Let’s talk about sensory play!

In this episode we share what we have been up to since our last episode and dive into the world of sensory play. We discuss what sensory play is, the types of sensory play that we are interested in exploring, offer some tips and examples of sensory play you can try,  and talk about different items to use for sensory play.

Episode Transcript

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Oh hi.
Pleasure seekers and kinky ones.
Welcome back to the Aftercare podcast where we normalize the conversation around sex, love, kink, and everything in between.
I'm your host, Skye, and I'm sunny, and we're super excited to be back.
It's been a little bit, we've.
Moved to the Pacific Northwest.
We've been here for about six months.
We survived a winter of very different winter than we were used to in Colorado, and we'll get into that.

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But we also are super excited because we are starting a kink education series.
First off, what we're tackling is sensory play.
So that will be the theme of this episode.
We're gonna talk about, what is sensory play or sensory deprivation, and we're gonna share some of the things that we're super excited to dive into when it comes to our desires around sensory play.

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And then we're gonna give you some tips on how you can dive into sensory play, both with yourself and with any partners.
And then we're gonna share a whole bunch of fun stuff from our toy box.
We've got all kinds of sensory toys that we're just gonna talk through and do a little show and tell.
But yeah.
And.
I think that is where I mess up.

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No, you did a really good job.
Stop it.
You did a really good job.
Yeah.
Perfect.
So let's talk about what is new.
Yeah.
In our world.
So we packed up our entire life in August of last year.
Our dogs included and moved everybody out here to the Pacific Northwest and we moved in a really beautiful time.

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We got three weeks of sunshine.
So we were warned by everybody that no, you need to get some like vitamin D supplements get ready.
And neither of us really believed it.
'cause it was just sunshine.
Sunshine was, yeah.
Cool.
That's great.
It's beautiful here.
Yeah, we moved here and we were like, we don't know what you're talking about.
It's like sunny.
It's great, it's gorgeous.
There's forest everywhere and waterfalls.
We were like, we're good.

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We'll be fine.
And then November came around and it just started to rain and it was gray.
And it was gray From the morning that you woke up to the day that like.
To the time you went to bed.
Yeah.
And it was still this like romantic, beautiful, like I fell in love with Twilight again and then like January came around and I started to get a little sad.

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Yeah.
Yeah.
There, there was a point, it was like late January, maybe early February, where I was like, something's wrong.
I don't know.
Oh, I think I know what it is.
We have seasonal depression.
Yeah.
So that's been super fun trying to figure out just how to acknowledge it and notice it and then what we can do to overcome it and manage it.
Yeah.
And just nourish our bodies in it as well.

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And we were very graceful with each other, which was really kind.
I had a lot of days that.
I physically did not feel well and didn't want to get outta bed, and Sonny was right there next to me getting me some soup reading to me like we got through it.
Yeah.
Yeah.
We developed some really healthy and overcame some unhealthy things to, to manage our seasonal depression, but yeah, it's been.

(03:01):
Really nice.
Yeah.
It's been really cool.
And now spring is coming and spring is absolutely insane.
Spring is beautiful in the Pacific Northwest.
There's flowers everywhere.
It starts early compared to Colorado.
Yeah.
Our community is here.
The doggos love it.
We are surrounded by trees, so it's gonna be a good year.
It was just a really interesting time to move.

(03:22):
Yeah.
And to get into a completely different routine in the dark.
Yeah.
Oh, what else is new? If you've noticed, I have lost about a foot of my hair.
Oh, yeah.
Yeah.
That's very different.
I, for the first time in about four years am embracing my cute and my soft and I cut off a lot of my hair.

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I got rid of my extensions and I was just ready to be a little bit more free for just a moment.
And that is a thing that I have to kinda get used to, of looking in the mirror and not having this big mane to hide behind.
But she's cute.
And she's fun and I get to go swimming.
I, and you can pull it.
I was gonna say there's so much water out here that you're gonna get to enjoy and not have to worry about all the things that kind of came with the long hair.

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Yeah.
I get to go, we're gonna go diving.
Yeah, it's gonna be really good.
I've started Brazilian jujitsu training, which is really exciting.
Sunny has gotten to roll around with me on the mat.
That's been interesting for both of us, and I'm excited to see where that goes.
And then in April we're actually going to Mexico to do a one-on-one intensive to learn ChAARI.

(04:32):
So I'm going to become a rope top in a sense, so that I can tie myself, I can tie my partner, I can tie a lot of other people.
And I can understand Ari in the like purest form.
Of art that it truly is art, bondage, sensory play, all of the yumminess that goes inside of that as well.
Yeah, that'll be super fun.

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I'm just gonna learn how to sit still and be quiet for a few days.
Yeah.
You're gonna drop into a subspace, a quiet subspace.
Yeah.
That'll be cool.
How do you feel about that? I feel good.
Yeah, I can chill.
You chill.
Yeah.
I'm just, and I've been working on a lot of presence and mindfulness myself, so that'll just be a really good opportunity to weave in some of the things I've been doing on my own into, some of the play that we're starting to engage in.

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Yeah.
Super cool.
It's gonna be so cool.
Yeah.
And super excited about this new set.
This was a lot of fun to put together.
Totally different from our, like purple, Miami, lo-fi, whatever vibe we had.
So yeah, it's been super fun to like pull this room together and get a new set.
So yeah, sunny did that all by himself.
The whole wall, everything you see there.

(05:40):
I did.
It's really cool to pull together some of the things that we had and figure out what else to use.
So it's been nice.
You're my handyman.
I am.
The lighting and cinematography department handyman.
All right, so you wanna jump in? Yeah let's do it.
Ooh.
So the Kink education series that we're talking about is something that I have been truly excited for since we got started.

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It was the brain trial that I've had for a really long time.
My background before getting into adult sexual education, adult content creation being an influencer, if I would call myself that, who was actually in healthcare.
And even further than that, I was a trainer and like a development coordinator in healthcare.

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So understanding systems, understanding SOPs, understanding like the gold standard of everything.
Really becoming a master myself and being able to teach it within a structure and being able to show it in an approachable way, especially in medicine.
So many people, medicine can be really scary.
Kink can be really scary as it should be.

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But if we teach a way to ask questions and create safe, fun containers, we can all learn a little bit and we can all be a little less scared to just put our feet in the like kitty pool of what kink is.
And I think sensory play is a really cool place to start with our kink series.
We're gonna try to do a series every month as long as our life allows that.

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But obviously we will update you if that changes, but this month is gonna be all about the senses.
So yeah.
What are our five senses? I believe we've got sight, smell, taste, touch and hearing.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And what would you say your favorite sense is outta all of those? A favorite.

