He Left His Desk to Make Strangers Look Hot And It Works 😎

Richard left a packed corporate life, grabbed his Tesla, and hit the road to give free haircuts to people on the streets and to veterans who rarely get that level of care. One tribute to his grandfather turned into a mission that blew up on TikTok and now includes donated shoes, blankets, and clothes with every cut.

He talks road life, gym showers, a 4 a.m. routine, and the quiet moments that keep him grounded. Then we jump into dating. Filters, catfishing, deal breakers, raves, co-parenting, and one Palm Springs birthday story that goes off the rails. He keeps it honest, funny, and a little spicy.

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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_02 (00:00):
Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.
He looks absolutely nothing likehis picture.
So I found out the guy that I'vebeen dating is married with
kids.
His wife just reached out to me.

SPEAKER_03 (00:15):
Welcome to the meat market.
The single scene is aslaughterhouse, and we are here
to devour it.
We are your hosts.
I'm Lindsay.
I'm Jess.
And today's sizzling single isRichard.
Welcome.

SPEAKER_01 (00:24):
Thank you, thank you.

SPEAKER_03 (00:25):
So I absolutely love what you do.
You go around and give haircuts,free haircuts, to the homeless
and to veterans.
Tell us about that.
I want to learn more.

SPEAKER_01 (00:35):
I mean, it just started a week ago.

SPEAKER_03 (00:36):
Did you really?

SPEAKER_01 (00:37):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (00:37):
Oh my god, your TikTok makes it look look like
you've been doing it forever.

SPEAKER_01 (00:41):
I know.
Yeah, I know.

SPEAKER_03 (00:42):
So what made you start this?

SPEAKER_01 (00:44):
Um well, two years ago, my grandpa passed away on
October 14th.
So he was a veteran.
I've been taking it hard, andthat day it just was like just a
hard day, you know.
And so instead of melting in thecouch, I was on fall break from
school and uh just decided toget up and just go go do
something good, you know?

(01:04):
And it turned into something andlike my first my second video I
posted I wouldn't say wentviral, but 135,000 views in a
week.
You know, so it's pretty good.
And so I just kind of I washaving so much fun with it with
the first video and likeeveryone's engagement and action
and reposts and inspirations andit just turned into this like
let me change and go, you know.

SPEAKER_03 (01:26):
That's amazing because I can imagine like for
some for homeless people thathave all that hair, like how
good it must feel to have it allcut off, right?

SPEAKER_01 (01:34):
Yeah.
And so like because of thatvideo, it's like went around
TikTok so quickly.
Um the news cat channels reachout, so yeah, I'm supposed to be
on ABC next week.
Oh, congrats.
Yeah, so that's gonna be prettycool.
Um, and there's a lot of peoplethat are given like donations,
not money, because I don'treally want anyone's money.
I'm doing it, I'm not doing itfor that, you know.

(01:55):
But people are reaching out togive me like shoes, clothes,
blankets, pillows, and so likeafter I give someone a haircut,
I give them an item too.
So it's it's been fun.

SPEAKER_03 (02:02):
Oh, that's really cool.
It's crazy how it completelychanges someone's look too,
right?

SPEAKER_01 (02:07):
Honestly, yeah, like I've been in corporate
manufacturing for the last 15years, and then I own my
business for uh three years.
Um but I just recently leftcorporate and started pursuing
the barbering career.
And uh it's just so different,you know, because like you never
got appreciated in the corporateworld and you slave like 12
hours.

(02:27):
My schedule was 4 to 4, 4 a.m.
to 4 p.m.

SPEAKER_03 (02:29):
What did you do?

SPEAKER_01 (02:30):
I was an operations manager for a manufacturing
company.
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (02:33):
So miserable.

SPEAKER_01 (02:35):
It was like you didn't get to see the sun,
daylight ever, because you'relike you're in a warehouse, you
know, you work with the same 30people.
It's just it just got so I likecompletely stepped out of that
um cash hour in my my retirementand just decided to hit the road
and live out of my Tesla.
So I'm giving up my house andeverything.

SPEAKER_03 (02:54):
Do you currently live in your Tesla now?

SPEAKER_01 (02:56):
No, no, okay.
Not yet.
I'm gonna be moving out inprobably around March.

SPEAKER_03 (03:02):
So this is all really fresh.

SPEAKER_01 (03:03):
Cause I know I'm literally last Saturday.

SPEAKER_03 (03:05):
That's crazy.

SPEAKER_01 (03:07):
Yeah, it is, it is really crazy.
And like one of the video thatdid go viral, um, some lady
actually, one of my it was herdad that she has been looking
for.

SPEAKER_03 (03:16):
Oh my gosh, how cool.
Yeah, have they reunited since?

SPEAKER_01 (03:20):
Um, no, I don't think so.
She was she was she was prettypublic about it because she
didn't want to get likeattacked, you know?
So like she commented like thatwas her father, and then like
she's like, he refuses help, youknow, he doesn't want us, like
he doesn't want to live with us,whatever.
Um and but she was like I didn'tknow him my whole life until

(03:40):
recently.
And then she said the last timeshe's seen him was in January of
this year because uh her auntpassed away.
But yeah, she knows that he'sout there.
There was another family memberthat commented that same person
was like, Yeah, and that's myuncle, I know him.
And then like four days later,the girl commented.
Wow, that's crazy.

SPEAKER_03 (03:58):
So when you go move into your Tesla, where are you
gonna travel to do this?
Nationwide?

SPEAKER_01 (04:04):
Um going to Maine.
Maine?

SPEAKER_03 (04:07):
And you're gonna do stops all along the way?

SPEAKER_01 (04:08):
Yeah, so I'm gonna stop at every major, like not
every major city, but I'm gonnatry to stop at like the major
cities throughout.
Um so like New Mexico, Texas,Louisiana.
Because I need I need to gosouth and then up.
Because I need to do the five uptop Delaware, Virginia, um,
Connecticut, you know, RhodeIsland.
I haven't done those yet.
So I only have 11 states tofinish.

SPEAKER_03 (04:30):
And you're doing this whole thing to give free
haircuts to the homeless?
Yeah.
Wow.
And you're documenting it all onyour TikTok?
Every single so what is yourTikTok handle?

SPEAKER_01 (04:39):
It's uh the gentle the gentle underscore barber.

SPEAKER_03 (04:42):
Gentle underscore barber, okay.

SPEAKER_01 (04:43):
And that's Instagram and TikTok.

SPEAKER_03 (04:45):
Nice.

SPEAKER_01 (04:46):
Yeah, it's it's been really fun.
I can't wait.
So I just go full time.

SPEAKER_03 (04:50):
That's so exciting.
And how long do you plan ondoing this for?

SPEAKER_01 (04:54):
I don't know.
My daughter asked me the samequestion.

SPEAKER_03 (04:56):
Is your daughter going with you?

SPEAKER_01 (04:57):
No, she's with her mom.
She's in school and she can'tgo.
How old is she?
12.

unknown (05:01):
Oh.

SPEAKER_03 (05:02):
So you don't know how you're just gonna hit the
road and go where the wind blowsyou?

SPEAKER_01 (05:06):
Kind of.

SPEAKER_03 (05:06):
Like take take as long as you you have no time
frame.
Have you ever lived out of a carbefore?

SPEAKER_01 (05:11):
I've lived in my Tesla twice.

SPEAKER_03 (05:12):
Oh, you have?

SPEAKER_01 (05:13):
But only for short times.
Like um, I did the first one, itwas 32 days.
I did 16 seats.

SPEAKER_02 (05:18):
Okay.
How'd that go?

SPEAKER_01 (05:20):
It was hard because I was in the four-door sedan,
the model three.
So I slept in the front seat andmy dog slept in the back.
I have two border colleagues,Nala and Semba, they came with
me.
But now I'm in the Model Y, soit's the SUV version.
When you put the back seatsdown, Tessa sells a bed, you
could put a bed back there.

SPEAKER_03 (05:36):
Oh, nice.

SPEAKER_01 (05:37):
And so, like, I have like a a full size bed in the
back.

SPEAKER_03 (05:40):
So, what do you plan on showering?
Do you get a gym membership?

SPEAKER_01 (05:43):
Yeah, plan of fitness is 20 bucks a month.
So nice.

SPEAKER_02 (05:46):
That's what we had another guest a quite a long
time ago who lived in his car,and that was he used the gym for
shower.

SPEAKER_01 (05:54):
I mean, I am doing this by choice, by the way.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (05:58):
It's funny he was too.
That's it's it's sort ofbecoming this.
I feel like it's kind of trendy.
It's like you see the vans andstuff.

SPEAKER_01 (06:04):
Yeah, and like I've seen other people doing it, and
I'm just like, let me add atwist to it, you know, and do
something different.

SPEAKER_03 (06:10):
What an experience.

