June 13, 2025 • 39 mins
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- Britt’s journey to getting married
- Matt leaked the baby name AND the wedding accidentally
- Ask Uncut Sally hates the ring her boyfriend is proposing to her with
- Is the ‘man look’ a real thing? - Laura & Matt’s dumb argument
- 5 things in your home dirtier than a toilet seat
- When kids tell you they hate you after they’ve had a great day
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This episode was recorded on Cameragle Land.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut.
I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and this is the pickup, which
I'm sure you all know by now, but in case
you don't, that is our national radio show across the
country where we package up all the best bits and
we bring them here for you.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
In case you didn't listen to the radio this week.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
I would say, if you are a new listener to
Life on Cut, welcome, don't start.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
With this start here, go to one of our other
We do three four episodes a week. Go to the
other ones.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
You should probably start with great episode in case you
missed it. The wedding episode, yes, but I feel like
no one missed it had great downloads. Everyone's listened to
that one. I was going to say the aftermath episode
also had great downloads, but nothing like starting with an
ask uncut Aftermath that we've been teasing for two entire years.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
But if people knew here, they don't even know what
to ask Uncut is. Just go and listen to any
other episode that's not the radio show, because that's what.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
The podcast actually is, and then we do package.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Up the radio show here for you and just put
their little best parts in it.
Speaker 4 (01:00):
Well.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Look, something we spoke about on air this week, and
if you guys have been following on socials, you would
know this. I talked about this on Life on cart
like a couple of weeks ago, and that was that
we've chosen the name for our unborn child. First name,
the little girl, middle name, and last name. Surprisingly, that's
so crazy to me.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
I mean, I haven't been pregnant, so I don't know,
but I just never imagined I'd be able to choose
entire name before.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
I saw it. I've done that every pregnancy.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
Marley May Rose Johnson was she was locked and loaded
well before you.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
Picked her the first week of the Bachelor.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
No, do you know what I think?
Speaker 2 (01:35):
I just saw the name somewhere and I was like,
not Mally May, but I saw the.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
Name Marley somewhere. It was probably Marley and Marley.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
And because I don't reckon you would have named your
daughter after.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
A dog that Marley and Me is spelt different. That's
m A R L E. Y. Oh my god. You
really need Marley me Marley May. It was from Marley
and Me. That's so it's almost the whole name anyway.
Marley May that was like locked and loaded. And then
Lola as well. Lola.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
I was like flicking on Instagram day and someone had
made real to the.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Song La La La La Lola.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Don't listen to lyrics of that song. Not appropriate to
name your child after. But I was like, yeah, I
love that name.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Laula interesting inspiration. So that's where it came from.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
None of my kids have great, like really sentimental naming stories.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
You were, Oh, you did say that you picked the name,
but we beeped it out. You were not going to
announce the name.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Yeah, so that was the point I was getting too. Sorry,
thanks to letting me back on track. I spoke about
how we chosen the name. I spoke about picking it,
and then we beated it out because I had not
checked with Matt as to whether it was or wasn't
appropriate for me to tell, you know, the entire world
that we'd chosen a name for this child.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Turns out my husband.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Did not give me the same courtesy, and he blurted
it out on two doting dads recently and told everyone
the name that we're calling the kids.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
So if you guys are in your kid in the womb.
It docks to our baby womb, docks your womb.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
But also if you want to know the name, I
say it on this episode so you will now know too.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Oh no, you've breadcumming. We're not going to tell you now.
You gotta listen to Guess today. Listen, No, we did.
You were really cute.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
I did get married last week and it was really cute.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
You guys.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Can I say every show, every single segment we started
on radio and also on the pod Brita has started
with I got married.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
Sorry, it's the biggest life event of my literal life.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Why I am thrilled by it?
Speaker 2 (03:16):
It is just funny because you'll be like talking about
burnt toast and you're like, so this week I got
married and then I made toast and the past was burnt.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Okay, how else do you want me to How do
you want.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Me to hook that you made a wedding package for
me without saying I.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Got married, Laura, what you're talking about now?
Speaker 3 (03:32):
No, I was actually going to talk about toast, you idiot.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
I would like it to be known that I did
not make this package.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
This was all of that. I was gonna give you props.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
No, only because of the song choices that's in it.
It's really funny. This was like a cute little package
that was played.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
Out produced Grace on the case made the package.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Yeah, Grace is like, how dare you? It was a
walk down memory lane.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
And when it started, I did think it was going
to be like I walked down memory lane of like
and my relationship, but no, Grace felt the need to
go back to when I got dumped on the Bachelor
and my old love life to love life.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
If anything, it's just a real showcase of the lows
and the highs and like where you've come from and
the struggles that you've been through.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
And I really liked.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
The part in the package that was put together where
it was like what doesn't.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Kill you makes you strong? Grace? You know we loved it.
We're okaying you are.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
It was beautiful, It was wholesome. Could have cut a
few pieces maybe the Bachelor, but whatever, like you do you,
but that was really nice to have a walkdown. And
then we did talk about a very very funny science
based study.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Also, I'm so sorry that this entire show has just
become be slagging my husband. The reason why we talked
about this science based study is because we wanted to
do a true investigative look into whether or not the
man look or you know, a boy's look is actually
a genetic deformity abnormality that happens in men, or whether
that there's a you know, a psychological, social or something
(04:59):
or other reason and that goes beyond just weaponized incompetence.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Yeah, and that wasn't a stupidity. One of the two wasn't.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Actually the study I was going to talk about, But
thanks for hijackie my story.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Just to finish my sentence. The study of the.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Study off was talking about was what's dirtier in your
house than a toilet? Like what every day things you
use around your house is dirty than a toilet. But
Laura told a story too, so if you listen, we'll
she'll hear it all.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Sorry, guys, we're delirious. We've covered some ground this week.
It was a lot. Let's let them listen on their own.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
See ya.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Bye.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
We have such a special show for you guys today,
especially for everyone here, especially you britt because Brittany just
got mad.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Brittany, Why am I talking about Brittany? And third person?
I don't know. I got married. I cannot believe it.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
For everyone listening, you guys might not know this story.
So Britta and I have been doing a podcast together
for six years now. I have been there through all
of your turbulent relationships.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
And when we.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Started our podcast, Laugh and carp it was all based
around sex and relationships, and a big part of that
was Britt talking about her dating life and talking of
some of the absolute monstrosities that she'd experienced in that time.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
It was a tumultuous time, a lot of red flags
to navigate.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Brit came back from her first date with Ben and
I heard about this Swiss, extremely tall footballer who lived
overseas who she had had a one night stand with
that kind of evolved into a few more days.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
It was supposed to be a one.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Nighter, and then she drops about a week before Christmas
that year, I'm gonna go over seas for a holiday.
And I was like, I see what's going on here.
And it wasn't until only a couple of days before
that she actually admitted she was going over to see
this guy that she'd hooked up with on a dating
site for three days whilst he was traveling like two
months with his team, and I said, this is the
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worst idea you have ever had. I was like, this
is gonna end in disaster.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
Laura was like, do it, fine if you want to,
but don't say I didn't toast.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
It's not gonna end.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
Well, I was like, do it for the content, but
come home with a story, and.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Do not fall in love with this guy. Now look
at us. Now we're literally getting married. You are married.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Oh yeah, well look we've been through the journey with you,
britt everyone here at the pickup but also across life
uncut the pot as well, and it's been such a
beautiful love story.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
To be able to witness, to be able to be
in a small way a part of and you know,
I only did it.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
Law was just so trees and I can say told
you so, I don't actually like the guy, just I
was just like, yes, anything.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Do you know I'm also okay with saying when I'm wrong,
and I was very wrong. Yeah, Brittan, we have put
together a little recap of the last few years of
your love story, not just yours of Ben and how
you guys met, but also just some of the some of.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
The ups and downs along the way. Have a listened
to this.
Speaker 4 (07:40):
In twenty eighteen, a young, vibrant Brittany Hockley brave to
reality television seeking love on The Bachelor.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Definitely the most vulnerable I've ever felt.
Speaker 4 (07:49):
Where she would make Bachelor history when the honey budger
I picked No.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
One strong feelings for you, Brittany.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
When I say those three words, I won't really mean
it right now.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
I can't give one hundred percent of me to you.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
So you're all wake up. It's got a bit bright
as day.
Speaker 4 (08:09):
After an unsuccessful attempt at finding love on television, Brittany
Hockley found hope.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
Woke up.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
They literally sat up out of bed and I thought,
today's the day I'm going to get back on the horse.
And I thought, you know what, I'm going to have
my first ever one night stand. And so I went
on RAYA this like six foot six beautiful Swiss man
that was here playing football like he was a professional athlete.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
So I swiped right. We matched.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
We talked for about half an hour, so he came over.
Eventually we got down sanity gritty, hooked up. It was amazing,
and then he shaded to go, and as he was leaving,
I thought, I'm never going to see this guy again.
Then the next day he messages me and he's like, hey,
do you want to see each other again? I've got
a bit of time, And I was like, yeah, right.
We just fell in love from the very beginning.
Speaker 4 (08:54):
But not all was smooth sailing.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
I'm in my first argument with my new boyfriend Ben.
So with dating for about four months now, I had
facetimed Ben because he'd ask me something, so we're having
a quick conversation.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
There was all this urgency.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
Because back on air twenty seconds I signed off really
quickly on a phone call, and I was a bit panicky.
So I was like, okay, I got to go go
to go love you bye. And then I hung up
the phone and I said, oh my god, I've just
said I love you. Two seconds later, I get a
text did you just say I love you? And I
did what any normal woman would do, and I gas
lipped him and I said, I do not say that, yes, lie.
(09:28):
Two weeks later he said I love you in another language,
but I knew what he was saying. So now we're
in this argument about who said they love him first?
Speaker 1 (09:36):
What doesn't kill your exta fuck?
Speaker 4 (09:39):
Turns out they were both in love, and their relationship
grew from strength to strength until one day she had
some exciting news to share with the Pickup team and
Life Uncut community.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
I've been single for the better part of ten years
and I was always a single friend watching all my
friends fall in love, which made me so happy, but
it was definitely hard and I started to think maybe
it wasn't for me.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
I love love.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Then in twenty twenty two, I met this amazing guy,
but he lived overseas.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
My friends were.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
Really concerned because long distance is never easy and I've
always had commitment issues, but this time it felt different
and I thought he was worth it. Flash forward to
now and I've never been happier. And last week, on
a beautiful island, he asked me to be his wife.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
You just want to know, what's a cute way to tell.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
My friends that I'm getting married?