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The big one that always comes to mind with any sort of like sensuality, intimacy usually is probably touch.
Okay.
And then I would say sight.
Ooh.
Yeah.
I would say, I would honestly say, I think sight and touch might be like neck and neck.
I don't know if I could say which one.
'cause I like sight is a really big thing for me as well.

(07:59):
Sight and touch.
Okay.
Taking notes.
Yeah.
I really like.
I would say my first one would be sound.
So music, hearing it's really important for me to have a partner who is audible, so I need to hear at least like changes of your breath if you're enjoying it or moaning.
Grunting, like I am all about a primal growl even.

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And I have recently learned that I've always known that music is really important to me when we enter an intimate scene.
But even recently, like I've dropped into a cute little girl Subspace with Sad Music, which was a new space for us that no one's gotten to really see yet, except for Sunny.
And it, it was.
I'm not gonna say it was alarming for you, but you were just like, are you okay? And I'm just like, on top of you, like feeling so good, but also crying bawling to like the saddest song with headphones in.

(08:48):
I couldn't hear the music.
Yeah.
I had one little AirPod in but my sadness just wanted to be felt that day.
And so she got on top of you, man.
I cried, man.
It was beautiful.
So sensory play.
The way that I think about it is incorporating any or all of our senses or even depriving our senses to work through a scene that's been negotiated, to bring presence back into a scene with aftercare.

(09:16):
To create a ritual, to create an experience.
Or it can just be a really incredible way to get to know somebody's body.
I think sensory play can be really fun for just body mapping.
Especially if you're somebody that.
Touch is maybe not your love language of choice because of whatever reason it may be for you, or if you're super ticklish trying to find places on your body that you do like those senses.

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I think taste is one that gets missed a lot in this.
And so I've actually created, and I can give this to all you have to do is go onto our website and sign up for an email blast and this will get sent out in April.
But this is my little guide to the five senses and what you can do to explore those.

(09:59):
Do we wanna get into some of these? Yeah, absolutely.
I guess the one thing I wanna say with like census too is like with sensuality, intimacy being with someone else, even being with yourself, your senses are always there, but and I hope what I aim to do as we explore more of this is really pay attention to those senses and bring some intentionality.

(10:20):
'cause like you said, taste isn't something that you normally like, really think about.
It's usually touch, sight, and sound.
Those are the big ones.
I'm always tasting my pussy, but you are.
Yeah.
You are.
And yeah, it's not everybody is doing that, but it's also really fun, like doing massages and having blueberries there.
Yeah.
Or berries or chocolate or whipped cream.

(10:41):
You can go as crazy and as sadistic as like hot sauce, but that needs to be negotiated before.
And that obviously well, yeah, just being more intentional.
I think a common thing people do might be to like light a candle, but also just like really, paying attention to okay, what sense does my partner like, or what sense do I like and how can I weave those into some of the things that I do? So I think that's one really cool thing is these things are always around, but really.

(11:06):
Paying attention to them and really being mindful about the census.
And I think that brings a really good point of, we talk about negotiation a lot, and negotiation is a term that you'll hear a lot in the lifestyle of kink and BDSM.
But it's also a term that's used in modern day life for a lot of other things.
In the lifestyle of kink negotiation simply means sitting down with your partner or partners, whoever is gonna be in that scene with you, and really talking about like the roles in that scene, the energy that you want in it, any triggers that you might have.

(11:41):
Your hard boundaries, your soft boundaries, what those limits look like if you're doing a pain scene, like what your current desired pain level is.
And that area that top can play in with that.
Really asking these are the toys that I have.
Are there anything here, is there anything here that you would not like to explore? What are your favorite sensory plays? And a lot of people have never been asked this, so what are some of your favorite things that you like to taste? What are your favorite songs? What are some of your favorite noises? What do you like? Hard touch over, soft touch.

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Do you like pinwheels versus feathers? And if they don't know what that is, show them.
So a negotiation is also a time to explore the toys that we have here as well, especially with like wax play.
Temperature play.
Do we like ice? Do we like playing with fire? Do we like playing with wax? And if they don't know, doing a little demonstration, talking about that beforehand, rather than possibly just jumping straight into that in a scene.

(12:38):
Yeah.
And scaring your partner.
And so when we talk about kink and negotiation, like it's a time to really talk about everything, lay everything out, and still a super sexy way.
But it creates those edges that you get to play in and that safe container for both of you to know this is the space that's being held.
It's also where we can talk about safe words.

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We can talk about what disa disassociation means.
And if you are somebody that disassociates a lot, like five senses can be a really cool way to bring your partner back into yourself.
But you have to be able to know that you are disassociating.
Yeah, that is something that I've also created here as an outline for scenes, because you don't know what you don't know and what you might love.

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Like I love soft touches, but I have a friend that if I touch her softly, like she might actually punch me.
She does not like to be tickled, and so it's really important to never assume, but we get to ask and we get to explore and we get to be curious about it.
Yeah.
It just creates the conversation and then the conversation leads to exploration and demonstration and all the Asians.
But yeah, negotiation is really important.

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And like you mentioned, if you don't know, it doesn't mean you have to explore something for the first time, like in a scene or in an intimate experience.
You can literally just be like, okay, take the pinwheel and run it across your body and see what it feels like.
Like it doesn't have to be a formal thing.
It can be very just casual and exploratory at first, so that you're not like I don't wanna say no to that 'cause I'm not sure, but I also don't wanna say yes because I'm not sure.

(14:10):
Yeah.
So you can really just play around and have that conversation just outside of whatever intimate or sensual setting that you plan on doing.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And as somebody who is.
Who's some, if you're stepping into a sensory play usually there's gonna be a top and a bottom to that.
Because there's somebody who's gonna be giving the play.
And so it's really important as the top for you to really sit and listen and also understand how your tools work.

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And so if you're going to ask somebody, Hey, can I do wax play on you? This is when you should know and be able to fully educate your partner of, this is what I'm gonna do first.
This is what it might feel like.
These are the pain scores to be expected.
This is what cleanup looks like and what their role is.
You don't have to do anything.
I just want you to communicate one to five.

(14:57):
What was that pain score? And I know from the pre-negotiations we wanna stay at a three.
Cool.
I'm gonna keep you at a one to two and a three is hitting that harder limit that we've already talked about.
It's really important to have those clear expectations of roles, and it might take some time to figure that out.
And it's okay that it's gonna take some time to figure that out.
That's why it's so important to communicate and to talk after, during, before you can make it super sexy.

