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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Life Uncut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands
were never seated. We pay our respects to their elders
past and present.

Speaker 2 (00:07):
Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. This episode was
recorded on de rug wallamut Land. Hi guys, and welcome
back to another episode of Life Uncut.

Speaker 1 (00:25):
I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and it is Therapy Thursday, the
episode where you're sending your deepest, darkest burning questions and
we do our best to answer them.

Speaker 3 (00:34):
I woke up in the depths of hell this morning, brute, Oh.

Speaker 1 (00:37):
We're getting straight into that.

Speaker 3 (00:38):
Oh yeah, that happened.

Speaker 2 (00:39):
I feel like it's one of those things where you
start with the low, you acknowledge what's happening in the room,
and then you just work your.

Speaker 3 (00:44):
Way back up.

Speaker 2 (00:45):
Hopefully by then the urals kicked in and everyone's feeling better.
I woke up this morning and I was like, oh,
I feel a bit unwell. And then I went to
the bathroom and I was like, you girl's got a
uti and I am in all kinds of agony.

Speaker 1 (00:57):
I feel like you have not had a good day
this year. I feel like your body's.

Speaker 3 (01:00):
Giving up on you. A little bit.

Speaker 1 (01:01):
They're like, yeah, what none of this fucking New Year
knew me? Shit on save shits last year worse.

Speaker 3 (01:08):
In fact, no, most people think they're going to improve
in the new year.

Speaker 2 (01:11):
My body was like, fuck you, We're gonna go the
opposite direction. No. Matt started to describe me as though
I'm rotting from the inside.

Speaker 3 (01:18):
I was like, that's nice.

Speaker 1 (01:19):
Yeah, I mean that's not what you want. As long
as you don't start smelling like that's when you know
it's over. The end is near. When you're sitting on
the lounge and someone's like, what smells like a dead animally?

Speaker 2 (01:27):
Like just mi insight, You're just breathing. You're not expelling
any other air than just breath. That's my new scent.

Speaker 1 (01:34):
Yeah. I'm assuming Lauren that your uti is not from
an excessive amount of sex. It's from steroid use or
anybody from all the steroids.

Speaker 3 (01:42):
Someone Apparently it's a what's it?

Speaker 4 (01:45):
Like?

Speaker 3 (01:45):
What happens? Not a symptom.

Speaker 2 (01:46):
It's like a when you do one thing and then
you get another thing. Oh, it's a side effect, that's it.
That's the word I was looking for.

Speaker 1 (01:52):
Oh my god, I was like, what are we playing
charades two syllables.

Speaker 2 (01:57):
It's a side effect of the other antibiotics, which is
annoying because it means now you've got to go onto
a whole new antibiotic yeah, to try and treat the
old antibiotics. I'm going to end up with some real
antibiotic resistant bugs soon, and then it's all gonna be over.

Speaker 3 (02:09):
I really will be rodding from the inside.

Speaker 1 (02:10):
Surely. This is just you building up like every ounce
of immunity to literally everything crawling on the ground, like
you are going to be that superhuman, indestructable person because
you're like, nothing can touch me. Now, I'm ready for it.
I reckon twenty twenty five.

Speaker 3 (02:22):
That's my year. That's what I'm gonna be, the bionic Woman.

Speaker 2 (02:25):
Twenty five. I've given up on this one. But next year,
I'm coming in strong. I'm coming in hut.

Speaker 1 (02:30):
It's so funny this morning, I completely mistook Laura on
the way to this. I say this interview, this podcast recording.
On the way She's like, I'm running late, and then
nothing and then she goes, Babe, I'm crawling, and I
was like, oh my god, she's so unwell. I thought
you meant you were crawling, like pulling yourself all on
the ground, crawling through life. Like I took it like

(02:52):
a metaphor and I was like, oh, this is going
to be a shit day. But you just meant you
were stuck in traffic. Thank God.

Speaker 2 (02:57):
I really cannot wait until you were back here and
we're in the same room together. For those of you
who don't know, britstill in Scotland. We've been recording via
well the podcast equivalent of Zoom, but it's called Riverside.

Speaker 1 (03:08):
Yeah, it's one more week of recording and then I'm back.
But I do want to say I haven't really spoken
about Ben much, my partner. I'm so in love.

Speaker 3 (03:15):
It's so good.

Speaker 2 (03:17):
Well, I know I'm happy for you. I don't say,
oh God is in like I don't want to hear
about it. I am thrilled, Like, I genuinely am so happy.

Speaker 1 (03:25):
Really, you're doing a hard time. I'm convincing me that, Laura,
I'm thrilled, Okay, thrilled, this is me thrilled. No, you
know someone's like when something's not fine, like I'm fine.

Speaker 3 (03:35):
No, I am thrilled. I am.

Speaker 2 (03:38):
I just I just remember those honeymoon days when you're
like I want to tell everyone how in love I am.
And I am still in love with my husband. We're
just not in the honeymoon phase anymore. Instead, one of
us is yelling at the other one from the kitchen
to the bathroom, telling the other parent to wipe the
kids ass.

Speaker 1 (03:53):
Okay, well we're not quite there, so at the moment,
I'm still screaming it from the roofshops. No, this has
been two months that we've spent together. So because we're
long distance, we just get these little tiny blocks together usually,
which is like one week, two weeks. The longest we'd
spent was five weeks, and this has been just about
eight weeks.

Speaker 5 (04:09):
It's like the longest time you guys have spent together.
It's the longest time in a block. So I was like,
is it just gonna be the same the whole time?
Is that honeymoon gonna phase off? Like you know, that
feeling of like being untouchable, nothing a knew easy about
each other because you've got this short amount of time together.
So I was like, what's gonna happen after two solid
months together? But I can honestly say we're obsessed.

Speaker 1 (04:28):
That's it. That's what I'm saying I just felt like
the need to share my love with the world. It's
his birthday tomorrow night, so it's midnight right now. And
also it's his birthday in like ten minutes. Basically, you're
gonna weakehme up. But he's in the spirit room. I've
kicked him out. He's sleeping alone.

Speaker 2 (04:41):
I'm like, sorry, sucker, happy birthday. But I have to
go and record a podcast in the middle of the night. Yeah,
so I record to like.

Speaker 1 (04:47):
Three am, four am. Yeah, it's rough, and then I've
got to probably get up and give him a blowjob
or something. It's gonna be a rough day for me.
I definitely will be having a very different week to you.

Speaker 2 (04:56):
But it's also Laura's birthday on Friday, so they're a
little aquarious twins.

Speaker 3 (05:00):
She's twenty three.

Speaker 1 (05:01):
That's crazy.

