September 16, 2025 • 43 mins
Hey lifers!
Laura is begging for her labour to start so she can…have a day off 😂. What helped bring on your labour? People have really tried almost everything. Would you rather s3x or a stair run? Neither is an option.
Britt is in her *spiritual era. She has been saging her house for a pretty unusual reason. Are you a sager? What have you saged to get rid of?
We have created a ‘push playlist’ for Laura. She wants a pumped up mix. We kicked it off with Diana Ross “I’m coming out”. We’d love for you to add your songs to the playlist!! PLEASE ADD YOUR SONGS HERE - PUSH IT REAL GOOD PLAYLIST
Everyone on TikTok is reclaiming what they “unfortunately love" and we created our own list of guilty pleasures. Some of these things we should probably be ashamed of and not admit publicly.
We take a bit of a shift in gears and chat about an “Am I The A-Hole” we saw on reddit. Do you think it's wrong to tell someone that you're worried about having to cover the cost of their deaths? Have you had those conversations with your loved ones?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This episode was recorded on cameragle Land.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life.
I'm cut, I'm Brittany.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
I'm Laura.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Hey everyone, it's almost almost D day.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Amissive us not to pay that.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Sorry, lost my mucus plug? Everyone who did you?
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Officially? Was that from the sweep last night?
Speaker 4 (00:26):
Well, this is going to be confusing for anyone because
we recorded next week's episode yesterday and.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
We confuse it more.
Speaker 4 (00:33):
But I need to explain this because if you're listening
next week, I will say this on next week's episode
because I lost a bit, and then I had my
stretching sweep and now it's all gone.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
So it's a good time for the situation.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
The stretch and sweep takes the mucus plug out. No,
it's not doesn't necessarily just brains it out. No, it
dislodges I guess stuff in that area.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
And so had my stretch and sweep, and then this
morning woke up and did not have a mucus plug.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Did you find it? Where is it?
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Where's it? God? It slipped right out a bit. It
was in my underwear.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
We'll take it with a vibrator. She's like all these
things I collect from mom's bed.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
That's so disgusting.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
This is such a fun way to start this episode,
going straight into mucus plugs in the space of fifteen seconds.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
No, it just yeah, it was gone.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
It doesn't just evaporate.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
No, it goes in your underwear and then you wash
your undies, like what do you reckon?
Speaker 4 (01:22):
Where do you reckon? It goes like getting a period
or something. Britt doesn't just like.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Fly out the door.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
Of course, it's like a magical ploat, but it also
doesn't mean anything because like you get all these like little.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Signs and symptoms that maybe you're going into labor.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
And it's just I think it does mean something for
some people.
Speaker 4 (01:41):
Some people go into label like straight away afterwards, but
like same thing. I lost mine with Marley, like three
weeks earlier or a month earlier. My obstration was like, Nah,
you're fine, You're probably not going to go into labor.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Never did.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Still with mar yourn't she's still in there. Okay, Well,
this is a good step in the right direction.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
It is.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
I woke up this morning though, feeling particularly disappointed. I
rolled over to Matt this morning and he's like, what
is wrong with you? And I was like, I don't
want to go into work.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
I just want to be a.
Speaker 5 (02:07):
Labor I don't know what that has to say about us,
but if someone would rather go into labor than hang
out with us.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
I think we need to reevaluate.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
I really wanted the day off.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
But of course you give him birth in a week.
I don't want to go to work. I'm doing pregnant,
but I'm still here. Flavor is not a day off,
surely it is for Laura.
Speaker 4 (02:26):
It is when like you never take a sick day,
like I never ever ever take a sick.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Day unless I am shooting the bed. I do not
take sick days. So for me, I was I'm just
really looking forward to it early Mark.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
That is true.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
The only day you took off here was when you
shit the bed. It was I had a really bad
in pneumonia.
Speaker 4 (02:42):
Guys, I had pneumonia, and I got made to come
into work with pneumonia, not by you, by.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Hang On, not us.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
I told you to stay home, by the warlords.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Yeah, people work by our bills. It's like they were like,
get you, I asked to work.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
No, look, I mean I don't have any more updates
for you today.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
We do do a big deep dive next week on
like all the pre baby birth stuff, because it is
next week is my last episode on the show BEF forever.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
I'm going overtire.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
But what about so, are you having sexy time and stuff?
You're trying to get it out?
Speaker 1 (03:15):
No?
Speaker 2 (03:15):
No, but that would that apparently works if you if
you pokes it.
Speaker 4 (03:18):
So yeah, okay, apparently we were up until about a
week ago. But I'm just I'm so done now that
there's so much going on inside me that I can't
stuff anything else in that.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
I just can't. And I asked my obstitution.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
That was fucking gross. Only I knew the producer could
cut that out.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I asked my obstration yesterday.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
Because everyone says it's not just having sex, it's also semen.
So semen has some hormone in it that helps to
like soften your service. It's right, So yeah, apparently so,
and I spoke to my obstration about it, and he laughed,
and he goes, he goes.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Yes, that's what people say, he goes. However, that's what.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
The men say. Where's the reason he goes?
Speaker 4 (03:55):
However, research has shown that you would need at least
a lead of semen to have enough of the hormone
for it to make any difference.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
So let your husband keep telling you that.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Think about that for a minute. That's not a visual
anyone wants.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
Like Alita, So anyone who's telling you that, like the
seaman itself is what softens the cervix.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
God, girl, you're doing a lot of sex. Well done, congratulate.
It's like the homeopathy of trying to bring on labor.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
So what are the other things that are supposed to
bring on labor at this point?
Speaker 4 (04:22):
Okay, So I did actually did a call out on
my Instagram because I was like, let me know what's
worked for you.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
People have tried everything.
Speaker 4 (04:28):
Like there's the walking on the gutter, So you basically
do like an uneven walk, so you walk with.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
One foot on the gut or one foot down.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
That feels pretty like mythical.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
And you do that twenty minutes and then you swap
to the other side.
Speaker 4 (04:37):
Well know, the unevenness of it is supposed to like
push the baby down. A lot of people say walking
or stair runs, like doing exercise helps to push the
baby down.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
People are telling you to do stair runs.
Speaker 5 (04:47):
Yeah, oh yeah, that's exactly what you feel like doing.
Speaker 4 (04:50):
When you say I can't be able to have sex,
and then someone says, what about a stair run on
a marathon?
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Both of those kind of fall in the same category.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
At the moment, you'd rather just later and have sex
r on your.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
Stairs, acupunchat on Thursday this week, I'm going for so
from a timeline perspective for you guys, it's Tuesday now
Thursday this week, I'm going for another stretch and sweep,
and then I'm going for a pregnancy massage, but not
like a cute pregnancy massage, like an induction massage that
they do so honestly, who knows baby's gonna come and
(05:23):
baby's gonna come?
Speaker 1 (05:24):
How's that for a mythical?
Speaker 2 (05:25):
I don't know if that's true as well, Like I
think things do bring it on.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
There's two other things.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
There's like Clary sage oil, like having a bath in
Clary sage oil.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
I was literally just about to say, do you want
me to come and sage your house? I've been saving
not just made.
Speaker 5 (05:38):
Me take sage home from her house the other day
and I was like, I don't want this.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
Well, happy you took it.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
You forced me to take it.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
Sorry, I'm done with the baby chat. We're at the
sage point in your life. You're saging your house.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Now, I sage my house like evil spirits.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Like what is it?
Speaker 4 (05:54):
And I don't want to poop pocus and a lot
of people sage their houses.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
This is like, she wouldn't understand.
Speaker 4 (05:59):
This is a spiritual girlshit that I just don't. I
haven't quite got my head around what are you doing
with the sage? So, okay, did you little mantra? Okay,
let me talk you through it.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Basically, I saw the lightning bolt in my bedroom a
few weeks ago.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
I did speak about on the radio, but I don't
think it made it to the podcast. I think Laura
vetoed it. So I saw in my room in the morning.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
I'll just quickly set this up. I got up, Delilah
was on my bed.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
I went into my on suite to have a shower,
and now the room was dark because the blinds were
still down. It was like six thirty in the morning,
and I leave my bathroom door open and I can
see from my shower into my room. So Juliah's just
chilling on my bed. I'm in a shower la la
la la.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
And then there was only a dull lamp in my room.
I see like this flash of just light, like a
really big flush of light, just one and there's nothing
it could be. I'm not imagining in it.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
It was like a lightning bolt of light room and
there's no window, there's no natural light, there's nothing.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
Electrical search from what the electricals in your house.
Speaker 5 (07:06):
Do you have that flash thing on your phone? You
know how you can get notifications and it flashes.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Guys, I know what a fucking flash off the phone is. No,
I'm not the normal one. You can have your actual
flash go off on your phone. No, andone, do not
disturb at six in the morning. And if the spirits
didn't listen to that, they disturbed me. They pushed anyway.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
So I'm in anyway, and just to double down. When
the flash happened, Delilah went, uh, she felt something, spirits,
and she doesn't nothing bothers.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Delilah.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
She will invite a murderer into my bedroom, like she
will if somebody broke.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Into my house.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
She'll be like this way, she's down here, like she's
so welcoming. And I shouldn't say it's people, but she's
a guard dog, savage, but she like growled and just
looked uneasy for a second, and she was fine, but
she also felt it or saw it anyway. Yes, that's
my story. I saw something that afternoon we spoke about
on radio. I got so many messages from people that
(08:06):
heard it in the car that said that they have
experienced the same thing.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Anyway. So, yes, did I order some sage sticks to
sage my house?
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Yes? I did. How's it going?
Speaker 2 (08:16):
I saged so much that I think I was high
and felt unwell.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
I was like, I don't know if you smelled a
sage stick. It's so intense that it's like big, Like
it's like a fierst. Right, They're so thick and you're
light at the end.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
I went into every room.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
You know, you're not meant to smoke.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Them, right, and then I smoked it. Hang on, what
what you know?
Speaker 1 (08:36):
You just waving around a room. A couple of times
I thought.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
I had to stage myself internally. Well, you don't masturbate
with it.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
What I'm leaving that in.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
There's always one that goes too far.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
It's always it.
Speaker 6 (08:50):
I saged so much, and my house is quite small.
There's not a lot of ventilation and I made myself
sick and Claire and Keisha. So Claire was on the
podcast a few weeks ago.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
She was speaking about the AI dating You guys, remember,
Claire and Keisha were both over and I'd saged before
they came because I didn't want the spirit to attach.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Itself to them.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
I actually don't know who I work with anymore.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
I think I've always been this person. I just never
felt like I could beat my tristlef so I did
not put me in the category with Brittany. Okay, you
took the sage stick.
Speaker 5 (09:22):
I actually I haven't told you this, but I made
Claire take both. I got Claire home on the way
on the way back and I was like, Claire, I
feel guilty.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
I'm not going to use this. I don't smell.
Speaker 5 (09:31):
That's why I said I don't like wasiste. I was like, please, please,
please take it.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
I'm not going to use this.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
I'm gonna feel guilty that BRIT's waisted ten bucks.
Speaker 4 (09:39):
Don't get me wrong, because I feel like sage sticks
kind of like fall into self care category. Like I'm like,
I'm not poopeering them because I feel like a lot
of people do it because it's part of their like wellness,
and they're kind of you know, clearing the space or whatever. Yeah,
I'm all for that, but if you're doing it because
you think the house is haunted, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
Okay, it's it's three categories, right, Was my house haunted?
Speaker 1 (09:59):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (09:59):
So I did need to sage the spirits away. B
It was definitely a self care thing. I'm souper into
my pilates this year, which I haven't. I've always dabbled
in it and done it, and now.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
I'm consistently like four or five days a week, and
I'm really into the breathing and they always wave these
sticks around and like it just I'm really into it.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
So I went and got them for that. And then see,
I feel like I've had.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
A lot going on internally, like in my brain, just
trying to make some really big life decisions and like
I just fact, there's a lot going on, and I
get really exhausted. And it was like a resetting of
the space as well, like I wanted to just I
don't know if it might be a placebo thing, but
I felt like I needed to do something to reset
in my space.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
I don't know, if that makes sense. It sounds crazy.
I've not done that before, but I was like, hey,
I'll try anything.
Speaker 5 (10:45):
Right now, it kind of makes sense. You've been spring
cleaning and clearing. That point C actually does make sense
to me. And right now I've actually just realized some
of my neighbors like to smoke a lot of weeds,
so I probably could have done with some sage to
clear out the smell exactly.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
But anyway, I had to leave my house for a.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
While because if you guys have saged before, if you're
about to sage, you gas yourself out.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
You need just a second couple of seconds and then
make sure you've got ventilation. I have like a sage headache.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
I would just like to bring everyone back.