SPEAKER_01 (06:11):
It's gonna be cool.
So, like um September 3rd, Ileft, and this is like I guess
it's not the first time, butthis is the first time me and
the dogs went by ourselves umand the Model Y, and we went to
San Francisco.
It was gone three weeks.
So we was in San Francisco for aweek, and then we went to Sa um
Sacramento for a couple days,and then you was anymore a
couple days, and then down to LAfor a week, and then down to San

(06:33):
Diego.
And then we were gone for 19days.
It was cool.

SPEAKER_03 (06:40):
And so did you said you run on donations so people
can donate via TikTok?

SPEAKER_01 (06:44):
I mean, if they want to send money donations, they
can.
Uh I have a link on my in my bioon my TikTok.
Uh, I'm not asking for that, butI know people don't that not
everyone has clothes to giveaway, so if they want to give
some money, like I've had peopleon TikTok comment that they're
gonna just send some money for afree haircut, you know, which is
cool.
That would definitely help myjourney, you know.
Um, but it's not about themoney.

SPEAKER_02 (07:06):
Do you have things set up in cities already that
you're going to?
Groups, have you had anybodyreach out from certain cities?

SPEAKER_01 (07:12):
Um, so I just started working with a nonprofit
here in town called Cloud CoverTreats.

SPEAKER_02 (07:17):
Okay.

SPEAKER_01 (07:18):
They are a mobile shower and laundry map.
So they're a trailer, they'vebeen around for like five years.
Um, but they have anotherlocation or another organization
in Fort Worth.
So they just had a big eventover there last week and they
raised like 150k for like whatthey're doing.
So it's pretty cool.
Okay, cool.
Um, so he's supposed to set meup, and then they asked me like

(07:41):
if I had other, you know, likeother places organizations set
up for, and I told him no yet,not yet, because it literally
started nine days ago.
Like, no, but imagination's moreimportant than knowledge.
I promise you that.
You know, I have a tattooed onmy back, I have my whole back
tattooed, like shoulders to ass.
It's pretty sweet.
Um but yeah, and she and they,you know, like they told me that

(08:03):
they can get me set up withdifferent organizations.
Um, I also reached out to theVA, one of the VAs in Mesa.
Um they're gonna let me come tolike a nursing home.
Like they have five differentnursing homes in Mesa all
through November.
Um so I'm gonna be going thereand giving free haircuts to them
because they said that that'sone service that they don't get
in the nursing home is haircuts.

(08:25):
So they have to like leave andpay for your transportation, pay
for the haircut.
So it'd be cool to experiencethat.

SPEAKER_03 (08:33):
Sure.
That would be cool.
So you have a daughter.
Were you married before?

SPEAKER_01 (08:37):
I was for how long?
Eight years.
Well, together eight years.
We were married for five.

SPEAKER_03 (08:42):
How old are you if you don't mind me asking you?
Okay.

SPEAKER_01 (08:45):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (08:45):
Well, and if you don't mind me asking, why did
you end up separating?

SPEAKER_01 (08:49):
I wanted her to travel and she didn't.
Really?
The world works the way it'ssupposed to work.

SPEAKER_02 (08:56):
Yeah, and our last episode is travel.
Tra differences in travel, inopinion on travel and travel
styles, is it a deal breaker?

SPEAKER_01 (09:03):
It absolutely is.
Especially if like you are realto who you are and you're not
faking who you're giving onsocial media, right?
Um, yeah, no, it was a big deal.
Like, we had a great marriage.
I levered it out.
She's a great mom.
We co-parent, we're best friendsstill.
Like, I wouldn't say we're bestfriends, but we get along great.

SPEAKER_03 (09:21):
You're amicable.

SPEAKER_01 (09:22):
Yeah, no, like I I literally tell the world that
like we are the examples ofco-parent, and it does exist.
Like it might take time in thebeginning, but it does.
If you both wanted to work, itworks, you know.

SPEAKER_03 (09:31):
So and she's here in Arizona, yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 (09:34):
Very grateful for her.
She, you know, you know, like Ido my part, you know, I have
50-50.
It's not like I don't do mypart, you know.
I have my daughter used to havemy daughter three weekends a
month.
Um, you know, she's 12 turning13 already trying to, even
though she just turned 12 inAugust.
But um, you know, she's notalways wanting to come to dad's
house every weekend, likefriends, or you know.

(09:57):
I'm also out here alone.
I don't have no family here.

SPEAKER_02 (10:00):
Did you ask her what she thought of you doing this
before you started?
Like did you know?

SPEAKER_01 (10:05):
I just completely dropped the ball on her.
Yeah.
And I documented it.
It's on my TikTok.

SPEAKER_02 (10:11):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 (10:12):
Yeah.
No, that like I told her that Ihad something that I wanted to
talk to her about, like, after Imade my decision up, and she
like she kept asking, like, whatis it, Dad?
What is it?
You can even see in the video,like one of the clips.
She's like, What are we doing?
you know, and like we're walkingin the bedroom to go to like
this map that I have in my roomwhere I have all these magnets
of all the states I've been to.
And I was like, I'm gonna finishgoing to cross off my bucket

(10:35):
list, and you know, like I'mgonna move out of the house and
into the car for a while and doit.
And she was like, How long areyou gonna be gone?
You know, asking thosequestions.
I'm like, I'm still gonna seeyou, like, I'll fly you out to
wherever I'm at, it's fine, youknow.
Like her mom supported it, youknow, she supported it, so it's
I don't know, supposed to behappening, I guess.
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (10:54):
So you say you like traveling.
Have you done internationaltravel or do you prefer just
sniff?

SPEAKER_01 (10:58):
Hell yeah, I've done international traveling.

SPEAKER_03 (10:59):
What's your favorite place?

SPEAKER_01 (11:01):
Rome?

SPEAKER_03 (11:01):
Really?

SPEAKER_01 (11:02):
Yeah, Rome is amazing.
I mean, London's nice.
London's cool, London's notreally nice, but it's the best.
London is very nice, don't getme wrong.
Uh but Rome and Vatican City isso much.
I haven't seen anything in mylife that's better than that.
Like, but Thailand was amazing.
I spent two months in Thailand.

SPEAKER_03 (11:23):
Two months?
Oh wow.
I've heard it's beautiful andI've heard it's really cheap
too.

SPEAKER_01 (11:26):
It is.
Yeah, I balled the hell outthere.
Yeah.
Like lit, because it's it's uhyou get one dollar is
thirty-three there.
So it's one dollar thirty-threebot.

SPEAKER_03 (11:36):
Oh wow.

SPEAKER_01 (11:36):
So you get thirty-three times your money.
Wow.
You know?
It was amazing.

SPEAKER_03 (11:41):
So were you born and raised in Arizona?

SPEAKER_01 (11:44):
Born in Illinois.
Um raised until like I was like11 or 12, my parents divorced.
Moved to Missouri with my dad,where my grandmother lived at.
And then uh I was there until Iwas 17 and then I moved here.
Been here since I was 17.

SPEAKER_03 (12:00):
Why'd you move here?

SPEAKER_01 (12:01):
Chase my wife.

SPEAKER_03 (12:02):
Oh, funny.

SPEAKER_01 (12:04):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (12:05):
And when did you get divorced?
What year?

SPEAKER_01 (12:07):
2016.

SPEAKER_03 (12:08):
Okay.
So you've been divorced for awhile.
Have you dated much?

SPEAKER_01 (12:11):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (12:12):
And how's that go?
Are you on the apps currently?

SPEAKER_01 (12:14):
I'm on an app, yeah.
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (12:16):
Which one?

SPEAKER_01 (12:17):
Hinge.

SPEAKER_03 (12:17):
I've heard that's the best.

SPEAKER_02 (12:18):
That seems to be the favorite.
Oh, Raya's the best.

SPEAKER_01 (12:21):
Raya is the best.

SPEAKER_02 (12:22):
We just had a girl on who said that Raya is not the
best.
For girls.
Maybe it's different for men.

SPEAKER_01 (12:28):
Well, I mean, Raya compared to Hinge.
Come on.
It's invite only on Raya.

SPEAKER_03 (12:32):
So like I can imagine the women are all
beautiful on Raya.

SPEAKER_01 (12:34):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
Like, it's literally top shelfwomen.
So it's like, you know, my oneof my best friends just met a
girl on Raya.
She's a doctor.
She's a couple years older thanhe is, and they're like hitting
it off perfectly.
Like they're in a greatrelationship.
Super happy for him.
He just moved in with her,actually.

SPEAKER_03 (12:49):
I thought though, Raya was supposed to be for like
celebrities, like high-endpeople.
But we've we've had a couplepeople on that.
I mean, they have 10,000followers, but they're not like
celebrities, but they're onRaya.

unknown (13:01):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (13:01):
Right?

SPEAKER_01 (13:01):
It it's about your your public view, like your
publicity of like who you are onsocial media.
Like, are you known or not kindof thing?

SPEAKER_02 (13:10):
Yeah, or are you hot or not?
Yeah, or do you have prestige,like she was saying?
Like, is there somethingprestigious about you?

