20:17):
Yeah, but the thing is is that can't be the
case because she said she's baugh a vibrator so to you,
and she's obviously not going down on her self.

Speaker 1 (20:23):
So there is.

Speaker 3 (20:24):
Marilyn Manson who was the one who took his ribs.

Speaker 1 (20:26):
Out carrel Anson allegedly.

Speaker 2 (20:28):
But that's the thing, right, she can she don't see us.
She can obviously come without you know, having someone go
down on her.

Speaker 1 (20:36):
So it's not like that's the only thing. Just sounds
like he's lazy af.

Speaker 3 (20:40):
Of course you feel used. He is using you. You
have sex, he comes, he stops, and he's done, like
he's getting everything that he needs in that situation and
you're getting nothing. And now it's pushing you to the
point that you want to cheat, like you want to
have those romantic relationships elsewhere to get what you need
when you very well could be getting it in your
own home.

Speaker 2 (20:59):
I just want to like lay out some of the
timelines here for you as well, because this, to me
is like a big fucking red flag. So you guys
dated for seven months long distance. You only saw each
other once a month during that, so you saw each
other seven times doing long distance.

Speaker 1 (21:12):
You know, obviously you probably spent.

Speaker 3 (21:13):
A week or two together whatever, it depends how long
show together every month.

Speaker 2 (21:17):
Yeah, but still it's long distance. So I'm gonna guess
that you have jobs and whatnot, so it probably wasn't.
I mean, if it was any more extended than that,
it probably wasn't long distance. Okay, And now you've been
living together for three months, you've only been together.

Speaker 1 (21:28):
For a year.

Speaker 2 (21:30):
These are not the sorts of problems you should be
having this early on in a relationship. Actually, these are
not sorts of problems you should be having it all
in a relationship. This to me is so deeply selfish
of him that he's only prioritizing his own pleasure. And
the fact that when you have brought it up and said, like,
I don't know how you brought it up firstly, but
you said I have brought this up with him, and
he said he doesn't like giving head.

Speaker 3 (21:50):
Yeah, that's weird to me.

Speaker 1 (21:51):
Yeah, that's okay.

Speaker 2 (21:52):
He doesn't have to go down on you if he
doesn't want to, but he does have to care as
to whether you're enjoying sex with him or not, and
it sounds like he doesn't. And then when when you
say it, like he kind of seems unhappy about it
or like frustrated, so then you're stuck faking it. It
is absolutely not your job to fake an emotion, which
is like to fake an orgasm to make him feel

(22:13):
better that he's doing a good job when he's absolutely not.

Speaker 1 (22:16):
And I would be having some really honest conversations with him.

Speaker 2 (22:18):
And I think the most important part about this is
what you highlighted, Britt, But it's when you say you
feel like you're being used. I think that is the
conversation that you need to have, not saying, hey, I
want you to make me come, I want you to
finish me off. I really think that this is a
conversation about like, the fact that you don't care about
my pleasure makes me feel used. It makes me feel
as though you only care about yourself, and I don't

(22:41):
want to be having sex with you. If you when
it comes to me feeling satisfied, you do it begrudgingly.

Speaker 3 (22:47):
And now I'm not here to serve as you.

Speaker 2 (22:49):
Yeah, and that is like a big conversation that needs
to be had. I also probably would pump the brakes
a little bit on the sex that you're having because
it sounds like you're not enjoying it, so why are
you having it?

Speaker 3 (22:59):
Right? I'd like to edg Jim just edge gym and
don't ever finish him, just get him there, and they'll
be like, but that's done, Like like that's i mean,
not not really tip for tat, but do it.

Speaker 1 (23:09):
Maybe it's just like.

Speaker 2 (23:10):
Try once or okay, but I think, like, don't prioritize
his satisfaction and his pleasure. It's clearly something that's become
a pattern in your relationship. You've been together for twelve
months now. If you don't address this, if you don't
make him aware of how this is affecting you, you
either will cheat. I mean you're already saying that you're
fantasizing about it. You either will cheat or you're going

(23:30):
to get the ick for your own partner because it
doesn't care about how you feel in the bedroom, which
is just like no one wants that for an intimate relationship,
and you'll.