Speaker 2 (05:03):
I feel like it was just yesterday that I was
complaining about the fact that she wasn't sleeping. So it
has gone so quickly it feels mind blowing to me.

Speaker 1 (05:11):
But you're still complaining about the fact she doesn't sleep.
There's not a lot to change. She's still in the
same place.

Speaker 2 (05:17):
We're in exactly the same spot. Actually, anyway, let's get
into answering all your questions.

Speaker 1 (05:21):
Guys.

Speaker 2 (05:21):
We've got vibe and unsubscribe first, and this week, producer
Keisha has abandoned us. She has gone to Perth. She
has left us to go to a wedding. She was
out of here at six thirty am in the morning
and left us for dead. Which is a good thing
that we now have Johono here. If you guys listen
to Tuesday episode. Johno is our new employee and he
knows how to turn all the equipment on because I

(05:42):
would have been up shit Creek without a paddle. JOHNO
is stepping in with his Vibe today. Welcome to the podcast,
John O.

Speaker 3 (05:48):
Thank you, Laura.

Speaker 4 (05:48):
I feel like if we've got producer Keisha, I can't
just be Johono though.

Speaker 3 (05:52):
I feel like Hamra Joho. What do you want to be?

Speaker 4 (05:54):
Video producer?

Speaker 3 (05:55):
It's just so lad it doesn't roll.

Speaker 4 (05:56):
At the time.

Speaker 1 (05:56):
John, No, that's a mouthful. What about we go for
like about like DJ DJ John?

Speaker 4 (06:01):
What about token man? Token man? Token man work?

Speaker 1 (06:05):
Okay, we're actually not going to call you token Man.
We will come up with a proper name, but I
think for now we'll go with Johnna I'm not against
token man. If you're not offended, I'm fine with it.
I take it as it comes. Doh know, you have
a really like sultry voice.

Speaker 3 (06:17):
I never noticed.

Speaker 1 (06:18):
Sexy sultry like call phone almost like I feel like
you could you know, one eight hundred sex a lot.

Speaker 4 (06:24):
Well, what do you think I did for a living
prior to this?

Speaker 1 (06:27):
Brittain?

Speaker 2 (06:28):
Hence why he was so interested about coming on too
Life on cart It was like, I can contribute to the.

Speaker 3 (06:32):
Conversations that you guys are having. U tis been there.

Speaker 1 (06:34):
I mean our mornings are very similar right now. Well, JOHNO,
you are going to be contributing this week to our
vibe and unsubscribed because you're taking produced Acquisia's place for
the minute. Usually we probably won't hear a lot from Johnno,
I'm sure we'll get some little pipe ins here and there.
But how do you feel about kicking this off?

Speaker 4 (06:51):
Very happy to and I've got a vibe, big vibe,
locked and loaded. So my vibe for this week. This
last week has been group dates.

Speaker 1 (06:57):
Oh is this like a no an augy.

Speaker 3 (07:00):
Just first date?

Speaker 4 (07:00):
Yeah no, she was just just a triple date, just
a triple date. So Producer Keisha and I have known
each other for a little while and producer Keisha wanted
to set me up with one of her friends, and
long story short, nothing happened there. And then this girl
messaged me two weeks ago just sort of saying, Hey,
feel free to tell me to get lost, but I
think you and my housemate would get along really really well.
We're doing this big triple date thing. We've all moved

(07:21):
in together, we're all single, and I think you should
be her date. She seen your profile, thinks you cool?
Are you in?

Speaker 1 (07:27):
Is this the girl that you originally were going to
go on a date with?

Speaker 2 (07:29):
And then she tried to set you up with her friends,
so she panballed you onto someone else.

Speaker 4 (07:33):
Yeah, it was a quick play the ball, and so
I was like, hell, yeah, that sounds fun. Why not
friends of a friend of Keisha? So hopefully still like
nice person anyway, So it was going to be this
big group date.

Speaker 1 (07:43):
So wait, did you bring two friends or was it
you dating three people? No, John, it's a player.

Speaker 4 (07:49):
Have three individual dates, three dates all together. There were
three guys and three girls, and so we all went
to the girl's house. They hadn't set up like oysters
like sharcutery walked in. It was like shots, and then
boys made espress on my teennies. We had some really
good chats, a couple of sort of move like talking
with each other, and then it's a group and then
we went up to a bar, had a few drinks

(08:10):
and longs. Like the group date was good, but this
girl that I was with is even better. So I
met her last Tuesday and in that time we've seen
each other three times. It's going really well, which is scary.

Speaker 1 (08:20):
You know, I'm here for this. This is I feel
like this is something. I could write this and turn
this into like a Netflix script. So you are basically
date sception like date inception. You started off with one chick.
She was like, you're great, not for me, palmed off
to a friend, and then the friend was like, I
also want to see, but I want to see what
you're like in an environment with other people. So test.
Then you get there. Then there's aphrodisiac set up, and
then you've got shots. So she's like, Kenny party is

(08:43):
going to make him horny. Then she's like, nut, we
need to test at one more step. Let's go and
have deeper meaningfuls and see if we connect, and it
sounds like it digs every single box. This chick knows
what's up. She just went through like six months of
dating in a night.

Speaker 3 (08:56):
That's kind of how it feels like.

Speaker 2 (08:57):
Also, for all the women who were originally like cool,
hot sounding men on the podcast who's dating single Ding
Ding may not be single for long.

Speaker 4 (09:06):
The universe works mysterious ways. Single guy goes in front
of a very large audience of young women to talk
about dating and relationships, is single, and then meet someone
and is just kind of infatuated with them.

Speaker 1 (09:17):
So we'll see, we'll see where that goes. Oh this
is so cute.

Speaker 3 (09:21):
Wow that moved quickly.

Speaker 2 (09:23):
Also, okay, I have one question about this whole triple
date thing though.

Speaker 3 (09:27):
Did the other guys know each other?

Speaker 2 (09:28):
Who were there? Or was everybody on a single date?
Was everybody on a first date or were they at
different stages of dating?

Speaker 4 (09:34):
Everyone except me and my date were on a first date,
so we were just on a second.

Speaker 3 (09:39):
You were on a second date.

Speaker 1 (09:40):
Yes, Oh, here we go.

Speaker 4 (09:42):
So the vibe is group date, open yourself up to
new experiences and just put yourself out there.

Speaker 1 (09:48):
You know they actually do this. I remember I got
invited to one, and I can't remember why I didn't
end up going. But they do do these sort of
nights where you sign up for it and it's a
bunch of strangers, like it could be men and six
women and they go to one of the person's house,
no one knows each other. Or you can go with
a friend and it's a dinner party but people don't
know and the purpose is I guess you could meet

(10:10):
up as friends if you really wanted to, but the
purpose is romantic dating and relationships. So it is essentially
strangers going to someone's house. They all bring a dish,
somebody cooks the main meal, and then they just get
to know a bunch of strangers. I think it's a
pretty cool vibe. But how do you know they're not
like sociopaths.