Speaker 1 (10:27):
So moment, so long? Please you, please you, Oh, brit.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
Also that it gets me at the air, it gets
me at the end. When I told you, guys, it
was like the most wholesome moment.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Now, Britt, you and I have been doing a podcast together,
Life on Car podcast, or.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
Anyone wants to go and listen.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
We've been doing this together for six years, right, And
I think between you and I we have a pretty
good gauge on what is or isn't appropriate to share
in terms of storytelling.
Speaker 3 (11:04):
Because I'd say a perfect gauge.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
Yeah, Like, I you know my husband, he also has
a podcast, and like sometimes we tell personal stories, whether
it be about parenting or it be about what's happened
in our lives. And Matt and I are pretty much
always on the same page. Like, I don't think I've
ever crossed a line in sharing a story that he
wasn't okay with.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
No, And I think this might surprise a lot of
people because our job is to talk. We do five
radio shows a week and we do three podcasts a week.
People think we share everything. We absolutely don't. Like there
are so many things that we know for our relationships
or our friendships, like we're the line totally or for
like privacy.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
Sometimes it's not your own story and so like you're
not going to share someone else's secrets. But recently, I
mean we were talking about it and I was telling
I was telling you guys, if you were listening the
other week, how Matt and I have chosen our third
baby's baby name.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Oh yeah, but you wouldn't actually tell us. You kept
beeping it out.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
We beat it out because I just assumed that a
baby name, unless you've had a conversation with your partner,
unless you both have mutually agreed that you're not going
to tell people, or that you are going to tell people.
I feel like that that's a decision you come to together.
And now, for reference, I'm not saying like tell your
friends or tell your mom or tell you. I'm talking
about like talking about it on a podcast or saying
(12:20):
it on a national radio show. I feel like that's
one of those things that the line you should just
kind of check and make sure that everyone's okay with.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
Yeah, one hundred percent agree.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
So I alluded to the fact that we've chosen a name,
first name, middle name, and the first name starts with P,
and we're pretty certain on that. I receive a message
whilst we're away and BALI for your wedding bread by
a listener who doesn't listen to our podcast, who doesn't
listen to this radio show, but she listens to Matt's podcast,
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and she said, I just wanted to say the name
Poppy is so cute.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
I think you've chosen a great name.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
And I was like, I'm sorry, what and then she goes, oh,
was Matt not meant to say it on the podcast.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
I then went.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Through the transcript of two doting dads, and Matt not
only did he say the name that we actually chose,
he docked your unborn baby. It gets worse, so he
docks our unbone baby. Now everyone, in case you're curious,
we're calling it Poppy. It's it's not a pick up exclusive,
so is that out?
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Now? It's out pop star, it's out popped up Poppy.
I'm gone pop up. I like that. Yeah, cute, lollipop,
popsicle cute. Don't call my dad. I love that Poppy.
It means we've got a Marley, a Lola, and a Poppy,
and I feel like those names fit beautifully together.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
What happens if it comes out? She comes out sorry,
and it doesn't look like a Poppy, and you're like,
you're not poppy.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
I just feel like babies all look weird anyway. I
feel like they could be anything.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
So just stick to it.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Like what baby came out and looked like a David?
It grew into that name or.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
An interesting example, Yeah, okay, continue now I get it,
like Frank, what baby's.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
So I have something to tell you as well, and
that is is that there were more things that my
husband has leaked recently. So you made it very clear.
I mean, we didn't talk about it on the show,
We didn't talk about on the pod, we have not
spoken about it anywhere. And that was the details surrounding
your wedding. We all went to Bali on a secret
mission to get Brit hitched.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Everyone really, everyone was well aware.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Yeah, Britt was posting from Italy pretending she was in Europe.
I was also on a work trip in Bali, so
I had said I was over there for work and
managed to kind of, you know, fly under the radar.
Our friends, all, everyone who's from Australia that was traveling
over there all pretended as though they were not in Bali.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
No, my husband, my husband got on two doting dads
and said on his podcast, oh yeah, we're going over
to Bali for BRIT's wedding the day what the day
of your wedding?
Speaker 1 (14:39):
That came out?
Speaker 2 (14:40):
So that came out at six am in.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
San Is he that thirsty for a headline? Do you know?
What he said. He's like, you guys get everything. He goes.
I even had to give my baby gender reveals to
the pickup. He's like, give me this. I was at
the wedding.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
Is not your fair, but the wedding doesn't come into
the baby gender reveal.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
No, it was an honest mistake and the problem was
to be out the location, give coordinates, like time.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Frames, schedule pandora estake because.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
Guest list Yeah, he put a drops mapp and that
was just.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
Me assurance on the left wing.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
No, he yeah, he was devastated.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
So once again, someone one of his listeners slid into
my DMS and was like, hey, was Matt meant to
give away the fact that you guys are all over
there for its wedding, which I said, No, No, he
was a little He made a mistake because he had
pre recorded that episode, and so when he looked at
the dates, he just assumed that it was going to
be retrospective, that your wedding would have already happened and
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it would have been okay. He didn't realize it was
the day.
Speaker 3 (15:39):
I must admit that would have been very hard to
cross check your release date with the wedding dates. Yeah,
that's asking a lot. Yeah, that's a big cost, a
lot of data there to go through.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
Mat. He was so sad. I don't think it.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Was that my wedding got doxed. Baby's name got doxed.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
Think about the jill to be fair, he was almost
in tears when he realized and he had the he
had the podcast taken down straight away. Several thousand people
had already listened. But that's okay.
Speaker 3 (16:09):
Put your wedding invites out for Matt, put them on
the stoop.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
Yeah, I'll put the baby out for him as baby
out for Mat.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
Oh my god, it is time because it's Thursday for
Ask gun Cut, and that is where we answer you're deep,
you're dark, and you're burning questions. We do this segment
Ask Guncut on our podcast Life Uncut.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Every week every Thursday, where we.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Answer your listener questions and you guys call in or
you ride in. And this week we have a question
from someone who wants to remain anonymous for fear of
her potential future fiance finding out look a bit double handed.
Speaker 3 (16:43):
I understand why it's she wants to be anonymous, but
maybe she shouldn't be. Maybe he needs to hear it.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
Let's call her Sally. Sally came across a photo.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
This sounds sorry, it sounds like a sort of story
book like Sally, like sunsets.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
No, all right, we've been talking a lot about weddings
this week because obviously got married. But this has to
do with when you find out that your partner is
going to propose to you.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
So I we're not going to call it Sally.
Speaker 2 (17:06):
The person who wrote in they found the pictures in
their partner's phone of the engagement ring that he is
planning to propose with. It's only at the design stage,
so by the looks of things, it hasn't been made yet,
but all the tech drawings, that the cat drawings for
the design for the ring have been done. Now, firstly,
she is incredibly thrilled that he's going to propose love
(17:28):
of life.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
Whooh yay, so excited. I love that. Hold On.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
On the other hand, she absolutely hates the ring and
thinks it is the ugliest thing she's ever laid.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Her eyes on. Knowing that he hasn't gone.
Speaker 2 (17:39):
Through yet, or you know, she doesn't know for certain,
but she doesn't think he's gone through with making it yet.
How would you approach this situation. Do you just suck
it up and bear it and get a ring that
you hate, or do you tell your partner that you
know that they're designing a ring because you saw it
in their phone and you don't like it.
Speaker 3 (17:57):
She doesn't know it hasn't been made yet. You've seen
a photo know that hasn't been made, that he doesn't
have it socked away. Or maybe he's trying to throw
off the scent. Maybe he knows she's snoopy mix snoop.
She was going to go through the phone now, so
he's put nut you don't reckon nanna nah, No one
is that. Very few people are that sort of like savvy. Okay,
here it is just hypothetically, it hasn't been major. It
(18:18):
isn't throwing off the scent. It's the real ring and
she hates it. Can you tell him that you accidentally
went through his phone saw the ring, spoil the engagement
and double down by saying you don't like the ring. No,
unless you want him to not propose. That's like, there
are so many things wrong with that. You absolutely can't totally.
But what do you do if you get a ring
and it's just so hideous.
Speaker 1 (18:38):
What do you do?
Speaker 3 (18:39):
I know someone's hard. Yeah, I know somebody that happened
to and she still has it to this day. It's
been like fifteen years, and it was bad. I will
say that.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
I remember I have a friend in my life whose
ring I actually ended up designing the ring for them,
and it worked out well, not exactly what she wanted,
but it was well. But what he wanted for her
was worlds apart from what she wanted. And I remember
him sending me the designs and the ring was so
ugly and it took.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
A really I didn't want to make it. I was.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
It took a really long time to like get him
to realize that maybe he was designing a ring for
himself and not for his future wife.
Speaker 3 (19:14):
Also, just to catch up to speed, if you don't know,
Laura is a jewelry design Oh yeah, she made my
wedding rings, which were wonderful once we got it to
fit properly. But she makes other people's engagement rings anyway.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
Well, look, I think that.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
The way that you can get around this is you
cannot tell them that you don't like the ring. You
can't even tell him that you've seen the ring. I
don't think, because it could just you know, it's trying.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
God, you also wanted to be a surprise.
Speaker 3 (19:36):
You know what if you spoil the surprise for him,
I've seen this happen before.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
He's not going to do it. Well, he might.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
Still, but he might just do it a bit deflated,
and especially if he knows you hate the ring. What
I think you can do though, you could just start
tagging him on Instagram in rings that you really like,
sending him inspiration and be like, hey, honey, in case
you're ever thinking of marrying me, this is the ring
that I would really like. I think that you can
do it knowing full well that you are going to
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get proposed to he does want to marry you, and
hopefully if he hasn't started the design process, he can
make a pivot.
Speaker 3 (20:11):
I think what you can do is too There's always
this carousels on Instagram of multiple rings, and I was like,
which ring do you like? I used to send those
to Ben and be like, which one do you think
I would like? But you could put your own bunch
of pictures together, put one that is similar to the
ring that you know he's got, but also put ones
that you love and go through them and say, Hey,
which one would you pick for me? And then you
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tell him which ones you like?
Speaker 2 (20:34):
Did we ever talk about this with you, Britt? So
Britt was away in the jungle when Ben was organizing
her engagement rings.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
So this was like last year.
Speaker 2 (20:42):
Britt was in the jungle, which meant I had access
to Britt's Instagram because I was managing her social media.
And Ben told me I'm thinking of proposing to Brit.
Do you have any idea what kind of rings she
would want? And it was so helpful because you had
saved so many engagement rings and they were all the same,
massive oval and we forgets what I got, massive overal
and former.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
You can thank me for that. I found that, and
I knew exactly what you wanted.
Speaker 3 (21:05):
I had sent that to him anyway a hundred times,
like this kid knew what I wanted.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
Well he got the affirmation. You made it very easy
for everyone to know what you wanted. And I think
that that's what we have to do. Take make a
pressure of him. Just send him what you like. You
don't have to say you've seen it. Send him what
you like.