Speaker 3 (23:38):
Start to completely resent not just him, but you're intimacy
in the relationship and the sex, like when you know
it's you know, I think back to a relationship a
very long time ago that I had. There's nothing worse
than when you love somebody, but there are parts of
it that you detest, So when it comes to going
to bed or something, you're like, oh, don't really want

(23:58):
to do it. Like when you get to that point
where you don't want to be having sex with someone anymore,
it's a really horrible place to be, and it's like
you still love them, but maybe that sex is coming
from something else, that reason is coming from something else
like this, like you're like, Okay, you're gonna end up
not wanting to go to bed with him and not
wanting to have sex at all because it's going to
put you off. So much of the fact of how

(24:18):
selfish has been in the fact that he doesn't listen,
that you never get to come, that you are feeling used,
Like all of those things are going to build up.
They're not just gonna sit there and you're not gonna
be okay with him forever. So if you have a
sit down conversation with him and you tell him all
of these things and he still says he doesn't care
or doesn't want to finish you off, it's not then
just about the sex. It's a big issue of him

(24:38):
not caring about you and your needs as a whole,
not just your sexual needs. But if you can go
to your partner and say like, I need this. Whatever
it is emotionally, physically, it doesn't matter. And if they
say I don't care, I'm getting what I need, I
wouldn't be in that relationship.

Speaker 1 (24:53):
All right, next question.

Speaker 3 (24:54):
All right, I love this question. My boyfriend has a
pube fantasy. I would love him. I would love some
advice on a conversation I've recently had that truly took
me by surprise. I've been seeing a guy on and
off for about a year. Originally we were just friends
with benefits, but now we're at the point where it's
very serious. I'm away at the moment, and if it
wasn't for that would definitely be full on dating. So

(25:17):
we were texting the other night and things got saucy,
and he revealed that he thinks it would be super
hot if I grew my pubes out. Now. The problem
is I've had laser and I literally am unable to
do this, but also personally, I don't feel sexy with
pubes and I am a swimmer. He even suggested that
he would like to style my pubes and mentioned that

(25:39):
he'd been fantasizing about styling them for weeks. Doesn't that mean.

Speaker 5 (25:48):
With French braids out side corns, like I wanted a
style of puby care lookie, or is it just like
a manicured landing strip he wants.

Speaker 3 (25:58):
To style it. Maybe he's a barber. I mean, we
don't yup people'syum if that's your fetish cue. But I
haven't heard of a styling puba and.

Speaker 1 (26:05):
I'm not yuck in the yum.

Speaker 2 (26:06):
I'm laughing because I can't visualize what time of styling
he wants.

Speaker 3 (26:09):
Oh, I just see the two French braids done the
lips all the way. So she said this, for some
reason makes me feel uneasy. Her question is, do you
know if it's a common occurrence for pube styling amongst men.
I'm at a complete loss. Does this mean the laser
needs to go? For context, I'm twenty two and he's
twenty four. I would appreciate advice on this one.

Speaker 1 (26:31):
I think pubic hair is so personal.

Speaker 2 (26:34):
But there was a period there where a group of
my mates were like, the bush is back, and that
was their take on it. But the problem is is
that everyone is laser now, so the bush ain't coming back.
We are ball turkeys and everyone is suffering. But that's
the problem here.

Speaker 3 (26:47):
It doesn't really matter what we think you've You're going
to buy a Merca. Maybe that's what you do. You
role play put Amercan on. He can style it anyway.
He wants the fake pubes that they used them for
Fashion Week last year. It was maybe real comeback. But
you can buy a Merkan online, can produce case you
can you google the cost for us see on the cookies.

Speaker 1 (27:08):
See what I am?

Speaker 2 (27:10):
That's your like now like sponsored ads in Facebook, it's
just empty pays just in case top and bottom.

