October 1, 2025 • 38 mins
Dating isn’t broken; we just keep swiping wrong.
Dan from Capital Fit joins us to spill why chemistry fades but compatibility sticks. From breathwork and boundaries to glucose monitors and ghosting, he shows how health, wealth, and clear intent flip dating from chaotic to connected.
We dive into attachment styles, wild Reddit “compliments,” and the messy real-life stuff—like blending families, clashing diets, and extroverts who network nonstop. Dan keeps it real (and hilarious) while proving that better energy = better dates, better conversations, and yes… better intimacy.
🎧 Tune in, laugh along, and maybe rethink your dating filters before that next swipe.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.
He looks absolutely nothing likehis picture.
So I found out the guy that I'vebeen dating is married with
kids.
His wife just reached out to me.
SPEAKER_01 (00:15):
Welcome to the meat market.
The single scene is aslaughterhouse, and we are here
to devour it.
We are your hosts.
I'm Lindsay.
I'm Jess.
And today's sizzling single isDan.
Dan the man.
Welcome.
SPEAKER_02 (00:25):
Oh my gosh.
Well, thank you.
It's great to be on your show.
I'm very surprised and uh it's apleasure to be here.
SPEAKER_01 (00:30):
So you do very well for yourself.
Have you ever been approached bya sugar baby?
Have you ever been a sugardaddy?
SPEAKER_02 (00:36):
I have I been a su okay.
So you asked me two questions.
SPEAKER_01 (00:39):
Have I been so a sugar baby has a sugar daddy.
Have you ever been asked to be asugar daddy?
SPEAKER_02 (00:45):
I have.
Yes.
SPEAKER_01 (00:47):
Did you accept the proposition?
SPEAKER_02 (00:48):
Uh no.
SPEAKER_01 (00:49):
No.
So how do women ask you?
SPEAKER_02 (00:51):
Because it's typically someone who's younger,
and I am uh attracted to my ageor even older.
SPEAKER_01 (00:57):
Wow, such a unicorn, such an anomaly.
Most men we have on here, theywant to go younger, way younger.
So that's good to hear.
SPEAKER_02 (01:04):
I I liked, you know, I mean that you gotta be
connected with the you knowgeneration that you were you
grew up in and you havecommonalities.
It's physical is great, but Ithink in the in the end, it's
gonna be how you connect and uhyour maturity levels and
interests and intelligence.
Not that younger is notintelligent, but I don't know.
It's just um It's kind of true.
SPEAKER_01 (01:22):
What do you talk about?
With if you're dating someonewho's 20.
SPEAKER_02 (01:25):
Like, yeah, I have a friend who is a doctor, and I
saw him at Dominic's steakhousethe night before I saw him at um
another steakhouse.
Different woman each time.
Yeah.
Um Ocean Ocean Club.
And uh both nights he hadblondes who were 20 years
younger.
And he called me up and said,Hey, could you come on over and
say, Hey, I'm at the end of theevening, the dinner, and and
(01:47):
meaning it wasn't quite hewasn't quite connecting.
SPEAKER_00 (01:49):
He needed an out.
SPEAKER_02 (01:51):
He needed an out, and it's kind of a pattern he's
had, and and then uh you know,he'd walk her back to the valet
and send her home or whatever toUber, and and I'd like, how did
it go?
He's like, how like and he wouldtell me, and then he'd just uh
I'm like, You're I think you'refishing in the wrong pond, my
friend.
You know, he's 64, he's datinglike 40-ish and uh successful
doc, but I don't I think he's inhis mind has what is uh is is
(02:15):
right for him, but it's not,right?
SPEAKER_01 (02:17):
Well if it hasn't been working in the past, if it
has a pattern of not working,maybe he should try something
different, try going a few yearsolder.
SPEAKER_02 (02:23):
Well, but that's a tough question to ask in the
opening question of our showhere.
SPEAKER_03 (02:26):
I mean we want to start in the thick of it.
Dirty.
SPEAKER_02 (02:31):
Exactly.
Well, I mean, you know, so Imean, there is um another
podcast.
Have you heard uh the Tales of aSugar Daddy from my studio?
Yeah, and he's he's a sugardaddy guy, and he's uh talks
about a lot of you know interinteresting stories on the show.
It's uh but I I know I just findthat it's kind of shallow if
you're focused on that and theysee you as just uh an out, you
(02:54):
gotta make sure you you resonatewith the right person at the
right time.
SPEAKER_00 (02:56):
And so you want to be able to share experiences
right with the person thatyou're with and rather than just
be the cash cow, right?
Right.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (03:05):
So you have a successful podcast.
What is your podcast called?
SPEAKER_02 (03:08):
My podcast is called Capital Fit.
It's uh it deals with uh yourwealth and your health and and
innovation and collaboration.
I've been in the startup worldfor the last seven years in
private equity, mostly medicaldevices.
So I've had a lot of experiencenow helping companies raise
capital, raise money, uh findthe right uh you know, C-suite
(03:29):
folks, and and be an advisor anda consultant to that company.
And uh in the in the um processof doing that, I've gotten
really healthy.
I've learned so much aboutmyself, health, wealth.
We're talking about sound bathsand meditation, breath work, you
know, learning Joe Dispenza andand uh so many of the great uh
(03:50):
podcast hosts, and even sort ofInstagram reels.
I think once you're in like themode of um of healing and and
wellness and health, I thinkInstagram and Facebook send you
reels that sort of resonate withyou.
Oh my gosh, they must know whatwe're talking about or even what
we're saying.
And so there's been thiselevation of knowledge and just
talking to practitioners,naturopath doctors, you know,
(04:12):
cardiologists who used to be inbig um like Mayo, and now they
have their own practice as aconcierge doc.
And why did you do that?
So there's a lot, there's a bigmove and a transformation, I
think, and an awakening ofknowledge of what's right our
food, and of course, what'sgoing on with metabolic health
and glucose and their foodsystem and all that.
I think there's an awakening ofall that.
(04:33):
So I've been to thisintersection of helping
companies, but at the same timelearning about what's right for
Dan.
I feel like I've never feltbetter and you know, been more
grounded and articulate.
Podcasts helped great too, bythe way, to gotta stay sit there
and stay focused for an hour.
And it's really kind of a talentand that you have to, you know,
work on.
And um, so it's been a lot offun to my to have all these
(04:56):
guests, 92 guests, including mydaughter, episode number 43.
Uh she graduated um MagnaCumalaudi from ASU pre-med.
But last year she was on my showto talk about balance, work
life, fun, school.
She was an intern at a at a at auh uh physician's assistant's
office, and she just is the mostrounded 23-year-old you've ever
(05:17):
met.
SPEAKER_01 (05:18):
How many kids do you have?
SPEAKER_02 (05:19):
Three kids.
Yeah, my daughter, my youngestEmma, was on my podcast, and
then my oldest Lauren is uh andmy son's in the middle, and they
all live at downtown Phoenix inthe high rises, and um my son is
building tiny homes in Goodyear,and my oldest is helping people
with their life insurance needs.
SPEAKER_03 (05:35):
Oh nice.
SPEAKER_02 (05:36):
She's the closer.
SPEAKER_03 (05:38):
Very nice.
SPEAKER_02 (05:39):
Listening to me talk to clients for for 28 years as a
financial advisor, she picked upon it.
SPEAKER_01 (05:44):
So you were married before?
SPEAKER_02 (05:45):
I was married before, mm-hmm.
Yes.
SPEAKER_01 (05:46):
And how long have you been divorced for?
Has it been a while?
SPEAKER_02 (05:49):
It's been a while, yeah.
Over uh over what 14 years orso.
SPEAKER_01 (05:53):
And how's dating been since?
Are you on the dating apps?
SPEAKER_02 (05:55):
I I am not.
I I wasn't I well, you know, I Iuh ran into a relationship coach
in 2010, 11, who just finished,you know, had my divorce
finalized, and she shows up atan event and says, uh, you'd be
great, uh a great client of minebecause you really need to learn
about the law of attraction.
And she kind of sensed I waskind of down, right?
(06:17):
And of course, 2008-9 wasn'treally great for a lot of folks,
and there was a transition in myfinancial planning business, and
I just opened my new office,signed a five-year lease, and I
hired two people right at thetime.
So I got through it, but uh sheshe kind of helped me change my
mindset to to projectattractiveness and and
positivity to attract thosekinds of people in your life,
(06:38):
and she really kind of turned meon to that.
And then Mark Hyman, Dr.
Hyman, I was like 20 poundsoverweight, depressed, and I
found uh I don't know where hefound him, but uh I followed his
broth diet and for two weeks didthat and lost weight and
started, you know, um just justgetting healthy again, right?
And then it just kind of evolvedfrom there, and then I met
through her network of ladiesthat she had uh and uh
(07:00):
candidates that she thoughtwould be a good fit for me, and
found one that was a great fit.
And uh after dating probably 10,12, and they were all curated
and a great way to go forpeople, by the way.
The dating apps I find, youknow, you find you know, folks
that are just kind of on thesurface and they kind of
pretend, and it's just you'retrying to find them rather than
the universe kind of sendingthem to you.
(07:22):
I think there's really you gottabe patient, you gotta know what
you want, and then kind ofarticulate.
Um there's uh Mark Victor Hansenwrote a book.
He's the guy that chicken soupwith the soul here.
His book uh talked about when hefound his wife Crystal, uh very
uh uh wise gentleman andarticulate and speaker and book
writer.
(07:42):
And he says uh the book that waswritten by uh Mitzi Purdue wrote
a book about him, the Purduefamily, and um and wrote about
his life.
And in there was an article or achapter about how he found
Crystal.
He was very intentional, wrotedown 250 characteristics of what
he's what his perfect matchwould be.
(08:02):
He did.
Two weeks later, he's speaking,he's out there, he sees a you
know, beautiful looking womanout of the audience, and sure
enough, uh a week he veteran ofa VIP event, and then that's the
rest of the story.
SPEAKER_00 (08:13):
And did she have all 250 things on his checklist?
Like how what is on that list?
Is that the same thing?
SPEAKER_02 (08:20):
It was a long list.
SPEAKER_00 (08:21):
So Do you have a list?
Do you have a checklist?
SPEAKER_02 (08:23):
You know, I I do, and I it kinda it's in my head,
but I've written it down.
But you just kind of know rightwhen you meet with people.
And so what are you looking for?
SPEAKER_01 (08:33):
Describe an ideal part.
SPEAKER_02 (08:35):
Well, I think a someone you connect with, I
think that you know instantlywhen you connect with somebody.
It's just it's just it has to beit has to be forced, and you
there's a a a resonance, there'sa a you know, some some
chemistry, of course, isattractiveness, and and then it
kind of builds from there.
And then and then you just youknow, you try to you know
(08:55):
present your authentic self andnot pretend, and and uh but so
many folks pretend and and sothat's the hard part and of
trying to find the right personbecause they have in their mind
what they think is the right guyand and sometimes you don't
check the boxes and and so dealbreakers.
