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November 13, 2024 47 mins

Hey Lifers!
Britt has had an extremely embarrassing moment at the hairdresser. We would want the ground to swallow us whole.
Has your dog ever caused you to be in the most embarrassing moment of your life?

Laura is having a bit of trouble getting Lola to give up something that she loves. Lola is in negotiations and Laura is struggling to reach a mutually agreed upon solution!

Vibes for the week:

Britt: Martha on Netflix
Laura: Marigold’s Magic Stars book by Samantha Wills
Keeshia: RecipeTin Eats Tonight Cookbook

Then we get into your questions!

I CAN'T SLEEP WHEN WE ARE IN THE SAME BED
I’ve been with my partner for about four years, he’s 33 and I’m 27. Everything’s great BUT the one thing that I cannot do with him, is sleep in the same bed. This is largely due to his snoring and sleep noises combined with my light sleeping. He would love to share a bed but I seriously just don’t sleep when I’m in the same bed. We always have great sex, have a cuddle at night, but then I’ll go to my room to sleep and then will wake each other up in the morning with a cuddle. It’s been a great arrangement but I get so worked up and worried about ever going away together. I feel like when we do share a room I’m sleep deprived, miserable and resentful. We want to go overseas together soon but again I get worried about future endeavours together because I’m scared I’ll never be able to sleep in the same bed and have a good sleep. Is this a sign that it’s not going to work? Or do we just have to keep making arrangements for separate beds where we can, and I get used to no sleep when the occasions arise that we do need to share a bed? Also just for context, he has undergone nasal surgery to straighten his septum in order to try fix the snoring and I’ve invested in so many different types of ear plugs but nothing has worked. Help please 

BOYFRIEND SUPPORTS TRUMP
I love my boyfriend but I think he supports Trump. After Trump just got elected, he said “well what did he do that was actually so bad the first time?” He thinks the hate against him is a media conspiracy. Can I be in a relationship with someone who feels this way about misogynistic people?

HOLDING IN MY GAS AROUND HIM
I’ve been seeing this guy for about 3 months now, we’re exclusive and it’s going well. It’s the first time I’m getting serious with someone so the first time I’ve been hanging out with a guy quite a lot over night/all weekend. The issue is I am quite a gassy person… I don’t have any stomach issues. I just tend to need to do a few pop offs after big meals or in the morning, and I also poop quite often too. I have been WAY too nervous to poop around him as I get scared he’s going to go in after me and smell it. I also am holding in ALL my farts. This is causing me serious stomach aches and pain. I’m often recovering from holding them in for 1-2 days after seeing him. Side note- he farts in front of me but I’m way too embarrassed to do it back…

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This episode was recorded on Cameragle Land. Hi guys, and
welcome back to another episode of Life on CAD.

Speaker 2 (00:15):
I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and it is Thursday Therapy Thursday,
where you sending your questions, deeper, darkest, burning questions, sometimes sexy.

Speaker 1 (00:22):
We do our best to answer them. We do. I
feel like I'm sinking into the seat today.

Speaker 2 (00:25):
I sink into these seats all the time, and then
I look like like the hunchback of Notre Da.

Speaker 1 (00:29):
Nah, you don't you lookot it. You're fine.

Speaker 2 (00:31):
I went to hairdressers yesterday. This is my own accidentally unfiltered.
I don't often get embarrassed, Like it's really hard to
embarrass me, and it wasn't pure embarrassment, but it was
the honest way up there. So this is a really
fancy hairdresser. Everything's white, it's lush, and.

Speaker 1 (00:49):
So I know them.

Speaker 2 (00:50):
They're well enough because I've been a few times, but
I've only been a few times, like three times ever.

Speaker 1 (00:54):
Okay, so they're all girls, they're all great. And Delilah
comes with me because Delilah goes everywhere.

Speaker 2 (00:59):
But Delilah is fantastic at the hairdressers. She's amazing she
just sits on the lounges next to hers. She just cruises.
She's usually pretty chill and everyone loves her. Anyway, it
was pumping, like the hairdresser was pumping.

Speaker 1 (01:11):
It was like the place to be. I was there
for like eight hours because I got some new hair extensions.
So I was looking in there. You were at the
hair stop. Yeah, stop it. Yeah, that's what it is.
You were at that. You sat in a hairdresser's seat
for eight hours.

Speaker 2 (01:25):
She needed me to go back and tell you about
my identity crisis I'm currently going through.

Speaker 1 (01:29):
Yeah, I'm eight hours. That's a whole working. They should
pay you. Well, you take your laptop and you just
do shit. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:35):
Yeah, they put extensions in, but then they'll last her
four months. So it's like you do it and then
you're good.

Speaker 1 (01:41):
Anyway, I could see in the mirror that the girls
sort of like.

Speaker 2 (01:45):
Grouping together and whispering, and I was like, it's so weird, obviously,
like why are they doing that. They were sort of
looked a bit shocked, and they giggled and they were
like looking around, and I was like, they must be
talking about someone here. And then one of them comes
over to me and she goes, does Delilah, I'll have
a toy here today And I was like what, I
was like a toy? I was like no, I didn't

(02:05):
bring her anything today. And I'm like, oh, could you
just come and have a look.

Speaker 1 (02:09):
And I was like what.

Speaker 2 (02:13):
So I go over to this group and this group
is all standing around it. She's on the ground.

Speaker 1 (02:19):
She's gone into my bag and I didn't even know
this was in there. Go into my bag.

Speaker 2 (02:24):
She has taken out this little satchel. She's open to
the satchel and she has my period cup that she
is throwing all around that hair salon.

Speaker 1 (02:34):
I'm talking.

Speaker 2 (02:35):
She flicks it up to throw it to herself and
then she chases it. A period cup is flinging. I
wish I was exaggerating.

Speaker 1 (02:42):
It's a fucking liability. It gets worse. She'd been outside,
so I'd been in the dirt.

Speaker 2 (02:48):
But it's also very Now this is gonna sound rank,
it's very old. This isn't my current period cup. I
didn't even know it was in my Mary Poppin's bag. Like,
I have this big bag that's full. So I've got
a new period cup that I use that's pink.

Speaker 1 (03:00):
It's beautiful.

Speaker 2 (03:01):
I've recommended it before this one I didn't know I had.
It's so old that it's like stained. Mate, look I
don't want to see a photo.

Speaker 1 (03:13):
It's clean, it's just but look so here she is.

Speaker 2 (03:24):
The whole hair song. She was showing myte stained pury Copp.
I've never and I don't get embarrassed. I was more
embarrassed that it was stained.

Speaker 1 (03:32):
Who cares, no piod I care it was. It's because
it doesn't eve look stained. It looks like black mold.
I'm like, I'm like, I sweat.