Speaker 4 (11:12):
We got onto this by me saying that Clary sage
induces pregnancy.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
Well, I saw my opportunity to segue.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
No, I loved it.
Speaker 4 (11:21):
I really wanted to lean in hard because I was
very confused. Okay, well, speaking of actually this is not
a segue. It doesn't segway at all. I was gonna
say speaking of houses that stink.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
But sorry, I think you meant speaking of houses that
are cleansed.
Speaker 4 (11:36):
Know, the smallest thing happened this morning, and it was
just a really humbling experience.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
I wanted to share it with you all.
Speaker 4 (11:41):
So Marley never she never cuddles me like she only
cuddles Matt. If she gets up in the nighttime, she
will walk around my bed to go to Matt's side
and cuddle with him. I think it's because when their
kids were little, like Lola would always be on my side,
So it's just habit now. But yeah, she always preferences
a nighttime cuddle with Matt over a nighttime cuddle with me,
and it kills me.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
I'm destroyed by it.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
That's why I had that.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
I'm ruined I with my first child, I needed to
have another one.
Speaker 4 (12:08):
This morning, Matt was in bed with law La because
she was having a bit of a hard night, so
he slept in her bed.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
Last night.
Speaker 4 (12:12):
Morley woke up realized there wasn't enough room in the
single bed for the three of them. So she's like, shock, fuck,
I guess I'll go cuddle mom. She comes saunters in, defeated.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
She goes, well, dad's in that bed, I guess I'll
cuddle you.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
And I was like, okay, come on, sweetie. I was
like it makes me so happy. And I go to
cuddle her. So she's in the cuddle, we're in a
little spoon and she goes, God, you smell like vomit
and makeup.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
You smell like what vomit and makeup.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
I was like, how you vomited?
Speaker 1 (12:46):
No, I just had morning breath.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Apparently.
Speaker 4 (12:49):
I was like, it's okay, sweety, I'll just breathe here,
vomit and makeup. That was the first thing that my
six year old told me this morning.
Speaker 3 (12:56):
It's worse because it would be okay if you'd vomit it.
It's worse because you had it.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
I hadn't. I just stink like vomit and makeup. No
wonder she doesn't want to cuddle me. It's mat in
the morning. Actually, Lolan doesn't care. Lola would take me
at my worst.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
That is very humbling.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
Yeah, before we get into anything, there is something we
want your help with. We have decided as our gift
to Laura because we're just so generous. Our gift is
we want to create a push playlist, a birthing playlist, Yeah,
a life uncut birthing playlist.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
So Laura will be the person to christen it. Obviously,
and then it's anyone's for the taking. Anyone that is
having a baby, you can take it, but we want
it to be like a group efforts.
Speaker 4 (13:36):
Well, the reason why this is happening is because there's
so many birthing playlists on Spotify, But like, I don't
need a.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
Calm birth like I actually I want a pumped up mix.
I want like a not quite.
Speaker 4 (13:46):
A party mix, but I want between something that's Yeah,
I want some pop music in there.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
What is one hundreds?
Speaker 2 (13:52):
Like?
Speaker 4 (13:52):
I just want a fun, uplifting playlist that's like a
really good mashup of songs. We've made the playlist in
Spotify Underlife on Cut. Yeah, we just need you guys
to help us create it. I guess to kind of
like set the tone for what it's going to be.
The first song on there is push It Real Good,
and I'm pretty sure it's push It is the name.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Push It Real Good.
Speaker 5 (14:13):
Life on Cut is the name, And then Brittany's request,
we added a description.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Do you want to tell us what that is?
Speaker 3 (14:20):
I can't remember word for word, but life is giving life, giving.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Life for life is giving life.
Speaker 3 (14:26):
I'm sorry, why are you guys mocking that that's actually
it's beautiful and brilliant simultaneously.
Speaker 4 (14:30):
She's a spiritually erase and she what was your what
was your recommendation?
Speaker 5 (14:34):
My very first song that I added to it is
I'm coming out by day.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Come what? Who knows?
Speaker 5 (14:43):
I just had some just breathe by Pearl Jam. That
would be good while you're in there.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
It has to just be puns though, for pushing out
in births, like I think it's just you want a
mix of like we want Eminem to Reanna to Ed Sheeran,
like we want quite a a rive.
Speaker 4 (15:00):
I want a variety. I don't think I necessarily want Eminem,
but that's okay. Example, I just I want upbeat, I
want fun. I want everyone in that birthing suite to
be in a good mood. It's a party. Puppy's being
born to a party.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
You can't risk it all being party mixed.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
You need to have something for in between contractions when
you're like taking a minute, so you need some edge
sheer and sprinkled.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
In Alex Warren. You know I love him, Alex Warren.
There's some examples here.
Speaker 5 (15:25):
Don't Panic by Coldplay, Let it Go by James Burn.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
I don't know coldplay feels like a little bit I
still want to take it. This year isn't ye it's ruined.
It's ruined for me anyway. That's what we're asking for.
Speaker 4 (15:37):
Send us your unconventional birthing playlist songs that we can
add to this. We want it to be viby, we
want it to be relatively upbeat. If you want to
get real party party. I mean, we're gonna beato them anyways,
So like, send him.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
On in and we'll make the list.
Speaker 5 (15:50):
Well, I can actually just put the link to this,
say show note, so you can add them yourselves and
I'll put it in the Facebook group to Life Uncut
discussion group if you're not already a member, and you
guys can add what you think will good songs. Yeah,
I can delete them if they're terrible.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
If they're really.
Speaker 4 (16:03):
Bad, we will delete them. Don't feel personally victimized, even
though it is personal. There's a new trend that has
taken No I'm.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
Gonna start that again.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
It has taken the world by the fight.
Speaker 4 (16:15):
I wasn't gonna say that that's taken over TikTok, which
we do every Hey, there's a trend going off on TikTok.
No there is Okay, there is a trend that has
taken off on TikTok in the last couple of weeks.
It's also found its way to Instagram, hence why I've
now discovered it since I'm barely on TikTok.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
And it's called Unfortunately I do love. Have you okay?
Speaker 4 (16:34):
This is rhetorical because I know you've both seen it,
because I've made you prep but have you seen it?
It's basically where women or girls will write, Unfortunately, I
do love and then they have a list of all
the things that, like if they were cool girls or
pick me girls, they shouldn't actually love, Like if they
were more relaxed or chill people, they wouldn't necessarily love
these things. But it's like admitting to all the stuff
that maybe we're not supposed to like that much, but
(16:56):
you know what, fuck it lean into your girlhood.
Speaker 3 (16:59):
I don't know why you were the list correctly. I
did start with unfortunately I do love younger men.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
It's great.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
That's that's great. That is great.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
I ye that, but okay.
Speaker 4 (17:10):
Paessian actually wrote a really great article about this, and
like it comes across as kind of like a piffy,
silly little trend and maybe it is that in itself,
you know, like, unfortunately I do love x y Z,
But one of the things that they were talking about
in this article and how they've broken it down, I
really liked it. It's written by Laura Messiah and she
wrote this this week. I was reminded of the joys
of girlhood when TikTok trend landed on my for you page.
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The trends saw people, mostly women, share picks and videos
of themselves alongside a list of things that they shamelessly love,
like an overpriced, fancy coffee, rehashing drama with their friends
over brunch, or buying a new dress for every occasion,
despite its slightly negative connotations. And it's because, and this
is me paraphrasing, things that are particularly girly or things
that as women we enjoy are usually seen as silly
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and frivolous, whereas like if a woman's crying at a
Justin Bieber concert, and this is an example is used,
it's as being like lame and silly, whereas if a
man's crying at a football match because his favorite team
just won, that's like that's hot.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
Yeah, Well, that's sport, that's heroism. It's part of those things.
Speaker 5 (18:11):
Actually, I wonder whether this is a little bit of
a pushback to so much self optimization content that we've
had in over the last couple of years, like everything's
about you know, your morning rituals, put your phone down.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
Get in the ice bath. Ironic, I love an ice bath.
That would be on my list. Unfortunately, I do love Unfortunately,
I do love that.
Speaker 5 (18:27):
So I kind of wonder whether we're just we're now
admitting to guilty pleasures and being like, let's just take
you know, let's take the pressure off a little bit.
Kate Hudson shared a video and her said, Unfortunately, I
do love ignoring my text, getting wine, drunk, a microphone,
a girl's trip, not wearing pants, online shopping, misplacing my phone,
dancing in public, and a filthy martini.
Speaker 4 (18:46):
I do love all those things as well. I read
that and I was like, Kate Hudson, sounds like a
girl I want to.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
Be friends with one hundred piers Brittany, what was your list?
Speaker 3 (18:54):
Okay, tell me if I don't understand it. But unfortunately,
I do love younger men packing so many clothes for
a trip. But no actual outfits to wear. I'm wearing
the same thing every day. Canceled plans, saying that I
can't make it because my friend needs me. But my
friend is my dog.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
Couch rotting for hours and watching.
Speaker 3 (19:14):
A full series, ignoring all messages and emails, eating cereal
for dinner, fancy overpriced ice strawberry matcher, that my dog
is one of my best friends.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
I love it. You nailed it, Yeah, nailed the assignment.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
There were other things, but I dropped them. I think
they were the main one.
Speaker 3 (19:28):
But my vibrator unfortunately off staging with massivating with a sage.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
Shit, No, what was on your list was okay? Unfortunately?
Speaker 4 (19:38):
I do love doom scrolling, complaining about pregnancy but also
being pregnant, having my phone on do not disturb even
when I'm not actually working, saying I'm going to the
gym early, but then sleeping in marga readers, unpacking my
friends relationship, drammas alassa sized waistbands on pants, buying books
with actually having zero intention of ever reading them, Buying
skin care products, using them religiously for a week and
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then never using them again. Only shaving my ankles and
slip back buns because because you haven't seen my knees
in weeks.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
So that's so funny.
Speaker 5 (20:16):
My list says, Unfortunately, I do love sending voice notes
but then rolling my eyes when I receive one that's
over a minute. Stimulants for breakfast, coffee in dex, and phetamines.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
I mean, we shouldn't be already that, but only if
you're diagnosed.
Speaker 5 (20:28):
Reading a message in the display on my phone but
then not replying to it for hours, watching the same
two shows over and over, making up a voice for
my dog, staying friends with my ex's, putting salt on everything,
my clip infringe, having four hundred and twenty three group chats,
and losing my phone.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
The stay in friends with the Ex's one that's a
standout for you.
Speaker 4 (20:48):
It really is, Keisha. That is part of your that's
your whole personality. He's a really nice guybar we should
be friends.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
Keisha also just asked if we could go and hang
out with my auntie. She's like, I really like I
She's seventy. Honeymore is great, honeymore, she is great. But
just how much you want to be friends with everyone?
I'm like, where's the time.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Yeah, yeah, that's true, you know what. Unfortunately, I do
love over committing social plans.
Speaker 4 (21:10):
You do, you do, but you know what, you're actually
very good at keep Of all of my friends, you're
very good at keeping like the promise of committing to
social plans.
Speaker 1 (21:19):
I'm the one that's like, that sounds great. Don't call me.
Speaker 2 (21:23):
Do not disturb, which please doesn't answer.
Speaker 4 (21:25):
I complain about never being invited to anything, but I
have my phone on perpetually.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
Do not disturb. I have no idea what's going on
in anyone last.
Speaker 3 (21:32):
Saying I can't make it because my friend needs me,
but my friend is my dog.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
Yes, where we all feel it.
Speaker 4 (21:37):
I love this, guys, Please do your Unfortunately I do
love list. Send them to us and put them up
on socials like I feel like these are the small
things that we can all relate to, because even in
the stuff that you've read out, I was like, yes,
of course, I know we say we shouldn't do this
because we're meant to be We're meant to be more
enlightened humans than this, But truly we're all the same trash.
Speaker 3 (21:53):
Well, I did add in I didn't read it, but
I did have trying every single skin care product and
treatment possible, like on the market.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
If there is something out there, I have done it.
Like the salmon sperm. I have so much sperm in
my face it's wild and it's not my husband.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
My husband's I could sit on your face leader in there.
Speaker 6 (22:11):
I actually don't.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
It would bring on labor.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
I can't even imagine that.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
Get that visual out of my head.
