July 6, 2025 • 44 mins
Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your biggest dilemmas!
The start of today’s ep is not safe for work… Have you heard of ‘hampstering’ or ‘the thirsty hampster’? If you’ve already listened before reading this do you wish you had never heard of it?
Vibes and Unsubscribes for the week!
Britt - Unsubscribing from the movie “Drop”.
Vibe - Rachel_Jane_Sculpting dog sculptures
Laura - Stakki Drink Bottle
Keeshia - Crest Motion Sensor LED Night Light
Then we jump into your questions:
HOW MUCH TO SPEND ON ENGAGEMENT RING?
So I have finally found THE ONE!! After a loooong and hard few years dating a bunch of bin chickens, I finally got my penguin We have talked about marriage, done the ring sizes, I’ve shown him what I would like (which he agrees would suit me) and I’m now in a pickle. He has been married before and spent a lot of money on his first wife’s ring. She was forceful, told him which one and picked the most expensive. I have said I wouldn’t expect a super expensive ring, though I also don’t want a cheap knock off one that you can find on some websites. Should it matter about how much someone spends on a ring? I feel like knowing he did pay a lot for an ex means he can at least meet halfway so I get a good quality piece I’m going to wear forever. Should I offer to pay for some of it? He has mentioned it should be about the gesture of proposing not the price. We looked up the rings he would want and they are all around a few hundred dollars. I guess this is the standard for men’s rings and I feel maybe he’s comparing that to what I should get.
HOW DO I TELL BROTHERS GF SHES NOT IN THE FAMILY PHOTOSHOOT
I want to organise a family photo shoot with my grandma, parents, husband, baby and my brother. My grandma is in her 90s, so I really want to get a beautiful photo of our little family while we’ve still got the chance. Now, here’s where I’m a terrible person. My brother has a partner who I honestly adore . She's gorgeous, we all get along so well, and they’re really serious. But I don’t want her in the photos. The thing is, at my wedding, his ex (who was also very serious) was in every single family photo and now I can’t display any of them without it being weird. So while I truly hope this relationship lasts forever, I just want to cover my bases this time. How do I bring this up without hurting anyone’s feelings or causing drama? Is it okay to ask? And if so, what’s the least awkward way to handle it? Help a guilty gal out! P.S we have never done a family photoshoot and probably won’t do many.
SIL TOLD ME I NEVER CLEAN AT FAMILY EVENTS AND NOW I FEEL AWFUL
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Transcript
Episode Transcript
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This episode was recorded on Cameragle Land.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Li
Fun Cut.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and this is ask gun Cut
where we answer You're deep, You're dark, and you're burning questions.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
You've got something burning to bring today? No, you tried
to bring it every day for us three days and
I've said save it for ask gun Cut.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Why do I keep getting sidelined with this?
Speaker 2 (00:31):
We had other more important things.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
You don't even know what it was. You don't even
know how important it is. All right, I have a
question to wait for it.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
I came across something. Well, firstly, it's a sex position.
I'm just going to get it out there. Have I
ever tried it?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
No?
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Will I ever try it? Absolutely fucking not. But it's
been talked about quite a bit on TikTok recently and
I was flawed by this one. I'm just going to
tell you the name of it, and then I would
love some kis. You already know, so you're not allowed
to contribute here. You have to stay quiet and keep
it inside.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
But when you did describe it to me, I got
it very mixed up.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
You're very confused.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
You can get into that a bit.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
Okay, the sex position is called hamstering or the thirsty hamster. Okay,
what do you think, my in tailor thirsty hamster.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
When I think of a thirsty hamster, I think of
like a hamster it's been running for too long on
a wheel and he's parched. So is it something to
do with like have a little.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
Just like try and think of a sex position that
could be trined as a thirsty hamster.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
That's what I was doing. I was trying to associate
water hamster does to be thirsty. It's on a wheel,
So is it like something like circular sixty nine thing?
I don't know what else does the hamster do?
Speaker 3 (01:45):
It just eats lettuce guys a strap on in Because
this is You're never going to be the same person
after hearing this, So the thirsty hamster. Imagine if you
have a car that has a sun roof, but only
not like a full sun roof because in like you
now like a lot of cars just have that little
mini square like little peel back that you're like one
of those. Okay, right, So the guy lays on top
(02:07):
of the car, like lays completely on top of the car.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
You have to have a car face down. Yeah, you
have to have a car face down.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
With a sunroof. With a sunroof, it's really niche, niche
sex position. It's only for the privilege, not really. I mean,
you're gonna have a keya.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
But if you have a car then yes, all right,
So I'm not saying you have to do it in Mercedes.
You can do it in any car that has a
small sunroof. The guy has to lay on the top
of the car, undo his fly stick his penis through
the sun roof, and then the person in the car
gives him a blowjob and that.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
But why is it? What does that got to do
with a hamster.
Speaker 4 (02:42):
Hans his drink from the water bottles, you know, the
water bottle with the little spat, and it's like because
it's hanging from the ceiling.
Speaker 5 (02:49):
So the sounds are just made, really made.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
N I mean, but it is though.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
That's actually the fucking rankless thing that's on part of
people that have sex with their car exhaust. No, it's
a bit of the person. You're not fucking the car
as well. There's got to be a car fetish in that.
That's whoever came up with that has fucked an exhaust.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
Can you imagine driving down the street and like, cause
the guy wouldn't be naked, right, he'd be fully closed.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
You have his pants on, laying on the road. Just
have to open no, no, no, you just have to
open your fly.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Imagine driving down the.
Speaker 4 (03:23):
Road and there's a park car and a dude's just
laying on the top of it, like you now know
what he's doing, You know what's going on.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
I feel like it's like an inside thing. I think
you're doing in your garage, down the main street, the
shopping set. You're not a BONDI junction. I disagree.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
I think that if someone's doing this, it's for the
voyeuristic element of it. I think that they're doing it
so they can get away with it, because otherwise, why
wouldn't you just go inside and suck his dick?
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Why would you do it.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
In the It's a car fetish. You know why we're
talking about car fetish? Just don't ask me how I
know so much about them Fast and Furious. Another thing
they do is they fuck the exhaust. But nothing they
do is have sex with the car seat, like so
they put their penis between the like you know how
a car, the back seat goes down. If it's leather
or something, it goes down around and then it comes out.
So it's like a crevice and a crevice between the
(04:06):
seats they have sex with where the seats join. Who
when you say they the car, the hamsters. All those
people are are sex in cars. Not illegal, but pretty weird.
It's definitely not illegal.
Speaker 5 (04:18):
The reason I was so confused when Laura first told
me about this.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
Is that she didn't give me the position of the people.
She just said that, you know, the person is through
the sun roof and someone's getting their dick sucked.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
And so I don't know why.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
I don't know why, but I imagined that the person
who was having their penis pleasure was laying in the car,
and I was like, why would someone.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
They would have to reach the hook.
Speaker 5 (04:45):
That was very confused.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
It was very confusient.
Speaker 4 (04:48):
I did. I did describe it in the same way.
I think you just missed the details.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
So how did you? Why are you looking this ud?
Speaker 5 (04:53):
I tried to blame you for why I didn't understand.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
So hamstering or the thirsty hamster. On TikTok, it's been
trending and people are talk about it, and here we are.
This is how we got here. I don't know how
I came across it. I don't know why I came
across it.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
You did get a new car recently, Laura. It is
just something you've given a whirl. Laur. It's like I
know nothing, but apparently people are doing it. I do,
and it has a sun roof.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
All right, well, look, let's get into our vibes and
unsubscribed for the weeks before we answer your questions.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Brittany, vibe a unsubscribe.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
I'm actually gonna start with an unsubscribe. My unsubscribe is
a movie. It is a movie that I unfortunately purchased,
and I want to make sure no one else ever
spends their money on this movie. So it's called Drop.
It only just came out like April twenty twenty five,
but you do have to purchase it on or you
know how, you can rent them. You pay price twelve
dollars or buy it for twenty four or whatever it
(05:46):
is on Apple and Amazon.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Why did you buy this?
Speaker 2 (05:49):
Because I really love the main actress, Meghan Fahi. She's
like hot property at the moment.
Speaker 5 (05:55):
Sirens recently.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
In Sirens recently, she was in Bold type. Yes, I
fell in love with him type. I loved that show.
That was like Stan years ago. She was in White
Load of season two and she's just having a moment.
The plot sounded fun, like they sold it to me.
We all bought it, so Beban, Scherry and Jay and
collectively have said it is the worst thing we've ever
seen and we cannot get that time back of our life.
(06:17):
So I just want to tell people not to do it,
and I know that there will be people that are
looking to do it. You'll thank me, trust me. That's
my unsubscribed But my vibe this week is just like
from a lifer and it is just one of the
best vibes I think.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
I've ever brought.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
So we had a life of reach out to us online.
Her name is Rachel Jane Sculpting on Instagram Rachel Underscore
Jane Underscore Sculpting. She's been a lifer for ages and
you might have seen on Life Uncut Instagram or on
my own stories some puppy sculptures like so Delilah got
made into a sculpture. Buster got made into a sculpture. Yeah,
(06:51):
if you're on YouTube, we'll show you right now. And nessus.
If you're a lifer, you'll know that our video producer
Ness her puppy passed away like two weeks ago. It
was really sad. And Rachel sculpts. I cannot tell you
the detail and the intricacies and the accuracy of these sculptures,
Like I have never seen something look so much like
(07:12):
Delilah or like Bust, like our dogs. It's incredible. And
she sent them to us, and I just thought, this
is just such a a It's so thoughtful. B it's
she's so talented. And see, if you are like crazy
animal lovers like we are, it's a really beautiful thing
to have. Like maybe you've had a dog that has passed,
an old dog that you want to like have a
little bit more memorabilia at home. Maybe it's your animal now.
(07:34):
I just think it. It's such a cute idea, and
that's my vibe of the week.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
She did it actually did an incredible job, I amaid,
and I was confused.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
I was like, are these made on printers?
Speaker 3 (07:44):
But they're all handmade and they're all hand painted, and
they're just phenomenal.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
I can't get over how accurate they are.
Speaker 4 (07:49):
So I mean, like I'm looking at Busty and I'm like,
that's exactly what he looks like, even down to like
his little ab, his chest section because he's really strong
in the chairs.
Speaker 5 (07:56):
Delilah's marking she's a try.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Uh is that what I say?
Speaker 2 (08:00):
Try? Merle Aussie shepherd, a real auntie would know. Yes, No,
she's not try, She's just a Merle.
Speaker 4 (08:05):
All of the colors and all of the markings are
spot on, like that is exactly where the colors on
her cheeks are.
Speaker 5 (08:11):
I can't believe how accurate they are. They're absolutely amazing.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Yeah, So I just think it's a really unique, really
cool idea. So that's my vibe of the week.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
I also have a life of vibe.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
This week we've had some good, strong lifers come through
with the goods literally.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
So this is a water bottle.
Speaker 4 (08:26):
It's called the Stacky or just Stacky, and the instagram
for it is Stacky Store.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Now we're really into our dog content this week.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
But the reason why this water bottle is if you're
watching on YouTube, is amazing. It has these two compartments
in the bottom, which is what makes it be the
Stacky and you unscrew them, and it has a dog
bowl on the bottom of the water bottle and it
has two separate compartments. It also which I didn't even realize.
I just thought it had this little circle thing that
you can carry it from. But I found out this
morning that the circle thing is actually a magnet, so
(08:52):
you can see your phone in it if you're wanting
to like rest your phone in something.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
Yeah, if you're a water bottle Galley Keish looking at you.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
This is truly a fantastic water bowl and it's been
designed by one of our amazing lifers, So Staky dot
store go and check it out.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
She's an og lifer. She actually sent this to us,
but also sent a picture from one of our live
shows like years ago, so we know she's legitog. You're
a legitog, all right.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
My vibe this week is for the fellow people who
like me, may need to get up.
Speaker 5 (09:21):
In the middle of the night to go to the
toilet like three times.