Speaker 2 (03:40):
I was like, Firstly, I'm very sorry everyone that this
has happened. Secondly, I think I need to preface that
this isn't what I put inside of my vagina, Like
I do not put this into me.

Speaker 1 (03:49):
This is old.

Speaker 2 (03:49):
I did not always hear it's got dirt from outside,
like that dirt is not coming the soil.

Speaker 1 (03:55):
Is not coming out of vagina. Like I was mortified.
That's what she did at this lush. She looks so
innocent in that little video. She's not sure why she's
in trouble. That's incorrect. She knew why she was in trouble.
Delilah is so smart. She gets it. She was like,
this is going to really call some chaos. Let me go.
I been here for seven hours. Why can I do

(04:15):
to facilitate me leaving faster?

Speaker 2 (04:18):
Something hits different when it was so exposed. It's not
like a tampon that was flapping around. Who would care? Right, Like,
you're like cool whatever. It's the fact that it was
like so intimate and so dirty. But to dirt wasn't
from me, but everyone thinks it was.

Speaker 1 (04:31):
I know they do. I know that. You know when
someone's like, oh my god, that didn't happen to meet
with my friend. It's Brittany's dirt kink. She's just into it.
She's like, put sol in me. That's you propagate from
the inside out. Do you want it? Actually, apparently period
blood is really good for plants.

Speaker 2 (04:50):
It is.

Speaker 1 (04:50):
We've talked about that.

Speaker 2 (04:51):
Well.

Speaker 1 (04:51):
Apparently it's very good. Someone was on Instagram recently and
they were like, that's the plant that I tipped my
moon cup into, and that's the plant that I don't
and look at that month thriving me to trial it.
Do you want to come over to my house and
tip it out? I don't use period blood, so I
mean I don't. I don't use a moon cup, so
I don't. I'm not like I'm not gonna ring out
a tampon bury it. You just go around my garden.

(05:15):
There's tampons buried everywhere. And how you know they're there?
You just keep the tail out. It's like bread crumb
your way home. Like, let's move on, speaking of burying stuff. Hey,
this is a weird segue. Lola, she's almost four, guys, right,
she's four in February and shety eight months. Yeah, she's

(05:35):
four very soon, and she still has a dummy at nighttime,
and like, I'm not proud of it. There's a part
of me now that I'm like, it's gone too far
and I feel ashamed, but like no one needs to know.
It's just told everyone. I was just about to say,
except now you all know. Okay, But it's been really
hard trying to get her to give up the dummy
has probably been one of the hardest parenting hurdles because
I've never experienced I think it's one of these things

(05:57):
where like, unless you've experienced a kid that hasn't solute
fixation on it, you don't understand why it's that hard.
Because you're just like, oh, just take it off her,
just like you know, And yeah, I could do that.
I tried. We tried to take it off her last
Christmas for six weeks, and she screamed every single night
for six weeks. And it got to the point where
she no longer had the dummy. But the only way

(06:19):
to get her to sleep was for me to lay
in bed with her until she fell asleep. So every
night I had to lay in bed with her for
forty five minutes while she screamed until she fell asleep.

Speaker 2 (06:28):
Is there not like a different comforter that you like
replace it with, not like a mouth sucker, but like
a comfort toy, or.

Speaker 1 (06:35):
You've tried it all. We've honestly, we've tried it all.
But like look, she and she you know, Lola had
like some neurological problems when she was little, so she
it's something that she became very very attached to. Anyway,
that said and done, The reason why it links to
burying things is because it sh in the gun. No
is because we have started the conversation around the dummy
fairy again. The dummy fairy is coming. And for anyone

(06:59):
who knows how the dummy fairy works. Basically, you bury
the dummy and then up pops like a lollipop or
a present or something pops out of the ground. The
dummy Fairy takes the dummy and they plant a present. Right,
So Lola's four though almost The problem is is that
I described her the concept of the dummy Fairy and
how she gets to choose a present, and the dummy
Fairy is gonna come and we're gonna plant the dummies

(07:20):
and then the present's gonna be there. And she turns
around and goes to me, Mom, I'm just gonna ask
the dummy fairy for more dummy. She's smarty. It's like, fuck,
three wishes, wish for three more wishes. That's when I
realized it. I was like, wow, we really have passed
the point. I was like, she's so old that she

(07:43):
can negotiate with the dummy.

Speaker 2 (07:45):
Shea hey, mom, I've actually been doing some research on
the internet. I've made this spreadsheet of why a kid
should maintain a dummy.

Speaker 1 (07:51):
That's how old she is. You can pay for my overbike.
Go fuck yourself, mom, that is it. You don't need
me to tell you I love you. It's too far.
It's too far.

Speaker 2 (07:59):
I think if she's old enough to know and be
like I'm just gonna ask another dummy bitch, then I
think you just need to take it.

Speaker 1 (08:06):
She went to the shops and just bought herself more.
She drove, drove down it at a UNI break. I
think he needs have some tough love. I know she's
gonna scream it out. Just take it. Just say it's
enough totally. You're gonna get bullied. We will, we will.
And like that's what we did at Christmas last year
when she was only just three, and but like I'm
not joking, it was six weeks that we tried it,

(08:27):
and it was six weeks of absolute fucking hell. So
we waited longer. We spoke to her to a child psychologist,
as you do, and they were like, fucking give it
back to her. They were the ones. And I know
that kind of goes against the grain of what most
people say, that this one who's a friend and she's
also a psychologist, and she was just like, the kid's
not gonna have trauma when they're fifteen because they sucked

(08:48):
a dummy. They're like, just give it fucking back to
her if it makes your life like manageable. It's not
the trauma, it's the horizontal teeth. Yeah, but we all
have baby teeth. We all fucked up teeth when we
were kids. I did. I had the biggest gap in
my front teeth, which is GAP's a cool now, which
I still had a vibe and I had to have
braces twice to get rid of it. So like, whatever,
deal with it. I feel like this is a Picky

(09:09):
Battles kind of moment.

Speaker 3 (09:10):
When I was a kid, I will never forget the
moment I went to the dentist and he was speaking
to my mum. I must have been about twelve, because
I remember it, and he turned to her and he's like,
she's completely fucked up all of the enamel on her teeth.
And then the words oral fixation got thrown around, which
I have later learned is a bit of a Freudian thing.
It's a bit weird, but it's basically an obsession with soothing,

(09:33):
you just having things in your mouth. So all growing
up as a kid and still into my adult life,
I seem to have this like sensory soothing thing by
chewing on things or by like doing something with my mouth.

Speaker 1 (09:45):
And as a kid, I was.

Speaker 3 (09:46):
Always chewing on pens and because of it, I ripped
all the enamel off of my teeth. So a dummy
is kind of like the best case scenario because it's
soft silicon, and if you take that away, she might
replace it with something else.

