Some BIG Changes Are Coming 🇮🇹 & Maybe You're Feeling 'Time Sick'?

Hey lifers!

It was lovely seeing all of your spotify wrappeds and every year we are surprised by how much we are able to infiltrate your ears! We think they were sneaky with how they went about ‘assuming’ your age based on your listening and Laura wants it to be clear that she is a mum and the K Pop demon hunters wasn’t her.

We know that one time we kind of pulled your leg with a ‘Britt’s big life update’ but this time we actually do have a bit of a life update for you! We chat about all of the changes coming to the podcast next year! Please welcome the offcuts!

Britt has sat on telling us all a story for nearly 3 weeks because she’s so embarrassed. In her own words “I’ve done something really stupid” and look, we don’t disagree!

Laura has been sucked into a new hyperfixation after Black Friday sales that she’s mostly confused about and doubting the claims that you will see results in 8 weeks.

We’re 2 weeks away from Christmas and with it comes an avalanche of feelings and emotions!
Tanya Hennessy recently wrote an article titled “I’m homesick for a place I can’t go.” She has a recurring feeling of homesickness and restlessness, not necessarily for a place she grew up, but for a sense of “home” that she can’t define or return to.
We speak about experiencing this feeling even when we’re in our own home or with family, reflecting a kind of existential longing rather than literal nostalgia. We also chat about how our sense of ‘home’ has changed so much over the years and at times thinking about what it means now can feel confronting.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
This episode was recorded on Cameragle Land.

Speaker 2 (00:12):
Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life
one Cut.

Speaker 3 (00:14):
I'm Brittany and I'm Laura, and can I just say
it was nice seeing everyone's Spotify wraps over the last week.

Speaker 2 (00:22):
It really was. There are some proper diehards, That's what
I'll say.

Speaker 4 (00:26):
And every year it gets I was gonna say worse,
worse than it gets more like you guys get more
die hard, and.

Speaker 2 (00:31):
I love it.

Speaker 3 (00:32):
I didn't update my Spotify, so I didn't get one,
and then I had really bad fomo. But probably a
good thing because I think it would just be seventy
two thousand hours at the Wiggles so and or no
actually ca Pop Demon Hunters, and I don't think that
that's a true reflection of who I am.

Speaker 4 (00:45):
Hey, Pop demon I think was like one of the
biggest dreamed things of the year because even when the
kids weren't in the car, you find yourself putting on
K pop Demon Hunters.

Speaker 1 (00:52):
What am going to listen to now? Well, I've just
been conditioned.

Speaker 3 (00:55):
It's cap Pop Demon Hunters or Tailor Swift's new album.
That's my entire life, that's my whole identity.

Speaker 1 (00:58):
This year.

Speaker 5 (00:59):
I have a theory that you know, the age thing
where they like guessed what your age was. I have
a theory that they gave you either end of the
spectrum because they have all your data, they know how
old you actually are. Mine came out of seventy one,
and I was like what, No, And then I got
a lot of messages saying, well, you did vibe that
seventies playlist exactly did make sense.

Speaker 1 (01:15):
But yours came out of like twenty something.

Speaker 3 (01:17):
But that checks No, that checks out, And Brittany shared
it straight away and she was like, twenty five.

Speaker 1 (01:20):
By lots of age.

Speaker 4 (01:22):
I like my listening age the same as like my
men age twenty one Robert Earlin. No, it actually my
music taste checks out because I do listen to like
a lot of young I happy to say, a young
pop kind of stuff.

Speaker 3 (01:36):
I just wish Spotify was better at identifying, Oh you're
a mom, do you know what I mean? Like, because
I listened to some things that are actually the music
I want to listen to, and then ninety percent it's
the stuff that my kids want to listen to. So
I wish that Spotify, instead of just giving you an age,
it saw that you played Poopy bum Bum seven times
this year, and it was like, oh, you're a mum,
so just here you go your age?

Speaker 1 (01:55):
Who knows what your age is.

Speaker 3 (01:55):
I didn't update my Spotify so I didn't get a
wrap this year that also checks out.

Speaker 4 (02:00):
So Laura coded, She's like, my Spotify is My Spotify
is still on my fliphone.

Speaker 5 (02:04):
I'm just assuming that it would assume my age was
different to what it actually is because I have children.
But I think the faux outrage work mine just saying
undiagnosed ADHD.

Speaker 1 (02:12):
That's what mine comes out. It's like, what is your
Spotify wrap? Undiagnosed? So diagnose on Medicaid?

Speaker 2 (02:18):
Someone please diagnose and Medicaid?

Speaker 1 (02:20):
No please?

Speaker 2 (02:21):
That's my nearest resolution, my biggest wish for you.

Speaker 3 (02:25):
I'm happy in who I am living life with some
sort of like you know, unbalanced though for me, in fact,
I think you'll be happier.

Speaker 1 (02:36):
The whole ADHDS Where What the fuck? Laura wait?

Speaker 2 (02:41):
I relate to you a really good podcast series called cloud.

Speaker 1 (02:46):
I'm out of It?

Speaker 5 (02:47):
What's that fantastic about? Mini series on ADHD? Conversations that
are not that common about ADHD.

Speaker 3 (02:53):
Do you know what though some of you, guys I'll
most listen to, So I don't know what percentage you
went up to, but it was like the five percent
most listened two of Life on Cut, the zero point
one percent most listened to Life on Cut. Like if
you were a diehard lifer, Spotify told you, and I
saw one. I wish i'd screenshot it properly and actually
remembered everyone's name, so I deeply am sorry. But one
of them said eighteen thousand, three hundred and sixties. And

(03:14):
I came in this morning and I was like, oh
my god, guys, did you see the lifer who's listened
to eighteen thousand hours of Life on Cut? And Keisha
was like, no, did you see the lifer who listened
to thirty five thousand Wait, no, sorry, eight thirty eight
thousand hours and we just did the mass on it
so minutes. Sorry, fucking hate my.

Speaker 1 (03:32):
Life has that.

Speaker 3 (03:33):
And I know that ADHD medication.

Speaker 1 (03:37):
I've got the screenshot to it.

Speaker 5 (03:40):
Thirty eight thousand, nine hundred and forty five minutes. They
were a top zero point zero one percent fan.

Speaker 1 (03:47):
Okay, I did the mass on this.

Speaker 3 (03:49):
That person listened to Life on Cut listened to us
speaking for twenty six consecutive days, so twenty four hours
a day, non stop, twenty six days of their life.

Speaker 1 (04:00):
This year they listened to us.

Speaker 3 (04:01):
That is more than my husband has ever listened to
me in our seven year relationship.

Speaker 1 (04:05):
No, no, you know how to get at it.

Speaker 4 (04:07):
So I had a life of respond and say they
were like a pretty new life in.

Speaker 2 (04:11):
Terms of like the last twelve months.

Speaker 4 (04:12):
Ish, but they discovered us, and she said she has
two episodes left of our entire catalog. That is over
one thousand episodes and six years. She found us and
then was like I need every single episode. So she
has listened now to every single episode and as a
new discovery.

Speaker 2 (04:29):
So someone do those minutes.

Speaker 4 (04:31):
But those minutes are insane, like that person doesn't have
a job.

Speaker 2 (04:34):
Sure job, Yeah, I.

Speaker 5 (04:36):
Actually reckon those people would have listened to equal, if
not more than what I've listened to a life un
cut this year, and I have to listen to it
three times before it goes hang on.

Speaker 2 (04:44):
You don't have to get it's the difference you get.

Speaker 3 (04:48):
And we only pay you for one of those listens.
The rest is for the joy of it. No, honestly though,
thank you guys.

Speaker 1 (04:52):
So much.

Speaker 3 (04:52):
Just seeing all of your shares and your Spotify wraps
and seeing how many episodes and how many minutes you've
listened to the podcast this year, it is honestly insane.
Like every year it is, I mean every year it
comes as kind of like a surprise in terms of
like the volume that you guys listen to us, and
we are so grateful for you. And if you were
in our very top percentile, like if you were in

(05:13):
the in the upper echelons of Life Uncut, you received
a special video which confused everybody else in the Life
Uncut discussion group, but you received a special video which
we made that only went out like the top percentile
of listeners.

Speaker 1 (05:28):
And there was a little easter in that video. Dun, dun, dun,
Yes there was.

Speaker 4 (05:33):
Can we officially announce Joao Varda a viviera in Italia.

Speaker 1 (05:41):
That's what I've.

Speaker 4 (05:44):
Been practicing, Varo a Viviera in Italia.

Speaker 3 (05:47):
All of our Italian listeners just image subscribed.

Speaker 2 (05:52):
I'm moving to Italy. Okay, now let me wind it back.

Speaker 4 (05:58):
I am going to Italy officially, but I am coming
back every couple of months for work. So like as
much as I say, I'm going there, I will be
back sporadically.

Speaker 3 (06:07):
It's literally what you're doing now, but in reverse. Yes,
So right now, I base myself here.