Speaker 3 (21:19):
Make it very clear, leave print out, circle it standaling
swipe ups, whatever it takes.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
But unfortunately, if you do end up with him proposing
with the ring that you hate, you just I think
you've got to suck it up until one day you
get it in short and then you.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
Accidentally lose it. I didn't say that because I don't
want to get sued by an intrance car.
Speaker 3 (21:34):
I can you can melt it down to after.
Speaker 1 (21:36):
The that Nah, No, everyone's okay with that.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
But anyway, I need to talk to you about something
that has been plaguing my relationship.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
Well lucky we are together now on a radio show.
Then we talked, oh my god, what do you do about?
Speaker 2 (21:51):
So we've all heard of like the man look cute.
We all make jokes about it, men who can't find
things in.
Speaker 1 (21:56):
The house, Like you've had a man's look. You've had
a man's look.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
You know, you tell someone exactly where it is and
then they can't find it, and it's the quote is
it's a man's look. This has become a real point
of contention in my relationship with Matt and I don't
know whether it's getting progressively worse, whether he's I don't know,
Maybe the testosterone is increasing in him and therefore he
just can't find things anymore.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
But it is something that we deal with frequently.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
To the point where I feel as though I could
not be more specific about where I tell him something is,
and he will walk downstairs, wander around looking at the ceiling,
and then say, oh, I.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
Can't find it, can't find it. It must be bad too,
because you're bad.
Speaker 3 (22:34):
So if he's if he's worse than you like, because
in our relationship, you're like, have you seen my such
and such? And if you're guiding him, then, like the
both of you, it's problems.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
Yeah, where are our kids? Has anyone seen how many
kids do we have? I that's why we're having another one.
Just replace him because you've lost the other one. She'll
show up. She's under lamp. No speaking. Okay, So we
were putting.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
I was putting a lot of the girls to bed
the other night, and Lola specifically has a drink bottle,
you know that she has in bed with her when.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
She goes to sleep.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
They both do, but they're usually always in their beds. Anyway,
I'd brought them downstairs and I had washed them, and
so I'd put them away instead of taking them back
upstairs and just putting them next to their bed. I
called out to Matt and I was like, babe, can
you get Lola's drink bottle.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
He's like I can't find it.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
And I was like, okay, well, as he sits on
allow and literally literally and I was like, it's in
the cupboard where the drink bottles are. We have this
one cupboard in our house. Yeah, I know, because we
have so many drink bottles. He's got a million drink
bottles for his body, protein shakes or everything.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
Anyway, it's just full of drink bottles, nothing else.
Speaker 3 (23:32):
Yeah, everyone has that cupboard.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
And I was like, it's in the drink bottle cupboard?
Are here? Nothing?
Speaker 2 (23:36):
For a second, can't find it. And I was like, okay, well,
why don't you just grab one of the other drink
it is in there, grab one of the other drink bottles.
I know that there's five kid appropriate drink bottles in there.
There's no drink bottles in here. And I was like,
I'm sorry, are you telling me that there is not
a single drink bottle in.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
The drink bottle in a drink bottle cupboard.
Speaker 2 (23:55):
Which I just restocked. And he was like, yeah, can't
find it.
Speaker 1 (23:57):
Okay. I was like, and this is just what you do.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
You go if I walk downstairs, you know what's bad, child,
But you know it's bad if you start with mate.
Speaker 1 (24:05):
So I do.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
I walk downstairs, open the drink bottle cupboard full to
the brim of drink bottles, right in front of five
kids drink bottles. My husband turns around and says to me, oh,
I didn't know they were in that cupboard. Sorry, you've
lived in the house for two years.
Speaker 1 (24:18):
We mutually live in this house.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
This is the cupboard that has always held all of
the And now I realize the reason why he keeps
buying more friggin drink bottles.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
Is because he didn't know that.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
He thought he was losing them, and he didn't realize
they were just going into a cupboard.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
You don't live in the Royal Palace. The kitchen's not
that big. He could have figured it out.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
I know I'm calling it. I'm going to use the
term weaponized in competence.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
Okay, Well, I mean let's not let's not try big
terms around that some people might not know the meaning to.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
You can tell when I've learned something new, I will
drop it.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
Matt said, you know, I might have had a man's look.
He's like, but I really try this time. I thought
I was looking in the right cupboard.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
Rubbish.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
And I think that there has to be more to this,
because it can't just be weaponized in competence.
Speaker 1 (24:57):
Men out there.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
Surely they're just as people at looking for things as
their female counterparts.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
Oh, they're lazy and they're not as smart. That's odd.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
All the men in the car turning over to listen
to I don't know who else is on the afternoons.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
No, okay, Look, there's.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
Minimal research on this topic, which might come as a surprise,
but there is a theory. It's called the hunter gatherer hypothesis.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
So this is what it says.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
Some researchers suggest that men inherently struggle to find things
more than women. However, some researchers suggest that men's brains
might be more adept at identifying distant, rapidly moving objects
like prey, while women's brains are better at recognizing nearby
static objects like berries and household eye whatever.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Because we have lost me at prey, do you.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
Murn out they're catching balls and women at catch and
drink bottles.
Speaker 3 (25:47):
I mean, that's literally what my husband does is gold
key by catches balls.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
Okay, here's my first thought.
Speaker 3 (25:53):
Why the hell are we doing research studies on why
men can't find stuff? Where we haven't done them on endometriosis,
we haven't done them on pause, we.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
Haven't done the moment. I'm all for this that he
need to be done. No, come back to me, Come
back to me.
Speaker 3 (26:07):
We've done research on metopause that we could talk about
why men can't find stuff. I literally just got off
the I mean you were in the break, Laura, you
were listening to my conversation with my husband. He's at
my house and left him out some keys, and I'm
trying to talk him through where they are and I'm like, no, Ben,
they're right in front of you. He's like, I can't
see them, they're not here. It was infuriating. I could
see them in the FaceTime.
Speaker 1 (26:24):
I'm like, they're there, They're there.
Speaker 3 (26:26):
He couldn't see them, and I'm like, what is wrong
with men? But I'm glad now we've got the research
that he can't find a berry, but he could catch
a ball and find the prey.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
I mean, we've made this very heterosexual. But what about
if you're in a same sex What if it's two men,
they never find anything, but grace, you're in a same
sex relationship, surely there's someone in your household who just
can't find anything.
Speaker 3 (26:44):
Yeah, I suck at looking for things, and my partner's like,
if I find it in three seconds, I'll be so mad.
That's an empty threat, because you know you are. Nah,
but you win them over, and I know you would to.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
You that your eyelids. I'm very lovable.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
Stop proclaimed we're gonna get I've got shit to look
for anyway.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
All Right, what I'm about to tell you all is
going to make you feel gross. Your skin is going
to crawl. You are going to maybe want to burn
your house down.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Don't do that. There is a doctor that has come
out and.
Speaker 3 (27:14):
Revealed the everyday household items that are dirtier than your
toilet seat. And now this article is being red and
shared so many times. But I'm pretty sure it's because
of how hot the doctor is, which has nothing to
do with it.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
But look at that picture of the doctor here.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
Joe Whittington. Doctor Joe, you're doing well for yourself, aren't you.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
Powered look him up? It doesn't even matter that it's
about the story.
Speaker 3 (27:34):
It doesn't even matter that he's talking about toilet seats.
Speaker 1 (27:36):
And poops and stuff because he's good looking.
Speaker 3 (27:39):
But I'm going to get a bit scizzy here for
a minute. He talks about these things in units of
c f us, which is colony forming units. Now, that
is how they see how dirty something is. It's bacteria per.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
Square inch before we get into a list, though, and
rattle that off. Yeah, the only thing that I have
been told that's more dirty than a toilet is money.
That's like, have you heard that old wives tail? That's
money that eribs tail. Every single dollar coin or like
coins or notes or whatever have actual poop particles on them.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
Well, I've also heard, if I've got a few other ones,
the door handle of the toilet.
Speaker 1 (28:14):
Is the worst than the truth. You don't wash your hands.
What touches the toilet seat? Guy? Maybe? Okay, don't answer that.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
My brain was going on depends on if a man
has sat down to do a poop, because then it's
more things to touch on the toilet seat.
Speaker 1 (28:28):
Usually.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
I've also heard a rumor that toilet, yes.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
You got to tuck it in my Okay, my husband
in the toilet bowl and he's not strapping it.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
Okay, he always sits down to do a week. But
then I wonder, like, does it flap against mate?
Speaker 1 (28:48):
He's doing all right for himself, my husband. I'm proud
of him. That sorry too much for Grace. Producer. Grace
has just gone into the corner.
Speaker 3 (28:54):
Well, let's let's poor Matt can't even close the door
because it gets stuck in the door.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
He uses the open the door or whatever. I really
into this show. He'll be thrilled. Okay, let's get back
on track.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
So to give you context, because we want to base
it off this, A toilet seat has fifty CFUs Okay.
Speaker 1 (29:14):
Twenty forming units. That's the bacteria. So we're going with
fifty bits of bacteria. Now, listen to this.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
A TV remote you sit down at night, one hand
in the popcorn. Then you touch the TV remote that
has five thousand CFUs. So that's one hundred times dirtier
than your toilet seat.
Speaker 1 (29:32):
And it's discussing. Okay, you think that's bad.
Speaker 3 (29:34):
No, strap in cutting board can have up to ten
thousand CFUs. That makes it two hundred times dirtier.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
I can believe this one though, and I also wonder
is the plastic chopping boards or wooden chopping boards worse,
because wouldn't it can't be good.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
Wooden harbor is more bacteria, of course, it's so oksen.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
And then just sits in there, and then every so
often you give it a bit of a wash and
there's your chicken for three days.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
This one, I feel like, we know, but this is disgusting.
It makes me want to go get some bacterial wipes
and wipe it down now. But your mobile phone twenty
five thousand, See if you poos, surely, poos surely, though
your mobile phone is only dirtier if you're someone who
doesn't wash your hands, because if you're the only person
handling your phone, it's because it's everywhere other people put
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their hand on a surface. The phone goes on the surface,
then it goes onto your hand. It's like it transfers
off everything.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
But then your hands would have more dirt on them
than a toilet seat, because you're touching it's your hands.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
They do.
Speaker 3 (30:28):
I don't have the poos stats on that one, but
then your hands, don forbid.
Speaker 1 (30:31):
Let's stick around. That's going to be our next week's show.
Speaker 3 (30:34):
But do you want to know what the two highest
ones were. A pillowcase. If you're not washing your pillowcase weekly,
which I reckon most people listening.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
I don't think people are doing it weekly.
Speaker 3 (30:43):
Maybe bi weekly, like bi weekly is twice I mean fortunately, yeah,
thank you for that bi weekly.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
You're killing it. Bi weekly, You're good. But a pillow
case if left.