(15:24):
Sunny and I, we negotiate before almost every scene that we have.
That involves some sort of kink or a fetish because it's important to understand those roles and what we truly desire out of it too.
When we get to make a scene, we get to make a scene.
And that's a really exciting thing.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I think like at minimum we're always talking about okay, is there anything you want or don't want? Just broadly, even if we're not like, actually, talking through an entire scene, it's just okay.

(15:53):
Are there any toys, is there anything specifically that you're not feeling or that you are feeling today? At minimum? Yeah.
Or names to call each other.
And that kind of sets the Yeah.
The tone of it.
But yeah, let's dive into some of the senses and what we can kinda do with those.
Yeah.
So we'll start with sound.
A lot of these you don't actually have to go to the store for at all.

(16:14):
Some of them you might have to practice a little bit sitting in front of a mirror and practicing dirty talk with yourself, or if you're doing self-pleasure and play like.
Try to sound a little bit more what does it feel like when you are exploring yourself to let out those moans for the first time, to let out those deeper breaths and to become a little bit more auditory? Sound is such a sensual sensation for so many of us, but we're also shamed by sound for so many men, I will say.

(16:44):
That it's hard sometimes to get guys to, to say what feels really good and dirty talk is an art.
You are so good at it, but it's definitely an art that you've had to practice over and over, and you get into a flow state with it.
And it's really sexy.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And sometimes it's still a little awkward, just like words jumbled together.
There's a lot going on at times, but it's okay.

(17:06):
It's still most of the time you don't even notice.
I don't, I'm so deep into whatever that it's yeah.
That's great.
Yeah.
Commands are another way that you can use sound music.
Obviously setting a tone is really important for music, so creating like an intentional playlist is really cool.
Yeah.
I will say, I'm so sensitive to sound that if a song comes on that just, I can't stand, I'll actually like, can we stop really quick and go change the music? Like it was sound is so polling for me, but when we have a really juicy playlist and I can even drop some of our favorite ones, like it really can help me drop into whatever space, whether that is a little and small space or this like slutty submissive space or even like a big power space.

(17:52):
Music is a power source for me.
It is, yeah.
And I think music can also like really help you figure out what mood you might be in.
Like with like you mentioned sometimes you've put on a playlist and you're like, Nope, not it, like that's not what I'm do all the time.
Yeah.
Not feeling it.
So I think that's one thing is if you're, setting the intention, okay, I do want to play, or I do want to set aside time and explore yourself, but you're not sure what mood you're in, start playing some music and that might help you understand, okay, am I feeling this or am I feeling that? And then once you land on it, you can go down that rabbit hole.

(18:30):
So it could almost give you a direction.
Some of our favorite is just fun sex to a big wild radio station on Spotify.
Oh yeah.
Yeah.
We love big wild.
Yeah.
So shout out.
The other thing with sound that you can do is like impact toys.
So whether that is like claps or if you have.
Toys that make a loud thump, whether you're even touching your partner with it, it can really elicit ooh, we're gonna drop into something really spice that just made my pussy wet.

(18:57):
We're gonna drop into something really spicy.
And that's when you can also really start to play with like your bottom a little bit.
You can do like location sound, so you can make a snapping noise or a slapping noise over here and then spank them on the left side so that they're getting pulled in all these directions.
So you can do a really sensual sensory play or you can almost do an overstimulation at times, which is a really fun thing that I would like to explore.

(19:22):
Yeah.
And then a SMR play.
This is something that's actually an edge play for me.
I almost cannot stand it.
Yeah, I know.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I've messed around with these microphones with you before when we were setting up and you're like, please.
Stop making that noise in my ears.
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's really interesting 'cause it's so contextual.
So much of this is contextual, but yeah.
If I hear somebody like chomping or chewing, like my skin is like trying to crawl off of my body, but there's certain times that if you nipple on my ear or you're whispering in my ear and it gets a little sloppy with your tongue, like it turns on so much.

(19:56):
Which is really confusing for partners.
But this is where we learn.
And I guess we can also in our c negotiation, be like, why don't we try nibbling on my ears? Let's see if I like that.
Then we can ask that instead of just assuming I don't like it or I do like it.
'cause it's always so important, like consent can constantly change even in a scene where you're like, actually, I know we talked about this, but that's making me go crazy.

(20:19):
Yeah.
Yeah.
You can always change your mind.
I can always change your mind.
And then on the other side of the senses, like those are all like enhancing other things you can do is deprive sound.
This is something that we have not explored a lot with yet.
I think we've done one scene where we've never put on noise canceling headphones, but we've put on like blindfold.

(20:40):
No, and you've Yeah.
Like we haven't.
Necessarily taken away sound as in just completely removed it.
We've put music on like in headphones.
Yeah.
We haven't said no, this, you're just gonna sit in silence, which would be interesting.
That is an edge space as well.
So sensory deprivation in the sense of noise canceling headphones, earplugs.

(21:00):
Another thing that you can do for sound is gags, like gagging somebody so that they can't make sounds.
You're depriving them of that release in that sense.
It's a type of bondage, it's a type of sensory deprivation.
It's also an oral fixation thing.
Or even just saying you can't make noise at all.
'cause you can still make noise with a gag.

(21:20):
Yeah.
So even like setting up, like setting that rule is just I don't wanna hear a sound.
Or I'm not gonna say anything.
Yeah.
And or covering my mouth.
Yeah.
Yeah.
There's so many ways you could deprive it as well.
Yeah.
And I would say obviously.
Explore the enhancing for if this is new to you, explore the enhancing so that sound is a safe space before you start to take away.

(21:42):
Obviously yeah, ask your partner and talk to your partner about what that feels like for them.
Because obviously lots of triggers, lots of trauma.
That can be a really scary space.
And when you do cover somebody's mouth, make sure that you also have safe tap points.
They know how to get out, whether that is snapping, whether that is tapping whether that's a certain amount of blinks, closing eyes.

(22:02):
Like it's really important to have ways to close and to ways to, to tap out when you need to for safe words.
Especially when you're taking away certain options.
This is also a really great way to deprive some sensations.
So this makes it a little bit harder to breathe.
I can't talk as much.
And it also just creates a, like a bubble, this container.

(22:24):
So gas masks are something that are incredibly popular.
This is one that we have.
And as soon as you put this on, you drop into kind of a fish space.
That's how I, the best way I can explain it is you just like a fish outta water for a second.
Yeah.
Until you drop into it.
Yeah.
Cool.
Site, what about ways to enhance sight? What are some things that we like to do? There's so many ways to enhance sight.