Speaker 4 (09:24):
And I know that this could be a bit niche,
but I think it's gonna be one of those ones
that for people who need it, they're gonna think this
is the best thing ever.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
Okay, She's like, get a bedpan, highly recommend would think
about it.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Get the Nike shoes that light up on the walk often.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
So it is the crisped motion sensor led night lights
set in warm white Tupac for twenty five dollars.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
I don't just turn the light on, no too bright.
Speaker 4 (09:52):
I got it from Woolworth and it came with all
of the batteries. And these are also rent as friendly
because you don't need to install anything. Just pull off
the sticker at the back and you can just stick
it to the wall.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (10:04):
They are tailored for hallways, staircases and bathrooms. I also
thought this could be good for kids, like when they,
you know, get out of their bed to run into yours, because.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
Then you're inviting them. You're like, hey, look I need
to get there. Now the path is illuminated.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
I've actually started closing our door, so it's like fully shut.
Before I used to leave a gap. Now, like if
they get out of the bed, they get to the door,
they have to physically open it, which.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
Is like just I know it's only a small barrier,
but it is.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
A barrier of entry.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Or puts the electricity, she puts it back on itself.
Speaker 4 (10:32):
These would be nobood because they're battery operated, but I
find that I have to get up quite a few
times throughout the night, which is very annoying, and I'm
trying to work on that. I've actually seen a gp
about it, but I can't seem to not need to
go to the toilet in the middle of the night.
And you don't want to turn the lights on because
then it gets you out of that sleep sleep phase
too much.
Speaker 5 (10:49):
But I started running into things.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
This is the best, and I'm all for it, but
it's also like, could be great for your kids, or
if you're a little old lady, like just.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
Put your phone light.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
It's just a little you can, but then you see
what time it is, and all the sleep experts say
not to.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
Look at the time.
Speaker 4 (11:08):
So these ones they only illuminate when it's like dark,
and it's just a little bit illuminated.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
It's perfect.
Speaker 5 (11:13):
I got one in the hallway, one in the toilet.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
I couldn't do it, Delilah and beyond all night. She
cut slaps, She's like, hey, what's going on over here?
Speaker 6 (11:19):
Now?
Speaker 5 (11:19):
Are you up here?
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Like my life is be on and off with a cat.
Speaker 4 (11:22):
Yeah, you're twenty five dollars. It's going to be the
bit This is like when we spoke.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
About that knee pillow.
Speaker 4 (11:28):
I get a message at least every other day asking
for the link to the knee pillow because people are like.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
I do need that. I realized it's not the same.
You don't need to DM.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
Alright, let's get into these questions. Question number one, Hey, ladies,
So I finally found the one. After a long and
hard few years of dating a bunch of bing chickens,
I finally got my penguin.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
She actually added an emoji of a penguin into It's
very cute.
Speaker 4 (11:57):
We have talked about marriage, done all the ring sizes.
I've shown him what I would like, which he agrees
would suit me. Love that okay, and I'm now in
a pickle.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
He's been married before and he spent a lot of
money on his first wife's ring. She was forceful told
him which one she wanted, and she picked the most
expensive one. I have said that I don't expect a
super expensive ring, though I also don't want a cheap
knockoff of one that you can find on some website.
I guess my question is should it matter about how
much someone spends on a ring? I feel like knowing
(12:29):
he did pay a lot for an X means he
can at least meet halfway, so I get a good
quality piece of jewelry I'm gonna wear forever. Should I
offer to pay for some of it? He has mentioned
it should be about the gesture of proposing, not the
price tag. Side note, we've looked up the rings that
he was suggesting and they are all around a few
hundred dollars. I guess this is the standard for men's rings,
(12:53):
and I feel maybe he's comparing that to what I
should get.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
So sorry.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
What she's saying there is that they've looked at his
rings and his only a few hundred dollars, And she's like, Okay,
does he think that that's how much he should spend
on my ring?
Speaker 2 (13:04):
I mean, he's not wrong, but is he right? But
is he right? It's murky, no, his look, I have
different feelings. He's not wrong. It is about the gesture
of proposing. It is about love and about spending your
life together. One hundred percent. It isn't about the price
of a ring. Like I will die on that hill.
(13:26):
The price technically shouldn't matter. But I one hundred percent
understand why you don't want to ring for a couple
of hundred dollars because that usually goes back to the
quality of the ring, and you know you want to
ring forever. It is hard knowing also that he has
done the whole shebang in the past and now he's
saying that didn't work, so I'm not doing it again.
Is he expecting this? You know this marriage not to
(13:47):
work as well? But I also understand why some people
can't spend like ludicrous amounts of money on a ring.
So I don't know what your financial situation is. This
is what I want to say. If you know you
are financially comfortable enough to get a ring for a
few thousand dollars that you are happy with and you love,
then I think that you can have that conversation and
explain to him that you really want the quality. You
can get the most beautiful rings like lab grown diamonds
(14:10):
and white gold and gold for not that expensive. It
doesn't have to be a big giant, twenty thousand dollars ring.
But I yes, I would not want a ring for
three hundred dollars personally, but I don't need a ring
for ten thousand dollars either. Does that mean I don't
know if I'm answering it right, He's right with what
he's saying, But I understand why you're uncomfortable by it
(14:30):
because it just feels like you're getting the short end
of the deal. I think you're answering it perfectly.
Speaker 3 (14:37):
But I also think that even maybe the numbers that
you've thrown out are like ludicrously, like I don't know
anyone who spends twenty thousand or ten thousand dollars in
a ring, Like I know those rings exist, and I
know that there are people out there who have them,
But even if someone who works in jewelry, I would
say that, like, on average, the budgets that people come
to us with a tony may are like high end
(14:58):
is like five thousand dollars. People are pretty conservative these days,
and especially because there are a lot of options, And
when I say five thousand dollars is kind of like
the upper end of what people say they want to
spend in their budgets. Some people that have two thousand
and three thousand, and like, obviously sometimes people come with
unrealistic expectations, Like there's definitely time where people are like, hey,
I really want this ring, but for this money, and
(15:21):
this is how much money I have, and I'm like, cool,
so you've sent me a nineteen thousand dollars ring. I
cannot make that for three and a half thousand dollars.
It's not a possibility. So let's go back to the
drawing board. What I think in this situation is is
obviously money.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
We can all say it's superficial. It's not about the
money to me.
Speaker 4 (15:38):
I think the thing that's upsetting you, though, is that
it's not about the effort or the money.
Speaker 3 (15:42):
It's about the fact that he's been like, well, I've
done it before, as you said, I've done it before
for a wedding. I've spent a lot of money. I
gave her what she wanted and it didn't work out.
So you're getting kind of punished because he's already walked
that road for you. This might be his second wedding,
but it's your first wedding, so it should still feel
special for you and you shouldn't be penalized because his
first one didn't work out.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Yeah, but I don't think her issue is just that, Like,
she definitely wants a unique and decent ring. She said,
I just don't want another ring that you can get
on a website, And I don't know what you mean
by that either, Like do you want something unique that's
made for you, because there is absolutely nothing wrong with
getting it off websit with buying a ring that is
made and beautiful, and like it's hard to get a
ring that someone else doesn't have. Even my ring, it's
a plain gold band with an oval in it, like
(16:24):
an oval diamond, and that's there'd be a million people
with that ring. It doesn't take away from the specialness
for me. And yes, Ben did make it, but there's
still a bunch of rings that look exactly the same.
So I think you're getting caught up in a bit
of both. I think you're a bit put off from
the fact that it seems like you're getting the shorter
end of the stick, and like he's done it before,
and are you not important enough or does he not
(16:45):
think there's longevity in your relationship. There's that side, but
there's also a side, I think where you're putting a
real monetary value on it.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
Yeah, And I guess the other thing is is like,
of course, if you're getting a custom made ring, it
doesn't matter who's making it or where it's being made,
it will come with a much higher price tag.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
That's just the reality.
Speaker 3 (17:02):
Then if you were to buy something that is off
the shelf, and I think there are so many incredible
options for pieces that are off the shelf. There are
incredible options on Etsy. Etsy is such a great place
for finding like handmade beautiful jewelry because it doesn't come
with the high price tag because they don't have all
of the additional business expenses that a lot of big
(17:23):
businesses have. So like, there is a lot of great
jery on there. You could go through a smaller jeweler,
there's other options.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
I think you.
Speaker 3 (17:30):
Guys need to probably mutually agree on what is around
about a budget that you want to spend. But also
it's interesting to me because it sounds like you guys
don't have any combined finances by the sounds of things.
When you say, should I be offering to pay for
a bit or you know xyz, I guess, like, do
you have an understanding of what is his financial situation,
what he's able to afford?
Speaker 1 (17:50):
Because those are all factors that have to come into it.
Speaker 3 (17:52):
But I guess, and I would love to know what
most people's opinions are. I don't think it's about how
much money you spend on an engagement ring. I definitely
think you need something that's quality, that's gonna last, that's
made well and built to last. But I don't think
it's about the price tag. So for me, I wouldn't
be ruling things off purely because it has a monetary
value next to it.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Yeah, and I don't know how to verbalize it properly
because it's not about the money and it's not about
the price tag. But it also can be because if
you know your finances are fine, if he's spending a
lot of money going out, just in general, I have
no idea if your totally totally If he's dropping money
on his car, hobby or whatever it is, and then
he says to you, I'll give you a ring for
three hundred bars, I'd be fucking off that.
Speaker 4 (18:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
If you know that, it's like I want to spend
my life with you and I love you. You know
things are tight, like can this do for now? Or
it depends on how we're saying it. So whilst the
monetary value doesn't matter, I understand that in some situations
it absolutely does. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
I was just thinking then that whole time, I was
like magine if Matt was like, totally go and spend
two thousand dollars on spearfishing equipment. Hey, honeys, I know
that I want to propose to you, but I only
want to spend two hundred to three hundred dollars in
a ring, because that's all I think is worth it
for you, just in case you leave and I lose
that money. I mean, good luck having that conversation though,
because that's.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
Having said that, I don't think you necessarily This is
the other aspect, right, he said, Should I contribute to it?
Some people do? Some people if they collectively come to
an agreement that their finances, say five grand is the
ring and you want one for seven, If you're happy
to go and spend that extra two, then that is
so fine. But I don't think in a normal situation
that the woman should contribute to that moment.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
Yeah, what I would love to know about the page only.
Speaker 3 (19:32):
The only thing I don't have in this question which
I would love to know is what does she think
is an acceptable amount to spend? Yeah, because like if
she's gonna say it's eight thousand dollars, nine thousand dollars,
I'd be like, God, friend, that's too high come down,
like I want to know. And maybe this is a
question for you guys, like what do you think would
be an appropriate amount to spend?
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Do you care or don't you care?
Speaker 3 (19:52):
And I think, like, let's garner that information from like
a pole perspective, because I really do think that everyone
has such a different benchmark for what's in a appropriate
amount to spend on an engagement ring.
Speaker 4 (20:01):
I remember, and this is going back like a while ago,
there used to be that notion of like it's supposed
to be free much salary. I think about that now
and I'm like, that's fucking insane. Like I don't know
if the cost of living was just more reasonable back then,
but I cannot imagine spending three months worth of a
salary on a ring now.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
And also, I mean, this is something that's pretty niche
to the jely industry. But gold and silver and white
gold have gone up astronomically, Like it is actually kind
of frightening as someone who runs a jewelry business, how
much the price of gold and precious stones and everything
has gone up. And the reason for that obviously inflation
everything else, but it's had the highest jumps on the ASX.
And the thing is is like, it's really hard for
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us to price jewelry at the moment because it's you know,
you set a price for something and then six months later,
there's zero profit in making that peace because the price
of gold and silver have gone up so much.
Speaker 4 (20:54):
I listened to Prof g two weeks ago, and the
price of gold had doubled.
Speaker 5 (20:59):
Since twenty twenty two.
Speaker 4 (21:00):
Yeah, because you told me that it had gone up,
but I didn't realize it had literally double because they
were talking about in terms of like an investment. So yeah,
I was really surprised by how much it had increased.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
Everybody, go out and buy your goal bullion. That's all
I can say.