Speaker 4 (06:11):
As you guys know, every couple of months I go
to see Ben, and that just it just wasn't flying anymore.

Speaker 2 (06:17):
Like I was flying. It wasn't flying.

Speaker 4 (06:19):
So I think I've seen him ten days since our
wedding in June. Like so we got married, we spent
two weeks together after It's now Christmas. It has been
six months and I've seen him for ten days, and
I was like, this actually can't work anymore. It was
fine the first year, it was okay the second year.
This is going into year four. Now I want to

(06:40):
spend more time with my husband. So we made the decision,
and we made it together. It wasn't just based off
that Laura and I. There are a lot of little things.

Speaker 2 (06:47):
Moving in life.

Speaker 4 (06:47):
She popped a baby out, we had some changes at work,
and we thought, why not just upheave our life and
make some big change.

Speaker 1 (06:54):
Like the internet's good these days.

Speaker 3 (06:55):
I mean, you guys probably remember if you've been with
the pod for long enough, I'll listen to it long enough.
When it went overseas to visit Jordan and then conveniently
got stuck and was able.

Speaker 1 (07:03):
To live her life during covid YA and I moved
into her apartment.

Speaker 2 (07:07):
Yeah, you, I just want to stop be here. I
just don't know if me talking about moving to my
husband finally is right to talk about my exit.

Speaker 1 (07:15):
Sorry, it was like and me making it about myself.

Speaker 2 (07:18):
I'm not making about my exit.

Speaker 1 (07:20):
It wasn't about him.

Speaker 3 (07:21):
It was about the fantastic fast internet that is accessible
in twenty twenty five and twenty twenty six, one would believe.
So we did the podcast by distance back then for
like almost six months of covid and like we've already
done it so many times in the past. So this
is the plan. But it's going to be moving over there.
Well we don't know exactly she's knowing. Then she's coming back.

Speaker 4 (07:42):
I'm going in ten days, but we're already on holiday,
so nothing changes. When I'm going to come back next
year to kick off the year here again, and then
I haven't worked it out yet, but every couple of
months I'll come back.

Speaker 2 (07:54):
But it's not in your ears. Nothing is changing. In fact,
it's only going.

Speaker 1 (07:58):
To get better.

Speaker 3 (08:02):
But ware But also the other thing that we want
to talk about. And I did see it kicking off
in the Facebook group last week. People were asking questions
and I think it's because we're actually knowing.

Speaker 1 (08:12):
About how you got fired.

Speaker 6 (08:13):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (08:13):
Yeah, it's because we made jokes about how we got fired,
and then we didn't actually give any context for that,
and then everyone was jumping to conclusions and I like
the jump. But one of the big changes that's happening
next year is we aren't doing the pick up. I
know we made jokes about it, but we aren't doing
the radio show next year.

Speaker 1 (08:27):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (08:27):
We did say we got fired a lot, which we
kind of did. We sort of just like we got fired. Sure,
we didn't really give any explanation.

Speaker 2 (08:35):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (08:35):
Well, the reason for that is is in order to
be able to continue to do the pick up, Britt
would have had to have stayed in the country and
I wouldn't have been able to take paternity leave until
at mid next year. The plan is is I'm I mean,
now I can actually spend time with the girls, and
Britt can go and spend time with Ben, and none
of those things were feasible if we were going to
do the pick up next year. So currently we're with iHeart,

(08:55):
which is like Aaron. I mean, this is probably a
little bit too much of the behind the scenes alt.

Speaker 1 (08:59):
You might not even know this.

Speaker 2 (09:00):
I don't think anyone even cares well.

Speaker 3 (09:01):
I mean they did in the Facebook group, so I
kind of want to like give the explanation to it.
So we are currently with AARN. The only thing that
AARN does though, for us is that they sell the
ad space.

Speaker 1 (09:11):
So we own lafe On cart. It is our podcast.

Speaker 5 (09:13):
We make the decisions, ness and I work for Britain, Laura,
not for any company.

Speaker 3 (09:18):
Yeah, and we have full creative control over the content
that we create and we will continue to do so.
The only thing that we lean on the support for
is to you know, so that you guys every so
often when there's an AD in the episode. That is
so that we can concentrate on the creative and there's
someone else who takes care of ad sales. We're moving
across to Listener, which is just a different platform.

Speaker 1 (09:37):
It would be no different to you. Nothing will change.

Speaker 3 (09:40):
The only thing that's going to change is the fact
that Brittany will wake up eating croissons and we will
still be in Sydney.

Speaker 2 (09:45):
The h Benny's like beside himself excited. He just he
just can't wait. And even though it's not I'm still
going to be.

Speaker 4 (09:51):
Coming back all the time. It's still going to be
very transient. We're still going to be away from each other,
but pretty big blocks I'm really looking forward to, like
the boring stuff they're like watching TV together, like going
for a walk together, the stuff that seems like so mundane,
but we just don't get to do it. These last
six months since we got married and has been really
tough because we've wanted to be together more than ever

(10:13):
because we're newly married and it's been the longest we've
been apart, and it wasn't intentional, it's just work.

Speaker 2 (10:18):
Has just been like but also.

Speaker 3 (10:20):
I mean, the only other thing I want to say
on this is like, obviously nothing changes for the podcast
because and what we're trying to communicate is we have
control over that.

Speaker 1 (10:27):
The thing we don't have control over.

Speaker 3 (10:29):
Is the radio side of things, and the radio side
of things is the most restrictive I know. I kept
saying like I'm going to have more maternally this year.
The one thing I can take more maternally from is
from radio. And now that's a possibility, so I am
able to kind of like scale down and work until
at least mid year next year.

Speaker 1 (10:45):
Yeah, so it's worked for both of us.

Speaker 3 (10:47):
I don't want you to think that it's just been
this decision that had to be made because you want
to go overseas brick. Yeah. Yeah, it worked really well
for both of us and where we're at in life.
So anyway, long story short, nothing changes and we will
be continuing. So like you guys know that the pick
up episode goes into the podcast, we will still have
an episode on that Sunday dropping it is going Saturday morning.
We on the Saturday because Keisha edits ye Saturday morning

(11:10):
eight o'clock every Saturday morning, and we will have that
episode going and so it's going to be similar, but
at least it's probably gonna feel more like the podcast
now because we don't have to abide by all the
rules of radio, and you know, we don't have to
refer to each other seventeen times in a break just
in case someone doesn't know who we are, and continuity
of a new listener.

Speaker 4 (11:27):
But also listen to this strappiness. Some of our finest work.
The episode is called the off Cuts.

Speaker 2 (11:35):
Oh, that's good, right.

Speaker 3 (11:37):
I came up with it than I will sad kishast
for a reason.

Speaker 4 (11:41):
I was talking to the listeners that is good, like
that is a good episode title.

Speaker 1 (11:46):
It's basically going to be It's life Uncut.

Speaker 5 (11:49):
So my thought was, like the off cuts, the bit
that kind of maybe made it to the cutting room
floor that was a little bit unhinged or a little
bit like nokes it big enough to you know, put
into the main episode is like a big, deep unpack.
Could just be something that's going on in the world.
We're going to package up these little kind of.

Speaker 1 (12:06):
I don't know.

Speaker 5 (12:06):
It's gonna be a little bit of like a conversational
shit talk, and I think it's perfect for a weekend.

Speaker 1 (12:10):
Yeah, and it's also great.

Speaker 3 (12:11):
I mean, it's similar to what we do now where
they're mini breaks, they're discussing something or a topic. Most
of them will be lighthearted and fun things happening in
the world, happening in pop culture, and it's it is
going to be a snackable little episode that is dropping
in your feeds on a Saturday morning.

Speaker 1 (12:26):
No no, no, no, just for those the noomies, just just
no no, no, no, no, no.

Speaker 4 (12:29):
No no no that's we want you to wake up
on a Saturday and go no, no, your pissant and then.

Speaker 1 (12:33):
No no, no no mom.

Speaker 3 (12:35):
Anyway, that was like a really big unpack of what's
happening next year.

Speaker 1 (12:38):
It's a fucking big year, guys. It's gonna be great.

Speaker 3 (12:40):
Strap on in Bob thirty eight thousand minutes of listening hours.

Speaker 4 (12:44):
So I can I also can we just say I
genuinely think we need to make this. But we were
making the joke the other week about life on Cut Bingo,
like some life is over the years. Every year they
come in and they say, at this time of year,
hey let's do a life I Cut Bingo. If somebody
says something a lot, yeah, it really galvanizes us. I
think we should do it.

Speaker 2 (13:05):
Yours was galvanized and triangulate.

Speaker 1 (13:07):
Please. Yeah the thing I got told me this year.

Speaker 4 (13:09):
So then I had a life of Rightchel yesterday and
was like, I know what your one is about.

Speaker 2 (13:15):
If there was going to be Britney.

Speaker 1 (13:16):
Bingo, yours is it's wild.