SPEAKER_01 (13:16):
And and the other thing is, is you could get
referrals.
So, like, if you get enoughreferrals, then you get
accepted.
I have six referrals, I've beenwinning for a year.
Seriously.
Right, what's up, man?
Like, I'm a good, attractivelooking dude.
What's going on?
What the hell?

SPEAKER_02 (13:33):
Do you lie about your height on your oh I don't
lie about my height?
Okay, well, see, then we'recontinuing.
It's average, you know.
It is average, I think, for aman.
I think the average height isfive'eight.

SPEAKER_03 (13:44):
So did you know that 90?
Because we all have women thatsay, I need a guy that's six
foot or above.
Like that's all women say that.
But did you know 90% of the menon this planet are shorter than
six foot tall?

SPEAKER_01 (13:57):
There's a reason why I'm single for two years, okay?
It's awful out here.

SPEAKER_03 (14:03):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 (14:04):
It really is.

SPEAKER_03 (14:05):
Do you have any dating disaster stories or crazy
dating stories?

SPEAKER_01 (14:08):
What's the I got stabbed before?

SPEAKER_03 (14:10):
Wait, what?
On a date?

SPEAKER_01 (14:12):
No.
In my home.

SPEAKER_03 (14:14):
Wait, by girl?

SPEAKER_01 (14:15):
Yes.

SPEAKER_03 (14:16):
Stabbed?

SPEAKER_01 (14:17):
Yes.

SPEAKER_03 (14:18):
What did you do to make her so mad?

SPEAKER_01 (14:19):
Honestly, I didn't even do anything.
But what did shit crazy?
What?

SPEAKER_03 (14:23):
Tell us the story.

SPEAKER_01 (14:24):
Like the whole story?
Yeah.
Okay, shit.

SPEAKER_02 (14:28):
Unless it's gonna take like six hours.
No, no, no, no, no.
I could break it down realquick.

SPEAKER_01 (14:31):
I could break it down real quick.
Okay.
I'm getting anxiety right now.
This one's good.

SPEAKER_03 (14:39):
I don't think we've ever had someone say they were
stabbed on a first date.
No, not a first date.
Steve.
No, it wasn't a first date.

SPEAKER_01 (14:46):
No, we we were dating for a while.

SPEAKER_03 (14:48):
Okay.

SPEAKER_01 (14:48):
So I met this girl at Mardi Gras in New Orleans.
I took my dad there.
It was our first, it was ourfirst adult trip together.
So I flew to St.
Louis and got a car, and me andmy dad drove 10 hours to
Louisiana.
Met this girl there.
She lived in San Antonio, Texas.
She was a nurse.
Long story short, we startedseeing each other six months in,
did long distance for a while.
It was great.
She moved to Arizona for me.

(15:09):
We did great.
She's Hispanic.

SPEAKER_02 (15:14):
La Toxica.

SPEAKER_00 (15:17):
Not to like call them out because I do love them
so much because I love so hardand so they so do they, you
know.

SPEAKER_03 (15:23):
But they're very passionate.

SPEAKER_01 (15:25):
But they're so good.
They're so spicy.
I love them.
But I it's so hard to get them,you know?
Like they like, I don't know.
Anyway, yeah.
I thought I I mean I honestly Ihad a great woman.
I was to drop out of high schoolat one point, you know.
I I I dropped out to take careof my three siblings my
sophomore year before I moved toArizona to because my dad and
that girl separated, you know.

(15:46):
And then I get with a girl who'sa nurse and their her family was
loaded, and you know, like itwas just crazy.
Uh we did a lot of travelingtogether.
And no, yeah, she we were livingtogether.
We moved into a house together.
Uh, I don't remember what theargument was exactly.
I came home from work and shewas just so angry.
I went into the bedroom and thewhole bedroom was like thrown.

(16:07):
Like every drawer was flippedupside down, the entire closet
was ripped up.
Like, I'm not even kidding you.
I'm like, went into a room,like, what the hell is going on?
You know, and she was just likeso angry.
I don't even remember what itwas about.
I honestly can't remember whatit was.
Like, all I can remember is herholding the knife like this,
like passing me.

SPEAKER_03 (16:23):
Okay, Brittany Spears.

SPEAKER_01 (16:26):
No, so like she we walked out of the bedroom.
Mind you, we lived in athree-bedroom house, and I
literally made one of the roomsa complete makeup room for her,
built a vanity.
She had it was like a giantcloset vanity, like makeup room.
Like it was badass, you know?
And um, so I was in the hallwayand she comes walking down the
hallway, goes in the kitchen,grabs a knife, and I'm like,
what the hell are you gonna dowith that?

(16:47):
Walks right past me, goes intothe vanity uh bedroom, and I I
followed her, and I was like,I'm like, what are you doing
with that?
Like, are you gonna you're gonnacut me?
Like, go ahead and like cut me,you know.
Like, didn't thinking that shewould, you know, she did.

SPEAKER_00 (17:02):
There's a score right there.
Oh my that's that's five yearsold.
Oh my god.

SPEAKER_01 (17:07):
Yeah, and so she was a nurse, so I told her, you
either lose your nurse's licenseor stitch me up and get the hell
out.
So she stitched me up.
I didn't, you know, she's stilla traveling nurse.
Bless her heart.

SPEAKER_03 (17:17):
Did she apologize profusely?

SPEAKER_01 (17:20):
Um, yes and no.
Yeah, she didn't.
Like right after it happened,yeah.
I was pissed.
She drew my true religionshorts.
They were brand new.
I literally just bought those,you know?

SPEAKER_00 (17:31):
And I'm like, look down.

SPEAKER_01 (17:33):
The blood is just running down my shorts.
I'm like, Paula, you really youcut me?

SPEAKER_03 (17:36):
Thank God she was a nurse.

SPEAKER_01 (17:37):
Yeah, I was like, stitch me up, you know.
Like, I don't want to call thecops, but like, hello, you know.

SPEAKER_03 (17:42):
So she did wow, you were nice not to call the cops,
you know.
So did she try to beg you back?

SPEAKER_01 (17:49):
Uh no, I wouldn't say that.
I moved out.
Yeah, I left the house.
I moved out, I've been in thesame house ever since, eight
years now.

SPEAKER_03 (17:55):
Wow, that's crazy.
That's probably one of thecraziest stories we've heard.
We hear a lot of crazy stories.
Have you ever been catfishedgoing off first thing?
You have really a lot?

SPEAKER_01 (18:05):
Uh yeah, especially out here.
Are you kidding me?
Everybody uses filters.

SPEAKER_02 (18:10):
That's what I was gonna ask in what way.

SPEAKER_01 (18:12):
Everybody or the angles of their pictures.
Like, that's why I in girls getmad.
Like, whenever I do match withthem on like on hinge or
something, I'll be like, What'syour Instagram?
Oh, I'm not giving that out.
It's like, I'm not just gonna gooff your four photos, girl.
Like, what?
Hell no.
Because like it just doesn'tthey don't look real.

SPEAKER_02 (18:27):
Also, what is the big deal about giving your
Instagram, right?

SPEAKER_00 (18:31):
Isn't that what it's for?

SPEAKER_02 (18:32):
That is what it's for.
And then if you decide you'renot gonna work out with that
person, you can unfollow andhave them unfollow.
You can do both yourself.
You can do it both yourself.

SPEAKER_01 (18:41):
Yeah, when you unfollow, it's like, do you want
this person to unfollow?
Yes, I do.
Exactly.

SPEAKER_02 (18:44):
Like so, if they're looking at your profile, if they
have access to your Instagramprofile for three days before
you decide you don't want todate them, yeah, then you just
take them off of your Instagram.
Right?
What I don't understand.

SPEAKER_01 (18:57):
Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_02 (18:58):
But yeah, I guess they got their full body picks
on there.

SPEAKER_01 (19:03):
So I got that on there too.
That's what, yeah.
Like, and like then the peopletalk about how like looks don't
matter.
That is so it's so bullshit whenthey say that because it's like
it starts there.

SPEAKER_03 (19:15):
Like, and if looks don't matter, then why are you
filtering all your pictures,right?

SPEAKER_01 (19:18):
Yeah, well, like girls always say look like looks
don't matter.
And then like whenever you tella girl like they're attracted,
they like they don't like a lotof girls.
Don't like that, they don't likethe compliments, or they don't
know how to take them, you know.
The dating world is a disaster,right?

SPEAKER_02 (19:30):
Which I was told more often I was good looking.
You're a good one.
I never thanks.

SPEAKER_01 (19:35):
Yeah, you both are.

SPEAKER_03 (19:38):
So are you looking to get remarried?

SPEAKER_01 (19:41):
I want marriage, but I don't want kids.

SPEAKER_03 (19:42):
You don't want any more kids or not?

SPEAKER_01 (19:44):
My daughter's 12.
Yeah, you know, I've been takingcare of kids my whole life.
I dropped out of high school totake care of my three siblings
who attend diapers.

SPEAKER_02 (19:50):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 (19:51):
I'm not no, I don't want them more kids.

SPEAKER_02 (19:53):
Does your daughter want siblings?