Speaker 4 (10:27):
Yeah, I think if it wasn't through someone, if it
wasn't through a friend of producer Cashes, I would probably
be a bit more hesitant towards it. So it's like
a baby step of like exploring like a new frontier
I guess.

Speaker 3 (10:37):
And putting yourself outside your comfort zone.

Speaker 2 (10:38):
I also think I think it's nice to do these
things group dates. I am so for and the reason
for that is because they are their low intensity. You
don't have to give all of your time and attention
to the person that you're on a date with. And
it kind of especially if you're not someone who is
great under what feels like a high pressure situation and
you don't necessarily feel like on a first date you

(10:59):
do your best work. It kind of takes the pressure
off a little bit. So I think that's very cool, Britt.
What is your vibe of the week?

Speaker 1 (11:06):
My vibe this week? I feel like I'm really proud
of it because it's really fun and everybody can do
it and it could be the perfect thing for JOHNO
to do on his group date. So it's something called
Jackbox TV. Have you heard of it?

Speaker 3 (11:19):
Never?

Speaker 1 (11:20):
Okay, it's amazing. Jackbox TV is something you just literally
it's I guess it's like an app and you or
you purchase it online. And there's all different prices so
it's a game. It's all different prices from like I
think you could buy one game for twenty thirty dollars.
You can get packs of four, five, six, seven games.
Party packs. They go up to one hundred hundred and
fifty dollars and Once you purchase it, you own it,

(11:41):
so you have it always. You stream it to your
TV so that you play on your TV. So when
everyone's gathered around, you load it up and then everybody
goes onto the website Jackbox. You get a code so
that you're all joined the same room and you're playing
the same game, and you play these games against each other,
and there are so many to choose from, and they
the games like someone in the room is a murderer

(12:02):
and just clues and you've got to think who it is.
There's games where it's trivia and you're playing against each other.
There's the biggest range of games. And I've been playing
a lot over here with Ben and my sister Sherry
and her button at Jay and it is so funny
and so much fun and such a good I don't
want to say a time wasted, but a time filler,
Like you can just sit down there and have a
laugh with your friends for a long time and you're
still talking in between. You're not on your phone as

(12:25):
such because you're not scrolling, so you're all engaged with
each other. And I've just found it the best thing
I've done in a long time.

Speaker 3 (12:31):
With this game.

Speaker 2 (12:31):
Though, do you have to all be in the same
room or do you play it by distance?

Speaker 1 (12:34):
You can play it via distance, I believe, but I
have never done that. I'm always in the same room,
so it's usually if you're having friends over. I think
you probably can. But you do have to stream it,
like the main person that has it has to stream
it to a TV. So I'm going to assume it's
probably wise to be in the same room. But it's
easy and it's fun. We could have a life on
caut night and play it. I turned into full like

(12:55):
introvert nerd Burger, like I just want to stay inside
and play games on the TV.

Speaker 3 (12:59):
I reckon once the time.

Speaker 2 (13:00):
By the time you come back to Australia, you'll feel
very differently. Right now, you're in like minus fot degrees. Yeah,
so like that's why you're staying inside playing games on
a TV. And then you're gonna come back to Sydney
and you're gonna be like, oh, that's right, there's a
life that's outside that doesn't require seventeen layers of thermals.

Speaker 1 (13:14):
I am going to sizzle the second the Australian sun
hits me like a vampire because it just rains here
all the time and it's cloudy. It's like I have
no vitamin D at all. Oh I got the D,
but not the vitamin D.

Speaker 2 (13:25):
I'm gonna make this quick. But if you're somebody who's
into house plants, I know this makes me sound really
old and really.

Speaker 1 (13:31):
God, here we go the plants side.

Speaker 2 (13:32):
I fucking love my houseplants. I love my houseplants as
much as I love my children. I am obsessed with them. Okay,
that's a bit of a stretch. I love my children more.
But Laura Byrne is in her house plant era. I
have so many. And once you become a person who
can keep your houseplants not just alive, but thriving, you
become obsessed with it. And then it becomes like almost
like this thing that you become a bit arrogant about

(13:53):
because you're that person who can keep plants alive.

Speaker 3 (13:55):
So you're like, it's your flex, it's my flex.

Speaker 1 (13:58):
I'm worried about you.

Speaker 2 (13:59):
I know, so is Matt. It's actually banned me from
buying any more houseplants. I've started propagating them because I
had to get around the hole. Can't buy anymore. But okay,
I bought this thing because my house only has one
area where there's it's well lit. The rest of the
house is quite dark because it's like a long tunnel
that doesn't have any windows on the sides of the house,
because where.

Speaker 1 (14:15):
Will you live in a bunk off with you or
are duplex.

Speaker 2 (14:17):
We're connected to another house, so there's no windows on
one whole side of the wall, right, which means that
for all of the plants that I have, because there's
too many of them to have in the one window,
the ones, I have to rotate them all the time
because they just don't get enough light.

Speaker 1 (14:30):
Anyway, I recently bought something.

Speaker 2 (14:32):
It is a full spectrum indoor light thing, which means
that you put it in front of your plants and
they get the full spectrum of light. But usually they're
so ugly and you look like you're living in a nursery.
And I found these ones. It's from a website called Motherlife,
and they're really nice. They just look like an indoor lamp,
but really they're plant lamps. Now, my plants have never
been happier, and I'm thrilled, and everyone's looking at me

(14:52):
like I'm an absolute moron, But you just Wait, there's
gonna be other people listening to this podcast who love
their plants too.

Speaker 1 (14:59):
Speaking of Ari against Laura. You know, it might not
be the right time, but I don't need a plant
lamp to keep my plants alive. Mine just thrive naturally
because yours a plastic No, they're not. I've got one
plastic plant and everyone thinks it's real. That's how amazing
it is.

Speaker 3 (15:11):
It's thriving.

Speaker 4 (15:12):
All right.

Speaker 3 (15:12):
Let's get into answer your questions.

Speaker 1 (15:14):
Okay, question number one. I was dating this guy about
nine months ago, and he's also a part of our
close friendship group, so there's a little bit of a
crossover complication there. Anyhow, he has just unfollowed me on Instagram.

Speaker 3 (15:28):
Dun, dun.

Speaker 1 (15:28):
We dated for one month and it ended on bad terms.
I think he was in an open relationship with his
partner while we were seeing each other. Both of us
see each other every single weekend because of our friend group.
We train, we hang out, we catch up. So the
breakup has been really hard for me. Things between us
were finally good again a few months ago. We were
joking around, talking, supporting each other, but still maintaining boundaries.

