Why does receiving oral feel like work for so many vulva owners with ADHD? This episode unpacks it all: the sensory chaos, the internal monologue that won’t quit, the vulnerability overload, and the executive dysfunction that makes "just enjoy it" feel like a cruel joke.
I dive deep into:
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How gender scripts, shame, and ADHD intersect in the bedroom
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Why “let go and enjoy” is NOT trauma-informed advice
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What overstimulation, masking, and delayed self-awareness look like during oral
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Real talk on orgasm grief, communication challenges, and reclaiming your pleasure
If you’ve ever tapped out mid-oral because your nervous system was screaming louder than your partner’s praise, this one’s for you. You are not broken. Your brain just wasn’t designed for the script you’ve been handed.
Content note: This episode contains honest conversation, humor, and a whole lot of validation, but is not a substitute for therapy. Please work with a qualified professional if you're experiencing distress.
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