Speaker 1 (09:58):
No, the best case scenario is doesn't chew anything. Yeah,
I know. Look at mean, we can talk about dummies
for a long time. But my five year old sucks
her thumb like Molly sucks her thumb. I can't cut
a thumb off. The thumb fairy ain't coming. Yeah, but
she's going to school. You can't suck your thumb at school.
You need some tough love. You cannot go to school
and be sucking your thumbs. Okay, chili nail polish on. Yeah,
the kids will figure it out. They're all right. No,

(10:21):
they need guidance. It's the worst, if the worst thing
that our kids are experiencing is that one of them
sucks their thumb and the other one has a dummy.
If some parents are out there going like, Laura, what
are you doing? Come for me, they're fine, The kids
are fine. I agree, I disagree. Well, anyways, with all
that out of the way, let's get into vibes and

(10:42):
unsubscribes Brittany, what is your bab?

Speaker 2 (10:45):
It's a hot take, but it's not a hot take.
And I say that because it's like top of Netflix
right now. But the Martha Stuart documentary, and I know
you guys have seen it.

Speaker 1 (10:52):
I told you to watch it because it is brilliant.
And I never in my life thought, oh, I want
to learn more about Martha Stewart. Genuinely would have thought
I didn't care. But she is so oddly lovable. She's
so narcissistic, but oddly I like her. Yes, that's the
general consensus.

Speaker 3 (11:08):
Hand of prison like a boss. I haven't seen this yet.
I've seen it come up on Netflix and I put
it in my list, but I wasn't sure whether it
was good or not, so I kind of wanted to wait.

Speaker 1 (11:16):
And you know, see what everyone else. It's Good's not
even the word. It's fascinating.

Speaker 2 (11:21):
Like I didn't ever know much about Martha Stewart except
that she was Martha Stewart. She was homely, she did
the cooking. She was like the face of wholesome home life.
Like that, that's who she was. And she was America's
first female billionaire, like self made.

Speaker 1 (11:36):
But the thing that's so interesting and fascinating about her
is that when you think about the time that she was,
like the time that she was at the peak of
her career, it was this real push around like when
you're a woman, you're a homemaker, you make a beautiful
home for your family, and you can present a great,
gorgeous like table setting, you bake a cake, and so
the face of that was this woman, Martha Stewart, But

(11:56):
really she was like a fucking ball of business woman.
So she was selling the dream of being a housewife,
but she was anything but a housewife. And then on
top of that, the way in which she sees the
world in terms of like if a man did this,
we would hate him for it. But she has one
set of rules for herself and another set of rules
for everybody else. She's got to be an arcissist one
hundred perve.

Speaker 2 (12:17):
But I think the other fascinating thing is she says
things that most people would think but never say, and
she just throws the way to comment like it's nothing
like she had a daughter, but she's like, didn't really
ever want to It wasn't really great, not like that.
But she's like I just thought, that's what you had
to do. If she went back and had a time again,
she wouldn't have been a month. The homemaker life wasn't

(12:37):
for her, but she said, I fell into it because
it's what you did. You got married, you had it.
And all her friends were saying, oh yeah. She didn't
really give much to her daughter, Like, she wasn't maternal.
She looked after her. She wasn't abusive, but she wasn't
an overly maternal mom. For example, her husband had an
affair and she like roasted him for a bit.

Speaker 1 (12:54):
When she had an affair, she was like, oh, it's
just a bit of play. It's fine. It was nothing.

Speaker 2 (12:57):
So it's like you want to dislike who she is,
but you just can't. Yeah, Like, I just actually love you.

Speaker 1 (13:03):
Yeah. I was surprised by how much I enjoyed it.
It's on Netflix if you guys haven't seen it. Martha Stewart,
she's a fascinating, fascinating woman. I love that vibe. All right,
I'm in trade. I'll watch it now. It's great. Laur's
what's your vibe? Okay? I have a very selfish one everyone, Sorry,
I have two actually, Okay, the first one is May
and Moo. So my sister and I you might have heard,
we've been working on this business for two freaking years,

(13:24):
since Lola was a baby, and since my sister had
her baby as well. So May and Moo is our
new business. It launches today at lunchtime, which is Thursday,
and it's all based around these amazing hand crocheted airloom blankets.
And the reason why we came up with this idea
was because, so we have these beautiful airlien blankets that

(13:44):
my nana and my great nana have made for us
and they were kind of passed down. So my mum
had them when she was a baby. I had them
when I was a baby, and then my kids had
them and when our kids were little, so many people
online would always be like where did you get that
blanket from? Like, oh my god, that's amazing, And it
kind of occurred to me that the art form of
hand crocheting has been lost and like we live in

(14:04):
a world of just like radical fast fashion where you
can get your blankets for ten bucks from Kmart or
twenty bucks from Big w but they just simply don't last,
Like you'll have them for one kid or maybe one
hand me down and then that's it. Whereas these blankets
are like really really special keepsakes that are intended to
be things that you will pass down throughout generations. Every
single piece is handmade, they're all limited, they're so so beautiful.

(14:27):
And then while we're at it, we all did a
whole lot of bedding and linen and like, I need
another fucking business to work on. But I love it.
I'm so excited. I'm so excited. I think I'm excited
for you. I want some sleep.

Speaker 2 (14:38):
Yeah, I want to also.

Speaker 1 (14:39):
Say that I also love it. Can't believe you start
another business, but I'm excited for you. I know, like
we seem to have so many other small businesses, but
this is like it's very small, and it's very from
my family. And actually the main reason why we did it,
to be fair, is because so my mum's a crocheer
and she's a school teacher. She still works her ass off,
and after Neil passed away this year and we knew

(15:01):
he's been sick for a long time, we were like,
we want to have something that she can continue to
do that's her project. And so my mum's helping with
like all of the sampling of the blankets, So it
really could not be more of a family business. My
sister and I are the business brains behind it, but
she's the one who's like helping to come up with
the designs and the crocheting techniques and everything that we
send off to get made. That's really cute. My other
vibe this week is one you guys know that we

(15:23):
love Samantha Wills here. She was one of our very
first interviews on the podcast.

Speaker 2 (15:27):
The very first, not one of she she was the
number Samantha Wills was our number one interview ever on
Life on Cup podcast.