(22:49):
I think the most common way that people enhance sight is by the things that they wear or the things that they don't wear.
The things that they cover up or the things that they reveal.
Yeah, an example of what you're wearing, but also lingerie.
I think there's so many things the way that you do makeup the revealing like crotchless panties or things like that.

(23:14):
I think there's a lot of ways you can enhance sight, could even through pornography, like putting on, putting actually something for you to watch along with what's happening.
To you.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You can soften a room by adding candles.
Or nice soft lighting.
We love colored lightings.
We're light sluts.
Yeah.
Lights do a lot of fun things for us to be able to drop into certain spaces.

(23:36):
Colors there's so much psychology around the color red or the color blue or the color green.
So you could even, go into like color theory and try to figure out, like red is, very associated with like sexy and sensual and yeah.
Yeah.
Even just colors can be a thing.
And then there's ways that you can do the opposite of that as well of depriving it.
You can harden a room.

(23:56):
We've done like an asylum scene before.
Yeah.
Where it was like, I was in a straight jacket in an unfinished basement essentially, and it was like a padded wall.
There was nothing.
Really soft around you can do scenes like doctor office scenes or classroom scenes I think are both kinda sadistic and hardening.

(24:18):
So even like I was talking about, like the things you wear, like costumes I think that's where like role playing really comes out is, the actual like costume that you put on, like you said, the doctor or the asylum patient.
I was wearing scrubs during that one, so I definitely, yeah, he wore my old scrubs.
It was actually really cute.
Shout out to figs.

(24:39):
Yeah.
And I think it can even go into like, when we're dropping into a dummy scene, like there are certain times that I leave my clothes on and I have a strap like that is visually putting us into a different space as well.
Or even just eye contact.
Eye contact is huge, like sustained eye contact or again, eye contact's not allowed.

(25:00):
When you talk about depriving, it's no, you're actually not allowed to look at me.
Yeah.
We can do blindfolds for that.
You can do silk wraps for that.
If you don't have a silk wrap at home, you can do a tie.
There's so many ways that you can play with this.
And obviously checking in with your partner as well.
I always say enhance it before you deprive.
Yeah.
So that they can get really comfortable with both of that.

(25:22):
Something you can do.
One of my favorite things to do when we do solo play is to like dance in front of a mirror.
I love dancing and stripping in front of a mirror.
Bringing a mirror in for sex with Sunny is such.
Such a good way to play because we get to watch, especially in a doggy position, where I don't get to make as much eye contact.

(25:42):
I can actually see it almost in this like third person of what's up? Yeah.
Mirrors are really good.
That's a really good one.
Yeah.
We love mirrors.
One thing that we have not done a lot of is sensory hoods, so I.
Don't necessarily love a lot of things on my face.
So I have not done a lot of hood play, but it's something that I am open to exploring, especially now that I have my extensions out.

(26:03):
My hair was always in the way, especially even with this guy here.
So hoods or even just like playing in a completely black room, I joked around saying that we should get like night vision goggles, kinda like stepbrothers.
I think it would be really cute and funny, but just playing in a completely dark room.
Yeah.
And seeing what that is because we realized so heavily on visuals as well.

(26:26):
Like we've gotten Yeah.
Pretty far into just what we would call our like, vanilla sucks and all of a sudden suddenly you'll get up and he is I need to turn a light on.
I need to see you.
I wanna see you.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Facial expressions.
Yeah.
Oh, I love it.
All right.
Taste.
What are some ways that we can enhance taste? Food is a big one.
Drinks, I think any sort of, and definitely.

(26:50):
Working with the preferences of your partner.
Like obviously it's not like here's a cup of hot sauce.
But yeah, I think food drinks like you mentioned I'm trying to figure out the way to describe this, but other than pussy juice, but like my nectar Yeah.
Sweet honey nectar from my, between the legs or cu or any other flavors that you can think of? Yeah, or I guess doing stuff like, you haven't done this a lot, but doing stuff with things you put on your lips.

(27:14):
When you kiss you could put some stuff on or eat something and then kiss.
We even have like grapefruit, lube that tastes pretty Yeah, I was gonna say flavored lubes, which.
There's not a lot of good tasting ones.
I haven't tasted a lot, but yeah, we should do a taste test.
Oh my God.
One thing I think is really important is brushing your teeth before playing with your partner.
This is something that like, once you get into a relationship, like you just think I need to brush my teeth in the morning and at night, but brush your teeth before you kiss your partner, brush your teeth before you play with your partner.

(27:42):
Like it can be such a nice sensation to have that minty breath flint mints.
It makes these wonderful tingly mints that are really good for blow jobs.
'cause they make you hyper salivate, but they also just do some really fun things to your tongue as well.
And they can be fun to pass back and forth.
I like suckers.
Suckers are fun.
Berries are really fun.

(28:03):
I love whipped cream even though I'm not supposed to have it anymore.
Yeah.
Even just having a flavored water, Capri sun, like juice boxes are really big in our house.
Yeah.
Yeah, it's always good to just take a break sometimes and just sip a Gatorade, before you get back into the game.
Yeah.
Always good to hydrate for sure.
Oh depriving taste.
So I have a couple of these.
What are some ways that you think you could deprive taste? He hasn't actually seen this yet, so this is a good test for him.

(28:29):
Deprive taste.
Yeah.
I have no idea.
So gags your mouth.
Coverings again.
Okay.
Okay.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Simple things like that.
Yeah.
Metal or leather, like bits or gags.
'cause those do taste like.
Certain things.
Ooh.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Like even this little gag over here, this plastic silicone one it has a taste to it.

(28:50):
Yeah.
That's true.
Yeah.
And then this one says forcing one taste.
So a dominant can control when and how flavors are experienced.
So this can be teasing with food.
This can be come eating, like if if we've talked about negotiated like a cu eating scene, like you're gonna, you're gonna force your cock down my throat and have me eat that cu I'm saying that on a podcast.

(29:12):
Yeah.
Perfect.
Is that all of our senses? Oh no, that's not all of our senses.
No.
There's two more, right? We've got smell and touch.
Yeah.
Ooh.
So let's do smell.
Yeah, I think I touched on this a little bit, but like candles I think are a big one or just any sort of aroma that you can put into the room, whether that's oil burners, I think perfumes are also another big one.

(29:39):
I think a lot of, a lot of people overlook how much perfume is used or what's the cologne? And cologne can be overstimulating for some too.
That is actually, yeah, I have it in both.
Overpowering can be like, where your sense of smell is so consumed by essential oils or cologne and perfume that you're just like I actually can't even think right now.