Speaker 3 (21:12):
Buy your goal coins, your goal bullion, and we'll bite
it off you and melt it down, make some risk.
Speaker 2 (21:17):
I had this conversation with someone the other day, and
I found it really interesting, and so I did some
like research. But apparently now just over fifty percent of people,
so fifty two percent of people from surveys choosing lab
grown diamonds now instead of real diamonds. So it is
shifting drastically. And I was having a conversation with someone
the other day. He was waiting to get engaged, and
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I said that mine's lab grown. I made Ben get
me a love grown diamond, Like there is no way
I will ever let him spend that amount of money
on something on my hand when it could go to
a house deposit, because that's like crazy amounts of money.
Speaker 5 (21:52):
It's also more ethical.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
It's more ethical, and it doesn't mean anything to me,
like my ring looks stunning. It is exactly the same
as a die. And if you guys don't know labgrown
and chemically engineered to be identical to a diamond, they're
just ethically sourced and they're so much cheaper. And this
conversation with this girl was like, no, I'd be off
it if it wasn't a real one. And I just
couldn't understand why status.
Speaker 3 (22:13):
I think it's also perception and a lot of people
aren't educated about lab grown diamonds. Even recently, Kate, my
sister in law, she lost a diamond from her ring
and she has three diamonds in her engagement ring, and
she took her back to the jewelers who made it
and they were like, well, it will be this price
for a real diamond, or it'll be this price for
a lab grown diamond and she went with the lab
grown and Ellie was like, but it's your engagement ring.
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I think people don't have a perception that actually, to
the naked eye, they look identical.
Speaker 5 (22:39):
I think people think they're like cubic zirconia.
Speaker 3 (22:41):
Yeah, and it's the same composition and everything. But I
just looked it up. The average amount that an Australian
spends on their engagement ring is six thousand dollars, which
I still think is quite high. Like that to me
seems really high, but that was a twenty twenty three survey.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
Yeah, six thousand dollars.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
They go, okay. Question number two I think is very relatable.
I want to organize a family photoshoot with my grandma, parents, husband, baby,
and my brother. My grandma is in her nineties, so
I really want to get a beautiful photo of our
little family while we've still got the chance. Now here's
where I am a terrible person. My brother has a
partner who I honestly adore. She's gorgeous. We all get
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along so well and they're very serious, but I don't
want her in the photos.
Speaker 6 (23:23):
The thing is sorry at my wedding, his ex who
he was also very serious with was in every single
family photo, and now I feel like I can't display
any of them without it being weird.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
So while I truly hope this relationship last forever, I
just want to cover my bases this time. How do
I bring this up without hurting anyone's feelings or causing
a big family drama? Is it okay to ask her
to not be in the photo? And if so, what's
the least awkward way to handle it? Help a guilty
girl out. PS. We have never done a family photoshoot
and probably won't do many after this.
Speaker 3 (23:57):
I can help you out with this because I have
done many, and I have been in them and I
have been out of them. So Matt's family when we're
in Barron Bay one year, we did like all the
family shoot right like.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
It was lovely.
Speaker 3 (24:08):
We had a professional photographer and it was for least
seventieth I think it was she wanted to have like
a really nice family photo. And if you're getting a
professional photographer, which it sounds like this, that's why it's
planned thing that you you know you've got someone coming
to take a big photo of your family. They don't
just take one photo. They take multiple versions of the photo.
So if there's like you and your brother and like
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other siblings and your mom and your dad, whatever, it
looks like you're gonna get a family photo. You're gonna
get photos of just the siblings. You're gonna get photos
of just the answer. Whatever is the combination. And I
think the easiest way to go about it is you
have one big group family photo with the girlfriend in it.
She's included, she can be invited. And then you also say, okay,
we're just having a photo with the Johnson's now, and
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that's all. You don't have to point out to the
one person tell them they're not in it. It was
very figured it out. It was very evident. My last
name is not Johnson. I wasn't in the Johnson photo.
So like they just had the siblings and Ellie and
it was just Ellie and the boys and Kate and
I wasn't in that.
Speaker 4 (25:04):
I don't expect to be in that. Bill didn't expect
to be in that either. The kids weren't in that.
It was just their core little family. I don't think
at all.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
I think it's fine.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
My thing is is if you make a big deal
about it now and tell us she's not invited, then
it becomes a thing whereas you can absolutely get a
couple of different versions of family orientations at a photo shoot,
and then you just use.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
The one you want.
Speaker 5 (25:26):
What happens if she's the only person who's not.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Like, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 3 (25:30):
But that's fine because you're still gonna have a photo
with your siblings, and then you'll still have like I'll
get a photo with mum and dad. You get a
photo with mum and dad. Okay, let's just get one
of the kids a mum and dad. Like, it doesn't
have to be a big deal.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
I don't think this.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
Is so normal to me.
Speaker 5 (25:43):
Good solution.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
Yeah, this wasn't. Even when I read this, I was like, oh,
this is such an easy answer. Exactly what you just said.
You just say, hey, immediate family only Now if she's
offended by that, which I would be shocked, it's so normal.
It's like at a wedding where you're like everybody in,
partners in, kids in, all right, kids out, everyone out?
Now just the parents now just the parents and siblings
and now partners, Like that's so normal to do one
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hundred different photos. She's not going to be offended if
you're doing an immediate family photo with your grandma. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (26:10):
The thing is, though, is it sounds like it's something
that makes you awkward, so you're not good at delegating
what is coming up. You know, when you say that
at your wedding you now have photos of your brother
with his ex girlfriend in every single photo, it sounds
to me like you didn't kind of go, okay, well,
we're just going to get one of immediate family now,
which would infer that she's not supposed to be in
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that one, or other solutions. You put them on the
end so you can photoshop them out if something goes wrong.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
Yeah, I just do it right on the end, let
her come, don't even say anything advance, and then when
you're doing the photos, you'd be like, hey, can we
grab an immediate family photo now? Two seconds?
Speaker 1 (26:43):
That's it easy.
Speaker 3 (26:45):
I agree, although I do also resonate with like how
difficult it is when you do have these beautiful photos
and then there's one person who's no longer in your
life in them. So like my mum's wedding to my stepdad, Neil,
my ex boyfriend came and he's in a three fucking
photo and that's my fault because I wanted him in
the photos because at the time I was like, this
is forever, and so I was the one that was
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like keeping him in the photos. And no one, no
one should have said, oh, let's just get one of
you know, just us. I wish they had, but no
one did. And so now he's like and he's so tall,
and he's in the center of all of them, and
so I just don't.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
Have any aim.
Speaker 3 (27:20):
Now you could photoshop you amount now I probably could.
I'm gonna stick it in the Facebook group. Can someone photo.
Speaker 2 (27:25):
Show Dan photo? Can someone please photo shop my ex
boyfriend out?
Speaker 3 (27:29):
Phototo I'll blur his face out and then can someone
take his body out of the photos from my mum's wedding.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
Katie Perry and Space, you can photoshop your ex boyfriend?
Speaker 5 (27:41):
I have a photo?
Speaker 2 (27:43):
All right?
Speaker 4 (27:44):
All right?
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Question number three.
Speaker 3 (27:47):
I am married and I am a mom of three
kids who are four and a half, two and a
half and an almost six month baby. Life is very
hectic and very busy. I just graduated from my nursing
degree and I'm about to start.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
My first job.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Well that's impressive. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (28:02):
I went out drinking with my husband and his brothers
and one of their wives, who I absolutely adore.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
She has no kids.
Speaker 3 (28:09):
She got very drunk and when I was leaving to
say bye, she basically told me that I am so
incredibly lazy when we have family get togethers, as I
don't cook or clean up. And even though I always
ask my mother in law if I can bring anything
or help in any way, which she always says no to,
I generally clean up my own things, but usually I'm
sitting on the couch, breastfeeding the baby or just relaxing,
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so I'm so tired. My husband generally tells me to
sit down and he will clean up for me. While
on this drunk ramble, she was yelling at me and
saying everyone talks about me and how I don't do anything.
I feel so incredibly sad and cannot stop crying and
feeling so worthless. Any advice how do I move forward
and build that relationship back up? Also curious if I
am in the wrong here.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
That's so mean, Yes.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
That is so the way I mean. We can't use
being drunk as an ex I understand she was drunk
and yelling abuse at you, but that fucking doesn't take
away from the fact that she shouldn't have done that.
That's incredibly awkward that now you know that they're unhappy
with you. I don't have kids, but every one of
my siblings does that, all my friends do. I think
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it is unfair for them to expect you to be
breastfeeding and looking after a small child that you know,
unless the child is asleep peacefully. I think it's unfair
for them to be saying, you know you need to breastfeed,
then come wash up. If your husband is completely capable,
he's capable, Like, you don't need fifty of you in
the kitchen, but having said that, you do need to
like pull your weight a little bit, and maybe that's
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just bringing something like maybe I don't know. She's made
it sound like you do nothing. I'd be shocked if
you do nothing. But there are ways around trying to
act like you're contributing in a way, which is, you know,
bringing something or taking a plate away or whatever. But
you're not an asshole for breastfeeding your child and not
fucking doing the washing up for your entire partner's family
A hundred.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
I feel conflicted by this because one I'm like, it
reads as though you do nothing except breastfeed your kid
and sit on the couch and have drinks with your
husband and the brothers. That's what it reads like, Yeah,
is that the reality probably not. Just because someone says no,
don't bring anything doesn't mean that you always show up
not doing anything or bring anything.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
I would say that, like it's usually a throwaway comment. Well,
note Eve, it is a throwaway comment.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
Even if it's men, like don't bring anything or don't
do anything, I would still say that for the majority,
you should do something if you're in someone else's house,
even if you have kids. The reason why I say
this is because often, yes, you might have three kids
and it's busy and like fuck, I feel you like
I've got two kids and I take them to people's houses.
But clean up after your kids, because if you're not
doing anything, I would dare say your kids are also
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contributing to a huge.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
Mess in that house.
Speaker 3 (30:43):
Is it just then everyone else's responsibility to clean up
after your children when you're there.
Speaker 1 (30:48):
I think that that's something to be very aware of.
Speaker 3 (30:50):
But also it's not your place just because you're the
woman in the equation to do the cleaning. What are
all the brothers doing if your husband is happy to
do it, and he is taking the weight for both
of you doing the line's share while you're doing the kids.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
Then I would say that there's parody in that.
Speaker 3 (31:04):
I also think the way that this is how she's
gone about this has been deeply damaging to your friendship
in the relationship. Rambling and yelling at you and then
saying everyone talks about you behind your back is the worst,
the fucking nastiest way of communicating. All that needed to
be said at any point in time by literally anyone
in that situation was Hey, Sair, do you mind giving
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help with the dishes? And I say this because like
we host, for example, we host Christmas at our house
every year for the extended family. Last couple of years,
Matt's brothers come down, my sister, her family, Matt's sister,
her family. Like, it's a lot of people in our house,
and everyone brings something. Not everyone contributes to the cleaning
a lot of time, and you notice a lot of
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time people are sitting on their butts and like, and
you know there is definitely a gender split. Like Matt's
mum and sister and my sister are always the ones
in the kitchen doing cleaning and cooking and whatnot, And
that does just seem to be the stereotype, I would say,
across the board for a lot of people.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
I don't want to say that the boys don't do anything.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
Of course they do.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
Of course they do.
Speaker 3 (32:05):
But sometimes I think we expect less of men in
those equations. We allow them to be like, oh, it's
their time to have a beer, sit down and relax now,
while all the women are running around doing stuff. I'm
guessing that the sister in law, the wife, and also
the mum probably are doing the heavy load of the
cooking and cleaning. I'm pretty sure that she's got no kids.
I bet you she's in the kitchen and she's doing
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all the cleaning with the mum in that situation, and
she's fucking resentful. And it's a shame that she's taking
it out on you and she's not taking it out
on her husband. But I think that a bigger conversation
needs to be had here, probably one with your husband firstly,
saying you know, okay, Like, firstly, are we as a
couple contributing enough and doing enough? Are you picking up
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the slack of what I'm not able to do because
I'm with the kids and figure that out first. And
if you think that there's a deficit there, then absolutely
you need to be doing more as a team and
as a couple. But it's not your job just because
you're the female in that equation to do more than
everyone else.