Speaker 1 (15:35):
So Samantha Will's is someone who I just think is
so inspirational, aspirational. I've followed her amazing trajectory in business.
When she started Samantha Will's her jwelry label, like she
totally redefined what it was to have a jewelry business
within Australia, and I grew up with her. Yeah, no
qury and written knew her from a long time, but
I kind of like saw her as like a real
business blueprint for Tony may not that I copied her business,

(15:57):
but it was seeing somebody else for path that made
me realize that I was able to do the things
that she was doing like it gave me a real
sense of confidence. But she stopped her dury business a
few years ago and she's gotten into writing, and she's
been doing a writer's course in New York for the
last couple of years. When she's just come out with
her first book. Now, I thought that she was writing
adult books. That's what I thought. She's written her biography,

(16:19):
but she's actually writing kids books. And she wrote this
really beautiful book called Merigold, which is aimed at tweens.
But I read it to Maley. I read over two
nights because it's quite a big book, and she was
just absolutely enthralled by the whole thing. And it's the
story about a little girl at school who isn't She's
not your normal smarts and it's like you can't spell
smart without art. And it's for the little creative girls

(16:42):
in your life who maybe feel like they're not excelling
in the traditional ways of school, but how they often
grow up to be the visionaries of our world. And
they are the people who who can do business and
who don't have to do maths, but they can see
big picture concepts. It's a gorgeous, gorgeous book, So Marygold,
we will link it all on the website and the
kesha What's your Vibe? My vibe for this week is

(17:03):
actually a cookbook.

Speaker 3 (17:04):
So I saw this at the airport on the weekend,
and I feel like I'm really late to the party
of Nagi Maihashi. So she is the recipe tin Eats
Instagram person. She has like a million followers, which is
why I feel like I'm a bit late to the party.
But I saw this cookbook and it was fifty dollars
at the airport, and my luggage was already to the
capacity that I was allowed to take onto the plane.
So I waited, and I'm glad I waited because I

(17:25):
ended up getting it for twenty nine dollars.

Speaker 1 (17:27):
But it is such a great cookbook.

Speaker 3 (17:30):
If you are in one of those phases where you
just have no motivation because you're like, I'm so bored
of all the recipes that I've been making, this is
gonna be the answer.

Speaker 1 (17:38):
It's super cute. She writes about her golden retriever.

Speaker 3 (17:41):
He's twelve years old and his name is Doza, and
he's their chief food taster and he's in all of
the photos.

Speaker 1 (17:46):
It's so cute.

Speaker 3 (17:47):
And also she does this thing called Recipe Tin Meals,
so they donate one hundred and thirty thousand homemade meals
annually to people in the community, so vulnerable people that
they feed, and a lot of the sales from the
book direct actually fund that program.

Speaker 1 (18:02):
That's why she's amazing. Yeah, yeah, really really good thing
to get behind. It's massive. There's like so so so
many recipes in there. They're not too complex.

Speaker 3 (18:09):
There's different categories like what I crave the fastest recipes,
so those ones are meant to be able to be
made in fifteen minutes, which is my dream, and then
there's things like Sunday.

Speaker 1 (18:19):
Suppers, which are the big crowd pleasers that take a
bit longer to make.

Speaker 3 (18:22):
Anyway, it's probably the best cookbook I've ever seen, so
I love it. It came out last week, like it
was launched last week Recipe Tin Eats Tonight by Nagi Mahashi.

Speaker 1 (18:31):
Love it all right, Well, let's get into the questions.

Speaker 2 (18:35):
Question number one. I've been with my partner for about
four years. He's thirty three, I am twenty seven. Everything
is great, but the one thing that I cannot do
with him is sleep in the same bed. This is
largely Yeah, this is largely due to his snoring and
sleep noises combined with my light sleeping. He would love
to share a bed, but seriously, I just don't sleep

(18:56):
when we're together at all. We always have great sex,
have a cuddle at night, but I just get up
and go to my own room to sleep.

Speaker 1 (19:02):
Then when we wake up in the morning, we go
back to each other and have a cuddle. I actually
it's great, there's no problem here for me. It's been
a great arrangement.

Speaker 2 (19:10):
But I get really worked up and worried about ever
going away together for Christmases or if we're going overseas.
There's never enough room for us at my family unless
we stay in the same room. When we do want
to go and travel in the future, I think, do
I have to pay for two different apartment rooms? This
gives me a lot of anxiety, But then the fact
that I don't sleep increases my anxiety even more. Is
this a sign that it's not going to work? Or

(19:33):
do we have to just keep making these extra arrangements
for separate beds where we can. I want it to
be noted he has tried everything. He's undergone nasal surgery
to straighten the septum or fix the snoring hasn't worked.
I've invested in so many different types of ear plugs
also do not work. My friends seem to think this
isn'tcompatible with a long term healthy relationship.

Speaker 1 (19:53):
Help interesting. I think it sounds like the dream to
be honest, James, I mean if I'm asleep with my partner.
Oh yeah, I mean he's in a different country. But
if you were in the same country, you'd sleep in
the same bed. We need to normalize that it's okay
to sleep in a different bedroom sleep hygiene. Fine, my
parents slept in different now my parents, my mum and

(20:14):
my stepdad Neil, who were happily married, lived in different
houses and they were married and they just lived in
separate places.

Speaker 2 (20:22):
But also, we don't even have to really normalize it.
It is normalized. Twenty five to forty percent of couples
don't sleep. This is expertly stated, don't sleep in the
same bed.

Speaker 1 (20:31):
Yeah, where'd you find out those facts? Sleep dot com? No,
I can't remember that. I'm side, but it was something
that said expert. I do love it when anyone throws
out a statistic with real conviction, doesn't tell you where
they heard it from. You just believe them anyway. I
was like, yeah, sure, it's from the Star Life section.
The first thing that popped up on Google also sounds
very reputable. Can I just say, I mean, I know,

(20:52):
I just threw out there that my mum and my
stepdad lived in different houses, because that I think for
a lot of people would be like, well, that's weird.
It's an interesting one because at the beginning of their relationship,
like when they would have been together for five years
or so, I remember my mum getting really worked up
because she wanted one of them to sell their house
and to move into a place together and live together
like a normal married couple. And the reality was is

(21:14):
that both of them just had at homes that they
had had for like the best part of their entire lives.
Like the house of my mum lives in was like
our family home from when she was born, and so
she was like, well, I can't sell this house, and
Neil didn't want to sell his house, and so it
just worked for them. They would do like three days
on at one and four days on it the other.
The reason for saying this is not to talk about myself,
but it's to say that, like, whatever works in your

(21:35):
relationship works in your relationship. You don't have to do
the same thing as anyone else. And if you guys
are still able to cuddle and you show affection to
each other and it's not affecting your sex life and
it's not affecting anything else about your relationship, then who
cares where you sleep?

Speaker 2 (21:50):
Well?

Speaker 1 (21:50):
Who cares you sleep on the floor.

Speaker 2 (21:52):
I don't know many people that I feel like at
the start of a relationship, you do it right the
start of a relationship.

Speaker 1 (21:57):
You get in to bed, oh yeah, you cut that sex.