Speaker 3 (22:18):
Okay, well, after all that fun, I think it's time
to talk about some death.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Great, so bear with me.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
This is an am ib asshole that came up and
got us having a bit of a conversation between ourselves
because I think it's something that well, it is something
that every single family is going to have to talk
about or go through at some point. So I think
as much as it doesn't seem relatable, it actually really is.
Now this am I the asshole is coming from somebody
in America, so like when I read it, to just
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keep in mind it's got things like Medicaid and whatever.
So my husband's parents live with us in our home,
rent free. Until recently, my father in law's primary entertainment
was using his Social Security income to go to the casino.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
So like he's a gambler.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
So now he's unable to go by himself, and my
mother in law has taken over his finances. She's concerned
that he has too much money in his account to
qualify for Medicaid because it's been building up over the
past few months. I suggested that she pay for their
phone bill, or that she meet with our local funeral
director and start planning for their funerals, because because it
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would be considerate to us.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
My daughter told me that I was being mean.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
I told her that my own grandmother had done just that,
and we enjoyed a lovely luncheon at a restaurant afterwards
with the family.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
But I did send my mother in law a text
with some funeral home pre planning information.
Speaker 1 (23:39):
Is my daughter right?
Speaker 2 (23:41):
Am I a.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
Jerk for messaging her this and suggesting that she spend
money by pre paying for their own funerals?
Speaker 1 (23:48):
To me, it is wild.
Speaker 4 (23:51):
It is a wild thought that people don't think about
the fact that they're going to die like that.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
We don't plan for our own deaths like that.
Speaker 2 (23:58):
To me, I think it's denial.
Speaker 4 (23:59):
Don't But also like when I read this, and I
guess maybe as a parent myself, I would never want
to burden my children with the financial responsibility of paying
for a funeral, and especially if they had maybe assumed
that I had enough money to pay for it myself,
you know, like if i'd just been if I was like,
I'm gonna blow my low before I leave this earth
and didn't pay for a single thing, and then you know,
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it came around to like having a funeral and everything else.
My kids had no inheritance, but also they had to
pay to put me in the ground. I feel like
that that's such an unrealistic expectation. The thing is, though,
usually a lot of people don't necessarily think about their
funeral costs, but they will have some money left over
that they'll leave, whether it's a house or it's a
you know, so that that kind of stuff gets settled
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down the track anyway.
Speaker 2 (24:42):
Surely that stuff takes a while to settle.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
Those It takes a long time to settle I assume
I didn't.
Speaker 2 (24:46):
I actually had no idea.
Speaker 5 (24:47):
I could googled this yesterday. The average cost of a
funeral in Australia typically falls between four thousand and fifteen
thousand dollars. It said that the factors that can change
it are things like whether you choose burial or cremation,
and the type of service and the location that you
have the side.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
I don't even think that includes cannapase.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
I think that's just the casket also the coffin.
Speaker 4 (25:09):
So like this, okay, this is a grim and I
know we started on such a high, we're ending on
such a low. Literally, but the casket itself is so
varied in price.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
Like my nan rest in peace.
Speaker 4 (25:20):
Like she wanted to be cremated, and we only had
a sitting for her.
Speaker 5 (25:23):
She lived, She had sitting up your born nut laid out.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
It was more expensive for the length than it was
for the high. She's like, we compressed it. We put
her in a ball.
Speaker 5 (25:37):
Come on, just dropped it down a pipe once again,
resume peace.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
No, we love you, No I do.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
No, she didn't look. She outlived everyone.
Speaker 4 (25:46):
She was a stubborn, stubborn woman, and she stayed for
way longer than all of her friends and majority of
her family. So she always said that I do not
want a funeral. No one will come, And so we
had a sitting for her. No, no, no, they're all dead.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
One's gonna come.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
I've got no friends.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
Everyone cared, but there was just no one left to come.
So she wanted it. It's caught a sitting.
Speaker 4 (26:06):
It's where like you have like five or six people
there and their coffin can be open or closed. It's
just a really intimate ceremony. There's no formalities, No one
gets up and speaks or anything like that. You just
go in individually and say yo goodbyes.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
And that was a weird.
Speaker 4 (26:19):
Situation because it was like just a carboardy ply box.
Speaker 1 (26:24):
It wasn't fancy.
Speaker 4 (26:25):
We put a big sheet over it and had like
beautiful flowers on it and stuff.
Speaker 1 (26:28):
So the flowers.
Speaker 4 (26:29):
Probably more expensive than the box, to be honest, because
she's being cremated, so it seemed silly to spend four
thousand dollars on a beautiful casket that was just gonna
go straight into being cremated. Whereas, like, you know, it's
different when I think, I think it's different when it's
someone who's younger, or if they're going to be buried
and there's a ceremony around the funeral, then I think
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you would invest more in a casket because and they
can be like four thousand dollars.
Speaker 2 (26:53):
Yeah, look they're expensive. I think it depends, but a
lot of people's.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
I think life insurance can also help pay for things
like that. There's usually funeral cover in life insurance. I
think it's something that you have picked as well, Like
you can have different extras, but funeral cover is definitely one.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
I don't know a single person with life insurance.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
I have life insurance.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
Yeah, of course you don't even have health insurance.
Speaker 1 (27:15):
Sorry, that will make more sense next week.
Speaker 4 (27:17):
I have life insurance because I have children. So when
you have debt, which we do, you know a lot
of debt and you.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
Have significant about everything.
Speaker 4 (27:25):
When you have an eye watering amount of debt and
you have kids, like you have to have life insurance
to ensure that, like if Matt and I get toppled
off tomorrow, that they're going to be okay and not
be like, you know, a five or six.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
Year old get to work.
Speaker 2 (27:40):
You should see the life Delilah is going to live.
File that dog.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
Do you have a will?
Speaker 2 (27:45):
I have everything that see.
Speaker 4 (27:46):
That's interesting. I'm really behind the eight ball with that.
I need to have a will because I've got kids
and I need to update it. Yeah, I had a
will from twenty two. This is the thing, though, I
think that most people who are our age it's different
once you had children. I think a lot of people
become a bit aware that it's such an imperative thing
to have, and as a parent, you do become aware
that you're not going to be alive for forever. Like
I think it's something it's like one of those interestive
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thoughts that you have. But I would say that a
lot of people our age don't really think about the
fact that, like life.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
Is not infinite. I have a question on that.
Speaker 4 (28:17):
If you don't have a will, then like what is
going to happen if you pass away tomorrow?
Speaker 1 (28:21):
Like who would get all the things? Who's going to
get the dead? So if he's gonna get Bonnie.
Speaker 3 (28:25):
If you, Laura, had to pick between Keisha and myself
to raise.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
Your kids, I would choose my sister.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
No, that's that's out of this. It's me l Keisha,
who is Excuse me?
Speaker 5 (28:35):
Sorry, don't you say choice? I already half raised Britz kids.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
If I give your kids, would like learn Italian would
be traveling the world.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
They have a chicken nugget.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
If I give my kids to you, they'll be with
the dog walker.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
I would never because I'd take your life insurance. I'd
have a great life. I have a great life.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (28:55):
The big question in this is do you think it's
an inappropriate thing to talk to your parents about? Because
I know that obviously we use this as a bit
of a springboard question, but think about it, like, would
you and have you felt comfortable to speak to your
parents about the fact that they're getting older and what
is their plan? I have a slightly different thought on
this now. I would have said that, you know, it's
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a bit of an awkward one to raise with your
family and a bit of an awkward conversation to have.
But I kind of sit in two camps now because firstly,
Ellie is so okay we're talking about it. Like Ellie
is MAT's mum, and if you're new to the podcast,
she lives with us and has done for almost the
last two years now. Ellie has everything covered and is
very vocal around who's getting what, where it's going, so
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that the way when she passes away, there's no family rift,
no one is unsure about what the plan is very clear.
And then I think about, you know, my stepdad who
passed away last year. It's been literally a year since
he passed away. He was very much in denial. I
think a lot around talking about death, like and he
didn't want to talk about it, and there was a
lot that had to get organized afterwards. And I think
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it if you don't get clear with that stuff with
your family, it just creates so much more heartbreak for
everyone who's left to try and figure it out in
a fair and equitable way, and not everyone always feels
like it's fair.
Speaker 3 (30:11):
And just going back a second as well to wills,
because Keisha's really shocked when you know, we said we
had wills, and I said I had a will since
I was twenty two. If you have a property or
any asset, you should have a will because if something
if you have anything that is of value and you
don't know where it could go, then you should have
a will. Who wants a hex stet, Well yeah, not quite,
not quite, because it's something that should be able to
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make money, Like if you sell a house, no one's
going to buy your hex step right, So it's just
something to think about because of course, like tragedies happen
and you don't want to think that that's going to happen,
but it's just a safeguarding yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:43):
And I mean in your case Keisha.
Speaker 4 (30:44):
Obviously you own a house with your partner, which you
now you know the bank owns a house with your partner.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
But the plan is is like, if.
Speaker 4 (30:51):
You were to there's so horrible happen tomorrow, would you
want your partner to have the entirety of it or
would you want it to go to your you know,
your nieces and your nephews or yeah, is there someone
else in.
Speaker 1 (31:00):
That equation that would be the priority.
Speaker 4 (31:03):
And these are all things that we just don't think
about because we're too young to you know, poor and
process it.
Speaker 2 (31:08):
Poor Ben.
Speaker 3 (31:09):
I have not updated my will currently, Ben gets nothing,
So I do you do need to like amend it?
Speaker 2 (31:13):
You can like an amendo will, so it's I do
need to do that.
Speaker 3 (31:16):
But it's interesting because I have spoken to my parents
about more about what they want or like how they
would want, like in terms of like cremation or burial
or where they want.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
To be buried. We've sort of spoken about that, but
we've bypassed.
Speaker 3 (31:32):
I couldn't tell you if they've looked after their funeral
costs or not. I couldn't tell you what kind of
insurance they have. And that's a question that I think
probably I'm in denial about Like it's one of those
things that's hard to talk about because to bring up
the thought of someone you love not being here, Like
I could cry right now thinking about it.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
But it's a conversation that I know you need to have.
But I remember my parents and I think this is
what I would want to do.
Speaker 3 (31:54):
My mam has said that she would love and Dad
actually that that love to be like cremated down into
made into jewelry, like so that we could wear them.
I would love that if I could, if this could
be my mum on my finger or like my dad
in a necklace around. Because people do that, they like
use the ashes so they make it into jewely and
then you get to wear that piece of them forever.
Speaker 2 (32:15):
I think that there's something slightly psychotic but cool about
that as well.
Speaker 1 (32:19):
They do.
Speaker 4 (32:20):
We get heats of request for this through Tony. It's
not a service that we provide, so unfortunately we have to.
Speaker 1 (32:25):
Out the back.
Speaker 4 (32:26):
Well, no, because the thing is is the people who
do that, Like we work with semi precious stones and
set them into jewelry, but the people who use cremations
and use them to make a gemstone, they're actually resin workers,
so they put it into resin and they create like
a fake stone and then they polish the stone up.
So there's a process there that like we don't do,
but people ask for all kinds of things, breast.
Speaker 1 (32:44):
Milk, seamen, breast milk jury.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
We have had every request that you see.
Speaker 4 (32:49):
Or we had someone message us because their partner was
getting a vasectomy and they wanted to keep his last
load yep.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
And I was like, wow, to what a ring a necklace?
Speaker 2 (33:01):
I have no respectful way to respond to that.
Speaker 1 (33:03):
There's nothing going back to the death things. I think
we can respect for it.
Speaker 4 (33:07):
I understand why people would want to make like cremate
into jewelry or cremate into like a keepsake.
Speaker 1 (33:13):
Yeah, we don't do it, but we get heaps and
heaps and heaps to request for it.
Speaker 3 (33:16):
I do need to update that conversation because even that
conversation was a few years ago.
Speaker 2 (33:19):
Like they might not want to be in a ring anymore.
Speaker 1 (33:21):
So you know that means the whole person in a ring.
It's just a tiny sprinkle.
Speaker 3 (33:26):
But I wouldn't want the whole person in there because
it's a key load. If you lost it, though, so
many carrots.
Speaker 2 (33:31):
So many carrots, like I wouldn't be able to pick
my hand up.
Speaker 3 (33:34):
No, but if you imagine if you lost that jury,
then you knew you'd lost the whole part of them,
like where's mom.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
Down the side of the lounge?