Speaker 3 (27:17):
Oh my god, I'm just gonna google if you can.

Speaker 1 (27:19):
But I wonder if you can get clip in like
have fringes. You gotta have some Yeah your LaBier.

Speaker 2 (27:25):
My thing with this is and you just mentioned it
Britz saying like fashion Week had stick on Mercans.

Speaker 1 (27:30):
Pubicare is back, Like.

Speaker 2 (27:31):
There are a group of people there is a rising
interest in pubicicare. I think going through the early two thousands,
we were all told like pubic care is out, no
pubic care completely ball Turkey is the way to be.
And some of us went and got laser and some
of us overdid it and now we will never ever
ever be able to come back with that fashion trend
when it comes back around. But I think, like anything,

(27:53):
there's always going to be people who prefer one thing
over another. There's always going to be men and women
who prefer no pub care, and there's always going to
be men and women who prefer having puba care.

Speaker 5 (28:03):
Do you know?

Speaker 1 (28:03):
I mean, I think it's totally personal preference.

Speaker 2 (28:06):
Both of you are looking at your laptops because you're
both googling the cotton styled means.

Speaker 1 (28:11):
But this is not what I was looking for.

Speaker 5 (28:13):
My am up dating our website, okay, because I don't
want the Mrcan cookies.

Speaker 1 (28:16):
Not one of you have looked at me the whole time.

Speaker 2 (28:19):
Look at this one.

Speaker 3 (28:21):
He's got feathers and.

Speaker 1 (28:22):
Stuff that one literally looks like a sweet potato.

Speaker 3 (28:24):
I think that's for fishing.

Speaker 2 (28:29):
My thoughts on this is like, unfortunately, there isn't anything
that you can do if you've been lasered, and it's
also not your style.

Speaker 1 (28:36):
It's fine.

Speaker 2 (28:36):
It's the same that like some girls might like facial
hair on a guy, and then other people might not
like facial hair.

Speaker 1 (28:42):
It doesn't mean that their partner has to have it
or doesn't have to have it.

Speaker 2 (28:45):
You can have a preference you can have something that
you like in your partner, and if they don't want
to do it or they can't do it, like, it
doesn't mean you like them any.

Speaker 3 (28:52):
Less, hear me out. Is it a common occurrence for
somebody to want to style your pubes? No, I don't
think so. Does that mean there's something wrong with it? No,
everybody has their fantasies and their fetishes. I don't think that.
I truly we're laughing. If your partner likes it looking
a certain way and you've got pubic care, there's nothing
wrong with that. Like, if that's what gets him off,
who cares. But yeah, you do have the problem that

(29:15):
you don't have pubicare, So you either have to have
that conversation with where you say, hey, if this is
like a real thing, you can get a murkan like
they are a thing. I'd be serious. I'm trying to
solve their problem. You can get it and stick it on.

Speaker 1 (29:28):
He obviously thinks that you can grow it.

Speaker 2 (29:30):
Yeah, I don't like telling you he's just like, he's like, oh,
I prefer pubicare with the hopes that you're going to
grow it out for him. But the thing is you can't.
So just be honest and safe. Yes, that has gone
with the ten thousand laser sessions I had.

Speaker 3 (29:42):
Unless you are and maybe this is the thing because
you have said doesn't mean the laser needs to go.
You could be like five lasers into a twelve laser session,
like you could be at the casper where if you stop,
it does grow back, because you do need to commit
to the whole thing. I remember because I did laser
when it must have been twelve years ago now, like
I must have been about mid twenties when I started

(30:05):
my first laser session and I never did the follow ups,
which means over the ten years that grew back. But
I remember at the time I was seeing this guy,
the guy that I've spoken about that was on and
off for three years, situationship that I thought was going
to go somewhere, and I remember having a conversation with him,
and I like shows my age then and maybe my
experience and how naive I was in the world. But
I remember asking him what he prefers, because I was like, look,

(30:28):
I'm committing to this going. But you can when you
start a laser you can pick what you want. Do
you want a laser in a landing strip? Do you
want a laser in like a ball legal? Do you
want to whatever you want? You can pick your laser.
And I remember asking him being like, you pick what
I get. And I would never do that now, but
I remember thinking, like, Okay, if this is going to
be my partner, I'm going to take him to consideration.