Deal breakers is um oh I thinkdeal breakers would be um in
(09:20):
terms of smoking.
Yeah, I say smoking for sure.
Like smoking, um not having youknow spiritual side of them or
practice some kind of of um youknow practice there.
Like self self-improvement.
Yes, yes.
Yes, and that they're just kindof looking for someone to sort
of fill their void.
(09:41):
And you kind of get a sense ofthat when you first meet.
But uh you know, yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (09:46):
So you have you don't want any more kids and
you've been snipped, but you'vehad multiple women try to get
you to reverse that, right?
SPEAKER_02 (09:54):
I've had uh a couple, yes.
SPEAKER_01 (09:56):
And were you like, hell no?
Or were you slightly on thefence?
SPEAKER_02 (09:59):
No, there was one, um, yes.
I I thought about it, and thenmy buddy had just gotten
reversal and he had a baby boy,and this was twelve years ago.
And I've always had lots ofenergy, so I thought, you know,
what the heck?
And um so I but I just didn't Ijust in the end didn't go there,
and that really impacted therelationship because that's what
(10:20):
she really wanted, and it justit didn't uh kind of survive
that.
Does she have kids now?
She has she had one child hasone child, yes.
Uh-huh.
SPEAKER_00 (10:30):
I always see those funny videos of like it's like
what it would be like having akid at 40 or after 40, and it's
like the grandpa walking up tohigh school graduation or
kindergarten drop-off orwhatever.
It's just like, and then prettysoon you're the talk of the
school, and all the other momsand dads are talking about you
because you're the the old guyor the old lady.
SPEAKER_01 (10:53):
So a lot of people say, Oh, I'd never want to have
kids older because I don't havethe energy, but there's another
side to that in that when you'reyoung, you get to go out and
have fun, and when you become40, you want to stay in, right?
So why not have kids when you'restaying in, anyways?
You know?
Yeah.
You can stay in with the kids,then you're not missing out on
anything.
That is true.
I don't know.
Yeah, uh good and bads to eachone.
SPEAKER_02 (11:14):
Yeah, well, I've I've never wanted to be in
anyway.
I've just that's I guessanother, you know, a lot of uh
folks I've dated, like they seemy social media and you're
always out and you have a lot offriends, and you're very what do
they say, uh, you're anextrovert.
So a lot just want to be, youknow, nesting and at home and
and being together and cuddling.
I'm like, I like that.
(11:35):
Don't get me wrong.
SPEAKER_01 (11:36):
You always go in and blow in.
You always do something.
SPEAKER_02 (11:39):
I I and I say that in the sense because it's um
it's part of my business, it'spart of networking and meeting
people.
And yeah, how do you you're soconnected?
Well, because I put myself outthere, I make meaningful
connections, and then I developrelationships.
And then from there I'm able topull and just you know, and
activate people when when whenthis when the time is right.
And I'm putting on a uhorganizing a music uh a medical
(12:01):
innovators mastermind.
It'll be at the Schufeld Hangarup in Scale Air Park.
I'm gonna launch it in October,I think second or third, I'll
let you know.
But it's uh medical innovatorsbecause I love medicine.
I'm working with a company rightnow that'll that is in the
process of developing the firstnon-invasive glucose monitor
wearable.
(12:21):
So, and uh if it's most folksdon't know what their standing,
you know, resting glucose levelsare.
So again, it all goes back tohealth, which goes back to mind
health, which goes back tosexual health.
It all derives from what's yourglucose level.
Is it affecting yourmicrocirculation and affecting
you know all the things that uhmight uh you know either make uh
your relationship better orworse?
(12:42):
So if you get tuned into yourhealth, it just drives so much
more success uh when you're whenyou're there.
SPEAKER_01 (12:47):
So what have you been on many disaster dates?
Do you have any terrible datingstories?
SPEAKER_02 (12:52):
Disaster dates, yeah.
I mean uh catfished.
Well, I think when they show upand they want to talk about
prior relationships or you know,a date from last week, and
you're like, oh, do we reallyhave to do that?
SPEAKER_01 (13:05):
Like your current date won't be about your past
date.
SPEAKER_02 (13:08):
You know what I think it is?
It's they're operating on alevel of unconsciousness, right?
They're unconscious that they'reeven talking about it or
bringing it in because they'renot even aware of the whole law
of attraction.
And it's just I think peoplelike to talk about misery
sometimes and they get in thatmindset, and you know within
five, ten, two minutes if thisis gonna go well.
So he's like, oh my gosh, Igotta, you know, I'm gonna pay
(13:29):
for the mail because I'm liketypical, right?
And I gotta get through this,this uh, and then you have to
say politely and just not gonnawork, right?
SPEAKER_00 (13:37):
So or they haven't gotten over it yet.
They haven't gotten over it yet,correct.
And they want somebody to be ontheir side and to validate their
feelings and what don't do thatwith a date, do that with a
friend, right?
SPEAKER_02 (13:49):
I know, but you know, but they were probably
just talking about it on thephone before they walked up to
the restaurant with their withtheir best friend or their
therapist, and uh and I believein all that and to get it off
your chest and talk about it,it's very cathartic to do that,
but don't bring it into thedate.
But a lot of times they dobecause and so when you know,
there's so much advice I want togive.
I mean, it's it's great to talkabout what are the fun, you
(14:10):
know, bad, funny dates or thisdate.
And but for me, it's you know,to get on your show here.
I I want to talk about what youknow the kind of the foundation
of a good of a good experiencedating.
And uh, you know, it's just youthrough you throw out
boundaries, it's reallyimportant.
Guys don't get boundaries atall.
We go in with an intention of,you know, we're you know, they
(14:32):
want sex, and and so many womenjust say, hey, we want to be
friends first, I want to trustyou.
You know, and you should go inwith some um just boundaries,
but guys just don't think likethat.
And so when I approach so womenhave that preconceived notion
when they walk into a date, he'sgonna be like the last jerk I
just dated from Bumble Match, orI got set up two weeks ago,
right?
And so pretty quickly I kind ofkind of diffuse that and say,
(14:55):
you know, I was you gotta showup with respect, boundaries, and
then um, you know, you gottaknow who who you are and what
your attachment style is, right?
And and then the you know, thefive steps of a of a of a
relationship are prettyimportant to know too.
SPEAKER_00 (15:09):
So anxious attachment styles.
You're very anxious.
What are the other attachmentstyles?
Well, super.
Anxious attachment styles.
There's a anxious avoidant.
SPEAKER_02 (15:17):
There's there's anxious is avoidant.
That's there's secure.
SPEAKER_01 (15:20):
Okay.
What is the anxious attachmentstyle?
Because I'm a very anxiousperson.
I know.
SPEAKER_02 (15:24):
Yes, avoidant and disorganized.
SPEAKER_00 (15:27):
Okay.
I think the anxious is likeyou're all you're constantly
worried about are they gonnatext me?
What's going on?
Your mind is like, did I saysomething to messing?
Did I say something to messingwith?
SPEAKER_02 (15:38):
Yes, and then you're always psychoanalyzing your your
what you've done, and theypeople pick up on that.
And so, but you're gonna you'regonna attract that kind of
person, by the way.
SPEAKER_01 (15:47):
And you spiral and you spiral.
I was like that dating, but whenI met my husband, it was
completely different.
Like I was not that way at all.
I called him if I wanted to, Itexted him, whatever.
I didn't give a flying frick,you know?
So and that's why I think itworks.
Yeah, because I wasn't stressingabout it.
You weren't like stressing it.
But why was I I questioned whywas I different with him?
Was it because I was just dumbdating?
I was like, ugh, I'm done.
(16:08):
I don't know.
I don't know.
Or maybe you you evolved.
Maybe I evolved, I grew up.
SPEAKER_02 (16:13):
Well, it is, it's about growing up and knowing
yourself and and being confidentin who you are, loving yourself.
You can't love someone elseunless you really love yourself.
All those cliche ish things areall absolutely true.
Because all your insecuritieswill come out in the
relationship and into and thenyou repeat the same pattern.
And so I saw a reel the otherday about the five steps of a
(16:37):
relationship, going from youknow, inf infatuation,
honeymoon, then adjustment,power struggle, right?
How many dates you don't getpast the power struggle?
Right?
And then you go back to the nextuh person with the same one too.
So you never move on.
Then you have stabilityacceptance, which is really
important to say this is who Ireally am, these are my issues,
(16:58):
or my you know, you finally meetthe kids, and one kid's not
quite, you know, not quitethere, and like, oh my gosh, am
I gonna live with this personnow with this particular child
that has issues?
And then you go then and you gostability and then commitment.
So the problem is, is um, youknow, I've been engaged twice
and uh they were both greatladies and still are, but it was
(17:19):
the blending of them and mychildren that really didn't
quite work.
And it's hard to go through thisbecause I got to the stability
commitment part and and and didI ask my kids, say, hey, what do
you think of so-and-so?
Do you think I should uh marryher, right?
And uh I never gave them thatyou know that that ability to
say yes or no.
I just said, hey, you know, Ijust this is happening.
(17:41):
This is happening, and it's andso I didn't and my you know, my
taught two daughters and I arereally close.
We don't see much a lot, but Ithink there's a little tension
still there of not having themget input.
SPEAKER_00 (17:53):
Yeah.
How long should the honeymoonstage last?
SPEAKER_02 (17:57):
Oh gosh.
SPEAKER_00 (17:58):
So what do you guys think?
SPEAKER_01 (17:59):
When they say the breaking point is three months.
If you can make it past thethree-month mark, you're good to
go.
But most relationships end atthe three-month mark.
Is that does that mean it'sthree months in the honeymoon?
The honeymoon stage is fine.
Then shit gets real and you'relike, peace.
Yeah, probably.
SPEAKER_02 (18:12):
I think three months is I I think it all depends on
the expectation you bring to theoriginal sort of conversation.
And because some will say, Iwant to have, you know, I want
to be intimate sooner than laterto make sure it works everything
works.
Okay.
Let's not waste our time.
SPEAKER_00 (18:30):
What did they say?
Test the why buy the cow whenyou can have the milk for free.
You gotta make sure the milk iswhere the milk's gonna start
before you buy the cow.
SPEAKER_02 (18:42):
And then, yeah, and then if you jump in too early,
you you're like, um, well gosh,are they jumping in early all
the time?
So how many partners you have?
So you got that in your head.
And then, but I like to say, youknow, let's just you know have
friends and and do dates, and Ilike the ones that say, Yes, I I
have a hard like if threemonths, then maybe, right?
If it's there, and then thenthen the honeymoon then starts
(19:03):
really starts, then kind of,right?
SPEAKER_00 (19:04):
Because that's true.
If you wait to be a sexuallyintimate, then your honeymoon
doesn't really start pushed backa little bit.
Yeah, that's true.
Yeah, that's true.
So are you ready for it?
I'm ready for it.
