July 25, 2025 • 35 mins
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
What's on the show:
- Laura accidentally introduced Matt to someone as the wrong name
- A man came home to find his Bumble date had deep cleaned his entire house
- Should we lower the voting age to 16 in Australia?
- A 'self-worth influencer' broke up with her boyfriend because he didn't propose within two years
- Britt has found herself in a parasocial relationship with someone very famous
- Marlie had a very specific question about the way the new baby will be born
- Britt has found her calling in a new career
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This episode was recorded on Cameragle Land.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Life on Cut. I'm Laura, I'm Brittany.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
And this is well, I mean, yes, it's Life on Cut,
but it's also the Pickup. So if you're just listening
to Life on Cut for the very first time, this
is all of the best bits from the pick Up,
our radio show, our national radio show.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Broad Here in a nice little morsel just for your weekend.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
We did have a funny week. Actually, you told some
really funny stories this week. Laura, you're a bit of
a mess.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Yeah, i'd say that. Love love.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
I'm going to put it down to pregnancy. Brain really,
I do actually think it's a real thing.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
No, it is scientifically a real thing, is it. No?
It is, yes, scientifically proofous.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Is your hormones right, yeah, because I'm.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
A brain fog hormone thing.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
I always just thought it was because you're a bit
tired and like you're a bit you know, like everything.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
I just feel like I'm exhausted and I'm tired of
everything in life. So therefore I'm making mistakes more than
what I normally would. But also I got myself into
a bit of trouble with Matt because I forgot something
very important about him, Like I just completely forgot. I
completely forgot. And also for a second, maybe I confuse
myself with you, Britt.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
It is something that you could get a divorce over.
I would say, I would go so far as to say.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
No, no, no, I've done way worse to Matt. Well, that's concerning.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
We had a really funny week, but we did talk
about some more serious stuff something I found really interesting
and I'd love for you guys to talk amongst your
friends and staff let us know. But the UK of
lowering the voting age from eighteen to sixteen, so they're
gonna let sixteen year olds vote for the next election.
It's not compulsory, but I find it really fascinating. Is
Australia going to follow suit? And do we think sixteen
(01:41):
is old enough?
Speaker 2 (01:42):
What is like the age when people can opt out
of voting in Australia?
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Do we know this?
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Because there has to be like an age in terms
of being considered elderly where you know you can't make
it down to the voting poles you don't want to like,
there has to be some sort of I think you
do an online vote made vote, do you There's got
to be an age where like you become exempt.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
Producer Grace is on the case. I think I can't
find a specific age. But I know, like my nan
has dementia, so she doesn't have to vote.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
So do you have to be like medically to vote,
apply to not vote?
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Otherwise, if you're living and breathing and well you're supposed
to vote, what if.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
You forget to apply to not vote because you've got dementia?
Speaker 1 (02:19):
No excuse.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
I don't think you have to worry about that yet, Laura.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
I think you're saying, guys, I have praynancy brain. Can
I not vote? I don't know. Look, there's so much
the show. There was also another very funny conversation that
happened with Maley as well. But it's all here, let's
get into it.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Something happened to me on holidays which really got me
into the got me into the bad books.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
With my husband. Tell me you wish your pants again?
That's a daily occurrence.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Now, okay, somebody messaged me on Instagram and said, Laura,
you've been talking about wetting your pants for if context people.
I'm having my third baby, and I'm in like well
into third trimester, and so it's just now a regular thing.
And I got a message from a very concerned listener
who's said, I think you might have a prolapse.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
Maybe I think I need to stop talking. Do you
know if there's a seat you can I've done it
before once. I forget what it's called, but you sit
on it for pelvic floor and it puts these vibration
tightening things into you and it helps to tighten it.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
It's a seat that you sit on.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
I've sat on it.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
I would like it to be known. I don't want
to sit on the same one.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
No, it's a proper thing at a physio and okay, okay,
I don't wet myself. I've just dug myself ahole.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
You really have you really.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Ride it for a friend. She is the physio and
she's like, hey, I got this new equipment. Do you
want to try it?
Speaker 1 (03:35):
And it tightens? Can we get back on track?
Speaker 2 (03:37):
I'm doing my key I'm doing my keegels exercises at
the traffic lights, and I'm sure everyone is thrilled to know.
If I'm stopped at a red light, you better bet
I'm doing Keegeles exercises well.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Producer Grace is on the case.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
She's googling the seat.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Okay, So this happened to me on the holidays though.
I went into Kmart and I was with my husband
and my kids. We were running around and we were
down the coast, so we were like a couple of
hours away from where we usually live, looking around Kmar
and Matt's next to me and I see this guy
who I have not.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Seen him in Oh my goodness, like what twenty years?
Speaker 4 (04:08):
Right?
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Hooked up with him? No? No, he used to date
a friend of mine.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
But it was just this weird moment because it's been
twenty years since I've seen him. We used to play
water polo together and he was there with his two kids,
and he looked like this guy I knew from twenty
years ago, except twenty years older. You know, we all
just look a lot different to back then, right, And
I saw him and I was like, whoa Liam is
that you? And then he looked at me like he
(04:32):
had no idea who I was.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
So then I listened to the pick up, so then
I had to explain who I was.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
I was like, oh, it's Laura. We used to play
water polo.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Together, and this is my husband Ben.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Wait you introduced your husband as my husband.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Now, just for reference everyone, my husband's name is Matt
and my husband's name is Ben. And I didn't even
realize I had said it. I just steamrolled kept talking
to this Liam guy started trying to kid up a
conversation about water polo, and Matt just stood there.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
And then Liam goes.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
To shake his hand and Matt turns around and goes, ah, sorry, mate,
my name's actually Matt.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
This is a bit awkward. And then he goes, I
think that's her other husband. And honestly, I don't know
why I did it.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
I think, ka, are you fantasizing about my husband? You
were talking me through this with me? Is there an
intervention here?
Speaker 2 (05:22):
To be fair, my ex boyfriend's name is Ben, and
I it was just the most Freudian slip ever.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
I don't know why it came out. And then you know,
when you know you've made a mistake, So Liam thinks
you're cooked. He's like, you don't even know who your
husband is.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Well, then when you know you've made a mistake, and
you get a bit embarrassed because I was Laura wife
why are you embarrassed?
Speaker 1 (05:41):
I couldn't imagine why.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Well, just like nothing that was coming out of my
mouth would have made any sense. He's like, oh, Laura, Wow,
she went downhill rapidly up to water polo when.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
We were ninety.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
Okay, so you've had this moment because I imagine if
I was Matt and that happened, I would want to
talk about that. When we left, did he ask you,
like where that came from?
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Or like did he feel be put off by it?
Speaker 2 (06:02):
I apologized and we walked out, and I was like,
oh my god, that's so embarrassing. I'm very sorry that
that happened. I was thinking, and I don't even think
this is true. I think I just made it up.
I was like, I was thinking that I need to
message your Ben to say congratulation.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Which wasn't even true. I hadn't thought that. I don't
know why I said.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Your husband's name, but I introduced my husband as your husband.
There's no good way out of it because he knows
you only know two Ben's an X or my husband, Like,
there's two pass you could take Robert Frost the poem.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
I just I'm sure Liam's not listening since he had
no idea who I was. I'm not concerned about Liam.
I'm concerned A found Matt.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Liam's gone, Liam's lost in spotlight wherever he is. This
is about your husband, and I think it's funny that
you're still concerned about Liam.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
I was so embarrassed. Now Matt got over it. He
knows I've done worse.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
I did a lot of embarrassing things during this holiday break.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
I did think it was weird.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
Ben asked me last night, He's like, why has Matt
blocked me on Instagram?
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Nah? Yeah, it was one time, Matt Britt. I'll tell
you about it another day now, Brit.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
When it comes to hookups or like bringing home potentially
a one night stand or someone who you're in the
very early stages of dating, yeah, I.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
Did have a one night stand and then I married him.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
You don't cout because I feel like you did it wrong.
I'm talking about yeah, like, what is the etiquette when
you bring them home? When do you ask them to leave?
I feel like most people have good intuition and they're
like most people do leave either the night of or
they leave in the morning.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
But would you ever.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
Like leave and go to work and just let them
lay around in your bed.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
Absolutely not if I didn't know them. And it really was, like,
I guess, the epitome of a one night stand. I
would never leave someone I don't know in my house
alone with my stuff. I guess it differs sometimes you
when you're online dating. It might be the first time
you've met up with them, but you might have had
an online connection with them for weeks or months or whatever,
and you feel like you know them. So maybe, but
I wouldn't believing anyone in my home that I don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
Yeah, I think, okay, I think it's weird. I think
that you've got to at least be in on a
few days before you get to the stage of not
a few days, Like they've got to come to your
house a few times before you get to the stage
of like just lull around in bed for a while
and I'm going to go to work. Leave whenever you're ready,
lock the door behind you. But there is a guy
who has gone viral online because he had a very
well look. It's turned out very fortunate for him how
(08:18):
his date ended up leaving after he said she could
stay around for a bit longer.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Have listened to this so.
Speaker 4 (08:23):
I had a bumble date last night and I left
at four am this morning and just told her to
lock up?
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Did she clean my bathroom? Makes my bed?
Speaker 4 (08:31):
And the kicker is she done all like ninety percent
of my laundry?
Speaker 2 (08:38):
And I hate doing laundry.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
So I don't know if I've done something right, maybe
done something wrong. Maybe she felt sorry for me, or
I'll give a second date. Who knows, but that was
definitely the best one over.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Oh you're getting a second date.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
Some chick's not doing that for you and never seeing you.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
You have to see this video. She hasn't just like tidy.
She's deep cleaned the bathroom. She has folded every piece
of his wardrobe was like left out. All of his
laundry is folded in piles on the bed. She's completely vacuumed,
made the bed like the house is pristine.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
I would love that.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
I would love someone to come and clean my house.