Speaker 2 (21:59):
You have, and then you cuddle the entire night, and
when one of you rolls over to spoon, it's like unison.
You roll over, but you're never in a deep sleep,
like I bet if you wore your whoop, you're not
an irim. Ever, like you are so consciously wanting to cuddle,
and you know when you're like, oh my god, they're
on my arm. I don't want to wake them, so
you late, you know, a couple of years in you're like,
fuck that, get off my arm. But now you go
to bed, you have your cuddle on your kids good night,

(22:21):
And I would say most couples then roll over and
get into their position or their space that they get
the best sleep. So if you're doing that, then just
going and sleeping normally when you're.

Speaker 1 (22:30):
Unconscious, then you come back in the morning for the cuddle.
I don't get what the problem is.

Speaker 2 (22:34):
I think it sounds brilliant.

Speaker 1 (22:36):
Yeah, I totally agree. Also, it depends on where you're
at in your relationship. I mean, you know, we've got
kids now. Both of our kids get into our bed
every night, so like Lola comes in around two o'clock,
Molly comes in around three o'clock. I woke up this morning,
I had one child half laying on me, the other
one was sleeping horizontal across the bed, and Matt was
in Lola's bed. He just gets up and goes into
the other room. Like, I don't think that your sleeping

(22:57):
arrangements necessarily are an in decatur of whether you're in
a good or bad relationship. And I don't think that
they are in any way an indicator of whether a
relationship is going to work out or not. There's lots
of people who get to a place where they love
their partner, but their quality of sleep is something that
is important to them, and they just decide that it
is better for them. It's actually better for the relationship

(23:18):
because they have more sleep and they are happier and
more content when they sleep in separate rooms.

Speaker 2 (23:24):
I grew up with a friend like all through school
whose parents we always thought it was weird. But that's
because we were young and uneducated, Like you didn't have
the exposure to these conversations. But his parents had separate
houses as well, in the same street. But they were
married for like forty years. But say like three houses
down was the mom. They Sometimes I'd go and have
dinner together. Then they'd just go back to the house.

Speaker 1 (23:44):
Hemia, it is weird or it's just a rich person problem,
like it's a weird thing to do, or you've got
to be super wealthy. But imagine that we could all
live next door to our partners. We don't have to
live with them. You can have your house exactly how
you want your house. You can have a wardrobe with
all your shit in it exactly the way you want it,
and then your partner is just directly next door. Would
you yes, Like, would you do it? I'd connect to

(24:06):
them with a tunnel. Yeah, like you want to you
want like a door and entryway. They just have their
quarters and you have your quarters. And you know what,
Matt can go to the toilet or go into the
shower and take his pants off and his undies and
leave them as one unified thing on the floor. Yeah,
he would be really I reckon he would be the
partner that would be so sad to hear me say that.
That's not what we're saying.

Speaker 2 (24:25):
We're not telling you your advice is to go buy
a snowhouse, but to go and have your own space.
If you have an extra room in your house, utilize it.

Speaker 1 (24:32):
You're paying for it. Okay, there's more to this though,
and I think that just quickly to like wrap up
this question. You've said that, like it becomes a really
big problem when you're traveling or when you're going to
stay at someone's house because like most people, you know,
if they say, hey, come over as a couple, I've
got a spare room, they're not saying come over as
a couple, I've got two rooms. That's not something that
most people have the available space for. So I would

(24:52):
say on those instances, especially it's your family have a
conversation with them about the fact that your partner really
snores and that you're not able to sleep in the
same room. Can one of you sleep on a couch?
Can you book a hotel room. If you book a
hotel room, book two rooms. Like I understand that that's
more expensive. I understand that that might not be something
that is an easy possibility, But I think if it

(25:13):
works for you in your normal day to day, there's
no reason why you can't roll that out in some
way when you're traveling and don't worry about what people
think of your relationship, and don't worry about if people
think that it might signify something worse, because you guys
are very happy and confident in who you are and
what you have. The other thing as well as is
I do think it's interesting how as we get older

(25:33):
our perceptions to these things change, because, as you said, Britt,
I would have thought when I was younger that sleeping
in separate rooms would have been like beginning of the
end type stuff. And I think if Matt brought it
up with me now and said, hey, babe, I've made
the conscious decision I want to just sleep in a
separate room. Ongoing forever. I think I probably would feel
a little bit sad. But that's because for us, I

(25:54):
think those types of things become a slow creep. Happens
one night where you get a good sleep, then it's
a couple of nights a week, and then eventually it
just kind of evolves into you going and moving into
the other room. So I think it's the way in
which you approach these things in your relationship rather than
it necessarily being Hey, I have a problem, and this
is what I'm going to do as a solution. But then,
who in.

Speaker 2 (26:13):
Life ever said that all of a sudden you hit
in age, then you have to share a space with
someone in bed?

Speaker 1 (26:17):
Like why is that a thing?

Speaker 2 (26:19):
We've just made it a thing that once you get
married in your couples, then all of a sudden you
have to be together, Like that's a rule that society
just put on us.

Speaker 1 (26:25):
I've been sleeping in.

Speaker 2 (26:26):
My own bed alone for like fifteen years. For me,
it's really hard when I'm with Ben, it's hard to
have someone else in my room. But if I was
going to I think what I would do is I
would probably feel sad if my partner came to me
and was like I never want to sleep with you again.

Speaker 1 (26:40):
We're good, but I'm going to go in here. I'd
get it. But what I would say is the rule
would be put.

Speaker 2 (26:45):
Me to sleep, like give me a backtickle, stroke my hair,
and tuck me in. And then once I'm asleep and
I don't know, go helpful leather. Then you get up
before me and come back into bed, and then I
don't know, it's actually so funny that you're laughing at that.
My boyfriend and I literally tuck each other in if
we sleep.

Speaker 1 (27:03):
We sleeps.

Speaker 3 (27:03):
Ever it probably half the time because of various factors.
I'm a bad sleeper, but he also sometimes does night.

Speaker 1 (27:10):
Shift and whatever.

Speaker 3 (27:11):
And our joke is like the first one to go
up to bed, we'll be like, come and tuck me in,
like you've got to give me a cuddle and you
have to turn the lights out. Like it's so cute,
little bit childlike now that I think about it, But
and this the person's question who wrote this in I
actually relate to it a lot because it's not just
other people telling you it's going to be the end,
like the beginning of the end, and where's your intimacy

(27:33):
and stuff. There's a weird guilt that you feel within
yourself because you actually do wonder whether it is the
start of the creep of like, oh, we're doing this
more and more, does this mean that we are going
to lose that intimacy? Like, it's not just external factors.
I think it's something internal as well, because we're being
kind of conditioned to think that couples sleep in the
same room and in the same bed, and I felt

(27:54):
a little bit strange about it this year, being like, Oh,
we've slept separately for the past four or five. It's like,
maybe I should go and sleep in the same bed
tonight just to kind of break that streak.