Oh gosh.
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(19:24):
We're gonna have a listenerquestion for you, Dan.
And for us too, we'll discuss.
Um, so this one says, My partnerrecently started a new diet.
I'm afraid that because they aregetting more healthy, they'll
expect me to be on the samediet.
If your partner starts a newdiet, are you automatically on
(19:46):
it too?
SPEAKER_01 (19:48):
Hmm.
That's a tough one.
Because I've I've heard ofcouples that like they're both
very social drinkers and onestops, the other doesn't, and
that creates major issues in therelationship.
Yes.
When one's sober and one's not,that can ruin the relationship.
But diet, I don't know.
SPEAKER_02 (20:04):
I think that's part of the diet though.
Because you usually quitdrinking because you want to be
clear, more focused, more nottired, not high high, high lows.
I I mean, I would that thatwould mean to me that the one
partner is uh kind of elevatinguh and growing than the other
person is.
SPEAKER_00 (20:21):
I think that's a whole component of just growth
and and I think it's hard fortwo people who are partners and
living together to be ondifferent diets.
It's true.
Like I look at my parentsgrowing up.
Like I remember like my momprimarily cooked dinner, right?
My dad would cook every once ina while when if she was gone or
whatever, but she primarilycooks.
(20:41):
So I remember when she went onWeight Watchers when we were in
high school, and it's like weall had to eat healthy, whether
we wanted to or not, which wenever really ate terribly as a
family, but it was just like,you know, she was to the point
where we were getting older, shewasn't gonna have more kids, she
wanted to have a healthierlifestyle, and so that was sort
(21:02):
of the fad thing to do backthen.
And so it was like by osmosis,we were all on the diet,
including my dad.
And I remember she would getfrustrated because my dad didn't
have to do anything except eatthe food that she made and he
lost the weight and she had towork so hard.
You know, she had to do theexercise in addition and all of
that kind of stuff.
SPEAKER_01 (21:22):
So I I do think it is you it's tough.
Like when we go out, we like toeat family style, get a few
things and share.
So you kind of have to be on thesame diet at that point.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And to be supportive of them.
You don't want to be eating aBig Mac in front of them if
they're not allowed.
That's kind of cruel.
SPEAKER_02 (21:37):
Yeah, I I think it's important to be in alignment.
Yeah, for sure.
So uh I would suggest thelistener to uh to consider, you
know, if it's not too if they'relike fasting all the time and
they're eating just you know uhvegetables and then they cut out
their meat because they thinkthat's safe, that would be kind
of extreme.
SPEAKER_00 (21:54):
So that might be yeah, that's the thing, as long
as it's not an extreme, somesort of extreme.
We're eating just fruits andveggies.
SPEAKER_01 (22:01):
Oh so we're gonna discuss another Reddit thread.
The question was confusingcompliments that you have
received, actual complimentspeople have received that have
confused them.
So like I remember one persononce said to me, You have really
nice big teeth.
Is that a compliment?
Have big teeth?
That's not a compliment, right?
I do I have big teeth?
SPEAKER_00 (22:24):
Maybe they found big teeth attractive.
I don't know.
Like, so so they're likebackhanded compliments.
Backhanded compliments, yeah.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (22:31):
Someone's like, you look like you read a lot.
SPEAKER_00 (22:34):
I mean, that does that mean that you look like a
nerd?
Yeah, yeah.
Because I read a lot.
I mean, I read every day, but Idon't feel like I look like I
read a lot.
I don't know.
What if someone who reads a lotof things?
SPEAKER_01 (22:44):
Exactly.
You have such asymmetrical ears.
So random.
You've had those?
These are yeah, actualcompliments that people have had
that just responded to thethread.
SPEAKER_02 (22:55):
Oh my gosh.
SPEAKER_01 (22:56):
Um, you remind me of my aunt, but in a hot way.
SPEAKER_02 (22:59):
Oh, okay.
SPEAKER_01 (23:00):
You act dumb, but you're really smart.
I know a lot of women that dothat.
Like Para Silton, remember howshe used to talk with that,
really?
SPEAKER_00 (23:07):
But she's come out and said, like, she's like, I
know when to play.
Stupid.
Which I guess is a smart thingto do, right?
Because Kim Kardashian, I think,does the same thing.
She does.
Like because she's intelligent.
Like if you look at the like,you know, her the business, just
the business side of her empire.
SPEAKER_01 (23:26):
Slam the Kardashians, but they do a
fantastic job of marketingthemselves.
I mean, what season are they onof the show?
Like, they're still going andthey do such a good job.
Look at Kylie Jenner's makeupbusiness, made her a
billionaire, Chloe's businesses.
Like, they know how to besuccessful.
Yeah.
Is that them or their mother?
Isn't Jenner?
Yeah, nobody works harder thanChris Jenner.
Right, yeah.
Um you this is funny.
You look like Post Malone.
(23:46):
Someone said this thread is forcompliments only.
But you know, have you did yousee him in that music video with
Taylor Swift where they took histattoos off?
He's actually really handsome.
Really?
It's just like did they coverthem with makeup or AI?
SPEAKER_02 (23:59):
But he's actually a good looking man.
So I'm I'm curious to uh findout how you felt when they gave
you those compliments.
Did you feel like it was did youfeel like it was backhanded?
How did you feel about it?
SPEAKER_01 (24:12):
I was confused.
I was like trying to think likewhat like what?
SPEAKER_00 (24:15):
Because I was just confused.
You you told me something thatsomeone a compliment.
I don't know if it was acompliment, but about talking
with your hands a lot.
SPEAKER_02 (24:25):
Yes.
They felt that was kind offlamboyant and uh not
heterosexual.
It's like their friends, Ithink, comment because they saw
me on my I'll do like littlereels after the podcast, they
kind of promote it and uh and Iyeah, we I talk with my hands,
and and she she probably justlike a European thing, like a
(24:45):
lot of Europeans do that.
Well, I don't know if you I meanI'm from Irish, French, and you
know, England, but still, but Ihave to agree because it's very
distracting.
And I was in Toastmasters for along, long time.
And you learn to put your handson the lectern or just in front
of you and talk, and you watchTED talk and they're doing this,
it is distracting.
SPEAKER_01 (25:04):
So I appreciate the feedback, but but at the same
time, I think it's when you'restanding there like this, that's
distracting to me.
SPEAKER_02 (25:11):
Well, true, yeah.
But it was just probably toomuch, and it was I don't know if
it was a joke or but it waslike, okay, I should probably
take the advice because ifthat's their feedback, and their
friends were saying, Hey, is he,you know, he's like too clean
cut and he's got his handsalways going.
Is he really like like girls orwomen?
I'm like, I yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (25:31):
Some other compliments people have
received.
You have nice ankles, you have ahuge head, but it's not ugly.
It looks nice.
I guess you can have a hugehead, but a good looking head.
You have the face that I canmake on Sims.
Uh you look so German.
That to me is not a compliment.
Because aren't don't Germanslook very severe and very angry
all the time?
SPEAKER_02 (25:50):
You're intense.
SPEAKER_01 (25:53):
Don't they always seem so like intense?
Oh no.
You're the way that you the waythat you do the German
impression.
Yeah.
You're the perfect amount ofmuscles covered in fat.
unknown (26:07):
Oh.
SPEAKER_00 (26:08):
You know what's funny?
SPEAKER_01 (26:09):
One of my friends actually one time said to me,
You're skinny, but you're skinnyfat.
Skinny fat.
SPEAKER_00 (26:14):
So what is that?
SPEAKER_01 (26:15):
Like you're skinny, but you still have flab, like
you don't work out.
SPEAKER_00 (26:17):
Yeah, like you're you're skinny, but you can tell
that you're not fit.
Like that you're not physicallyfit.
SPEAKER_01 (26:22):
And I was I actually was offended with that.
SPEAKER_00 (26:24):
Mom is a rude that is something.
She was my best friend at thetime.
SPEAKER_01 (26:28):
Whatever.
Um, so this is weird.
My gynecologist told me I had avery pretty cervex.
That's kind of weird, isn't it?
SPEAKER_00 (26:37):
I I think I'd be looking for a different
gynecologist.
SPEAKER_02 (26:41):
That's a boundary issue.
SPEAKER_00 (26:43):
Because one, you're in a very vulnerable position,
and then you've got someone downthere commenting on your cervix.
She's hitting on you via yourcervix.
SPEAKER_01 (26:53):
There's a couple of doctor ones.
I had a colonoscopy and had todo an enema before the
procedure, and the doctormid-procedure asked me if I did
the enema myself because shesaid it was one of the best
she's ever seen.
SPEAKER_02 (27:06):
Well, and people do coffee enemas.
I I dated a gal that did that,so she wanted it cleans out
because I guess it pulls outyour toxins too, right?
SPEAKER_01 (27:15):
I've heard that's really good for you.
SPEAKER_02 (27:16):
But I didn't know about that.
It was like five years ago.
I'm like, you're doing what?
Well, now I know.
That's that's a thing, right?
SPEAKER_01 (27:21):
Yeah, because stuff can never hear of that.
Stuff can stick up there andstay there for for years.
Yes.
So it pulls it all out.
Yeah.
Yeah.
My dentist keeps commenting onhow strong my tongue is.
Again, like that's kind ofweird.
SPEAKER_00 (27:35):
Isn't it a male dentist commenting on a female's
tongue?
I feel like that's boredom.
SPEAKER_02 (27:41):
Pretty much.
That's almost like an imitation.
Hey, let's go see.
I think he's kind of baiting howyou see how strong it really is.
SPEAKER_01 (27:48):
Yeah, you want me to show you?
You're the only person I knowwho looks better with your
glasses on.
Someone said that to me before,and I took that as an insult.
Like, okay, so like my face isugly and the glasses cover him
up, you know?
That's kind of a meancompliment.
Um, you look like you this ishilarious.
You look like you're going tosmell bad, but you don't.
(28:08):
You smell amazing.
SPEAKER_02 (28:10):
That is crazy.
That's a real I can't believethat.
SPEAKER_01 (28:14):
Um, I was peeing at the airport and the guy next to
me said, nice flow.
Oh god.
Oh my god.
SPEAKER_00 (28:20):
That's hilarious.
I actually had no way.
That reminds me I had someonecompliment.
Well, I don't know if it was acompliment, but it was it was
similar.
It I shouldn't even say this onehere because it's so
inappropriate.
SPEAKER_01 (28:33):
Say it.
Um you have to because not funenough.
SPEAKER_00 (28:36):
So I was I was peeing, I was going to the
bathroom, and it was, I was at afriend's house, right?
And so like the door was notclosed totally all the way.
And he was, it was a a gayfriend of mine, and he was like,
oh, he's like, I heard, I heardthat when your pea flow is
really strong, it means you havea tight vagina.
And I was like, wait, what?
(28:57):
Where did you hear that?
I don't think the two thingscorrelate with each other.
But I was like, but thank God.