Speaker 2 (33:02):
Yeah, but I also think I think you need to
just judge if you're being lazy or not. Because you
have three kids under five, one's a baby that's breastfeeding
on two and a half toddler running around like a maniac,
and she has no kids. You can't argue the fact
that you are different in the level of responsibility and
how busy you are in that moment. Like if you
finished dinner and you have to change a two year old,
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stop them from pulling something over, breastfeeds your baby, your
four year old is running manic and she has nothing
to do, then of course it makes sense for you
to try and wrangle the kids and she cleans up.
But if you know that there's opportunities and you are
just being lazy, then that's on you, Like you do
need to contribute something or I just wouldn't make a
big deal of it. Now when you say, how do
I make amends. I probably wouldn't bring it up again,
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to be honest, if she was drunk, I would just
start to see where you can contribute and try and
contribute more.
Speaker 3 (33:48):
I have a question for you, though, Brian, if your
sister in law had three children, and their children were
contributing to the mess obviously using plates, using cutlery, using dishes,
fucking throwing shit on floors, Like I mean, they're very little,
I'm guessing that they make a big mess. That's what
kids that age do, pulling toys out, pulling books out.
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And their parents of those kids were so busy or
so tired because of the parenting, but they weren't doing
any of the cleaning. And you, yourself found that every
night time you were not only cleaning your own stuff,
but you're also cleaning.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
Up after children. Would you not feel the same.
Speaker 3 (34:22):
Would you not feel like, Hey, okay, if you don't
check out in your own home, don't check out in
this home.
Speaker 2 (34:26):
No. I read this as in, she's not cleaning the
food and the dishes and the kitchen. I assume she's
still cleaning up after your kids. And the reason she's
not doing the kitchen stuff is because she's looking up
after the kids. Of course you have to look after
your kids. But I read this as in, like, I've
got three manic kids that i've with, I can't do
that part now. But if you're not cleaning up of
your kids mess in the house, of course you need
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to do that. But I didn't read that like that.
Speaker 3 (34:48):
I also read this, I generally clean up after my
own things. I think cleaning up after your own things
is the bare minimum. Yes, say I can't say I
generally clean up after my own things. No, it doesn't
matter how you clean up, It doesn't matter.
Speaker 1 (34:59):
How you are.
Speaker 3 (35:00):
In a group setting, you clean up after yourself. And
I think everyone pitches in in the communal way.
Speaker 2 (35:05):
Yeah, so maybe, I mean, maybe do you need to
pull you wait a little bit more. I don't know.
We can't answer that. We don't know what you do
and just lay down and have a nap after dinner?
Speaker 3 (35:12):
You like it sounds like it sounds like she breastfeeds
and then she has a nap too tired.
Speaker 2 (35:17):
The last question, is it normal not to care when
my partner is sick feels? Is it normal not to
care when my partner is sick or unwell? I'd been
with my partner for nine years. We have a nearly
two year old daughter. Before having her, every time he
gets sick, he refers to it as man flu and
actually thinks it's a thing where men experience it worse
than women. That's so dumb, mind you. I'm a nurse
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and have told him so many times man flu isn't
an actual thing. It's frustrating because when I'm sick, I
still do some of the housework around the house. Sometimes
it's just the bare minimum, but I'm still doing it.
But when he is sick, the whole week is a
ride off for him. Now, after having our daughter, my
patience and tolerance is much less when it comes to
him being sick. I know he's allowed to get sick
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blah blah blah, but it's different now. We don't have
the luxury to just rest and recover with an energetic
toddler who we need to look after. He thinks I'm
not being empathetic and I'm being cruel, and hey, maybe
i am. I honestly feel like I have zero care
factor when he's unwell. My priorities are just different, and
I know that's put a strain on our relationship. Is
it just me We'll not caring about his man flu
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affect the longevity of our relationship.
Speaker 4 (36:22):
How often is he sick that it puts a strain
on your relationships?
Speaker 2 (36:25):
Sounds like a lot. How often has this.
Speaker 4 (36:28):
Guy got man flu? Do you know what Matt said recently?
Speaker 1 (36:31):
And it drove me. It drove me into orbit. I
was in out of space.
Speaker 3 (36:35):
So he did this test with Ash on his podcast,
You Noting Dad's where they got a tens machine and
it's meant to simulate the feelings of labor.
Speaker 4 (36:44):
And so he was just not accurate. Yeah, So he
was showing me the video and he was.
Speaker 3 (36:47):
Like, fuck, we're so hectic, and I was like, that
doesn't even come close to labor, Like that doesn't even
touch the side.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
It's a period pain, not even labor.
Speaker 3 (36:57):
And he was adamant how parallel was to labor. And
I was like, pal, I was vomiting with every contraction
and couldn't walk or speak.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
I was like, you're laughing. It's not the same men.
Speaker 3 (37:11):
I don't know, it's definitely not It's not all men,
but there's definitely some men who do not deal with
any sort of like pain threshold or sickness and it
takes them completely out for the count. And I think
that there's a lot of I don't want to say
it's weaponizing competence because it's not quite that, but it's
like weaponizing your sickness or whatever. Because men often have
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the luxury of going, i've got the flu, so I
need to be in bed. But as women, we don't
have that luxury, and we just have to fucking get
on with it when we have kids. And I don't
think that the sympathy is paralleled. I understand why you
feel a little bit resentful in this way. I also
understand that it's probably amplified because you're a nurse and
you actually deal with sick people every day, and so
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you coming home to a husband who's got a head
cold calling at the man flu and he can't get
out of bed or do any thing is just monumentally frustrating,
and so I kind of go, maybe you've taken a
little bit too far.
Speaker 2 (38:07):
Maybe that's got to be like some level of empathy.
Speaker 3 (38:09):
But you don't have to pander to his every man
flu whim because he can just grow the fuck up.
Speaker 2 (38:14):
I think it's valid. I think your feeling's valid. Men
don't get more sick than women. We all get equally
as sick with To be honest, it's worse for women.
A week of every month we are like flawed with
a period, flawed with hormonal headaches, flowed with everything else.
Speaker 1 (38:30):
On top of that, we're also working.
Speaker 2 (38:31):
On top of that, chances are they're doing eighty percent
of that running of the household at home with the
kids and you've got toddlers. And I just think it's
bullshit when men are like, I'm out of action. You
can be out of action. You can get so sick
that you can't get out of bed, and I think
if that's happening, of course you're going to look after
your partner. The thing is you're smart enough to know
the difference, and that's why it's put you off, because
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you know he's pulling your leg and having a bit
of a laugh, he's taking the piss. You're a nurse.
If you know that he's absolutely so sick of you're
going to look after him and understand it. But you know,
it's the same thing that we all get every single
month of our life. Like it's really hard to know
that you are like going through the trenches and looking
after everything when you're feeling the same way. Just because
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he's saying man flu, Like man flu is if you
had the flu, he'd been hospital. Flu kills people. The
flu's like he's got a coal he's got a running nose.
Tell him to get the fuck out of bed. I
understand why it puts you off as well and causes
problems in the relationship, because it's not just that, it's
more than that. It's you having the responsibility than of
the whole household and all the cleaning and all the
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child caring. And of course that's going to put a
divide between you and your partner, like that's going to
build so much resentment.
Speaker 3 (39:39):
There's actually I mean, this is very interesting. I just
did a little google. The most often cited evidence of
the existence of man flu is a twenty seventeen British
Medical journal review by men that found is by men
that found a number of studies suggesting men have a
weaker immune response to viral respiratory infections, resulting in longer
lasting illnesses and simymptoms. But your immune response is what
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makes you feel bad in the first place. It's what
makes your throat ache or your nose run or a
stronger immune system could arguably make you feel worse short term. Basically,
it's saying that there are some studies to suggest, Laura,
what a load of rubbish, who's siding one? There is
some studies to hear me out, There are some studies
that suggest that men may feel the flu worse than women. However,
(40:25):
the end result of this is that in the end
there was a little overall difference between the sexes in
self reported symptoms assessed using twenty two ouh blah blah blah. Look,
the reality is is I think, like you said, Britt,
if you're having to take on the full mental load
of everything and one person is allowed to entirely check
out to get better, but when it's reversed, you don't
have that same luxury.
Speaker 1 (40:45):
Of course you're going to feel resentful. That is not
your fault.
Speaker 3 (40:48):
That is also something that you go, Okay, look, I
can have sympathy for this now, and I will.
Speaker 1 (40:53):
I will carry the load.
Speaker 3 (40:55):
But you need to know that when I am comparatively sick,
I'm doing fuck all.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
I not getting out of bed. I'm going to do nothing.
Speaker 3 (41:02):
And when our daughter comes in winging and crying, you
are one hundred percent responsible for her, and if I
have to get out of bed to take care of her,
I'll be filthy at you because you don't afford me
the same.
Speaker 1 (41:12):
Luxuries when you're sick.
Speaker 2 (41:14):
It just won't work. So no, it won't tat just
causes like more problems.
Speaker 1 (41:19):
Or point scoring in a relationship is not good.
Speaker 2 (41:21):
No shame. Wow. No, I thought that.
Speaker 3 (41:24):
That was the way to really heal your relationship wounds.
Make sure you keep a tally of every time you
want an argument that's also really good.
Speaker 4 (41:30):
On a whiteboard in the kitchen, like a rewards chart.
Give yourself a sticker.
Speaker 2 (41:34):
I want that argument you did well today, you clean today?
Speaker 1 (41:38):
Ah yeah, look, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (41:39):
I mean I think that this is way more common
than what we probably realize. I know that even Keisha
sometimes is like I have no sympathy when there's sickness
in our household and vice versa. That I was having
a conversation with a girlfriend who was going through something similar,
and it is so much more exacerbated when you have
children in the mix.
Speaker 4 (41:55):
Yeah, I mean, people are going to think I'm awful
for this, but sometimes I do get the ick when
I'm like, oh, just suck it up like it is
dependent on how sick and YadA YadA. But in my experiences,
not just with my current partner, but in ones in
the past, I've definitely been like I would get on
with that, you know, I would just get And I
think it's exactly what you said, Britt, We're just so
(42:17):
used to having to navigate pain, having to navigate discomfort
because of various hormonal systems.
Speaker 2 (42:23):
But having said that, Keys, there's been a number of
times you have said the same thing to me about
Todblaw and where you're like, he could give me a
little bit of sympathy when I'm sick.
Speaker 4 (42:30):
So it's like You're like, I don't want to give
it to him, but he needs to give me. I
get sick so rarely that when I am sick and
I'm like, no, I'm properly sick. It's real, it's very real,
and I think, I mean, he does deal with people
who are literally in life of a situation. Yeah, So
as similar to this woman, I understand why if you're
in healthcare, your tolerance for it, I guess would be
(42:51):
reduced because you see people literally in the worst states
of their lives.
Speaker 5 (42:55):
But I fully I'm so on your side about this,
even though I experience it in as well.
Speaker 2 (43:00):
So it's so frustrating to me.
Speaker 4 (43:02):
That he doesn't have sympathy for me because he expects
heaps of sympathy when.
Speaker 3 (43:06):
He's also a doctor, so we actually sees real sick
people and he's like, this is nothing.
Speaker 1 (43:10):
Get out of bed, go to work.
Speaker 5 (43:11):
That would I say to him?
Speaker 1 (43:12):
Get up and work?
Speaker 5 (43:13):
God damn it wants to work anymore.
Speaker 2 (43:17):
All right, Well, guys, that is it from us.
Speaker 3 (43:19):
If you want to wait in on any of these questions,
we're gonna put some poles up on Instagram like we
always do, but also slide into the dms because slide.
Speaker 2 (43:27):
On in, slide on in slash Did we just say
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Speaker 1 (43:31):
We spend too much time again, way too much time.
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gun cuts for next week. We need some saucy ones.