Speaker 1 (28:06):
I like the way you describe that, is it the
start of the creep, because I do think that that
that's probably what you need to be conscious of, is
that we all know that we can become a little
bit complacent in relationships, especially when something feels easier, especially
when something feels as though we have like more autonomy
or we're getting a better night sleep or whatever it is.
So so long as you're not sacrificing the things that

(28:27):
make you feel good as a couple because it's just
easier to go and just be on your own and
do your own thing. That's when you start to exactly
that drift. But I like that description of like is
it the start of the creep?

Speaker 2 (28:37):
But that's why I said, why do we have it
in our head? Even then when you said, a kesha,
why do we have it in our head? Like?

Speaker 1 (28:43):
Am I losing the intimacy?

Speaker 2 (28:45):
Sleeping at night unconsciously and snoring isn't intimacy. You're not
losing anything if you've got everything, if you're bookending it.
If you're bookending that sleep with the love and affection
at the start, the good mornings and the love and effect,
there's no indice of me that's happening when someone's snoring
and drooling and you're unconscious. So like, I think we're
conditioning in ourselves to constantly think that.

Speaker 1 (29:08):
All right, question number two, This one I think is
going to get a few people fired up, So bear
with me everyone. I love my boyfriend, but he supports Trump.
After Trump got elected, he said, well, what did he
do that was actually so bad? The first time? He
thinks the hate against him is all just media conspiracy.
Can I be in a relationship with someone who feels

(29:30):
this way about a misogynistic person I really want to like. Obviously,
this question has come in from someone who's listener, and
I know that this is something that a lot of
people experience, but I do want to expand it beyond
just being Trump, because it's got to be like, what
if you're in a relationship with someone who has different
political views, or you discover that they like, really really
don't believe in some of the things that you believe in. Fundamentally,

(29:52):
you can.

Speaker 2 (29:52):
Absolutely have a wonderful relationship with someone that has different
political views to you. The problem comes when it doesn't
just become a belief in a thought process for them,
but it's a constant point of contention and you're constantly
finding or they're constantly putting their views on or I'm
going to use Trump for an example. If your partner
came home and.

Speaker 1 (30:13):
Started throwing this sentence around of your body my choice.

Speaker 2 (30:16):
If those politics have flown into your relationship, but that's
not even a political thing, that's just like you're diating
a fuck with But you can absolutely have very harmonious,
wonderful relationships with people with different views to you. In fact,
sometimes I think it's important to have relationships with people
with different views. I feel the same way about religion.
You can have a relationship with someone with a different

(30:36):
religious belief, but as long as the discussions that you
have around it, you're at the dinner table and you're
talking about it, they're respectful, you're putting your point of
views across, You're trying to understand where they come from.
You don't have to agree with it, but I personally
can't stand the way that our society is going where
if you have a different view with someone, you feel
like you need to cut them off, cancel them, and

(30:58):
not have any relationship with them.

Speaker 1 (30:59):
I don't like that. It's interesting because there's been a
lot of people on social media at the moment, people
who really come from that kind of like strong feminist
stance of like if your boyfriends particularly follows Trump or
follows Joe Rogan, you need to dump them, block them,
and be done with them. But I agree, absolutely throw
your relationship and everything into a steaming parl of shit
and set it on fire. Now. I don't not agree

(31:22):
with it, and I don't agree with it at the
same time, I sit in a land of Switzerland, and
the reason for that is is because it depends on
how much you care. It depends on how much these
things are important to you. It's something that only you
can define. And I don't want anybody to make decisions
about their relationship because people online are telling them that
they have to care or they have to do something

(31:43):
vice versa. Right, because your partner might think and in
this question, I think it's pretty important to unpack. Your
partner says, well, what did he do? What was so
bad the first time? Maybe it's just media conspiracy. This
is an opportunity for education. This is an opportunity for
you to sit down and have a conversation with him
and be like, hey, here are the reasons why I care.

(32:03):
Here are the reasons why this affects me. Should it
be a woman's job to educate a man? No, But
this is not just our man. This is a boyfriend
who you care about, who you love, who you want
to be with. This is an opportunity for you to
explain to him the world you live in and why
this is important to you. And if he turns around
and says, oh, I don't care about abortion bands and
I don't care about your rights and I don't care

(32:24):
about x y Z, well, then that gives you so
much context to decide whether or not this is the
relationship you want to be in, and whether or not
your values are fundamentally different. But he may simply be
uneducated and have and have you heard something here or
heard something there that sounded reasonable, And then he's made
up a decision about something that he has the privilege
to be uneducated about because it doesn't affect him exactly.

Speaker 2 (32:46):
And the thing that we do is we here see
and hold on to things that affect us, and we
put the other things aside. So if things like the
abortion band don't affect him, chances are he doesn't read
about it, doesn't dig any deeper into that. If you
have this conversation with him, he might very well say, well,
we saw unemployment loa under Trump, we saw the economy

(33:09):
grow under Trot. He might just look at the few
positives that affect him or that he has seen.

Speaker 1 (33:13):
Maybe it's the industries he's in.

Speaker 2 (33:15):
He might have no grasp of exactly the impact of
Trump's decisions make on women or how they directly affect women.
So there's a conversation, But I think it's important for
you to say if he says that but then you
say to him, but did you know that this is
what else is going on? Do you know this is
what else the effect that this is going to happen
on women? Do you know this is the flow and
effect that we're seeing right now. And he hasn't even

(33:36):
actually officially coming to term yet, Like this is already
what's happening.

Speaker 1 (33:39):
This is why it bothers me. This is why I'm
afraid for the future. Things like that.

Speaker 2 (33:43):
I think having educated, calm, open conversations is really important.

Speaker 1 (33:48):
Look, I mean you know in saying that, I think
it's so important, especially around things like abortion, because I
know that it's something that a lot of women care
about so deeply. But a lot of men are able
to just cruise through life and they benefit from it
existing they have no concept of how much they benefit
from it. But we as women know how important it is.
And I had this conversation with Matt years ago now,

(34:10):
and I was like, you also need to care about
this as much as I care about it, because if
you didn't care about this at all, like the reality
of our situation would be very different. Like I have
had an abortion in the past, I've spoken about it widely.
My life would be completely different. I wouldn't be with Matt,
we wouldn't have the relationship we have because when I
met Matt, I would have had a seven year old kid,

(34:32):
and like, my life just would have been on a
different trajectory and it wouldn't have been the life that
I chose for myself. You know, I know that people
feel very differently about these conversations, and I don't expect
anyone to, you know, to change anyone's views. That's not
what this is about. But it is about explaining to
men how they benefit from the things that are really
important to women. And the problem is is that the

(34:54):
way that the Internet is at the moment and where
a lot of people get their information, there's a lot
of very angry women on the end, and I understand why,
and I'm also one of those angry people. But men
particularly don't listen to angry women. They listen to men,
and I know that that just adds to this environment
of absolute misogyny. But what I'm trying to explain is