SPEAKER_01 (29:04):
So he's messaging on the strength and just has a
really tight vagina.
That's funny.
Um, you have the chin of apolitician.
Um, you look like a sensual Mr.
Rogers.
You're cute, but not in anattractive way.
That is not a compliment at all,right?
You're cute but not in anattractive way.
Maybe like a little kid way.
(29:24):
I don't know.
Oh, that's creepy though.
That is creepy.
SPEAKER_02 (29:28):
You just accept.
SPEAKER_01 (29:29):
Well, it was these, no, so these are on a Reddit
thread.
It's like instantly.
So people wrote what they'vereceived, the compliments
they've received.
So yeah, these aren't thingsI've heard.
Um you have some of them are.
Some of them are, yeah.
Actually, a few of them.
Uh you have news anchoreyebrows.
You're someone I'd you'resomeone I'd want to see right
(29:50):
before I die.
You look like you're gonna be ahot older woman.
Just a few more.
I like your shirts.
They look comfy and easy towear.
You're actually quite handsome,but I Don't know why.
You look like a mercat, but in agood way.
SPEAKER_00 (30:03):
A mercat.
SPEAKER_01 (30:05):
You have pretty eyes.
I dig the crow's feet.
That's bad.
That's backhanded.
That is backhanded.
I can tell you were reallybeautiful when you were young.
Ow.
Why would you say that?
That's so because that means youlook old.
Like I hate it when people say,You look really good for your
age.
Like that means you're old.
I know.
Like we were at Maya one time,because I I think I told you
(30:25):
this story.
We had one of our favorite DJswas playing there, and it's all
20-year-olds.
And here we are in our 40s, andwe did a shot to being the
oldest ones at the bar.
Cheers at being 40.
And some guy came up to us andwas like, Did I just hear you
say you were 40?
You're really hot for being soold.
But we were so old in that club.
Like, thanks a lot.
Um, a co-worker once said, Youprobably don't get this often,
(30:46):
but you look good today.
Why don't you have to put thatfirst part?
You probably don't get thisoften.
SPEAKER_02 (30:50):
Or I've had compliments this past year.
Dan, you've really de-aged.
If if someone hasn't seen me oryou saw me on a podcast, or
you've really de-aged, right?
I think it's just gottenyounger.
Gotten younger.
Right, definitely.
SPEAKER_01 (31:03):
Like you looked old before.
I looked old, right?
SPEAKER_02 (31:05):
Yeah, you looked old before.
SPEAKER_01 (31:06):
That is a good one.
SPEAKER_00 (31:08):
So I look old one.
It's kind of like the one wherewhen they say, You look really
tired today.
Are you okay?
It's like, oh, so basicallyyou're telling me I look like
shit.
SPEAKER_01 (31:16):
Or I hate it when people say, Are you sick?
And even if I'm not sick, I'mlike, oh, I'm so sick, I'm very
sick.
But that's another way of sayingyou look like shit.
Um, you look like you give goodadvice in a forest.
That's weird.
What?
Like, so you look like a forestman?
I don't know.
Your head is the size of an A4sheet.
Your face is so flat, I like it.
(31:36):
Uh, your face is so pretty, Iwant to walk around wearing it.
No.
Okay, buffalo bill, yeah.
Leather face.
That's creepy.
No, that's you have good face,you have good veins.
They are phlebotomists, is thatwhat you call them when they
bottom?
SPEAKER_02 (31:49):
Yeah, my daughter is.
SPEAKER_01 (31:50):
Oh, she is?
I could never do that.
Oh, that's creepy.
And does she like it?
SPEAKER_02 (31:54):
She likes it a lot.
Been three years, and it's at auh a lab where they test for
drugs and effectiveness ofdrugs.
So you gotta take the drug, dothe blood draw, and see how it
is affecting your body.
So she'll have 90 patients.
And uh there was one time wherea patient fainted.
The manager didn't know what todo.
(32:14):
She my daughter shows up, anduh, I guess it's all the uh
crazy, you know, Nessa at homeback in the day, or she just
loves she likes exciting things,but she's calm.
We ski a lot, and she lovesshe's a speed demon, so she's
used to kind of being calm infront of chaos.
So I was so proud of her forthat reaction.
Now she's being promoted and formanager after three years.
(32:37):
And um another time, well, oh,when if uh one of the uh
technicians can't draw blood,they they they grab Emma.
Uh-huh.
So she's channeling my motherwho is a lab technician, and
very much uh in that same kindof realm of a difficult patient,
give it to Patty, right?
Do a blood draw, it can't bedone by the nurse, call call
(32:57):
Patty.
My mother.
SPEAKER_00 (32:58):
I had a friend who was a traveling phlebotomist and
she loved it.
She did really well.
So if she ever wants to travel,that would be something.
SPEAKER_02 (33:06):
She's looking to get her uh apply for a PA school in
in Southern California.
She's there today.
So we're talking about manifest.
She says, Yeah, dad, here on thebeach.
I said, Hey, are you checkingout any uh PA schools?
Well, yeah, I know.
And um she's been talking aboutthe process for about four or
five months.
I said, You want me to help youkind of like get on track and
look because she's you know,she's out of school, she's
(33:27):
working, she kind of wants tohave a little freedom, not jump
back in.
And I said, keep them.
I said the idea was to be offfor like six, eight months.
I said, You want my help to kindof get you back on track?
And she says, Yeah, would you?
I said, let's talk about themright now.
Intention manifest, you want tobe in Southern California,
you're gonna be, you know, twostreets from the beach, you want
a full right scholarship, kindof ask, right?
(33:48):
All these infinitepossibilities.
And then I just just kind ofblurted it out, and then she
says, That's really great, Dad.
Let's let's do that.
So trying to teach the kids, andthat's the same thing with any
in dating, getting back todating, knowing not a list of
250, but to know what what theperson that you want to show up
uh should be like and um howit's gonna go, and and that if
(34:08):
you have that mindset and you gointo a your first initial sort
of date, and a lot of timesit'll go great.
So anyway.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (34:15):
Now it's time for the celebrity cut.
Well, we marinate in the juicesof the celebrities.
Did you hear the whole SydneySweeney American Eagle
controversy and how people gotso up in arms?
But it's funny how that'sexactly what American Eagle
wanted to achieve.
Because did you see they madefour over$400 million in 48
hours?
So I guess prior to the ad,their stocks were tanking, the
(34:36):
board, they were freaking outbecause no one were buying their
products, they were veryirrelevant.
Like, who talks about AmericanEagle anymore?
So they were super smart.
They used Sydney Sweeney, who'sa controversial actress herself.
Did you see the tagline?
Sydney Sweeney has good jeansand she's wearing jeans.
Wow.
But people thought it was, youknow, white supremacist and Nazi
propaganda because she hasblonde hair, she has blue eyes.
SPEAKER_02 (34:57):
Oh, so they use that.
SPEAKER_01 (35:00):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (35:00):
The controversy that that um the play on words.
SPEAKER_01 (35:03):
Which I thought it was brilliant.
It was pure genius.
Yeah.
But um, it worked.
Like they just people theyplayed people and you know,
people fell for it, eating outof the palm of their hands.
SPEAKER_00 (35:14):
People are triggered by everything.
People are so triggered byeverything.
SPEAKER_01 (35:18):
But yeah, all these people that like got up in arms
or were posting up a storm aboutit, you did exactly what they
wanted you to do, you know.
So we are now going to get toknow you with Zoyo, sponsored by
Zoeo, your neighborhood yogurt.
Have you been to Zoyo before?
I've not.
Frozen yogurt?
Oh my gosh.
That's really good.
So we're gonna do rapid firefire questions to get to know
you.
To get to know Dan the man.
(35:39):
Oh my gosh.
So the best or worst pickup lineyou've used or you've heard?
Have you ever used the pickupline?
SPEAKER_02 (35:45):
No, I really I haven't, other than uh probably
I was in a in a in a silly mood.
Um, you know, so what's a nicegal like you doing in a bar like
this?
I don't know, just somethingstupid like that.
SPEAKER_03 (35:57):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (35:58):
Or I think there's more natural, not a pickup line,
but um uh you're here byyourself.
You're here, you know, are youhere on on business, right?
Usually in a in the businesssetting bar, and that usually is
like, yeah, I'm here forbusiness.
You kind of tell.
SPEAKER_01 (36:10):
That's a good though, because it strikes up a
conversation.
Yeah, naturally.
SPEAKER_02 (36:12):
I don't I don't have to have a my point is I don't
necessarily have to have apickup line because I kind of
know if I see something forreading a book, oh you like that
author.
Oh, you are watching, you know,Formula One on your laptop, or
you're a big Formula One fan.
So it's just I just know cuessmart.
There's emotional intelligenceversus just having a pickup
line.
Yeah, more natural.
I like that.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (36:31):
What is your favorite body part on a partner?
SPEAKER_02 (36:35):
Oh gosh.
Uh, body part.
Oh, their heart.
SPEAKER_01 (36:39):
Oh, that's a good answer.
What gives you the ick?
SPEAKER_02 (36:43):
Gives me the ick.
Um, I would say uh what gives methe ick?
Probably not well kept teeth.
SPEAKER_00 (36:55):
Oh, that is such a turn on the teeth that I am with
you on that one.
Yeah.
Deal breaker.
SPEAKER_02 (37:01):
Yeah, I've I was I was uh I took care of three
kids' teeth.
I mean, all the every dentist isjust about an orthodontist, so
it's like important to me.
SPEAKER_01 (37:09):
Is watching porn considered cheating?
SPEAKER_02 (37:12):
Yes.
SPEAKER_01 (37:13):
Before you're intimate, is it appropriate to
ask your date how many peopleyou've been with?
SPEAKER_02 (37:18):
Yes, and is it appropriate to actually have a
test done, by the way.
SPEAKER_01 (37:22):
Is it appropriate?
Yeah, I've uh is it acceptableto have sex on a first date?
SPEAKER_02 (37:29):
Not if you want a long-term relationship.
SPEAKER_01 (37:31):
That's what they say.
They say if you want a long-termrelationship, you never should.
SPEAKER_02 (37:36):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (37:37):
Should you disclose mental health issues early in a
relationship?
SPEAKER_02 (37:41):
Uh not necessarily.
I think it's um because you'retrying to be friends and explore
and just find commonality.
You don't want to torpedo sortof that, because they may find
that yeah, you have it, butmaybe they have um a a sibling
or a parent that had it so theycan understand.
But to do it up front like thatin the beginning, I think
doesn't help kind of buildtrust.
(38:02):
I don't know.
It's just me.
I mean, why yes?
SPEAKER_03 (38:05):
I'm sorry, I'm schizophrenic and uh And so am
I, and so am I so am I Yes, yes,yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (38:14):
Well, thank you so much for joining us this week on
the Meat Market, and thank youso much.
If you want to go on a date withDan the man, go to any of our
social media platforms at MeatMarket Podcast, and thank you to
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We'll see you next week at theMeat Market.