(30:49):
I know, and I rolled my own eyes at that now.
But like when I was twenty five, I was a
different person, Like I wanted to be loved and I
wanted to please my partner and make them happy. In
my existence at that time of my life was like
I bent so many of my own boundaries to try
and stay in a relationship. But you know, total because
I wanted that, And I look back now and I
would never do that.

Speaker 2 (31:10):
Like, but I don't even seen my volver or my
vagina in weeks.

Speaker 1 (31:15):
Mate, you could probably braid mine, give it a corn.
I have no idea what's happening.

Speaker 3 (31:20):
I've seen it sometimes in cross your legs. I see it.

Speaker 1 (31:23):
These chants, these pants are a bit shit.

Speaker 2 (31:25):
Thank god for Bush is back. I just tell Mada,
I'm entrened, and I have not seen it.

Speaker 1 (31:29):
It's fashion alone.

Speaker 2 (31:30):
It was like we were done in Ala Dalla work
for the whole holidays, and at the end of it,
Matt was like, how's your arm pits going? And I
just have given up. I have given the fuck up
and I don't even care. I also am like, no,
I actually did shave.

Speaker 1 (31:42):
My armpits before coming into work.

Speaker 3 (31:45):
Oh thanks, you don't do it for your hum.

Speaker 2 (31:46):
For us, my legs, everything else I can't reach and
I get really short winded when I reach down to
my shins. Your excusing its really hard, but I you're
excused firstly, And I think it has to be said
in this conversation. There is so much much commentary and
has been for so long around having nobody hair as
a woman like being lasered from the eyelashes all the.

Speaker 1 (32:06):
Way down to your toes? Do you know what I mean?
And I just think it's ridiculous. That's my personal opinion.

Speaker 2 (32:11):
I saw that one picture of Julia Roberts when she
was at the she was on a red carpet event
and she was waving during her era of pretty woman,
and she's stunning and gorgeous and she's waving and she
has full underarm hair, and I'm like, you know what
that was like? So before its time. And now I
think that there's been this backlash in terms of like
it's swung back around where there's people online who are

(32:31):
quite happy to talk about having body hair.

Speaker 1 (32:33):
Women are allowed to have body hair.

Speaker 2 (32:35):
And it's also fucking great that there are some men
out there who think it's styley, who think it's sexy,
do you know, I mean, like, let's not let's not
make out that they're weird for it.

Speaker 3 (32:44):
Like, if anything, it's not the weird for the hair,
it's the wanting to play styling totally.

Speaker 2 (32:49):
But I actually think, yes, the styling is probably one
step further, but I actually think it is probably weirder
as a grown man to want a vagina or avolver
to be completely hairless, because that, to me is very
fucking childlike.

Speaker 1 (33:03):
So I'm like, no, I don't go different.

Speaker 2 (33:05):
I think it's very pre pubescent vibes, which is fine,
like obviously we all do it.

Speaker 3 (33:10):
Oh no, of course it's that vibe. I don't think
that that's why people like it. I think that's I mean,
there would be people that would for sure, but I
think this is a different conversation. I think it's just
become a part of our generation. That we're accustomed to
saying hairless, is it associated with the sexy woman? Like
I think that that's just what we've grown into. I
don't think our partners are looking at us when they
like us. People look at it like it's cleaner and
more manicured, but we all know that in fact, when

(33:32):
you have hair, is what keeps it cleaner and more protected,
Like that's what hair is for hair is to stop
bacteria in things getting in there and.

Speaker 1 (33:41):
Just keeps the red like that.