Where I think I would draw the line is the
washing like a I know one touching my dirty clothes.
No one's going through my stuff. You're not sniffing my unders,
like get your head out of my dirty clothes glass.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
I just think it.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
Firstly, you've peaked too early, girlfriend, Like, what standard are
you setting for yourself?
Speaker 1 (09:25):
What does that say? There is no need.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
I think the absolute most that you need to do
is like pull the covers up and kind of make shift,
make the bed, and then get out of there.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
That's it. You're not responsible for their living arrangements I have.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
I will put my hand up and say I have
done this in my younger years when I was like
in the early throes of dating.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
Not only like the first time you deep clean someone
house for free after a one night stand, no.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Because I never had a one night stand, but in
those really early days. And it comes back to this
really cooked idea that women always have that we need
to please and you need to be like looking after somebody,
and the only way they're gonna like you is if
they think you're exception and all everything. And like, I
would not do that right now. It will clean your
own stuff, That's what I would say. But back then
I was like, oh, he'll be so tough if he
(10:07):
gets home, and like I've cleaned his room in his house,
and I think now I wouldn't. It makes me just
vomited my mouth thinking about.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
It, But I did it only memory I have of this,
and it is not a good one, is I remember
I'd been on a couple of days with this guy
and the similar situation. A couple of days it was
early doors and he'd come home to my house and
I was like, you can stay. And I'd gone to
work in the morning because I opened a retail shop
at that time, and he had nowhere to be. And
(10:34):
I came home in the afternoon expecting, like I don't
think you expect much, but like you know, you don't
expect it to be worse than when you left it,
And he had gone to the toilet and not flushed.
And I still remember a poo that he just left
a pooh sitting in the toilet the entire day, the
entire day.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
Surely that's not intentional. That has to be It has
to be a mistake. No, it has to be.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Like you've taken a phone call last minute forgot to me.
No one, he's taking it dune being like I know
how to get a second date. I'm gonna leave it pooh.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
In the toil.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Or maybe he's just someone who just doesn't normally flush,
Maybe he just forgets he does his own People don't
know he's gonna come back.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
You poop festa in your bix.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
I couldn't even tell you that man's name, but I
still remember he left to shit my toilet and didn't plush.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
It's in your modest poop boy, Laura.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
There's a huge conversation coming out of the UK at
the moment, and it has come over here to Australia
because we often follow suit with what the UK does.
But basically the Prime Minister, Sir Keir Starmer, has said
that he's going to lower the voting age in the
UK for the next election.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
Do you think he's popular with the young uns? Is
that why? Maybe?
Speaker 3 (11:39):
I don't know, but they're awing the age from eighteen
to sixteen years old. Now the vote is not going
to be compulsory, but they're allowed.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
To do it.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
And this is kickstarted a bit of a divide between
young people and people, you know, in the older demographic.
Some people are saying, one hundred percent, if you're old
enough to work and you're old enough to pay taxes,
you're old enough to contribute to the way you see
your government. And I would want to agree with that,
but then there's another bunch of people saying well, hang on, technically,
(12:08):
brains aren't even fully developed, do they quite have the
life experience?
Speaker 1 (12:11):
Yet you're not able to.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
Buy a lottery ticket, we're seeing you're not capable enough
to be able to drink alcohol, but you can vote
for the government. So there's I don't know, this is
divide between two sides. How do you feel about lowering
the voting age to sixteen?
Speaker 2 (12:25):
I mean, firstly, is it not compulsory because it's like
just the sixteen to eighteen or is it just voting
in the UK is not compulsory anyway.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Voting in the UK isn't compulsory, gotcha.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
And I guess the way I feel is, I do
think that you should be able to vote at sixteen,
and I like the fact that it's not compulsory because we.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Don't have that choice.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Yeah, look, I'm not against it. I think it's truefold though,
right like, if sixteen year olds are working, if they're
paying taxes, I mean, they're the ones who are going
to have to live in the in the world or
the country for a lot longer than the really old
people who are also voting, So I guess like they
should have a say in the government. That is going
to be making decisions for their welfare.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
The only thing is is that I also think that.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Maybe politics should be more taught in school so that
kids have a better literacy for it, because the problem
is is for a sixteen year old, unless they are
seeking out that information themselves, and unless they're educating themselves
on their government policies and politics and everything else, which
may not be happening at that age, then I wonder like, well,
are they making informed choices? And I think it's probably
a bit of a stretch to be like, sixteen year
(13:28):
olds don't have fully formed brains. There's fully fledged adults
who don't have fully formed brains either, but they're still
you know.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
Our sixteen year olds whose brains are more formed than yeah, And.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
So I think that that's an unfair stance. But I
think making sure that information is readily available that you know,
people who are sixteen have, and I guess like, if
it's an opt in situation, that they can be really
informed in the decisions that they're making.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
I think that's so important. Though.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
Well, there's a lot of videos going around online just
on Instagram reels that people have gone and just stopped
randoms on the street, all ages.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
But there's a lot of.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Young kids that they stopped to us in their own opinions,
and some of them said no, like, don't give us
that responsibility.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
There's no way we're ready.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
But then there was one that stands out for me.
But he just said, I absolutely want to be able
to vote. I think we should be able to vote
because we are interested in contributing to our future. And
then he said, having said that, will we be influenced
by our parents? Absolutely, and that is a risk you're
going to take right Like, and I even think about
us growing up. I used to say to my parents
(14:27):
when I was younger, who.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Are you voting for?
Speaker 3 (14:29):
And then I just go vote for them when I
didn't have the wealth of knowledge. But he said, the
only reason we've being influenced by our parents is because
we're not taught enough at school. So to come back
into this full circle loop, the thing is there is
so much information online now accessible to everyone that wasn't
around when we were sixteen.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Yeah, but I think on the flip side of this,
and I absolutely don't want to be age just with
this at all, because you know, I think you've worked
so hard to contribute to the country that you live in.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
You have a right to.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Vote up until the age that you're not able to
vote anymore. But there are people in their eighties who
will still be voting and they're not going to be
here to see the world that they're contributing to or
the country that they're voting for. So is someone who is,
like you know, rearing and getting near to the end
of their life. Is their opinion on the country more
important than someone who's going to spend their entire life
(15:17):
living in it, in which case I'm kind of like,
maybe it's maybe it is important to let people who
are slightly younger have more of an input. But I
absolutely come back to the education piece that I'm like,
I just don't want anyone who's uneducated or doesn't is
just doing it for the sake of doing it. Voting
and maybe the whole non compulsory thing is quite an
important part of this. Whereas in Australia voting is compulsory.
(15:40):
It means people who are educated on it are voting,
people who are not educated at voting, people are doing
donkey votes, people are doing all kinds of things, whereas
over there the people who are voting are people who
are considered, who at least have an opinion, I would.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
Say, oh, who have made the choice to say yeah,
I care enough to do the research and physically get
up and go and vote. And I think that's the difference.
If it is brought in in Australia, I would only
want it here if it wasn't compulsory from sixteen to eighteen?
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Ritt, do you think it is ever okay to give
someone an ultimatum around marriage? And what I mean by
that is if you are if you are currently dating
and you want your partner to propose to you, is
it okay to give them a time frame ultimatum as
to when they need to propose by.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
I cannot hear the word ultimatum with that in my
head saying old tomato.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
I don't know why altimato? I think like how long
is it the only one? Firstly?
Speaker 3 (16:32):
Firstly, how long is a piece of string? I do
think that is situational? How old are they have they
set their boundaries from the start? Are they being played along?
Does the person know they want to marry them but
not yet? Are they confused if they want to marry them?
So I need a bit more context.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
To this story.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
I mean, firstly, I feel like a lot of people
have been in situations where like you're not on the
same page, right.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
That's kind of different.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
I'm talking about when you in a relationship with someone,
you absolutely adore them, you want them to marry you,
you want to spend your life with them, and you've said, Okay,
if you don't propose to me by this date, then
I'm leaving. The reason why we're talking about this is
because there's a self worth influencer. I don't even know
what that is, but they exist. Her name is Bella Marie.
Now she's posted a video on TikTok. It's gone viral,
(17:13):
It's heead of ten million views, and it has divided
the internet because she said, on our very first date,
I told him that I had a two year plan,
two years to propose. On our two year anniversary, I
broke up with him. She broke up with her boyfriend
because he did not propose to her within the two
year time frame, the boundary that she set at the
(17:34):
beginning of their relationship.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
Thoughts considerations. She's a head case.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
Your first date, Like, I get it's okay to maybe say, hey,
I would love to be engaged in two years, Like,
that's how I see my future. That's insane, but I
just read ahead, Laura. The craziest part about this is
she said, on our two year anniversary, after he flew
me out to Catalina, he surprised me with a sweet
and a beautiful boat around the island to celebrate our love.
(17:59):
He planned a beautiful long weekend trip, but he didn't propose,
so I broke up with him. That's insane to me.
This guy sounds like a catch. They literally he flew
you to an island, got a boat to celebrate your love,
gave you everything you wanted on a weekend. That is
so much more important. Finding a good partner that loves
you and his committed is so much more important to
(18:20):
fitting into your two year time frame.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Okay, this is what she does have to say, though, ladies'
time is not a love language. If you have big
dreams and goals that require a male counterpart, like marriage
and a family, I wholeheartedly believe you should not waste
more time than necessary on the wrong person. I think
it really comes down to how much you want to
be married and how much you want those big life goals.
Because on one hand. Yes, I do agree with you, Britt.
(18:44):
I think she sounds insane. But then I also think
that you can run the risk of staying in a
relationship for a really long time hoping that all of
those things come into fruition, and they just never do
because that person was never going to make that decision anyway.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
That's a time waster.