Speaker 3 (30:52):
Unwashed for one week, three million poos and then if
we move on to the killer, the number one, so
you need to go home and throw these out single
use your kitchen sponge. What you think you are wiping
bacteria with to clean it is actually spreading it. Ten
millions see few poos.
Speaker 1 (31:09):
Do you know what? Though?
Speaker 2 (31:10):
I listened to this and yeah, look horror terrorizing. Ah,
I'm so scattered for germs.
Speaker 1 (31:14):
I'm not a very.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
Germy person, as in, like, I don't care about germs
as much as we are.
Speaker 1 (31:18):
You sick every week, but I'm not sick. That's my point.
Speaker 2 (31:21):
My point is is that I think you need germs
to be able to have some sort of immunity. I
have been ten thousand poop particles. No, but I think
we worry a bit too much about germs. Like I'm
the mom that when I drop back in the day.
My kids are not with dummies anymore, but dummy drops
on the ground, Pick up the dummy, wipe it.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
On your shirt, shove it back in the kid. She's fine.
Speaker 3 (31:41):
I look, I eat off the floor all the time.
It's fine. I'm not a germy person. I worked in
a hospital for thirteen years. I have picked up everything,
and I have a really great immunity. But there's something
about knowing that you are spreading ten thousand poop sefus
across your bench when you're wiping it.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
That's just not cool.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
I think there's some things we need to learn from it.
I find it out agree. And just because it's soap
doesn't mean it's clean.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
I will never forget just because it's cold. I mean,
raining doesn't mean it's cold. No, I will never.
Speaker 2 (32:07):
Forget being in a public toilet Once I was like
maybe thirteen years old. It's a memory that stuck with
me forever. And I went to wash my hand. There
was a bar It was a bar soap that was
sitting in this public toilet.
Speaker 1 (32:17):
You know when the bar soap's like old and dried
and it's.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
Got like the crack is in it and it's well,
it's just got the cracks in it because it's so dry,
and the cracks are kind of like black in between
the cracks. The soap was there. This old lady was
in the in the bathroom. She was washing her hands
as well, and she was just with water. And she
turned around to me as I went to reach it,
and she goes, Darling.
Speaker 1 (32:35):
Just because it's soap doesn't make it clean.
Speaker 3 (32:39):
It's true.
Speaker 2 (32:39):
And I looked at that soap and I was like,
I'm gonna that's a wise, wise woman right there. And
I've kept that lesson my whole life. And I kept
that soap.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
I've still got it.
Speaker 2 (32:50):
On one hand, they say that being a parent is
like the greatest joy gift, the greatest gift.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
I mean, I'm not sure. Yeah it is.
Speaker 3 (32:58):
Oh, here comes the sandwich that everyone has to say, No,
it's not.
Speaker 1 (33:01):
I'm not saying a sandwich today.
Speaker 2 (33:03):
What I'm saying is that it's also known to be
quite a thankless job at times. You know, like especially
when you've got little kids, they're not good at telling
you how grateful they are for the amazing life that
you're building for them. They often like to tell you
that they hate you and my kids. I've got a
five year old a four year old Lola, who I
seem to talk about a lot because she really is
the personality of the family. She is going through a
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phase at the moment where she likes to tell me
that she hates me. Either, I hate you, You're the
worst mummy ever.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
I'm getting out of this family.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
Actually, they're all different versions of how much she hates
being a part of our household.
Speaker 1 (33:39):
That was my favorite.
Speaker 3 (33:41):
Let's just quickly play that audio now, when she yelled
at you and said I'm getting.
Speaker 1 (33:44):
Out of here. Actually, that's my favorite. That was.
Speaker 2 (33:51):
That was when we told her that she was having
a baby sister, and she was thrilled.
Speaker 1 (33:56):
Anyway, So recently we.
Speaker 2 (33:59):
I mean we went to obviously was your wedding, brit
but we took the kids over there and we had
a holiday alongside that as well, and the kids had
a truly amazing time. We booked a hotel that was
it's called the Family Nest.
Speaker 1 (34:10):
It could not be more for children.
Speaker 2 (34:12):
It has like a big play center there, it's got
a kid's club on site. Even within the own like
the second bedrooms of every villa. It's decked out for
children with toys and like blocks and cubby houses.
Speaker 1 (34:25):
What more could you want?
Speaker 2 (34:26):
It had a pull like it had every single thing
that a kid could possibly want. So we'd already done
all those kids activities around the hotel, and then this
one was the day after your wedding, and they'd been
with the babysitter for.
Speaker 1 (34:37):
A few days.
Speaker 2 (34:38):
Mind you, Lola had told me that she loved the
Balinese nanny more than me.
Speaker 1 (34:43):
We were in the car and she that's that's a
hard pill to swallow.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
So we're in the car. We'd gone to the beach.
She collected two little rocks. She handed me one rock.
One rock was evidently nicer than the other. One was
very obviously not an attractive rock. She handed me the
ugly rock, Mummy, this is for you, but this one
is for Yanni. And she's patting the pretty stone and
I was like, okay, that's cute, and then she looks
(35:07):
at me. This is about five minutes later in the car, right,
she looks at me and she goes, Mommy, can I
have that? And I was like yeah, and I handed
it back to her and she goes, I changed my mind.
They're both for Yanni.
Speaker 1 (35:17):
They're both for Yanni window. She was like, I know
that one.
Speaker 2 (35:19):
Like she even said she said, you can have that
one because it's ugly. But then she wanted to give
them both. Anyway, that was one thing, a little bit
of a heartbreak.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
I just want to like prop you up here.
Speaker 3 (35:27):
Yannie's the fun She doesn't have to parents, she's in nanny,
so she looks after them, she plays with them, and
you're the disciplinarian and the one that has to like
break the news.
Speaker 1 (35:36):
I don't know, I still think I'm the fun mom.
Sometimes we're on holiday, but you make them meat, the
vegetables and stuff. Kids were eating ice cream for breakfast.
Speaker 3 (35:43):
Goddamn, I'll just trying to make it feel better.
Speaker 1 (35:44):
Fine, she hates you. Whatever, Let's go back to your story.
Speaker 2 (35:48):
So so we're on the last It was like the
second last day before we left, we went to like
a beautiful beach club. Like the kids could not have
had a better day. They went and played at like
an activity center. They had ice cream after their breakfast.
We went to the beach club. They had a second
ice cream. The whole day was centered around them just
having an amazing time. Yeah, and they seemed relatively grateful.
Whilst we were doing the things we came home. The
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only thing that they had to do in that day
that was against their wishes was that we needed to
wash their hair, because it had been a full seven
days of zero hair washing.
Speaker 1 (36:18):
And Lola looked like she'd rolled out of a bin. Okay,
I don't want to say anything. When I saw her,
she's done and she's dunk. She'd been showering, so I
was like, okay, we're going to wash your hair.
Speaker 2 (36:27):
The screaming match that absolutely ensued afterwards. It was like
an unrelenting battle. You would have thought that I was
trying to cut legs off. It was horrendous. Why because
she didn't want to wash her hair and that resulted
in her and she's so stubborn. She was, I hate you, mummy,
I hate you. You are the worst mummy. And she
went to bed so mad at me. And I went
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to bed so completely deflated as a mom that I
was to.
Speaker 3 (36:52):
Make you upset or do you know that there is
like not real and they're a child and stup or
do you actually get upset by your child's at you?
Speaker 1 (37:01):
Sometimes? To be honest, like I can make jokes about it.
Speaker 2 (37:04):
Sometimes it makes me feel sad when I feel as
though I've tried so hard, Like I feel like I've
done everything I can to really make a special day
for them, and I wanted it to be special, and
we've gone out of our way to do things that
are just for them. So then it's not that's not enough.
It's just that, like they see everything in isolation, so
they're having fun at that moment while they're having fun,
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and then as soon as they don't get their way
about something, then they're mad about it. And I know
it's like, I don't want anyone to listen to this
and think that I have the most ungrateful kids in
the world. I absolutely don't. I have a four year old.
It's just big emotions and in one day, it's the
full spectrum of every emotion. And you know, as much
as she tells me how much she loves me all
the time, she also tells me that she hates me.
And I know she doesn't hate me, But I feel
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as though this is something that every parent who's at
this age of parenting has to go through.
Speaker 3 (37:52):
Do you know, I remember this one story that has
stuck with me from childhood, and thank God, it wasn't me.
It was my youngest sister Sherry. It must have been
exactly what you've just said, right, Like, we're four kids
in our family and they're all very close together, and
my mom obviously just she's great, great, great great great.
Speaker 1 (38:08):
We wear it down.
Speaker 3 (38:09):
She had a low point and she.
Speaker 1 (38:09):
Was back right.
Speaker 3 (38:11):
We would have said those things for all the time,
like I hate you Mom, I hate you dad, whatever.
But this one day, Sherid and my little sister she
must have had an argument with mom. Mom wouldn't let
it do anything. She was like five. She laid on
her back and crawled on her back camakazi under our
like our little table, like a coffee table, and in
her text us she wrote I hate mom under the
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table on the table, so it was there forever. It
was like a tattoo. And so Mom saw her, She's like,
what are you doing? Shared was like nothing, and Mum
crawled under the table and saw that she'd just written
I hate your mom, and I'll never forget it made
her so sad.
Speaker 1 (38:43):
She wasn't angry, but it.
Speaker 3 (38:45):
Was obviously like one of those days where we all
bought it down. All week, we've been wearing it down,
and I'll never forget. She was so sad, and then we.
Speaker 1 (38:51):
Had to be like, I love you, mom, like pudding.
But I've remembered it now.
Speaker 2 (38:56):
I think it's just sometimes it's the straw that breaks
the camel's back. And like, as a parent, your whole
existence is geared around trying to keep your kids safe,
trying to keep them happy. Do you think I want
to go to seven kids' birthday parties on the weekend?
Speaker 1 (39:08):
No, but I'm doing it, you know, Like do I
want four ice cream today? Yes? Do I want to
go to Yoji? Absolutely?
Speaker 2 (39:14):
You do so much, and your entire existence revolves around
making them happy, and then when they can't be grateful
for it because they're children, and also they're just going
to go through it, sometimes it really is I didn't
mean for this to get sentimental, but
This episode was recorded on Cameragle Land.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut.
I'm Laura, I'm Brittany, and this is the pickup, which
I'm sure you all know by now, but in case
you don't, that is our national radio show across the
country where we package up all the best bits and
we bring them here for you.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
In case you didn't listen to the radio this week.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
I would say, if you are a new listener to
Life on Cut, welcome, don't start.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
With this start here, go to one of our other
We do three four episodes a week. Go to the
other ones.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
You should probably start with great episode in case you
missed it. The wedding episode, yes, but I feel like
no one missed it had great downloads. Everyone's listened to
that one. I was going to say the aftermath episode
also had great downloads, but nothing like starting with an
ask uncut Aftermath that we've been teasing for two entire years.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
But if people knew here, they don't even know what
to ask Uncut is. Just go and listen to any
other episode that's not the radio show, because that's what.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
The podcast actually is, and then we do package.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Up the radio show here for you and just put
their little best parts in it.