Speaker 2 (33:43):
I just think we have a weird hang up when
it comes to female and I don't think we do.
Society has a weird hang up when it comes to
female body hair. We do not have those same limitations
on men. We have different set sets of rules. Like
you see a woman who has underarm hair online and
the comments will be like that's so dirty. No one
is looking at a man's underarm and saying it's dirty.

Speaker 1 (34:02):
Do you know what I mean.

Speaker 2 (34:02):
It's just we have a very different sets of expectations.
And for the women who were brave enough to just
be able to grow out their body hair and not
give a fuck, that's.

Speaker 1 (34:10):
Not me at the moment.

Speaker 2 (34:11):
A mind's our lady's laziness, but like, good for them,
it's what I think.

Speaker 3 (34:14):
Yeah, there's nothing wrong with what he wants at all.
The problem is you can't do it. So you need
to have the conversation. You need to have the combo
with him about what it looks like, not physically literally
looks like, but what it looks like that how you
can meet halfway. Is this a really big thing for
him where it's the only thing that turns him on?
Do you need to get the fakemrk in, you know,
just let him know. He probably doesn't know you've lasered off.
He probably doesn't even know what laser means. He probably

(34:34):
doesn't know laser means, you know, essentially forever permanent. Yeah,
but it's not You're trying to ask if it's normal,
and if it's weird, it's fine. It's completely fine, all right.

Speaker 1 (34:45):
Next question.

Speaker 2 (34:46):
I use my ex's Amazon account and my new boyfriend
thinks it's disrespectful. So my ex and I share an
Amazon Prime account. When we were together, the login was
under my email, yet he paid for the rolling subscriptions.
We have been broken off for almost two years, but
we both still use the same account as I'm unable
to get a new one because it's literally under my email,
and he said he's happy for me to continue using it,

(35:08):
even though he's just paying for it. My current boyfriend
finds it extremely uncomfortable and disrespectful, even though the only
time I use the account is to watch the occasional
TV show movie.

Speaker 1 (35:19):
I have no communication with my ex. What are your
thoughts on this?

Speaker 3 (35:22):
No, keep it?

Speaker 1 (35:23):
Yeah, I think it's fine.

Speaker 3 (35:25):
He's saving you money. Your boyfriend should be happy.

Speaker 2 (35:27):
I think your boyfriend sounds insecure about it, which is like, okay.
I think sometimes there are some people who who when
it comes to ex's they want to pretend like they
never existed, you know, they want complete severance of any
type of idea that you were ever in a past relationship.
And for him, he just thinks that this is a
weird link to your ex boyfriend. But if your ex
boyfriend's fine with it, if you're fine with it, if

(35:48):
there's no need to communicate about the Amazon Prime account,
I would say it's more like logistically easy rather than
it being something that's relationship threatening.

Speaker 5 (35:58):
I was just laughing thing thinking about you know, when
if it's a toxic breakup and you block them on everything,
and that like the only way that he could access
you is that he starts watching things like miss you,
you were the one, or like something so that comes
up in recently.

Speaker 3 (36:14):
Like that he's just communicating. I think unless it's and
this does happen, unless now your current boyfriend has it
drilled into his head that every time you guys turn
on Netflix, he thinks of your ex, which sometimes happens,
like sometimes something's come up and you.

Speaker 1 (36:31):
Know what is it?

Speaker 3 (36:31):
It's like that retroactive jealousy.

Speaker 1 (36:33):
This is this?

Speaker 3 (36:34):
Is that without being that, like he's obviously uncomfortable, there's
still some connection or maybe he finds it emasculating that
your ex is the one paying for something when he
could be. I don't know what it is, but he's
uncomfortable with it. So I think it's fine. I think
he's saving you money. But you need to ask why
he has the problem. If he thinks it's disrespectful, and
that's it. Is it disrespectful to who, to him or

(36:55):
to your ex. If he thinks it's disrespectful to your ex,
you have the argument of saying he's happy with it,
Like the thing is it's not costing him more, he's
going to pay for it, regardless whether you get your
free Netflix or not.