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Oh my god, I just totally gotcatfished.
He looks absolutely nothing likehis picture.
SPEAKER_00 (38:40):
So I found out the guy that I've been dating is
married with kids.
His wife just reached out to me.
Oh my god, I just totally got catfished.
He looks absolutely nothing likehis picture.
So I found out the guy that I'vebeen dating is married with
kids.
His wife just reached out to me.
SPEAKER_01 (00:15):
Welcome to the meat market.
The single scene is aslaughterhouse, and we are here
to devour it.
We are your hosts.
I'm Lindsay.
I'm Jess.
And today's sizzling single isDan.
Dan the man.
Welcome.
SPEAKER_02 (00:25):
Oh my gosh.
Well, thank you.
It's great to be on your show.
I'm very surprised and uh it's apleasure to be here.
SPEAKER_01 (00:30):
So you do very well for yourself.
Have you ever been approached bya sugar baby?
Have you ever been a sugardaddy?
SPEAKER_02 (00:36):
I have I been a su okay.
So you asked me two questions.
SPEAKER_01 (00:39):
Have I been so a sugar baby has a sugar daddy.
Have you ever been asked to be asugar daddy?
SPEAKER_02 (00:45):
I have.
Yes.
SPEAKER_01 (00:47):
Did you accept the proposition?
SPEAKER_02 (00:48):
Uh no.
SPEAKER_01 (00:49):
No.
So how do women ask you?
SPEAKER_02 (00:51):
Because it's typically someone who's younger,
and I am uh attracted to my ageor even older.
SPEAKER_01 (00:57):
Wow, such a unicorn, such an anomaly.
Most men we have on here, theywant to go younger, way younger.
So that's good to hear.
SPEAKER_02 (01:04):
I I liked, you know, I mean that you gotta be
connected with the you knowgeneration that you were you
grew up in and you havecommonalities.
It's physical is great, but Ithink in the in the end, it's
gonna be how you connect and uhyour maturity levels and
interests and intelligence.
Not that younger is notintelligent, but I don't know.
It's just um It's kind of true.
SPEAKER_01 (01:22):
What do you talk about?
With if you're dating someonewho's 20.
SPEAKER_02 (01:25):
Like, yeah, I have a friend who is a doctor, and I
saw him at Dominic's steakhousethe night before I saw him at um
another steakhouse.
Different woman each time.
Yeah.
Um Ocean Ocean Club.
And uh both nights he hadblondes who were 20 years
younger.
And he called me up and said,Hey, could you come on over and
say, Hey, I'm at the end of theevening, the dinner, and and
(01:47):
meaning it wasn't quite hewasn't quite connecting.
SPEAKER_00 (01:49):
He needed an out.
SPEAKER_02 (01:51):
He needed an out, and it's kind of a pattern he's
had, and and then uh you know,he'd walk her back to the valet
and send her home or whatever toUber, and and I'd like, how did
it go?
He's like, how like and he wouldtell me, and then he'd just uh
I'm like, You're I think you'refishing in the wrong pond, my
friend.
You know, he's 64, he's datinglike 40-ish and uh successful
doc, but I don't I think he's inhis mind has what is uh is is
(02:15):
right for him, but it's not,right?
SPEAKER_01 (02:17):
Well if it hasn't been working in the past, if it
has a pattern of not working,maybe he should try something
different, try going a few yearsolder.
SPEAKER_02 (02:23):
Well, but that's a tough question to ask in the
opening question of our showhere.
SPEAKER_03 (02:26):
I mean we want to start in the thick of it.
Dirty.
SPEAKER_02 (02:31):
Exactly.
Well, I mean, you know, so Imean, there is um another
podcast.
Have you heard uh the Tales of aSugar Daddy from my studio?
Yeah, and he's he's a sugardaddy guy, and he's uh talks
about a lot of you know interinteresting stories on the show.
It's uh but I I know I just findthat it's kind of shallow if
you're focused on that and theysee you as just uh an out, you
(02:54):
gotta make sure you you resonatewith the right person at the
right time.
SPEAKER_00 (02:56):
And so you want to be able to share experiences
right with the person thatyou're with and rather than just
be the cash cow, right?
Right.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (03:05):
So you have a successful podcast.
What is your podcast called?
SPEAKER_02 (03:08):
My podcast is called Capital Fit.
It's uh it deals with uh yourwealth and your health and and
innovation and collaboration.
I've been in the startup worldfor the last seven years in
private equity, mostly medicaldevices.
So I've had a lot of experiencenow helping companies raise
capital, raise money, uh findthe right uh you know, C-suite
(03:29):
folks, and and be an advisor anda consultant to that company.
And uh in the in the um processof doing that, I've gotten
really healthy.
I've learned so much aboutmyself, health, wealth.
We're talking about sound bathsand meditation, breath work, you
know, learning Joe Dispenza andand uh so many of the great uh
(03:50):
podcast hosts, and even sort ofInstagram reels.
I think once you're in like themode of um of healing and and
wellness and health, I thinkInstagram and Facebook send you
reels that sort of resonate withyou.
Oh my gosh, they must know whatwe're talking about or even what
we're saying.
And so there's been thiselevation of knowledge and just
talking to practitioners,naturopath doctors, you know,
(04:12):
cardiologists who used to be inbig um like Mayo, and now they
have their own practice as aconcierge doc.
And why did you do that?
So there's a lot, there's a bigmove and a transformation, I
think, and an awakening ofknowledge of what's right our
food, and of course, what'sgoing on with metabolic health
and glucose and their foodsystem and all that.
I think there's an awakening ofall that.
(04:33):
So I've been to thisintersection of helping
companies, but at the same timelearning about what's right for
Dan.
I feel like I've never feltbetter and you know, been more
grounded and articulate.
Podcasts helped great too, bythe way, to gotta stay sit there
and stay focused for an hour.
And it's really kind of a talentand that you have to, you know,
work on.
And um, so it's been a lot offun to my to have all these
(04:56):
guests, 92 guests, including mydaughter, episode number 43.
Uh she graduated um MagnaCumalaudi from ASU pre-med.
But last year she was on my showto talk about balance, work
life, fun, school.
She was an intern at a at a at auh uh physician's assistant's
office, and she just is the mostrounded 23-year-old you've ever
(05:17):
met.
SPEAKER_01 (05:18):
How many kids do you have?
SPEAKER_02 (05:19):
Three kids.
Yeah, my daughter, my youngestEmma, was on my podcast, and
then my oldest Lauren is uh andmy son's in the middle, and they
all live at downtown Phoenix inthe high rises, and um my son is
building tiny homes in Goodyear,and my oldest is helping people
with their life insurance needs.
SPEAKER_03 (05:35):
Oh nice.
SPEAKER_02 (05:36):
She's the closer.
SPEAKER_03 (05:38):
Very nice.
SPEAKER_02 (05:39):
Listening to me talk to clients for for 28 years as a
financial advisor, she picked upon it.
SPEAKER_01 (05:44):
So you were married before?
SPEAKER_02 (05:45):
I was married before, mm-hmm.
Yes.
SPEAKER_01 (05:46):
And how long have you been divorced for?
Has it been a while?
SPEAKER_02 (05:49):
It's been a while, yeah.
Over uh over what 14 years orso.
SPEAKER_01 (05:53):
And how's dating been since?
Are you on the dating apps?
SPEAKER_02 (05:55):
I I am not.
I I wasn't I well, you know, I Iuh ran into a relationship coach
in 2010, 11, who just finished,you know, had my divorce
finalized, and she shows up atan event and says, uh, you'd be
great, uh a great client of minebecause you really need to learn
about the law of attraction.
And she kind of sensed I waskind of down, right?
(06:17):
And of course, 2008-9 wasn'treally great for a lot of folks,
and there was a transition in myfinancial planning business, and
I just opened my new office,signed a five-year lease, and I
hired two people right at thetime.
So I got through it, but uh sheshe kind of helped me change my
mindset to to projectattractiveness and and
positivity to attract thosekinds of people in your life,
(06:38):
and she really kind of turned meon to that.
And then Mark Hyman, Dr.
Hyman, I was like 20 poundsoverweight, depressed, and I
found uh I don't know where hefound him, but uh I followed his
broth diet and for two weeks didthat and lost weight and
started, you know, um just justgetting healthy again, right?
And then it just kind of evolvedfrom there, and then I met
through her network of ladiesthat she had uh and uh
(07:00):
candidates that she thoughtwould be a good fit for me, and
found one that was a great fit.
And uh after dating probably 10,12, and they were all curated
and a great way to go forpeople, by the way.
The dating apps I find, youknow, you find you know, folks
that are just kind of on thesurface and they kind of
pretend, and it's just you'retrying to find them rather than
the universe kind of sendingthem to you.
(07:22):
I think there's really you gottabe patient, you gotta know what
you want, and then kind ofarticulate.
Um there's uh Mark Victor Hansenwrote a book.
He's the guy that chicken soupwith the soul here.
His book uh talked about when hefound his wife Crystal, uh very
uh uh wise gentleman andarticulate and speaker and book
writer.
(07:42):
And he says uh the book that waswritten by uh Mitzi Purdue wrote
a book about him, the Purduefamily, and um and wrote about
his life.
And in there was an article or achapter about how he found
Crystal.
He was very intentional, wrotedown 250 characteristics of what
he's what his perfect matchwould be.
(08:02):
He did.
Two weeks later, he's speaking,he's out there, he sees a you
know, beautiful looking womanout of the audience, and sure
enough, uh a week he veteran ofa VIP event, and then that's the
rest of the story.
SPEAKER_00 (08:13):
And did she have all 250 things on his checklist?
Like how what is on that list?
Is that the same thing?
SPEAKER_02 (08:20):
It was a long list.
SPEAKER_00 (08:21):
So Do you have a list?
Do you have a checklist?
SPEAKER_02 (08:23):
You know, I I do, and I it kinda it's in my head,
but I've written it down.
But you just kind of know rightwhen you meet with people.
And so what are you looking for?
SPEAKER_01 (08:33):
Describe an ideal part.
SPEAKER_02 (08:35):
Well, I think a someone you connect with, I
think that you know instantlywhen you connect with somebody.
It's just it's just it has to beit has to be forced, and you
there's a a a resonance, there'sa a you know, some some
chemistry, of course, isattractiveness, and and then it
kind of builds from there.
And then and then you just youknow, you try to you know
(08:55):
present your authentic self andnot pretend, and and uh but so
many folks pretend and and sothat's the hard part and of
trying to find the right personbecause they have in their mind
what they think is the right guyand and sometimes you don't
check the boxes and and so dealbreakers.
Deal breakers is um oh I thinkdeal breakers would be um in
(09:20):
terms of smoking.
Yeah, I say smoking for sure.
Like smoking, um not having youknow spiritual side of them or
practice some kind of of um youknow practice there.
Like self self-improvement.
Yes, yes.