I want some like hamster wheeling or whatever, just a
hamster wheel? Have you ever done the thirsty hamster? Send photos?
Speaker 2 (43:51):
Don't send photo, just let us know anonymously you.
Speaker 4 (43:54):
Know, I was just thinking, I forgot to mention that
I really hope people who do that have tinted windows,
hope like me.
Speaker 3 (43:59):
On whole day, I'm googling thirsty handster sun Rufe photos.
Speaker 2 (44:07):
I wonder if anyone's ever put it on. Let's see.
Speaker 3 (44:09):
Oh my god, there's so many tiktoks on this, There's
just so many. But then there's also a lot of
tiktoks of just hamsters drinking out of it.
Speaker 2 (44:17):
Rely thirsty.
Speaker 4 (44:18):
I'd rather watch that, you know, the drill te friends
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Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Li
Fun Cut.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and this is ask gun Cut
where we answer You're deep, You're dark, and you're burning questions.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
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to bring it every day for us three days and
I've said save it for ask gun Cut.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Why do I keep getting sidelined with this?
Speaker 2 (00:31):
We had other more important things.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
You don't even know what it was. You don't even
know how important it is. All right, I have a
question to wait for it.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
I came across something. Well, firstly, it's a sex position.
I'm just going to get it out there. Have I
ever tried it?
Speaker 2 (00:46):
No?
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Will I ever try it? Absolutely fucking not. But it's
been talked about quite a bit on TikTok recently and
I was flawed by this one. I'm just going to
tell you the name of it, and then I would
love some kis. You already know, so you're not allowed
to contribute here. You have to stay quiet and keep
it inside.
Speaker 4 (01:02):
But when you did describe it to me, I got
it very mixed up.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
You're very confused.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
You can get into that a bit.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
Okay, the sex position is called hamstering or the thirsty hamster. Okay,
what do you think, my in tailor thirsty hamster.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
When I think of a thirsty hamster, I think of
like a hamster it's been running for too long on
a wheel and he's parched. So is it something to
do with like have a little.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
Just like try and think of a sex position that
could be trined as a thirsty hamster.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
That's what I was doing. I was trying to associate
water hamster does to be thirsty. It's on a wheel,
So is it like something like circular sixty nine thing?
I don't know what else does the hamster do?
Speaker 3 (01:45):
It just eats lettuce guys a strap on in Because
this is You're never going to be the same person
after hearing this, So the thirsty hamster. Imagine if you
have a car that has a sun roof, but only
not like a full sun roof because in like you
now like a lot of cars just have that little
mini square like little peel back that you're like one
of those. Okay, right, So the guy lays on top
(02:07):
of the car, like lays completely on top of the car.
Speaker 4 (02:10):
You have to have a car face down. Yeah, you
have to have a car face down.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
With a sunroof. With a sunroof, it's really niche, niche
sex position. It's only for the privilege, not really. I mean,
you're gonna have a keya.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
But if you have a car then yes, all right,
So I'm not saying you have to do it in Mercedes.
You can do it in any car that has a
small sunroof. The guy has to lay on the top
of the car, undo his fly stick his penis through
the sun roof, and then the person in the car
gives him a blowjob and that.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
But why is it? What does that got to do
with a hamster.
Speaker 4 (02:42):
Hans his drink from the water bottles, you know, the
water bottle with the little spat, and it's like because
it's hanging from the ceiling.
Speaker 5 (02:49):
So the sounds are just made, really made.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
N I mean, but it is though.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
That's actually the fucking rankless thing that's on part of
people that have sex with their car exhaust. No, it's
a bit of the person. You're not fucking the car
as well. There's got to be a car fetish in that.
That's whoever came up with that has fucked an exhaust.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
Can you imagine driving down the street and like, cause
the guy wouldn't be naked, right, he'd be fully closed.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
You have his pants on, laying on the road. Just
have to open no, no, no, you just have to
open your fly.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
Imagine driving down the.
Speaker 4 (03:23):
Road and there's a park car and a dude's just
laying on the top of it, like you now know
what he's doing, You know what's going on.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
I feel like it's like an inside thing. I think
you're doing in your garage, down the main street, the
shopping set. You're not a BONDI junction. I disagree.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
I think that if someone's doing this, it's for the
voyeuristic element of it. I think that they're doing it
so they can get away with it, because otherwise, why
wouldn't you just go inside and suck his dick?
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Why would you do it.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
In the It's a car fetish. You know why we're
talking about car fetish? Just don't ask me how I
know so much about them Fast and Furious. Another thing
they do is they fuck the exhaust. But nothing they
do is have sex with the car seat, like so
they put their penis between the like you know how
a car, the back seat goes down. If it's leather
or something, it goes down around and then it comes out.
So it's like a crevice and a crevice between the
(04:06):
seats they have sex with where the seats join. Who
when you say they the car, the hamsters. All those
people are are sex in cars. Not illegal, but pretty weird.
It's definitely not illegal.
Speaker 5 (04:18):
The reason I was so confused when Laura first told
me about this.
Speaker 4 (04:21):
Is that she didn't give me the position of the people.
She just said that, you know, the person is through
the sun roof and someone's getting their dick sucked.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
And so I don't know why.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
I don't know why, but I imagined that the person
who was having their penis pleasure was laying in the car,
and I was like, why would someone.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
They would have to reach the hook.
Speaker 5 (04:45):
That was very confused.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
It was very confusient.
Speaker 4 (04:48):
I did. I did describe it in the same way.
I think you just missed the details.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
So how did you? Why are you looking this ud?
Speaker 5 (04:53):
I tried to blame you for why I didn't understand.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
So hamstering or the thirsty hamster. On TikTok, it's been
trending and people are talk about it, and here we are.
This is how we got here. I don't know how
I came across it. I don't know why I came
across it.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
You did get a new car recently, Laura. It is
just something you've given a whirl. Laur. It's like I
know nothing, but apparently people are doing it. I do,
and it has a sun roof.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
All right, well, look, let's get into our vibes and
unsubscribed for the weeks before we answer your questions.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Brittany, vibe a unsubscribe.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
I'm actually gonna start with an unsubscribe. My unsubscribe is
a movie. It is a movie that I unfortunately purchased,
and I want to make sure no one else ever
spends their money on this movie. So it's called Drop.
It only just came out like April twenty twenty five,
but you do have to purchase it on or you
know how, you can rent them. You pay price twelve
dollars or buy it for twenty four or whatever it
(05:46):
is on Apple and Amazon.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Why did you buy this?
Speaker 2 (05:49):
Because I really love the main actress, Meghan Fahi. She's
like hot property at the moment.
Speaker 5 (05:55):
Sirens recently.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
In Sirens recently, she was in Bold type. Yes, I
fell in love with him type. I loved that show.
That was like Stan years ago. She was in White
Load of season two and she's just having a moment.
The plot sounded fun, like they sold it to me.
We all bought it, so Beban, Scherry and Jay and
collectively have said it is the worst thing we've ever
seen and we cannot get that time back of our life.
(06:17):
So I just want to tell people not to do it,
and I know that there will be people that are
looking to do it. You'll thank me, trust me. That's
my unsubscribed But my vibe this week is just like
from a lifer and it is just one of the
best vibes I think.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
I've ever brought.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
So we had a life of reach out to us online.
Her name is Rachel Jane Sculpting on Instagram Rachel Underscore
Jane Underscore Sculpting. She's been a lifer for ages and
you might have seen on Life Uncut Instagram or on
my own stories some puppy sculptures like so Delilah got
made into a sculpture. Buster got made into a sculpture. Yeah,
(06:51):
if you're on YouTube, we'll show you right now. And nessus.
If you're a lifer, you'll know that our video producer
Ness her puppy passed away like two weeks ago. It
was really sad. And Rachel sculpts. I cannot tell you
the detail and the intricacies and the accuracy of these sculptures,
Like I have never seen something look so much like
(07:12):
Delilah or like Bust, like our dogs. It's incredible. And
she sent them to us, and I just thought, this
is just such a a It's so thoughtful. B it's
she's so talented. And see, if you are like crazy
animal lovers like we are, it's a really beautiful thing
to have. Like maybe you've had a dog that has passed,
an old dog that you want to like have a
little bit more memorabilia at home. Maybe it's your animal now.
(07:34):
I just think it. It's such a cute idea, and
that's my vibe of the week.
Speaker 3 (07:38):
She did it actually did an incredible job, I amaid,
and I was confused.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
I was like, are these made on printers?
Speaker 3 (07:44):
But they're all handmade and they're all hand painted, and
they're just phenomenal.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
I can't get over how accurate they are.
Speaker 4 (07:49):
So I mean, like I'm looking at Busty and I'm like,
that's exactly what he looks like, even down to like
his little ab, his chest section because he's really strong
in the chairs.
Speaker 5 (07:56):
Delilah's marking she's a try.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Uh is that what I say?
Speaker 2 (08:00):
Try? Merle Aussie shepherd, a real auntie would know. Yes, No,
she's not try, She's just a Merle.
Speaker 4 (08:05):
All of the colors and all of the markings are
spot on, like that is exactly where the colors on
her cheeks are.
Speaker 5 (08:11):
I can't believe how accurate they are. They're absolutely amazing.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Yeah, So I just think it's a really unique, really
cool idea. So that's my vibe of the week.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
I also have a life of vibe.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
This week we've had some good, strong lifers come through
with the goods literally.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
So this is a water bottle.
Speaker 4 (08:26):
It's called the Stacky or just Stacky, and the instagram
for it is Stacky Store.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
Now we're really into our dog content this week.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
But the reason why this water bottle is if you're
watching on YouTube, is amazing. It has these two compartments
in the bottom, which is what makes it be the
Stacky and you unscrew them, and it has a dog
bowl on the bottom of the water bottle and it
has two separate compartments. It also which I didn't even realize.
I just thought it had this little circle thing that
you can carry it from. But I found out this
morning that the circle thing is actually a magnet, so
(08:52):
you can see your phone in it if you're wanting
to like rest your phone in something.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
Yeah, if you're a water bottle Galley Keish looking at you.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
This is truly a fantastic water bowl and it's been
designed by one of our amazing lifers, So Staky dot
store go and check it out.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
She's an og lifer. She actually sent this to us,
but also sent a picture from one of our live
shows like years ago, so we know she's legitog. You're
a legitog, all right.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
My vibe this week is for the fellow people who
like me, may need to get up.
Speaker 5 (09:21):
In the middle of the night to go to the
toilet like three times.
Speaker 4 (09:24):
And I know that this could be a bit niche,
but I think it's gonna be one of those ones
that for people who need it, they're gonna think this
is the best thing ever.
Speaker 3 (09:31):
Okay, She's like, get a bedpan, highly recommend would think
about it.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Get the Nike shoes that light up on the walk often.
Speaker 4 (09:41):
So it is the crisped motion sensor led night lights
set in warm white Tupac for twenty five dollars.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
I don't just turn the light on, no too bright.
Speaker 4 (09:52):
I got it from Woolworth and it came with all
of the batteries. And these are also rent as friendly
because you don't need to install anything. Just pull off
the sticker at the back and you can just stick
it to the wall.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (10:04):
They are tailored for hallways, staircases and bathrooms. I also
thought this could be good for kids, like when they,
you know, get out of their bed to run into yours, because.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
Then you're inviting them. You're like, hey, look I need
to get there. Now the path is illuminated.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
I've actually started closing our door, so it's like fully shut.
Before I used to leave a gap. Now, like if
they get out of the bed, they get to the door,
they have to physically open it, which.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
Is like just I know it's only a small barrier,
but it is.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
A barrier of entry.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Or puts the electricity, she puts it back on itself.
Speaker 4 (10:32):
These would be nobood because they're battery operated, but I
find that I have to get up quite a few
times throughout the night, which is very annoying, and I'm
trying to work on that. I've actually seen a gp
about it, but I can't seem to not need to
go to the toilet in the middle of the night.
And you don't want to turn the lights on because
then it gets you out of that sleep sleep phase
too much.