(15:52):
Now he's been overseas the last two months to go
and see his ex partner and family, and I just
found out that he has unfollowed me from Instagram. Now
I'm confused and upset, and I don't know how to
behave when he's back. Is he setting boundaries and we'll
go back to being weird with each other. I'm tired
of pretending. Is it okay for me to text him
and ask him why he has unfollowed me? Or do

(16:15):
I just have to go on with life like nothing happened.
What do I do?

Speaker 2 (16:20):
Do not text him, do not do anything, unfollow block him,
and move on with your life. Don't give him any
more energy at all ever. And also, I reckon this look.

Speaker 1 (16:32):
I don't know anything. I'm just guessing. I'm just putting
it out there.

Speaker 2 (16:35):
There's a good chance that he wasn't in an open
relationship for that month.

Speaker 1 (16:39):
There's a good chance he was in a relationship.

Speaker 2 (16:41):
And that's why he's now blocking you because he's worked
through some shit with his partner and he's like, oh,
that's right, m Bing, I cheated on her with that
girl who I've still been kind of friends with. And
now he's like very much at putting a line in
the sand and saying like, Okay, I can't have you
in my life because you.

Speaker 3 (16:56):
Know, I need to create separation.

Speaker 1 (16:58):
I might be in a league of my own here,
but I always think this is weird, Like if someone
follows you, you look a little bit cray create when
you even notice that they've unfollowed you, Like, does this
mean you're going on to constantly look if people are
still following you and then you notice that they're not,
and then you get yourself into a headspin. I think
the best thing to do here is except that for

(17:20):
whatever reason, this is a pretty big statement that he's
drawing a line in the sand, and he's like, not
only do I not want to communicate with you, but
I don't want to see your shit either, because that's
what it's saying, right, I don't want you to be
popping up in my feed I don't care enough about
you anymore. And I know this is tough love. But
if he's also just been overseas with his ex, who's
probably now back to being his girlfriend and her family,

(17:41):
there's a high chance that they are just setting boundaries
because if I was dating somebody, I wouldn't want him
to be hanging out with someone he had recently been dating.
I just think that's a bit of a crossover boundary.
So there's probably that as well. So I think at
the end of the day, it's probably irrelevant and you
probably need to admit to feat.

Speaker 2 (17:57):
The unfollowing or the blocking or whatever has happened on
social media is his way of saying, like, you know,
we're not going to be together, but you're also not friends.
Even if you got back to being in a good
place where you could joke and have some bands and like,
you know, be friendly with each other, you're not friends.
I always think that the test for that is how
do you feel when they walk into the room? You know,

(18:18):
So if you're someone who's still holding onto like a
little bit more and they're not just friends and you're
wanting something, you'll feel a little bit of anxiety, or
you'll feel butterflies, or you'll feel a different energy when
they walk into a room because you instantly know when
they're there, Whereas if you were just friends and it
wasn't a big deal and you actually just got to
a place of being completely cool with each other, you

(18:40):
wouldn't have that different type of energy whenever they contacted
you or walked into a room that like little bit
of hope.

Speaker 3 (18:45):
Even if that's what it is.

Speaker 2 (18:47):
And so I think like in these instances when somebody
unfollows you on social media. I know social media sometimes
we like to talk about it as though it's like
silly and flippant and it doesn't really mean anything, and
we can get ourselves worked up about being block or unfollowed.
But I actually think social media is a very big
statement around how someone perceives you or treats you within
the real world, and so it's an extension of the

(19:09):
real world. He doesn't have the capacity to like or
is not going to kind of go hey, sorry, I'm
unfollowing you in real life. I'm sure if he runs
into you in the gym, or if he sees you
in the same friendship group, whatever, he's gonna talk to
you or say hi. But this is his way of
making it very very clear that there is now a
definitive light in the sand. So what do you need

(19:31):
closure for? Because to me, that is the closure right
him doing this is the closure that you've been looking for.
He's saying that I'm not into you enough to keep
this or I've got other things going on in my life.

Speaker 3 (19:41):
And honestly, you deserve better.

Speaker 2 (19:44):
You deserve to be with someone who or to have
friends in your life who don't make you feel this way.

Speaker 3 (19:48):
So just like fucking close the book and move on.

Speaker 1 (19:50):
And it's not just a case of he's not choosing you,
he's actively unchoosing you.

Speaker 3 (19:57):
Yeah, totally.

Speaker 1 (19:58):
Yeah, it's not just like I'm gonna go with my
life follow everyone, but I'm dating this person. It's I'm
not dating you, but I'm also don't want to look
at you.

Speaker 3 (20:04):
I don't want anything to do with you.

Speaker 1 (20:06):
Yeah, I'm actually not convinced that a lot of people
do that for closure, So like, but I just need
to know why, and I just need to speak to
him one last time. And I think a lot of
people think they're doing it for closure. I want to
see him one more time just to get an explanation.
It's not necessarily closure you're chasing. It's holding onto a connection.
You are hoping that you'll sway that person in some capacity,
And you might try to convince yourself more times than

(20:28):
not that it is closure that you're looking for, and
it is just that final answer. But a lot of
the time you're not ready to let go, and you're
hoping that when you see this person, I'm going to
see one more time and I'm going to show him.
You know, I'm gonna look so good and I'm gonna
be funny. Yeah, totally. I'm gonna make sure you know
we keep that. But he's made his choice and it
really sucks for you, and I'm sorry. And what I
think you should do personally if he gets back and

(20:51):
you are finding yourself in the same friend group all
the time and you're out, I would probably just not
say anything. I would probably be pretty normal, like just
be like, hey, how would you reverseas water off a
duck's back? Don't show him that it bothered you, and
just get on with life, because you don't want to
make it awkward when you are hanging out in the
same friend group. You don't want to have this big
divide and then you don't get invited anywhere anymore because

(21:12):
your friends are like, well, we can't invite both of
them because they'll just fight. So I would just try
and have as little contact with him as possible in
the friend's situation, but just just get on with it.

Speaker 3 (21:22):
Just be polite.