Speaker 2 (37:07):
I would suspect that he actually thinks it's disrespectful to him.

Speaker 1 (37:10):
Yes, that's what I think it is.

Speaker 2 (37:11):
And in which case you say, that's all right, you
pay for the Amazon Prime account, I'll just.

Speaker 1 (37:15):
Log into yours, totally log into his. Do you know
what I mean?

Speaker 2 (37:18):
It's so annoying that it was set up with your
ex partner's credit card and your email, Like, that's an
annoying situation because you can't get a second one. But
I guess, like, if there's a solution to this, it is, well,
I'll log it on your account. I think it's fine.

Speaker 1 (37:32):
I also think like life.

Speaker 3 (37:33):
I mean, give you many opportunities to get ahead.

Speaker 1 (37:36):
Take it all right? Last question?

Speaker 3 (37:40):
All right, we recently got engaged and are in the
fun stressful part of wedding planning. My fiance and I
have gotten into an argument as he has requested that
he would like his mum to come to my wedding
dress appointment. This is my first appointment and I don't
even know what dresses I like or what looks good,
and I'm really only going to initially get a feel
for what's out there and what looks good on me.

(38:01):
I'm currently living interstate and my mom is flying down
to come with me. She's also buying my wedding dress.
I've also got one of my close friends flying in
to come with me too. I tried to explain to
him that I always envisaged this being a really special
moment between my mum and those who are in my
bridal party, and personally, I don't think it's normal for
the mother of the groom to come to these appointments. However,

(38:23):
he has told me that everyone who he has spoken
to or that has gotten married had both moms present,
and he's insisting on his mum being there. I'm not
insisting on my mum being there when he gets his tucks.
So I really just don't know how to get my
point across to him. I really don't think this is normal,
and my friends are all telling me that there is
essentially no normal and it's whatever I want. At the
end of the day, I just don't know what to

(38:45):
say to get him to understand how I'm feeling and
that it's nothing personal. I just would prefer it being
in experience with my mom and I I would love
to hear your advice.

Speaker 2 (38:55):
Ah, this is a tricky one because look, at the
end of the day, it could be his mom that's
pushing come because she wants to be included in this
part of the wedding. And in which case, like you're
saying that you don't want your mum there because you've
envisaged it in a certain way, is absolutely okay. That
is something you're allowed to choose. Is it something that
could cause some dramas, Yes, possibly, Like a lot of

(39:16):
these situations that arise around weddings or special events kind
of come down to how important is this thing to
you versus the drama that it could cause.

Speaker 1 (39:25):
And would is it your.

Speaker 2 (39:26):
Husband that's the one who's getting upset about this or
is it your mother in law who's getting upset about this?
Because I think that there'd be conversations to have and
I mean partly, here's like a different side of it.
It's really nice that your mother in law wants to
be involved and she's so supportive of you, and she
so like obviously adores you and wants to be a
part of it. If that's the case, she may be

(39:48):
someone who's super controlling and wants to, like, you know,
have a finger in all the pies. It doesn't sound
like that that is the situation here. I guess the
only thing that you can do is have a really
honest conversation with your husband to be about it. It
sounds like you've done that. It sounds like you know
the example that you have made where you said, like
your mom's not coming to his tuxedo fitting. You can
make that example to him and explain why it's something

(40:10):
that you have envisaged it just being your mum and
your bridesmaid.

Speaker 1 (40:13):
You wanted to keep it really small.

Speaker 2 (40:15):
It's something that you have thought about and it's something
that's important to you, and then see how he reacts.
But I don't know how you can navigate this without
someone either being disappointed or hoping that your partner comes
to the table.

Speaker 3 (40:26):
I think there's a few options here. At the end
of the day, it is your wedding and your special day.
Of course, you can do what you want and you
can have whomever you want there.

Speaker 1 (40:34):
Well, it's yours and your partner's wedding. Yes, your wedding together.
It's not your way.