Speaker 4 (01:00):
Well.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
Look, something we spoke about on air this week, and
if you guys have been following on socials, you would
know this. I talked about this on Life on cart
like a couple of weeks ago, and that was that
we've chosen the name for our unborn child. First name,
the little girl, middle name, and last name. Surprisingly, that's
so crazy to me.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
I mean, I haven't been pregnant, so I don't know,
but I just never imagined I'd be able to choose
entire name before.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
I saw it. I've done that every pregnancy.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
Marley May Rose Johnson was she was locked and loaded
well before you.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
Picked her the first week of the Bachelor.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
No, do you know what I think?
Speaker 2 (01:35):
I just saw the name somewhere and I was like,
not Mally May, but I saw the.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
Name Marley somewhere. It was probably Marley and Marley.
Speaker 3 (01:39):
And because I don't reckon you would have named your
daughter after.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
A dog that Marley and Me is spelt different. That's
m A R L E. Y. Oh my god. You
really need Marley me Marley May. It was from Marley
and Me. That's so it's almost the whole name anyway.
Marley May that was like locked and loaded. And then
Lola as well. Lola.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
I was like flicking on Instagram day and someone had
made real to the.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Song La La La La Lola.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Don't listen to lyrics of that song. Not appropriate to
name your child after. But I was like, yeah, I
love that name.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Laula interesting inspiration. So that's where it came from.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
None of my kids have great, like really sentimental naming stories.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
You were, Oh, you did say that you picked the name,
but we beeped it out. You were not going to
announce the name.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Yeah, so that was the point I was getting too. Sorry,
thanks to letting me back on track. I spoke about
how we chosen the name. I spoke about picking it,
and then we beated it out because I had not
checked with Matt as to whether it was or wasn't
appropriate for me to tell, you know, the entire world
that we'd chosen a name for this child.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Turns out my husband.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Did not give me the same courtesy, and he blurted
it out on two doting dads recently and told everyone
the name that we're calling the kids.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
So if you guys are in your kid in the womb.
It docks to our baby womb, docks your womb.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
But also if you want to know the name, I
say it on this episode so you will now know too.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Oh no, you've breadcumming. We're not going to tell you now.
You gotta listen to Guess today. Listen, No, we did.
You were really cute.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
I did get married last week and it was really cute.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
You guys.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Can I say every show, every single segment we started
on radio and also on the pod Brita has started
with I got married.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
Sorry, it's the biggest life event of my literal life.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Why I am thrilled by it?
Speaker 2 (03:16):
It is just funny because you'll be like talking about
burnt toast and you're like, so this week I got
married and then I made toast and the past was burnt.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Okay, how else do you want me to How do
you want.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Me to hook that you made a wedding package for
me without saying I.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Got married, Laura, what you're talking about now?
Speaker 3 (03:32):
No, I was actually going to talk about toast, you idiot.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
I would like it to be known that I did
not make this package.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
This was all of that. I was gonna give you props.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
No, only because of the song choices that's in it.
It's really funny. This was like a cute little package
that was played.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
Out produced Grace on the case made the package.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Yeah, Grace is like, how dare you? It was a
walk down memory lane.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
And when it started, I did think it was going
to be like I walked down memory lane of like
and my relationship, but no, Grace felt the need to
go back to when I got dumped on the Bachelor
and my old love life to love life.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
If anything, it's just a real showcase of the lows
and the highs and like where you've come from and
the struggles that you've been through.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
And I really liked.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
The part in the package that was put together where
it was like what doesn't.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
Kill you makes you strong? Grace? You know we loved it.
We're okaying you are.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
It was beautiful, It was wholesome. Could have cut a
few pieces maybe the Bachelor, but whatever, like you do you,
but that was really nice to have a walkdown. And
then we did talk about a very very funny science
based study.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Also, I'm so sorry that this entire show has just
become be slagging my husband. The reason why we talked
about this science based study is because we wanted to
do a true investigative look into whether or not the
man look or you know, a boy's look is actually
a genetic deformity abnormality that happens in men, or whether
that there's a you know, a psychological, social or something
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or other reason and that goes beyond just weaponized incompetence.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Yeah, and that wasn't a stupidity. One of the two wasn't.
Speaker 3 (05:04):
Actually the study I was going to talk about, But
thanks for hijackie my story.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Just to finish my sentence. The study of the.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Study off was talking about was what's dirtier in your
house than a toilet? Like what every day things you
use around your house is dirty than a toilet. But
Laura told a story too, so if you listen, we'll
she'll hear it all.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Sorry, guys, we're delirious. We've covered some ground this week.
It was a lot. Let's let them listen on their own.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
See ya.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Bye.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
We have such a special show for you guys today,
especially for everyone here, especially you britt because Brittany just
got mad.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Brittany, Why am I talking about Brittany? And third person?
I don't know. I got married. I cannot believe it.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
For everyone listening, you guys might not know this story.
So Britta and I have been doing a podcast together
for six years now. I have been there through all
of your turbulent relationships.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
And when we.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
Started our podcast, Laugh and carp it was all based
around sex and relationships, and a big part of that
was Britt talking about her dating life and talking of
some of the absolute monstrosities that she'd experienced in that time.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
It was a tumultuous time, a lot of red flags
to navigate.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Brit came back from her first date with Ben and
I heard about this Swiss, extremely tall footballer who lived
overseas who she had had a one night stand with
that kind of evolved into a few more days.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
It was supposed to be a one.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Nighter, and then she drops about a week before Christmas
that year, I'm gonna go over seas for a holiday.
And I was like, I see what's going on here.
And it wasn't until only a couple of days before
that she actually admitted she was going over to see
this guy that she'd hooked up with on a dating
site for three days whilst he was traveling like two
months with his team, and I said, this is the
(06:43):
worst idea you have ever had. I was like, this
is gonna end in disaster.
Speaker 3 (06:48):
Laura was like, do it, fine if you want to,
but don't say I didn't toast.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
It's not gonna end.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
Well, I was like, do it for the content, but
come home with a story, and.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Do not fall in love with this guy. Now look
at us. Now we're literally getting married. You are married.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Oh yeah, well look we've been through the journey with you,
britt everyone here at the pickup but also across life
uncut the pot as well, and it's been such a
beautiful love story.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
To be able to witness, to be able to be
in a small way a part of and you know,
I only did it.
Speaker 3 (07:15):
Law was just so trees and I can say told
you so, I don't actually like the guy, just I
was just like, yes, anything.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Do you know I'm also okay with saying when I'm wrong,
and I was very wrong. Yeah, Brittan, we have put
together a little recap of the last few years of
your love story, not just yours of Ben and how
you guys met, but also just some of the some of.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
The ups and downs along the way. Have a listened
to this.
Speaker 4 (07:40):
In twenty eighteen, a young, vibrant Brittany Hockley brave to
reality television seeking love on The Bachelor.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Definitely the most vulnerable I've ever felt.
Speaker 4 (07:49):
Where she would make Bachelor history when the honey budger
I picked No.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
One strong feelings for you, Brittany.
Speaker 3 (07:55):
When I say those three words, I won't really mean
it right now.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
I can't give one hundred percent of me to you.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
So you're all wake up. It's got a bit bright
as day.
Speaker 4 (08:09):
After an unsuccessful attempt at finding love on television, Brittany
Hockley found hope.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
Woke up.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
They literally sat up out of bed and I thought,
today's the day I'm going to get back on the horse.
And I thought, you know what, I'm going to have
my first ever one night stand. And so I went
on RAYA this like six foot six beautiful Swiss man
that was here playing football like he was a professional athlete.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
So I swiped right. We matched.
Speaker 3 (08:35):
We talked for about half an hour, so he came over.
Eventually we got down sanity gritty, hooked up. It was amazing,
and then he shaded to go, and as he was leaving,
I thought, I'm never going to see this guy again.
Then the next day he messages me and he's like, hey,
do you want to see each other again? I've got
a bit of time, And I was like, yeah, right.
We just fell in love from the very beginning.
Speaker 4 (08:54):
But not all was smooth sailing.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
I'm in my first argument with my new boyfriend Ben.
So with dating for about four months now, I had
facetimed Ben because he'd ask me something, so we're having
a quick conversation.
Speaker 1 (09:06):
There was all this urgency.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
Because back on air twenty seconds I signed off really
quickly on a phone call, and I was a bit panicky.
So I was like, okay, I got to go go
to go love you bye. And then I hung up
the phone and I said, oh my god, I've just
said I love you. Two seconds later, I get a
text did you just say I love you? And I
did what any normal woman would do, and I gas
lipped him and I said, I do not say that, yes, lie.
(09:28):
Two weeks later he said I love you in another language,
but I knew what he was saying. So now we're
in this argument about who said they love him first?
Speaker 1 (09:36):
What doesn't kill your exta fuck?
Speaker 4 (09:39):
Turns out they were both in love, and their relationship
grew from strength to strength until one day she had
some exciting news to share with the Pickup team and
Life Uncut community.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
I've been single for the better part of ten years
and I was always a single friend watching all my
friends fall in love, which made me so happy, but
it was definitely hard and I started to think maybe
it wasn't for me.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
I love love.
Speaker 3 (10:00):
Then in twenty twenty two, I met this amazing guy,
but he lived overseas.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
My friends were.
Speaker 3 (10:05):
Really concerned because long distance is never easy and I've
always had commitment issues, but this time it felt different
and I thought he was worth it. Flash forward to
now and I've never been happier. And last week, on
a beautiful island, he asked me to be his wife.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
You just want to know, what's a cute way to tell.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
My friends that I'm getting married?
Speaker 1 (10:27):
So moment, so long? Please you, please you, Oh, brit.
Speaker 3 (10:41):
Also that it gets me at the air, it gets
me at the end. When I told you, guys, it
was like the most wholesome moment.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
Now, Britt, you and I have been doing a podcast together,
Life on Car podcast, or.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
Anyone wants to go and listen.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
We've been doing this together for six years, right, And
I think between you and I we have a pretty
good gauge on what is or isn't appropriate to share
in terms of storytelling.
Speaker 3 (11:04):
Because I'd say a perfect gauge.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
Yeah, Like, I you know my husband, he also has
a podcast, and like sometimes we tell personal stories, whether
it be about parenting or it be about what's happened
in our lives. And Matt and I are pretty much
always on the same page. Like, I don't think I've
ever crossed a line in sharing a story that he
wasn't okay with.