Yes, and that they're just kindof looking for someone to sort
of fill their void.
(09:41):
And you kind of get a sense ofthat when you first meet.
But uh you know, yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (09:46):
So you have you don't want any more kids and
you've been snipped, but you'vehad multiple women try to get
you to reverse that, right?
SPEAKER_02 (09:54):
I've had uh a couple, yes.
SPEAKER_01 (09:56):
And were you like, hell no?
Or were you slightly on thefence?
SPEAKER_02 (09:59):
No, there was one, um, yes.
I I thought about it, and thenmy buddy had just gotten
reversal and he had a baby boy,and this was twelve years ago.
And I've always had lots ofenergy, so I thought, you know,
what the heck?
And um so I but I just didn't Ijust in the end didn't go there,
and that really impacted therelationship because that's what
(10:20):
she really wanted, and it justit didn't uh kind of survive
that.
Does she have kids now?
She has she had one child hasone child, yes.
Uh-huh.
SPEAKER_00 (10:30):
I always see those funny videos of like it's like
what it would be like having akid at 40 or after 40, and it's
like the grandpa walking up tohigh school graduation or
kindergarten drop-off orwhatever.
It's just like, and then prettysoon you're the talk of the
school, and all the other momsand dads are talking about you
because you're the the old guyor the old lady.
SPEAKER_01 (10:53):
So a lot of people say, Oh, I'd never want to have
kids older because I don't havethe energy, but there's another
side to that in that when you'reyoung, you get to go out and
have fun, and when you become40, you want to stay in, right?
So why not have kids when you'restaying in, anyways?
You know?
Yeah.
You can stay in with the kids,then you're not missing out on
anything.
That is true.
I don't know.
Yeah, uh good and bads to eachone.
SPEAKER_02 (11:14):
Yeah, well, I've I've never wanted to be in
anyway.
I've just that's I guessanother, you know, a lot of uh
folks I've dated, like they seemy social media and you're
always out and you have a lot offriends, and you're very what do
they say, uh, you're anextrovert.
So a lot just want to be, youknow, nesting and at home and
and being together and cuddling.
I'm like, I like that.
(11:35):
Don't get me wrong.
SPEAKER_01 (11:36):
You always go in and blow in.
You always do something.
SPEAKER_02 (11:39):
I I and I say that in the sense because it's um
it's part of my business, it'spart of networking and meeting
people.
And yeah, how do you you're soconnected?
Well, because I put myself outthere, I make meaningful
connections, and then I developrelationships.
And then from there I'm able topull and just you know, and
activate people when when whenthis when the time is right.
And I'm putting on a uhorganizing a music uh a medical
(12:01):
innovators mastermind.
It'll be at the Schufeld Hangarup in Scale Air Park.
I'm gonna launch it in October,I think second or third, I'll
let you know.
But it's uh medical innovatorsbecause I love medicine.
I'm working with a company rightnow that'll that is in the
process of developing the firstnon-invasive glucose monitor
wearable.
(12:21):
So, and uh if it's most folksdon't know what their standing,
you know, resting glucose levelsare.
So again, it all goes back tohealth, which goes back to mind
health, which goes back tosexual health.
It all derives from what's yourglucose level.
Is it affecting yourmicrocirculation and affecting
you know all the things that uhmight uh you know either make uh
your relationship better orworse?
(12:42):
So if you get tuned into yourhealth, it just drives so much
more success uh when you're whenyou're there.
SPEAKER_01 (12:47):
So what have you been on many disaster dates?
Do you have any terrible datingstories?
SPEAKER_02 (12:52):
Disaster dates, yeah.
I mean uh catfished.
Well, I think when they show upand they want to talk about
prior relationships or you know,a date from last week, and
you're like, oh, do we reallyhave to do that?
SPEAKER_01 (13:05):
Like your current date won't be about your past
date.
SPEAKER_02 (13:08):
You know what I think it is?
It's they're operating on alevel of unconsciousness, right?
They're unconscious that they'reeven talking about it or
bringing it in because they'renot even aware of the whole law
of attraction.
And it's just I think peoplelike to talk about misery
sometimes and they get in thatmindset, and you know within
five, ten, two minutes if thisis gonna go well.
So he's like, oh my gosh, Igotta, you know, I'm gonna pay
(13:29):
for the mail because I'm liketypical, right?
And I gotta get through this,this uh, and then you have to
say politely and just not gonnawork, right?
SPEAKER_00 (13:37):
So or they haven't gotten over it yet.
They haven't gotten over it yet,correct.
And they want somebody to be ontheir side and to validate their
feelings and what don't do thatwith a date, do that with a
friend, right?
SPEAKER_02 (13:49):
I know, but you know, but they were probably
just talking about it on thephone before they walked up to
the restaurant with their withtheir best friend or their
therapist, and uh and I believein all that and to get it off
your chest and talk about it,it's very cathartic to do that,
but don't bring it into thedate.
But a lot of times they dobecause and so when you know,
there's so much advice I want togive.
I mean, it's it's great to talkabout what are the fun, you
(14:10):
know, bad, funny dates or thisdate.
And but for me, it's you know,to get on your show here.
I I want to talk about what youknow the kind of the foundation
of a good of a good experiencedating.
And uh, you know, it's just youthrough you throw out
boundaries, it's reallyimportant.
Guys don't get boundaries atall.
We go in with an intention of,you know, we're you know, they
(14:32):
want sex, and and so many womenjust say, hey, we want to be
friends first, I want to trustyou.
You know, and you should go inwith some um just boundaries,
but guys just don't think likethat.
And so when I approach so womenhave that preconceived notion
when they walk into a date, he'sgonna be like the last jerk I
just dated from Bumble Match, orI got set up two weeks ago,
right?
And so pretty quickly I kind ofkind of diffuse that and say,
(14:55):
you know, I was you gotta showup with respect, boundaries, and
then um, you know, you gottaknow who who you are and what
your attachment style is, right?
And and then the you know, thefive steps of a of a of a
relationship are prettyimportant to know too.
SPEAKER_00 (15:09):
So anxious attachment styles.
You're very anxious.
What are the other attachmentstyles?
Well, super.
Anxious attachment styles.
There's a anxious avoidant.
SPEAKER_02 (15:17):
There's there's anxious is avoidant.
That's there's secure.
SPEAKER_01 (15:20):
Okay.
What is the anxious attachmentstyle?
Because I'm a very anxiousperson.
I know.
SPEAKER_02 (15:24):
Yes, avoidant and disorganized.
SPEAKER_00 (15:27):
Okay.
I think the anxious is likeyou're all you're constantly
worried about are they gonnatext me?
What's going on?
Your mind is like, did I saysomething to messing?
Did I say something to messingwith?
SPEAKER_02 (15:38):
Yes, and then you're always psychoanalyzing your your
what you've done, and theypeople pick up on that.
And so, but you're gonna you'regonna attract that kind of
person, by the way.
SPEAKER_01 (15:47):
And you spiral and you spiral.
I was like that dating, but whenI met my husband, it was
completely different.
Like I was not that way at all.
I called him if I wanted to, Itexted him, whatever.
I didn't give a flying frick,you know?
So and that's why I think itworks.
Yeah, because I wasn't stressingabout it.
You weren't like stressing it.
But why was I I questioned whywas I different with him?
Was it because I was just dumbdating?
I was like, ugh, I'm done.
(16:08):
I don't know.
I don't know.
Or maybe you you evolved.
Maybe I evolved, I grew up.
SPEAKER_02 (16:13):
Well, it is, it's about growing up and knowing
yourself and and being confidentin who you are, loving yourself.
You can't love someone elseunless you really love yourself.
All those cliche ish things areall absolutely true.
Because all your insecuritieswill come out in the
relationship and into and thenyou repeat the same pattern.
And so I saw a reel the otherday about the five steps of a
(16:37):
relationship, going from youknow, inf infatuation,
honeymoon, then adjustment,power struggle, right?
How many dates you don't getpast the power struggle?
Right?
And then you go back to the nextuh person with the same one too.
So you never move on.
Then you have stabilityacceptance, which is really
important to say this is who Ireally am, these are my issues,
(16:58):
or my you know, you finally meetthe kids, and one kid's not
quite, you know, not quitethere, and like, oh my gosh, am
I gonna live with this personnow with this particular child
that has issues?
And then you go then and you gostability and then commitment.
So the problem is, is um, youknow, I've been engaged twice
and uh they were both greatladies and still are, but it was
(17:19):
the blending of them and mychildren that really didn't
quite work.
And it's hard to go through thisbecause I got to the stability
commitment part and and and didI ask my kids, say, hey, what do
you think of so-and-so?
Do you think I should uh marryher, right?
And uh I never gave them thatyou know that that ability to
say yes or no.
I just said, hey, you know, Ijust this is happening.
(17:41):
This is happening, and it's andso I didn't and my you know, my
taught two daughters and I arereally close.
We don't see much a lot, but Ithink there's a little tension
still there of not having themget input.
SPEAKER_00 (17:53):
Yeah.
How long should the honeymoonstage last?
SPEAKER_02 (17:57):
Oh gosh.
SPEAKER_00 (17:58):
So what do you guys think?
SPEAKER_01 (17:59):
When they say the breaking point is three months.
If you can make it past thethree-month mark, you're good to
go.
But most relationships end atthe three-month mark.
Is that does that mean it'sthree months in the honeymoon?
The honeymoon stage is fine.
Then shit gets real and you'relike, peace.
Yeah, probably.
SPEAKER_02 (18:12):
I think three months is I I think it all depends on
the expectation you bring to theoriginal sort of conversation.
And because some will say, Iwant to have, you know, I want
to be intimate sooner than laterto make sure it works everything
works.
Okay.
Let's not waste our time.
SPEAKER_00 (18:30):
What did they say?
Test the why buy the cow whenyou can have the milk for free.
You gotta make sure the milk iswhere the milk's gonna start
before you buy the cow.
SPEAKER_02 (18:42):
And then, yeah, and then if you jump in too early,
you you're like, um, well gosh,are they jumping in early all
the time?
So how many partners you have?
So you got that in your head.
And then, but I like to say, youknow, let's just you know have
friends and and do dates, and Ilike the ones that say, Yes, I I
have a hard like if threemonths, then maybe, right?
If it's there, and then thenthen the honeymoon then starts
(19:03):
really starts, then kind of,right?
SPEAKER_00 (19:04):
Because that's true.
If you wait to be a sexuallyintimate, then your honeymoon
doesn't really start pushed backa little bit.
Yeah, that's true.
Yeah, that's true.
So are you ready for it?
I'm ready for it.
Oh gosh.
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(19:24):
We're gonna have a listenerquestion for you, Dan.
And for us too, we'll discuss.
Um, so this one says, My partnerrecently started a new diet.
I'm afraid that because they aregetting more healthy, they'll
expect me to be on the samediet.
If your partner starts a newdiet, are you automatically on
(19:46):
it too?