Speaker 2 (21:23):
I know, it's hard because sometimes the time of a
relationship doesn't necessarily indicate or it's not an indicator of
the hurt. Right, So you might date someone for one
month and you might be more hurt by that relationship
than dating someone who you were invested in for six
months or a year, even like, I don't necessarily think
that those two things are always correlative, but I would say,
in this instance, you did only date for one month,

(21:46):
and it's really healthy to remind yourself of Okay, we
were not together for a long time. So my intense
feelings towards this person wasn't manifested around the person who
he is, because you don't really know the person who
he is. It was manifested around the potential that you
saw or in the relationship, the potential that you saw
in your connection with him. But he is not the
person who you saw potential with, and he's showing you

(22:08):
exactly the person he is, and you don't want to
be in a relationship with that. Fuck it, you don't
even want to be friends with that, all right? Question
number two, I know you have feelings about this. On Britain,
I think that this is hilarious, but I think tread carefully.
Can I ask my chiropractor out? For context? I have
been his patient for eight months, and the last few
months we have both been a little bit flirty at
the appointments, starting to talk more personal things, and both

(22:30):
just look at each other with this loving, smiley face
and remember small little details that I tell him about
my life. He remembers all the things I seem to
tell him. We're both single, both know that we are single,
and always talk about the single life and how we
both hope that.

Speaker 3 (22:46):
Someone comes along.

Speaker 2 (22:48):
I just don't know if I can ask him out
or not, or if that seems inappropriate.

Speaker 1 (22:54):
I do have feels about this, and a new thought
entered my mind as you were reading that out. Firstly,
my thoughts, Yes, you absolutely can ask him out, one
hundred percent, but you're gonna need a new ciro practice
shoot your shot. Yeah, you're gonna get someone's gonna have
to being you crack your back and whack and whatever
they do, crack your front, your front back and crack

(23:15):
your back and whack. Yeah, you can't crack you back
and whack with the same person. What I was thinking
when you're reading that is there was one thing she
said that stood out, and it's a very important human characteristic.
She said that when I go to him, he always
remembers what I've told him and ask questions. That is
a great trait for someone to have in a relationship,

(23:36):
but it's also a great trait for someone to have
this running a business and wants people to come back.
That is how you make people feel comfortable and welcome
and warm by showing an interest. It's probably the number
one thing people do to have that connection is to
ask questions and remember there always is that. Now that's
not me being a skeptic. I think that you guys
could have a great whack and crack if you wanted

(23:57):
to give it a go front and back, front, back, whack,
crack up down whatever I left right. But I've always
said on Lifelin Cut from the day we started that
I'm a shoot your shop person and I don't want
to live my life with regrets. And I think if
you don't feel like you have those connections often and
those little crushes, then I would go for it. But
you just have to be aware that it could not

(24:17):
go the way you thought, and then it would be
awkward as fuck to go back to him as a patient.

Speaker 3 (24:22):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (24:23):
I have a tactic for this though, because like often
with like small chiropractor, or like if you go to
a messuse and you're like on reasonably good terms, you'll
have their mobile number, right, because I think a lot
of facilities now they run bookings and stuff by mobiles
as well, so you might have their mobile. If you
have his mobile number, I would say, send him a
text after an appointment and say, hey, was just thinking,

(24:46):
would you have a light to go for a drink?
Try that? See what he says. If he says no,
never go back. Never go back, get a chiropractor, move
to a different city, and just exit completely.

Speaker 3 (24:58):
Block him on Facebook.

Speaker 1 (25:00):
If you've got his number, you could also accidentally send
him a nude.

Speaker 3 (25:03):
Don't do that. Don't do that, because then you can
definitely never go back. I don't know. I don't think
there's anything wrong with asking.

Speaker 2 (25:09):
It might be different if it was a different type
of healthcare professional, potentially, like there might be some sort
of conflict of interest.

Speaker 1 (25:14):
They're still classified as doctors, so I still think that
there is, are they? Yeah, so they're still like I
think you're still noted. No, I could be wrong.

Speaker 2 (25:24):
Are you allowed to date your patient though, that's important. Okay,
maybe if you're a healthcare professional out there, like let
me know, because I'm sure it happens. I'm sure that
there's someone who's like, hey, no, it doesn't have everyone's
shaking their head.

Speaker 3 (25:34):
I'm sure it does.

Speaker 4 (25:35):
No.

Speaker 1 (25:36):
I know people that have been dismissed from work for
contacting a patient to ask the amount. Yeah, but that's
that is I think that's wild.

Speaker 2 (25:44):
If a patient contacts you different you can't because you
have access to all of their information. You have access
to their phone numbers, to their house, like to where
they live, like everything about them, and also to their
vulnerabilities and like the things that they're worried about about
their health or their mental health or all that sort
of stuff. So I understand why it's a total breach
of patient doctor relationship for them to contact you.

Speaker 3 (26:08):
Hence maybe why he's not doing it. He's not taking
the first shot.

Speaker 2 (26:11):
Maybe he's making it so obvious because he's like, I
can't do this or I'm gonna lose my fucking license.
But I really hope that you asked me, So he's
maybe making it as obvious as possible.

Speaker 1 (26:21):
I would love to know how that one ends, So
whatever you do, please write back in so we know
because I'll lose sleep over this one. Question number three.
Now I'm frothing this question. I'm going to I did
actually have a little laugh. I'm going to summarize it
because it was really long. So basically, the two girls
lived together. They were friends, but I think they became

(26:41):
friends after they moved in. So there were housemates first
and then they turned into friends. One of them was
moving into state, so she was going to sell some
stuff off, and the housemate that was staying said, oh, well,
can I take some stuff then, just so I can
keep it in the house saves me going to get
new stuff, and so the I was like, yeah, okay.
So she sold some stuff to her so she could

(27:04):
keep it, but she sold it for like mates rates.
So she sold her this one particular thing that was
a TV cabinet. The TV cabinet she gave to her
for fifty bucks, Like that is a bargain in this
day and age. So she got a TV cabinet for
fifty dollars. And then two days later, so the girl
hadn't even moved out yet, she was still packing her stuff.
Two days later, she comes home and her flatmate's like,
I've just got to go out. I'm just organizing a sale.

(27:26):
I've got to drop something off a marketplace. And she's like,
what are you selling? She goes, I sold the TV cabinet.
She sold the TV cabinet that she just bought for
fifty dollars, and the friend was like, what how much.

Speaker 3 (27:36):
Did you sell it for?

Speaker 1 (27:37):
She's like one hundred and twenty So good, So she's
made a seventy dollar profit. Now the friend's pissed because
she's like, well, I only gave it to you because
you were my friend for a cheap price. Otherwise I
would have sold it for one hundred and twenty dollars.
Now they're having an out and she's almost asking us,
what can you do in this situation? Can you ask
for the money that she made? Can you ask for

(27:59):
the extra seventy dollars? Or was this flatmate entitled to
do that?

Speaker 3 (28:02):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (28:02):
The part about this, though, that's the funniest, which I
think you didn't include, is the fact that she hadn't
even paid her friend the fifty dollars yet, so she'd
agreed to fifty dollars buying it for fifty dollars, but
no money had been actually given, so she sold the
TV and then she gave fifty dollars from the one
hundred and twenty to the friend, like literally was like,
thanks for that, here's your fifty dollars an alp bit seventy.