Speaker 5 (10:49):
But I started running into things.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
This is the best, and I'm all for it, but
it's also like, could be great for your kids, or
if you're a little old lady, like just.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
Put your phone light.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
It's just a little you can, but then you see
what time it is, and all the sleep experts say
not to.
Speaker 2 (11:07):
Look at the time.
Speaker 4 (11:08):
So these ones they only illuminate when it's like dark,
and it's just a little bit illuminated.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
It's perfect.
Speaker 5 (11:13):
I got one in the hallway, one in the toilet.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
I couldn't do it, Delilah and beyond all night. She
cut slaps, She's like, hey, what's going on over here?
Speaker 6 (11:19):
Now?
Speaker 5 (11:19):
Are you up here?
Speaker 2 (11:20):
Like my life is be on and off with a cat.
Speaker 4 (11:22):
Yeah, you're twenty five dollars. It's going to be the
bit This is like when we spoke.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
About that knee pillow.
Speaker 4 (11:28):
I get a message at least every other day asking
for the link to the knee pillow because people are like.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
I do need that. I realized it's not the same.
You don't need to DM.
Speaker 3 (11:41):
Alright, let's get into these questions. Question number one, Hey, ladies,
So I finally found the one. After a long and
hard few years of dating a bunch of bing chickens,
I finally got my penguin.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
She actually added an emoji of a penguin into It's
very cute.
Speaker 4 (11:57):
We have talked about marriage, done all the ring sizes.
I've shown him what I would like, which he agrees
would suit me. Love that okay, and I'm now in
a pickle.
Speaker 3 (12:07):
He's been married before and he spent a lot of
money on his first wife's ring. She was forceful told
him which one she wanted, and she picked the most
expensive one. I have said that I don't expect a
super expensive ring, though I also don't want a cheap
knockoff of one that you can find on some website.
I guess my question is should it matter about how
much someone spends on a ring? I feel like knowing
(12:29):
he did pay a lot for an X means he
can at least meet halfway, so I get a good
quality piece of jewelry I'm gonna wear forever. Should I
offer to pay for some of it? He has mentioned
it should be about the gesture of proposing, not the
price tag. Side note, we've looked up the rings that
he was suggesting and they are all around a few
hundred dollars. I guess this is the standard for men's rings,
(12:53):
and I feel maybe he's comparing that to what I
should get.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
So sorry.
Speaker 3 (12:57):
What she's saying there is that they've looked at his
rings and his only a few hundred dollars, And she's like, Okay,
does he think that that's how much he should spend
on my ring?
Speaker 2 (13:04):
I mean, he's not wrong, but is he right? But
is he right? It's murky, no, his look, I have
different feelings. He's not wrong. It is about the gesture
of proposing. It is about love and about spending your
life together. One hundred percent. It isn't about the price
of a ring. Like I will die on that hill.
(13:26):
The price technically shouldn't matter. But I one hundred percent
understand why you don't want to ring for a couple
of hundred dollars because that usually goes back to the
quality of the ring, and you know you want to
ring forever. It is hard knowing also that he has
done the whole shebang in the past and now he's
saying that didn't work, so I'm not doing it again.
Is he expecting this? You know this marriage not to
(13:47):
work as well? But I also understand why some people
can't spend like ludicrous amounts of money on a ring.
So I don't know what your financial situation is. This
is what I want to say. If you know you
are financially comfortable enough to get a ring for a
few thousand dollars that you are happy with and you love,
then I think that you can have that conversation and
explain to him that you really want the quality. You
can get the most beautiful rings like lab grown diamonds
(14:10):
and white gold and gold for not that expensive. It
doesn't have to be a big giant, twenty thousand dollars ring.
But I yes, I would not want a ring for
three hundred dollars personally, but I don't need a ring
for ten thousand dollars either. Does that mean I don't
know if I'm answering it right, He's right with what
he's saying, But I understand why you're uncomfortable by it
(14:30):
because it just feels like you're getting the short end
of the deal. I think you're answering it perfectly.
Speaker 3 (14:37):
But I also think that even maybe the numbers that
you've thrown out are like ludicrously, like I don't know
anyone who spends twenty thousand or ten thousand dollars in
a ring, Like I know those rings exist, and I
know that there are people out there who have them,
But even if someone who works in jewelry, I would
say that, like, on average, the budgets that people come
to us with a tony may are like high end
(14:58):
is like five thousand dollars. People are pretty conservative these days,
and especially because there are a lot of options, And
when I say five thousand dollars is kind of like
the upper end of what people say they want to
spend in their budgets. Some people that have two thousand
and three thousand, and like, obviously sometimes people come with
unrealistic expectations, Like there's definitely time where people are like, hey,
I really want this ring, but for this money, and
(15:21):
this is how much money I have, and I'm like, cool,
so you've sent me a nineteen thousand dollars ring. I
cannot make that for three and a half thousand dollars.
It's not a possibility. So let's go back to the
drawing board. What I think in this situation is is
obviously money.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
We can all say it's superficial. It's not about the
money to me.
Speaker 4 (15:38):
I think the thing that's upsetting you, though, is that
it's not about the effort or the money.
Speaker 3 (15:42):
It's about the fact that he's been like, well, I've
done it before, as you said, I've done it before
for a wedding. I've spent a lot of money. I
gave her what she wanted and it didn't work out.
So you're getting kind of punished because he's already walked
that road for you. This might be his second wedding,
but it's your first wedding, so it should still feel
special for you and you shouldn't be penalized because his
first one didn't work out.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Yeah, but I don't think her issue is just that, Like,
she definitely wants a unique and decent ring. She said,
I just don't want another ring that you can get
on a website, And I don't know what you mean
by that either, Like do you want something unique that's
made for you, because there is absolutely nothing wrong with
getting it off websit with buying a ring that is
made and beautiful, and like it's hard to get a
ring that someone else doesn't have. Even my ring, it's
a plain gold band with an oval in it, like
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an oval diamond, and that's there'd be a million people
with that ring. It doesn't take away from the specialness
for me. And yes, Ben did make it, but there's
still a bunch of rings that look exactly the same.
So I think you're getting caught up in a bit
of both. I think you're a bit put off from
the fact that it seems like you're getting the shorter
end of the stick, and like he's done it before,
and are you not important enough or does he not
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think there's longevity in your relationship. There's that side, but
there's also a side, I think where you're putting a
real monetary value on it.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
Yeah, And I guess the other thing is is like,
of course, if you're getting a custom made ring, it
doesn't matter who's making it or where it's being made,
it will come with a much higher price tag.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
That's just the reality.
Speaker 3 (17:02):
Then if you were to buy something that is off
the shelf, and I think there are so many incredible
options for pieces that are off the shelf. There are
incredible options on Etsy. Etsy is such a great place
for finding like handmade beautiful jewelry because it doesn't come
with the high price tag because they don't have all
of the additional business expenses that a lot of big
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businesses have. So like, there is a lot of great
jery on there. You could go through a smaller jeweler,
there's other options.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
I think you.
Speaker 3 (17:30):
Guys need to probably mutually agree on what is around
about a budget that you want to spend. But also
it's interesting to me because it sounds like you guys
don't have any combined finances by the sounds of things.
When you say, should I be offering to pay for
a bit or you know xyz, I guess, like, do
you have an understanding of what is his financial situation,
what he's able to afford?
Speaker 1 (17:50):
Because those are all factors that have to come into it.
Speaker 3 (17:52):
But I guess, and I would love to know what
most people's opinions are. I don't think it's about how
much money you spend on an engagement ring. I definitely
think you need something that's quality, that's gonna last, that's
made well and built to last. But I don't think
it's about the price tag. So for me, I wouldn't
be ruling things off purely because it has a monetary
value next to it.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
Yeah, and I don't know how to verbalize it properly
because it's not about the money and it's not about
the price tag. But it also can be because if
you know your finances are fine, if he's spending a
lot of money going out, just in general, I have
no idea if your totally totally If he's dropping money
on his car, hobby or whatever it is, and then
he says to you, I'll give you a ring for
three hundred bars, I'd be fucking off that.
Speaker 4 (18:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
If you know that, it's like I want to spend
my life with you and I love you. You know
things are tight, like can this do for now? Or
it depends on how we're saying it. So whilst the
monetary value doesn't matter, I understand that in some situations
it absolutely does. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
I was just thinking then that whole time, I was
like magine if Matt was like, totally go and spend
two thousand dollars on spearfishing equipment. Hey, honeys, I know
that I want to propose to you, but I only
want to spend two hundred to three hundred dollars in
a ring, because that's all I think is worth it
for you, just in case you leave and I lose
that money. I mean, good luck having that conversation though,
because that's.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
Having said that, I don't think you necessarily This is
the other aspect, right, he said, Should I contribute to it?
Some people do? Some people if they collectively come to
an agreement that their finances, say five grand is the
ring and you want one for seven, If you're happy
to go and spend that extra two, then that is
so fine. But I don't think in a normal situation
that the woman should contribute to that moment.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
Yeah, what I would love to know about the page only.
Speaker 3 (19:32):
The only thing I don't have in this question which
I would love to know is what does she think
is an acceptable amount to spend? Yeah, because like if
she's gonna say it's eight thousand dollars, nine thousand dollars,
I'd be like, God, friend, that's too high come down,
like I want to know. And maybe this is a
question for you guys, like what do you think would
be an appropriate amount to spend?
Speaker 2 (19:50):
Do you care or don't you care?
Speaker 3 (19:52):
And I think, like, let's garner that information from like
a pole perspective, because I really do think that everyone
has such a different benchmark for what's in a appropriate
amount to spend on an engagement ring.
Speaker 4 (20:01):
I remember, and this is going back like a while ago,
there used to be that notion of like it's supposed
to be free much salary. I think about that now
and I'm like, that's fucking insane. Like I don't know
if the cost of living was just more reasonable back then,
but I cannot imagine spending three months worth of a
salary on a ring now.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
And also, I mean, this is something that's pretty niche
to the jely industry. But gold and silver and white
gold have gone up astronomically, Like it is actually kind
of frightening as someone who runs a jewelry business, how
much the price of gold and precious stones and everything
has gone up. And the reason for that obviously inflation
everything else, but it's had the highest jumps on the ASX.
And the thing is is like, it's really hard for
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us to price jewelry at the moment because it's you know,
you set a price for something and then six months later,
there's zero profit in making that peace because the price
of gold and silver have gone up so much.
Speaker 4 (20:54):
I listened to Prof g two weeks ago, and the
price of gold had doubled.
Speaker 5 (20:59):
Since twenty twenty two.
Speaker 4 (21:00):
Yeah, because you told me that it had gone up,
but I didn't realize it had literally double because they
were talking about in terms of like an investment. So yeah,
I was really surprised by how much it had increased.
Speaker 1 (21:10):
Everybody, go out and buy your goal bullion. That's all
I can say.
Speaker 3 (21:12):
Buy your goal coins, your goal bullion, and we'll bite
it off you and melt it down, make some risk.
Speaker 2 (21:17):
I had this conversation with someone the other day, and
I found it really interesting, and so I did some
like research. But apparently now just over fifty percent of people,
so fifty two percent of people from surveys choosing lab
grown diamonds now instead of real diamonds. So it is
shifting drastically. And I was having a conversation with someone
the other day. He was waiting to get engaged, and
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I said that mine's lab grown. I made Ben get
me a love grown diamond, Like there is no way
I will ever let him spend that amount of money
on something on my hand when it could go to
a house deposit, because that's like crazy amounts of money.
Speaker 5 (21:52):
It's also more ethical.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
It's more ethical, and it doesn't mean anything to me,
like my ring looks stunning. It is exactly the same
as a die. And if you guys don't know labgrown
and chemically engineered to be identical to a diamond, they're
just ethically sourced and they're so much cheaper. And this
conversation with this girl was like, no, I'd be off
it if it wasn't a real one. And I just
couldn't understand why status.
Speaker 3 (22:13):
I think it's also perception and a lot of people
aren't educated about lab grown diamonds. Even recently, Kate, my
sister in law, she lost a diamond from her ring
and she has three diamonds in her engagement ring, and
she took her back to the jewelers who made it
and they were like, well, it will be this price
for a real diamond, or it'll be this price for
a lab grown diamond and she went with the lab
grown and Ellie was like, but it's your engagement ring.