(35:14):
that we see it, we hear it, and we all
we think, like, how can they not be listening, how
can they not hear how angry women are? For these reasons.
The very matter of fact is is that they see
it and they just kind of scroll past. They're not
consuming that content because it's not being presented to them
in a way that's palatable for them to listen to.
I think it is a challenge if they are aware,

(35:35):
that's when it's different. Like, if they are very, very aware,
and they are very cognizant and they are educated, and
they have still made that decision, then I understand why
it fundamentally differs from the way that you feel and
the way and the things that you believe in. And
that's when I go, Okay, if you are so politically
not on the same page about things that deeply fundamentally

(35:57):
affect you, then maybe the relationship isn't right, And that's okay,
you don't you know, it's okay to not see eye
to eye with people and also to not want to
build a future with them, right Like, that is a
decision that you have to make. But it's only a
decision that you can make, right, and it's only a
decision that you make based on the things that are
the most important to you. This is going to seem
like a little bit of a weird tangent, but kind

(36:18):
of wait till the end, and I think you'll get
where I'm coming from. Back in twenty twenty, there was
a lot of conversation about vaccination, right, and there was
a bit of research done essentially from scientists who looked
into the best ways to convince people that vaccination was
a good idea essentially like and I'm paraphrasing at best,

(36:38):
but essentially what they found is that the way to
change people's minds about anything the psychology behind it, is
to empower them to make their own decisions.

Speaker 3 (36:47):
Right, And you have to be careful when you say
education because it can be patronizing. So it was all
about empowering them with information so that they could come
to their own conclusion about anything. They basically found that
anytime that someone felt degraded, that they felt stupid, if
someone was having a tantrum, essentially trying to get them
to change their mind, not only would it not change

(37:08):
their mind, but it would often push them further in
the opposite direction shame and pressure. Also people want to
double down on it. And this kind of applies to
politics as well, because it's not actually about vaccination, it's
about psychology and I have actually been really guilty of
this myself in the past, and I've learnt a lot
this year, particularly about this topic of how to kind
of talk to people about where they're coming from. Extrapolating

(37:30):
that if he is someone who respects Trump, it means
he's a racist, he's sexist, he's misogynistic, he's all of
these labels.

Speaker 1 (37:39):
He's Biggert's whatever. It's actually not necessarily true. It could
be true, but it's not necessarily true.

Speaker 3 (37:46):
And I experienced this a lot when we were talking
about the Voice referendum. When someone had a different opinion
to me, I automatically assumed that they were racist, And
I actually have realized that that's really incorrect, and it's
not fair to kind of label them with something so
extreme because they had a different perspective on something so.

Speaker 1 (38:03):
Kind of using that psychology.

Speaker 3 (38:05):
Is the only reason I wanted to bring that up
is because what you're saying about these people who were
yelling and kicking and screaming on the internet, it is
scientifically proven that that actually doesn't shift the needle. If anything,
it pushes people in the opposite direction. So keep that
in mind when you're having conversations with people that you
love and care about. I mean, it doesn't really necessarily
apply to the Internet, because I think you get served

(38:25):
the algorithm of what you're into anyway. I don't think
that the algorithms of people who are having, you know,
quite hysterical reactions to the outcome of the vote in America,
I don't actually think that they're reaching the other side,
because the algorithm already knows what side you're on based
on total content that you consume.

Speaker 2 (38:44):
Last question, I've been seeing this guy for about three
months now. We're exclusive and it's going very well. It's
the first time I'm getting serious with someone, so the
first time I've been hanging out with a guy quite a.

Speaker 1 (38:54):
Lot, all night and all weekend.

Speaker 2 (38:57):
The issue is I'm quite a gassi per by nature.
I don't have any stomach issues. I just tend to
need to do a few pop offs after big meals
are in the morning. I also poop quite a lot too.

Speaker 1 (39:10):
Same girl, Same I've been waiting nervous.

Speaker 2 (39:12):
To pool around him, and I get scared he's going
to go in after me and smell what I have
just done. I'm also holding in all of my farts.
This is causing me serious stomach aches and pains. I'm
often recovering from holding them in from one to two
days after seeing him. Side note, he farts in front
of me, but I'm too embarrassed to do it.

Speaker 1 (39:31):
Back mate, you gotta let go, let go of it.
If you are causing yourself pain because you're holding onto
it for two days, let me tell you something. You're
not holding onto it. You're farting in your sleep. That's
what's happening, and he's heard it, and it's happening. Just
lean in hard.

Speaker 2 (39:45):
I don't think you need to lean in leash no,
do it. Go for gold Son, I'm going to disagree.
You absolutely do not and should not hold them in like.
It can cause pain and it can be really bad
for you.

Speaker 1 (39:56):
You could end up in the hospital. Yeah you need
to be Yeah, you need to be able to fart.

Speaker 2 (40:02):
But personally, for me, I don't want to sit there
and let one rip in front of my partner.

Speaker 1 (40:06):
We've spoken about this.

Speaker 2 (40:07):
I think it is a turn off for me if
I had a partner sitting next to me and was
just farting the whole time.

Speaker 1 (40:14):
But the problem is is he has unleashed the beast.
He is doing it. It doesn't mean you need to
do it back. Yes, an eye for an eye makes
everyone smelly. Go for gold, gives the pink eye. Laura,
just do it.

Speaker 2 (40:24):
No, I just think if you but she's worried about it,
I think, just go to the bathroom. It doesn't matter
if he smells it. Every single human in the world
poos and farts like he knows that you do it.
It doesn't poo smell. That's what they do. Poo smell,
fart smell. Everyone smells different. If you're not comfortable, I
don't think you have to sit there and cock a
leg and fart back on him.

Speaker 1 (40:44):
Just excuse yourself far on him. I do think that
there is an interesting and maybe I am going to
get too deep on ever. It was like, don't get
too deep on this one, but I will.

Speaker 2 (40:53):
I think it's an interesting nuance study that we did
on couples in farts.

Speaker 1 (40:56):
I didn't find a research study about farting. No. I
think it's funny how women are held to a different
standard and we hold ourselves to a different standard. I
would say that there are more women than men who
are embarrassed or nervous or don't feel comfortable fighting around
their partners, like, let's do a poll versus the men
in their lives who feel completely fine with just fucking
dropping a fart wherever they are. I don't hold men

(41:18):
to a different standard. I hold us both to the
same standard. I agree that you do. You might hold
yourselves and your partners to the same standard. But I
would absolutely add a bet say that more men are
comfortable with fighting around their partners than women are. Oh,
I would agree. We are expected to be ladylike, we
are expected to be more feminine, and women don't fight
and all that sort of bullshit. I think you will

(41:38):
never feel more free than the day that you just
realize it's fine and you just do it and you're
a gassy gal and you've got to live your gassy
life and I am one as well. And it's just
which is a household of people who fart around each
other and it's okay.