(28:24):
It's actually so funny when you think about it, it's
so fucking funny.

Speaker 3 (28:29):
Okay, it's not funny if you're in this situation.

Speaker 2 (28:31):
It's actually really shit for the person who who got
ripped off by their friend. But also think of it
like this, your friend's kind of like an entrepreneur. She's
got some balls on u to even think that this
is an okay thing to do.

Speaker 3 (28:43):
And she was like saw an opportunity.

Speaker 2 (28:44):
She's like, Wow, that was a really great price for
this TV cabinet, and.

Speaker 3 (28:48):
I'm gonna flip it and make some extra coin. I
think it is wild.

Speaker 2 (28:53):
It is wild to me that your friend doesn't understand
why that's wrong, or your friend is so like socially
unaware why you would have an.

Speaker 3 (29:02):
Issue with this.

Speaker 2 (29:03):
I mean, part of me would just be like I
can't be bothered to have the argument that might ensue
around this, but it would definitely make me feel resentful
because you feel like you've been taken for a ride
and you feel like you've been ripped off. I guess
the thing is and maybe to play Devil's advocate here,
maybe your friend who did it genuinely thinks you didn't

(29:24):
want the TV cabinet and they were doing you a favor,
like maybe they were unaware, or but maybe they were
Maybe they were unaware that you were going to try
and sell it for more. Maybe they were just like, oh,
she's wanting to leave it. Cool, I'll do fifty bucks.
It's not a big deal. And I don't think that
it's wrong of you to explain why you feel the
way that you feel about it. I think it's okay
to explain that to your friend. But I guess for me,

(29:45):
who is very conflict avoidant, I would probably just leave
it because I can't be bothered to have the arguments.

Speaker 1 (29:50):
Yeah, I mean, there's part of me that feels the same.
This part of me it's like, oh, because I also
don't love conflict, I'd be like, okay, whatever, I'm pissed,
but I.

Speaker 3 (29:58):
Can't be bothered.

Speaker 1 (29:58):
But at the end of the day, there is principle
here and seventy dollars is still seventy dollars, Like seventy
dollars now is still a lot of money. Totally, I
would feel a little bit betrayed by the friendship, and
I would whilst I probably wouldn't have it out, I
would have made a comment I said, look, I only
gave it to you because I thought I was helping
you out. I would have sold it. I would have
sold that for the same price as you did, or more,

(30:19):
but I thought I was doing a good deed. I
wasn't expecting you to go on profit off it. Can
you ask her for the money? I think you can,
But I don't think it'll lead anywhere. I don't think
it'll go down well between the two of you, and
I think it'll probably drive a bigger wage between you.
It might be one where you reconsider the friendship a
little bit and you just you take the seventy dollars
hit and you move on and you just know better

(30:40):
what that person's like in your life and how close
you want to let them. But it's so shifty, it's
so damn shifty. I'd be proper pissed.

Speaker 2 (30:50):
Yeah, But I also think like it's instances like this,
because like, you can be really good friends with someone
and then you realize that they are actually a bit
of an asshole when it comes to money. Like money
is such a wedge in so many friendships, and I
think it's over time that you start to realize who
is the tied us.

Speaker 3 (31:06):
In your friendship group.

Speaker 2 (31:07):
And I say tied us And I don't mean like, Okay,
maybe they don't earn enough money and so therefore they're like,
you know, more conservative with their spending. What I mean
is is that everybody has that friend who may earn
an equal income but never puts the hand up, never
does a round of drinks, never wants to split the
bill properly, always wants to just like you know, pay
for the exact fucking seventeen chips that they ate or

(31:27):
whatever it is. Like, I think everyone has that person
in their life who kind of expects other people to
pick up the tab a little bit. And those sorts
of friendships you do become resentful of overtime because you
feel as though you're I guess over time it's not
about money. Over time it becomes about giving, give and
giving and not receiving back and not having this you
know equitable friendship. I guess the big part here is

(31:49):
is you guys are moving out. How long term do
you think this friendship is going to be? Because is
this a friend that you became friends with because you
live together, or is this someone who is a lifelong
friend who will you endure the tyranny of time, in
which case, if it is the latter, you'll be able
to have a conversation with them and explain to them
why it's not actually about the money. It's about feeling

(32:09):
a bit used and feeling as though you were taken
advantage of. Whereas if it's somebody who you know you're
probably not going to stay in close friendship with, then
I don't think it's worth trying to have the conversations
about it, or have the conversation knowing that it might
change the friendship but you don't care as much anyway.

Speaker 1 (32:27):
Yeah, it's a tricky one. You're moving into state. Let's
be real, you've never seen her again, and she's got.

Speaker 3 (32:32):
Your seventy bucks. You're not getting it back.

Speaker 1 (32:34):
You're not getting it back.

Speaker 3 (32:36):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (32:37):
Question number four, what are your thoughts on your partner
getting massages? I was having this conversation with my fiance,
and I'd love to know the consensus. The nature of
massages are obviously quite intimate. There's oil and there's rubdowns involved.
My partner said he'd prefer it to be a girl
that massages him as opposed to a male. What are
your thoughts?

Speaker 3 (32:58):
No?

Speaker 1 (32:58):
No, what just no blanket?

Speaker 3 (33:00):
Just no, no, okay. I have lots of feelings about this.

Speaker 2 (33:04):
Firstly, I don't think there's any issue with your partner
wanting to go and get a massage. I mean, Matt
gos and gets massages every week. I do think that
there is an issue with your partner saying he only
wants it from a girl, but not for the reasons
that you might think, not from a jealousy reason, not
from a reason where I'm like, you know, oh, I
don't want my man to be out there getting touched
by a female because it makes me feel insecure.

Speaker 3 (33:24):
Blah blah blah, could not give a shit.

Speaker 2 (33:26):
I actually think it is a bit homophobic to say
that you can't go and get a massage from a
man because that makes you feel uncomfortable, because there's nothing
sexual about going and getting a massage. And if there is,
and if it is really intimate for him, and if
it is something that he finds crosses that kind of
intimacy barrier, then it's a whole other problem. So I
would say that the gender of the person who's giving

(33:47):
the massage should be completely irrelevant because it's not a
sexual thing, So why does it matter who's doing the massaging.

Speaker 3 (33:56):
See.