SPEAKER_01 (19:54):
She has siblings with her mother.
Oh, she does.
Okay.
So she's she keeps asking me andI keep telling her she's crazy.

SPEAKER_03 (19:59):
And do you really want to go back to the diaper
stage and see training puppykids?

SPEAKER_01 (20:03):
That's the other thing about me is why I don't
have why I'm having so I'm verypicky.
Like, for one, I'm not gonnaintroduce anyone into my
daughter until like it's awhile.
Like my last relationship, Iwaited six months.
Um smart.
Yeah, and like I don't even seeenough girls anyway.
Like, honestly, like, no, itjust there's just nothing, yeah.

(20:25):
It's there's nothing ever goingon.

SPEAKER_03 (20:27):
What are your deal breakers?

SPEAKER_01 (20:29):
Kids.

SPEAKER_03 (20:30):
Really?

SPEAKER_01 (20:30):
Yes.
I won't even be with someonethat has a child.

SPEAKER_03 (20:33):
One child?
Why?

SPEAKER_01 (20:36):
Because I don't want to deal with their drama.

SPEAKER_03 (20:39):
Is it the either the baby daddy drama?

SPEAKER_01 (20:42):
The kid drama, the baby drama, the mom and child
drama.
Nah, I'm good.

SPEAKER_03 (20:45):
Yeah, and you like to travel.

SPEAKER_01 (20:46):
Yeah, and I mean it's not even about that, like,
but I just I don't want to havemy daughter get into another
relationship with someone, likechild wise, and a person.

SPEAKER_02 (20:57):
Because I've had the breakup with the person and the
daughter already, and that thatjust even I don't have kids, but
my ex had kids, and even myniece, like still to this day,
my niece will be like, Do youremember when so and so used to
come over?
And it was my ex's daughter, andit was like they were like three

(21:17):
and four years old.
Yeah, you know what I mean?
My daughter's still asked aboutmy ex.
It's yeah, so it's like kidsremember that kind of stuff,
even especially her age, youknow.

SPEAKER_01 (21:26):
Yeah, like she was involved for their we were
together almost four years, oractually about four years, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (21:31):
Have you ever walked out mid-date?

SPEAKER_01 (21:33):
No, I couldn't do that.

SPEAKER_03 (21:34):
Have you had a girl walk out mid-date on you?

SPEAKER_01 (21:36):
Look at this.
I don't know.
No, because like as soon assomebody I I'm just kidding,
like I don't have an ego likethat.
I'm I'm this a humoristicperson.
Like, I I honestly like, no,like I don't have a uh ego, like
I don't think I'm the shit.
Like, I'm just a real genuineperson.
Yeah, fly it's in here.

SPEAKER_02 (21:52):
It's that one, it's this one that won't leave us
alone.

SPEAKER_01 (21:55):
No, I'd be like, I'm just a good genuine person, you
know.
I have a really big heart, likeit it's shown all over my social
media.
My daughter's everywhere there,you know.
Like becoming a barber, like Iget to expose who I am more, you
know.
Like two months ago, I didn'thave blonde hair and a haircut
like this in the corporateworld.
Are you kidding me?
They would fire me the day Iwalked in like this.
But like now I can be who I am,you know?

(22:16):
So um, no, it's just no, Icouldn't do that.

SPEAKER_03 (22:22):
Have you ever gone out with Scotstar girls?

SPEAKER_01 (22:24):
Hell yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (22:24):
How how do you feel about them?

SPEAKER_01 (22:26):
They're awful.

SPEAKER_03 (22:27):
Why so?

SPEAKER_01 (22:28):
Because they none of them are real, yeah.
Like they're all so fake, andI'm not talking about their
looks.
Like, who cares that they have alittle Botox or lip fillers?
There's so many people that talkshit about that, but like it
really does enhance a woman, andif it's gonna make them feel
better, let them do that.
Men can't get that.
Yeah, I mean we can, I guess.

SPEAKER_02 (22:43):
I was gonna say you can.

SPEAKER_01 (22:44):
I guess we can, but like, do you think I would look
better with them?

SPEAKER_02 (22:48):
With lip injections?
You think so?
Duck face, maybe just you know,a little Botox around the eyes.
I have I have done it.

SPEAKER_01 (22:56):
I have done that, and I'm gonna I I know I I need
to do that again.
I'm going to actually.
Um, I have done that before.

SPEAKER_03 (23:02):
What are your hobbies?
What do you do in your free timebesides a lot?

SPEAKER_01 (23:05):
Um, I run like three to six miles a week.
Um, snowboard every s everywinter, um, skydiving, traveling
internationally, um, roadtripping often, Sedona often,
hiking out there, Tesla camping.
I do a lot.

SPEAKER_03 (23:22):
Do you have any crazy unique talents or unique
fact about yourself that notmany people know of?

SPEAKER_01 (23:27):
I have an Albert Einstein portrait tattooed on my
back.

SPEAKER_03 (23:30):
Oh, you do?

SPEAKER_01 (23:31):
Yeah.
Like a full piece.
It took me 10 years to completeit.

SPEAKER_03 (23:34):
Oh wow.
Why'd you get Albert Einstein?

SPEAKER_01 (23:36):
Imagination's more important than knowledge.
It's one of his like most famousquotes.

SPEAKER_04 (23:42):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 (23:43):
So, and like I'm so like that, you know, I'm so
spontaneous, and like that's whythe more the marriage shouldn't
work.
That's why the corporate jobdoesn't work.
I can't be held down.
Like, not like I I totally saidthat wrong.
That sounded so bad.
Because I just said I want amarriage and dating.

SPEAKER_02 (24:00):
Like I cannot be held down.

SPEAKER_01 (24:03):
Ladies, but I corrected that as soon as I see
I I acknowledge that.
That's not what I meant.
I when I say that, I mean likeshit.

SPEAKER_02 (24:14):
Like you're like a free spirit.
Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 (24:16):
Yeah.
And it's just like you want tobe free to be who you are.

SPEAKER_02 (24:18):
You're gonna do well with routine and structure and
cock out.

SPEAKER_01 (24:21):
No, actually, I'm that I have to have that.
Structure is a huge thing in mylife.
Like, if you don't havestructure, what the hell do you
have?
If you don't have a routine,what the hell do you have?
But I add the spontaneousin-between all of that.
A lot of people act like theydon't have a lot of time in
their day.
I wake up at 4 a.m.
every day, you know, like wakeup and go do something.
You know what I mean?
Don't melt on your couch.
Like, don't get me wrong, I lovecrime documentary and I watch

(24:41):
every one of them on Prime andNetflix and everything, you
know.
Like, you make time how youwant, it's all about time
management and discipline inlife, you know.
So, but no, I the corporateworld is what I mean.
I can't be held down to likethat schedule.
That's why I'm trying to makethe whole TikTok thing work
because I know it's possible,and I in, you know, you manifest
and you imagine, right?
So it's like I have Einstein onmy back because he was a genius,

(25:04):
and I like to think, you know,that I could possibly do genius
things one day.
And it's just like the realstory is my best friend is a
huge artist out here.
Shout out Kevin Bradley, you'reamazing.
Uh, we're best friends.
We've we go way back from like2005, 2006.
We went to high school, samehigh not same high school, but

(25:24):
high school years together.
Uh he moved out here in 2009, Imoved out here in 2010.
His dad was here, and the girlthat I was trying to get with,
my wife of the ex-wife, um, shewas here.
So that was when we reconnected.
And then, but I told him when wewere when I was like 16, he was
tattooing me, and I seen hispotential.

(25:44):
And I told him, I was like, man,I'm like, I this is what you
need to do for real.
Like, put your time and effortinto this because you're gonna
go somewhere with it.
And I told him, I said, and whenyou get good enough and I think
that you're good enough, I'llgive you my whole back and we'll
do something crazy.
And 10 years later we startedit.
You wanna see?

SPEAKER_04 (26:00):
Sure, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (26:06):
He's getting naked.
It's getting hot in here.
So take off all your clothes.
Oh wow, yeah, it's veryrealistic.
Wow, I like it.

SPEAKER_02 (26:15):
Oh, and all the black on the top.
Owe, did that hurt?
I bet that really hurt.

SPEAKER_01 (26:20):
Uh yeah, I mean I definitely hurt that.
Uh yeah.
Yeah, I got this one done inThailand.

SPEAKER_02 (26:25):
Oh wow.
Oh yeah, that one's cool too.
That one is cool.

SPEAKER_01 (26:28):
So tattooing is a little bit more.

SPEAKER_02 (26:29):
Oh, you got the twister on there too on your
side for your Illinois.

SPEAKER_01 (26:33):
Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_02 (26:34):
I'm gonna say, speaking of being crazy, are you
ready for it?
I'm ready for it.
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your relationship.
We have a listener question.
Um if you meet their pet and ithates you, do you try harder or

(26:59):
do you accept your fate?

SPEAKER_01 (27:00):
No, I absolutely accept that because people who
have bad dogs are bad people.

