In this episode of Sex with Emily, renowned psychiatrist and brain expert Dr. Daniel Amen joins us to explore how our "hidden dragons", the unconscious patterns from our past, are secretly controlling our happiness, relationships, and sex lives. Based on his latest book, "Your Brain is Always Listening," Dr. Amen reveals how childhood experiences, family trauma, and even ancestral patterns get written into our brains and show up in our intimate relationships.
We dive deep into the most common dragons people face, including the anxious dragon, the abandoned and insignificant dragon, and the codependent dragon. Dr. Amen shares his personal journey with these patterns and explains how understanding your dragons can transform not just your mental health, but your sexual wellness too. We explore the connection between brain health and sexual function, why ADD can impact orgasms, and how negative thought patterns become "bad habits" that sabotage intimacy.
This episode includes practical tools like positivity bias training, the power of rewriting your story, and specific breathing techniques that can reset your nervous system. Dr. Amen also addresses a listener's question about cheating addiction and explains how brain scans revealed the neurological patterns behind compulsive behavior.
Whether you're struggling with commitment issues, sexual anxiety, or just want to understand how your brain affects your love life, this conversation offers both scientific insights and actionable strategies for creating healthier relationships.
Show Notes:
00:00 - Introduction to Hidden Dragons
01:02 - Dr. Amen's Personal Dragon Story
04:40 - The Abandoned & Insignificant Dragon
08:26 - Most Common Dragons People Face
11:07 - The Ancestral Dragon & Epigenetics
14:18 - Rewriting Your Story & Focus
16:06 - Positivity Bias Training
19:07 - Happiness as Moral Obligation
21:22 - Brain Health & Sexual Function
24:02 - Building Better Mental Habits
27:59 - Listener Q&A: Cheating Addiction
35:12 - ADD & Relationships
38:20 - ADD & Female Orgasms
40:30 - Breathing Techniques for Regulation
Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx
Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse.
List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.
SHOP WITH EMILY!:
https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99)
Want more?
Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/
Let's get social:
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/
X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily
TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily
Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily
Let's text:
Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text