Speaker 3 (18:59):
If she thinks he's the one and she wanted him
to propose, then you would stay with him hoping he
proposes in the next year. Like if you have said
I hope he proposes today, that means you think he's
the one.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
I know I have conflicting feelings only because I stayed
in a relationship for six years.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
Mind you, it was never very good.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
It wasn't like he was like a prince, like he
was never on, he was never prince charming. And then
I was like, all of a sudden, you.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
Know, it dawned to me.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
But six years for me to get to the place
where I realized, oh, okay, he's never gonna propose. He's
never gonna And so I think that it's okay to
break up with someone if your life is not aligning
in like the right path, Like if you get to
a point where you're like, I'm never gonna get what
I want out of this. But I think giving someone
an ultimatum around marriage, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Maybe it's worked for some people.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
Maybe you did get the proposal out of it, But
do you really want someone to propose under duress?
Speaker 1 (19:48):
Like, no, I.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
Can't even I'm trying to have like a balanced argument,
I don't have one.
Speaker 1 (19:54):
She's she's an idiot, Like, I'm sorry, I.
Speaker 3 (19:57):
Understand exactly what you're saying. Law is Like, of course,
if you don't think you're aligned and you're going different directions,
the worst thing you could do is stay in a
relationship and wait.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Yeah, but they're not hoping that someone's going to change.
Speaker 1 (20:07):
Yeah, they're not.
Speaker 3 (20:08):
She was waiting for the proposal like she wanted that
person in her life, which means they do want the
same things. Also, just because he didn't propose, it's not
to say he doesn't want to marry her. He might
just not be ready. Maybe he had planned it in
a month's time, like you just don't know.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
I also just think it when people label them as
self worth advocate on Instagram, I think we have to
unpack where did their degree come from.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
Isn't it real?
Speaker 2 (20:30):
Do they have any qualifications or are we simply just
spouting out. I mean, to be fair, we have no
qualifications either, and we're just his spouting stuff out with radio.
Speaker 3 (20:37):
We're just type of qualifications.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
I mean, I've got a fine arts degree, that cowstor.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
Just to give you some stats here in a recent
survey of eight thousand fiancees conducted by they're not only
about thirty percent of couples dated for two years or
less before getting engaged, so it's not a huge percentage anyway.
Fifty three percent of couples got hitched two to five years,
and seventeen percent waited six years or more. So she
is in a small percentage of people that get married.
(21:02):
I mean I did. I got engaged in under two years.
I can engaged in eighteen months.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
Good for you. I baby chapped my husband and then
he proposed to me. So in all way, you were
really quick. No, I wasn't. I was after the batch. Yeah,
but I was eight months pregnant when Matt proposed.
Speaker 3 (21:16):
It's my point, well, he was locked and loaded.
Speaker 1 (21:18):
Baby, he had nowhere to go. He had a baby
on the way. Laura.
Speaker 3 (21:23):
Last week, I came across some pretty big information and
I haven't been able to get out of my mind,
Like I have not stopped thinking about it.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
It is living rent free.
Speaker 3 (21:32):
I am beside myself with happiness for this person. The
problem is it's a person that I don't know, but
I have this like weird parasocial relationship with them.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
So hear me out.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
The biggest crush of my life is Jennifer Aniston.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
If I thought it was the guy from Outlander.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Sam Hwan, Yeah, You've got to stop talking about him
though now because it's a bit more accessible.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
I think Britz let into his DMS so we were
going to go on a date once.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
I can't actually talk.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
About it, ok, Jennifer Anison. That wasn't Jenny on my
bingo car.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
So for Anison to me, I don't know what it is.
She's the apple of my eye. I've just had a
crush on her forever. If I could come back in
this world and be someone, I feel like I'd want
to be her. I loved her in everything that she's in.
I think she seems like a really wonderful person from
what she puts forward to the world.
Speaker 2 (22:15):
I did not pick yous like How have I known
you for six years and didn't know that you were
a closet Jennifer Addison.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Fair, I've definitely said it before. I think you've checked out. No,
I love her.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
I knew you liked her. I didn't realize you with
this far up rally. I also just think she's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
I think she's so funny. She seems really nice.
Speaker 3 (22:32):
But I think a big part of it, to be honest,
I think I connected with her a lot over the
years because she's had a horrific dating life. Like I know,
she has been through the Ringer and I went. I
don't like to pick sides, but when it was Jen
and Angelina, I was always tim Jen.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
I always thought about this because, like remember when Mister
and Missus Smith was a thing, so cast your mind's back.
That was when Brad went and he filmed the movie
Mister and Missus Smith with Angelina Jolly, and that's when
their affairs started, allegedly.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
I'm sure neither of them are getting to come and
sue me if I say the wrong. I don't know
they are suing each other.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
But imagine your husband having an affair with who was
quoted as the hottest woman in the world at the time.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
I wouldn't let him film the movie.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
And everyone saying that they ship that relationship like you're
you're married in real life and the public is saying, oh,
you should leave your wife and go be with Angelina
Jolie and he did, and I just thought yes, And
I just thought she's always from not just that situation,
but she was with John Mayer, she was with Vince
Born in The Three Boys.
Speaker 3 (23:31):
But I've always thought she held herself with such class.
Like in that breakup, I cannot imagine what it would
be like for the world to have shipped Angelina and
Brad when it was your literal husband.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
It was very obviously an affair.
Speaker 3 (23:42):
She was always so quiet and just like, I don't know,
she always took the high road, and I had a
lot of respect for her. But she's just come out
that she's in a new relationship, and she hasn't been
in a relationship in ages, and she's been spotted with this.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
New man, and I'm just like so happy for her.
It was weird.
Speaker 3 (23:56):
I felt like I could have cried with her happiness
because she looks really happy. Hear me out. He's an
author speaker and coach. His name is Jim Curtis. I know,
I just I just hear for it. Let me just
talk about my happiness.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
Please tell me more about it. What else did he do? Well?
Did you look at his Wikipedia page?
Speaker 3 (24:11):
This is why it's interesting. This is why I think
it's funny because I am slightly concerned for her. He's
a hypnotherapist, a neuro linguistic programming practitioner. Well, has he
hypnotized her into this? This is like somebody send help
to her? Is she truly happy? Or has he hypnotized
her in trickter into relationship? Britt.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
I think your concern for Jennifer Adison has in territory
where it's a little bit straight.
Speaker 3 (24:37):
But in all seriousness, can I show you him. He's
like a daddy, he's hot.
Speaker 2 (24:41):
Have a look, Ye, he's a beautiful You can hypnotize
me anytime. Actually that's not true. I've got a husband
who I love you asleep next.
Speaker 3 (24:50):
But I just think, like, I don't know. Parasocial relationships
are weird. Like there's a few people that you get
so invested with in life and then you have to
remind yourself that you don't actually know them.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
I don't think I have a paraso relationship with anyone.
You had one with Jason Momoa.
Speaker 3 (25:02):
You were in a relationship with him in your brain.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
No, I just thought he was hot and said I
would climb him like tree. But apart from that, No,
I didn't. I didn't have a relationship with you. I
didn't know much about him. I just I didn't know him,
But I didn't.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
I clearly don't know him. No, I don't think so.
Speaker 2 (25:16):
I don't think that there's anyone that I've really But
then again, you look at social media, for example, and
I think sometimes we follow people online, Like there's definitely
other people who work in media or influencers who who
I've never met in real life, but I've met them online,
if that makes sense, Like, maybe that's my extent of
a parasocial relationship.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
Oh, you have full relationships with people online that you
have to remind yourself.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
Of we've never seen each other in real life? Do
you even know who I am? Have we actually met?
Speaker 4 (25:40):
Like?
Speaker 3 (25:41):
Oh? Do I just follow you online and know everything
about you?
Speaker 2 (25:43):
Which I think is now quite a weird phenomena, because
back in the day you'd have celebrities you'd have movie
stars and they were so inaccessible. The only time that
you got little bits of them was either through tabloid
magazines and most of the stuff was made up, or
it was because you've gone to see the movie that
they're in. Whereas now, a lot of celebrities, and especially
that middle tier celebrity, share so much of their lives
(26:04):
online and they're also starring in films and everything else,
and it's like the accessibility to their life is what
I think makes people a bit obsessed with them.
Speaker 3 (26:13):
I would go so far as to say it's not
even the middle tier celebrities. Some of the biggest celebrities
in the world are like instagramming on selfies and stuff.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
Do you think that like a lot of them overshare.
I think it's like you're justin Bieber's now. But then
a lot of massive celebrities don't need to be that
public because they've already got everything they need. They don't
need to share their entire lives because it's not a
bargaining chip for them. Yeah, you tell them, Laura. Now,
I feel like I this is a very relatable thing
for parents. I think that you reach a destination earlier
(26:40):
than you expect to get there when it comes to kids, right,
Like they ask questions and then sometimes they flaw you
and like hold out.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
And what's pythagos? Theormy?
Speaker 2 (26:49):
No, like things that you're just not ready to answer,
Like little kids ask big world questions, and then you
have to try and navigate, like how am I going
to answer that in a way that is accurate but
is also g rated and appropriate for your age. Sometimes
it's about the birds and the bees. Sometimes it's about
babies and how they got into your belly.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
Like whatever it is.
Speaker 3 (27:10):
It's funny because when we were kids, I think that
we used to go and ask our parents whatever right,
and even if they didn't know the answer, they could lie.
Because there was no Google. We couldn't go and look
it up, like we had to take.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
Their word for whatever they said. But you can't do
that now.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
It's so true, But I mean to be fair, my
kids are too young that don't have phones. It's not
like they can go and google it. But Marley, anytime
Mally asks a question I don't know the answer to it,
she just goes, Mom, why don't you just spotify it?
And I'm like close, but not quite the same thing.
Speaker 1 (27:35):
So, okay, I'm nine weeks.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
Away from having this baby's happening very soon, not only
And it's been it's been an interesting journey because like Marley,
who's six, is now old enough to really understand that
there's a baby in my belly. But then you can
just see the cogs. There's questions, how did the baby
get into your belly?