SPEAKER_02 (27:05):
But if the dog's not bad if it just doesn't like you,
it's bad if it doesn't likeeverybody.
I disagree with that because mydog is skeptical about certain
people.
And if my dog doesn't like you,well, she loves me, so she must
have good style, good senses.

SPEAKER_01 (27:22):
No, like I don't know.
I have two beautiful bordercolleagues, Nala and Simba, and
they're my whole life.
Like, Nala just turned nine,Simba's turning six in February,
and they're so disciplined, soobedient, they do anything I ask
them to do.
It's incredible.
But I I always I've always heardpeople say, or like I always
tell people, people who havegood dogs are really good,
genuine people typically, youknow?

(27:44):
But I don't know.
I guess I've never had a dog notlike me.
I'm a huge dog person.

SPEAKER_02 (27:48):
What if your dogs, though?
Like, what if you brought a girlover and your dogs didn't not
happen.
That's what I'm that's I thinkthat's what the question is
asking.

SPEAKER_01 (27:56):
Like, what if it's not happening that they won't
like them?
They're border collies.

SPEAKER_02 (27:59):
But what if I know border colleagues?
I wouldn't give up to them.

SPEAKER_01 (28:02):
Are you saying if they didn't like my dogs or my
dogs didn't like them?

SPEAKER_02 (28:05):
No, if your dogs didn't like them, like you
brought a girl home and justdon't think that that's I I
don't know.
Not that your dogs didn't likethem.
So my dog doesn't ever not likeanyone.
There's just certain people thatshe's like, Yeah, they probably
want to be around.

SPEAKER_01 (28:17):
I wouldn't I that's a deal breaker.

SPEAKER_02 (28:18):
Yeah, there's just certain there's certain people
that she doesn't bother to likeget up off of her bed to greet.

SPEAKER_01 (28:24):
Oh, I can do that.

SPEAKER_02 (28:25):
And so then it's like it's like, hmm, why does my
dog not want to say hello toyou?
You must not be a good person.

SPEAKER_01 (28:32):
I get what you're saying, but like that's one
thing that my dogs do not listenabout is not jumping when
someone walks in the door.
They greet everybody for likethree minutes and then they're
like perfect again, you know.

SPEAKER_03 (28:42):
So you know what's funny is I went on a couple of
dates with this guy and I reallyliked him, and then I went to
his house and he had a dog, andI am not allergic to dogs, but
my face blew up, like my eyesswallow up so much where I
couldn't see, like it was crazy.
I never saw him again.
Hopefully, this is a dealbreaker.
She can't come around my dog.
I feel like the Lord was tellingme something.

(29:03):
Like, I'm not allergic to dogs,but for some reason, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 (29:05):
I mean, it's definitely a deal breaker.
If they if they're if my dogsaren't gonna accept them, yeah,
my dogs are my life.
They've they've been around howmany breakups?
I've cried how many times inthere for her?
Come on.

SPEAKER_03 (29:14):
Okay, so now we're gonna look over these uh facts.
Are these green flags, beigeflags or red flags?
What do you think?
Someone still has a flip phone.

SPEAKER_01 (29:25):
A flip phone?

SPEAKER_03 (29:26):
Yeah, that beige flag, green flag, red flag.
It might be good because thenyou know they're not so obsessed
with being on a frickinsmartphone.
I think it's a beige, but I needto know.

SPEAKER_01 (29:35):
Are we talking like real life?
Or is it like hypothetically?
Because I don't know the lasttime I seen someone with a flip
phone.

SPEAKER_02 (29:40):
I need to know more about why they have a flip phone
and do they have another phonealso?
So you need more info.
I need more info.
It's a beige, it's a beige flag.

SPEAKER_03 (29:48):
What if they still follow and occasionally like
their ex's posts?
I think that's a huge red flag.
Yeah, that's a big thing.
Why do you still follow your exand why are you still liking
their crap?
Right?
Like, why are you still soconcerned?
Like if you

SPEAKER_01 (30:00):
Are you you mean like in general or if you're in
a relationship?

SPEAKER_03 (30:02):
Like if you're dating someone.

SPEAKER_01 (30:04):
Oh yeah, a thousand percent.
Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 (30:05):
Yeah.
Um, they plan your second datebefore the first one's even
over.
No, I don't like that.

SPEAKER_02 (30:12):
You don't like that?
Too eager to be like I likethat.
What if we're not going?
What if I don't want to go on asecond date?

SPEAKER_03 (30:17):
It was a second.

SPEAKER_01 (30:17):
Well, I mean, if you don't want to go to a second
date, you just ghost, right?
Yeah, that's true.
You just don't or tell them, Iguess not ghost.

SPEAKER_02 (30:24):
I don't ghost.
I don't do that.
But I don't, I don't want tohave this conversation.
Like you've already planned oursecond date, and I wasn't even
planning on the driver.

SPEAKER_01 (30:32):
I mean, what if that what if there wasn't a date like
dialed in?
Like, you know, first seconddate opportunity, but not a date
dialed in for the second date.
Then it's more possible, right?

SPEAKER_02 (30:41):
Maybe then it's not so much.

SPEAKER_03 (30:43):
I was on a second date with my husband, and we
were talking about Wayne Brady,and we saw that he was coming
into town, so he booked thetickets right then and there.
So he planned our third date onyour second date.
On our second date.
And I liked it.
I was like, oh good.
This guy seems interested.
I'm in.
Really?

SPEAKER_01 (30:56):
But that's the thing.
Like, these girls want effortand then you give effort and
they don't want it.
It gets so dumb.

SPEAKER_03 (31:01):
That's this one right here.

SPEAKER_01 (31:03):
No, seriously.
Like, even the girls, like youdo get a match with them, and
then like they don't reply.
They they say like somethingcute and nice, and then they
don't even reply back, you know?

SPEAKER_03 (31:12):
That's gotta be frustrating.
When they ask for your zodiacsign before your last name, that
to me would be deal breaker.
Like all that man that's intoall those horoscopes and like, I
don't know, hokey stuff.

SPEAKER_02 (31:27):
But why do you need my last name like right away?
Yeah, that's true.
But why do you need my zodiacsign?
That's even worse to me.

SPEAKER_01 (31:34):
Most people's Instagram is their first and
last name, though.
So they could kind of alreadyknow.

SPEAKER_02 (31:37):
A lot is.
Mine's not.
I just I don't know why you needI don't need you know I am.
My Instagram is private.
I don't know why you need mylast name, for one.
And two, I like it.
I like to be asked when mybirthday is because I like
different I like birthdays.

SPEAKER_03 (31:51):
That's different if they ask when your birthday is,
but if they're like talkingabout your horoscopes and oh,
we're gonna be such a good matchbecause if they start talking
about I don't know, not my cupof tea.
They never post you on so socialmedia, but they also never post
anyone.
That's a green flag, right?
If they're just not posting onsocial media, yeah, I don't care
about that.
Um I don't know.
Yeah, what are your thoughts onthat?

SPEAKER_01 (32:11):
I mean, like it I guess it depends on the
relationship.
What if it's like kind of asituationship, you know?
Like relationship.

SPEAKER_03 (32:18):
That's true.
Yeah, it depends on what kind ofrelationship it is.

SPEAKER_01 (32:21):
Like even if you are like dialed in on that
relationship and it's just sobad, like you don't want to
embarrass yourself, so you justdon't post because you don't
think it's gonna work out.

SPEAKER_02 (32:28):
Right?

SPEAKER_01 (32:29):
You could look you're both looking at me, like,
no.

SPEAKER_02 (32:31):
I know I hardly ever post, and so I don't post
someone that I'm dating on myInstagram.

SPEAKER_03 (32:37):
I think it's only a red flag if like they tell you
not to post pictures.
Right?

SPEAKER_01 (32:41):
That was my last relationship.
Really?
Yeah, well, because she was fromPoland, so so she didn't want
you posting pictures.
No, because she was here on astudent visa and she was living
with me, and so like she didn'twant the oh if they like looked
at her social media and seenthat she was in a relationship,
like she she wasn't coming back,like when she went back to
Poland.
That makes sense, you know.
Yeah, but that sucked, you know?

SPEAKER_02 (33:01):
Because you wanted to post you were proud of your
relationship in the beginning.

SPEAKER_01 (33:06):
Like in the beginning, yeah, until I found
out all the man, no.

SPEAKER_02 (33:11):
Maybe maybe you're a little too eager, beaver, to
post girls publicly.
Maybe you need to rein it injust a little bit.

SPEAKER_01 (33:17):
I haven't.
No, I I only posted her on mystory.
I never actually posted a post,you know.

SPEAKER_02 (33:22):
Okay, okay, okay.

SPEAKER_01 (33:23):
But like my last my last two girls, girlfriends I
did, I posted them, you know.
Like, I I am I want to be in arelationship, to be honest.
Like, I have a daughter thatwants me to be with somebody.
Like, I want to be withsomebody, but I'm so picky and
I'm not rushing it.