Speaker 2 (13:18):
Well that's a good one, but that's not it.

Speaker 1 (13:21):
She said.

Speaker 2 (13:21):
Every time you say and it has to be said
like this, Sorry, do.

Speaker 1 (13:29):
You know another one? I think for you.

Speaker 5 (13:31):
So, here's what I want to say, Here's what I
want to say. I'm like just saying, oh, that's Laura.

Speaker 1 (13:37):
No, there's another one that Laura. No, there's one more.

Speaker 3 (13:40):
The reason why it's interesting is, yeah, it's to start
every sentence, we're not really sure we're saying it.

Speaker 1 (13:46):
It's actually not that because Laura's is.

Speaker 2 (13:48):
Can I just say that's.

Speaker 1 (13:49):
Laura's all right, guys, let's sound les move on anyway.

Speaker 4 (13:52):
Sorry, okay, hang on, sorry, I do need to tell
you something. I battled with whether to say this or
not for last week or two.

Speaker 2 (14:00):
I have been sitting on it for about ten days.
I did something really dumb.

Speaker 4 (14:08):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (14:09):
I hate that you've kept this because you thought you
had some dignity and then you were scraping the bottom
of the barrel for content. This is what's happened. I
know exactly what's gone on in your brain. Every week
you've had something to talk about, and then now this
week you've got like, fuck, i've got nothing. Oh, I guess,
and you've emotionally dealt with whatever it is that you've
gone through and you're like, it's okay, now it's content
for the pod.

Speaker 6 (14:28):
No, there was a few reasons.

Speaker 2 (14:30):
I didn't want to say it's a little bit of that.
I'm not gonna lie.

Speaker 1 (14:34):
Drat it's prett drat the end of the year.

Speaker 3 (14:36):
Uh No.

Speaker 4 (14:37):
But I checked it by Ben and because I didn't
know if he would want me to say it, checked
my band and he was fine with it. And Cleaire,
our friends who I spent a lot of time, was like,
you need to.

Speaker 2 (14:45):
Say it anyway. Whatever, I'm just gonna say. I obviously
do like influence work and I do stuff online. Do
you well, I'm trying this is you need to understand it.

Speaker 4 (14:53):
And we never really talk about it on here, but
I have to talk about it because otherwise it doesn't
make sense to the story. And so recently I worked
with Quantests where we did like a big giveaway online
for Quantus points and now this might be interesting to people,
it might not be, but I didn't earn money from that.
They don't pay me to do that. They just say,

(15:13):
are you interested in promoting this, We'll give you some
points as your payment.

Speaker 2 (15:17):
Like that's just how it works.

Speaker 4 (15:18):
That's the exchange, just not a monetary exchange. And I
was like, yeah, cool, I fly a lot and you guys,
I fly like ten times a year. It is so expensive.
So I was like, yes, great, I'll get some points
that will.

Speaker 1 (15:29):
Help remember that time you upgraded to first class. That's
best point.

Speaker 6 (15:33):
You guys know.

Speaker 4 (15:33):
I've used all my points and Ben's points for upgrading
first class accidentally.

Speaker 2 (15:38):
And if you don't know that story, go back and
find it.

Speaker 1 (15:40):
So I do the job.

Speaker 4 (15:43):
And then in my notes app on my phone, because
I fly so much and I always have and I
just have a bad memory, I have one page of
notes where I've got everything to do with flying on
one page, and it's all my different membership numbers and
frequent fly numbers and sky Its numbers depending on what airline.
Then I've got Bends on there in case I'm using his.

(16:04):
So it's in one notes page and it starts with
my Quantus frequent flyer and then it goes down into
like different numbers. And so for years, every time I
go and book a flight, I go into my notes app,
copy and paste what I need, put it into the flight,
get on with my life. So I've done this job,
and then Quantus message me and they say, thank you
so much, send.

Speaker 2 (16:24):
Us over your frequent flyer number. We'll put it in,
We'll load up your points.

Speaker 4 (16:27):
I was like, bingo, go into my notes app, copy
my freaking flyer, send it over to them. The next
day I get a message from Quantus Brittany, just wanted
to check that you that was the right frequent fly
that you wanted to send all your points to.

Speaker 2 (16:38):
I said, yeah, for sure. They're like, okay, nothing.

Speaker 4 (16:41):
The next day, just doubly want to check that you
really want to send these points to that frequent flyer.

Speaker 2 (16:48):
And I went back and checked, cross checked. I was like,
check my notes.

Speaker 4 (16:51):
Up, went and cross checked to the what I sent them,
and I was like, yeah, Like it's just not coming
up under your name.

Speaker 2 (16:58):
I was like, that's weird. I was like, what, I've
been using that frequent flyer fly a lot. I've been
using that frequent fly for four years. I was like,
what names are coming up under? I said, Jordan Thompson.

Speaker 6 (17:17):
How many points have you sent him four years?

Speaker 1 (17:22):
Wow?

Speaker 6 (17:23):
Wow?

Speaker 1 (17:23):
I feel sick.

Speaker 6 (17:24):
I reckon.

Speaker 1 (17:25):
He's grateful, do you reckon? He's like, Brittany, I fucking
get it. You've got another international partner, no idea.

Speaker 3 (17:33):
He would have no idea and no one ever checks them, right,
But like, oh, I mean most people don't check them.

Speaker 4 (17:37):
No, he would have no idea because he flies every
week of the year, so he's accumulating his points anyway.

Speaker 2 (17:42):
I have given him every thousands of my four years.

Speaker 3 (17:48):
My question is, can you call him and ask for
them back? I just you're a transfer. I know you
haven't spoken in a lite. Have something I want back?

Speaker 2 (17:55):
I'm real guide.

Speaker 4 (17:57):
I feel sick saying I nearly died and I just thought,
oh my god. I wrote back to on Straw Why
I said, this is a sick joke. They were like,
this is not a joke. And I said, do not
send him any more points. And I was like, I
need to confirm my number, and I was I was
just I was like, why four years?

Speaker 1 (18:11):
Four years?

Speaker 4 (18:11):
So i'd obviously and I remembered when I started dating him,
I didn't fly a lot, I didn't have a frequent flyer.

Speaker 1 (18:17):
You gave him your points back then?

Speaker 4 (18:19):
No, so he was obviously booking with his points, and
I've obviously written his frequent flyer down in my notes.

Speaker 1 (18:25):
SAT.

Speaker 3 (18:25):
No, but you're okay, sorry, hold on, The frequent flyer
has to relate to the to the ticket, so you
shouldn't be able to go back.

Speaker 1 (18:33):
You can put it on anyone any you can.

Speaker 2 (18:35):
You can use any frequent fly on any ticket, can you.

Speaker 5 (18:37):
Yes, I've had like other companies book my flights, but
they will put the points on mine.

Speaker 2 (18:42):
Yeah, Bennett, you can share, you can share points. You
can use anyone's point.

Speaker 3 (18:46):
I thought it was a case not an ad, dude,
if there's any non ad. I thought it was a
case that if you if you book a fly, you
can't take someone else's points you could have. You've got
to put the frequent flyer down that relates to the person.

Speaker 2 (18:59):
I can tell you that's not true. I've just done
it for four years.

Speaker 5 (19:02):
Let's just have a little check of that. Would you
like meet a message Juden for you.

Speaker 1 (19:06):
He'll hear it from me.

Speaker 2 (19:07):
It'll go in somewhere anyway.

Speaker 4 (19:09):
I didn't want to tell Ben. Part of me was like,
he's he's going to be mad?

Speaker 3 (19:14):
Is he?

Speaker 4 (19:14):
Like?

Speaker 2 (19:14):
I didn't know, and I don't know why. I just thought, imagine, No,
sometimes you do things.

Speaker 5 (19:18):
That are so stupid that you're like, I actually am
just gonna take the embarrassment myself.

Speaker 1 (19:22):
I don't want anyone else to know about this.

Speaker 5 (19:24):
It's like when you have to do a really simple
mess someone calculator.

Speaker 2 (19:27):
And I think it's also because we spend so much
money flying to each other.

Speaker 4 (19:33):
Knowing that like all the benefits of that have gone
to an X is fucking wild.

Speaker 2 (19:37):
Anyway, I didn't want to tell him.

Speaker 1 (19:39):
He knows now.

Speaker 4 (19:41):
This is this is also what happens in my brain, right,
this just happened. And like then two hours later, I'm
on the phone to Bend and in my head, I
was like, I can never bring this up, but I.

Speaker 2 (19:48):
Can't keep a secret.

Speaker 1 (19:50):
And I was like, better, I had to tell you something.

Speaker 2 (19:51):
Anyway, I told him.

Speaker 1 (19:52):
He thought it was hilarious. He's like, Babe, accidents happen.

Speaker 4 (19:55):
He's like he didn't and I was like, you don't
care at all. He's like no, He's like he's like sure,
it's not ideal.

Speaker 1 (20:01):
It's like.