Speaker 3 (11:25):
No, And I think this might surprise a lot of
people because our job is to talk. We do five
radio shows a week and we do three podcasts a week.
People think we share everything. We absolutely don't. Like there
are so many things that we know for our relationships
or our friendships, like we're the line totally or for
like privacy.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
Sometimes it's not your own story and so like you're
not going to share someone else's secrets. But recently, I
mean we were talking about it and I was telling
I was telling you guys, if you were listening the
other week, how Matt and I have chosen our third
baby's baby name.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
Oh yeah, but you wouldn't actually tell us. You kept
beeping it out.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
We beat it out because I just assumed that a
baby name, unless you've had a conversation with your partner,
unless you both have mutually agreed that you're not going
to tell people, or that you are going to tell people.
I feel like that that's a decision you come to together.
And now, for reference, I'm not saying like tell your
friends or tell your mom or tell you. I'm talking
about like talking about it on a podcast or saying
(12:20):
it on a national radio show. I feel like that's
one of those things that the line you should just
kind of check and make sure that everyone's okay with.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
Yeah, one hundred percent agree.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
So I alluded to the fact that we've chosen a name,
first name, middle name, and the first name starts with P,
and we're pretty certain on that. I receive a message
whilst we're away and BALI for your wedding bread by
a listener who doesn't listen to our podcast, who doesn't
listen to this radio show, but she listens to Matt's podcast,
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and she said, I just wanted to say the name
Poppy is so cute.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
I think you've chosen a great name.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
And I was like, I'm sorry, what and then she goes, oh,
was Matt not meant to say it on the podcast.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
I then went.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Through the transcript of two doting dads, and Matt not
only did he say the name that we actually chose,
he docked your unborn baby. It gets worse, so he
docks our unbone baby. Now everyone, in case you're curious,
we're calling it Poppy. It's it's not a pick up exclusive,
so is that out?
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Now? It's out pop star, it's out popped up Poppy.
I'm gone pop up. I like that. Yeah, cute, lollipop,
popsicle cute. Don't call my dad. I love that Poppy.
It means we've got a Marley, a Lola, and a Poppy,
and I feel like those names fit beautifully together.
Speaker 3 (13:32):
What happens if it comes out? She comes out sorry,
and it doesn't look like a Poppy, and you're like,
you're not poppy.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
I just feel like babies all look weird anyway. I
feel like they could be anything.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
So just stick to it.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Like what baby came out and looked like a David?
It grew into that name or.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
An interesting example, Yeah, okay, continue now I get it,
like Frank, what baby's.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
So I have something to tell you as well, and
that is is that there were more things that my
husband has leaked recently. So you made it very clear.
I mean, we didn't talk about it on the show,
We didn't talk about on the pod, we have not
spoken about it anywhere. And that was the details surrounding
your wedding. We all went to Bali on a secret
mission to get Brit hitched.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Everyone really, everyone was well aware.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Yeah, Britt was posting from Italy pretending she was in Europe.
I was also on a work trip in Bali, so
I had said I was over there for work and
managed to kind of, you know, fly under the radar.
Our friends, all, everyone who's from Australia that was traveling
over there all pretended as though they were not in Bali.
Speaker 3 (14:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
No, my husband, my husband got on two doting dads
and said on his podcast, oh yeah, we're going over
to Bali for BRIT's wedding the day what the day
of your wedding?
Speaker 1 (14:39):
That came out?
Speaker 2 (14:40):
So that came out at six am in.
Speaker 1 (14:43):
San Is he that thirsty for a headline? Do you know?
What he said. He's like, you guys get everything. He goes.
I even had to give my baby gender reveals to
the pickup. He's like, give me this. I was at
the wedding.
Speaker 3 (14:54):
Is not your fair, but the wedding doesn't come into
the baby gender reveal.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
No, it was an honest mistake and the problem was
to be out the location, give coordinates, like time.
Speaker 1 (15:02):
Frames, schedule pandora estake because.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
Guest list Yeah, he put a drops mapp and that
was just.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
Me assurance on the left wing.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
No, he yeah, he was devastated.
Speaker 2 (15:14):
So once again, someone one of his listeners slid into
my DMS and was like, hey, was Matt meant to
give away the fact that you guys are all over
there for its wedding, which I said, No, No, he
was a little He made a mistake because he had
pre recorded that episode, and so when he looked at
the dates, he just assumed that it was going to
be retrospective, that your wedding would have already happened and
(15:36):
it would have been okay. He didn't realize it was
the day.
Speaker 3 (15:39):
I must admit that would have been very hard to
cross check your release date with the wedding dates. Yeah,
that's asking a lot. Yeah, that's a big cost, a
lot of data there to go through.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
Mat. He was so sad. I don't think it.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Was that my wedding got doxed. Baby's name got doxed.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
Think about the jill to be fair, he was almost
in tears when he realized and he had the he
had the podcast taken down straight away. Several thousand people
had already listened. But that's okay.
Speaker 3 (16:09):
Put your wedding invites out for Matt, put them on
the stoop.
Speaker 1 (16:12):
Yeah, I'll put the baby out for him as baby
out for Mat.
Speaker 2 (16:14):
Oh my god, it is time because it's Thursday for
Ask gun Cut, and that is where we answer you're deep,
you're dark, and you're burning questions. We do this segment
Ask Guncut on our podcast Life Uncut.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Every week every Thursday, where we.
Speaker 2 (16:29):
Answer your listener questions and you guys call in or
you ride in. And this week we have a question
from someone who wants to remain anonymous for fear of
her potential future fiance finding out look a bit double handed.
Speaker 3 (16:43):
I understand why it's she wants to be anonymous, but
maybe she shouldn't be. Maybe he needs to hear it.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
Let's call her Sally. Sally came across a photo.
Speaker 3 (16:52):
This sounds sorry, it sounds like a sort of story
book like Sally, like sunsets.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
No, all right, we've been talking a lot about weddings
this week because obviously got married. But this has to
do with when you find out that your partner is
going to propose to you.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
So I we're not going to call it Sally.
Speaker 2 (17:06):
The person who wrote in they found the pictures in
their partner's phone of the engagement ring that he is
planning to propose with. It's only at the design stage,
so by the looks of things, it hasn't been made yet,
but all the tech drawings, that the cat drawings for
the design for the ring have been done. Now, firstly,
she is incredibly thrilled that he's going to propose love
(17:28):
of life.
Speaker 1 (17:28):
Whooh yay, so excited. I love that. Hold On.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
On the other hand, she absolutely hates the ring and
thinks it is the ugliest thing she's ever laid.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Her eyes on. Knowing that he hasn't gone.
Speaker 2 (17:39):
Through yet, or you know, she doesn't know for certain,
but she doesn't think he's gone through with making it yet.
How would you approach this situation. Do you just suck
it up and bear it and get a ring that
you hate, or do you tell your partner that you
know that they're designing a ring because you saw it
in their phone and you don't like it.
Speaker 3 (17:57):
She doesn't know it hasn't been made yet. You've seen
a photo know that hasn't been made, that he doesn't
have it socked away. Or maybe he's trying to throw
off the scent. Maybe he knows she's snoopy mix snoop.
She was going to go through the phone now, so
he's put nut you don't reckon nanna nah, No one
is that. Very few people are that sort of like savvy. Okay,
here it is just hypothetically, it hasn't been major. It
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isn't throwing off the scent. It's the real ring and
she hates it. Can you tell him that you accidentally
went through his phone saw the ring, spoil the engagement
and double down by saying you don't like the ring. No,
unless you want him to not propose. That's like, there
are so many things wrong with that. You absolutely can't totally.
But what do you do if you get a ring
and it's just so hideous.
Speaker 1 (18:38):
What do you do?
Speaker 3 (18:39):
I know someone's hard. Yeah, I know somebody that happened
to and she still has it to this day. It's
been like fifteen years, and it was bad. I will
say that.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
I remember I have a friend in my life whose
ring I actually ended up designing the ring for them,
and it worked out well, not exactly what she wanted,
but it was well. But what he wanted for her
was worlds apart from what she wanted. And I remember
him sending me the designs and the ring was so
ugly and it took.
Speaker 1 (19:06):
A really I didn't want to make it. I was.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
It took a really long time to like get him
to realize that maybe he was designing a ring for
himself and not for his future wife.
Speaker 3 (19:14):
Also, just to catch up to speed, if you don't know,
Laura is a jewelry design Oh yeah, she made my
wedding rings, which were wonderful once we got it to
fit properly. But she makes other people's engagement rings anyway.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
Well, look, I think that.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
The way that you can get around this is you
cannot tell them that you don't like the ring. You
can't even tell him that you've seen the ring. I
don't think, because it could just you know, it's trying.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
God, you also wanted to be a surprise.
Speaker 3 (19:36):
You know what if you spoil the surprise for him,
I've seen this happen before.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
He's not going to do it. Well, he might.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
Still, but he might just do it a bit deflated,
and especially if he knows you hate the ring. What
I think you can do though, you could just start
tagging him on Instagram in rings that you really like,
sending him inspiration and be like, hey, honey, in case
you're ever thinking of marrying me, this is the ring
that I would really like. I think that you can
do it knowing full well that you are going to
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get proposed to he does want to marry you, and
hopefully if he hasn't started the design process, he can
make a pivot.
Speaker 3 (20:11):
I think what you can do is too There's always
this carousels on Instagram of multiple rings, and I was like,
which ring do you like? I used to send those
to Ben and be like, which one do you think
I would like? But you could put your own bunch
of pictures together, put one that is similar to the
ring that you know he's got, but also put ones
that you love and go through them and say, Hey,
which one would you pick for me? And then you
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tell him which ones you like?
Speaker 2 (20:34):
Did we ever talk about this with you, Britt? So
Britt was away in the jungle when Ben was organizing
her engagement rings.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
So this was like last year.
Speaker 2 (20:42):
Britt was in the jungle, which meant I had access
to Britt's Instagram because I was managing her social media.
And Ben told me I'm thinking of proposing to Brit.
Do you have any idea what kind of rings she
would want? And it was so helpful because you had
saved so many engagement rings and they were all the same,
massive oval and we forgets what I got, massive overal
and former.
Speaker 1 (21:02):
You can thank me for that. I found that, and
I knew exactly what you wanted.
Speaker 3 (21:05):
I had sent that to him anyway a hundred times,
like this kid knew what I wanted.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
Well he got the affirmation. You made it very easy
for everyone to know what you wanted. And I think
that that's what we have to do. Take make a
pressure of him. Just send him what you like. You
don't have to say you've seen it. Send him what
you like.
Speaker 3 (21:19):
Make it very clear, leave print out, circle it standaling
swipe ups, whatever it takes.