SPEAKER_03 (33:35):
So if you do post the girl, she should feel
flattered and honored thatyou're and it proves that you
actually do like her.

SPEAKER_01 (33:40):
Well, yeah, 100%.

SPEAKER_03 (33:41):
Because if you look at my social media to work my
daughter and myself, don't youhate those people that are
posting a different person everyfreaking week?
Yeah, like and they're in arelationship every single week
with someone new.
Oh my god, like why post it?
Right?
Because it makes people take youserious.
Yeah, people.

SPEAKER_01 (33:56):
Some people like that.
Yeah, but it's like I don't evenhave shots on like I there's
times I match with girls on onhinge or something, and they
literally tell me I look like afuckboy.
Like from the jump, I'm like,bitch, don't, don't, don't you?

SPEAKER_02 (34:08):
What kind of pictures?
I'm gonna need to see yourprofile.

SPEAKER_01 (34:11):
Please do.

SPEAKER_03 (34:14):
Well, you know, you do have the tattoos, which kind
of gives you the bad boy kind oflook.
You're blitzing.

SPEAKER_01 (34:20):
You know, I hate that shit too.

SPEAKER_03 (34:22):
I will say, you personally you seem very um
genuine and you seem like you'reserious about you don't seem
like a fuckboy to me, getting toknow you.

SPEAKER_01 (34:29):
No, exactly.
And that's the thing, is like Idon't even there's this one girl
that I'm really attracted to.
I'm not even gonna lie, I won'tsay her name for sure.
But she's in Scottsdale.
We just matched recently, um, acouple weeks ago.
Oh, she's I literally comment, Idon't really comment whenever I
match on Hinge or like if I senda like, but I sent I'm like,
you're literally the perfectgirlfriend.
Like, you're like my dream girl.

(34:49):
That was what I said to her.
So she matched with me, and thenshe found out I had a kid, and
she, yeah, she added me onInstagram, and then um she told
me that she'll hit me up, youknow, and then she unmatched
with me, which whatever, I don'treally care about that.
But you know, it's been weeksalready, and but she did tell me
the reason why is because herlast relationship she got close
with the with the guy's kid, andthen he was cheating.

(35:10):
And that sucks for like agenuine guy, you know, because
that's stupid though, becausewhat if it would have worked out
with you?
Well, like she like she did, shewe have been talking a little
bit, you know, but like I'm likeyou know, like she's seen the
what I've been doing, and she'slike, Oh, you're so kind, you
know, because she's in the hairbusiness too.

SPEAKER_02 (35:25):
And so, like, she, but yeah, it's not Emily, is it?
No, okay, no, I was getting thesame thing.

SPEAKER_01 (35:32):
Even even if it was somebody, I wouldn't say it just
because it's her, like, this isyou know, like her reputation.
She yeah, like she's she's greatat what she does.
I would never throw her name.
I I don't even know, I nevereven met her, but I respect her
enough where I wouldn't even sayher name.
Yeah, you know, like it's justnot fair.
And please cut the other girl'sname.
I don't want that to be seen.
But um, no, my social media, myhinge is great, I feel like.

(35:54):
Honestly, it's it's it'sliterally like a short version
of like my whole life.
Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (36:01):
Oh, yeah.
You're putting your little bedin the back of your car.
Well, that's because yeah,that's oh, in your they're
current, you have a picture ofyour hair the way it is right
now, the color that it is, so itlooks exactly like you.
Are his pictures filtered?

SPEAKER_01 (36:15):
No, none of them are, and they're not fuckboy
pictures, I don't think.
Well, you're not, I'm tellingyou, I have multiple girls tell
me that.

SPEAKER_02 (36:24):
Maybe because this is maybe because this last one
is the one of your tattoo andyou have girls in the photo.
Maybe because it's like a partypicture.

SPEAKER_01 (36:34):
Okay, that's at a that's at a rave, though.

SPEAKER_03 (36:37):
And he's showing off his tattoo.
Exactly.
Thank you so much.

SPEAKER_01 (36:40):
Okay, but think about it.
You're at a rave, right?
So you're at a rave walkingaround without a shirt to show
your tattoo.
Like, that's my everyone has anoutfit when they go to a rave,
right?
That's my outfit.
Shirts and no shirt, because Ihave so much money in my back, I
want to show it off.
And there's so many other menthat also have, you know, that
do that.
And there was a girl that walkedup, she had a full chest, her
whole chest done.

(37:01):
And so, like, I walk, I waslike, let me get a picture.
So I put my arm around her hereto get her front and they can
get my back.
And then her two friends jumpedin the picture with me.
But that's a sick photo.

SPEAKER_02 (37:10):
That's it is no, that's what I'm saying.
Like, I think it's a cool photobecause it just looks like
you're having fun.
It like looks like you're havinga great time.
And you can very much tell thatthese girls aren't girls that
you're like trying to hook upwith, or like, you know what I
mean?
Like, you it's not like it's notlike one of those club photos
where it's like you're like gotyour arms around their waist or

(37:30):
something like that, stupid.

SPEAKER_01 (37:32):
But and they weren't even hanging on me.
It was just like it wasliterally like a one-picture.

SPEAKER_02 (37:35):
It doesn't look that, but that's the only that's
the one, that's the only pictureon your profile that I could
see.

SPEAKER_01 (37:40):
Maybe I feel like that picture just shows a lot of
like my adventure side of life,you know?

SPEAKER_03 (37:46):
So I feel like women some women though will use
anything as an excuse to stopcommunication.
Oh, they're too cowardly to say,listen, I just don't think it's
gonna be a match.
They'll be like, oh, you looklike a fuck boy, or yeah, use
things to use.

SPEAKER_01 (37:59):
Women love that.

SPEAKER_03 (38:00):
Yeah.
Fine.
Now it's time for the celebritycup where we marinate in the
juices of the celebrities.
So are you a fan of MeghanMarkle?
There's Meghan Markle news.

SPEAKER_01 (38:08):
Well, you you're not gonna you're not gonna like this
answer.
I actually am not good withcelebrity names at all.

SPEAKER_03 (38:13):
Well, so she just came out with a candle.

SPEAKER_01 (38:15):
Who is it?

SPEAKER_03 (38:15):
It's Meghan Markle.
She's married to Prince Harry.
Oh, okay, yeah, I can't.
Lindsay's arch narrative.
I know who you're talking aboutnow, Megan.

SPEAKER_02 (38:23):
Megan has no idea that she's in a feud with
Lindsay.

SPEAKER_03 (38:27):
Okay, she came out with a candle, an eight-ounce
candle.
You know how small theeight-ounce candles are?
$64 she's charging for a bloodycandle.
It's made out of leaves.
I have a whole backyard full ofleaves.
I need to start a side hustleand make candles.
And then she came out with asparkling wine.
$89 for a bloody sparkling wine.
She is.

SPEAKER_01 (38:45):
It's just like having dinner.
She's doing everything.
She's making music now.
Did you hear that song she justdid?

SPEAKER_03 (38:49):
Wait, oh that's Kendall Jenner.

SPEAKER_01 (38:52):
Oh, Kindle, whatever.
They're all the sparking.

SPEAKER_03 (38:53):
I have not heard that song.
How was it?
Kindle Jenner, maybe.
She may came up with a song.

SPEAKER_01 (38:56):
It's pathetic.

SPEAKER_03 (38:57):
Is it bad?
I've heard it's gotten such bad.
Is that singing, or is she likeI don't know what she's trying
to do?

SPEAKER_01 (39:02):
I don't know what she's trying to do.
I honestly don't.
Yeah, it's like somebody sent itto me.
Somebody sent it to me, andthey're like, anything with
Kindle Kindle Jenner, you gottalisten to it.
I was just like, listen, I'mlike, this is trash.

SPEAKER_02 (39:14):
I kind of want to listen to it just to see.
I actually like Kendall.
I think she's one of my favoriteones out of the book.
I really like her.
But I don't I don't think thatshe should be making it.

SPEAKER_03 (39:25):
You know whose song I really did like?
Remember back in the day, thiswas probably like ooh, 2011.
Paris Hilton came out with asong Stars Are Blind.
I love that song.
I was all about that.
And doesn't she DJ now?
She does.
And she's like a successful DJ.
Isn't she like the second mosthighest the second highest paid
DJ?

SPEAKER_01 (39:42):
Really?

SPEAKER_03 (39:43):
I think she's up there and like one of the top
paid DJs.

SPEAKER_01 (39:45):
I love I love going to Raves.
And it's not even really, it'sjust like the people are cool
there.
There's a lot of people on drugsfor sure, but like the exposure,
like the people are super nice,and you see a lot of unique
people.
I like that.
You do see a lot of people.
Because I'm I feel like I'munique.
I I know I'm unique actually.

SPEAKER_02 (40:00):
Do you want a rave girl?
Like, is that your I want awholesome woman?
So so if you met someone thatwasn't a raver, would you stop
going to Raves then?