Speaker 4 (20:03):
He's like, you've used all my points on first class
and you've given every point you've earned to your ex.

Speaker 2 (20:06):
And I was like, I'm so sorry.

Speaker 1 (20:08):
I was like, it's so Brittany Codd.

Speaker 2 (20:10):
Anyway, it was that was what I did. So it's
rectified now, and I thought I'm going to take this
to the grave. And then I thought fuck it.

Speaker 3 (20:17):
I'm just going to feel like I'm drive for content
this week, So I'm gonna tell his public service announcement.

Speaker 2 (20:21):
But he Jordan wouldn't even know.

Speaker 3 (20:22):
No, of course he wouldn't, But I'm glad he does
now because you don't want him to get I don't
want him to skip through life thinking that.

Speaker 1 (20:27):
He hurt that when he didn't.

Speaker 3 (20:28):
Yeah, that could be I mean to be fair, that
would have come through as an ass gun cut at
some point and someone would have said, can I ask
my ex for them back?

Speaker 1 (20:35):
The answer is no, No, No, you can't. You really can't.
That is a bend. That's a gratuitous gift.

Speaker 4 (20:40):
Then did say why don't you try and get them back?
I was like, doesn't it doesn't work like that, You don't.
They're like, He's like, you could tell Quantus what you've done.

Speaker 2 (20:47):
I was like, Quantas doesn't care.

Speaker 3 (20:48):
Quantus doesn't care that I've given my points to my ex,
Like they could not care less.

Speaker 2 (20:53):
But I would have given hundreds of thousands of points.

Speaker 1 (20:56):
Yeah, that's a rus shame. I'm sorry that that happened
to you.

Speaker 2 (20:59):
Dude, what's wrong with me?

Speaker 5 (21:01):
Oh?

Speaker 2 (21:01):
Anyway, you're welcome.

Speaker 3 (21:04):
Well, last week you guys might remember we were talking
about Black Friday and we were talking about the Impulse
Purchasers because the AD's got me good on a few things. Firstly, pants,
do you like them? Shoes also great? Sure, it is weird.

Speaker 2 (21:16):
It's weird to see you in shoes.

Speaker 4 (21:17):
For people that don't know Laura either has no shoes
on or she has open toes shoes.

Speaker 2 (21:21):
You're not a closed shoe person.

Speaker 3 (21:22):
I'm not.

Speaker 6 (21:23):
I'm not.

Speaker 3 (21:23):
But I bought these for ninety nine dollars during Black
Friday sales and I bought them in multiple colors, and
every single day Matt's been like, can you please wear
those shoes that you bought. He's really into them. I
think he has a kink for these kind of shoes.

Speaker 4 (21:34):
It probably has a kink for clean feet wear some shoes.

Speaker 3 (21:41):
Now that you say that, possibly no. The only problem
with wearing clothes shoes. I wonder if anyone else feels
like this. I feel as though I'm trapped, like I
feel like my feet are being hugged. And it's a
real weird sensory thing because I always wear.

Speaker 5 (21:52):
You know how he spoke about, come on, come on,
Those sensory things can be a real thing.

Speaker 3 (21:59):
Yeah, I just feel like my foot is being hugged
the whole time, and then I can feel that my
feet in between my toes is sweaty.

Speaker 1 (22:04):
Anyway, it's really sweet.

Speaker 3 (22:05):
Where I meant Mum's spaghetti, spaghetti's varmad ono's shoulder already sweater.

Speaker 1 (22:10):
Whatever she did, the mumbs she did when there's a kid.

Speaker 3 (22:15):
Okay, So the one thing I did receive I bought
online this radio frequency lead light. It does everything, cavitation, sculpting.
It's meant to sculpt your body. Okay, Oh, you got
sucked in.

Speaker 1 (22:27):
I got sucked it.

Speaker 3 (22:28):
It was it was I'd had a few wines. I'm
not gonna lie, and I really didn't look at the price.
It was thirty percent off and it was wildly expensive.
It's kind of like you know those lead light masks,
and they're all really expensive, but everyone seems to get one.

Speaker 1 (22:43):
Don't already have one. I have one of those and
I don't use it, but I'm definitely going to use
this one. Okay. This was my this is my thought process.
So I bought this thing and it looks petrifying.

Speaker 3 (22:53):
It's like it's a round disc thing that you rub
over your body and my postpartum feels got me good.

Speaker 1 (23:00):
Okay, I was feeling a little bit insecure.

Speaker 2 (23:01):
That's what they get, your vulnerability.

Speaker 3 (23:03):
Yeah, it's like my Facebook ads knew that I was postpartum.
It knew that I have a little bit of loose
skin on my stomach, and it was like, you know what,
she's gonna want this radio frequency tool.

Speaker 1 (23:12):
So I got it. It arrived. Of course, I charged
it up and I used it for the first time.

Speaker 3 (23:16):
Last night, and I'm ninety nine percent convinced it does
absolutely nothing.

Speaker 1 (23:20):
Like I think it is. Just it's like a Christmas
tree light that I'm rubbing.

Speaker 2 (23:24):
On my body.

Speaker 1 (23:25):
He's going to bring it in.

Speaker 2 (23:26):
I need to see it.

Speaker 3 (23:27):
But having said that, it lights up with three different colors.
Genuinely you could put it on top of the tree
as a star. So I got it, and you've got
this like activating gel. And I put the activating gel
on and I was like, oh, I feel a bit scared.
Like I was like, fuck, it's gonna like zap me
or something. It's gonna do something. Nothing, it looks like
it does something, and I like lowered it down, scared,

(23:48):
and then I put it on my stuff is nothing zero,
not even a buzz, not even a warmth.

Speaker 1 (23:52):
Sure like yep, all the flashing lights would have would
have indicated it was on. And so I did it.

Speaker 3 (23:58):
And you meant to do like ten minutes per body part,
and the body parts only about this big that is
ours of you meant to use at three to four
times a week.

Speaker 1 (24:05):
We all know I'm going to pike out after the
first week. So I used it.

Speaker 3 (24:09):
I use it on my stomach and I used it
on my ass. And I did that laying in bed
last night whilst Poppy was asleep.

Speaker 1 (24:13):
And that took you a week. That's where she's been.

Speaker 2 (24:18):
How she keeps me like, can't come in today's She's
doing radio frequency in her arm.

Speaker 1 (24:23):
What did you do on your material radio frequency?

Speaker 3 (24:27):
I cavitated my ass, So okay, so I did this.
Did my stomach didn't feel anything completely?

Speaker 2 (24:35):
You're like, where's my six pack?

Speaker 3 (24:37):
I know it's like going at the gym once and
then you look at yourself in the mirror afterwards and
you're like, did it work.

Speaker 2 (24:43):
We've all been there.

Speaker 1 (24:44):
But I woke up this morning.

Speaker 3 (24:45):
I had the weirdest stomach pains and I'm not sure
whether I just scrambled my insides and didn't know about it.

Speaker 1 (24:50):
Like, does that what the radio frequency does?

Speaker 4 (24:51):
Radio frequency is really good when hurst No, it needs
to be on the right frequency, It needs to have
the right power source, needs heaps of stuff.

Speaker 2 (24:59):
But like, radio frequenc is a real thing.

Speaker 1 (25:00):
Shure, radio waves like what we all communicate on. Like
I think your phone and stuff that goes on radio waves.

Speaker 2 (25:08):
Is really good for tightening. Trust me, I've had it.

Speaker 1 (25:10):
Should I rub my phone on my stomach? No, that
had been better.

Speaker 2 (25:12):
Should I massvade my phone?

Speaker 1 (25:14):
We've all tried that as well.

Speaker 2 (25:17):
You're such a sego that literally is anyway.

Speaker 1 (25:23):
I tried. I try, guys, and I don't give up yet.
How long should I try for?

Speaker 2 (25:28):
How long does it say on the phone send me
the product so I can see it me.

Speaker 3 (25:31):
It's one of those infuriating things where it says you
won't see any changes for up to eight weeks and
you have to use it three to four times a week.

Speaker 1 (25:38):
It's just such a time investment. Then no one actually
has so they know that you're never going to follow
the rules and that way, like you're never going to
get the results.

Speaker 3 (25:45):
So when you email them and say this doesn't work.
They'd be like, well, did you use it for seventeen
hours every did you use it as frequently as that
person listened to your podcast?

Speaker 4 (25:53):
I bought that thing we spoke about on the podcasts,
but I bought that thing that was similar and it's
a base thing. And I got sucked into an ad
as well, and supposed to like it's supposed to be
some kind of r everything and you're supposed to push
it up your face.

Speaker 2 (26:04):
And it sculps and a tightened fucking use it once.

Speaker 4 (26:06):
And I was like, who's using you to do with
this stuff? Like why would you remember that massage that
I bought and I vibed on the podcast?

Speaker 1 (26:12):
Stop it? Do you stop using it?

Speaker 2 (26:13):
It just sits on my lounge.

Speaker 1 (26:15):
I use it when I come to your head.