(30:02):
Coffee is one of the things that actually does that to me.
If you were to hand me a bunch of coffee beans and just hold that there it's a really powerful scent.
Essential oils one of my favorite things.
When I need to come back into my body or I'm anxious or I feel overwhelmed, or I wanna step into my powerful dom space is rose, so a rose essential oil.
If I wanna drop into a submissive space, I actually use peony.

(30:25):
They're very similar.
So they're very different.
One has thorns.
Yeah.
Yeah.
What else do I have for this? Yeah.
Food and drink, play.
We've talked about all of this incense, but obviously don't pour a bunch of incense and candles and such into the room if your partner does not like those smells, because it can be really hard to get that out of there as well.

(30:46):
Yeah.
Or asthma.
Like I am a full-blown asthma and I will try to put like an incense in the room and all of a sudden I can't breathe.
So yeah, smell.
Smell is also hard for me because I don't have a great sense of smell, so I am a little deprived just in general of it.
Yeah.
So that could be a cute thing, putting like a nose clip over my nose and putting rose essential oil in front of me, so I just can't even smell it like such a tease you want your power, you don't have it.

(31:10):
Very sad, sadistic.
Yeah.
Whatever.
And then we've got touch.
Yeah.
Touch.
It's a big one.
Yeah, touch is a huge one.
I think touch is, again, I think one of the biggest ones for a lot of people when it comes to intimacy.
And I also think that, and this kind of jumps ahead a little bit, but when we were talking about sensory play, and one of the sense, you're like, what kind of sensory play would you be into? My immediate reaction was I don't like impact.

(31:38):
I think that yeah.
Your immediate reaction was, sensory play is painful.
Oh.
Or it's just it's, yeah.
Sensory play is impact.
Yeah.
Specifically, and I think that might be just my experience, but I think.
It's a common thing where it's yeah, the sense that you're exploring the most when you're intimate with someone or having sex with someone is touch or feeling.

(31:59):
So sensory play, I think, yeah, my mind just went to flogging or impact.
And that's when I got to like really be curious with you and be No, but you love massages.
You love like massages is one of Sunny's like love languages.
Yeah.
He loves to be worshiped in that sense.
He loves soft touch, he loves hand jobs, he loves oral, like he loves kisses.
Kisses is like one of the biggest things that turns you on.

(32:22):
And so when you kind reframe it if you understand the full spectrum of the play, I love impact.
And so he gets to see no, I don't, I, he doesn't wanna be impacted.
But if you can reframe it and have that conversation with your partner and be like, no, but what if.
What if we actually tried these other things? One thing that's really hard for me is I can actually disassociate really easily with touch if it's not done correctly.

(32:47):
And I don't love disassociating an a sensual or even sexual, especially in a sexual space.
But there's nothing worse than getting a massage and it's like the wrong touch.
And I'm not the best at sometimes speaking up and being like, can I have more? I just kinda suffer and I don't ever wanna do that in a sexual scene ever again.

(33:07):
So it's important for me to be able to ask for more touch.
Like pushing and gripping is one and playing with touch, like that's totally free.
You've got hands.
I think it just comes back to being intentional with all of these things we're talking about senses is, paying attention to them, but also being intentional from the giver side.
And especially with touch, because I think it is a common thing to just like wanderly, like touch someone but actually be intentional and, explore them versus just touch them mindlessly touching anybody.

(33:38):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Mindlessly touching.
So I think we should not be mindlessly touching anybody.
No.
Yeah.
And that's why you get to learn your partner.
Yeah.
And because it's also really hard if you're like, if touch me in a way, and if I did not like this and I wasn't comfortable saying that, it's a really hard space for me to be in, especially as a woman telling a man I don't love how you're touching me.

(34:00):
So saying can I actually get a different kind of touch? Or that tickles, what if we tried this or.
I actually don't wanna be touched today.
Yeah.
And creating that safety for those spaces to say no, even to our own, especially to our own partners, to everybody.
Our consent is constantly evolving.
Our interests are constantly evolving, and day to day, we want and desire different things, and this is a really good time to explore with yourself, especially in self pleasure.

(34:29):
Like instead of just going straight for like your pussy or your cock, grabbing some massage oil and just starting with your legs.
Starting with your feet, rub yourself how you want to be rubbed by a partner that loves you.
Start with your relationship with yourself first.
Rub your hands, your neck, your breasts.
Oh breast massage from yourself is so good.

(34:51):
And then going into it, but you've built up this energy, you've built up this touch.
So many of these senses that we've already talked about, like you can do solo and you should do solo.
Oh yeah.
This is how you get to learn oh my gosh, I did this.
I wanna do this with a partner potentially.
Or it can just be for you and your space, your private little space of I masturbate and I eat berries and cream and it's so good.

(35:15):
Yeah.
Yeah.
No, that sounds lovely.
And it is lovely.
Ways that we could, oh a couple other things that I have on here.
We're gonna get into all of our toys.
We don't have our electro wand, which we should maybe grab.
Ooh, yeah, I can grab that.
So we've got feathers and fur.
So different textures are really important.
Latex.
Is a really powerful space for a lot of people.

(35:36):
It's also a very submissive space for a lot of people.
So depending on who you are, like the sensation of latex is really different.
Wax, I'll show you some of my favorite wax candles that we have flogging in impact play.
We have a couple of our favorite ones.
We have a huge closet full of impact toys.
I grabbed a couple of them.
Cold versus warm.
Yeah.
Temperature.
I don't necessarily love cold play, but I do.

(35:59):
If it's with wax play.
Yeah.
I do the contrast.
But if you just bring an ice cube to me or a cold toy, no.
Yeah.
Sharp versus soft.
And I love both.
Sunny doesn't necessarily like sharp as much.
No.
I'm somebody that could possibly get into needle play.
And that's a, an edgier thing to say.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I like pokes electro play.

(36:22):
So we have a violet wand that we really like.
We also have a tens unit that's really cool to play with.
And I have a YouTube demonstration on how to play with a tens unit with a partner.
But that is a really cool way to literally feel a currency, like through yourself, into your partner and create this little electro field while you're touching and kissing.
And we have not touched our genitals with it yet.

(36:44):
It's spicy.
Yeah.
We have not gotten the balls for it yet.
And this is when you can also do biting, scratching, slapping, like depending on what you've negotiated.
And even like CBT.
So if you're into like cocking ball torture, like all in context.
Sonny didn't think he ever wanted his balls kicked until he wanted his balls kicked.
You don't know until and it's just like harder, do it.

(37:04):
And I'm like, do it.
I'm gonna do it.
And then depriving touch, obviously this is bondage, love bondage and there's so many different types of bondage.
We've got gloves.
Gloves are actually like one of our favorite things to use.
This is such a little like a FMR.
I think it works if you just say it.

