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September 29, 2025 50 mins

In this episode, we explore how so much of what we do comes down to either chasing or avoiding our emotions. We chase because we believe others have something we’re missing. We avoid because we don’t want to feel what’s already here. And while both patterns can sometimes lead to “good” outcomes, neither one ultimately brings the fulfillment we’re longing for.

We’ll also dive into how this plays out in relationships—how trying to control, manipulate, or look outside the partnership for certain feelings can keep us stuck if we don’t recognize what’s really going on inside of us.

Most importantly, we’ll talk about how to break free from this cycle. What would it look like to actually confront the feeling you’re avoiding? What do you believe you don’t already have that you’re chasing? And how do you begin to shift into a place of awareness and wholeness, instead of chasing or running away?

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