Speaker 4 (33:42):
Again, taking this a little bit more seriously, and I
think it's something that's like worth us all considering, especially
if you're kind of like in this age group and
you have aging parents.
Speaker 5 (33:51):
I'm actually in the position I still have three of
my grandparents. Yeah, we're very late eighties. Some of them
are in their nineties now. Actually most of them are
in their nineties. And I feel kind of guilty because
these are not conversations that I've had with them. I
don't know whether my mum and my dad have had
the conversation with their parents, respectively.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
But maybe this is a really privileged position to be in.
Speaker 5 (34:11):
I have always assumed that if they are to pass
away my family, like the younger generations, whether that be
my brother and I or whether that be my parents,
we would be able to afford a funeral for them.
To be fair, though I didn't know that they came
to fifteen thousand dollars.
Speaker 1 (34:26):
I thought it was going to be like three, and
so I was like.
Speaker 5 (34:28):
Cool, if we split the cost of that, like, we'll
be okay to cover that. But it's more so so
it's not so much the financial thing.
Speaker 2 (34:34):
That I worry about it.
Speaker 5 (34:36):
It's just more that I think I would feel awkward
asking them.
Speaker 4 (34:40):
Well, it's one thing to raise the conversation yourself, but
I think a lot of times elderly people in our
lives want to have these conversations with us. They'd be like, oh,
when I die, you can have this, and when I die,
like I'm going to give this to Sally or whatever.
And I know with my nan and it's one of
my biggest regrets is that anytime she would bring that up,
I'd always be like, naw, and you're gonna live forever, yeah,
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And I would make the joke and I would shut
the conversation down. I never explored where that conversation would
have gone if I'd given it the airtime.
Speaker 1 (35:08):
And she tried to bring it up a lot, never.
Speaker 4 (35:10):
In like a hey, I want to sit down and
talk about my will and like my plans, But it
was brought up in like a little off the cuff way,
and I didn't give it the space for it to
grow into a conversation that would have been something that
would have been valuable for all of us, because it
made me uncomfortable. Now that I've been through the process
of losing quite a few people in my life who
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are either elderly or not even elderly, but just really
important people, I've realized that those conversations are not things
that we should shy away from. They're so valuable, and
you will regret not having them when they're not here.
You will regret that you thought they were going to
be here forever. And I wish i'd given my nun
and my papa and I feel everyone just like more
time to have those conversations.
Speaker 3 (35:51):
You guys might remember, I don't know how long agogo
it was six months ago. Maybe that could be way
out of touch, but I had a conversation on here
about how I'd gone up to put my quarry with
my family. I went to a football match with my
nana to watch my niece play football. She plays AFL
and Nana just like held her hand up, she goes,
which one of these do you want when I die?
And like it was her jewelry, and I was like Nana.
Speaker 1 (36:12):
I was like, which one's the biggest.
Speaker 2 (36:15):
I was like, Paul, tell me in order of expense. No,
But I was like what. I was like, no, Nana.
Speaker 3 (36:20):
I was like, we're not having this conversation here now.
She was like no, She's like, just just pick which
one you want.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
Your sister's already picked.
Speaker 2 (36:25):
She was like through shert under the bush. And I
was like, well, he on, what did she pick?
Speaker 1 (36:28):
I was like, why did you watch you have?
Speaker 2 (36:29):
But we ended up as much as I wanted to
say that's not going to happen.
Speaker 3 (36:33):
My Nana is eighty six, and I'm saying, yeah, I'll
have this one then, and I was like, she's brought
it up.
Speaker 2 (36:37):
She wants to have the conversation.
Speaker 3 (36:38):
And it was very my Nana would never sit in it,
very throwaway, like it was just a moment. I told
her what I'd have, which felt weird, but she wanted it,
and then we moved on. But I think going back
to this particular question, like this lady's question, there's one
part that didn't sit right with me, and I think like,
this is a delicate conversation a lot of the time,
and for her to say I did send my mother
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in law a text with funeral home pre planning info.
That's pretty shitty to like just not be really having conversations.
Open your phone and is like, hey, just like here's
a funeral info of you, you know, out of the blue.
Speaker 1 (37:11):
All yeah.
Speaker 4 (37:13):
It's the way the moment that you get to have
which is like actually a sentimental or important moment where
you can unpack it together. It makes it very impersonal
and it's like here's your thing for you to plan
for you, rather than death being like a family experience
that everyone will go through together.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
But it's also very isolating, like you don't know where
your mother in law is in that moment, or you
don't know if she's with anyone.
Speaker 2 (37:34):
Imagine someone on their own opening.
Speaker 3 (37:36):
Up something and then having to face the idea that hey,
I am going to die soon and like fucking I
better go plan my death here now on my own
and pay for it. Like that's a pretty shitty moment.
I think that these conversations, as much as we laugh
and make a joke about it, obviously it's very serious
and we are joking. They are conversations and maybe your
family is gonna laugh about it. I know mine will
make a joke about it, because that's what they do.
(37:57):
But we will still get to the bottom of the conversation.
But yeah, it's it is really important to talk about
what you want because there's no worse feeling than when
a family member passes away and the unsurety were like,
hang on, do we cremate them or bury them?
Speaker 2 (38:10):
What did they want?
Speaker 5 (38:10):
Like?
Speaker 3 (38:11):
Because you want to honor them in that moment, and
if you haven't had the convot, it's like a pretty
confronting thing for you to feel, to be like, I
don't even know how they want to go.
Speaker 2 (38:18):
Well, it is time for suck and sweet our highlight
now low light, I will kick it off.
Speaker 3 (38:22):
My suck and my sweet are the same thing in
a way so effusing.
Speaker 2 (38:27):
Well, they're about Delilah.
Speaker 3 (38:28):
But my suck this week was Delilah got attacked by
a dog. She is okay, yeah, but it was like,
really scary.
Speaker 1 (38:34):
You've also got attacked by the dog.
Speaker 3 (38:36):
Well, yes, I would put my body on the line
for Delilah and I did, and the dog did buy
me multiple times.
Speaker 2 (38:42):
I did get savaged by a dog.
Speaker 3 (38:44):
But Delilah is fine, but she was really it was
really scary.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
Yeah, and she was so shaken up.
Speaker 3 (38:49):
So, yeah, that was my suck. And my sweet is
Delilah as well. Delilah has been on a couple of
weeks of intensive weight loss and she's at a really
good weight.
Speaker 2 (39:00):
Yeah, great news. So I know everyone's on the edge
of the seat. Will she won't she?
Speaker 1 (39:04):
She will?
Speaker 4 (39:05):
I'm really happy for her. I'm so glad she snatched
for summer.
Speaker 3 (39:10):
It's because and also our dog walk is he in
on it as well, like her dog walker.
Speaker 2 (39:14):
Harry and Beck, well they're also starving her out.
Speaker 3 (39:17):
No, but they also know. And Harry came back and
he's like, she's looking really good. He's like lean, He's
like lean, and me she's trimmed up.
Speaker 2 (39:23):
She's like, so, I she's look. I know it sounds
like I don't have much.
Speaker 1 (39:27):
She's the apple of.
Speaker 3 (39:28):
My eye and that she's her longevity is my phone.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
No, I relate to that so much.
Speaker 4 (39:33):
I mean, poor Buster, he thinks we are literally starving
him out every days.
Speaker 1 (39:37):
Like I am so thin, I'm wasting away. But we
took him to the like to the dentist. We took
him to the vet. The dentist said we couldn't feed
him anymore.
Speaker 4 (39:45):
We took him to the vet, and I think I
mentioned this on radio, but the vet was saying that
because he's because he's got three legs.
Speaker 2 (39:52):
And he was busy.
Speaker 4 (39:52):
He was yeah, one got chopped off when he was poppy.
Crazy story, he's got three legs. He was pretty fat,
like he's getting fat and like his mobility was really
slowing down, and he's lost so much weight.
Speaker 1 (40:04):
Now now I look at it and I'm like, but
you're so skinny. But he's also really fast.
Speaker 2 (40:09):
You should see how agilely is.
Speaker 1 (40:10):
I'm really runs fast when he's hungry.
Speaker 2 (40:13):
I'm really he's chasing those rabbits.
Speaker 3 (40:16):
I'm really toxic myself in this cycle because I get
her to this point, we've been here before, and then
since she has nachos again and we just go back
to where we were.
Speaker 2 (40:26):
It's a bit fluff. I'm just going to maintain it
this week and not give it the extra treats.
Speaker 4 (40:30):
My sack for the week is that I'm still pregnant,
so that's a suck. I'd love to go into labor
every day that every day that I'm not in labor
is a day that is a disappointment.
Speaker 3 (40:40):
But you're not even going to take time off anyway,
Like you say that you can't wait to have a
baby so I can have time off.
Speaker 2 (40:44):
You was just coming with the baby.
Speaker 4 (40:46):
Yeah, No, it's not about not being actually I'm joking.
It's actually got nothing to do with work. I'm just
really looking forward to one meeting this human and two
not actually being pregnant anymore.
Speaker 2 (40:54):
You know which one it's going to look like or
his own.
Speaker 4 (40:57):
It's going to be a mix of the both, because
like Lola and Maali so different and I reckon they're
gonna it's gonna be.
Speaker 2 (41:02):
Like a little hybrid algamation.
Speaker 4 (41:04):
Yeah, that's what that's what we're going for anyway. And
my sweet for the week it's very kid related. But
we had a kid's birthday party on the weekend. Jago,
love him, love their.
Speaker 1 (41:12):
Family, love them all.
Speaker 2 (41:13):
Rock climbing.
Speaker 1 (41:14):
We went rock climbing. We took the kids rock climbing,
And like, Mike, I.
Speaker 2 (41:17):
Didn't mean to tell your story then, but I know
other parents that went, so I.
Speaker 1 (41:19):
Know that you went rock climbing.
Speaker 2 (41:21):
They were like, we went rock climbing with.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
Nick Nicky and Eddie.
Speaker 4 (41:23):
Yeah, so we took the kids rock climbing, And sometimes
I think I underestimate my children, not intentionally, but I
underestimate where they're at in terms of their confidence.
Speaker 2 (41:31):
Like their capability as well.
Speaker 4 (41:33):
Yeah, and like I know that they're capable of it,
don't get me wrong, But more so I also know
that they're quite sensitive and like sometimes trying new things,
they'll do, they'll try it, they'll always try, but they
get wigged out really easily. And so Lula tried rock
climbing and she got a quarter of the way up
the wall and she was like scared, like it's so
high and they're holding on the deer life and I
(41:53):
was like, oh, fuck mate, we've just driven forty five
minutes and you're now not going.
Speaker 1 (41:57):
To do it.
Speaker 4 (41:57):
This is going to be the rest of the party. No,
she was literally in arms reach still. She barely made
it up the wall anyway, you know. Then she kind
of like her and Marley both they kind of observed
what the other kids were doing and then they gave
it a red hot crack afterwards, like they kind of
built the confidence up and they were so good at it,
like they.
Speaker 1 (42:15):
Was crazy good.
Speaker 2 (42:16):
And the spider Man up that one.
Speaker 4 (42:18):
Yeah, there wasn't there wasn't even any rocks to hold onto.
They just literally went up a wall. No, but it
was it was really cool. It was really cool to
see just how like the bravery that they have when
they feel like they're good at something. And I mean,
I can only imagine that climbing. Because the rock climbs
that they were doing are to the same height.
Speaker 1 (42:33):
As the adult ones. They're just obviously easier in terms
of handholds.
Speaker 4 (42:36):
So they were like so far off the ground and
they were just loving it and it was really cool.
So that was my That was my highlight. Plea say,
fucking yeah, go girls, you're a little rock climbers.
Speaker 2 (42:46):
Now, that's really cute. You'll never take them again.
Speaker 1 (42:48):
I know, I will rollers off soccer now. She hates it.
Now she wants to do rock climbing. I'm like, fuck,
here we are.
Speaker 2 (42:52):
I can tell you where one is. That's probably close up,
but not on red, not on air because no one cares. Guys,
that is it from us. Please. The number one thing
we can we need to start saying that it starting
up to day.
Speaker 4 (43:01):
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Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life.
I'm cut, I'm Brittany.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
I'm Laura.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Hey everyone, it's almost almost D day.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Amissive us not to pay that.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Sorry, lost my mucus plug? Everyone who did you?
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Officially? Was that from the sweep last night?
Speaker 4 (00:26):
Well, this is going to be confusing for anyone because
we recorded next week's episode yesterday and.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
We confuse it more.