Speaker 2 (26:16):
I've almost started using it now as it just belongs there.

Speaker 1 (26:19):
But I don't.

Speaker 2 (26:20):
It just that's where it lives.

Speaker 4 (26:22):
It just lives it.

Speaker 6 (26:23):
It's like a meter long.

Speaker 2 (26:24):
It's a big black snake thing an ornaments.

Speaker 3 (26:27):
I'm worried that this is going to become like I
put it next to the bed with the intention that
I'm going to try and use it every night for
ten minutes.

Speaker 1 (26:34):
But I am not convinced it's doing anything.

Speaker 3 (26:36):
It's not even particularly relaxing because it's so the lights
flash so much that it could induce epilepsy.

Speaker 1 (26:42):
And I just, yeah, it's it's such a time waste.

Speaker 2 (26:44):
You're better off. And I'm not saying this.

Speaker 1 (26:47):
Poppy was laying in the bed next to me. It
was like it was like a disco, like.

Speaker 2 (26:50):
A silent anything. You're better off spending your time.

Speaker 4 (26:54):
If you're going to be using twenty minutes of that,
you better off to get on your bike for twenty minutes.
And I'm not saying that you need you, but like,
if you're going to weigh up the two things laying
down and rubbing that fucking thing on your gurlly or
getting on a bike for twenty minutes, get on the bike.

Speaker 3 (27:05):
Yeah I know, but it's nice to do something that's
not exercise and that promises you the same outcome.

Speaker 4 (27:11):
When I go to pilate's my favorite part at the
end is when you just lay on the bed and meditator.

Speaker 2 (27:16):
Yesterday she had to be like, Brittany, you're the last
one here, it's time to go. I was like, I
just didn't want to get up. I was just laying
down sleeping. She's like, no, you actually need to leave, dear.

Speaker 1 (27:24):
Yeah, look, I am the problem anyway. Don't buy it.
I'm not gonna vibe it. I don't want to see
the brand because I don't want to like Pooh pooh something.

Speaker 2 (27:30):
I'd love you to send it to me so I
can just see what it is.

Speaker 1 (27:34):
Really good. Really, Yeah, I even bought two.

Speaker 4 (27:36):
I bought one of what so you can do both
the same time, so you do in your buttthole at
the same time.

Speaker 3 (27:41):
Not the same exact one. I bought a different version
of something similar that does something else.

Speaker 1 (27:47):
What does it do? Tell me it sucks?

Speaker 2 (27:50):
What you bought a clip?

Speaker 1 (27:51):
Sucker?

Speaker 2 (27:51):
What did you buy it? Tell me what you bought?

Speaker 1 (27:55):
It sucks? It's for cell your light, Okay. I bought
two things. I bought one that's meant to be Forskidas.

Speaker 2 (28:00):
Cell you light last year.

Speaker 1 (28:01):
I did not use that one either. You vibed it
a couple of weeks ago. The silicon thing, what you no? No,
I no, I unsubscribed from that. That was an unsubscribed
That was absolutely not a vis. Sorry I got confusured.

Speaker 3 (28:10):
Yeah, any guys, I'm the problem. I should not, but
this is okay, hear me out. The reason why it
happens is because it's late at night. I'm by myself,
and I'm breastfeeding, and.

Speaker 1 (28:19):
I'm on the internet. It is a dangerous combination.

Speaker 3 (28:23):
And so literally Meta sees like a woman in her
late thirties is scrolling the internet at four am and like, oh,
your postpartum you have insecurities.

Speaker 1 (28:33):
Here's there's light persuction, cellur lighte and skin tightening. The shit.

Speaker 3 (28:37):
I get targeted in the middle and the wee hours
of the night time and they're like quick BUYE in
the next hour and you can get it with thirty
percent off, and I'm like, well, I'm only gonna be
awake for twenty five minutes, so I better go.

Speaker 4 (28:46):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (28:46):
I don't mean to suck the fun out of this,
but a conversation that I really wanted to have on
the podcast this year, it was a couple of months ago,
had to do with the flow apps selling all.

Speaker 1 (28:54):
Of your data to Meta.

Speaker 5 (28:56):
So this literally was proven. They've had to pay fines,
They've had to be very big fines. They sold the
data that you input into the flow app, which is
a period tracking app, and They're not the only one
who does it, so I'm not like pointing the necessarily.

Speaker 1 (29:10):
No, it's not a conspiracy. They've been fined in court. No,
they sold the data so Meadow would know.

Speaker 5 (29:15):
And what part of your cycle you're at when you're
gonna be feeling like you want to exercise, when you're
going to be feeling insecure, like you've got breakouts.

Speaker 2 (29:22):
When you're emotional cooked?

Speaker 1 (29:24):
Well, this is okay. So I am just a victim everyone,
That's what I am. I am you are a victim
to one.

Speaker 4 (29:31):
You're also a victim to beauty standards. That's something we're
also talking about soon on the podcast.

Speaker 2 (29:35):
You know what we can do, We.

Speaker 1 (29:39):
Just turn it into a Christmas orniment. Now you've got
a flashing light every December. Yeah, we unfortunately don't have
a topp of for the tree yet.

Speaker 3 (29:46):
So if they do, give it one week and I'm
going to stick the shiny little disco ball up there.

Speaker 1 (29:52):
We're only two.

Speaker 3 (29:52):
Weeks away from Christmas at the moment, don't we are?
Fourteen more days of Elf on the shelf? Everyone I know,
isn't it weird? I don't know if you guys feel this,
And I know we're about to unpack something. But it
does not feel like Christmas to me at all.

Speaker 1 (30:05):
But that's also because you're at home, you're alone with
your dog.

Speaker 4 (30:09):
There's no Christmas tree. I went to tinsel my fiddle
leaf tree. It died again, the one Keysha brought back
to last.

Speaker 1 (30:14):
She didn't really die.

Speaker 2 (30:16):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (30:16):
I went away on the weekend when it was scorching
heat and it was outside.

Speaker 1 (30:20):
He was fried.

Speaker 4 (30:21):
You murdered it, You murdered I didn't, but global warming did,
all right to climate change is real. And I came
back and the poor little thing had been in the
sun for two days. And who thought that could happen
in two days?

Speaker 3 (30:31):
Well I would with a fiddle feet because you can't
trust those bastards.

Speaker 1 (30:34):
They'll kill over the Actually particularly he's an asshole.

Speaker 2 (30:38):
That's only because you already killed it.

Speaker 3 (30:39):
Okay, back on track, Okay. I came across an article
that I wanted to unpack with you guys. Tanya Hennessy.
She is a contributor for Body and Soul. We love Tanya.
She's been on the podcast. She's having a baby on
Christmas Day? Well is it Christmas Day? She's due Christmas Day.
We've actually unpacked a couple of things that she's written
for Body and Soul. She wrote the whole article around
the catch up trap and friendships. She's just written a

(31:02):
new article and it's titled I'm homesick for a place
I can't go. I am time sick, and I wanted
to read the little the start of this for you.
I have been feeling particularly restless coming into the festive season.
I've had this overwhelming feeling of homesickness lately, like I've
been searching tirelessly and endlessly for home and I can't
find it. It's not my parents' house. It's not a
hotel in Dubai with the water slide.

Speaker 1 (31:23):
I check their twice.

Speaker 3 (31:24):
It does feel pretty nice, though, It's not in Bathist
where I went to UNI. And it's not my house
no matter how much I move.

Speaker 1 (31:30):
So where is it?

Speaker 3 (31:31):
Why can't I find home? I keep wanting to run
to it when things get stressful and intense, but I can't.
No matter how hard I look or how much I travel,
I can't find it. So why am I even longing
for home when it seemingly doesn't exist. I've looked everywhere.
Then I realized this month after all this searching. I
am not homesick for a place. I'm homesick for a time.

(31:52):
I am timesick. I found this really interesting because I
think when we talk about Christmas and we talk about
what makes something feel special and magical, it's not so
much where it is that you spend it or what
is that you're doing, it's the people that you're spending
it with. And I think that that changes as we
age and our family dynamics change, or depending on where

(32:12):
you're at in your life. I know for me, losing
family members has really changed how Christmas feels. And I
think when I read this, I really resonated with this
idea that sometimes we can look back on different points
in our life with this real fondness. And even though
now I have my own family and we have our
own kids, Christmas feels so different and it's a time

(32:34):
where I guess it's not just the magical joy, but
it has a lot of complex feelings around it.

Speaker 4 (32:39):
But I imagine for you, Laura, home for you feels
like literal home because you've got the kids there, and
you have Matt there, and you have Matt's mum there.
And I tell me, if I'm wrong. But do you
feel like that You come home and you're like, yeah,
I feel stable here, I feel secure here. This is
my place because for me, when I read this, I
was trying to place myself and.

Speaker 1 (32:58):
I was like, OK, hey, there is home.

Speaker 2 (32:59):
What is home for me? Yeah? What is home? Who
is home? What is the feeling? Where do I find it?