(37:25):
Yeah.
Gloves.
So I actually have sterile gloves.
I know how to put these on.
I'm not gonna put them on professionally right now, but I'll show you later.
Even just like the snapping too, that could be a thing like when you were touching your leather, like leather could be a latex.
Yeah, latex.
Yeah, sorry.
Latex can be a sound thing.
But gloves, what gloves do is one, they provide a protective barrier.

(37:48):
So especially me with nails.
I will not give a prostate massage without gloves, not just because of the nails.
That is one thing I wanna protect my partner, but two, with a prostate massage.
We're playing in possibly a dirty, dirtier area if prepping hasn't been completely done, but.
The third thing is I'm using a lot of lube and if I have a lot of lube with a lot of lingerie or a lot of hair on just my hands, I have to now stop the scene and find a towel.

(38:17):
If you like, double glove, you can do your prostate massage with all your lube, take off one of those gloves, and then you have your free hand to do a hand job to start pegging to, to take that off and get back into another type of play.
But lube doesn't have to slow you down anymore.
It also creates a completely smooth surface.
So I have pretty calloused hands from climbing, and now when I go into anybody's pussy or ass, like I have a very soft hand, but it is also a sensory deprivation in a sense.

(38:48):
Because there is a membrane and a barrier in between us now.
So it can be a sense of sensory deprivation like it does.
It does feel different.
I actually love being fingered with gloves on.
Because it feels so soft.
But there is also this thing that happens in the back of my mind that feels like I'm at like a gynecologist and it brings up some of that gynecologist trigger and trauma.

(39:10):
And I'm like, whew, okay.
But I get to rewrite that.
Yeah, exactly.
So yeah, gloves are a really cool way to explore that.
We've got vac bags or mummification, we have not tried it yet, but something that I'm possibly interested in.
They're obviously a little bit more expensive, so I would wanna try it before I buy it kind of thing.

(39:34):
Teasing and playing with energy is really cool.
Especially as a brat, like teasing is a really fun thing to do.
Edge play is really fun.
Like literally edging somebody, edge play in general is really fun, but edging somebody is so that they can't come.
That denial of touch.
And then chastity cages.
Yeah.
Those are all of our senses.

(39:54):
Cool.
Yeah.
And yeah, I will send this out.
You guys can have this so that you have things to, to look at with your partner and go over.
I even have like cute little scenes I have created together.
And then a negotiation outline that's pretty straightforward that you can use for your partner yourself, any partners that you're gonna jump into until you create your own.

(40:19):
Yeah.
Should we talk about the toys that we have? You wanna talk about the toys, or you wanna talk about the scenes that we wanna explore? Ooh, yeah.
What scenes do you wanna explore? I've got at least one.
I was thinking a little bit about this before we started recording.
So the one like I mentioned, we were talking and I was like, oh, I don't really know how much sensory play I would be into.
But then I started thinking about did you just add air to that? Oh, nice.

(40:46):
I'm so sorry.
I'm getting stuck.
Okay, good.
Yep.
Tell me about your scene.
So one of the things that I came up with, we were like driving somewhere when we were talking about this, just, casual car conversation.
And one of the ideas I had was to be blindfolded and then to have you like, because I love talking and being talked to, that's one of my favorite things.

(41:10):
To have you prerecord something where you're talking to me and then I listen to that.
So I'm blind, I can't see what you're doing.
And then I also technically can't hear.
What's going on in the room, but you're talking me to me the whole time, and I don't have specific direction on exactly what you're saying.

(41:30):
I'm gonna make that for you.
Yeah.
And I'm not sure if it, I would necessarily want like a JOI or anything like that.
That's never necessarily been my thing.
But I also thought it would be helpful for you to obviously be able to know where you are, where I am in the recording that I'm listening to.
So you could give me like cues of things to do, raise your right hand or say something to me or just the signposts, so you know, okay, this is where he is, this is what I'm saying to him right now, so that it can help you, guide you through what you're doing in the room and to me.

(42:04):
Yeah.
So I think that would be super fun.
I.
One of the other things, and we obviously don't have the technology to do this right now, personally, it exists.
But I think like something to do with VR where I'm like wearing something and I'm watching like either our porn or something specific.
I don't know what again, I, and yeah, just like actually having complete my senses not taken away but somewhere else transported somewhere else.

(42:32):
And then is anything happening to your cock or is anything else happening to you or do you wanna just watch VR port? No, something's happening to me.
Yeah.
Perfect.
Yeah.
Not sure what, I didn't fully flood.
That was like the other idea that I had.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So we're buy an Oculus.
Perfect.
Yeah.
But those are the two big ones.

(42:53):
Cool.
I have a couple, the one big one that I have is I wanna do an over stimulation.
Where.
There's probably three of you.
I wanna say one woman, two guys.
Okay.
I was like I don't know if we have the technology to make three of me yet.
That would also be a lot of sunny.
So like a foursome male.
Male, female.

(43:13):
Female.
And I wanna be blindfolded and then overstimulated.
And I want every one of you to fuck me with a either a dildo or a cock.
And I don't know who's doing what.
So all my holes are being used.
I'm being overstimulated with either music or earmuffs or breath play.

(43:36):
I'm being moved, so I'm literally just a doll.
I'm being positioned in whatever positions you want me to be in.
You're overwhelming my senses of smell.
You're telling me to eat things.
If you want me to eat things you're telling me to talk, to not talk.
You're, but I'm completely blindfolded and I don't know, I know voices obviously, but I don't know who is doing what and where.

(43:59):
It can also be one of those things where all three of you guys are in the room and you overstimulate me, and then all of a sudden, all three of you step back and I'm not stimulated at all.
And so then I'm deprived of all of it.
So it's this yeah.
In and out of play.
Push and pull.
Yeah.
Yeah.
That's, just, it's like an overstimulation gang bang.
And that's what I'm getting from this.

(44:19):
What is a gang bang? Is gang bang.
I thought a gang bang was like five.
I don't, I haven't looked.
Looked it up.
We should.
Stimulation gang bang.
With friends.
Yeah.
With friends, not people.
I don't know.
I wanna be able to know that I'm safe While blindfolded the whole time I wanna be blindfolded.
Yeah.
And afterwards we can debrief.
And I can talk about who I thought was what, but I actually we can record it.

(44:42):
And I don't even necessarily know if I wanna see the recording.
I want it to be like such a mystery of I have no idea.
I've got some ideas.
Okay.
Sick.
He's got some ideas.
Yeah.
Got some ideas.
Is that your big one? That's my big one.
And then I have a lot that I just wanna teach.
Yeah.
Like I, I do wanna teach body mapping.
I wanna teach flogging.