Speaker 1 (33:57):
I don't think it's necessarily homophobic. I can see why
he's saying that. But at the end of the day,
if a straight guy is going to go get a
rub down and have a you know, he's gonna leave
his partner go get a rub down and relax for
an hour, He's probably going to want to pick the
sex that he's attracted to. I don't think that that's homophobic,
but I'm like, well, he's probably like, if I'm going
to pick a chick to rub me down or a
man to rub me down, I'll probably pick a chick.

Speaker 2 (34:18):
That's interesting because I would say a lot of women
would probably choose a woman for the opposite reason, yes,
because they feel safe, whereas a man's choosing it because
it's arousing, which means that it then has a different connotation.

Speaker 1 (34:30):
Massages are arousing. I have so many male friends. People
in my life that get hard in a massage, even
if it's not sexual, even if they're not attracted to
the person, they will get hard like and it's not
a sexual thing. It's it's just that they're relaxed and
somebody's rubbing. You know, it's a sensory overload, so they're
getting their body rubed down. So there are those things

(34:51):
one hundred percent. I mean, I wouldn't care if Ben
went to a female messeuse because I trust him, and
if he wants to relax and have someone rub some
oil into his back for a while, go for it.
But I think you need to start to ask yourself
why you feel uncomfortable by it. Is there anything in
the relationship that makes you worry? Do you feel like
you're an overly jealous person unnecessarily? I think there's some

(35:13):
questions you need to ask yourself. But at the end
of the day, you've got to have a conversation with
your partner and you both have to be comfortable. I'm
okay with it, Laura, You've said you're okay with it.

Speaker 2 (35:22):
Yeah, but I think we disagree a little bit, which
is fine, totally fine on this. I think the reason
why I have no issue with my partner's going and
getting a massage is because of how it's not a
gendered thing and they're not doing it because it's something
that they're going and getting done because it's a sexual
experience for them. So if Matt was like, I'm going
to go and get a massage because it fucking gets

(35:42):
me off, I'd be like, oh, okay, let's have a
chat about that. I don't really feel great about it.
But he's like, Babe, I've got a sword neck, I'm
going to go and get a massage. So he doesn't
care if it's Sarah or Sven who's doing the massaging,
which means for me it therefore has very different connotations,
Whereas I think if your partner is saying he only
wants it from a woman, that's where the insecurities are
coming from, right, because it then takes on a very

(36:04):
different meaning.

Speaker 3 (36:05):
And I think it's so interesting.

Speaker 2 (36:07):
To unpack the white which which we brushed over it
a little bit, but like, why is it that for
certain things that are you know, intrusive on our bodies,
we feel more comfortable with specific genders, like, for example,
a woman going and getting a pap smear. A lot
of women, not everyone, but a lot of women feel
way more comfortable having a female gynecologist to.

Speaker 3 (36:26):
Do pap smears.

Speaker 2 (36:27):
Why is it when a woman goes and gets a massage,
A lot of women, not all of them, of course,
feel comfortable having a female messuse, whereas like on the
flip side, where like, oh, but men want to have
a female messuse as well, because it's kind of weird
for them to have a male I genuinely think that
we have so many layers of homophobia within our subconscious

(36:47):
and within our own biases that we don't realize that
it actually plays into that and this idea that like
a man doesn't want to be touched by another man.

Speaker 1 (36:54):
Because that's like a bit fucking weird, but.

Speaker 2 (36:56):
It's okay for women to be touched by women because
that's actually a little bit cool and sec I do
think that that exists beyond it being as literal as that, Like,
I think it's something that it lives in our subconscious
a bit because of the way that we've been exposed
with in society.

Speaker 1 (37:10):
Look, at the end of the day, it's a profession
and it's just somebody doing their job and they do
this all day in and out. They are not looking
at your boyfriend. They are not there for any other
reason than to do their job, which is to relax
the muscles or to make something feel a little bit better.
It's not there to jack him off. It's not there
to steal your man. Have a conversation with him and

(37:31):
ask why and explain how you feel and go from there.
But I think this is one of those things that
you may be overreacting a little bit if your partner
has never made you feel a reason to have those insecurities.

Speaker 2 (37:45):
Yeah. I do think we have slightly different opinions on this,
which is fine. Yeah, totally. I do not think that
it's necessarily an overreaction because, like I don't think she
has an issue with him going and getting massages. I
think it's the specificness around it without having the context
as to why. So maybe ask him, because you know
in your question you said that you think it's because

(38:05):
it's intimate, ask him why he prefers to have a
woman and if he says it's because it's intimate, maybe
you guys can sit down and unpack. Okay, well, what
is it that is weird to you? Like, do you
think being touched by a man is weird? Is that
sexual for you? Like, that's an interesting conversation to have
and to get to the bottom of for the two
of you guys as well. I mean, yeah, I think
I have no issue with massages at all, but I

(38:27):
do question like the why at the bottom of it
when it comes to gender.

Speaker 3 (38:31):
All right. Question five.

Speaker 2 (38:32):
I've slept with a guy a few times as of late,
and I'm the one that made it very clear to
him that it's just sex and I don't want any more.
The first time we slept together, he came inside me,
even though we'd had some discussions about the fact that
I am not on any contraception.

Speaker 3 (38:47):
Now we've had sex a few more times than that, and.

Speaker 2 (38:49):
We've been pretty lax in terms of you know, well,
I think you guys can read into it. They've been
pretty lax in terms of contraception and in terms of
having sex. And she's just found out that she is pregnant.
Do you think I should tell him or not? Bother
It won't change the decision for me, But I don't
know if he deserves to know, because it is just
as much him as it is me. I never thought

(39:11):
i'd be in this situation knocked up and not ready
to be a parent. I should also note that I'm
not going to keep it regardless of anyone's thoughts, because
of the medication that I'm on, which makes it impossible
for me to have a healthy child right now. The
doctor made it very clear that I could not fall
pregnant on this medication. The big overatching question is here
is does she have to tell him this guy that
she's been seeing for a few weeks who she's been

(39:33):
sleeping with intimittently and there's nothing serious and that is
quite casual. Thoughts, considerations, How would you approach this? My
immediate answer is.

Speaker 1 (39:41):
Know that it's your body and this decision is completely
and wholeheartedly yours. So if you do want to have
an abortion and not tell him, then that is your prerogative.
On the other hand, if you think that conversation would
be okay and it's going to make you feel better
knowing that your decision is not going to be swayed,

(40:02):
then of course you can tell him. But all that's
going to do is bring up another conversation. But if
you feel like he's entitled to know and you're going
to feel better about the decision, and maybe you're going
to have someone to unpack that with, because it's not
necessarily an easy thing for everyone. Having an abortion for
some people could be a breeze and for other people
can be very traumatic experience. At the end of the day,

(40:22):
you can go and do absolutely whatever you want and
you don't owe him a thing in that sense. So
it's just I think this one's a really difficult one
in how you feel in the moment and what you
think the right decision is, because there's no right or
wrong answer here, it's whatever you feel comfortable with him.
Are you ever going to see him again? Are you
ever going to speak to him again? Is it that
casual that this is it like you're going to go

(40:43):
have your abortion and never ever go on a date
and never sleep with him, never do anything. Then probably
know I probably wouldn't tell him.