Speaker 3 (40:38):
Your dress is you. Your dress is about you. You don't
have to have anyone there, or you can have all
the people you want there. I do agree with Laura
that if you think it's going to cause a huge problem,
I would just let her come, like a huge family rift.
I would let her come. Unless you know her type
of personality and she's a particular person that you know
will ruin the experience for you or give unwanted opinions,

(40:59):
or if you know who she is at her core
and you know it's not going to fit your experience,
then I would double down and say no. If she's
a lovely mother in law and she just wants to
be involved, I would probably let her come.

Speaker 1 (41:09):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (41:09):
Having said that, maybe like a really happy medium is that.
I mean, one dress fitting doesn't exist in no world
do you go and find I mean, maybe you do
a perfect dress and then that is it and you
never have to have a fitting or taking in or whatever.
So maybe she just comes to one of them. Maybe
it's the first one where you still haven't completely decided

(41:29):
on the dress, but you're getting a feel for things.
Maybe she comes to the second one once you've decided
and it's you know, no questions asked, we're locking this
in and you can see it or maybe and this
is what I personally did. I didn't want anyone to
see my dress, like I wanted that to be a surprise.
My mama included she saw the dress for the first
time on the wedding day, you know, with my dad.
They walked in and saw me, and that was what

(41:51):
I wanted. And so you could also say that, and
your husband to be can't argue that point. If you say, like,
it's really important to me and I want to have
surprise and I will to go on this journey just
with my bridesmaid and they're the only people I want
to see it, he doesn't get to argue that point.

Speaker 1 (42:05):
But if it's going to.

Speaker 3 (42:06):
Cause a whole rift with your family, I would probably
just try and find a happy medium of letting her
to come to one of the appointments.

Speaker 2 (42:12):
Yeah, I think the way that the question was worded
was interesting because firstly, you were trying to downplay it
when you said, we've gotten into an argument. It's my
first wedding appointment. I don't even know what dresses I like.
I don't even know what's going to look good on me.
You know, I'm just going to get an initial feel.

Speaker 1 (42:26):
Of what's out there. That's how this started.

Speaker 2 (42:28):
And then you said, my mom's flying in, my best
friend's flying in, and I want it to be a
really special moment between my mum and those of my
bridal party. So I think the problem is is, like,
it is actually important to you, and it is something
that means a lot. So I think be careful with
how you communicate it to him, because don't downplay it.
Because if you're downplaying it and he's like, well, why
can't she come? And that's kind of why this question

(42:49):
is conflicting. You've downplayed and then you've said, actually, how
important it is to you for it to be a
specific way, And that's where this probably argument has stemmed from.
I guess you know, in terms of like my person
experience with my wedding. My mother in law didn't come
to my wedding dress shopping whatever experience my mum and
my brother party came. Actually not even like just a
couple of girlfriends came. We flut at Melbourne and my

(43:12):
mother in law. To be honest, I fucking love Ellie
de death.

Speaker 1 (43:16):
She lives with me.

Speaker 2 (43:16):
She was literally there for the birth of Maley May
in the room, But like, I didn't even think to
invite my mother in law to that part of.

Speaker 1 (43:23):
The experience, So I don't think it's just normal.

Speaker 2 (43:26):
And I guess you can have many examples for your
partner as to how like maybe some of his friends
have done that, but that doesn't make it the status
quo because everyone's wedding experience is so completely different. And
I guess it comes down to whatever the two of
you want, but you do kind of have to get
on the same page with this because you don't want
to be having a fight over your wedding dress shopping.

Speaker 1 (43:45):
It's going to ruin the whole experience for you.

Speaker 3 (43:47):
And one thing that I, well, Ben and I came
to the conclusion of and I brought it up, but
maybe she doesn't have daughters, so maybe you know, she
only has sons and she might not get that experience herself.
But I felt like we needed to include Ben's mom
in some way because my mom was walking me down
the aisle, you know, she was a big part of that.