(45:03):
I would like you to get more comfortable with impact play.
So just using me as a mannequin with all of our toys.
Having that verbal communication.
'cause you're so good.
He's such a good juggler.
And he knows how to like Florentine flog, but he has not done it to me yet.
So I wanna just be able to drop into that space with you.
I'm a big student, I'm a big teacher at heart and so that is my biggest thing is just wanting to share it.

(45:25):
I love wax play.
I would love to do wax play with you.
Like I know one of the things you've described is just being like completely covered almost like borderline, mummified by wax.
Like just like as much wax as we can possibly like, cover every inch of your skin.
I think that would be super cool.
And I'm just laying there uhhuh and I think it would be really cool to like, be laying on my side with probably my hand or something under me.

(45:50):
'cause I'm assuming this will be like a 45 minute to an hour play.
And I want flowers.
And wax and flowers and wax.
So I want the flowers to get stuck to me with the wax as well.
Super cool.
Yeah.
Okay.
Laying on like silk or something.
Yeah.
Yeah.
But I would love to do that.
I know that's something you've mentioned and I think that would be really cool.
It would take a lot of candles.

(46:11):
We've got a lot of candles.
Yeah.
So we're gonna do that, that you'll see that on our page this month.
Yeah, that would, I did not fart the late text.
Oh we're learning.
We're learning.
Okay, cool.
So you wanna do some show and tell? Yeah, I wanna do some show and tell.
Okay.
All right.
So I have so many things to show.

(46:34):
Yeah.
Yeah.
This is something I'm incredibly excited about.
So we just got this from Peep Show.
Sunny's gonna hook this up to my bathtub.
Oh yeah.
It is the woman, so if you have the womanizer, you know how good this brand is.
But this is the womanizer shower attachment, and it has.
Literally attachments for masturbation for pussy owners like setting.

(46:57):
It's not just the good old massage, the thumper.
No, it's not just the thumper.
It has three water jets, two in one use for showering.
And so you can wash yourself and Yeah.
Wash yourself.
Yeah.
It's for washing yourself.
And so one of my favorite things to do is a bubble bath.
That is one of my favorite senses is to set in hot water, and I have never been able to get off in a shower yet, or a bath.

(47:22):
And I would like to be able to do that.
So Yeah, I know we broke one of your dildos trying to do that.
We did not.
Everything is waterproof guys.
Yeah.
Be careful.
So yeah, this is actually on our website.
All of these toys that I'm gonna show you are on our website, sunny and sky.com,
under toy guide if you're looking for any of them.
So I will, I'm gonna probably use this for the first time on camera so you know, 'cause you need to know how to use it.

(47:47):
For science.
For science.
That's literally for science.
And sorry for everybody that's listening to this.
This is a big show and tell.
So you're gonna have to go to YouTube and watch this.
Yeah.
Yep.
I'll do my best of saying it out loud.
Yeah.
The next thing I have are candles from a Sparky.

(48:07):
This is a brand that's Sunny found actually.
And they are my favorite body safe candles.
I've used a lot of body safe candles.
These ones burn at just the right temperature which means that it is beginner friendly, but also you can make it warm enough that if somebody likes spicy or wax play, it can be great for both.
I have done two wax demos on two women for the first time that they had wax, and they loved these candles.

(48:32):
They also.
Beautiful.
They're so pretty.
They look like they're so pretty Roses or peonies, like they're neon.
Some of them are UV reactive and they come with this cute little flashlight, this like blacklight flashlight.
So yeah they're amazing.
So they're super fun.
Super fun.
The other thing that this company does that I really appreciate is they give you a drop cloth.

(48:54):
So that, 'cause this is a messy play.
I will do the light's still on a full demonstration of wax play 'cause it is like my favorite on our spicier pages.
But it's, it is a messy thing.
We've ruined sheets, we've ruined some bedding.
We've ruined some clothes.
So this is really nice that they give this to you.
And then we also have these long, tall candles because I wanna be a centerpiece.

(49:17):
Yeah.
Got those ah, help you hand me stuff and I'll help.
Yeah, I'll manage help.
We have more candles as you can tell.
I really like Wax.
Boy, we have some pillars as well.
The sky.
Look how gorgeous the sky is.
So pillars are really nice because there's a lot of wax here.
It'll take a long time to burn this.
These are low temp burning candles, so you don't have to wait forever.

(49:41):
They don't burn too hot, and there's instructions in there.
I will obviously give an instructional video, but they supply the instructions too, which is a really nice thing.
All right, what else do we got? What else do we get? Keep going with touch.
So from Peep Show as well our absolute favorite brand they sent us a cat of nine tails and I am really excited to use this guy as a flogger.

(50:11):
It also has this really fun textured, it almost looks like an anal bead handle.
So I'm excited to use this guy.
He's really easy to like, get perfectly on target.
And he's a little spicy.
It's very pretty.
It's very pretty.
Yeah, very pretty.
Ooh, another thing I have here is the enjoy wand.

(50:32):
If you have anjo wand, you know how wonderful these are.
They're also incredibly heavy.
But the reason I have this for sensory play is because all metal toys I really like when they are warmed up.
I don't want them hot, but I also don't want them cold.
You can technically put this in the freezer, and if you are into it, if you like ice play I have an ice slut.

(50:53):
But ice is not for me.
But having this in like a warm ball bowl of water before putting this into either my pussy or my ass, like this feels really nice.
And just the weight of this too, like we were talking about sensations, like weight could absolutely be a one of those as well.
Like this just has a certain feel to it.
Another thing from Peep Show that I'm really excited about is this mit.

(51:15):
So I have a MIT that is furry on both sides but on one of the sides are some spikes.
And so you could really play with some fun, loving, sensory, and then just almost that bear claw of scratching Ooh.
Or like biting when you smack.
This is something I'm really excited to play with.
And you really like, like furry things like you have Yeah, I have a fur fetish.

(51:38):
You have a couple pairs of like fur gloves.
I've even fucked them before, which was really fun.
It just happened, but fur is really nice.
Yeah.
I, we we're discovering what Sky is into and fur is one of them.
Yes.
This is a really fun flogger.
It's got a little industrial middle, but on one side of it is really soft and furry again.

(51:59):
And then on the other side of it is like this, if you've ever made like friendship bracelets, it's got the same like plastic string material.
So you can go back and forth with this one and this guy bites you.
It's spicy.
It's really spicy.
Yeah.
Yeah.
He, yeah.
Yeah, the furry floggers are really fun.