Speaker 2 (21:24):
But unfortunately, if you do end up with him proposing
with the ring that you hate, you just I think
you've got to suck it up until one day you
get it in short and then you.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
Accidentally lose it. I didn't say that because I don't
want to get sued by an intrance car.
Speaker 3 (21:34):
I can you can melt it down to after.
Speaker 1 (21:36):
The that Nah, No, everyone's okay with that.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
But anyway, I need to talk to you about something
that has been plaguing my relationship.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
Well lucky we are together now on a radio show.
Then we talked, oh my god, what do you do about?
Speaker 2 (21:51):
So we've all heard of like the man look cute.
We all make jokes about it, men who can't find
things in.
Speaker 1 (21:56):
The house, Like you've had a man's look. You've had
a man's look.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
You know, you tell someone exactly where it is and
then they can't find it, and it's the quote is
it's a man's look. This has become a real point
of contention in my relationship with Matt and I don't
know whether it's getting progressively worse, whether he's I don't know,
Maybe the testosterone is increasing in him and therefore he
just can't find things anymore.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
But it is something that we deal with frequently.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
To the point where I feel as though I could
not be more specific about where I tell him something is,
and he will walk downstairs, wander around looking at the ceiling,
and then say, oh, I.
Speaker 1 (22:31):
Can't find it, can't find it. It must be bad too,
because you're bad.
Speaker 3 (22:34):
So if he's if he's worse than you like, because
in our relationship, you're like, have you seen my such
and such? And if you're guiding him, then, like the
both of you, it's problems.
Speaker 1 (22:44):
Yeah, where are our kids? Has anyone seen how many
kids do we have? I that's why we're having another one.
Just replace him because you've lost the other one. She'll
show up. She's under lamp. No speaking. Okay, So we
were putting.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
I was putting a lot of the girls to bed
the other night, and Lola specifically has a drink bottle,
you know that she has in bed with her when.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
She goes to sleep.
Speaker 2 (23:01):
They both do, but they're usually always in their beds. Anyway,
I'd brought them downstairs and I had washed them, and
so I'd put them away instead of taking them back
upstairs and just putting them next to their bed. I
called out to Matt and I was like, babe, can
you get Lola's drink bottle.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
He's like I can't find it.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
And I was like, okay, well, as he sits on
allow and literally literally and I was like, it's in
the cupboard where the drink bottles are. We have this
one cupboard in our house. Yeah, I know, because we
have so many drink bottles. He's got a million drink
bottles for his body, protein shakes or everything.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
Anyway, it's just full of drink bottles, nothing else.
Speaker 3 (23:32):
Yeah, everyone has that cupboard.
Speaker 1 (23:33):
And I was like, it's in the drink bottle cupboard?
Are here? Nothing?
Speaker 2 (23:36):
For a second, can't find it. And I was like, okay, well,
why don't you just grab one of the other drink
it is in there, grab one of the other drink bottles.
I know that there's five kid appropriate drink bottles in there.
There's no drink bottles in here. And I was like,
I'm sorry, are you telling me that there is not
a single drink bottle in.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
The drink bottle in a drink bottle cupboard.
Speaker 2 (23:55):
Which I just restocked. And he was like, yeah, can't
find it.
Speaker 1 (23:57):
Okay. I was like, and this is just what you do.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
You go if I walk downstairs, you know what's bad, child,
But you know it's bad if you start with mate.
Speaker 1 (24:05):
So I do.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
I walk downstairs, open the drink bottle cupboard full to
the brim of drink bottles, right in front of five
kids drink bottles. My husband turns around and says to me, oh,
I didn't know they were in that cupboard. Sorry, you've
lived in the house for two years.
Speaker 1 (24:18):
We mutually live in this house.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
This is the cupboard that has always held all of
the And now I realize the reason why he keeps
buying more friggin drink bottles.
Speaker 1 (24:27):
Is because he didn't know that.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
He thought he was losing them, and he didn't realize
they were just going into a cupboard.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (24:31):
You don't live in the Royal Palace. The kitchen's not
that big. He could have figured it out.
Speaker 1 (24:35):
I know I'm calling it. I'm going to use the
term weaponized in competence.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
Okay, Well, I mean let's not let's not try big
terms around that some people might not know the meaning to.
Speaker 1 (24:44):
You can tell when I've learned something new, I will
drop it.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
Matt said, you know, I might have had a man's look.
He's like, but I really try this time. I thought
I was looking in the right cupboard.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
Rubbish.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
And I think that there has to be more to this,
because it can't just be weaponized in competence.
Speaker 1 (24:57):
Men out there.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
Surely they're just as people at looking for things as
their female counterparts.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
Oh, they're lazy and they're not as smart. That's odd.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
All the men in the car turning over to listen
to I don't know who else is on the afternoons.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
No, okay, Look, there's.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
Minimal research on this topic, which might come as a surprise,
but there is a theory. It's called the hunter gatherer hypothesis.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
So this is what it says.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
Some researchers suggest that men inherently struggle to find things
more than women. However, some researchers suggest that men's brains
might be more adept at identifying distant, rapidly moving objects
like prey, while women's brains are better at recognizing nearby
static objects like berries and household eye whatever.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
Because we have lost me at prey, do you.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
Murn out they're catching balls and women at catch and
drink bottles.
Speaker 3 (25:47):
I mean, that's literally what my husband does is gold
key by catches balls.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
Okay, here's my first thought.
Speaker 3 (25:53):
Why the hell are we doing research studies on why
men can't find stuff? Where we haven't done them on endometriosis,
we haven't done them on pause, we.
Speaker 1 (26:00):
Haven't done the moment. I'm all for this that he
need to be done. No, come back to me, Come
back to me.
Speaker 3 (26:07):
We've done research on metopause that we could talk about
why men can't find stuff. I literally just got off
the I mean you were in the break, Laura, you
were listening to my conversation with my husband. He's at
my house and left him out some keys, and I'm
trying to talk him through where they are and I'm like, no, Ben,
they're right in front of you. He's like, I can't
see them, they're not here. It was infuriating. I could
see them in the FaceTime.
Speaker 1 (26:24):
I'm like, they're there, They're there.
Speaker 3 (26:26):
He couldn't see them, and I'm like, what is wrong
with men? But I'm glad now we've got the research
that he can't find a berry, but he could catch
a ball and find the prey.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
I mean, we've made this very heterosexual. But what about
if you're in a same sex What if it's two men,
they never find anything, but grace, you're in a same
sex relationship, surely there's someone in your household who just
can't find anything.
Speaker 3 (26:44):
Yeah, I suck at looking for things, and my partner's like,
if I find it in three seconds, I'll be so mad.
That's an empty threat, because you know you are. Nah,
but you win them over, and I know you would to.
Speaker 1 (26:55):
You that your eyelids. I'm very lovable.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
Stop proclaimed we're gonna get I've got shit to look
for anyway.
Speaker 3 (27:03):
All Right, what I'm about to tell you all is
going to make you feel gross. Your skin is going
to crawl. You are going to maybe want to burn
your house down.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Don't do that. There is a doctor that has come
out and.
Speaker 3 (27:14):
Revealed the everyday household items that are dirtier than your
toilet seat. And now this article is being red and
shared so many times. But I'm pretty sure it's because
of how hot the doctor is, which has nothing to
do with it.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
But look at that picture of the doctor here.
Speaker 2 (27:28):
Joe Whittington. Doctor Joe, you're doing well for yourself, aren't you.
Speaker 1 (27:31):
Powered look him up? It doesn't even matter that it's
about the story.
Speaker 3 (27:34):
It doesn't even matter that he's talking about toilet seats.
Speaker 1 (27:36):
And poops and stuff because he's good looking.
Speaker 3 (27:39):
But I'm going to get a bit scizzy here for
a minute. He talks about these things in units of
c f us, which is colony forming units. Now, that
is how they see how dirty something is. It's bacteria per.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
Square inch before we get into a list, though, and
rattle that off. Yeah, the only thing that I have
been told that's more dirty than a toilet is money.
That's like, have you heard that old wives tail? That's
money that eribs tail. Every single dollar coin or like
coins or notes or whatever have actual poop particles on them.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
Well, I've also heard, if I've got a few other ones,
the door handle of the toilet.
Speaker 1 (28:14):
Is the worst than the truth. You don't wash your hands.
What touches the toilet seat? Guy? Maybe? Okay, don't answer that.
Speaker 2 (28:23):
My brain was going on depends on if a man
has sat down to do a poop, because then it's
more things to touch on the toilet seat.
Speaker 1 (28:28):
Usually.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
I've also heard a rumor that toilet, yes.
Speaker 1 (28:33):
You got to tuck it in my Okay, my husband
in the toilet bowl and he's not strapping it.
Speaker 2 (28:43):
Okay, he always sits down to do a week. But
then I wonder, like, does it flap against mate?
Speaker 1 (28:48):
He's doing all right for himself, my husband. I'm proud
of him. That sorry too much for Grace. Producer. Grace
has just gone into the corner.
Speaker 3 (28:54):
Well, let's let's poor Matt can't even close the door
because it gets stuck in the door.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
He uses the open the door or whatever. I really
into this show. He'll be thrilled. Okay, let's get back
on track.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
So to give you context, because we want to base
it off this, A toilet seat has fifty CFUs Okay.
Speaker 1 (29:14):
Twenty forming units. That's the bacteria. So we're going with
fifty bits of bacteria. Now, listen to this.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
A TV remote you sit down at night, one hand
in the popcorn. Then you touch the TV remote that
has five thousand CFUs. So that's one hundred times dirtier
than your toilet seat.
Speaker 1 (29:32):
And it's discussing. Okay, you think that's bad.
Speaker 3 (29:34):
No, strap in cutting board can have up to ten
thousand CFUs. That makes it two hundred times dirtier.
Speaker 2 (29:43):
I can believe this one though, and I also wonder
is the plastic chopping boards or wooden chopping boards worse,
because wouldn't it can't be good.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
Wooden harbor is more bacteria, of course, it's so oksen.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
And then just sits in there, and then every so
often you give it a bit of a wash and
there's your chicken for three days.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
This one, I feel like, we know, but this is disgusting.
It makes me want to go get some bacterial wipes
and wipe it down now. But your mobile phone twenty
five thousand, See if you poos, surely, poos surely, though
your mobile phone is only dirtier if you're someone who
doesn't wash your hands, because if you're the only person
handling your phone, it's because it's everywhere other people put
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their hand on a surface. The phone goes on the surface,
then it goes onto your hand. It's like it transfers
off everything.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
But then your hands would have more dirt on them
than a toilet seat, because you're touching it's your hands.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
They do.
Speaker 3 (30:28):
I don't have the poos stats on that one, but
then your hands, don forbid.
Speaker 1 (30:31):
Let's stick around. That's going to be our next week's show.