Speaker 4 (33:04):
And I it was really hard, It was actually quite confronting.
I couldn't put my finger on it. I don't really
feel like I have it anymore. My home will always
be my family, Like that's a very I don't want
to say, an obvious statement, but for me, it's an
obvious statement, not for everybody, but for me, Like I
have a wonderful family, but it's not my true home.
It's my home of nostalgia, like that is the place

(33:25):
I grew up and the people that formulated all of
those memories. But for now, right now, I live alone
in a city with no family, and then my parents
live five hours away, and my sister lives ten hours away,
and my husband lives in another continent.

Speaker 2 (33:40):
I feel really, I don't want to say lost.

Speaker 4 (33:43):
Lost might be a bit extreme, but I don't feel
like I have that feeling anywhere.

Speaker 1 (33:48):
Like I'm misplaced almost in a weird way.

Speaker 4 (33:50):
And I hope no one listens to this and is
offended in terms of my family and this is gonna
sound fucking crazy.

Speaker 2 (33:56):
In a weird way, Delilah.

Speaker 4 (33:59):
Feels like my home, my dog, and I say that
because she's the only thing in my life that is
with me and there every day and gives me a
form of love. And you know that's not found. Everyone
gives me love. You guys know what I'm trying to say.
But for me, I have such a transient life that
I was really confronted with my own feelings and thoughts
and reality when I read Tanyas And she's such a
brilliant writer, but when I read it, I was like, fuck,

(34:21):
where is that? Because even when I'm with Ben, who's
obviously my husband, my best friend, love of my life,
when I'm with Ben, I'm still not quite home because
I'm on the outside of the world from my family
and my dog and my friends, and so it's like
I'm always feeling that torn feeling.

Speaker 5 (34:34):
I also think that there's a weird thing that you're
touching on in it. It's like that sense of belonging
when you have a hometown and if you are someone
who has moved away from that hometown. I moved away
when I was eighteen. I've spent a couple of years
back there in between, but mostly for my whole adult life,
I haven't been there. And there's a weird point, and
I don't actually know when the shift happens, but it's

(34:54):
when you start referring to home and it being the
town that you're actually living in rather than your hometown.
And so for me, I would always say like, I'm
going home for Christmas. I'm going home for Christmas, and
then at one point it became I'm going back to
Newcastle for Christmas. And I don't really know because for
some reason, I almost feel as though I don't belong

(35:15):
to Newcastle anymore, Like I'm not sure if I'm explaining that. Well,
it's a bit like there's a sadness to it, but
it's also that I feel as though I've grown into
such a different person to who I was when I
was back there, and so it doesn't feel as like
doesn't feel I don't feel as homesick anymore because that
place doesn't actually feel like home as much.

Speaker 1 (35:35):
As what it used to do.

Speaker 3 (35:35):
But also maybe it's just a representation of growing up.
And I know when we spoke about this, brit it
was one of the things that you kind of touched on.
You were like, life is so busy now, life is
so full, and as we kind of get to a
different point in sort of age and responsibilities, we can
reminisce on a time that feels a lot less stressful.
But I also don't think that our memory is a

(35:56):
reliable source. I think we can look back on like
the photo albums from four years ago and be like,
oh my god, remember that we had so much fun,
that holiday was so amazing. But if you're actually in
it and experiencing it at the time, you probably have
a very similar level of stresses and everything else to
what we have now. I think we like to romanticize
what the past was like and look back on it
in its sense of fondness. And I know, Britte, you

(36:16):
say I absolutely do feel at home with my kids
and with Matt, and it doesn't That is not a
house though, that is not a place. We've moved around
so many times as a family. We've lived in three
different houses. We're not doing Christmas in our home in
BONDI we're doing it down in a la dullah this year.
It doesn't matter where we are so long as that
unit is together, Like that is my home, you know,
being with Matt, being with the kids, and being with

(36:37):
Ellie now as well, Like that is what home feels like.
But not only is I guess your memory like an
unreliable source. I think the thing that I've really noticed
since having kids is just how quickly time moves. And
I know that sounds like a really benign and dumb
thing to say, and we're all very aware of it,
but looking at Marley and knowing that she's now six
and having a baby, it's been this real leveler of

(36:58):
just how fast the life last six years have just
rapid fire moved like have gone by, and like I
guess even for us, like you have little people in
your house when you are a parent for such a
short period of time, and looking at Marley now we
are and for anyone who's listening to this with the
kids in the car, turn it off.

Speaker 1 (37:15):
This is your warning talking about Santa Claus. Turn it off.

Speaker 3 (37:20):
We are already at the point where she's questioning the
legitimacy of Santa So six at six.

Speaker 1 (37:26):
So she came home the other day.

Speaker 2 (37:27):
It's bloody and.

Speaker 1 (37:30):
It's also older kids in after school care, is what
it is. My brother told me.

Speaker 2 (37:33):
It's also their access to the internet too.

Speaker 1 (37:36):
So Marley came home the other day and she was like, Mum,
is Santa Claus real? And I was like, I don't
want to lie to you and I don't want to try.
You have real parent? At six?

Speaker 2 (37:45):
You lie?

Speaker 1 (37:46):
I know, I need to know. I don't know what
parents are doing. Are we lying to our children?

Speaker 2 (37:50):
Still?

Speaker 3 (37:50):
Is this what we do?

Speaker 4 (37:51):
Ye?

Speaker 2 (37:52):
Six is too young.

Speaker 1 (37:53):
I heard an expert say that you can ask them,
well what is Santa Claus to you?

Speaker 2 (37:56):
I know?

Speaker 1 (37:57):
But also fucking who has deflect?

Speaker 2 (38:00):
So she's a smart kid. She's gonna pretend for a
long time. She doesn't know sheuld get more present.

Speaker 1 (38:04):
No, so she said to me, she was like really
quite concerned by it. And she was like, Mum, is
Santa Claus real? And I was like ah.

Speaker 3 (38:10):
I was like, do you think he's real? And she
was like, well, I do think he's real, but it
doesn't make sense. She's like, it doesn't make sense that
he can fly around the world. It doesn't She goes,
I think it's what he has Britney's countest frequent flyerupoint.

Speaker 2 (38:23):
I've been transferred him to Sanda.

Speaker 3 (38:25):
I said, I, you know, that's the whole magic of Christmas,
and she goes, but I don't actually believe that magic's real.

Speaker 1 (38:29):
I think that you do it.

Speaker 3 (38:30):
And it was so confronting because I was like, oh,
I didn't realize we would be at this destination already.
Like the whole magic of Christmas when you have little
kids is because there's someone to play Santa Claus for
and there's someone to like enact all those things that
were done for you when you were little.

Speaker 2 (38:44):
That makes me feel sad, like they're too young, they're
too young.

Speaker 3 (38:47):
And also I just thought I had more years of that.
I thought I had more years of Christmas feeling super
Christmasy with my kids.

Speaker 4 (38:54):
I think you could be pretty manipulative here. I think
you can bring it back. I think you can get
her to come back.

Speaker 1 (38:58):
Marley's a genius. I just said, I think it's pretty
cluely six is.

Speaker 2 (39:02):
You can one hundred percent, you got another year or so.

Speaker 3 (39:04):
The problem is, though, it's like now it's the unraveling, right,
because if she knows she's going to tell his sister
at some point. And now, all of a sudden, all
the little kids in our household that make Christmas fun
because they believed in Santa they don't believe anymore. And
it happened so quickly, and I wasn't prepared for it,
and I think so much older, I think I didn't
really appreciate last year or the year before. A couple

(39:26):
of those years of Christmas was during COVID. I don't
think I really appreciated when we were in it, just
how special those years are going to be, and how
special they are because we're already exiting it before I
even fucking realized and had time to process how short
lived this was. So I guess that when I read
this article about an idea of time sickness, I was like,
I'm in it. I'm like, I'm missing this idea that

(39:48):
my kids were so naive and innocent and loving, this
idea of Santa Claus, and now where already.

Speaker 1 (39:53):
Fucking exiting something. I didn't even have time to realize.

Speaker 2 (39:56):
I was in no. I want to read you this.

Speaker 4 (39:58):
This is by a woman named Marian Broshot. She's a
Welsh language officer. It's like a proper example, because this
time sickness has a name and it has a definition.

Speaker 1 (40:07):
Like we will butcher it.

Speaker 2 (40:08):
It's a real thing.

Speaker 4 (40:09):
I'm going to butcher it because it's a Welsh well,
the Welsh have a completely made up language.

Speaker 1 (40:12):
Which should call Ellie if she speaks.

Speaker 2 (40:13):
Welsh, so it's called hra e t h Highraf. I
don't know, but I definitely butchered it.