Speaker 2 (41:51):
But it's also it also doesn't have to be okay.
It's what it does to you. If you are not
comfortable doing it, you don't want your partner to do it,
Like if it goes both ways, you don't have to.
But if you are okay to do it, let it
rip for me. I don't want to ever do it.
It's a turn off for me. Ben has not and

(42:11):
will not far in front of me because he knows
I don't like it.

Speaker 1 (42:15):
And I think that that is a respectable thing to
ask in a release. Why don't you treat me the
same way, Britt, because you've farted around me.

Speaker 2 (42:20):
Probably once ever and that was very funny, And I
remember the exact moment cold did you we're in airs rock?

Speaker 1 (42:28):
Oh? I was horrified. Yeah, but you're horrifying.

Speaker 2 (42:33):
See why was it horrifying? If you think it's okay,
why is it it sat with you forever?

Speaker 1 (42:36):
Why? Because it was funny. It's so funny.

Speaker 2 (42:39):
Fars a thing, they're nothing. But you've hold onto my
one whiz pop for three years.

Speaker 1 (42:44):
The reason why I've held onto it two years is like,
is because it was such a big deal to you
and it was so funny, because it's such a taboo,
Whereas like in my household, I couldn't tell you the
last time that farted because it happens all the time.
It's a non event. Hear me out. Let's talk about
it technically. If you're spending all weekend together, if you're
in bed. If you're like always together, you're just gonna

(43:06):
have to accept the fact that, yes, he's probably going
to go into the bathroom at some point and smell
that you've done gone to the toilet. Go and get
some what are those called poop purri, poop piri, drops,
poop piri? Just air fresh enough, Just get some air freshener. Okay,
sort that shit out, open a window. But if you
don't want to do it, even if he is, and
you've decided you're not going to be that person, just

(43:28):
go into another room. You can tell him you're going
into another room to fart. You can say, don't go
in there, I'm going in there to but whatever you
want to say. But like, you don't have to do
it in the same room. There are options. But you
also don't have to live your life pretending as though
you're the only person in the universe who doesn't pass
windowor to go to the toilet.

Speaker 2 (43:44):
I will literally say to Ben, especially if you're somewhere
that's like if you've gone on a holiday and you're
in a little apartment room, I'll be like, babes, I
need to poop.

Speaker 1 (43:53):
Put some music on.

Speaker 2 (43:54):
I'll be like I'll be like, and then you don't
go in there for a while and give us some space.
Like we're so far we don't pretend each other doesn't
fart or some pooh like we never would pretend that
we think it's it's funny.

Speaker 1 (44:03):
I'll be like who, and he'll come out and be like,
you need to give that a minute. I did a
Pakeisha the other day before we got into the car.
She got in the car and I was just standing
with the door open. She's like, what are you doing?
And I was like, I'm just making sure my pants
air out before I hop into a confined space. You are, yes, sorry,
I farted on the way to the car, and I
just think it's lingering. I was like, we just need
to give it some space, and you are I'm a
gassy goal. Yeah. I did appreciate that, the honesty. I

(44:26):
appreciate it a lot.

Speaker 3 (44:26):
More than if you had have gotten into the car
and gone, I've just fun but you have done.

Speaker 1 (44:31):
She's done that as well.

Speaker 2 (44:32):
Yeah, it's because she panics.

Speaker 1 (44:35):
If it's smellier than.

Speaker 2 (44:36):
Normal, she panics, so she has no She goes, sorry,
it's fight it, and I'm like, I know I can
smell it.

Speaker 1 (44:39):
Yeah. Also Matt, Matt, he does the opposite, though he
doesn't have the grace or the kindness to do it
outside of the car. It's like he gets in the
car and then just sitting down compresses his guts. So
he'll shut the door and we'll start driving, and within
minutes minutes of driving in the car, he will far
with the windows up. Gross. He does it all the time.
It's gross.

Speaker 3 (44:59):
Yeah, I under stand why she has anxieties around it.
I think maybe just use an excuse to need to
go outside for something, take the bin out.

Speaker 1 (45:08):
He might appreciate both. No, you don't need an excuse.

Speaker 2 (45:10):
You and you're be like, oh my god, I forgot
something from the shops and you go down to the shops.

Speaker 1 (45:13):
To fart, Like that's not that, it's just don't.

Speaker 2 (45:16):
I just don't want you to sit next to me
and let it rip on me, or in the laundroom
or in the car or in bed whatever. If you're
unconscious and you're asleep, funny, you can't help it, Like
that's great.

Speaker 1 (45:26):
Would you if you were asleep, would you just and
you woke up because you needed to? Would you just
do it and pretend that you're asleep, or would you
get up and go to another room.

Speaker 2 (45:34):
I couldn't. I could not do that. I would be
so uncomfortable. I don't like it.

Speaker 1 (45:38):
I do not like.

Speaker 2 (45:39):
Farting in front of my partner, and I don't want
him to do it to me. And I have said
to Ben, I want to love you for the rest
of my life, but if you far every day for
the rest of our life, I'm not going to love
you because I know we're going to do something to
me that I can't take back.

Speaker 1 (45:52):
It's so funny how strongly you feel about it. Whereas
like now, I.

Speaker 2 (45:57):
Wonder if it's because I grew up in that family.
So my mum and dad had be married forty six
or seven years. Their anniversary is like, O, well here,
I can't remember forty seven forty seven.

Speaker 1 (46:04):
Yeah, but they've never fighted in front of each other.

Speaker 2 (46:06):
And growing up as kids, it was a it was
a thing that was like, you would never fight at
the dinner table. You would always have to excuse you
if you fight it, you'd always excuse yourself. But it
was something that wasn't done in front of people. And
so I just grew up like that, and.

Speaker 1 (46:20):
I just don't want to do it. Our house is
like a symphony anyway. Even Nana she coughs and farts
at the same time. Everyone's farting around our house. If
you hit sixty five, it's free rein. You do whatever
you want. You fight, You can fight anywhere at any time.
Ellye will stand up and just Ellie, She's like, sorry,
you have no no public floor anymore, just falls out.
Sixty five is fine, she's seventy three. Yeah, but from

(46:41):
then on, I mean, yeah, yeah, she's doing the best anyway.
I get the problem. Guys. I'm so glad that we
entered on that one. I'm going but you're go and
live your gassy life privately. Yeah, or however you want.
Do whatever makes you happy in your relationships. And we're
not gonna yuck anyone's yum. That is it from us, guys.
If you have a question, ask uncut, send us some

(47:01):
sexy questions. I'm here. What the fight's not doing for you? Yeah, no,
I'm here to answer your deep, dirty, kinky, weird questions.
I need some kink in my life again. It's been
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