SPEAKER_01 (19:48):
Hmm.
That's a tough one.
Because I've I've heard ofcouples that like they're both
very social drinkers and onestops, the other doesn't, and
that creates major issues in therelationship.
Yes.
When one's sober and one's not,that can ruin the relationship.
But diet, I don't know.
SPEAKER_02 (20:04):
I think that's part of the diet though.
Because you usually quitdrinking because you want to be
clear, more focused, more nottired, not high high, high lows.
I I mean, I would that thatwould mean to me that the one
partner is uh kind of elevatinguh and growing than the other
person is.
SPEAKER_00 (20:21):
I think that's a whole component of just growth
and and I think it's hard fortwo people who are partners and
living together to be ondifferent diets.
It's true.
Like I look at my parentsgrowing up.
Like I remember like my momprimarily cooked dinner, right?
My dad would cook every once ina while when if she was gone or
whatever, but she primarilycooks.
(20:41):
So I remember when she went onWeight Watchers when we were in
high school, and it's like weall had to eat healthy, whether
we wanted to or not, which wenever really ate terribly as a
family, but it was just like,you know, she was to the point
where we were getting older, shewasn't gonna have more kids, she
wanted to have a healthierlifestyle, and so that was sort
(21:02):
of the fad thing to do backthen.
And so it was like by osmosis,we were all on the diet,
including my dad.
And I remember she would getfrustrated because my dad didn't
have to do anything except eatthe food that she made and he
lost the weight and she had towork so hard.
You know, she had to do theexercise in addition and all of
that kind of stuff.
SPEAKER_01 (21:22):
So I I do think it is you it's tough.
Like when we go out, we like toeat family style, get a few
things and share.
So you kind of have to be on thesame diet at that point.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And to be supportive of them.
You don't want to be eating aBig Mac in front of them if
they're not allowed.
That's kind of cruel.
SPEAKER_02 (21:37):
Yeah, I I think it's important to be in alignment.
Yeah, for sure.
So uh I would suggest thelistener to uh to consider, you
know, if it's not too if they'relike fasting all the time and
they're eating just you know uhvegetables and then they cut out
their meat because they thinkthat's safe, that would be kind
of extreme.
SPEAKER_00 (21:54):
So that might be yeah, that's the thing, as long
as it's not an extreme, somesort of extreme.
We're eating just fruits andveggies.
SPEAKER_01 (22:01):
Oh so we're gonna discuss another Reddit thread.
The question was confusingcompliments that you have
received, actual complimentspeople have received that have
confused them.
So like I remember one persononce said to me, You have really
nice big teeth.
Is that a compliment?
Have big teeth?
That's not a compliment, right?
I do I have big teeth?
SPEAKER_00 (22:24):
Maybe they found big teeth attractive.
I don't know.
Like, so so they're likebackhanded compliments.
Backhanded compliments, yeah.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (22:31):
Someone's like, you look like you read a lot.
SPEAKER_00 (22:34):
I mean, that does that mean that you look like a
nerd?
Yeah, yeah.
Because I read a lot.
I mean, I read every day, but Idon't feel like I look like I
read a lot.
I don't know.
What if someone who reads a lotof things?
SPEAKER_01 (22:44):
Exactly.
You have such asymmetrical ears.
So random.
You've had those?
These are yeah, actualcompliments that people have had
that just responded to thethread.
SPEAKER_02 (22:55):
Oh my gosh.
SPEAKER_01 (22:56):
Um, you remind me of my aunt, but in a hot way.
SPEAKER_02 (22:59):
Oh, okay.
SPEAKER_01 (23:00):
You act dumb, but you're really smart.
I know a lot of women that dothat.
Like Para Silton, remember howshe used to talk with that,
really?
SPEAKER_00 (23:07):
But she's come out and said, like, she's like, I
know when to play.
Stupid.
Which I guess is a smart thingto do, right?
Because Kim Kardashian, I think,does the same thing.
She does.
Like because she's intelligent.
Like if you look at the like,you know, her the business, just
the business side of her empire.
SPEAKER_01 (23:26):
Slam the Kardashians, but they do a
fantastic job of marketingthemselves.
I mean, what season are they onof the show?
Like, they're still going andthey do such a good job.
Look at Kylie Jenner's makeupbusiness, made her a
billionaire, Chloe's businesses.
Like, they know how to besuccessful.
Yeah.
Is that them or their mother?
Isn't Jenner?
Yeah, nobody works harder thanChris Jenner.
Right, yeah.
Um you this is funny.
You look like Post Malone.
(23:46):
Someone said this thread is forcompliments only.
But you know, have you did yousee him in that music video with
Taylor Swift where they took histattoos off?
He's actually really handsome.
Really?
It's just like did they coverthem with makeup or AI?
SPEAKER_02 (23:59):
But he's actually a good looking man.
So I'm I'm curious to uh findout how you felt when they gave
you those compliments.
Did you feel like it was did youfeel like it was backhanded?
How did you feel about it?
SPEAKER_01 (24:12):
I was confused.
I was like trying to think likewhat like what?
SPEAKER_00 (24:15):
Because I was just confused.
You you told me something thatsomeone a compliment.
I don't know if it was acompliment, but about talking
with your hands a lot.
SPEAKER_02 (24:25):
Yes.
They felt that was kind offlamboyant and uh not
heterosexual.
It's like their friends, Ithink, comment because they saw
me on my I'll do like littlereels after the podcast, they
kind of promote it and uh and Iyeah, we I talk with my hands,
and and she she probably justlike a European thing, like a
(24:45):
lot of Europeans do that.
Well, I don't know if you I meanI'm from Irish, French, and you
know, England, but still, but Ihave to agree because it's very
distracting.
And I was in Toastmasters for along, long time.
And you learn to put your handson the lectern or just in front
of you and talk, and you watchTED talk and they're doing this,
it is distracting.
SPEAKER_01 (25:04):
So I appreciate the feedback, but but at the same
time, I think it's when you'restanding there like this, that's
distracting to me.
SPEAKER_02 (25:11):
Well, true, yeah.
But it was just probably toomuch, and it was I don't know if
it was a joke or but it waslike, okay, I should probably
take the advice because ifthat's their feedback, and their
friends were saying, Hey, is he,you know, he's like too clean
cut and he's got his handsalways going.
Is he really like like girls orwomen?
I'm like, I yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (25:31):
Some other compliments people have
received.
You have nice ankles, you have ahuge head, but it's not ugly.
It looks nice.
I guess you can have a hugehead, but a good looking head.
You have the face that I canmake on Sims.
Uh you look so German.
That to me is not a compliment.
Because aren't don't Germanslook very severe and very angry
all the time?
SPEAKER_02 (25:50):
You're intense.
SPEAKER_01 (25:53):
Don't they always seem so like intense?
Oh no.
You're the way that you the waythat you do the German
impression.
Yeah.
You're the perfect amount ofmuscles covered in fat.
unknown (26:07):
Oh.
SPEAKER_00 (26:08):
You know what's funny?
SPEAKER_01 (26:09):
One of my friends actually one time said to me,
You're skinny, but you're skinnyfat.
Skinny fat.
SPEAKER_00 (26:14):
So what is that?
SPEAKER_01 (26:15):
Like you're skinny, but you still have flab, like
you don't work out.
SPEAKER_00 (26:17):
Yeah, like you're you're skinny, but you can tell
that you're not fit.
Like that you're not physicallyfit.
SPEAKER_01 (26:22):
And I was I actually was offended with that.
SPEAKER_00 (26:24):
Mom is a rude that is something.
She was my best friend at thetime.
SPEAKER_01 (26:28):
Whatever.
Um, so this is weird.
My gynecologist told me I had avery pretty cervex.
That's kind of weird, isn't it?
SPEAKER_00 (26:37):
I I think I'd be looking for a different
gynecologist.
SPEAKER_02 (26:41):
That's a boundary issue.
SPEAKER_00 (26:43):
Because one, you're in a very vulnerable position,
and then you've got someone downthere commenting on your cervix.
She's hitting on you via yourcervix.
SPEAKER_01 (26:53):
There's a couple of doctor ones.
I had a colonoscopy and had todo an enema before the
procedure, and the doctormid-procedure asked me if I did
the enema myself because shesaid it was one of the best
she's ever seen.
SPEAKER_02 (27:06):
Well, and people do coffee enemas.
I I dated a gal that did that,so she wanted it cleans out
because I guess it pulls outyour toxins too, right?
SPEAKER_01 (27:15):
I've heard that's really good for you.
SPEAKER_02 (27:16):
But I didn't know about that.
It was like five years ago.
I'm like, you're doing what?
Well, now I know.
That's that's a thing, right?
SPEAKER_01 (27:21):
Yeah, because stuff can never hear of that.
Stuff can stick up there andstay there for for years.
Yes.
So it pulls it all out.
Yeah.
Yeah.
My dentist keeps commenting onhow strong my tongue is.
Again, like that's kind ofweird.
SPEAKER_00 (27:35):
Isn't it a male dentist commenting on a female's
tongue?
I feel like that's boredom.
SPEAKER_02 (27:41):
Pretty much.
That's almost like an imitation.
Hey, let's go see.
I think he's kind of baiting howyou see how strong it really is.
SPEAKER_01 (27:48):
Yeah, you want me to show you?
You're the only person I knowwho looks better with your
glasses on.
Someone said that to me before,and I took that as an insult.
Like, okay, so like my face isugly and the glasses cover him
up, you know?
That's kind of a meancompliment.
Um, you look like you this ishilarious.
You look like you're going tosmell bad, but you don't.
(28:08):
You smell amazing.
SPEAKER_02 (28:10):
That is crazy.
That's a real I can't believethat.
SPEAKER_01 (28:14):
Um, I was peeing at the airport and the guy next to
me said, nice flow.
Oh god.
Oh my god.
SPEAKER_00 (28:20):
That's hilarious.
I actually had no way.
That reminds me I had someonecompliment.
Well, I don't know if it was acompliment, but it was it was
similar.
It I shouldn't even say this onehere because it's so
inappropriate.
SPEAKER_01 (28:33):
Say it.
Um you have to because not funenough.
SPEAKER_00 (28:36):
So I was I was peeing, I was going to the
bathroom, and it was, I was at afriend's house, right?
And so like the door was notclosed totally all the way.
And he was, it was a a gayfriend of mine, and he was like,
oh, he's like, I heard, I heardthat when your pea flow is
really strong, it means you havea tight vagina.
And I was like, wait, what?
(28:57):
Where did you hear that?
I don't think the two thingscorrelate with each other.
But I was like, but thank God.
SPEAKER_01 (29:04):
So he's messaging on the strength and just has a
really tight vagina.
That's funny.
Um, you have the chin of apolitician.
Um, you look like a sensual Mr.
Rogers.
You're cute, but not in anattractive way.
That is not a compliment at all,right?
You're cute but not in anattractive way.
Maybe like a little kid way.
(29:24):
I don't know.