Speaker 4 (00:33):
But I need to explain this because if you're listening
next week, I will say this on next week's episode
because I lost a bit, and then I had my
stretching sweep and now it's all gone.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
So it's a good time for the situation.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
The stretch and sweep takes the mucus plug out. No,
it's not doesn't necessarily just brains it out. No, it
dislodges I guess stuff in that area.
Speaker 4 (00:53):
And so had my stretch and sweep, and then this
morning woke up and did not have a mucus plug.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Did you find it? Where is it?
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Where's it? God? It slipped right out a bit. It
was in my underwear.
Speaker 3 (01:07):
We'll take it with a vibrator. She's like all these
things I collect from mom's bed.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
That's so disgusting.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
This is such a fun way to start this episode,
going straight into mucus plugs in the space of fifteen seconds.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
No, it just yeah, it was gone.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
It doesn't just evaporate.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
No, it goes in your underwear and then you wash
your undies, like what do you reckon?
Speaker 4 (01:22):
Where do you reckon? It goes like getting a period
or something. Britt doesn't just like.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
Fly out the door.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
Of course, it's like a magical ploat, but it also
doesn't mean anything because like you get all these like little.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Signs and symptoms that maybe you're going into labor.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
And it's just I think it does mean something for
some people.
Speaker 4 (01:41):
Some people go into label like straight away afterwards, but
like same thing. I lost mine with Marley, like three
weeks earlier or a month earlier. My obstration was like, Nah,
you're fine, You're probably not going to go into labor.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Never did.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Still with mar yourn't she's still in there. Okay, Well,
this is a good step in the right direction.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
It is.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
I woke up this morning though, feeling particularly disappointed. I
rolled over to Matt this morning and he's like, what
is wrong with you? And I was like, I don't
want to go into work.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
I just want to be a.
Speaker 5 (02:07):
Labor I don't know what that has to say about us,
but if someone would rather go into labor than hang
out with us.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
I think we need to reevaluate.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
I really wanted the day off.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
But of course you give him birth in a week.
I don't want to go to work. I'm doing pregnant,
but I'm still here. Flavor is not a day off,
surely it is for Laura.
Speaker 4 (02:26):
It is when like you never take a sick day,
like I never ever ever take a sick.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Day unless I am shooting the bed. I do not
take sick days. So for me, I was I'm just
really looking forward to it early Mark.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
That is true.
Speaker 3 (02:37):
The only day you took off here was when you
shit the bed. It was I had a really bad
in pneumonia.
Speaker 4 (02:42):
Guys, I had pneumonia, and I got made to come
into work with pneumonia, not by you, by.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
Hang On, not us.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
I told you to stay home, by the warlords.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Yeah, people work by our bills. It's like they were like,
get you, I asked to work.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
No, look, I mean I don't have any more updates
for you today.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
We do do a big deep dive next week on
like all the pre baby birth stuff, because it is
next week is my last episode on the show BEF forever.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
I'm going overtire.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
But what about so, are you having sexy time and stuff?
You're trying to get it out?
Speaker 1 (03:15):
No?
Speaker 2 (03:15):
No, but that would that apparently works if you if
you pokes it.
Speaker 4 (03:18):
So yeah, okay, apparently we were up until about a
week ago. But I'm just I'm so done now that
there's so much going on inside me that I can't
stuff anything else in that.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
I just can't. And I asked my obstitution.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
That was fucking gross. Only I knew the producer could
cut that out.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I asked my obstration yesterday.
Speaker 4 (03:36):
Because everyone says it's not just having sex, it's also semen.
So semen has some hormone in it that helps to
like soften your service. It's right, So yeah, apparently so,
and I spoke to my obstration about it, and he laughed,
and he goes, he goes.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Yes, that's what people say, he goes. However, that's what.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
The men say. Where's the reason he goes?
Speaker 4 (03:55):
However, research has shown that you would need at least
a lead of semen to have enough of the hormone
for it to make any difference.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
So let your husband keep telling you that.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Think about that for a minute. That's not a visual
anyone wants.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
Like Alita, So anyone who's telling you that, like the
seaman itself is what softens the cervix.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
God, girl, you're doing a lot of sex. Well done, congratulate.
It's like the homeopathy of trying to bring on labor.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
So what are the other things that are supposed to
bring on labor at this point?
Speaker 4 (04:22):
Okay, So I did actually did a call out on
my Instagram because I was like, let me know what's
worked for you.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
People have tried everything.
Speaker 4 (04:28):
Like there's the walking on the gutter, So you basically
do like an uneven walk, so you walk with.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
One foot on the gut or one foot down.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
That feels pretty like mythical.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
And you do that twenty minutes and then you swap
to the other side.
Speaker 4 (04:37):
Well know, the unevenness of it is supposed to like
push the baby down. A lot of people say walking
or stair runs, like doing exercise helps to push the
baby down.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
People are telling you to do stair runs.
Speaker 5 (04:47):
Yeah, oh yeah, that's exactly what you feel like doing.
Speaker 4 (04:50):
When you say I can't be able to have sex,
and then someone says, what about a stair run on
a marathon?
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Both of those kind of fall in the same category.
Speaker 2 (04:56):
At the moment, you'd rather just later and have sex
r on your.
Speaker 4 (05:00):
Stairs, acupunchat on Thursday this week, I'm going for so
from a timeline perspective for you guys, it's Tuesday now
Thursday this week, I'm going for another stretch and sweep,
and then I'm going for a pregnancy massage, but not
like a cute pregnancy massage, like an induction massage that
they do so honestly, who knows baby's gonna come and
(05:23):
baby's gonna come?
Speaker 1 (05:24):
How's that for a mythical?
Speaker 2 (05:25):
I don't know if that's true as well, Like I
think things do bring it on.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
There's two other things.
Speaker 4 (05:29):
There's like Clary sage oil, like having a bath in
Clary sage oil.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (05:33):
I was literally just about to say, do you want
me to come and sage your house? I've been saving
not just made.
Speaker 5 (05:38):
Me take sage home from her house the other day
and I was like, I don't want this.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
Well, happy you took it.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
You forced me to take it.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
Sorry, I'm done with the baby chat. We're at the
sage point in your life. You're saging your house.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
Now, I sage my house like evil spirits.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Like what is it?
Speaker 4 (05:54):
And I don't want to poop pocus and a lot
of people sage their houses.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
This is like, she wouldn't understand.
Speaker 4 (05:59):
This is a spiritual girlshit that I just don't. I
haven't quite got my head around what are you doing
with the sage? So, okay, did you little mantra? Okay,
let me talk you through it.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Basically, I saw the lightning bolt in my bedroom a
few weeks ago.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
I did speak about on the radio, but I don't
think it made it to the podcast. I think Laura
vetoed it. So I saw in my room in the morning.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
I'll just quickly set this up. I got up, Delilah
was on my bed.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
I went into my on suite to have a shower,
and now the room was dark because the blinds were
still down. It was like six thirty in the morning,
and I leave my bathroom door open and I can
see from my shower into my room. So Juliah's just
chilling on my bed. I'm in a shower la la
la la.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
And then there was only a dull lamp in my room.
I see like this flash of just light, like a
really big flush of light, just one and there's nothing
it could be. I'm not imagining in it.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
It was like a lightning bolt of light room and
there's no window, there's no natural light, there's nothing.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
Electrical search from what the electricals in your house.
Speaker 5 (07:06):
Do you have that flash thing on your phone? You
know how you can get notifications and it flashes.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Guys, I know what a fucking flash off the phone is. No,
I'm not the normal one. You can have your actual
flash go off on your phone. No, andone, do not
disturb at six in the morning. And if the spirits
didn't listen to that, they disturbed me. They pushed anyway.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
So I'm in anyway, and just to double down. When
the flash happened, Delilah went, uh, she felt something, spirits,
and she doesn't nothing bothers.
Speaker 2 (07:40):
Delilah.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
She will invite a murderer into my bedroom, like she
will if somebody broke.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Into my house.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
She'll be like this way, she's down here, like she's
so welcoming. And I shouldn't say it's people, but she's
a guard dog, savage, but she like growled and just
looked uneasy for a second, and she was fine, but
she also felt it or saw it anyway. Yes, that's
my story. I saw something that afternoon we spoke about
on radio. I got so many messages from people that
(08:06):
heard it in the car that said that they have
experienced the same thing.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Anyway. So, yes, did I order some sage sticks to
sage my house?
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Yes? I did. How's it going?
Speaker 2 (08:16):
I saged so much that I think I was high
and felt unwell.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
I was like, I don't know if you smelled a
sage stick. It's so intense that it's like big, Like
it's like a fierst. Right, They're so thick and you're
light at the end.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
I went into every room.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
You know, you're not meant to smoke.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Them, right, and then I smoked it. Hang on, what
what you know?
Speaker 1 (08:36):
You just waving around a room. A couple of times
I thought.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
I had to stage myself internally. Well, you don't masturbate
with it.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
What I'm leaving that in.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
There's always one that goes too far.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
It's always it.
Speaker 6 (08:50):
I saged so much, and my house is quite small.
There's not a lot of ventilation and I made myself
sick and Claire and Keisha. So Claire was on the
podcast a few weeks ago.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
She was speaking about the AI dating You guys, remember,
Claire and Keisha were both over and I'd saged before
they came because I didn't want the spirit to attach.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Itself to them.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
I actually don't know who I work with anymore.
Speaker 2 (09:14):
I think I've always been this person. I just never
felt like I could beat my tristlef so I did
not put me in the category with Brittany. Okay, you
took the sage stick.
Speaker 5 (09:22):
I actually I haven't told you this, but I made
Claire take both. I got Claire home on the way
on the way back and I was like, Claire, I
feel guilty.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
I'm not going to use this. I don't smell.
Speaker 5 (09:31):
That's why I said I don't like wasiste. I was like, please, please,
please take it.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
I'm not going to use this.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
I'm gonna feel guilty that BRIT's waisted ten bucks.
Speaker 4 (09:39):
Don't get me wrong, because I feel like sage sticks
kind of like fall into self care category. Like I'm like,
I'm not poopeering them because I feel like a lot
of people do it because it's part of their like wellness,
and they're kind of you know, clearing the space or whatever. Yeah,
I'm all for that, but if you're doing it because
you think the house is haunted, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (09:55):
Okay, it's it's three categories, right, Was my house haunted?
Speaker 1 (09:59):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (09:59):
So I did need to sage the spirits away. B
It was definitely a self care thing. I'm souper into
my pilates this year, which I haven't. I've always dabbled
in it and done it, and now.
Speaker 3 (10:10):
I'm consistently like four or five days a week, and
I'm really into the breathing and they always wave these
sticks around and like it just I'm really into it.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
So I went and got them for that. And then see,
I feel like I've had.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
A lot going on internally, like in my brain, just
trying to make some really big life decisions and like
I just fact, there's a lot going on, and I
get really exhausted. And it was like a resetting of
the space as well, like I wanted to just I
don't know if it might be a placebo thing, but
I felt like I needed to do something to reset
in my space.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
I don't know, if that makes sense. It sounds crazy.
I've not done that before, but I was like, hey,
I'll try anything.
Speaker 5 (10:45):
Right now, it kind of makes sense. You've been spring
cleaning and clearing. That point C actually does make sense
to me. And right now I've actually just realized some
of my neighbors like to smoke a lot of weeds,
so I probably could have done with some sage to
clear out the smell exactly.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
But anyway, I had to leave my house for a.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
While because if you guys have saged before, if you're
about to sage, you gas yourself out.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
You need just a second couple of seconds and then
make sure you've got ventilation. I have like a sage headache.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
I would just like to bring everyone back.
Speaker 4 (11:12):
We got onto this by me saying that Clary sage
induces pregnancy.
Speaker 2 (11:19):
Well, I saw my opportunity to segue.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
No, I loved it.
Speaker 4 (11:21):
I really wanted to lean in hard because I was
very confused. Okay, well, speaking of actually this is not
a segue. It doesn't segway at all. I was gonna
say speaking of houses that stink.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
But sorry, I think you meant speaking of houses that
are cleansed.
Speaker 4 (11:36):
Know, the smallest thing happened this morning, and it was
just a really humbling experience.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
I wanted to share it with you all.
Speaker 4 (11:41):
So Marley never she never cuddles me like she only
cuddles Matt. If she gets up in the nighttime, she
will walk around my bed to go to Matt's side
and cuddle with him. I think it's because when their
kids were little, like Lola would always be on my side,
So it's just habit now. But yeah, she always preferences
a nighttime cuddle with Matt over a nighttime cuddle with me,
and it kills me.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
I'm destroyed by it.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
That's why I had that.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
I'm ruined I with my first child, I needed to
have another one.