(44:08):
My dad was marrying us, he was a big part
of that. And then what Ben's parents just turn up.
You know, that's not fair just because he's the male
so Ben's dad did a big speech and we asked
Ben's mom to bring the rings up. She was the
ring beery. You know, we had nieces and nephews, but
they went down the aisle and had their moment, and
I wanted her to feel included as well. So there's
a big chance that maybe she wants to be included

(44:30):
in some part of your wedding journey. And so maybe
you can think outside the box a little bit. If
you don't necessarily want her there for the first dress fitting,
there's other ways you can always include them to make
it feel special because it's her son's wedding as well.

Speaker 2 (44:42):
At the end of the day, the last thing you
want to be doing is arguing about you said you
had a big argument.

Speaker 1 (44:46):
It's going to ruin all of it.

Speaker 2 (44:47):
Doesn't matter what you do now, because it's not going
to feel as nice and as special like it's going
to feel if you don't invite your mom and it's
ended on an argument your mother in law. You're going
to have your wedding dress fitting and it's going to
feel shit because it's not going to be this specially
because your husband to be is annoyed at you and
you guys are fighting about it, So I would say,
have some very honest conversations, get on the same page,

(45:07):
make sure that everyone feels heard and listen to And
if it means making a compromise that you can be
okay with, then that's great. If you absolutely can't make
this compromise, then I think you need to do a
very good job of explaining why this is important to
you and hope that your partner can see that for
himself as well. Or you put your foot down and
you say, okay, my mom is coming to your tuxedo fitting.

Speaker 1 (45:29):
My mom's coming, she is coming.

Speaker 3 (45:30):
If this is now, I don't do that to your mom.

Speaker 2 (45:32):
She doesn't want to go about like, but maybe then
it will help him to see parallels.

Speaker 3 (45:36):
And see he put the shoe on the other foot.

Speaker 2 (45:38):
And be like, if you absolutely want your mum to
come to this, then my dad, for example, is going
to your tuxedo fitting.

Speaker 1 (45:45):
He's coming.

Speaker 2 (45:46):
And your husband might be like, sure, I don't care,
and then in which case, like, that's that's your answer.
The thing with weddings is that there is no normal.
Everyone does things so differently, and also it is such
a pressure cooker time for when fights and family drama
like to rear their head, and I think you've got
to remember it's you and your husband united on these decisions.
Otherwise it's really going to taint the experience for you

(46:09):
because you're gonna end up fighting around stuff that should
be really happy moment.

Speaker 3 (46:12):
Totally.

Speaker 2 (46:13):
Anyway, guys, that is it from us, and that is
all for Ask on Cut. If you have any questions
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Speaker 3 (46:32):
These are great to play on YouTube for the ask
on cuts when you're at home or with your partner.
We get so many people right in saying that they
just put it on the TV, let it play out.
Then they stop it before we answer it, and they
have these conversations with their partner on the ask gun Cut,
like what would you do? What would we do? They
nut it out and then they play the answer. I
think it's a really good thing to do at home
with your partner.

Speaker 5 (46:51):
Are you Guys sometimes surprised if you ask you know,
Ben or Matt and they respond in a way that
completely shocks you. For me that uh, this week, I
asked my boyfriend about the ex Amazon account and he
was like, no, that's so weird.

Speaker 1 (47:06):
And I was like, what, Like I we just.

Speaker 5 (47:08):
Saw it so differently, And I was really surprised. Sometimes
every now and then I'll ask a question and ask
uncut question and I'll just kind of ask for his
opinion on it, and it really surprises me that we
have completely conflicting answer.

Speaker 1 (47:19):
What was his issue with it? He just thought it
was strange.

Speaker 5 (47:22):
He was like, she should just have her own, like
she should just change she's paying for it. And I
was like, oh, maybe I'm just the tighter, Like I'd
keep riding that wave.

Speaker 1 (47:30):
It's nice to have a good salary. Sun said, all right, guys,
well that is it. You know the trip.

Speaker 3 (47:37):
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