Speaker 3 (30:34):
But do you want to know what the two highest
ones were. A pillowcase. If you're not washing your pillowcase weekly,
which I reckon most people listening.
Speaker 1 (30:42):
I don't think people are doing it weekly.
Speaker 3 (30:43):
Maybe bi weekly, like bi weekly is twice I mean fortunately, yeah,
thank you for that bi weekly.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
You're killing it. Bi weekly, You're good. But a pillow
case if left.
Speaker 3 (30:52):
Unwashed for one week, three million poos and then if
we move on to the killer, the number one, so
you need to go home and throw these out single
use your kitchen sponge. What you think you are wiping
bacteria with to clean it is actually spreading it. Ten
millions see few poos.
Speaker 1 (31:09):
Do you know what? Though?
Speaker 2 (31:10):
I listened to this and yeah, look horror terrorizing. Ah,
I'm so scattered for germs.
Speaker 1 (31:14):
I'm not a very.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
Germy person, as in, like, I don't care about germs
as much as we are.
Speaker 1 (31:18):
You sick every week, but I'm not sick. That's my point.
Speaker 2 (31:21):
My point is is that I think you need germs
to be able to have some sort of immunity. I
have been ten thousand poop particles. No, but I think
we worry a bit too much about germs. Like I'm
the mom that when I drop back in the day.
My kids are not with dummies anymore, but dummy drops
on the ground, Pick up the dummy, wipe it.
Speaker 1 (31:38):
On your shirt, shove it back in the kid. She's fine.
Speaker 3 (31:41):
I look, I eat off the floor all the time.
It's fine. I'm not a germy person. I worked in
a hospital for thirteen years. I have picked up everything,
and I have a really great immunity. But there's something
about knowing that you are spreading ten thousand poop sefus
across your bench when you're wiping it.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
That's just not cool.
Speaker 2 (31:56):
I think there's some things we need to learn from it.
I find it out agree. And just because it's soap
doesn't mean it's clean.
Speaker 1 (32:03):
I will never forget just because it's cold. I mean,
raining doesn't mean it's cold. No, I will never.
Speaker 2 (32:07):
Forget being in a public toilet Once I was like
maybe thirteen years old. It's a memory that stuck with
me forever. And I went to wash my hand. There
was a bar It was a bar soap that was
sitting in this public toilet.
Speaker 1 (32:17):
You know when the bar soap's like old and dried
and it's.
Speaker 2 (32:20):
Got like the crack is in it and it's well,
it's just got the cracks in it because it's so dry,
and the cracks are kind of like black in between
the cracks. The soap was there. This old lady was
in the in the bathroom. She was washing her hands
as well, and she was just with water. And she
turned around to me as I went to reach it,
and she goes, Darling.
Speaker 1 (32:35):
Just because it's soap doesn't make it clean.
Speaker 3 (32:39):
It's true.
Speaker 2 (32:39):
And I looked at that soap and I was like,
I'm gonna that's a wise, wise woman right there. And
I've kept that lesson my whole life. And I kept
that soap.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
I've still got it.
Speaker 2 (32:50):
On one hand, they say that being a parent is
like the greatest joy gift, the greatest gift.
Speaker 1 (32:56):
I mean, I'm not sure. Yeah it is.
Speaker 3 (32:58):
Oh, here comes the sandwich that everyone has to say, No,
it's not.
Speaker 1 (33:01):
I'm not saying a sandwich today.
Speaker 2 (33:03):
What I'm saying is that it's also known to be
quite a thankless job at times. You know, like especially
when you've got little kids, they're not good at telling
you how grateful they are for the amazing life that
you're building for them. They often like to tell you
that they hate you and my kids. I've got a
five year old a four year old Lola, who I
seem to talk about a lot because she really is
the personality of the family. She is going through a
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phase at the moment where she likes to tell me
that she hates me. Either, I hate you, You're the
worst mummy ever.
Speaker 1 (33:33):
I'm getting out of this family.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
Actually, they're all different versions of how much she hates
being a part of our household.
Speaker 1 (33:39):
That was my favorite.
Speaker 3 (33:41):
Let's just quickly play that audio now, when she yelled
at you and said I'm getting.
Speaker 1 (33:44):
Out of here. Actually, that's my favorite. That was.
Speaker 2 (33:51):
That was when we told her that she was having
a baby sister, and she was thrilled.
Speaker 1 (33:56):
Anyway, So recently we.
Speaker 2 (33:59):
I mean we went to obviously was your wedding, brit
but we took the kids over there and we had
a holiday alongside that as well, and the kids had
a truly amazing time. We booked a hotel that was
it's called the Family Nest.
Speaker 1 (34:10):
It could not be more for children.
Speaker 2 (34:12):
It has like a big play center there, it's got
a kid's club on site. Even within the own like
the second bedrooms of every villa. It's decked out for
children with toys and like blocks and cubby houses.
Speaker 1 (34:25):
What more could you want?
Speaker 2 (34:26):
It had a pull like it had every single thing
that a kid could possibly want. So we'd already done
all those kids activities around the hotel, and then this
one was the day after your wedding, and they'd been
with the babysitter for.
Speaker 1 (34:37):
A few days.
Speaker 2 (34:38):
Mind you, Lola had told me that she loved the
Balinese nanny more than me.
Speaker 1 (34:43):
We were in the car and she that's that's a
hard pill to swallow.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
So we're in the car. We'd gone to the beach.
She collected two little rocks. She handed me one rock.
One rock was evidently nicer than the other. One was
very obviously not an attractive rock. She handed me the
ugly rock, Mummy, this is for you, but this one
is for Yanni. And she's patting the pretty stone and
I was like, okay, that's cute, and then she looks
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at me. This is about five minutes later in the car, right,
she looks at me and she goes, Mommy, can I
have that? And I was like yeah, and I handed
it back to her and she goes, I changed my mind.
They're both for Yanni.
Speaker 1 (35:17):
They're both for Yanni window. She was like, I know
that one.
Speaker 2 (35:19):
Like she even said she said, you can have that
one because it's ugly. But then she wanted to give
them both. Anyway, that was one thing, a little bit
of a heartbreak.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
I just want to like prop you up here.
Speaker 3 (35:27):
Yannie's the fun She doesn't have to parents, she's in nanny,
so she looks after them, she plays with them, and
you're the disciplinarian and the one that has to like
break the news.
Speaker 1 (35:36):
I don't know, I still think I'm the fun mom.
Sometimes we're on holiday, but you make them meat, the
vegetables and stuff. Kids were eating ice cream for breakfast.
Speaker 3 (35:43):
Goddamn, I'll just trying to make it feel better.
Speaker 1 (35:44):
Fine, she hates you. Whatever, Let's go back to your story.
Speaker 2 (35:48):
So so we're on the last It was like the
second last day before we left, we went to like
a beautiful beach club. Like the kids could not have
had a better day. They went and played at like
an activity center. They had ice cream after their breakfast.
We went to the beach club. They had a second
ice cream. The whole day was centered around them just
having an amazing time. Yeah, and they seemed relatively grateful.
Whilst we were doing the things we came home. The
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only thing that they had to do in that day
that was against their wishes was that we needed to
wash their hair, because it had been a full seven
days of zero hair washing.
Speaker 1 (36:18):
And Lola looked like she'd rolled out of a bin. Okay,
I don't want to say anything. When I saw her,
she's done and she's dunk. She'd been showering, so I
was like, okay, we're going to wash your hair.
Speaker 2 (36:27):
The screaming match that absolutely ensued afterwards. It was like
an unrelenting battle. You would have thought that I was
trying to cut legs off. It was horrendous. Why because
she didn't want to wash her hair and that resulted
in her and she's so stubborn. She was, I hate you, mummy,
I hate you. You are the worst mummy. And she
went to bed so mad at me. And I went
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to bed so completely deflated as a mom that I
was to.
Speaker 3 (36:52):
Make you upset or do you know that there is
like not real and they're a child and stup or
do you actually get upset by your child's at you?
Speaker 1 (37:01):
Sometimes? To be honest, like I can make jokes about it.
Speaker 2 (37:04):
Sometimes it makes me feel sad when I feel as
though I've tried so hard, Like I feel like I've
done everything I can to really make a special day
for them, and I wanted it to be special, and
we've gone out of our way to do things that
are just for them. So then it's not that's not enough.
It's just that, like they see everything in isolation, so
they're having fun at that moment while they're having fun,
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and then as soon as they don't get their way
about something, then they're mad about it. And I know
it's like, I don't want anyone to listen to this
and think that I have the most ungrateful kids in
the world. I absolutely don't. I have a four year old.
It's just big emotions and in one day, it's the
full spectrum of every emotion. And you know, as much
as she tells me how much she loves me all
the time, she also tells me that she hates me.
And I know she doesn't hate me, But I feel
(37:46):
as though this is something that every parent who's at
this age of parenting has to go through.
Speaker 3 (37:52):
Do you know, I remember this one story that has
stuck with me from childhood, and thank God, it wasn't me.
It was my youngest sister Sherry. It must have been
exactly what you've just said, right, Like, we're four kids
in our family and they're all very close together, and
my mom obviously just she's great, great, great great great.
Speaker 1 (38:08):
We wear it down.
Speaker 3 (38:09):
She had a low point and she.
Speaker 1 (38:09):
Was back right.
Speaker 3 (38:11):
We would have said those things for all the time,
like I hate you Mom, I hate you dad, whatever.
But this one day, Sherid and my little sister she
must have had an argument with mom. Mom wouldn't let
it do anything. She was like five. She laid on
her back and crawled on her back camakazi under our
like our little table, like a coffee table, and in
her text us she wrote I hate mom under the
(38:31):
table on the table, so it was there forever. It
was like a tattoo. And so Mom saw her, She's like,
what are you doing? Shared was like nothing, and Mum
crawled under the table and saw that she'd just written
I hate your mom, and I'll never forget it made
her so sad.
Speaker 1 (38:43):
She wasn't angry, but it.
Speaker 3 (38:45):
Was obviously like one of those days where we all
bought it down. All week, we've been wearing it down,
and I'll never forget. She was so sad, and then we.
Speaker 1 (38:51):
Had to be like, I love you, mom, like pudding.
But I've remembered it now.
Speaker 2 (38:56):
I think it's just sometimes it's the straw that breaks
the camel's back. And like, as a parent, your whole
existence is geared around trying to keep your kids safe,
trying to keep them happy. Do you think I want
to go to seven kids' birthday parties on the weekend?
Speaker 1 (39:08):
No, but I'm doing it, you know, Like do I
want four ice cream today? Yes? Do I want to
go to Yoji? Absolutely?
Speaker 2 (39:14):
You do so much, and your entire existence revolves around
making them happy, and then when they can't be grateful
for it because they're children, and also they're just going
to go through it, sometimes it really is I didn't
mean for this to get sentimental, but
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