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I think people don't have a perception that actually, to
the naked eye, they look identical.
Speaker 5 (22:39):
I think people think they're like cubic zirconia.
Speaker 3 (22:41):
Yeah, and it's the same composition and everything. But I
just looked it up. The average amount that an Australian
spends on their engagement ring is six thousand dollars, which
I still think is quite high. Like that to me
seems really high, but that was a twenty twenty three survey.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
Yeah, six thousand dollars.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
They go, okay. Question number two I think is very relatable.
I want to organize a family photoshoot with my grandma, parents, husband, baby,
and my brother. My grandma is in her nineties, so
I really want to get a beautiful photo of our
little family while we've still got the chance. Now here's
where I am a terrible person. My brother has a
partner who I honestly adore. She's gorgeous. We all get
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along so well and they're very serious, but I don't
want her in the photos.
Speaker 6 (23:23):
The thing is sorry at my wedding, his ex who
he was also very serious with was in every single
family photo, and now I feel like I can't display
any of them without it being weird.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
So while I truly hope this relationship last forever, I
just want to cover my bases this time. How do
I bring this up without hurting anyone's feelings or causing
a big family drama? Is it okay to ask her
to not be in the photo? And if so, what's
the least awkward way to handle it? Help a guilty
girl out. PS. We have never done a family photoshoot
and probably won't do many after this.
Speaker 3 (23:57):
I can help you out with this because I have
done many, and I have been in them and I
have been out of them. So Matt's family when we're
in Barron Bay one year, we did like all the
family shoot right like.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
It was lovely.
Speaker 3 (24:08):
We had a professional photographer and it was for least
seventieth I think it was she wanted to have like
a really nice family photo. And if you're getting a
professional photographer, which it sounds like this, that's why it's
planned thing that you you know you've got someone coming
to take a big photo of your family. They don't
just take one photo. They take multiple versions of the photo.
So if there's like you and your brother and like
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other siblings and your mom and your dad, whatever, it
looks like you're gonna get a family photo. You're gonna
get photos of just the siblings. You're gonna get photos
of just the answer. Whatever is the combination. And I
think the easiest way to go about it is you
have one big group family photo with the girlfriend in it.
She's included, she can be invited. And then you also say, okay,
we're just having a photo with the Johnson's now, and
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that's all. You don't have to point out to the
one person tell them they're not in it. It was
very figured it out. It was very evident. My last
name is not Johnson. I wasn't in the Johnson photo.
So like they just had the siblings and Ellie and
it was just Ellie and the boys and Kate and
I wasn't in that.
Speaker 4 (25:04):
I don't expect to be in that. Bill didn't expect
to be in that either. The kids weren't in that.
It was just their core little family. I don't think
at all.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
I think it's fine.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
My thing is is if you make a big deal
about it now and tell us she's not invited, then
it becomes a thing whereas you can absolutely get a
couple of different versions of family orientations at a photo shoot,
and then you just use.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
The one you want.
Speaker 5 (25:26):
What happens if she's the only person who's not.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Like, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 3 (25:30):
But that's fine because you're still gonna have a photo
with your siblings, and then you'll still have like I'll
get a photo with mum and dad. You get a
photo with mum and dad. Okay, let's just get one
of the kids a mum and dad. Like, it doesn't
have to be a big deal.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
I don't think this.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
Is so normal to me.
Speaker 5 (25:43):
Good solution.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
Yeah, this wasn't. Even when I read this, I was like, oh,
this is such an easy answer. Exactly what you just said.
You just say, hey, immediate family only Now if she's
offended by that, which I would be shocked, it's so normal.
It's like at a wedding where you're like everybody in,
partners in, kids in, all right, kids out, everyone out?
Now just the parents now just the parents and siblings
and now partners, Like that's so normal to do one
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hundred different photos. She's not going to be offended if
you're doing an immediate family photo with your grandma. Yeah.
Speaker 4 (26:10):
The thing is, though, is it sounds like it's something
that makes you awkward, so you're not good at delegating
what is coming up. You know, when you say that
at your wedding you now have photos of your brother
with his ex girlfriend in every single photo, it sounds
to me like you didn't kind of go, okay, well,
we're just going to get one of immediate family now,
which would infer that she's not supposed to be in
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that one, or other solutions. You put them on the
end so you can photoshop them out if something goes wrong.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
Yeah, I just do it right on the end, let
her come, don't even say anything advance, and then when
you're doing the photos, you'd be like, hey, can we
grab an immediate family photo now? Two seconds?
Speaker 1 (26:43):
That's it easy.
Speaker 3 (26:45):
I agree, although I do also resonate with like how
difficult it is when you do have these beautiful photos
and then there's one person who's no longer in your
life in them. So like my mum's wedding to my stepdad, Neil,
my ex boyfriend came and he's in a three fucking
photo and that's my fault because I wanted him in
the photos because at the time I was like, this
is forever, and so I was the one that was
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like keeping him in the photos. And no one, no
one should have said, oh, let's just get one of
you know, just us. I wish they had, but no
one did. And so now he's like and he's so tall,
and he's in the center of all of them, and
so I just don't.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
Have any aim.
Speaker 3 (27:20):
Now you could photoshop you amount now I probably could.
I'm gonna stick it in the Facebook group. Can someone photo.
Speaker 2 (27:25):
Show Dan photo? Can someone please photo shop my ex
boyfriend out?
Speaker 3 (27:29):
Phototo I'll blur his face out and then can someone
take his body out of the photos from my mum's wedding.
Speaker 2 (27:38):
Katie Perry and Space, you can photoshop your ex boyfriend?
Speaker 5 (27:41):
I have a photo?
Speaker 2 (27:43):
All right?
Speaker 4 (27:44):
All right?
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Question number three.
Speaker 3 (27:47):
I am married and I am a mom of three
kids who are four and a half, two and a
half and an almost six month baby. Life is very
hectic and very busy. I just graduated from my nursing
degree and I'm about to start.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
My first job.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
Well that's impressive. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (28:02):
I went out drinking with my husband and his brothers
and one of their wives, who I absolutely adore.
Speaker 1 (28:08):
She has no kids.
Speaker 3 (28:09):
She got very drunk and when I was leaving to
say bye, she basically told me that I am so
incredibly lazy when we have family get togethers, as I
don't cook or clean up. And even though I always
ask my mother in law if I can bring anything
or help in any way, which she always says no to,
I generally clean up my own things, but usually I'm
sitting on the couch, breastfeeding the baby or just relaxing,
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so I'm so tired. My husband generally tells me to
sit down and he will clean up for me. While
on this drunk ramble, she was yelling at me and
saying everyone talks about me and how I don't do anything.
I feel so incredibly sad and cannot stop crying and
feeling so worthless. Any advice how do I move forward
and build that relationship back up? Also curious if I
am in the wrong here.
Speaker 1 (28:53):
That's so mean, Yes.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
That is so the way I mean. We can't use
being drunk as an ex I understand she was drunk
and yelling abuse at you, but that fucking doesn't take
away from the fact that she shouldn't have done that.
That's incredibly awkward that now you know that they're unhappy
with you. I don't have kids, but every one of
my siblings does that, all my friends do. I think
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it is unfair for them to expect you to be
breastfeeding and looking after a small child that you know,
unless the child is asleep peacefully. I think it's unfair
for them to be saying, you know you need to breastfeed,
then come wash up. If your husband is completely capable,
he's capable, Like, you don't need fifty of you in
the kitchen, but having said that, you do need to
like pull your weight a little bit, and maybe that's
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just bringing something like maybe I don't know. She's made
it sound like you do nothing. I'd be shocked if
you do nothing. But there are ways around trying to
act like you're contributing in a way, which is, you know,
bringing something or taking a plate away or whatever. But
you're not an asshole for breastfeeding your child and not
fucking doing the washing up for your entire partner's family
A hundred.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
I feel conflicted by this because one I'm like, it
reads as though you do nothing except breastfeed your kid
and sit on the couch and have drinks with your
husband and the brothers. That's what it reads like, Yeah,
is that the reality probably not. Just because someone says no,
don't bring anything doesn't mean that you always show up
not doing anything or bring anything.
Speaker 2 (30:15):
I would say that, like it's usually a throwaway comment. Well,
note Eve, it is a throwaway comment.
Speaker 3 (30:19):
Even if it's men, like don't bring anything or don't
do anything, I would still say that for the majority,
you should do something if you're in someone else's house,
even if you have kids. The reason why I say
this is because often, yes, you might have three kids
and it's busy and like fuck, I feel you like
I've got two kids and I take them to people's houses.
But clean up after your kids, because if you're not
doing anything, I would dare say your kids are also
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contributing to a huge.
Speaker 2 (30:42):
Mess in that house.
Speaker 3 (30:43):
Is it just then everyone else's responsibility to clean up
after your children when you're there.
Speaker 1 (30:48):
I think that that's something to be very aware of.
Speaker 3 (30:50):
But also it's not your place just because you're the
woman in the equation to do the cleaning. What are
all the brothers doing if your husband is happy to
do it, and he is taking the weight for both
of you doing the line's share while you're doing the kids.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
Then I would say that there's parody in that.
Speaker 3 (31:04):
I also think the way that this is how she's
gone about this has been deeply damaging to your friendship
in the relationship. Rambling and yelling at you and then
saying everyone talks about you behind your back is the worst,
the fucking nastiest way of communicating. All that needed to
be said at any point in time by literally anyone
in that situation was Hey, Sair, do you mind giving
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help with the dishes? And I say this because like
we host, for example, we host Christmas at our house
every year for the extended family. Last couple of years,
Matt's brothers come down, my sister, her family, Matt's sister,
her family. Like, it's a lot of people in our house,
and everyone brings something. Not everyone contributes to the cleaning
a lot of time, and you notice a lot of
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time people are sitting on their butts and like, and
you know there is definitely a gender split. Like Matt's
mum and sister and my sister are always the ones
in the kitchen doing cleaning and cooking and whatnot, And
that does just seem to be the stereotype, I would say,
across the board for a lot of people.
Speaker 1 (32:01):
I don't want to say that the boys don't do anything.
Speaker 2 (32:03):
Of course they do.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
Of course they do.
Speaker 3 (32:05):
But sometimes I think we expect less of men in
those equations. We allow them to be like, oh, it's
their time to have a beer, sit down and relax now,
while all the women are running around doing stuff. I'm
guessing that the sister in law, the wife, and also
the mum probably are doing the heavy load of the
cooking and cleaning. I'm pretty sure that she's got no kids.
I bet you she's in the kitchen and she's doing
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all the cleaning with the mum in that situation, and
she's fucking resentful. And it's a shame that she's taking
it out on you and she's not taking it out
on her husband. But I think that a bigger conversation
needs to be had here, probably one with your husband firstly,
saying you know, okay, Like, firstly, are we as a
couple contributing enough and doing enough? Are you picking up
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the slack of what I'm not able to do because
I'm with the kids and figure that out first. And
if you think that there's a deficit there, then absolutely
you need to be doing more as a team and
as a couple. But it's not your job just because
you're the female in that equation to do more than
everyone else.
Speaker 2 (33:02):
Yeah, but I also think I think you need to
just judge if you're being lazy or not. Because you
have three kids under five, one's a baby that's breastfeeding
on two and a half toddler running around like a maniac,
and she has no kids. You can't argue the fact
that you are different in the level of responsibility and
how busy you are in that moment. Like if you
finished dinner and you have to change a two year old,
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stop them from pulling something over, breastfeeds your baby, your
four year old is running manic and she has nothing
to do, then of course it makes sense for you
to try and wrangle the kids and she cleans up.
But if you know that there's opportunities and you are
just being lazy, then that's on you, Like you do
need to contribute something or I just wouldn't make a
big deal of it. Now when you say, how do
I make amends. I probably wouldn't bring it up again,
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to be honest, if she was drunk, I would just
start to see where you can contribute and try and
contribute more.