SPEAKER_01 (40:11):
I would.
You would?
Yeah, hell yeah.
Because that's like that's to agirl who doesn't rave, that's
like a huge red flag.
But like I'm also single.
I'm not out hooking up withgirls at Raves.
Like, I'm literally going forthe music and just to have fun
and socialize.
Like that's it.

SPEAKER_03 (40:27):
Where do you take a girl on a first date?

SPEAKER_01 (40:29):
Ocean 44.

SPEAKER_03 (40:30):
Do you really?

SPEAKER_01 (40:31):
Yeah, I love Ocean 44.
Uh I mean, actually, I don'tknow.
I'm a huge foodie, so Ishouldn't say that.
Um I pick all the big, all thegood restaurants.
It depends on the girl.

SPEAKER_03 (40:40):
What's your favorite restaurant?

SPEAKER_01 (40:42):
Uh different point of view up north.

SPEAKER_03 (40:43):
Oh, I've never been there.
No, it's in the hotel.

SPEAKER_01 (40:47):
It's in a hotel on the cliffs, overseeing the whole
city.

SPEAKER_03 (40:50):
It's like almost at the top that spins around.

SPEAKER_01 (40:53):
No, no, that's it.
No, that's the compass indowntown Phoenix.
This is up north, like in themountains.

SPEAKER_03 (40:58):
Oh, oh nice.

SPEAKER_01 (40:59):
Yeah, it's really nice.

SPEAKER_03 (41:02):
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(41:22):
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Have you heard that line before?

SPEAKER_01 (41:25):
Oh, this is so perfect because it just
happened.

SPEAKER_03 (41:28):
What?
What is the question?

SPEAKER_01 (41:30):
Uh tell us about the best sex that you ever had in
your life.

SPEAKER_03 (41:32):
Ooh, it just happened?

SPEAKER_01 (41:33):
Uh uh, yeah, like the begin the end of July and
beginning of August.

SPEAKER_03 (41:37):
Someone you knew?

SPEAKER_01 (41:38):
Got to know.

SPEAKER_03 (41:40):
In the bedroom.
So where did you meet?

SPEAKER_01 (41:43):
Uh actually, it's a funny story.
We we met online like a a yearor two ago.
That's what I'm saying.
The girls out here, it's likeyou meet them, you match them,
and then they they make youchase for as long as they
possibly can until you eitherstop or you get it, you know?
And then when you get it, theygive up.
It's so dumb.

SPEAKER_03 (42:02):
So was this a so did you have sex on the first night?

SPEAKER_01 (42:04):
No, I never do.
I'm actually a guy that doesn'tdo that.

SPEAKER_03 (42:07):
Oh wow.
Why?
What do you see your logic?

SPEAKER_01 (42:10):
And I disrespect women way more than that.
I actually got called out forasking a girl to kiss me, which
I'll never do that again either.
That was recently.

SPEAKER_03 (42:18):
So on the first day you asked her to kiss you.
You asked if you could kiss her.

SPEAKER_01 (42:23):
Yeah, it was just like I didn't really know her,
you know, and like we weren'treally on a date.
It was more like she was at workand I ended up going to where
she worked at.
Like, it this happened to workout like that.
Um, because I was back home inSt.
Louis.
And so, yeah, I this went downto watch UFC fights, and she was
like the marketing girl of thislike giant bar in downtown St.

(42:44):
Louis, and sh and we weretalking, and I was like, Yeah,
I'm here at FanDuel, dah da dada.
She's like, Oh, I'm themarketing person.
She came down, we talked forlike five to ten minutes, and
then like in when you'reanywhere in downtown, you
typically have to park and walk,right?
Because it's there's someone theparking's awful.
So I I parked like 10-15 minutesfrom where I was at, walk down.
Afterwards, at the end of thenight, she was you know, she's

(43:05):
like, Hey, you know, I couldgive you a ride.
I work here, so I'm got righthere.
I'm like, Yeah, cool, noworries.
Get to the truck.
I was just gonna say goodbye.
She's like, Is that it?
Like, you know, I have a place15 minutes down the way, it's
got a private balcony, you know,da da da.
I was like, Yeah, sure, likewhatever, let's go, you know.
And so I end up going overthere.
And like we were just like, itwas just a really a friendly

(43:26):
conversation, like the wholenight.
So it was kind of like I didn'treally know which way it was
going.
And I just like I said, I have alot of respect for women because
I have a daughter, and so like Ithink of a lot of situations as
if I was my daughter, if that'skind of you know, it's kind of
weird, but I just I think aboutthat, and so like I wouldn't
want someone to invade my in mydaughter's space if she wasn't
ready for it or it was too quickor something, you know.

(43:47):
But it was also like an intimatemoment where it was like we were
kind of getting there, and I waslike, Can I kiss you right now?
She's like, Yeah, of course.
But then like two days later,she that was a red flag.
She she literally told me, she'slike, Richard, this isn't Love
Island, this is not Love Island.
You don't ask me for a kiss.
I was like, Are you kidding me?
I mean seriously, yeah.
And she's like, she's big onTikTok too.
She's actually like kind of bigon TikTok.

SPEAKER_02 (44:08):
She probably felt that by inviting you over to her
place, that was she was also madthat I didn't have sex with her
the first night.

SPEAKER_01 (44:15):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (44:16):
Yeah, that was probably she was probably like,
I invited him to my place.
He should have known what timeit what time it was.

SPEAKER_01 (44:21):
Well, then she should have said something if
she wanted it like that.
I'm an open guy, talk to me.
What the hell?
I love conversations.

SPEAKER_03 (44:26):
Open for business.

SPEAKER_01 (44:27):
Not not no, not like that.
But like, even the first nightthough, I would have I already
told her, like, even whenevershe asked me to come over, I
told her, I'm like, I'm nothooking up with you.
I'm not like that.
But like, you want to meet uptomorrow, you know?
Like, because it's gotta bechemistry.
Like, I can't just hook up withsomeone so weird like that, you
know.
Like, I want to see, I want tofeel the chemistry.
I'm not gonna get that.

SPEAKER_03 (44:45):
So, this this the best sex was that this girl or a
different girl?

SPEAKER_01 (44:48):
No, that girl was good though.
Yeah, so she was like she wasn'tshe's she called her, she called
me Christian Gray.
So I was like, okay, that's whatI was saying.

SPEAKER_02 (44:56):
She couldn't have been that mad at you then.

SPEAKER_01 (44:57):
No, she texted me the next day and and she like
the next morning whenever Ileft, you know.
And and because I was stayingthe night there and then taking
care of my grandma because mygrandma just had a heart attack
at the time.
And like there's just no room atmy grandma's house.
So I was like staying there, itwas close by.
She was letting me use her car.
I just met this girl.
She gave me her car key, she letme stay with her.
Wow, and and then picked me upfrom the airport.
I stayed there for like, I wassupposed to stay there five

(45:18):
days, but she kicked me out onday three.

SPEAKER_03 (45:20):
That's hilarious.

SPEAKER_01 (45:21):
But and I don't like for no reason.
Like, I don't know.
She this, yeah, she just told methat she couldn't see long term,
and like we live in differentstates, and she was getting, you
know, she she really liked.
She actually told me I was onein a million.
I was like, okay, okay, girlwith a big TikTok following.
Not that it really matters, butit's funny.
Uh no, so this girl, I was uh Iactually matched with her a long

(45:43):
time ago.
Very, very attractive girl.
Uh I was at Maya.
I if I go to Scottsdale, Ieither go to Boondocks or Maya
Day Club.
That's I don't go to any otherclub.
I can't do the shoulder toshoulder stuff, you know.
Like I'm a person that likes toconversate, you know, so like I
want to be where I can talk oryou know, have some sort of
conversation.
And so I was at Maya.

(46:04):
I like to go there during thesummertime, show my tattoos, you
know, like enjoy it myself.
And this girl came up to me.
I was at the bar and sherecognized my tattoo from like
when we matched up a coupleyears ago.
And so she came up and tapped meon the shoulder and she's like,
I remember your tattoo, youknow.
And I was like, looked to turnaround, I was like, no shot.
And she was like, Come with me.
And like, so we hung out.
And yeah, even that night, no,we didn't I didn't hook up with

(46:26):
her the first night.
You know, it's a couple dayslater.
But she was, dude, I beat herass in bed, like literally.
She wanted it like that.
Like slapping.
Really?

SPEAKER_03 (46:35):
I've never like like whips! No, like oh wow, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 (46:40):
It was a three-timer before I stopped, dude.
I couldn't do it no more.
I was like, okay, now yeah.
The last girl I didn't hitcalled me Christian Grey.
This would have me beater, thenext would have been beater, you
know.

SPEAKER_03 (46:51):
So why didn't it work out with her?
Was there a second date or no,hell no?

SPEAKER_01 (46:54):
I left her in California, actually.
Yeah, I took her to Californiaand I left her there.

SPEAKER_02 (46:58):
Why?
Wait, what?

SPEAKER_01 (47:00):
Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 (47:00):
On this last trip that you did?