Speaker 3 (27:52):
Mum?
Speaker 2 (27:53):
What's the baby doing in there? Like what's happening? So
she really wan how does the baby come out of
your belly? Like all of these questions. We have kind
of hit at different milestones. Right The first one was
like I understand there's a baby in.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
Your belly, but how did it get in your belly?
And so, you know, I think I navigated that. Okay.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
I was laying in bed the other morning and Molly
walks in dead pan like she's on a mission.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
And she really seriously.
Speaker 2 (28:21):
She comes out and she gives me a cuddle, and
she like starts rubbing my belly like I'm a Buddha,
which she does every morning, and she goes, mom, I've
been thinking, and I was like okay, and she goes,
is Poppy. That's the name that we've given the baby
is Poppy gonna come out the same way that I
came out out of the same canal.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
Yeah, I.
Speaker 2 (28:41):
And she had this real look of concern on her face.
And she's my little sensitive soul, right, so she looked
really concerned, and you like.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
Oh my god, how much do I tell her?
Speaker 4 (28:50):
Well?
Speaker 2 (28:50):
Yeah, and also I'm of the opinion that you want
to be kind of accurate with your kids, right like
you want.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
To be You want to call things by their proper names.
Speaker 2 (28:58):
You want to give them as much but also as
little information as possible. So she says, it's going to
come out the same way, and I said, oh, do
you do?
Speaker 1 (29:08):
You mean out of my vagina? And she looked at.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Me horrified, horrified, and she goes, no, bald.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
She physically look the same.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
She's so worried that the baby's gonna come out baled.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
She doesn't care about my vagina. The kid doesn't care
if mummy's in pain.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
In fact, I know how they came out, but she does.
Speaker 1 (29:30):
Now, Oh no, she kind of did.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
And that's why I thought that maybe she was worried
that I was going to be in pain like that
it was going to cause me some sort of turmoil.
She could not care less. She doesn't want to have
a bald sister.
Speaker 3 (29:41):
You worried bald kids, You have bald kids.
Speaker 1 (29:44):
I don't know why.
Speaker 3 (29:45):
Maybe this one will come out with heaps of hair.
Have you seen it on the ultrasound yet?
Speaker 2 (29:48):
My run so far would suggest that it's going to
be a totally bald child.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Because you know, you can see hair on ultrasound, can
you yep? If you have like a head of hair,
you can see it.
Speaker 2 (29:57):
No, well, no one's told me that the kid has
a head of hair. That's definitely not been said. And
Marley's just so concerned because she wants it to look
like a girl. And I was like, it's gonna look
like a baby, and she's like like a princess baby.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
And I was like, it's.
Speaker 3 (30:09):
Gonna look like a baby.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
My sister's baby, Maya.
Speaker 3 (30:12):
She's ten months old now, but she was not born
with any hair either, and it's been quite slow growing.
And even if Sherry dresses her in pink, no matter
what she does, she could be in a pink little
thing with love hearts and frills and someone comes up
and says, what's his name?
Speaker 1 (30:25):
All the time show, It's like, goddamn it. What am
I gonna do to say as a girl. That was
the same thing with Lola.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
Lola was just baled until she was two and a half,
completely bald, and I was like, I don't know if
this kid's ever gonna grow hair.
Speaker 1 (30:35):
But the problem is my dad went.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
Bald at twenty four, So I don't think that we've
got good genetics.
Speaker 1 (30:40):
When it comes to hair density.
Speaker 3 (30:42):
Yours is thinning.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
Shut up, No, hang on anyone listening that doesn't have
a backstory the things I mean, Laura Rory makes about
her hairs all the time.
Speaker 3 (30:51):
That's what I'm gonna say, tad hair fast.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
She's always picking on me. It's won't plays harassment.
Speaker 3 (30:56):
Okay, look I have a double crown. My hair's sinning too.
Speaker 1 (30:58):
Okay, sure, dig up.
Speaker 3 (31:01):
So, Laura, I don't want to alarm you, but I
am thinking of a little bit of a career change.
Speaker 4 (31:05):
Now.
Speaker 3 (31:06):
It's not by it's not by choice. It has been
thrust upon me. I may have found my calling.
Speaker 2 (31:11):
If you say that after dancing with the stars going
off to join.
Speaker 1 (31:15):
Some sort of dance because I honestly, what would you
do if you weren't doing this? Oh my god, can
I tell.
Speaker 3 (31:22):
You something you can Okay, Okay, I forget that I'm
on Dancing with the Stars right now.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
But this is not this is not the story. But
I just.
Speaker 3 (31:31):
Segued I'm on Dancing with the Stars as we speak.
And so my husband Ben lives over in Italy and
a teammate, one of his teammates yesterday came up to
him and he must have been looking on Ben's page,
seen me, clicked on me, how to look at me? Anyway,
his teammate came up to him and says, wait, is
your wife on Dancing with the Stars. And Ben was
(31:51):
like yeah, and he's like wow, I didn't know she
was a professional dancer.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
She's really good, And.
Speaker 3 (31:56):
I thought, what if he's like, she's not the dancer.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
He thought that I was the dancer, so I just
needed to fool him.
Speaker 3 (32:03):
He must have looked at like a two second cliff.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
To be fair, you have done amazing, like you do
look like a professional dancer on there.
Speaker 1 (32:09):
Stop it and then stop it. Weink it got slade. Oh,
she got slaid like a dragon.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
In fact, to what I was talking about, I mean
my like health and wellness era. I've been in it
for a while, but I love the sauna. It was
my sacred place. I would sauna probably four times a week,
maybe five if I can.
Speaker 1 (32:27):
And it's not an individual sauna.
Speaker 3 (32:29):
It's like a group sauna, but I would go at
different times and quite often i'd be on my own.
And I imagine it's like the escape that mums feel
when they get a bit of time away, like headphones in,
lay down and just like just zen out.
Speaker 1 (32:41):
So you lay down in a group sauna.
Speaker 3 (32:43):
Oh yeah, I've fallen asleep in this sauna.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
I don't know how I feel about group saunas, like
I've done it a couple of times, but I just
feel like there's other people's sweat is so close to me,
and I feel encased in other people's ill.
Speaker 3 (32:56):
Yeah I get that too, but we wear a towel
and it's cleaned. But my point is is like I
often got times to the day I know are quite quiet,
so I can like have that moment, not peak hour.
But what has happened is loads of the people at
the gym and this wellness center know what I do
for a living. They know that we have Life Uncut,
the podcast, and they know we do Ask Uncut and
that it's like very relationship based.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
They know we do ask and cut in.
Speaker 3 (33:17):
The radio, and it started to become like a therapy session.
So people come in now and they'll see me in there,
and then they come in and they guys, not girls,
I'm talking men, and then they start to ask me
relationship advice.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
Are they trauma dumping in the sauna.
Speaker 3 (33:33):
Yeah, they're trauma dumping, but it's not necessarily trauma dumping.
I'm actually so fascinated by it.
Speaker 1 (33:38):
And it is.
Speaker 3 (33:38):
Literally like you could take bookings. I could be a
psychologist therapist in the sauna. They come in one on one,
not intentionally, I'm not like wait outside everyone, But then
they ask me all of their deepest, darkest relationship questions
and I have to give them advice. And then they
literally say, okay, I'll update you next week, and they
circle back in a week to give me the update
on the advice that I've given them in this sauna.
Speaker 2 (34:00):
Question for you, have you told any of them that
you're actually not qualified?
Speaker 3 (34:06):
Well, I haven't specifically said that.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
No, maybe they think that I am.
Speaker 3 (34:11):
I've not said I'm qualified. I think that they know
I'm not. I don't know what it is. Maybe men
have a hard time asking their friends for certain advice,
or maybe maybe it's different getting advice from like the
opposite sex. I often ask guys' advice when I want
a male's perspective, but it's sort of just become who
I am in the sorda.
Speaker 2 (34:27):
Now, what's an example I need to know, Like an
example of something you've been asked recently?
Speaker 3 (34:31):
Yesterday? Yesterday's one was really really nice guy that his
therapy session has been going on for quite a while.
He hasn't been able to find the right person, and
I've been guiding him and encouraging him to date because
he was giving up on dating. So this has been
like going on for quite a while, and I'm like,
you're such a cat, get out there. It's not going
to come and find you in your house kind of thing.
And so we got the update recently that he in
fact met someone amazing, et cetera, et cetera.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
And then it's.
Speaker 3 (34:54):
Turning to long distance, so you know, she's going to
chase her dreams. And we had to unpack because he
let her go chase her dreams, and we had to unpack,
like why he just let her go if he's constantly
thinking about her now and wants to work it out
and like wants that to be a thing. And then
so we spent that session trying to work out like
if he can go and voice to her how he
(35:15):
really feels, and like chase it down and make something
of it.
Speaker 1 (35:18):
I feel like you need to charge for this. This
is lovely. It sounds like too much mental load.
Speaker 2 (35:22):
I don't want to go home and take on anymore.
Speaker 1 (35:24):
I want to go home and have a nap k
and I can put one of those.
Speaker 3 (35:27):
You know when you get to the deli there's a
ticket machine and you like to take a ticket off
the Delhi and get some ham and then you can
trauma dumb.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
I don't know. I love it.
Speaker 3 (35:34):
I'm about it.
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Hi guys, and welcome back to another episode of.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Life on Cut. I'm Laura, I'm Brittany.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
And this is well, I mean, yes, it's Life on Cut,
but it's also the Pickup. So if you're just listening
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is all of the best bits from the pick Up,
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Speaker 1 (00:23):
Broad Here in a nice little morsel just for your weekend.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
We did have a funny week. Actually, you told some
really funny stories this week. Laura, you're a bit of
a mess.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
Yeah, i'd say that. Love love.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
I'm going to put it down to pregnancy. Brain really,
I do actually think it's a real thing.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
No, it is scientifically a real thing, is it. No?