Oh, that's creepy though.
That is creepy.
SPEAKER_02 (29:28):
You just accept.
SPEAKER_01 (29:29):
Well, it was these, no, so these are on a Reddit
thread.
It's like instantly.
So people wrote what they'vereceived, the compliments
they've received.
So yeah, these aren't thingsI've heard.
Um you have some of them are.
Some of them are, yeah.
Actually, a few of them.
Uh you have news anchoreyebrows.
You're someone I'd you'resomeone I'd want to see right
(29:50):
before I die.
You look like you're gonna be ahot older woman.
Just a few more.
I like your shirts.
They look comfy and easy towear.
You're actually quite handsome,but I Don't know why.
You look like a mercat, but in agood way.
SPEAKER_00 (30:03):
A mercat.
SPEAKER_01 (30:05):
You have pretty eyes.
I dig the crow's feet.
That's bad.
That's backhanded.
That is backhanded.
I can tell you were reallybeautiful when you were young.
Ow.
Why would you say that?
That's so because that means youlook old.
Like I hate it when people say,You look really good for your
age.
Like that means you're old.
I know.
Like we were at Maya one time,because I I think I told you
(30:25):
this story.
We had one of our favorite DJswas playing there, and it's all
20-year-olds.
And here we are in our 40s, andwe did a shot to being the
oldest ones at the bar.
Cheers at being 40.
And some guy came up to us andwas like, Did I just hear you
say you were 40?
You're really hot for being soold.
But we were so old in that club.
Like, thanks a lot.
Um, a co-worker once said, Youprobably don't get this often,
(30:46):
but you look good today.
Why don't you have to put thatfirst part?
You probably don't get thisoften.
SPEAKER_02 (30:50):
Or I've had compliments this past year.
Dan, you've really de-aged.
If if someone hasn't seen me oryou saw me on a podcast, or
you've really de-aged, right?
I think it's just gottenyounger.
Gotten younger.
Right, definitely.
SPEAKER_01 (31:03):
Like you looked old before.
I looked old, right?
SPEAKER_02 (31:05):
Yeah, you looked old before.
SPEAKER_01 (31:06):
That is a good one.
SPEAKER_00 (31:08):
So I look old one.
It's kind of like the one wherewhen they say, You look really
tired today.
Are you okay?
It's like, oh, so basicallyyou're telling me I look like
shit.
SPEAKER_01 (31:16):
Or I hate it when people say, Are you sick?
And even if I'm not sick, I'mlike, oh, I'm so sick, I'm very
sick.
But that's another way of sayingyou look like shit.
Um, you look like you give goodadvice in a forest.
That's weird.
What?
Like, so you look like a forestman?
I don't know.
Your head is the size of an A4sheet.
Your face is so flat, I like it.
(31:36):
Uh, your face is so pretty, Iwant to walk around wearing it.
No.
Okay, buffalo bill, yeah.
Leather face.
That's creepy.
No, that's you have good face,you have good veins.
They are phlebotomists, is thatwhat you call them when they
bottom?
SPEAKER_02 (31:49):
Yeah, my daughter is.
SPEAKER_01 (31:50):
Oh, she is?
I could never do that.
Oh, that's creepy.
And does she like it?
SPEAKER_02 (31:54):
She likes it a lot.
Been three years, and it's at auh a lab where they test for
drugs and effectiveness ofdrugs.
So you gotta take the drug, dothe blood draw, and see how it
is affecting your body.
So she'll have 90 patients.
And uh there was one time wherea patient fainted.
The manager didn't know what todo.
(32:14):
She my daughter shows up, anduh, I guess it's all the uh
crazy, you know, Nessa at homeback in the day, or she just
loves she likes exciting things,but she's calm.
We ski a lot, and she lovesshe's a speed demon, so she's
used to kind of being calm infront of chaos.
So I was so proud of her forthat reaction.
Now she's being promoted and formanager after three years.
(32:37):
And um another time, well, oh,when if uh one of the uh
technicians can't draw blood,they they they grab Emma.
Uh-huh.
So she's channeling my motherwho is a lab technician, and
very much uh in that same kindof realm of a difficult patient,
give it to Patty, right?
Do a blood draw, it can't bedone by the nurse, call call
(32:57):
Patty.
My mother.
SPEAKER_00 (32:58):
I had a friend who was a traveling phlebotomist and
she loved it.
She did really well.
So if she ever wants to travel,that would be something.
SPEAKER_02 (33:06):
She's looking to get her uh apply for a PA school in
in Southern California.
She's there today.
So we're talking about manifest.
She says, Yeah, dad, here on thebeach.
I said, Hey, are you checkingout any uh PA schools?
Well, yeah, I know.
And um she's been talking aboutthe process for about four or
five months.
I said, You want me to help youkind of like get on track and
look because she's you know,she's out of school, she's
(33:27):
working, she kind of wants tohave a little freedom, not jump
back in.
And I said, keep them.
I said the idea was to be offfor like six, eight months.
I said, You want my help to kindof get you back on track?
And she says, Yeah, would you?
I said, let's talk about themright now.
Intention manifest, you want tobe in Southern California,
you're gonna be, you know, twostreets from the beach, you want
a full right scholarship, kindof ask, right?
(33:48):
All these infinitepossibilities.
And then I just just kind ofblurted it out, and then she
says, That's really great, Dad.
Let's let's do that.
So trying to teach the kids, andthat's the same thing with any
in dating, getting back todating, knowing not a list of
250, but to know what what theperson that you want to show up
uh should be like and um howit's gonna go, and and that if
(34:08):
you have that mindset and you gointo a your first initial sort
of date, and a lot of timesit'll go great.
So anyway.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (34:15):
Now it's time for the celebrity cut.
Well, we marinate in the juicesof the celebrities.
Did you hear the whole SydneySweeney American Eagle
controversy and how people gotso up in arms?
But it's funny how that'sexactly what American Eagle
wanted to achieve.
Because did you see they madefour over$400 million in 48
hours?
So I guess prior to the ad,their stocks were tanking, the
(34:36):
board, they were freaking outbecause no one were buying their
products, they were veryirrelevant.
Like, who talks about AmericanEagle anymore?
So they were super smart.
They used Sydney Sweeney, who'sa controversial actress herself.
Did you see the tagline?
Sydney Sweeney has good jeansand she's wearing jeans.
Wow.
But people thought it was, youknow, white supremacist and Nazi
propaganda because she hasblonde hair, she has blue eyes.
SPEAKER_02 (34:57):
Oh, so they use that.
SPEAKER_01 (35:00):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (35:00):
The controversy that that um the play on words.
SPEAKER_01 (35:03):
Which I thought it was brilliant.
It was pure genius.
Yeah.
But um, it worked.
Like they just people theyplayed people and you know,
people fell for it, eating outof the palm of their hands.
SPEAKER_00 (35:14):
People are triggered by everything.
People are so triggered byeverything.
SPEAKER_01 (35:18):
But yeah, all these people that like got up in arms
or were posting up a storm aboutit, you did exactly what they
wanted you to do, you know.
So we are now going to get toknow you with Zoyo, sponsored by
Zoeo, your neighborhood yogurt.
Have you been to Zoyo before?
I've not.
Frozen yogurt?
Oh my gosh.
That's really good.
So we're gonna do rapid firefire questions to get to know
you.
To get to know Dan the man.
(35:39):
Oh my gosh.
So the best or worst pickup lineyou've used or you've heard?
Have you ever used the pickupline?
SPEAKER_02 (35:45):
No, I really I haven't, other than uh probably
I was in a in a in a silly mood.
Um, you know, so what's a nicegal like you doing in a bar like
this?
I don't know, just somethingstupid like that.
SPEAKER_03 (35:57):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_02 (35:58):
Or I think there's more natural, not a pickup line,
but um uh you're here byyourself.
You're here, you know, are youhere on on business, right?
Usually in a in the businesssetting bar, and that usually is
like, yeah, I'm here forbusiness.
You kind of tell.
SPEAKER_01 (36:10):
That's a good though, because it strikes up a
conversation.
Yeah, naturally.
SPEAKER_02 (36:12):
I don't I don't have to have a my point is I don't
necessarily have to have apickup line because I kind of
know if I see something forreading a book, oh you like that
author.
Oh, you are watching, you know,Formula One on your laptop, or
you're a big Formula One fan.
So it's just I just know cuessmart.
There's emotional intelligenceversus just having a pickup
line.
Yeah, more natural.
I like that.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (36:31):
What is your favorite body part on a partner?
SPEAKER_02 (36:35):
Oh gosh.
Uh, body part.
Oh, their heart.
SPEAKER_01 (36:39):
Oh, that's a good answer.
What gives you the ick?
SPEAKER_02 (36:43):
Gives me the ick.
Um, I would say uh what gives methe ick?
Probably not well kept teeth.
SPEAKER_00 (36:55):
Oh, that is such a turn on the teeth that I am with
you on that one.
Yeah.
Deal breaker.
SPEAKER_02 (37:01):
Yeah, I've I was I was uh I took care of three
kids' teeth.
I mean, all the every dentist isjust about an orthodontist, so
it's like important to me.
SPEAKER_01 (37:09):
Is watching porn considered cheating?
SPEAKER_02 (37:12):
Yes.
SPEAKER_01 (37:13):
Before you're intimate, is it appropriate to
ask your date how many peopleyou've been with?
SPEAKER_02 (37:18):
Yes, and is it appropriate to actually have a
test done, by the way.
SPEAKER_01 (37:22):
Is it appropriate?
Yeah, I've uh is it acceptableto have sex on a first date?
SPEAKER_02 (37:29):
Not if you want a long-term relationship.
SPEAKER_01 (37:31):
That's what they say.
They say if you want a long-termrelationship, you never should.
SPEAKER_02 (37:36):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (37:37):
Should you disclose mental health issues early in a
relationship?
SPEAKER_02 (37:41):
Uh not necessarily.
I think it's um because you'retrying to be friends and explore
and just find commonality.
You don't want to torpedo sortof that, because they may find
that yeah, you have it, butmaybe they have um a a sibling
or a parent that had it so theycan understand.
But to do it up front like thatin the beginning, I think
doesn't help kind of buildtrust.
(38:02):
I don't know.
It's just me.
I mean, why yes?
SPEAKER_03 (38:05):
I'm sorry, I'm schizophrenic and uh And so am
I, and so am I so am I Yes, yes,yeah.
SPEAKER_01 (38:14):
Well, thank you so much for joining us this week on
the Meat Market, and thank youso much.
If you want to go on a date withDan the man, go to any of our
social media platforms at MeatMarket Podcast, and thank you to
our sponsor, Tactical TaxStrategies.
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We'll see you next week at theMeat Market.
(38:34):
Oh my god, I just totally gotcatfished.
He looks absolutely nothing likehis picture.
SPEAKER_00 (38:40):
So I found out the guy that I've been dating is
married with kids.
His wife just reached out to me.
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