Speaker 2 (40:49):
I completely agree with you, Britt. I think the only
thing about this when I read it, I was like, ah,
I don't agree with that. You said that it's just
as much him as it is you, which like biologic
potentially you could look at it that way, but in
terms of the decision making, the impact on your body,
the impact on your mental.

Speaker 3 (41:07):
Health, all of those things.

Speaker 2 (41:08):
This is entirely your decision, especially because you are so
resolute in the knowledge that you don't want to have
a baby. And I think that by having this conversation
with him, unless you are sure how he is going
to react, is it worth it to your mental health?
Is it worth it to the support structures that you
need around you at this time. I would be seeking
support through people who I know will be there for me,

(41:30):
because he's an outlier. You don't know him well enough
in terms of like how he will react to it.
He may react amazing in which case, and you know what,
it might not even matter how he reacts. Maybe just
for yourself, you might want to have a conversation with him,
and you might want to tell him, But I would
be making sure that you have like your friends or
your family, or someone who you can trust, who's in
your corner, who you've already spoken to first, so that

(41:50):
you know that you can go to them and that
they have.

Speaker 1 (41:53):
You wholly to support you through this. I'm not saying.

Speaker 2 (41:56):
And I know that there will be some people who
will disagree, and he'll be like, he has a right
to know, but what's he going to do with that information?
Because the information isn't around him changing her mind. He
just is gonna know for the sake of knowing, Like
it's not going to benefit him or impact him in
any way. So I know that it's probably the nice
thing to do to tell him, but I think if

(42:17):
that's gonna create any sort of stress or anxiety to you,
you don't owe it to him. You don't have to
tell him anything because it's your body. You have full
agency over it, and you have full agency over the
decisions that you're making. The only thing I would and
I know you don't need a lecture around contraception because
obviously you can make up whatever decision. Laura's like where
a Kondo No, But I guess like the thing is

(42:39):
is like if you know that you're on a medication
that you can't have children when you're taking the medication
because you've been told by your doctor that you can't
get pregnant, and also you have no interest in getting
pregnant at all either, especially to someone who you know.
You've made it very clear that it's just sex, it's
not committed, and there's nothing long term or no longevity
into it. I would absolutely say that you need to

(43:00):
take some responsibility for your contraception, and also make sure
that he's taking responsibility as well, like not willing ily
just blow on his load inside you because he can
and it feels better. Because that's just it's gonna end
up with you being in this exact same situation again,
and that's just science and that is just what happens.
So I think you know now that you have experienced this,
and when you say you never thought you would be

(43:20):
the girl that would end up in this sort of situation,
the thing is is so many people end up in
this situation. So many people have and do end up
being pregnant with babies that they don't want and have
to go through the process of having abortions, and for
some people, those abortions don't have any long term mental impacts.
A lot of people like to think that you know,
you're going to go into this and then have regrets

(43:40):
or you're going to have some sort of negative adverse
feelings afterwards. But I can say from my own experience
that I and I've spoken about abortion before on the podcast,
like I didn't have any regrets when I was in
my twenties, and I had to make that decision. It
was sad, but I didn't grow up regretting it or
do I ever think about it. So I think, you know,
so you know what the right decision is for you,

(44:01):
go ahead and do that, but just take control of
your contraception moving forward, because it's so important for your
long term mental health.

Speaker 1 (44:08):
What I will say is that I had a friend
in this exact situation. She had just started seeing this guy,
like slept with him a few times, but they were
also sort of going on dates, so it wasn't I
don't know what this situation is. It wasn't just like
a hook up, but they had actually gone on a
few dates and were sleeping together as opposed to like
just call over, you know, come over, have sex.

Speaker 3 (44:25):
Leave.

Speaker 1 (44:26):
Yeah, And she fell pregnant and was, you know, also
very much not supposed to fall pregnant. And I remember
she called me and she said, should I tell him,
like I'm going to have an abortion?

Speaker 3 (44:36):
But do I?

Speaker 1 (44:36):
I don't know if I tell him or not. And
we had this literally, this exact conversation, and we ended
up together deciding that she should And the reason we
did that was because they thought that there could be
more there. They knew it wasn't just going to be sex,
so we and we had this really big discussion about
this and the ups and downs again, you know, the positives,

(44:58):
pros and cons, and she had decided that, you know what,
if I think I might want a future with him,
I think it would be detrimental to the relationship if
it comes out down the track in any capacity. So
that was the reason she decided to and he was amazing.
He was really supportive. He picked her up from the
clinic and looked after her for for a couple of days,
and they were not serious at that point at all,

(45:18):
but I guess in a way that really showed who
he was too. You know, he sort of stuck by
her and they ended up dating for a while. So
there's that as well. And it's going to come down
to your individual situation. I can't say that enough, and
we can't tell you what to do. We don't know
him or you or what you're like together. But if
you feel like you can benefit in some capacity from
the support that he might provide you, then go for it.

(45:40):
If you think that maybe you want a future with
him and it will impact you in some way, then
go for it, but also completely your decision. Well that's
it for today, team. If you have questions you want answered,
please send them in. You can write to us on Instagram,
which is Life Uncut podcast. Just put ask Uncut at
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(46:02):
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about it. If we've ever answered one of your questions,
please send us the aftermath. That's what we call it,
Ask Uncut aftermath. It's just a follow up. But we
just want to know.

Speaker 2 (46:14):
I mean, we've been asking for aftermaths for so long,
but you're we answer your questions and then you ghost us.

Speaker 3 (46:20):
You don't tell us what happened, and we need to know.

Speaker 2 (46:22):
There's so many scenarios where we will be like, oh,
I wonder what happened to this person or to that person,
and we want the second chapter to the story. But also,
if you're somebody who's sent in a question like one,
we are so grateful for the fact that you guys
trust us with some of the hardest things.

Speaker 3 (46:38):
That you're going through. You know, to the girl who
just wrote in.

Speaker 2 (46:40):
About this situation, with her abortion like it is truly
such a privilege to us that we get to answer
your questions and that you come to us for advice,
Even though we may not be qualified to do so,
we definitely do it to the best about abilities. So
if you have any questions for next week, slat into
the DMS and hopefully we will answer it on next
Thursday's episode.

Speaker 3 (46:59):
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Speaker 2 (47:02):
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