It is, yes, scientifically proofous.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Is your hormones right, yeah, because I'm.
Speaker 3 (00:45):
A brain fog hormone thing.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
I always just thought it was because you're a bit
tired and like you're a bit you know, like everything.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
I just feel like I'm exhausted and I'm tired of
everything in life. So therefore I'm making mistakes more than
what I normally would. But also I got myself into
a bit of trouble with Matt because I forgot something
very important about him, Like I just completely forgot. I
completely forgot. And also for a second, maybe I confuse
myself with you, Britt.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
It is something that you could get a divorce over.
I would say, I would go so far as to say.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
No, no, no, I've done way worse to Matt. Well, that's concerning.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
We had a really funny week, but we did talk
about some more serious stuff something I found really interesting
and I'd love for you guys to talk amongst your
friends and staff let us know. But the UK of
lowering the voting age from eighteen to sixteen, so they're
gonna let sixteen year olds vote for the next election.
It's not compulsory, but I find it really fascinating. Is
Australia going to follow suit? And do we think sixteen
(01:41):
is old enough?
Speaker 2 (01:42):
What is like the age when people can opt out
of voting in Australia?
Speaker 1 (01:45):
Do we know this?
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Because there has to be like an age in terms
of being considered elderly where you know you can't make
it down to the voting poles you don't want to like,
there has to be some sort of I think you
do an online vote made vote, do you There's got
to be an age where like you become exempt.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
Producer Grace is on the case. I think I can't
find a specific age. But I know, like my nan
has dementia, so she doesn't have to vote.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
So do you have to be like medically to vote,
apply to not vote?
Speaker 4 (02:12):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Otherwise, if you're living and breathing and well you're supposed
to vote, what if.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
You forget to apply to not vote because you've got dementia?
Speaker 1 (02:19):
No excuse.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
I don't think you have to worry about that yet, Laura.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
I think you're saying, guys, I have praynancy brain. Can
I not vote? I don't know. Look, there's so much
the show. There was also another very funny conversation that
happened with Maley as well. But it's all here, let's
get into it.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Something happened to me on holidays which really got me
into the got me into the bad books.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
With my husband. Tell me you wish your pants again?
That's a daily occurrence.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
Now, okay, somebody messaged me on Instagram and said, Laura,
you've been talking about wetting your pants for if context people.
I'm having my third baby, and I'm in like well
into third trimester, and so it's just now a regular thing.
And I got a message from a very concerned listener
who's said, I think you might have a prolapse.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
Maybe I think I need to stop talking. Do you
know if there's a seat you can I've done it
before once. I forget what it's called, but you sit
on it for pelvic floor and it puts these vibration
tightening things into you and it helps to tighten it.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
It's a seat that you sit on.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
I've sat on it.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
I would like it to be known. I don't want
to sit on the same one.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
No, it's a proper thing at a physio and okay, okay,
I don't wet myself. I've just dug myself ahole.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
You really have you really.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
Ride it for a friend. She is the physio and
she's like, hey, I got this new equipment. Do you
want to try it?
Speaker 1 (03:35):
And it tightens? Can we get back on track?
Speaker 2 (03:37):
I'm doing my key I'm doing my keegels exercises at
the traffic lights, and I'm sure everyone is thrilled to know.
If I'm stopped at a red light, you better bet
I'm doing Keegeles exercises well.
Speaker 3 (03:46):
Producer Grace is on the case.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
She's googling the seat.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Okay, So this happened to me on the holidays though.
I went into Kmart and I was with my husband
and my kids. We were running around and we were
down the coast, so we were like a couple of
hours away from where we usually live, looking around Kmar
and Matt's next to me and I see this guy
who I have not.
Speaker 1 (04:05):
Seen him in Oh my goodness, like what twenty years?
Speaker 4 (04:08):
Right?
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Hooked up with him? No? No, he used to date
a friend of mine.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
But it was just this weird moment because it's been
twenty years since I've seen him. We used to play
water polo together and he was there with his two kids,
and he looked like this guy I knew from twenty
years ago, except twenty years older. You know, we all
just look a lot different to back then, right, And
I saw him and I was like, whoa Liam is
that you? And then he looked at me like he
(04:32):
had no idea who I was.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
So then I listened to the pick up, so then
I had to explain who I was.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
I was like, oh, it's Laura. We used to play
water polo.
Speaker 2 (04:39):
Together, and this is my husband Ben.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
Wait you introduced your husband as my husband.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Now, just for reference everyone, my husband's name is Matt
and my husband's name is Ben. And I didn't even
realize I had said it. I just steamrolled kept talking
to this Liam guy started trying to kid up a
conversation about water polo, and Matt just stood there.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
And then Liam goes.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
To shake his hand and Matt turns around and goes, ah, sorry, mate,
my name's actually Matt.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
This is a bit awkward. And then he goes, I
think that's her other husband. And honestly, I don't know
why I did it.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
I think, ka, are you fantasizing about my husband? You
were talking me through this with me? Is there an
intervention here?
Speaker 2 (05:22):
To be fair, my ex boyfriend's name is Ben, and
I it was just the most Freudian slip ever.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
I don't know why it came out. And then you know,
when you know you've made a mistake, So Liam thinks
you're cooked. He's like, you don't even know who your
husband is.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
Well, then when you know you've made a mistake, and
you get a bit embarrassed because I was Laura wife
why are you embarrassed?
Speaker 1 (05:41):
I couldn't imagine why.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Well, just like nothing that was coming out of my
mouth would have made any sense. He's like, oh, Laura, Wow,
she went downhill rapidly up to water polo when.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
We were ninety.
Speaker 3 (05:51):
Okay, so you've had this moment because I imagine if
I was Matt and that happened, I would want to
talk about that. When we left, did he ask you,
like where that came from?
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Or like did he feel be put off by it?
Speaker 2 (06:02):
I apologized and we walked out, and I was like,
oh my god, that's so embarrassing. I'm very sorry that
that happened. I was thinking, and I don't even think
this is true. I think I just made it up.
I was like, I was thinking that I need to
message your Ben to say congratulation.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Which wasn't even true. I hadn't thought that. I don't
know why I said.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Your husband's name, but I introduced my husband as your husband.
There's no good way out of it because he knows
you only know two Ben's an X or my husband, Like,
there's two pass you could take Robert Frost the poem.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
I just I'm sure Liam's not listening since he had
no idea who I was. I'm not concerned about Liam.
I'm concerned A found Matt.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Liam's gone, Liam's lost in spotlight wherever he is. This
is about your husband, and I think it's funny that
you're still concerned about Liam.
Speaker 1 (06:46):
I was so embarrassed. Now Matt got over it. He
knows I've done worse.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
I did a lot of embarrassing things during this holiday break.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
I did think it was weird.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
Ben asked me last night, He's like, why has Matt
blocked me on Instagram?
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Nah? Yeah, it was one time, Matt Britt. I'll tell
you about it another day now, Brit.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
When it comes to hookups or like bringing home potentially
a one night stand or someone who you're in the
very early stages of dating, yeah, I.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
Did have a one night stand and then I married him.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
You don't cout because I feel like you did it wrong.
I'm talking about yeah, like, what is the etiquette when
you bring them home? When do you ask them to leave?
I feel like most people have good intuition and they're
like most people do leave either the night of or
they leave in the morning.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
But would you ever.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
Like leave and go to work and just let them
lay around in your bed.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
Absolutely not if I didn't know them. And it really was, like,
I guess, the epitome of a one night stand. I
would never leave someone I don't know in my house
alone with my stuff. I guess it differs sometimes you
when you're online dating. It might be the first time
you've met up with them, but you might have had
an online connection with them for weeks or months or whatever,
and you feel like you know them. So maybe, but
I wouldn't believing anyone in my home that I don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
Yeah, I think, okay, I think it's weird. I think
that you've got to at least be in on a
few days before you get to the stage of not
a few days, Like they've got to come to your
house a few times before you get to the stage
of like just lull around in bed for a while
and I'm going to go to work. Leave whenever you're ready,
lock the door behind you. But there is a guy
who has gone viral online because he had a very
well look. It's turned out very fortunate for him how
(08:18):
his date ended up leaving after he said she could
stay around for a bit longer.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Have listened to this so.
Speaker 4 (08:23):
I had a bumble date last night and I left
at four am this morning and just told her to
lock up?
Speaker 1 (08:28):
Did she clean my bathroom? Makes my bed?
Speaker 4 (08:31):
And the kicker is she done all like ninety percent
of my laundry?
Speaker 2 (08:38):
And I hate doing laundry.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
So I don't know if I've done something right, maybe
done something wrong. Maybe she felt sorry for me, or
I'll give a second date. Who knows, but that was
definitely the best one over.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Oh you're getting a second date.
Speaker 3 (08:49):
Some chick's not doing that for you and never seeing you.
Speaker 2 (08:52):
You have to see this video. She hasn't just like tidy.
She's deep cleaned the bathroom. She has folded every piece
of his wardrobe was like left out. All of his
laundry is folded in piles on the bed. She's completely vacuumed,
made the bed like the house is pristine.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
I would love that.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
I would love someone to come and clean my house.
Where I think I would draw the line is the
washing like a I know one touching my dirty clothes.
No one's going through my stuff. You're not sniffing my unders,
like get your head out of my dirty clothes glass.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
I just think it.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
Firstly, you've peaked too early, girlfriend, Like, what standard are
you setting for yourself?
Speaker 1 (09:25):
What does that say? There is no need.
Speaker 2 (09:27):
I think the absolute most that you need to do
is like pull the covers up and kind of make shift,
make the bed, and then get out of there.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
That's it. You're not responsible for their living arrangements I have.