Speaker 4 (12:08):
This morning, Matt was in bed with law La because
she was having a bit of a hard night, so
he slept in her bed.
Speaker 1 (12:12):
Last night.
Speaker 4 (12:12):
Morley woke up realized there wasn't enough room in the
single bed for the three of them. So she's like, shock, fuck,
I guess I'll go cuddle mom. She comes saunters in, defeated.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
She goes, well, dad's in that bed, I guess I'll
cuddle you.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
And I was like, okay, come on, sweetie. I was
like it makes me so happy. And I go to
cuddle her. So she's in the cuddle, we're in a
little spoon and she goes, God, you smell like vomit
and makeup.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
You smell like what vomit and makeup.
Speaker 2 (12:43):
I was like, how you vomited?
Speaker 1 (12:46):
No, I just had morning breath.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Apparently.
Speaker 4 (12:49):
I was like, it's okay, sweety, I'll just breathe here,
vomit and makeup. That was the first thing that my
six year old told me this morning.
Speaker 3 (12:56):
It's worse because it would be okay if you'd vomit it.
It's worse because you had it.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
I hadn't. I just stink like vomit and makeup. No
wonder she doesn't want to cuddle me. It's mat in
the morning. Actually, Lolan doesn't care. Lola would take me
at my worst.
Speaker 2 (13:08):
That is very humbling.
Speaker 3 (13:09):
Yeah, before we get into anything, there is something we
want your help with. We have decided as our gift
to Laura because we're just so generous. Our gift is
we want to create a push playlist, a birthing playlist, Yeah,
a life uncut birthing playlist.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
So Laura will be the person to christen it. Obviously,
and then it's anyone's for the taking. Anyone that is
having a baby, you can take it, but we want
it to be like a group efforts.
Speaker 4 (13:36):
Well, the reason why this is happening is because there's
so many birthing playlists on Spotify, But like, I don't
need a.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
Calm birth like I actually I want a pumped up mix.
I want like a not quite.
Speaker 4 (13:46):
A party mix, but I want between something that's Yeah,
I want some pop music in there.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
What is one hundreds?
Speaker 2 (13:52):
Like?
Speaker 4 (13:52):
I just want a fun, uplifting playlist that's like a
really good mashup of songs. We've made the playlist in
Spotify Underlife on Cut. Yeah, we just need you guys
to help us create it. I guess to kind of
like set the tone for what it's going to be.
The first song on there is push It Real Good,
and I'm pretty sure it's push It is the name.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Push It Real Good.
Speaker 5 (14:13):
Life on Cut is the name, And then Brittany's request,
we added a description.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Do you want to tell us what that is?
Speaker 3 (14:20):
I can't remember word for word, but life is giving life, giving.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Life for life is giving life.
Speaker 3 (14:26):
I'm sorry, why are you guys mocking that that's actually
it's beautiful and brilliant simultaneously.
Speaker 4 (14:30):
She's a spiritually erase and she what was your what
was your recommendation?
Speaker 5 (14:34):
My very first song that I added to it is
I'm coming out by day.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Come what? Who knows?
Speaker 5 (14:43):
I just had some just breathe by Pearl Jam. That
would be good while you're in there.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
It has to just be puns though, for pushing out
in births, like I think it's just you want a
mix of like we want Eminem to Reanna to Ed Sheeran,
like we want quite a a rive.
Speaker 4 (15:00):
I want a variety. I don't think I necessarily want Eminem,
but that's okay. Example, I just I want upbeat, I
want fun. I want everyone in that birthing suite to
be in a good mood. It's a party. Puppy's being
born to a party.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
You can't risk it all being party mixed.
Speaker 3 (15:16):
You need to have something for in between contractions when
you're like taking a minute, so you need some edge
sheer and sprinkled.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
In Alex Warren. You know I love him, Alex Warren.
There's some examples here.
Speaker 5 (15:25):
Don't Panic by Coldplay, Let it Go by James Burn.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
I don't know coldplay feels like a little bit I
still want to take it. This year isn't ye it's ruined.
It's ruined for me anyway. That's what we're asking for.
Speaker 4 (15:37):
Send us your unconventional birthing playlist songs that we can
add to this. We want it to be viby, we
want it to be relatively upbeat. If you want to
get real party party. I mean, we're gonna beato them anyways,
So like, send him.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
On in and we'll make the list.
Speaker 5 (15:50):
Well, I can actually just put the link to this,
say show note, so you can add them yourselves and
I'll put it in the Facebook group to Life Uncut
discussion group if you're not already a member, and you
guys can add what you think will good songs. Yeah,
I can delete them if they're terrible.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
If they're really.
Speaker 4 (16:03):
Bad, we will delete them. Don't feel personally victimized, even
though it is personal. There's a new trend that has
taken No I'm.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
Gonna start that again.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
It has taken the world by the fight.
Speaker 4 (16:15):
I wasn't gonna say that that's taken over TikTok, which
we do every Hey, there's a trend going off on TikTok.
No there is Okay, there is a trend that has
taken off on TikTok in the last couple of weeks.
It's also found its way to Instagram, hence why I've
now discovered it since I'm barely on TikTok.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
And it's called Unfortunately I do love. Have you okay?
Speaker 4 (16:34):
This is rhetorical because I know you've both seen it,
because I've made you prep but have you seen it?
It's basically where women or girls will write, Unfortunately, I
do love and then they have a list of all
the things that, like if they were cool girls or
pick me girls, they shouldn't actually love, Like if they
were more relaxed or chill people, they wouldn't necessarily love
these things. But it's like admitting to all the stuff
that maybe we're not supposed to like that much, but
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you know what, fuck it lean into your girlhood.
Speaker 3 (16:59):
I don't know why you were the list correctly. I
did start with unfortunately I do love younger men.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
It's great.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
That's that's great. That is great.
Speaker 2 (17:08):
I ye that, but okay.
Speaker 4 (17:10):
Paessian actually wrote a really great article about this, and
like it comes across as kind of like a piffy,
silly little trend and maybe it is that in itself,
you know, like, unfortunately I do love x y Z,
But one of the things that they were talking about
in this article and how they've broken it down, I
really liked it. It's written by Laura Messiah and she
wrote this this week. I was reminded of the joys
of girlhood when TikTok trend landed on my for you page.
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The trends saw people, mostly women, share picks and videos
of themselves alongside a list of things that they shamelessly love,
like an overpriced, fancy coffee, rehashing drama with their friends
over brunch, or buying a new dress for every occasion,
despite its slightly negative connotations. And it's because, and this
is me paraphrasing, things that are particularly girly or things
that as women we enjoy are usually seen as silly
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and frivolous, whereas like if a woman's crying at a
Justin Bieber concert, and this is an example is used,
it's as being like lame and silly, whereas if a
man's crying at a football match because his favorite team
just won, that's like that's hot.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
Yeah, Well, that's sport, that's heroism. It's part of those things.
Speaker 5 (18:11):
Actually, I wonder whether this is a little bit of
a pushback to so much self optimization content that we've
had in over the last couple of years, like everything's
about you know, your morning rituals, put your phone down.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
Get in the ice bath. Ironic, I love an ice bath.
That would be on my list. Unfortunately, I do love Unfortunately,
I do love that.
Speaker 5 (18:27):
So I kind of wonder whether we're just we're now
admitting to guilty pleasures and being like, let's just take
you know, let's take the pressure off a little bit.
Kate Hudson shared a video and her said, Unfortunately, I
do love ignoring my text, getting wine, drunk, a microphone,
a girl's trip, not wearing pants, online shopping, misplacing my phone,
dancing in public, and a filthy martini.
Speaker 4 (18:46):
I do love all those things as well. I read
that and I was like, Kate Hudson, sounds like a
girl I want to.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
Be friends with one hundred piers Brittany, what was your list?
Speaker 3 (18:54):
Okay, tell me if I don't understand it. But unfortunately,
I do love younger men packing so many clothes for
a trip. But no actual outfits to wear. I'm wearing
the same thing every day. Canceled plans, saying that I
can't make it because my friend needs me. But my
friend is my dog.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
Couch rotting for hours and watching.
Speaker 3 (19:14):
A full series, ignoring all messages and emails, eating cereal
for dinner, fancy overpriced ice strawberry matcher, that my dog
is one of my best friends.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
I love it. You nailed it, Yeah, nailed the assignment.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
There were other things, but I dropped them. I think
they were the main one.
Speaker 3 (19:28):
But my vibrator unfortunately off staging with massivating with a sage.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
Shit, No, what was on your list was okay? Unfortunately?
Speaker 4 (19:38):
I do love doom scrolling, complaining about pregnancy but also
being pregnant, having my phone on do not disturb even
when I'm not actually working, saying I'm going to the
gym early, but then sleeping in marga readers, unpacking my
friends relationship, drammas alassa sized waistbands on pants, buying books
with actually having zero intention of ever reading them, Buying
skin care products, using them religiously for a week and
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then never using them again. Only shaving my ankles and
slip back buns because because you haven't seen my knees
in weeks.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
So that's so funny.
Speaker 5 (20:16):
My list says, Unfortunately, I do love sending voice notes
but then rolling my eyes when I receive one that's
over a minute. Stimulants for breakfast, coffee in dex, and phetamines.
Speaker 1 (20:25):
I mean, we shouldn't be already that, but only if
you're diagnosed.
Speaker 5 (20:28):
Reading a message in the display on my phone but
then not replying to it for hours, watching the same
two shows over and over, making up a voice for
my dog, staying friends with my ex's, putting salt on everything,
my clip infringe, having four hundred and twenty three group chats,
and losing my phone.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
The stay in friends with the Ex's one that's a
standout for you.
Speaker 4 (20:48):
It really is, Keisha. That is part of your that's
your whole personality. He's a really nice guybar we should
be friends.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
Keisha also just asked if we could go and hang
out with my auntie. She's like, I really like I
She's seventy. Honeymore is great, honeymore, she is great. But
just how much you want to be friends with everyone?
I'm like, where's the time.
Speaker 1 (21:06):
Yeah, yeah, that's true, you know what. Unfortunately, I do
love over committing social plans.
Speaker 4 (21:10):
You do, you do, but you know what, you're actually
very good at keep Of all of my friends, you're
very good at keeping like the promise of committing to
social plans.
Speaker 1 (21:19):
I'm the one that's like, that sounds great. Don't call me.
Speaker 2 (21:23):
Do not disturb, which please doesn't answer.
Speaker 4 (21:25):
I complain about never being invited to anything, but I
have my phone on perpetually.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
Do not disturb. I have no idea what's going on
in anyone last.
Speaker 3 (21:32):
Saying I can't make it because my friend needs me,
but my friend is my dog.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
Yes, where we all feel it.
Speaker 4 (21:37):
I love this, guys, Please do your Unfortunately I do
love list. Send them to us and put them up
on socials like I feel like these are the small
things that we can all relate to, because even in
the stuff that you've read out, I was like, yes,
of course, I know we say we shouldn't do this
because we're meant to be We're meant to be more
enlightened humans than this, But truly we're all the same trash.
Speaker 3 (21:53):
Well, I did add in I didn't read it, but
I did have trying every single skin care product and
treatment possible, like on the market.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
If there is something out there, I have done it.
Like the salmon sperm. I have so much sperm in
my face it's wild and it's not my husband.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
My husband's I could sit on your face leader in there.
Speaker 6 (22:11):
I actually don't.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
It would bring on labor.
Speaker 2 (22:14):
I can't even imagine that.
Speaker 1 (22:15):
Get that visual out of my head.
Speaker 3 (22:18):
Okay, well, after all that fun, I think it's time
to talk about some death.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Great, so bear with me.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
This is an am ib asshole that came up and
got us having a bit of a conversation between ourselves
because I think it's something that well, it is something
that every single family is going to have to talk
about or go through at some point. So I think
as much as it doesn't seem relatable, it actually really is.
Now this am I the asshole is coming from somebody
in America, so like when I read it, to just
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keep in mind it's got things like Medicaid and whatever.
So my husband's parents live with us in our home,
rent free. Until recently, my father in law's primary entertainment
was using his Social Security income to go to the casino.