Speaker 3 (33:48):
I have a question for you, though, Brian, if your
sister in law had three children, and their children were
contributing to the mess obviously using plates, using cutlery, using dishes,
fucking throwing shit on floors, Like I mean, they're very little,
I'm guessing that they make a big mess. That's what
kids that age do, pulling toys out, pulling books out.
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And their parents of those kids were so busy or
so tired because of the parenting, but they weren't doing
any of the cleaning. And you, yourself found that every
night time you were not only cleaning your own stuff,
but you're also cleaning.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
Up after children. Would you not feel the same.
Speaker 3 (34:22):
Would you not feel like, Hey, okay, if you don't
check out in your own home, don't check out in
this home.
Speaker 2 (34:26):
No. I read this as in, she's not cleaning the
food and the dishes and the kitchen. I assume she's
still cleaning up after your kids. And the reason she's
not doing the kitchen stuff is because she's looking up
after the kids. Of course you have to look after
your kids. But I read this as in, like, I've
got three manic kids that i've with, I can't do
that part now. But if you're not cleaning up of
your kids mess in the house, of course you need
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to do that. But I didn't read that like that.
Speaker 3 (34:48):
I also read this, I generally clean up after my
own things. I think cleaning up after your own things
is the bare minimum. Yes, say I can't say I
generally clean up after my own things. No, it doesn't
matter how you clean up, It doesn't matter.
Speaker 1 (34:59):
How you are.
Speaker 3 (35:00):
In a group setting, you clean up after yourself. And
I think everyone pitches in in the communal way.
Speaker 2 (35:05):
Yeah, so maybe, I mean, maybe do you need to
pull you wait a little bit more. I don't know.
We can't answer that. We don't know what you do
and just lay down and have a nap after dinner?
Speaker 3 (35:12):
You like it sounds like it sounds like she breastfeeds
and then she has a nap too tired.
Speaker 2 (35:17):
The last question, is it normal not to care when
my partner is sick feels? Is it normal not to
care when my partner is sick or unwell? I'd been
with my partner for nine years. We have a nearly
two year old daughter. Before having her, every time he
gets sick, he refers to it as man flu and
actually thinks it's a thing where men experience it worse
than women. That's so dumb, mind you. I'm a nurse
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and have told him so many times man flu isn't
an actual thing. It's frustrating because when I'm sick, I
still do some of the housework around the house. Sometimes
it's just the bare minimum, but I'm still doing it.
But when he is sick, the whole week is a
ride off for him. Now, after having our daughter, my
patience and tolerance is much less when it comes to
him being sick. I know he's allowed to get sick
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blah blah blah, but it's different now. We don't have
the luxury to just rest and recover with an energetic
toddler who we need to look after. He thinks I'm
not being empathetic and I'm being cruel, and hey, maybe
i am. I honestly feel like I have zero care
factor when he's unwell. My priorities are just different, and
I know that's put a strain on our relationship. Is
it just me We'll not caring about his man flu
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affect the longevity of our relationship.
Speaker 4 (36:22):
How often is he sick that it puts a strain
on your relationships?
Speaker 2 (36:25):
Sounds like a lot. How often has this.
Speaker 4 (36:28):
Guy got man flu? Do you know what Matt said recently?
Speaker 1 (36:31):
And it drove me. It drove me into orbit. I
was in out of space.
Speaker 3 (36:35):
So he did this test with Ash on his podcast,
You Noting Dad's where they got a tens machine and
it's meant to simulate the feelings of labor.
Speaker 4 (36:44):
And so he was just not accurate. Yeah, So he
was showing me the video and he was.
Speaker 3 (36:47):
Like, fuck, we're so hectic, and I was like, that
doesn't even come close to labor, Like that doesn't even
touch the side.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
It's a period pain, not even labor.
Speaker 3 (36:57):
And he was adamant how parallel was to labor. And
I was like, pal, I was vomiting with every contraction
and couldn't walk or speak.
Speaker 2 (37:08):
I was like, you're laughing. It's not the same men.
Speaker 3 (37:11):
I don't know, it's definitely not It's not all men,
but there's definitely some men who do not deal with
any sort of like pain threshold or sickness and it
takes them completely out for the count. And I think
that there's a lot of I don't want to say
it's weaponizing competence because it's not quite that, but it's
like weaponizing your sickness or whatever. Because men often have
(37:32):
the luxury of going, i've got the flu, so I
need to be in bed. But as women, we don't
have that luxury, and we just have to fucking get
on with it when we have kids. And I don't
think that the sympathy is paralleled. I understand why you
feel a little bit resentful in this way. I also
understand that it's probably amplified because you're a nurse and
you actually deal with sick people every day, and so
(37:55):
you coming home to a husband who's got a head
cold calling at the man flu and he can't get
out of bed or do any thing is just monumentally frustrating,
and so I kind of go, maybe you've taken a
little bit too far.
Speaker 2 (38:07):
Maybe that's got to be like some level of empathy.
Speaker 3 (38:09):
But you don't have to pander to his every man
flu whim because he can just grow the fuck up.
Speaker 2 (38:14):
I think it's valid. I think your feeling's valid. Men
don't get more sick than women. We all get equally
as sick with To be honest, it's worse for women.
A week of every month we are like flawed with
a period, flawed with hormonal headaches, flowed with everything else.
Speaker 1 (38:30):
On top of that, we're also working.
Speaker 2 (38:31):
On top of that, chances are they're doing eighty percent
of that running of the household at home with the
kids and you've got toddlers. And I just think it's
bullshit when men are like, I'm out of action. You
can be out of action. You can get so sick
that you can't get out of bed, and I think
if that's happening, of course you're going to look after
your partner. The thing is you're smart enough to know
the difference, and that's why it's put you off, because
(38:52):
you know he's pulling your leg and having a bit
of a laugh, he's taking the piss. You're a nurse.
If you know that he's absolutely so sick of you're
going to look after him and understand it. But you know,
it's the same thing that we all get every single
month of our life. Like it's really hard to know
that you are like going through the trenches and looking
after everything when you're feeling the same way. Just because
(39:13):
he's saying man flu, Like man flu is if you
had the flu, he'd been hospital. Flu kills people. The
flu's like he's got a coal he's got a running nose.
Tell him to get the fuck out of bed. I
understand why it puts you off as well and causes
problems in the relationship, because it's not just that, it's
more than that. It's you having the responsibility than of
the whole household and all the cleaning and all the
(39:34):
child caring. And of course that's going to put a
divide between you and your partner, like that's going to
build so much resentment.
Speaker 3 (39:39):
There's actually I mean, this is very interesting. I just
did a little google. The most often cited evidence of
the existence of man flu is a twenty seventeen British
Medical journal review by men that found is by men
that found a number of studies suggesting men have a
weaker immune response to viral respiratory infections, resulting in longer
lasting illnesses and simymptoms. But your immune response is what
(40:02):
makes you feel bad in the first place. It's what
makes your throat ache or your nose run or a
stronger immune system could arguably make you feel worse short term. Basically,
it's saying that there are some studies to suggest, Laura,
what a load of rubbish, who's siding one? There is
some studies to hear me out, There are some studies
that suggest that men may feel the flu worse than women. However,
(40:25):
the end result of this is that in the end
there was a little overall difference between the sexes in
self reported symptoms assessed using twenty two ouh blah blah blah. Look,
the reality is is I think, like you said, Britt,
if you're having to take on the full mental load
of everything and one person is allowed to entirely check
out to get better, but when it's reversed, you don't
have that same luxury.
Speaker 1 (40:45):
Of course you're going to feel resentful. That is not
your fault.
Speaker 3 (40:48):
That is also something that you go, Okay, look, I
can have sympathy for this now, and I will.
Speaker 1 (40:53):
I will carry the load.
Speaker 3 (40:55):
But you need to know that when I am comparatively sick,
I'm doing fuck all.
Speaker 2 (40:59):
I not getting out of bed. I'm going to do nothing.
Speaker 3 (41:02):
And when our daughter comes in winging and crying, you
are one hundred percent responsible for her, and if I
have to get out of bed to take care of her,
I'll be filthy at you because you don't afford me
the same.
Speaker 1 (41:12):
Luxuries when you're sick.
Speaker 2 (41:14):
It just won't work. So no, it won't tat just
causes like more problems.
Speaker 1 (41:19):
Or point scoring in a relationship is not good.
Speaker 2 (41:21):
No shame. Wow. No, I thought that.
Speaker 3 (41:24):
That was the way to really heal your relationship wounds.
Make sure you keep a tally of every time you
want an argument that's also really good.
Speaker 4 (41:30):
On a whiteboard in the kitchen, like a rewards chart.
Give yourself a sticker.
Speaker 2 (41:34):
I want that argument you did well today, you clean today?
Speaker 1 (41:38):
Ah yeah, look, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (41:39):
I mean I think that this is way more common
than what we probably realize. I know that even Keisha
sometimes is like I have no sympathy when there's sickness
in our household and vice versa. That I was having
a conversation with a girlfriend who was going through something similar,
and it is so much more exacerbated when you have
children in the mix.
Speaker 4 (41:55):
Yeah, I mean, people are going to think I'm awful
for this, but sometimes I do get the ick when
I'm like, oh, just suck it up like it is
dependent on how sick and YadA YadA. But in my experiences,
not just with my current partner, but in ones in
the past, I've definitely been like I would get on
with that, you know, I would just get And I
think it's exactly what you said, Britt, We're just so
(42:17):
used to having to navigate pain, having to navigate discomfort
because of various hormonal systems.
Speaker 2 (42:23):
But having said that, Keys, there's been a number of
times you have said the same thing to me about
Todblaw and where you're like, he could give me a
little bit of sympathy when I'm sick.
Speaker 4 (42:30):
So it's like You're like, I don't want to give
it to him, but he needs to give me. I
get sick so rarely that when I am sick and
I'm like, no, I'm properly sick. It's real, it's very real,
and I think, I mean, he does deal with people
who are literally in life of a situation. Yeah, So
as similar to this woman, I understand why if you're
in healthcare, your tolerance for it, I guess would be
(42:51):
reduced because you see people literally in the worst states
of their lives.
Speaker 5 (42:55):
But I fully I'm so on your side about this,
even though I experience it in as well.
Speaker 2 (43:00):
So it's so frustrating to me.
Speaker 4 (43:02):
That he doesn't have sympathy for me because he expects
heaps of sympathy when.
Speaker 3 (43:06):
He's also a doctor, so we actually sees real sick
people and he's like, this is nothing.
Speaker 1 (43:10):
Get out of bed, go to work.
Speaker 5 (43:11):
That would I say to him?
Speaker 1 (43:12):
Get up and work?
Speaker 5 (43:13):
God damn it wants to work anymore.
Speaker 2 (43:17):
All right, Well, guys, that is it from us.
Speaker 3 (43:19):
If you want to wait in on any of these questions,
we're gonna put some poles up on Instagram like we
always do, but also slide into the dms because slide.
Speaker 2 (43:27):
On in, slide on in slash Did we just say
the same thing.
Speaker 1 (43:31):
We spend too much time again, way too much time.
Speaker 3 (43:33):
Slide into the dms at Life on Cut podcasts you
can watch on YouTube. If you haven't already, go and
subscribe to the YouTube channels and send in your ask
gun cuts for next week. We need some saucy ones.
I want some like hamster wheeling or whatever, just a
hamster wheel? Have you ever done the thirsty hamster? Send photos?
Speaker 2 (43:51):
Don't send photo, just let us know anonymously you.
Speaker 4 (43:54):
Know, I was just thinking, I forgot to mention that
I really hope people who do that have tinted windows,
hope like me.
Speaker 3 (43:59):
On whole day, I'm googling thirsty handster sun Rufe photos.
Speaker 2 (44:07):
I wonder if anyone's ever put it on. Let's see.
Speaker 3 (44:09):
Oh my god, there's so many tiktoks on this, There's
just so many. But then there's also a lot of
tiktoks of just hamsters drinking out of it.
Speaker 2 (44:17):
Rely thirsty.
Speaker 4 (44:18):
I'd rather watch that, you know, the drill te friends
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