Speaker 3 (09:36):
I will put my hand up and say I have
done this in my younger years when I was like
in the early throes of dating.
Speaker 1 (09:42):
Not only like the first time you deep clean someone
house for free after a one night stand, no.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
Because I never had a one night stand, but in
those really early days. And it comes back to this
really cooked idea that women always have that we need
to please and you need to be like looking after somebody,
and the only way they're gonna like you is if
they think you're exception and all everything. And like, I
would not do that right now. It will clean your
own stuff, That's what I would say. But back then
I was like, oh, he'll be so tough if he
(10:07):
gets home, and like I've cleaned his room in his house,
and I think now I wouldn't. It makes me just
vomited my mouth thinking about.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
It, But I did it only memory I have of this,
and it is not a good one, is I remember
I'd been on a couple of days with this guy
and the similar situation. A couple of days it was
early doors and he'd come home to my house and
I was like, you can stay. And I'd gone to
work in the morning because I opened a retail shop
at that time, and he had nowhere to be. And
(10:34):
I came home in the afternoon expecting, like I don't
think you expect much, but like you know, you don't
expect it to be worse than when you left it,
And he had gone to the toilet and not flushed.
And I still remember a poo that he just left
a pooh sitting in the toilet the entire day, the
entire day.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
Surely that's not intentional. That has to be It has
to be a mistake. No, it has to be.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Like you've taken a phone call last minute forgot to me.
No one, he's taking it dune being like I know
how to get a second date. I'm gonna leave it pooh.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
In the toil.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Or maybe he's just someone who just doesn't normally flush,
Maybe he just forgets he does his own People don't
know he's gonna come back.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
You poop festa in your bix.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
I couldn't even tell you that man's name, but I
still remember he left to shit my toilet and didn't plush.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
It's in your modest poop boy, Laura.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
There's a huge conversation coming out of the UK at
the moment, and it has come over here to Australia
because we often follow suit with what the UK does.
But basically the Prime Minister, Sir Keir Starmer, has said
that he's going to lower the voting age in the
UK for the next election.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
Do you think he's popular with the young uns? Is
that why? Maybe?
Speaker 3 (11:39):
I don't know, but they're awing the age from eighteen
to sixteen years old. Now the vote is not going
to be compulsory, but they're allowed.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
To do it.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
And this is kickstarted a bit of a divide between
young people and people, you know, in the older demographic.
Some people are saying, one hundred percent, if you're old
enough to work and you're old enough to pay taxes,
you're old enough to contribute to the way you see
your government. And I would want to agree with that,
but then there's another bunch of people saying well, hang on, technically,
(12:08):
brains aren't even fully developed, do they quite have the
life experience?
Speaker 1 (12:11):
Yet you're not able to.
Speaker 3 (12:12):
Buy a lottery ticket, we're seeing you're not capable enough
to be able to drink alcohol, but you can vote
for the government. So there's I don't know, this is
divide between two sides. How do you feel about lowering
the voting age to sixteen?
Speaker 2 (12:25):
I mean, firstly, is it not compulsory because it's like
just the sixteen to eighteen or is it just voting
in the UK is not compulsory anyway.
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Voting in the UK isn't compulsory, gotcha.
Speaker 3 (12:35):
And I guess the way I feel is, I do
think that you should be able to vote at sixteen,
and I like the fact that it's not compulsory because we.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Don't have that choice.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
Yeah, look, I'm not against it. I think it's truefold though,
right like, if sixteen year olds are working, if they're
paying taxes, I mean, they're the ones who are going
to have to live in the in the world or
the country for a lot longer than the really old
people who are also voting, So I guess like they
should have a say in the government. That is going
to be making decisions for their welfare.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
The only thing is is that I also think that.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Maybe politics should be more taught in school so that
kids have a better literacy for it, because the problem
is is for a sixteen year old, unless they are
seeking out that information themselves, and unless they're educating themselves
on their government policies and politics and everything else, which
may not be happening at that age, then I wonder like, well,
are they making informed choices? And I think it's probably
a bit of a stretch to be like, sixteen year
(13:28):
olds don't have fully formed brains. There's fully fledged adults
who don't have fully formed brains either, but they're still
you know.
Speaker 3 (13:34):
Our sixteen year olds whose brains are more formed than yeah, And.
Speaker 2 (13:37):
So I think that that's an unfair stance. But I
think making sure that information is readily available that you know,
people who are sixteen have, and I guess like, if
it's an opt in situation, that they can be really
informed in the decisions that they're making.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
I think that's so important. Though.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
Well, there's a lot of videos going around online just
on Instagram reels that people have gone and just stopped
randoms on the street, all ages.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
But there's a lot of.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Young kids that they stopped to us in their own opinions,
and some of them said no, like, don't give us
that responsibility.
Speaker 1 (14:05):
There's no way we're ready.
Speaker 3 (14:07):
But then there was one that stands out for me.
But he just said, I absolutely want to be able
to vote. I think we should be able to vote
because we are interested in contributing to our future. And
then he said, having said that, will we be influenced
by our parents? Absolutely, and that is a risk you're
going to take right Like, and I even think about
us growing up. I used to say to my parents
(14:27):
when I was younger, who.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Are you voting for?
Speaker 3 (14:29):
And then I just go vote for them when I
didn't have the wealth of knowledge. But he said, the
only reason we've being influenced by our parents is because
we're not taught enough at school. So to come back
into this full circle loop, the thing is there is
so much information online now accessible to everyone that wasn't
around when we were sixteen.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Yeah, but I think on the flip side of this,
and I absolutely don't want to be age just with
this at all, because you know, I think you've worked
so hard to contribute to the country that you live in.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
You have a right to.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Vote up until the age that you're not able to
vote anymore. But there are people in their eighties who
will still be voting and they're not going to be
here to see the world that they're contributing to or
the country that they're voting for. So is someone who is,
like you know, rearing and getting near to the end
of their life. Is their opinion on the country more
important than someone who's going to spend their entire life
(15:17):
living in it, in which case I'm kind of like,
maybe it's maybe it is important to let people who
are slightly younger have more of an input. But I
absolutely come back to the education piece that I'm like,
I just don't want anyone who's uneducated or doesn't is
just doing it for the sake of doing it. Voting
and maybe the whole non compulsory thing is quite an
important part of this. Whereas in Australia voting is compulsory.
(15:40):
It means people who are educated on it are voting,
people who are not educated at voting, people are doing
donkey votes, people are doing all kinds of things, whereas
over there the people who are voting are people who
are considered, who at least have an opinion, I would.
Speaker 3 (15:52):
Say, oh, who have made the choice to say yeah,
I care enough to do the research and physically get
up and go and vote. And I think that's the difference.
If it is brought in in Australia, I would only
want it here if it wasn't compulsory from sixteen to eighteen?
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Ritt, do you think it is ever okay to give
someone an ultimatum around marriage? And what I mean by
that is if you are if you are currently dating
and you want your partner to propose to you, is
it okay to give them a time frame ultimatum as
to when they need to propose by.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
I cannot hear the word ultimatum with that in my
head saying old tomato.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
I don't know why altimato? I think like how long
is it the only one? Firstly?
Speaker 3 (16:32):
Firstly, how long is a piece of string? I do
think that is situational? How old are they have they
set their boundaries from the start? Are they being played along?
Does the person know they want to marry them but
not yet? Are they confused if they want to marry them?
So I need a bit more context.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
To this story.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
I mean, firstly, I feel like a lot of people
have been in situations where like you're not on the
same page, right.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
That's kind of different.
Speaker 2 (16:52):
I'm talking about when you in a relationship with someone,
you absolutely adore them, you want them to marry you,
you want to spend your life with them, and you've said, Okay,
if you don't propose to me by this date, then
I'm leaving. The reason why we're talking about this is
because there's a self worth influencer. I don't even know
what that is, but they exist. Her name is Bella Marie.
Now she's posted a video on TikTok. It's gone viral,
(17:13):
It's heead of ten million views, and it has divided
the internet because she said, on our very first date,
I told him that I had a two year plan,
two years to propose. On our two year anniversary, I
broke up with him. She broke up with her boyfriend
because he did not propose to her within the two
year time frame, the boundary that she set at the
(17:34):
beginning of their relationship.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
Thoughts considerations. She's a head case.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
Your first date, Like, I get it's okay to maybe say, hey,
I would love to be engaged in two years, Like,
that's how I see my future. That's insane, but I
just read ahead, Laura. The craziest part about this is
she said, on our two year anniversary, after he flew
me out to Catalina, he surprised me with a sweet
and a beautiful boat around the island to celebrate our love.
(17:59):
He planned a beautiful long weekend trip, but he didn't propose,
so I broke up with him. That's insane to me.
This guy sounds like a catch. They literally he flew
you to an island, got a boat to celebrate your love,
gave you everything you wanted on a weekend. That is
so much more important. Finding a good partner that loves
you and his committed is so much more important to
(18:20):
fitting into your two year time frame.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Okay, this is what she does have to say, though, ladies'
time is not a love language. If you have big
dreams and goals that require a male counterpart, like marriage
and a family, I wholeheartedly believe you should not waste
more time than necessary on the wrong person. I think
it really comes down to how much you want to
be married and how much you want those big life goals.
Because on one hand. Yes, I do agree with you, Britt.
(18:44):
I think she sounds insane. But then I also think
that you can run the risk of staying in a
relationship for a really long time hoping that all of
those things come into fruition, and they just never do
because that person was never going to make that decision anyway.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
That's a time waster.