Speaker 4 (40:23):
But it's a kind of longing for a person, a place,
or a time that you can't get back to, a
kind of unattainable longing. And the example they give is
I am feeling high raf for Christmas in nineteen ninety eight.
The warmth of your family home at that time, the
Christmas decorations you made at school, the end of year
school nonsense you would do as the year wound down,
the Christmas carriage you would go to the street parties,

(40:44):
the Christmas lights that were colorful and spiky, and if
you stood on one, you would pray for death. It
is that feeling of going back to a time of
pure happiness where you feel safe and you don't have
anything to worry about, and you still believe in the magic.
But for me, I look at it in a little
bit of a different way. And Tanya did write this
as well, so I sort of had formulated this opinion
before I read this paragraph of Tanya's. But I do

(41:06):
think that for me, this is why I long for
that time. So she says, she longs for a time
where we had less stress, where we had more family around,
where our lives weren't so complex, where our brain didn't
feel like a hamster wheel of anxiety with seven hundred
and eighty tabs open in our heads constantly, the intense
mental loads they're thinking, right down to the last minute
that we fall asleep and the second our eyes open again.

(41:29):
For me, I think that's where this feeling of time
sickness comes from.

Speaker 2 (41:33):
It's like there's no more shocking, scary.

Speaker 4 (41:36):
Or humbling moment when you realize you need an adult
and you realize that you are the adult in the room.

Speaker 1 (41:42):
When you're like, oh, one's coming to save you.

Speaker 4 (41:44):
Yeah, when you realize that, like you look around for
somebody that might be more experienced or smarter than you
or more capable, and someone to help you, and you
realize that you're that person. Like that feeling I long
for the time of.

Speaker 2 (41:57):
Like the decision. Fatigue is gone, the stress is gone.

Speaker 4 (42:00):
That Do I have to pay my water? I? Have
I paid my gas? I haven't because Laura's paid it.

Speaker 2 (42:03):
Do I have to pay electricity? The kids? The everything?

Speaker 4 (42:06):
The rent?

Speaker 1 (42:07):
The what am I going to do?

Speaker 2 (42:07):
The car payments? Have I paid that? On time?

Speaker 1 (42:09):
Am I going to lose that?

Speaker 4 (42:10):
I've got to get to work, I've got to do
these things. That mental load as an adult, it's all day,
every day because we're just trying to survive. Like I
long for a time, not because I feel young and
safe and happy. I long for a time because I
feel those things because these things don't exist.

Speaker 1 (42:23):
My only question to that is, and this is what
I say by like your memory is an unreliable source,
is that I guarantee that when you were in that
time there was something else that was the stress up.

Speaker 2 (42:33):
Yeah, which really broke up with me.

Speaker 1 (42:34):
Yeah, that's what I mean.

Speaker 3 (42:35):
There was something else that occupied every second of your
brain space that was causing you some sort of distress
or whatever it was.

Speaker 1 (42:41):
I'm not saying distress, but you know what I mean.

Speaker 3 (42:43):
Like, the things we worry about are always moving and
changing at different phases of life.

Speaker 1 (42:47):
I don't think that you would ever.

Speaker 3 (42:49):
But if you were to plot back at that time
in life, I don't think you would be as carefree
as you remember yourself being.

Speaker 1 (42:54):
I think for me, it's more in nostalgia of like
the time sickness. I'm very, very lucky.

Speaker 5 (42:59):
I'm thirty two years old and I still have three
out of four of my grandparents still alive. I'm thirty two,
still have three out of four of my grandparents still alive.
And I feel like, specifically talking about Christmas, I feel
really nostalgic and time sick for a time where Christmas
felt a little bit more like they were a bit younger.

(43:21):
They weren't, you know, having increasing dementia or like, you know,
they weren't as forgetful, and those moments were really special
to me. And I was just thinking about it when
you were saying about these stresses, because that's the homesickness
that I have.

Speaker 1 (43:33):
I have a bit of a homesickness, time sickness for
like that time when.

Speaker 5 (43:37):
They were really present and able to enjoy Christmas altogether,
and my grandparents are just the best. And I was
thinking about it, and I was like, oh, I really
miss that, you know, I would really love to be
able to flash back to that. And then when Laura
you said, you know, we just remember these things in
different ways. I remember being at those Christmas events and

(43:58):
having to feel the questions of why don't you have
a boyfriend? You know, what are you doing after Uni?
And like it was a different set of questions. It
was a different kind of pressure from the family. And
so while I'm really nostalgic and timesick for those experiences
with my grandparents, I'm also like, oh, that's right. If
I remember it completely accurately, I still had negative feelings
on that day.

Speaker 3 (44:18):
The only thing I want to add to this is
Christmas is kind of like, and we've talked about it
around birthdays. It's one of those defining moments in the
year which tell you that you are supposed to be happy,
and they tell you that you're supposed to celebrate it,
and they tell you that you're supposed to feel all
these feelings of joy and magic and everything else. And
if you find yourself not feeling that way, that can
feel really confusing, and it can feel even more like

(44:40):
a personal letdown because everyone else is, you know, everyone
else is talking about celebrating with their family or that
is really going to sting if you're at a point
where you don't have those things, or maybe you've just
gone through a bad breakup. Like I understand that there
are going to be a fuck load of people who
walk into this Christmas and there is a hole for
whatever reason, and that could be from losing a family member,

(45:02):
it could be from a grief. And when I read
this article from Tanya, it really did remind me of like,
there are so many different feelings that people have at
this time of year, and a lot of them do
circulate around missing something that was really important that used
to be there. In case you say about having elderly grandparents,
I feel like that about my grandparents who are no
longer around, and I think you know how much I

(45:23):
wish that they were a part of my kid's life.
But I do really feel for anyone who is going
through that phase of life at the moment and is
feeling like they are not where they wish they could
be at this time of year, that is okay as well.
And I want you to know that that is something
that so many people feel and also don't feel as
though they can talk about it because it puts a
dampener on everyone else's fucking Christmas.

Speaker 4 (45:43):
Spirit, and those feelings can run concurrently. We've spoken about
that so many times over the years. I have the
best Christmases with my family, like we've always spent them,
all of us and the kids and the extended family.

Speaker 2 (45:54):
And we have a beautiful day. But I was always really.

Speaker 4 (45:57):
Sad at the same time because I was the only
one there that you have a partner, and I felt
like I wasn't sharing that intimate moment with somebody. And
every Christmas I would feel that, and I'd be the
person that gets the trundle bed at the end because
like you know, in the lounge room, because you don't
need a room or a bathroom, you.

Speaker 3 (46:13):
Don't need the double bed because you're not sharing it
with someone, so you can have the fold out yeah
the room, just to really highlight that you're not.

Speaker 4 (46:19):
And we don't have any pillows either, because the couples
have those two each. But those feelings were concurrent, like
they ran side by side. I was immensely happy and
full of love and joy and sad at the same time.
And that's also completely okay.

Speaker 2 (46:32):
And I also think when we.

Speaker 4 (46:33):
Transition from kids to teenagers to adults to being in partnerships.
This transition happens that you don't really take notice of,
but most people don't get the opportunity to spend Christmases
with their families anymore for the reason of your family
dynamic changes. And so when you think about growing up,
you every Christmas when you're a kid or a teenager,
it's with your.

Speaker 2 (46:53):
Family into early adulthood.

Speaker 4 (46:56):
But when you start to create your own family or
when you get married, it's pretty rare that like you
and your partner's families both spend Christmas together.

Speaker 2 (47:05):
Most people alternate and that comes with.

Speaker 4 (47:06):
Its own feelings of like every second year you don't
get to be with your family and there's a whole
there and.

Speaker 2 (47:11):
It just starts to look different as an adult.

Speaker 1 (47:13):
Do you know what I think about?

Speaker 3 (47:14):
A lot is like for anyone who's gone through a divorce,
especially when this is your first Christmas where you've gone
through a divorce and you're having to split your family
over the day, like maybe maybe you do half day,
half day. Maybe it's like one person gets Christmas, one
person gets Christmas Eve, Like that is fucking if this
is especially your first one that you're doing that is
going to be such an incredibly hard time to have

(47:36):
to go from the version of it that you once
had having to split time with your kids and it
not looking the version that did in the past.

Speaker 1 (47:44):
I guess there's so many different versions of this.

Speaker 3 (47:45):
And one of the main take homes is that Christmas
one of those defining moments in the year where you're
told to feel a certain way and it's kind of
like a benchmark as to how the previous year leveled up,
and it really highlights where you're at in life. And
I think that that's probably the main and why there's
so many conflicting feelings at this time of year, because
it really does shine a spotlight on what's missing and

(48:07):
also on what you've gained.

Speaker 2 (48:10):
It's time for accidently unfiltered. Now this accident unfiltered. I
don't know if it's an accident un filtered or if
it's more of a story arc.

Speaker 1 (48:16):
We'll come back to you next week. We love a
story arc.

Speaker 4 (48:18):
There's no more story arcs unless you guys want to
keep writing about anal. If it's a story arc off
the back of the anal.

Speaker 2 (48:23):
Conversation that we didn't ask gun cut last week.

Speaker 3 (48:25):
Love it.