SPEAKER_01 (47:02):
Uh not this one.
Uh the first week of August.
We I I yeah, I went to SplashHouse.

SPEAKER_03 (47:07):
So what did she do?

SPEAKER_01 (47:08):
Um, well, so like I took so Splash House was
supposed to be like me and fourof my friends.
So I paid for everything, andthen two of my friends bailed
like the day before.
So like I had to find somebody.
And so, like, you know, like meand her were hooking up at the
time, and I was like, hey, youknow, like you want to come?
You know, she's like, Yeah.
We ended up going.
Uh, I had another ticket that Icouldn't get rid of, and so she

(47:29):
invited one of her friends.
I had one of my friends who didcome, so we're thinking, you
know, like have a good time, youknow.
Come to find out, she's she'slike, Oh yeah, they like my
friend's coming with her gayfriend, da da da.
This and that.
Dude wasn't gay.
She shows up, yeah.
They show up in the hotel room,dude and girls making out.
I'm like, See, I'm like, yo, I'mlike, I thought you were gay.
Are you bi?
He's like, No, I'm like, oh, I'mlike, these girls just played

(47:50):
me, like straight up played mefor the tickets.

SPEAKER_02 (47:53):
So you didn't have your other friend come.

SPEAKER_01 (47:56):
I had one friend come with me.
Okay.
The main one that I made theoriginal plans with.
Two other friends, they saidthat they would come if I bought
their tickets.
They lived in LA.

SPEAKER_02 (48:04):
Okay.

SPEAKER_01 (48:04):
So, like, we were all gonna meet for my birthday
because my birthday is August12th.

SPEAKER_02 (48:07):
Okay.

SPEAKER_01 (48:08):
And so, like, we were going to see Diplo at the
airport and Palm Springs atSplash House.
It was a whole time.

SPEAKER_03 (48:13):
So she literally bought another dude who she was.

SPEAKER_01 (48:16):
The other girl, not the girl that I brought.
Okay.
Her friend brought another guythat they're gonna get away.
Yeah, it's like the guy bought aticket for himself, but then but
then I gave my fourth ticket toher friend because she said she
was single, attractive, comingwith a gay friend.
I'm thinking maybe I'll hook upmy friend if they hit it off
type shit.

SPEAKER_03 (48:33):
Yeah, oh that's fucked up.

SPEAKER_01 (48:34):
Yeah, and so when they get there, dude, and that
girl's making out, and I'm justlike, are you bi, bro?
And he's like, No.
And I was like, like,something's not right.
And I'm like, I'm like, she'slike, oh ha ha.
Like thought it was funny, youknow.
I'm like, dude, those ticketsare 600 bucks a piece, you know?
Like, and so, like, uh, it justgot worse because, you know,
like I I was enjoying myself.

(48:54):
She went to the like it startedlike day one.
Like, the girl got there and Iwas just like a third wheel
almost, you know what I mean?
It was just like it ruined, itruined it all.
And then she was getting sosloppy, she started hanging all
over dudes, like on yeah, onSaturday night, like we she
wanted to go to the after partyafter the party.
Scott still girls.

(49:16):
I'm like, you know, like I'mready to go to bed, it's 3 30,
you know.
Like I've been going for twodays, not two days straight, but
like partying for two days now.
You know, I don't really dothat.
I'm not really someone to goparty like that.
I'm I'm a homebody a lot.
I do a lot of stuff, but I likeI'm typically when I'm in
Phoenix, I'm a homebody.
A daughter work and home.
Like, I you'll catch me onboondocks on Thursdays and

(49:36):
Sundays typically, you know.
Um But yeah, no, like so.
We went to the after party andthen I watched her walk out.
I I looked over and she was inthe crowd wrapped up around this
dude's arm, and I was just likein shock.
I'm like, no way, dude.
Like, so I let it all happenbecause I'm not like gonna call
this drama.
I'm the I'm like not a dramaperson at all.
Like this in one ear, out theother.

(49:57):
So I just watched it happen,watched her leave.
I went outside like after fiveminutes, and she's sitting there
talking to the guy, and I walkup and I was like, What's up,
bro?
You know, introduce myself, andand uh she's like, Oh yeah, this
is my friend.
Like, we I we've known eachother for two years, da da da
da.
I'm gonna go to his after partyand this and that.
Like, I was like, Okay, cool,you know, whatever.
Can you give me the room keythen?
Because she had it because shewas carrying the purse, you

(50:19):
know.
And so she's like, Yeah, andthen like dude was kind of like
telling her no, and she was likechasing him around like a puppy
dog.
It was crazy.
I've never seen that, but like,dude's like, I think you should
just stay with your friends.
Like, I'm gonna go with myfriends, like our Uber's kind of
full, you know.
And like she just wasn't havingit.
And so then she came back andshe's like, you know, I didn't
get to go because of you.
And I was like, I was like,what?

(50:41):
Like, are you kidding me rightnow?
And she was like, Yeah, she'slike, Because I'm with you, he
didn't want me to come with you.
I'm like, Well, you shouldn't begoing with him anyway.
If you want me to be honest,like I brought you here, and
she's like, Oh, you just thinkthat I'm gonna be your fuck
buddy the whole weekend thatyou're here.
I'm like, not really, that's notmy intention, but we were
hooking up before, you know,like this is my birthday
weekend.
You're trying to go home withanother dude that I brought you

(51:01):
and your friend a ticket.
Like, so it just startedescalating and getting worse.
Like, like as we were walkingback to the hotel, you know, and
I was like, you know what?
I was like, You you brought yourfriends, I paid for the ticket,
you guys enjoy Sunday.
Go get a room, get out of myroom.
And so she's like, You're reallygonna kick a girl out of the out
of her room and leave her inCalifornia.
I was like, Yeah, I'm like, theway you've done me, I'm like,

(51:23):
Yeah, you showed your true self.
Like, I don't fuck with peoplelike that.
You know, I live by things Ilive by the things in life, and
it's honesty, loyalty, respect,and communication.
If you're honest to me, you'reloyal to me, you respect me, you
communicate with me.
The only last thing in the worldis building the bridge.
So, like, if you can do those,you don't cross those umbrellas
with me, then we'll always havea relationship.
Whether it's uh spouse, friend,acquaintance, whatever, like

(51:45):
those four things are like Ilive by that, you know.

SPEAKER_03 (51:48):
So so what happened?
So did you did you drive therewith her?

SPEAKER_01 (51:51):
Yeah, I took her.

SPEAKER_03 (51:52):
And so how did she get home?
Did you speak to her?

SPEAKER_01 (51:54):
I mean, I would assume because her friend came
from California and she probablywent with her.
I mean, and that was probablyanother reason why I did it, you
know.

SPEAKER_03 (51:59):
Yeah, that's true.

SPEAKER_01 (52:00):
It kind of would have been You wouldn't have
completely stranded her.
Probably not.
And like she made me feelguilty, like, oh, how are you
gonna kick your girl in thehotel room?
You know, like you brought mehere, and I'm just like, you're
disrespecting me in the mostrudest way.

SPEAKER_02 (52:12):
Like, like how are you gonna try to go home with
another guy when a guy at 4 30in the morning?

SPEAKER_01 (52:18):
Yeah, like and and not only that, it was just like
it was just weird.
Like, we were like, I was in thepool, she went to the bathroom,
and she had my phone andeverything in her bag because
like she had the bag at thetime, so she's like, Hey, I'm
gonna go to the bathroom.
I'm like floating around in aball in the pool, you know, just
talking.
People are compliment.
I always get compliments on myback, like it's it's beautiful,
you know.
I know that.

(52:38):
And so, like, these girls werethis talking, just giving me
conversation, and she came backand seen me talking to these
other girls in the pool and lostit.
And like, the but the whole timeon the way there, she's like,
We're not together, we're notdating, you know.
Like, she's like, I know thatI'm with you this weekend, da da
da, we'll have a good time, thisand that.
And it was complete opposite.
Like, she was just it was adisaster, yeah.

(52:59):
Like that, and so I I made herleave, and then her friends were
all they were all fucked up, andthey're like, Are you gonna make
us leave too?
And I'm like, Well, it's kind ofrude if you just leave your
friend outside, you know.
Like, I had to like walk themout too.
They didn't want to go, they'relike, That's her part.
They knew that she was in thewrong, they even agreed with me.
They're like, Yeah, they'relike, What you're doing is
wrong.
Like, this guy literally,whether you guys are together or
not, he brought you here.
You should give him thatrespect.

(53:20):
What even if we didn't hook upthe whole weekend, all I wanted
was the respect.
Yeah, like I don't care aboutthe hooking up part.

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Do you have any other questions?
Do you have anything else youwant to add?

SPEAKER_01 (53:30):
Um, I don't think so.

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(53:54):
Thank you, guys.
Oh my god, I just totally gotcatfished.
He looks absolutely nothing likehis picture.

SPEAKER_02 (54:00):
So I found out the guy that I've been dating is
married with kids.
His wife just reached out to me.