Speaker 2 (22:58):
So like he's a gambler.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
So now he's unable to go by himself, and my
mother in law has taken over his finances. She's concerned
that he has too much money in his account to
qualify for Medicaid because it's been building up over the
past few months. I suggested that she pay for their
phone bill, or that she meet with our local funeral
director and start planning for their funerals, because because it
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would be considerate to us.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
My daughter told me that I was being mean.
Speaker 3 (23:25):
I told her that my own grandmother had done just that,
and we enjoyed a lovely luncheon at a restaurant afterwards
with the family.
Speaker 2 (23:33):
But I did send my mother in law a text
with some funeral home pre planning information.
Speaker 1 (23:39):
Is my daughter right?
Speaker 2 (23:41):
Am I a.
Speaker 3 (23:41):
Jerk for messaging her this and suggesting that she spend
money by pre paying for their own funerals?
Speaker 1 (23:48):
To me, it is wild.
Speaker 4 (23:51):
It is a wild thought that people don't think about
the fact that they're going to die like that.
Speaker 1 (23:56):
We don't plan for our own deaths like that.
Speaker 2 (23:58):
To me, I think it's denial.
Speaker 4 (23:59):
Don't But also like when I read this, and I
guess maybe as a parent myself, I would never want
to burden my children with the financial responsibility of paying
for a funeral, and especially if they had maybe assumed
that I had enough money to pay for it myself,
you know, like if i'd just been if I was like,
I'm gonna blow my low before I leave this earth
and didn't pay for a single thing, and then you know,
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it came around to like having a funeral and everything else.
My kids had no inheritance, but also they had to
pay to put me in the ground. I feel like
that that's such an unrealistic expectation. The thing is, though,
usually a lot of people don't necessarily think about their
funeral costs, but they will have some money left over
that they'll leave, whether it's a house or it's a
you know, so that that kind of stuff gets settled
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down the track anyway.
Speaker 2 (24:42):
Surely that stuff takes a while to settle.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
Those It takes a long time to settle I assume
I didn't.
Speaker 2 (24:46):
I actually had no idea.
Speaker 5 (24:47):
I could googled this yesterday. The average cost of a
funeral in Australia typically falls between four thousand and fifteen
thousand dollars. It said that the factors that can change
it are things like whether you choose burial or cremation,
and the type of service and the location that you
have the side.
Speaker 2 (25:03):
I don't even think that includes cannapase.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
I think that's just the casket also the coffin.
Speaker 4 (25:09):
So like this, okay, this is a grim and I
know we started on such a high, we're ending on
such a low. Literally, but the casket itself is so
varied in price.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
Like my nan rest in peace.
Speaker 4 (25:20):
Like she wanted to be cremated, and we only had
a sitting for her.
Speaker 5 (25:23):
She lived, She had sitting up your born nut laid out.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
It was more expensive for the length than it was
for the high. She's like, we compressed it. We put
her in a ball.
Speaker 5 (25:37):
Come on, just dropped it down a pipe once again,
resume peace.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
No, we love you, No I do.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
No, she didn't look. She outlived everyone.
Speaker 4 (25:46):
She was a stubborn, stubborn woman, and she stayed for
way longer than all of her friends and majority of
her family. So she always said that I do not
want a funeral. No one will come, And so we
had a sitting for her. No, no, no, they're all dead.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
One's gonna come.
Speaker 2 (26:00):
I've got no friends.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
Everyone cared, but there was just no one left to come.
So she wanted it. It's caught a sitting.
Speaker 4 (26:06):
It's where like you have like five or six people
there and their coffin can be open or closed. It's
just a really intimate ceremony. There's no formalities, No one
gets up and speaks or anything like that. You just
go in individually and say yo goodbyes.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
And that was a weird.
Speaker 4 (26:19):
Situation because it was like just a carboardy ply box.
Speaker 1 (26:24):
It wasn't fancy.
Speaker 4 (26:25):
We put a big sheet over it and had like
beautiful flowers on it and stuff.
Speaker 1 (26:28):
So the flowers.
Speaker 4 (26:29):
Probably more expensive than the box, to be honest, because
she's being cremated, so it seemed silly to spend four
thousand dollars on a beautiful casket that was just gonna
go straight into being cremated. Whereas, like, you know, it's
different when I think, I think it's different when it's
someone who's younger, or if they're going to be buried
and there's a ceremony around the funeral, then I think
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you would invest more in a casket because and they
can be like four thousand dollars.
Speaker 2 (26:53):
Yeah, look they're expensive. I think it depends, but a
lot of people's.
Speaker 3 (26:57):
I think life insurance can also help pay for things
like that. There's usually funeral cover in life insurance. I
think it's something that you have picked as well, Like
you can have different extras, but funeral cover is definitely one.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
I don't know a single person with life insurance.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
I have life insurance.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
Yeah, of course you don't even have health insurance.
Speaker 1 (27:15):
Sorry, that will make more sense next week.
Speaker 4 (27:17):
I have life insurance because I have children. So when
you have debt, which we do, you know a lot
of debt and you.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
Have significant about everything.
Speaker 4 (27:25):
When you have an eye watering amount of debt and
you have kids, like you have to have life insurance
to ensure that, like if Matt and I get toppled
off tomorrow, that they're going to be okay and not
be like, you know, a five or six.
Speaker 1 (27:38):
Year old get to work.
Speaker 2 (27:40):
You should see the life Delilah is going to live.
File that dog.
Speaker 1 (27:44):
Do you have a will?
Speaker 2 (27:45):
I have everything that see.
Speaker 4 (27:46):
That's interesting. I'm really behind the eight ball with that.
I need to have a will because I've got kids
and I need to update it. Yeah, I had a
will from twenty two. This is the thing, though, I
think that most people who are our age it's different
once you had children. I think a lot of people
become a bit aware that it's such an imperative thing
to have, and as a parent, you do become aware
that you're not going to be alive for forever. Like
I think it's something it's like one of those interestive
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thoughts that you have. But I would say that a
lot of people our age don't really think about the
fact that, like life.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
Is not infinite. I have a question on that.
Speaker 4 (28:17):
If you don't have a will, then like what is
going to happen if you pass away tomorrow?
Speaker 1 (28:21):
Like who would get all the things? Who's going to
get the dead? So if he's gonna get Bonnie.
Speaker 3 (28:25):
If you, Laura, had to pick between Keisha and myself
to raise.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
Your kids, I would choose my sister.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
No, that's that's out of this. It's me l Keisha,
who is Excuse me?
Speaker 5 (28:35):
Sorry, don't you say choice? I already half raised Britz kids.
Speaker 3 (28:41):
If I give your kids, would like learn Italian would
be traveling the world.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
They have a chicken nugget.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
If I give my kids to you, they'll be with
the dog walker.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
I would never because I'd take your life insurance. I'd
have a great life. I have a great life.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (28:55):
The big question in this is do you think it's
an inappropriate thing to talk to your parents about? Because
I know that obviously we use this as a bit
of a springboard question, but think about it, like, would
you and have you felt comfortable to speak to your
parents about the fact that they're getting older and what
is their plan? I have a slightly different thought on
this now. I would have said that, you know, it's
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a bit of an awkward one to raise with your
family and a bit of an awkward conversation to have.
But I kind of sit in two camps now because firstly,
Ellie is so okay we're talking about it. Like Ellie
is MAT's mum, and if you're new to the podcast,
she lives with us and has done for almost the
last two years now. Ellie has everything covered and is
very vocal around who's getting what, where it's going, so
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that the way when she passes away, there's no family rift,
no one is unsure about what the plan is very clear.
And then I think about, you know, my stepdad who
passed away last year. It's been literally a year since
he passed away. He was very much in denial. I
think a lot around talking about death, like and he
didn't want to talk about it, and there was a
lot that had to get organized afterwards. And I think
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it if you don't get clear with that stuff with
your family, it just creates so much more heartbreak for
everyone who's left to try and figure it out in
a fair and equitable way, and not everyone always feels
like it's fair.
Speaker 3 (30:11):
And just going back a second as well to wills,
because Keisha's really shocked when you know, we said we
had wills, and I said I had a will since
I was twenty two. If you have a property or
any asset, you should have a will because if something
if you have anything that is of value and you
don't know where it could go, then you should have
a will. Who wants a hex stet, Well yeah, not quite,
not quite, because it's something that should be able to
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make money, Like if you sell a house, no one's
going to buy your hex step right, So it's just
something to think about because of course, like tragedies happen
and you don't want to think that that's going to happen,
but it's just a safeguarding yeah.
Speaker 1 (30:43):
And I mean in your case Keisha.
Speaker 4 (30:44):
Obviously you own a house with your partner, which you
now you know the bank owns a house with your partner.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
But the plan is is like, if.
Speaker 4 (30:51):
You were to there's so horrible happen tomorrow, would you
want your partner to have the entirety of it or
would you want it to go to your you know,
your nieces and your nephews or yeah, is there someone
else in.
Speaker 1 (31:00):
That equation that would be the priority.
Speaker 4 (31:03):
And these are all things that we just don't think
about because we're too young to you know, poor and
process it.
Speaker 2 (31:08):
Poor Ben.
Speaker 3 (31:09):
I have not updated my will currently, Ben gets nothing,
So I do you do need to like amend it?
Speaker 2 (31:13):
You can like an amendo will, so it's I do
need to do that.
Speaker 3 (31:16):
But it's interesting because I have spoken to my parents
about more about what they want or like how they
would want, like in terms of like cremation or burial
or where they want.
Speaker 2 (31:29):
To be buried. We've sort of spoken about that, but
we've bypassed.
Speaker 3 (31:32):
I couldn't tell you if they've looked after their funeral
costs or not. I couldn't tell you what kind of
insurance they have. And that's a question that I think
probably I'm in denial about Like it's one of those
things that's hard to talk about because to bring up
the thought of someone you love not being here, Like
I could cry right now thinking about it.
Speaker 2 (31:49):
But it's a conversation that I know you need to have.
But I remember my parents and I think this is
what I would want to do.
Speaker 3 (31:54):
My mam has said that she would love and Dad
actually that that love to be like cremated down into
made into jewelry, like so that we could wear them.
I would love that if I could, if this could
be my mum on my finger or like my dad
in a necklace around. Because people do that, they like
use the ashes so they make it into jewely and
then you get to wear that piece of them forever.
Speaker 2 (32:15):
I think that there's something slightly psychotic but cool about
that as well.
Speaker 1 (32:19):
They do.
Speaker 4 (32:20):
We get heats of request for this through Tony. It's
not a service that we provide, so unfortunately we have to.
Speaker 1 (32:25):
Out the back.
Speaker 4 (32:26):
Well, no, because the thing is is the people who
do that, Like we work with semi precious stones and
set them into jewelry, but the people who use cremations
and use them to make a gemstone, they're actually resin workers,
so they put it into resin and they create like
a fake stone and then they polish the stone up.
So there's a process there that like we don't do,
but people ask for all kinds of things, breast.
Speaker 1 (32:44):
Milk, seamen, breast milk jury.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
We have had every request that you see.
Speaker 4 (32:49):
Or we had someone message us because their partner was
getting a vasectomy and they wanted to keep his last
load yep.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
And I was like, wow, to what a ring a necklace?
Speaker 2 (33:01):
I have no respectful way to respond to that.
Speaker 1 (33:03):
There's nothing going back to the death things. I think
we can respect for it.
Speaker 4 (33:07):
I understand why people would want to make like cremate
into jewelry or cremate into like a keepsake.
Speaker 1 (33:13):
Yeah, we don't do it, but we get heaps and
heaps and heaps to request for it.
Speaker 3 (33:16):
I do need to update that conversation because even that
conversation was a few years ago.
Speaker 2 (33:19):
Like they might not want to be in a ring anymore.
Speaker 1 (33:21):
So you know that means the whole person in a ring.
It's just a tiny sprinkle.
Speaker 3 (33:26):
But I wouldn't want the whole person in there because
it's a key load. If you lost it, though, so
many carrots.
Speaker 2 (33:31):
So many carrots, like I wouldn't be able to pick
my hand up.
Speaker 3 (33:34):
No, but if you imagine if you lost that jury,
then you knew you'd lost the whole part of them,
like where's mom.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
Down the side of the lounge?
Speaker 4 (33:42):
Again, taking this a little bit more seriously, and I
think it's something that's like worth us all considering, especially
if you're kind of like in this age group and
you have aging parents.
Speaker 5 (33:51):
I'm actually in the position I still have three of
my grandparents. Yeah, we're very late eighties. Some of them
are in their nineties now. Actually most of them are
in their nineties. And I feel kind of guilty because
these are not conversations that I've had with them. I
don't know whether my mum and my dad have had
the conversation with their parents, respectively.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
But maybe this is a really privileged position to be in.