Speaker 3 (18:59):
If she thinks he's the one and she wanted him
to propose, then you would stay with him hoping he
proposes in the next year. Like if you have said
I hope he proposes today, that means you think he's
the one.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
I know I have conflicting feelings only because I stayed
in a relationship for six years.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
Mind you, it was never very good.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
It wasn't like he was like a prince, like he
was never on, he was never prince charming. And then
I was like, all of a sudden, you.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
Know, it dawned to me.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
But six years for me to get to the place
where I realized, oh, okay, he's never gonna propose. He's
never gonna And so I think that it's okay to
break up with someone if your life is not aligning
in like the right path, Like if you get to
a point where you're like, I'm never gonna get what
I want out of this. But I think giving someone
an ultimatum around marriage, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Maybe it's worked for some people.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
Maybe you did get the proposal out of it, But
do you really want someone to propose under duress?
Speaker 1 (19:48):
Like, no, I.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
Can't even I'm trying to have like a balanced argument,
I don't have one.
Speaker 1 (19:54):
She's she's an idiot, Like, I'm sorry, I.
Speaker 3 (19:57):
Understand exactly what you're saying. Law is Like, of course,
if you don't think you're aligned and you're going different directions,
the worst thing you could do is stay in a
relationship and wait.
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Yeah, but they're not hoping that someone's going to change.
Speaker 1 (20:07):
Yeah, they're not.
Speaker 3 (20:08):
She was waiting for the proposal like she wanted that
person in her life, which means they do want the
same things. Also, just because he didn't propose, it's not
to say he doesn't want to marry her. He might
just not be ready. Maybe he had planned it in
a month's time, like you just don't know.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
I also just think it when people label them as
self worth advocate on Instagram, I think we have to
unpack where did their degree come from.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
Isn't it real?
Speaker 2 (20:30):
Do they have any qualifications or are we simply just
spouting out. I mean, to be fair, we have no
qualifications either, and we're just his spouting stuff out with radio.
Speaker 3 (20:37):
We're just type of qualifications.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
I mean, I've got a fine arts degree, that cowstor.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
Just to give you some stats here in a recent
survey of eight thousand fiancees conducted by they're not only
about thirty percent of couples dated for two years or
less before getting engaged, so it's not a huge percentage anyway.
Fifty three percent of couples got hitched two to five years,
and seventeen percent waited six years or more. So she
is in a small percentage of people that get married.
(21:02):
I mean I did. I got engaged in under two years.
I can engaged in eighteen months.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
Good for you. I baby chapped my husband and then
he proposed to me. So in all way, you were
really quick. No, I wasn't. I was after the batch. Yeah,
but I was eight months pregnant when Matt proposed.
Speaker 3 (21:16):
It's my point, well, he was locked and loaded.
Speaker 1 (21:18):
Baby, he had nowhere to go. He had a baby
on the way. Laura.
Speaker 3 (21:23):
Last week, I came across some pretty big information and
I haven't been able to get out of my mind,
Like I have not stopped thinking about it.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
It is living rent free.
Speaker 3 (21:32):
I am beside myself with happiness for this person. The
problem is it's a person that I don't know, but
I have this like weird parasocial relationship with them.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
So hear me out.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
The biggest crush of my life is Jennifer Aniston.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
If I thought it was the guy from Outlander.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Sam Hwan, Yeah, You've got to stop talking about him
though now because it's a bit more accessible.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
I think Britz let into his DMS so we were
going to go on a date once.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
I can't actually talk.
Speaker 2 (21:57):
About it, ok, Jennifer Anison. That wasn't Jenny on my
bingo car.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
So for Anison to me, I don't know what it is.
She's the apple of my eye. I've just had a
crush on her forever. If I could come back in
this world and be someone, I feel like I'd want
to be her. I loved her in everything that she's in.
I think she seems like a really wonderful person from
what she puts forward to the world.
Speaker 2 (22:15):
I did not pick yous like How have I known
you for six years and didn't know that you were
a closet Jennifer Addison.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Fair, I've definitely said it before. I think you've checked out. No,
I love her.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
I knew you liked her. I didn't realize you with
this far up rally. I also just think she's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
I think she's so funny. She seems really nice.
Speaker 3 (22:32):
But I think a big part of it, to be honest,
I think I connected with her a lot over the
years because she's had a horrific dating life. Like I know,
she has been through the Ringer and I went. I
don't like to pick sides, but when it was Jen
and Angelina, I was always tim Jen.
Speaker 1 (22:47):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
I always thought about this because, like remember when Mister
and Missus Smith was a thing, so cast your mind's back.
That was when Brad went and he filmed the movie
Mister and Missus Smith with Angelina Jolly, and that's when
their affairs started, allegedly.
Speaker 1 (23:00):
I'm sure neither of them are getting to come and
sue me if I say the wrong. I don't know
they are suing each other.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
But imagine your husband having an affair with who was
quoted as the hottest woman in the world at the time.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
I wouldn't let him film the movie.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
And everyone saying that they ship that relationship like you're
you're married in real life and the public is saying, oh,
you should leave your wife and go be with Angelina
Jolie and he did, and I just thought yes, And
I just thought she's always from not just that situation,
but she was with John Mayer, she was with Vince
Born in The Three Boys.
Speaker 3 (23:31):
But I've always thought she held herself with such class.
Like in that breakup, I cannot imagine what it would
be like for the world to have shipped Angelina and
Brad when it was your literal husband.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
It was very obviously an affair.
Speaker 3 (23:42):
She was always so quiet and just like, I don't know,
she always took the high road, and I had a
lot of respect for her. But she's just come out
that she's in a new relationship, and she hasn't been
in a relationship in ages, and she's been spotted with this.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
New man, and I'm just like so happy for her.
It was weird.
Speaker 3 (23:56):
I felt like I could have cried with her happiness
because she looks really happy. Hear me out. He's an
author speaker and coach. His name is Jim Curtis. I know,
I just I just hear for it. Let me just
talk about my happiness.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
Please tell me more about it. What else did he do? Well?
Did you look at his Wikipedia page?
Speaker 3 (24:11):
This is why it's interesting. This is why I think
it's funny because I am slightly concerned for her. He's
a hypnotherapist, a neuro linguistic programming practitioner. Well, has he
hypnotized her into this? This is like somebody send help
to her? Is she truly happy? Or has he hypnotized
her in trickter into relationship? Britt.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
I think your concern for Jennifer Adison has in territory
where it's a little bit straight.
Speaker 3 (24:37):
But in all seriousness, can I show you him. He's
like a daddy, he's hot.
Speaker 2 (24:41):
Have a look, Ye, he's a beautiful You can hypnotize
me anytime. Actually that's not true. I've got a husband
who I love you asleep next.
Speaker 3 (24:50):
But I just think, like, I don't know. Parasocial relationships
are weird. Like there's a few people that you get
so invested with in life and then you have to
remind yourself that you don't actually know them.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
I don't think I have a paraso relationship with anyone.
You had one with Jason Momoa.
Speaker 3 (25:02):
You were in a relationship with him in your brain.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
No, I just thought he was hot and said I
would climb him like tree. But apart from that, No,
I didn't. I didn't have a relationship with you. I
didn't know much about him. I just I didn't know him,
But I didn't.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
I clearly don't know him. No, I don't think so.
Speaker 2 (25:16):
I don't think that there's anyone that I've really But
then again, you look at social media, for example, and
I think sometimes we follow people online, Like there's definitely
other people who work in media or influencers who who
I've never met in real life, but I've met them online,
if that makes sense, Like, maybe that's my extent of
a parasocial relationship.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
Oh, you have full relationships with people online that you
have to remind yourself.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
Of we've never seen each other in real life? Do
you even know who I am? Have we actually met?
Speaker 4 (25:40):
Like?
Speaker 3 (25:41):
Oh? Do I just follow you online and know everything
about you?
Speaker 2 (25:43):
Which I think is now quite a weird phenomena, because
back in the day you'd have celebrities you'd have movie
stars and they were so inaccessible. The only time that
you got little bits of them was either through tabloid
magazines and most of the stuff was made up, or
it was because you've gone to see the movie that
they're in. Whereas now, a lot of celebrities, and especially
that middle tier celebrity, share so much of their lives
(26:04):
online and they're also starring in films and everything else,
and it's like the accessibility to their life is what
I think makes people a bit obsessed with them.
Speaker 3 (26:13):
I would go so far as to say it's not
even the middle tier celebrities. Some of the biggest celebrities
in the world are like instagramming on selfies and stuff.
Speaker 2 (26:19):
Do you think that like a lot of them overshare.
I think it's like you're justin Bieber's now. But then
a lot of massive celebrities don't need to be that
public because they've already got everything they need. They don't
need to share their entire lives because it's not a
bargaining chip for them. Yeah, you tell them, Laura. Now,
I feel like I this is a very relatable thing
for parents. I think that you reach a destination earlier
(26:40):
than you expect to get there when it comes to kids, right,
Like they ask questions and then sometimes they flaw you
and like hold out.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
And what's pythagos? Theormy?
Speaker 2 (26:49):
No, like things that you're just not ready to answer,
Like little kids ask big world questions, and then you
have to try and navigate, like how am I going
to answer that in a way that is accurate but
is also g rated and appropriate for your age. Sometimes
it's about the birds and the bees. Sometimes it's about
babies and how they got into your belly.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
Like whatever it is.
Speaker 3 (27:10):
It's funny because when we were kids, I think that
we used to go and ask our parents whatever right,
and even if they didn't know the answer, they could lie.
Because there was no Google. We couldn't go and look
it up, like we had to take.
Speaker 1 (27:20):
Their word for whatever they said. But you can't do
that now.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
It's so true, But I mean to be fair, my
kids are too young that don't have phones. It's not
like they can go and google it. But Marley, anytime
Mally asks a question I don't know the answer to it,
she just goes, Mom, why don't you just spotify it?
And I'm like close, but not quite the same thing.
Speaker 1 (27:35):
So, okay, I'm nine weeks.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
Away from having this baby's happening very soon, not only
And it's been it's been an interesting journey because like Marley,
who's six, is now old enough to really understand that
there's a baby in my belly. But then you can
just see the cogs. There's questions, how did the baby
get into your belly?