Speaker 4 (48:26):
Hey, guys, this relates to your recent ask gun Cut
about the man that was having the anal tantrum. So,
in case you missed that, basically, a very mature husband
was having a tantrum every time his wife said that
no she would not, in fact give him anal.

Speaker 2 (48:39):
So this is off the back of when.

Speaker 3 (48:41):
You say give him anal, it makes it sound like
she wouldn't peg him, but he wanted to. Sorry, he
wanted to give her anal and she wasn't interested. And
when she says no, he would troll tantrum like a
todd like a loser. Okay, So this is off the
back of that. I had the same situation years ago
and reverse the question just like you suggested. I said
that if you want to do it to me, I'm
gonna do it to you first, because that was our advice,

(49:02):
and brilliant advice.

Speaker 2 (49:03):
She put it into play. He said, fine, we'll do it.
Good on him, Good on him? Yeah, that's how bad
he wants to He's like, do it.

Speaker 1 (49:12):
Fuck me in the ass.

Speaker 4 (49:13):
So we used anal beans on him. When he pulled
them out, they were covered in pooh and it was
all over my bed. So I stood up walked out
and said, well, I'll leave you to clean that up.

Speaker 1 (49:21):
Wow, Okay, I was expecting. I was expecting more. Actually,
do you know what, I'm gonna be honest for it.
I was expecting more from that.

Speaker 6 (49:28):
I was expecting.

Speaker 1 (49:29):
Also, you want you want the follow.

Speaker 2 (49:30):
Up from her?

Speaker 4 (49:31):
I wish I just think it well played that she
not only took it to the point where she was like,
you know, if you.

Speaker 1 (49:37):
Want it enough, I think it's not enough.

Speaker 2 (49:39):
Well, I think it's good. There's the mess. He's gone.

Speaker 3 (49:42):
I'm gonna leave it to you. It's whatever man would do.
I agree, But what I say, it's not enough. I
wanted a strap on like. I wanted more.

Speaker 4 (49:49):
If you're the beads are a gentle entry and the
anal beads were too little like I wanted a like
for like situation.

Speaker 2 (49:56):
I don't think that's a swap for swap.

Speaker 1 (49:57):
He depends on the sides. Anal beads. Are they quite small?
I don't know, Laura, you're probably the most likely.

Speaker 2 (50:05):
To use them, am I?

Speaker 4 (50:07):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (50:07):
They graduate? So anal beads a start off small, a
bushka doll, but on a rope.

Speaker 4 (50:12):
Because they're supposed to be like an expander. I supposed
to get you like you're supposed to use it.

Speaker 1 (50:17):
Small, and then you push it all of them in.
I think you think you do. I think it goes
right up the colon.

Speaker 4 (50:23):
Wow, we cannot have a sex in Relationship podcast. And
you guys are discovering anal beads live on it?

Speaker 1 (50:27):
Have you used it? What they are?

Speaker 3 (50:30):
I've never looked at them. I always thought that they
were like the same. I actually thought they were more
bunched together, and I thought that they were the same size.
I didn't realize that they graduated in size, and I
would like to point out that there are some that
are just the same size, just for somebody who wants
to go in there with a lovely two centimeter diameter
and just.

Speaker 1 (50:46):
Pop pop pop pop pop.

Speaker 2 (50:48):
Like marbles.

Speaker 3 (50:49):
Yeah, they're like marbles, but they're all connected on a
chain so that you can pull them all out, which
makes perfect sense.

Speaker 1 (50:53):
I'm not gonna lie I was thinking of a butt plug.
I'm thinking something else.

Speaker 3 (50:57):
All right. Let's get into our a chain of buttlocks,
our highs and our lows of the week.

Speaker 1 (51:04):
Pritty, what's your lows?

Speaker 2 (51:05):
My suck? Very simple, my suck?

Speaker 4 (51:07):
I mentioned it before my fiddleaf that I've spent eighteen
months bringing back to life that Kisha killed has been murdered.

Speaker 1 (51:13):
Sorry, so many factually incorrect things.

Speaker 5 (51:15):
It actually died while you were overseas last year, on
your period, on your watch, because they didn't go to
your house.

Speaker 1 (51:23):
I forgot about it.

Speaker 2 (51:24):
Well, I'm here and it came back to lot of
details here.

Speaker 1 (51:27):
I brought it back.

Speaker 2 (51:28):
It's dead again.

Speaker 4 (51:29):
I'm tossing up whether I just cut it off at
the knees again and start again, or if it goes
in the bind.

Speaker 3 (51:34):
I'm done with fiddle fix. I'm done with how like. Emotionally, yeah,
they're just so unreliable.

Speaker 1 (51:40):
I've done with them.

Speaker 2 (51:41):
But they hate Yeah.

Speaker 1 (51:42):
I had two.

Speaker 3 (51:43):
They were flourishing, they were beautiful, and now they just
look like big long weeds.

Speaker 1 (51:47):
And I'm just to be fair.

Speaker 4 (51:48):
The one that I have in my house that I
have like, I barely touch, I never move it. It's
like stays in its home is thriving.

Speaker 2 (51:55):
They just don't like change.

Speaker 4 (51:57):
No, So that is my suck, and that you know.
Now I'm going away for big lengths of time. I'm
just gonna have to get fake plants.

Speaker 1 (52:04):
You already have a fake olive tree in the middle
of your house. That's why, Laura that felt pointed.

Speaker 2 (52:09):
It was pointed, And actually the olive tree looks beautiful.

Speaker 4 (52:12):
It does and very real e very so often it
needs to be dusted, though, so does my fiddle leak
and it's live.

Speaker 1 (52:17):
What is your sweet?

Speaker 2 (52:19):
My sweet?

Speaker 4 (52:19):
Was our life un Cut Christmas party? So we had
a lifelun cut cross like times pick up radio show
because we were all sort of dinner We work across
the same things, but we had like it was that
Christmas party.

Speaker 2 (52:29):
It was just a lovely dinner and drinks.

Speaker 4 (52:31):
But it was really nice because we all haven't been
together outside of work in a very long time, so
that was for sure, My sweet.

Speaker 1 (52:38):
We yeah, we're really bad for that.

Speaker 3 (52:39):
We're such sticklers for being like we should do something
and then just never do anything that's social because we
get our social cut field by sitting here and talking shit.
I think what ness is like, I don't.

Speaker 1 (52:50):
This isn't listening to dinner?

Speaker 2 (52:52):
All right?

Speaker 3 (52:52):
My suck for the week is that, speaking of like
pickup and Life on Cut crossovers, it was Grace's that it.
Grace is our producer on the Pickup. It was Grace's
birthday on the weekend. I couldn't go because Lola for
two days straight was running a shed, had like a
thirty eight temperature and the only person that she.

Speaker 1 (53:07):
Wanted was me.

Speaker 3 (53:09):
Of course, of course, which is cute, and I want
to be wanted, but I also wanted to go to
a birthday.

Speaker 4 (53:13):
You don't want to be wanted when there's like thirtieth
throw like you want to be wanted on other days,
no workdays.

Speaker 3 (53:18):
And also, like I said, there's been so many there's
been so many things on in the last couple of weeks.
There's been like work dinners on and it's just been
a busy, busy time. And I feel like I've had
Poppy strap to me and I've taken her everywhere. But Lola,
she just needs more of me, you know. And so
like when she was sick, she was like, I don't
want Dad, I want only you. And so we sat

(53:39):
on the couch and watched back to back moving marathons,
which was cute, actually sounds wonderful.

Speaker 1 (53:42):
But I missed Grace's birthday, so that really sucked.

Speaker 3 (53:44):
But then my sweet for the week is and I
know it sounds so silly, but Lola's had her last
day of daycare, so they had their school graduation.

Speaker 1 (53:52):
They have their like daycare graduation. It's so fucking cute.
They get better hats and they get there. How did
you see the photos I work every day with your
husband on rade? Did you show?

Speaker 3 (54:00):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (54:01):
I see your husband more than you know.

Speaker 1 (54:02):
It's so cute.

Speaker 3 (54:03):
So they wear their little hats and they have their
little capes and they sung their little Boundary body song
that I told you guys about, but it was really
really sweet. And yeah, she's just so proud of herself
and she's so ready for school. And she had her
orientation for big school where it's tricky because like she
is a little bit younger, and I was worried that
she was going to that kid is going to be
just fun. Yeah, I thought she was going to find

(54:24):
it a bit hard. And I picked her up from
her orientation and the teacher was like, she is so ready.

Speaker 1 (54:29):
She is so fine.

Speaker 3 (54:30):
So that's my sweet it's you know, coming to there.
It's like the cute little end of year things that
we're doing at the moment. Yeah, Lola's just she's a rockstar.

Speaker 2 (54:37):
I love it.

Speaker 1 (54:37):
I'm obsessed with us.

Speaker 3 (54:38):
Anyway, guys, that's it from us. If you have anything
that you want to add, join in the conversation. You
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