(52:20):
We have you, you didn't bring it out, but we have one that's mixed with leather and fur too.
Which is super fun.
We have a of, yeah, we'll make a video just of those.
Yeah.
I like fur.
My fucks.
What can I say? This is a cute little, it basically looks like a knife, but this is what we can use to get the wax off of bodies, which is really nice.

(52:40):
But it's also really cool to play with these harder edges too, when we're playing with things.
Yeah, we're not talking about knife play today.
Nope.
Not on the, not in the outline.
This is a pinwheel, or known as, I believe it's a Wharton wheel.
Oh, Wharton wheel.
And it, these come in so many different sizes and shapes and this one has four, five really spiky wheels on it.

(53:05):
And this one's really fun to play with.
Pressure.
So really soft.
It doesn't feel like much, it just feels like nail scratching.
If you do more, it feels like needles.
And obviously doing it in spaces like closer to your genitals on the inside of your legs, on the inside of your arms, it feels so different.
So it's really important when you get these toys, body map, figure out where you like it.
Yeah.
And this one's really nice, I think as a beginner toy because it spreads things out.

(53:31):
Like a lot of Wharton wheels you'll see will be one single pinwheel, and those are a lot spicier than this specific one is.
We should get some of those.
I want one.
This is one of my favorite.
It just says, pain on the side of this.
I love this.
How much do you think this thing weighs? Like four pounds, five pounds, probably something like that.

(53:51):
Yeah.
Yeah.
So this flogger is all leather.
It's beautiful.
It has these tapered, tapered tongues on it.
And this handle.
This thing means fucking business dude.
It's super fuddy.
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's so good.
And it doesn't hurt too bad unless you really want it too.
Like you can make this mean business or this one just really plays with the sound aspect of things.

(54:14):
If you bring this out, somebody thinks they're gonna get hurt.
Yeah.
But it's just the sound.
It's a good one.
It's a good little tease.
I fucking love this thing.
It's like a wand.
It's a little bit harder to yield for people who are not like super experienced in flogging.
'cause the handle's huge.
And then we have multiple ball gags.
This is just one that I grabbed.

(54:35):
I actually can't use these ball gags yet because my mouth has so much TMJ that I can't open it comfortably.
So I use a soft like leather bit is what I actually have.
But these, this is a pretty standard sized ball gag that we got on peep show as well.
Yep.
I don't have my tickler, but I have my cute pin and I realize that this would be a really cute little.

(54:57):
Sensory play as well.
Yeah.
We've had some feathers and things like that.
And feathers are super fun.
I only have a couple more things.
We have a big closet.
I haven't, I didn't get everything out.
The one thing we forgot to grab was our violet wand.
We, so we have electro play as well, which we talked about blindfolds.
And then our final little impact toy is this cute little slapper.

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This guy doesn't hurt.
My pain level's pretty high, so I can't say it doesn't hurt too much.
I don't want you to just go into impact thinking it doesn't hurt 'cause sky said it doesn't hurt.
But this one is a nice little beginner toy and it makes this really sexy slapping sound that you can do like next to somebody's ear to really fuck with them.

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Yeah, I think those are all of the toys that we grabbed.
But if you think about it, like all of your sexual toys, all of your play toys, like they're playing with a sense body oil.
Is a really nice way to enhance touch.
Oh my gosh.
ChAARI rope is an incredible way to enhance touch.
And sensation Latex furs being naked is a way to deprive touch.

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There's, just get really creative with it.
That's the really cool thing about this is it's a huge space to play in.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And I think.
Whenever you're pulling on the senses, like of course you can incorporate all of the senses into something, but if you're like diving into a specific sense, like that's, I think when aftercare can be really important because you're pulling so much, especially, or you're depriving, like if someone's been blindfolded for an hour and a half, like you have to be very intentional with how you bring them back.

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You shouldn't bring them back to party and strobe lights and super bright.
Yeah, you wanna make sure that you're very mindful with whatever you are doing, like with temperature and how you can, bring them back and take care of them in that space.
So do you wanna talk about some of the things you can do for aftercare with sensory play, And aftercare with sensory play? I think aftercare is important to do after every type of play period, even if that is just a five minute wax demonstration or.

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A podcast like we're gonna have some aftercare after this.
This is technically a scene that we dropped into to a full blown negotiated BDSM or kink scene.
What's really special about the five senses is that they can bring us back into our bodies.
So I am a firm believer of if somebody is having a multi-orgasmic experience, be there, witness it, celebrate it, like just hold that container.

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And then slowly, once they start to bring presence back into themselves, or you can start to bring, touch some, like heavier touch back into it grounding touch.
To bring them back into our bodies.
One thing that we do is we'll actually say hi.
When we're ready to talk to each other.
But it's really important for us to come back into that space and hold each other.
We stay in with each other for a little bit.

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We talk.
We turn the music down, we get a drink of water.
So if somebody's had a really over, like the scene that I wanna do with a really overstimulating experience, that's when I probably need to be held.
I need a juice box, I wanna watch a Disney movie.
I want my squishy.
Just because everything was firing all at once, but aftercare looks different for everybody.

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And this is why it's really important to even negotiate.
Your c aftercare should be negotiated in your scene negotiation.
Yeah.
So it shouldn't be a surprise when you're done with whatever the scene is.
You're not now having to ask what do you need? What does that look like? That's not the time, yeah.
Yeah.
You already know.
And don't just grab your cell phone, stay together, whatever that looks like.
But aftercare is really important and the five senses can really help to bring somebody back into that space and just calm that nervous system back down and say, Hey, we're safe.

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We're back in this body.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Extremely important.
Especially, yeah, with some of the more intense things.
Yeah.
So anything else? I've got nothing else to add.
I'm excited for all of the things we're gonna do this month and we would love to hear if there's anything that you guys get into sensory wise, we'd love to hear what your favorite sensory play is.

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Would love to hear what your favorite toys are.
Would love to hear if you're into sensory deprivation and like what that looks like for you.
So please share with us.
We love chatting with you guys on our sites.
You can find us on sunny and sky.com
under our platforms page, and we're going to be sharing this whole month on all of the sites.

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So yeah, really excited to see what we get into.
Outside of what we described.
We know we always go into things with ideas and then, that's the fun part about playing is things come up.
I forgot to say this.
My favorite, my, one of my favorite senses is actually having my hair brushed.

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So I would like you to do that Cool.
At some point today.
All right.
I'll brush your hair with the womanizer.
Okay.
Thank you guys for coming.
Thank you guys for coming.
Yeah.
Always.
And I hope you always stay curious.
Stay kinky, and thanks for being our friends.
We'll talk to you guys soon.

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See you later.