Speaker 3 (27:52):
Mum?
Speaker 2 (27:53):
What's the baby doing in there? Like what's happening? So
she really wan how does the baby come out of
your belly? Like all of these questions. We have kind
of hit at different milestones. Right The first one was
like I understand there's a baby in.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
Your belly, but how did it get in your belly?
And so, you know, I think I navigated that. Okay.
Speaker 2 (28:14):
I was laying in bed the other morning and Molly
walks in dead pan like she's on a mission.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
And she really seriously.
Speaker 2 (28:21):
She comes out and she gives me a cuddle, and
she like starts rubbing my belly like I'm a Buddha,
which she does every morning, and she goes, mom, I've
been thinking, and I was like okay, and she goes,
is Poppy. That's the name that we've given the baby
is Poppy gonna come out the same way that I
came out out of the same canal.
Speaker 1 (28:41):
Yeah, I.
Speaker 2 (28:41):
And she had this real look of concern on her face.
And she's my little sensitive soul, right, so she looked
really concerned, and you like.
Speaker 3 (28:48):
Oh my god, how much do I tell her?
Speaker 4 (28:50):
Well?
Speaker 2 (28:50):
Yeah, and also I'm of the opinion that you want
to be kind of accurate with your kids, right like
you want.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
To be You want to call things by their proper names.
Speaker 2 (28:58):
You want to give them as much but also as
little information as possible. So she says, it's going to
come out the same way, and I said, oh, do
you do?
Speaker 1 (29:08):
You mean out of my vagina? And she looked at.
Speaker 2 (29:11):
Me horrified, horrified, and she goes, no, bald.
Speaker 3 (29:20):
She physically look the same.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
She's so worried that the baby's gonna come out baled.
Speaker 1 (29:25):
She doesn't care about my vagina. The kid doesn't care
if mummy's in pain.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
In fact, I know how they came out, but she does.
Speaker 1 (29:30):
Now, Oh no, she kind of did.
Speaker 2 (29:32):
And that's why I thought that maybe she was worried
that I was going to be in pain like that
it was going to cause me some sort of turmoil.
She could not care less. She doesn't want to have
a bald sister.
Speaker 3 (29:41):
You worried bald kids, You have bald kids.
Speaker 1 (29:44):
I don't know why.
Speaker 3 (29:45):
Maybe this one will come out with heaps of hair.
Have you seen it on the ultrasound yet?
Speaker 2 (29:48):
My run so far would suggest that it's going to
be a totally bald child.
Speaker 3 (29:52):
Because you know, you can see hair on ultrasound, can
you yep? If you have like a head of hair,
you can see it.
Speaker 2 (29:57):
No, well, no one's told me that the kid has
a head of hair. That's definitely not been said. And
Marley's just so concerned because she wants it to look
like a girl. And I was like, it's gonna look
like a baby, and she's like like a princess baby.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
And I was like, it's.
Speaker 3 (30:09):
Gonna look like a baby.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
My sister's baby, Maya.
Speaker 3 (30:12):
She's ten months old now, but she was not born
with any hair either, and it's been quite slow growing.
And even if Sherry dresses her in pink, no matter
what she does, she could be in a pink little
thing with love hearts and frills and someone comes up
and says, what's his name?
Speaker 1 (30:25):
All the time show, It's like, goddamn it. What am
I gonna do to say as a girl. That was
the same thing with Lola.
Speaker 2 (30:30):
Lola was just baled until she was two and a half,
completely bald, and I was like, I don't know if
this kid's ever gonna grow hair.
Speaker 1 (30:35):
But the problem is my dad went.
Speaker 2 (30:37):
Bald at twenty four, So I don't think that we've
got good genetics.
Speaker 1 (30:40):
When it comes to hair density.
Speaker 3 (30:42):
Yours is thinning.
Speaker 2 (30:43):
Shut up, No, hang on anyone listening that doesn't have
a backstory the things I mean, Laura Rory makes about
her hairs all the time.
Speaker 3 (30:51):
That's what I'm gonna say, tad hair fast.
Speaker 1 (30:53):
She's always picking on me. It's won't plays harassment.
Speaker 3 (30:56):
Okay, look I have a double crown. My hair's sinning too.
Speaker 1 (30:58):
Okay, sure, dig up.
Speaker 3 (31:01):
So, Laura, I don't want to alarm you, but I
am thinking of a little bit of a career change.
Speaker 4 (31:05):
Now.
Speaker 3 (31:06):
It's not by it's not by choice. It has been
thrust upon me. I may have found my calling.
Speaker 2 (31:11):
If you say that after dancing with the stars going
off to join.
Speaker 1 (31:15):
Some sort of dance because I honestly, what would you
do if you weren't doing this? Oh my god, can
I tell.
Speaker 3 (31:22):
You something you can Okay, Okay, I forget that I'm
on Dancing with the Stars right now.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
But this is not this is not the story. But
I just.
Speaker 3 (31:31):
Segued I'm on Dancing with the Stars as we speak.
And so my husband Ben lives over in Italy and
a teammate, one of his teammates yesterday came up to
him and he must have been looking on Ben's page,
seen me, clicked on me, how to look at me? Anyway,
his teammate came up to him and says, wait, is
your wife on Dancing with the Stars. And Ben was
(31:51):
like yeah, and he's like wow, I didn't know she
was a professional dancer.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
She's really good, And.
Speaker 3 (31:56):
I thought, what if he's like, she's not the dancer.
Speaker 1 (31:59):
He thought that I was the dancer, so I just
needed to fool him.
Speaker 3 (32:03):
He must have looked at like a two second cliff.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
To be fair, you have done amazing, like you do
look like a professional dancer on there.
Speaker 1 (32:09):
Stop it and then stop it. Weink it got slade. Oh,
she got slaid like a dragon.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
In fact, to what I was talking about, I mean
my like health and wellness era. I've been in it
for a while, but I love the sauna. It was
my sacred place. I would sauna probably four times a week,
maybe five if I can.
Speaker 1 (32:27):
And it's not an individual sauna.
Speaker 3 (32:29):
It's like a group sauna, but I would go at
different times and quite often i'd be on my own.
And I imagine it's like the escape that mums feel
when they get a bit of time away, like headphones in,
lay down and just like just zen out.
Speaker 1 (32:41):
So you lay down in a group sauna.
Speaker 3 (32:43):
Oh yeah, I've fallen asleep in this sauna.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
I don't know how I feel about group saunas, like
I've done it a couple of times, but I just
feel like there's other people's sweat is so close to me,
and I feel encased in other people's ill.
Speaker 3 (32:56):
Yeah I get that too, but we wear a towel
and it's cleaned. But my point is is like I
often got times to the day I know are quite quiet,
so I can like have that moment, not peak hour.
But what has happened is loads of the people at
the gym and this wellness center know what I do
for a living. They know that we have Life Uncut,
the podcast, and they know we do Ask Uncut and
that it's like very relationship based.
Speaker 1 (33:16):
They know we do ask and cut in.
Speaker 3 (33:17):
The radio, and it started to become like a therapy session.
So people come in now and they'll see me in there,
and then they come in and they guys, not girls,
I'm talking men, and then they start to ask me
relationship advice.
Speaker 1 (33:31):
Are they trauma dumping in the sauna.
Speaker 3 (33:33):
Yeah, they're trauma dumping, but it's not necessarily trauma dumping.
I'm actually so fascinated by it.
Speaker 1 (33:38):
And it is.
Speaker 3 (33:38):
Literally like you could take bookings. I could be a
psychologist therapist in the sauna. They come in one on one,
not intentionally, I'm not like wait outside everyone, But then
they ask me all of their deepest, darkest relationship questions
and I have to give them advice. And then they
literally say, okay, I'll update you next week, and they
circle back in a week to give me the update
on the advice that I've given them in this sauna.
Speaker 2 (34:00):
Question for you, have you told any of them that
you're actually not qualified?
Speaker 3 (34:06):
Well, I haven't specifically said that.
Speaker 1 (34:08):
No, maybe they think that I am.
Speaker 3 (34:11):
I've not said I'm qualified. I think that they know
I'm not. I don't know what it is. Maybe men
have a hard time asking their friends for certain advice,
or maybe maybe it's different getting advice from like the
opposite sex. I often ask guys' advice when I want
a male's perspective, but it's sort of just become who
I am in the sorda.
Speaker 2 (34:27):
Now, what's an example I need to know, Like an
example of something you've been asked recently?
Speaker 3 (34:31):
Yesterday? Yesterday's one was really really nice guy that his
therapy session has been going on for quite a while.
He hasn't been able to find the right person, and
I've been guiding him and encouraging him to date because
he was giving up on dating. So this has been
like going on for quite a while, and I'm like,
you're such a cat, get out there. It's not going
to come and find you in your house kind of thing.
And so we got the update recently that he in
fact met someone amazing, et cetera, et cetera.
Speaker 1 (34:53):
And then it's.
Speaker 3 (34:54):
Turning to long distance, so you know, she's going to
chase her dreams. And we had to unpack because he
let her go chase her dreams, and we had to unpack,
like why he just let her go if he's constantly
thinking about her now and wants to work it out
and like wants that to be a thing. And then
so we spent that session trying to work out like
if he can go and voice to her how he
(35:15):
really feels, and like chase it down and make something
of it.
Speaker 1 (35:18):
I feel like you need to charge for this. This
is lovely. It sounds like too much mental load.
Speaker 2 (35:22):
I don't want to go home and take on anymore.
Speaker 1 (35:24):
I want to go home and have a nap k
and I can put one of those.
Speaker 3 (35:27):
You know when you get to the deli there's a
ticket machine and you like to take a ticket off
the Delhi and get some ham and then you can
trauma dumb.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
I don't know. I love it.
Speaker 3 (35:34):
I'm about it.
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