Speaker 5 (34:11):
I have always assumed that if they are to pass
away my family, like the younger generations, whether that be
my brother and I or whether that be my parents,
we would be able to afford a funeral for them.
To be fair, though I didn't know that they came
to fifteen thousand dollars.
Speaker 1 (34:26):
I thought it was going to be like three, and
so I was like.
Speaker 5 (34:28):
Cool, if we split the cost of that, like, we'll
be okay to cover that. But it's more so so
it's not so much the financial thing.
Speaker 2 (34:34):
That I worry about it.
Speaker 5 (34:36):
It's just more that I think I would feel awkward
asking them.
Speaker 4 (34:40):
Well, it's one thing to raise the conversation yourself, but
I think a lot of times elderly people in our
lives want to have these conversations with us. They'd be like, oh,
when I die, you can have this, and when I die,
like I'm going to give this to Sally or whatever.
And I know with my nan and it's one of
my biggest regrets is that anytime she would bring that up,
I'd always be like, naw, and you're gonna live forever, yeah,
(35:01):
And I would make the joke and I would shut
the conversation down. I never explored where that conversation would
have gone if I'd given it the airtime.
Speaker 1 (35:08):
And she tried to bring it up a lot, never.
Speaker 4 (35:10):
In like a hey, I want to sit down and
talk about my will and like my plans, But it
was brought up in like a little off the cuff way,
and I didn't give it the space for it to
grow into a conversation that would have been something that
would have been valuable for all of us, because it
made me uncomfortable. Now that I've been through the process
of losing quite a few people in my life who
(35:30):
are either elderly or not even elderly, but just really
important people, I've realized that those conversations are not things
that we should shy away from. They're so valuable, and
you will regret not having them when they're not here.
You will regret that you thought they were going to
be here forever. And I wish i'd given my nun
and my papa and I feel everyone just like more
time to have those conversations.
Speaker 3 (35:51):
You guys might remember, I don't know how long agogo
it was six months ago. Maybe that could be way
out of touch, but I had a conversation on here
about how I'd gone up to put my quarry with
my family. I went to a football match with my
nana to watch my niece play football. She plays AFL
and Nana just like held her hand up, she goes,
which one of these do you want when I die?
And like it was her jewelry, and I was like Nana.
Speaker 1 (36:12):
I was like, which one's the biggest.
Speaker 2 (36:15):
I was like, Paul, tell me in order of expense. No,
But I was like what. I was like, no, Nana.
Speaker 3 (36:20):
I was like, we're not having this conversation here now.
She was like no, She's like, just just pick which
one you want.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
Your sister's already picked.
Speaker 2 (36:25):
She was like through shert under the bush. And I
was like, well, he on, what did she pick?
Speaker 1 (36:28):
I was like, why did you watch you have?
Speaker 2 (36:29):
But we ended up as much as I wanted to
say that's not going to happen.
Speaker 3 (36:33):
My Nana is eighty six, and I'm saying, yeah, I'll
have this one then, and I was like, she's brought
it up.
Speaker 2 (36:37):
She wants to have the conversation.
Speaker 3 (36:38):
And it was very my Nana would never sit in it,
very throwaway, like it was just a moment. I told
her what I'd have, which felt weird, but she wanted it,
and then we moved on. But I think going back
to this particular question, like this lady's question, there's one
part that didn't sit right with me, and I think like,
this is a delicate conversation a lot of the time,
and for her to say I did send my mother
(36:59):
in law a text with funeral home pre planning info.
That's pretty shitty to like just not be really having conversations.
Open your phone and is like, hey, just like here's
a funeral info of you, you know, out of the blue.
Speaker 1 (37:11):
All yeah.
Speaker 4 (37:13):
It's the way the moment that you get to have
which is like actually a sentimental or important moment where
you can unpack it together. It makes it very impersonal
and it's like here's your thing for you to plan
for you, rather than death being like a family experience
that everyone will go through together.
Speaker 3 (37:29):
But it's also very isolating, like you don't know where
your mother in law is in that moment, or you
don't know if she's with anyone.
Speaker 2 (37:34):
Imagine someone on their own opening.
Speaker 3 (37:36):
Up something and then having to face the idea that hey,
I am going to die soon and like fucking I
better go plan my death here now on my own
and pay for it. Like that's a pretty shitty moment.
I think that these conversations, as much as we laugh
and make a joke about it, obviously it's very serious
and we are joking. They are conversations and maybe your
family is gonna laugh about it. I know mine will
make a joke about it, because that's what they do.
(37:57):
But we will still get to the bottom of the conversation.
But yeah, it's it is really important to talk about
what you want because there's no worse feeling than when
a family member passes away and the unsurety were like,
hang on, do we cremate them or bury them?
Speaker 2 (38:10):
What did they want?
Speaker 5 (38:10):
Like?
Speaker 3 (38:11):
Because you want to honor them in that moment, and
if you haven't had the convot, it's like a pretty
confronting thing for you to feel, to be like, I
don't even know how they want to go.
Speaker 2 (38:18):
Well, it is time for suck and sweet our highlight
now low light, I will kick it off.
Speaker 3 (38:22):
My suck and my sweet are the same thing in
a way so effusing.
Speaker 2 (38:27):
Well, they're about Delilah.
Speaker 3 (38:28):
But my suck this week was Delilah got attacked by
a dog. She is okay, yeah, but it was like,
really scary.
Speaker 1 (38:34):
You've also got attacked by the dog.
Speaker 3 (38:36):
Well, yes, I would put my body on the line
for Delilah and I did, and the dog did buy
me multiple times.
Speaker 2 (38:42):
I did get savaged by a dog.
Speaker 3 (38:44):
But Delilah is fine, but she was really it was
really scary.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
Yeah, and she was so shaken up.
Speaker 3 (38:49):
So, yeah, that was my suck. And my sweet is
Delilah as well. Delilah has been on a couple of
weeks of intensive weight loss and she's at a really
good weight.
Speaker 2 (39:00):
Yeah, great news. So I know everyone's on the edge
of the seat. Will she won't she?
Speaker 1 (39:04):
She will?
Speaker 4 (39:05):
I'm really happy for her. I'm so glad she snatched
for summer.
Speaker 3 (39:10):
It's because and also our dog walk is he in
on it as well, like her dog walker.
Speaker 2 (39:14):
Harry and Beck, well they're also starving her out.
Speaker 3 (39:17):
No, but they also know. And Harry came back and
he's like, she's looking really good. He's like lean, He's
like lean, and me she's trimmed up.
Speaker 2 (39:23):
She's like, so, I she's look. I know it sounds
like I don't have much.
Speaker 1 (39:27):
She's the apple of.
Speaker 3 (39:28):
My eye and that she's her longevity is my phone.
Speaker 1 (39:32):
No, I relate to that so much.
Speaker 4 (39:33):
I mean, poor Buster, he thinks we are literally starving
him out every days.
Speaker 1 (39:37):
Like I am so thin, I'm wasting away. But we
took him to the like to the dentist. We took
him to the vet. The dentist said we couldn't feed
him anymore.
Speaker 4 (39:45):
We took him to the vet, and I think I
mentioned this on radio, but the vet was saying that
because he's because he's got three legs.
Speaker 2 (39:52):
And he was busy.
Speaker 4 (39:52):
He was yeah, one got chopped off when he was poppy.
Crazy story, he's got three legs. He was pretty fat,
like he's getting fat and like his mobility was really
slowing down, and he's lost so much weight.
Speaker 1 (40:04):
Now now I look at it and I'm like, but
you're so skinny. But he's also really fast.
Speaker 2 (40:09):
You should see how agilely is.
Speaker 1 (40:10):
I'm really runs fast when he's hungry.
Speaker 2 (40:13):
I'm really he's chasing those rabbits.
Speaker 3 (40:16):
I'm really toxic myself in this cycle because I get
her to this point, we've been here before, and then
since she has nachos again and we just go back
to where we were.
Speaker 2 (40:26):
It's a bit fluff. I'm just going to maintain it
this week and not give it the extra treats.
Speaker 4 (40:30):
My sack for the week is that I'm still pregnant,
so that's a suck. I'd love to go into labor
every day that every day that I'm not in labor
is a day that is a disappointment.
Speaker 3 (40:40):
But you're not even going to take time off anyway,
Like you say that you can't wait to have a
baby so I can have time off.
Speaker 2 (40:44):
You was just coming with the baby.
Speaker 4 (40:46):
Yeah, No, it's not about not being actually I'm joking.
It's actually got nothing to do with work. I'm just
really looking forward to one meeting this human and two
not actually being pregnant anymore.
Speaker 2 (40:54):
You know which one it's going to look like or
his own.
Speaker 4 (40:57):
It's going to be a mix of the both, because
like Lola and Maali so different and I reckon they're
gonna it's gonna be.
Speaker 2 (41:02):
Like a little hybrid algamation.
Speaker 4 (41:04):
Yeah, that's what that's what we're going for anyway. And
my sweet for the week it's very kid related. But
we had a kid's birthday party on the weekend. Jago,
love him, love their.
Speaker 1 (41:12):
Family, love them all.
Speaker 2 (41:13):
Rock climbing.
Speaker 1 (41:14):
We went rock climbing. We took the kids rock climbing,
And like, Mike, I.
Speaker 2 (41:17):
Didn't mean to tell your story then, but I know
other parents that went, so I.
Speaker 1 (41:19):
Know that you went rock climbing.
Speaker 2 (41:21):
They were like, we went rock climbing with.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
Nick Nicky and Eddie.
Speaker 4 (41:23):
Yeah, so we took the kids rock climbing, And sometimes
I think I underestimate my children, not intentionally, but I
underestimate where they're at in terms of their confidence.
Speaker 2 (41:31):
Like their capability as well.
Speaker 4 (41:33):
Yeah, and like I know that they're capable of it,
don't get me wrong, But more so I also know
that they're quite sensitive and like sometimes trying new things,
they'll do, they'll try it, they'll always try, but they
get wigged out really easily. And so Lula tried rock
climbing and she got a quarter of the way up
the wall and she was like scared, like it's so
high and they're holding on the deer life and I
(41:53):
was like, oh, fuck mate, we've just driven forty five
minutes and you're now not going.
Speaker 1 (41:57):
To do it.
Speaker 4 (41:57):
This is going to be the rest of the party. No,
she was literally in arms reach still. She barely made
it up the wall anyway, you know. Then she kind
of like her and Marley both they kind of observed
what the other kids were doing and then they gave
it a red hot crack afterwards, like they kind of
built the confidence up and they were so good at it,
like they.
Speaker 1 (42:15):
Was crazy good.
Speaker 2 (42:16):
And the spider Man up that one.
Speaker 4 (42:18):
Yeah, there wasn't there wasn't even any rocks to hold onto.
They just literally went up a wall. No, but it
was it was really cool. It was really cool to
see just how like the bravery that they have when
they feel like they're good at something. And I mean,
I can only imagine that climbing. Because the rock climbs
that they were doing are to the same height.
Speaker 1 (42:33):
As the adult ones. They're just obviously easier in terms
of handholds.
Speaker 4 (42:36):
So they were like so far off the ground and
they were just loving it and it was really cool.
So that was my That was my highlight. Plea say,
fucking yeah, go girls, you're a little rock climbers.
Speaker 2 (42:46):
Now, that's really cute. You'll never take them again.
Speaker 1 (42:48):
I know, I will rollers off soccer now. She hates it.
Now she wants to do rock climbing. I'm like, fuck,
here we are.
Speaker 2 (42:52):
I can tell you where one is. That's probably close up,
but not on red, not on air because no one cares. Guys,
that is it from us. Please. The number one thing
we can we need to start saying that it starting
up to day.
Speaker 4 (43:01):
The number one thing is to get my birthing playlist
together and then watch YouTube YouTube.
Speaker 3 (43:05):
Can you please go hit subscribe, follow along there's like shorts,
there's the whole long clips are on there, like it's
such a fun interactive experience where you get to sit
and watch it.
Speaker 2 (43:15):
But that is YouTube's really a focus for us.
Speaker 3 (43:17):
Is something that we really want to work on, and
the only way that we can work on it is
if you guys come.
Speaker 2 (43:21):
To the table and share subscribe friends.
Speaker 1 (43:24):
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share it with your friends, maybe they'll enjoy it too,
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