May 23, 2024 • 19 mins
Join hosts Mark Turnipseed and Tim Quinn in this engaging episode as they dive deep into the journey of personal transformation and self-love. Tim shares his inspiring story of how he transitioned into Halo 42, seeking a reboot in his life after a challenging period.
Discover how Tim's journey of emotional, spiritual, and physical renewal was influenced by Mark's coaching and the unexpected opportunities that came his way. They discuss the importance of adaptability, the impact of the pandemic on personal routines, and the significance of connecting with oneself and others.
Listen in as they explore themes of fear, resilience, and the small shifts in perspective that can lead to profound changes in life. Whether it's through beauty routines, yoga, or simply showing up for oneself, this episode offers valuable insights into navigating life's challenges with grace and positivity.
Don't miss this heartfelt conversation that reminds us all of the power of self-love and the miracles that can happen when we embrace change.
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Music.
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I'm your host, Mark Turnipseed, and this is my co-host, Tim Quinn. How are you doing?
Thanks for joining today, Tim. I would like to just interview you a little bit about Halo 42.
Oh, okay. I like a little switch it up.
So Tim, tell me, why did you get into Halo 42 in the first place?
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Why did I get into Halo 42?
Well, you know, I'd left my former career. I was down in Florida taking care of my mom.
I needed something to do to get myself back into a reboot, basically.
I needed a reboot, emotionally, spiritually, physically.
And I came across this gentleman, Mark Turnipseed, who had an online presence in coaching.
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And I thought, you know, rah, rah, rah.
Having read your book, I reached out and And fate would have it,
you were actually closing that down.
And coming to South Florida, not even a few miles from where I lived,
and it just seemed the right thing to do.
And, you know, in working with you and recognizing the talents that you use
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to kind of bring out what's already there in someone and maybe refine it, redefine it,
reboot somebody, whatever it might be. I thought, well, that's interesting.
And it's kind of similar to what I would do in my makeup world.
And from there, the conversations just kind of started to flow.
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And I remember one day asking you, you know, when it was that you first recognized your own beauty.
I don't know if I use those words exactly.
But and I remember you had a very poignant story about that.
The first time you mindfully brushed your teeth. Yeah, mindfully brushed my teeth.
And when you were telling that story, this little light was in your eyes that
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I recognize a lot in the space when I would help people going through anything.
When they would come to me.
For me, it's never been about the makeup, and it's kind of never been about the skin care.
It's just a way to intersect with our own psyche, and you kind of taught me that.
Yeah, it's about connecting with thyself, right? Right? I mean,
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it's an expression of self-love.
You know, I wonder, did you have other options?
Did you have other thoughts of like what you were going to do for a reboot?
I mean, I know you were thinking of probably the typical person going through
life has these, I feel like reboots happen to me almost every couple of weeks
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where I kind of have to reboot and have to reponder things.
But I feel like there's a lot of people who that happens more,
on a decade-type basis, and they need this big reboot and this change.
And I wonder if you had known that that was coming, or if life just kind of
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pulled that in and forced you into that?
I think it's more the latter. I think that, I mean, on reflection,
my life seems to, to every 10, 15 years, kind of reboot a little naturally.
And I think I stayed a little longer than I should have in my,
because I got comfortable, this is what happens to people, right?
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And it wasn't fun anymore, like that last year.
And I look at the pandemic and what happened as a gift to me because sometimes
if you don't take action, the universe puts something out that it forces you to, right?
And out of that came all these miracles. First of all, I got to spend two years
with my mom having the most extraordinary time that I wouldn't have done because
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I don't think I would have left that life. I thought it was everything.
I was traveling all over the world. I was in a different city every week.
I was with the most beautiful, famous people, blah, blah, blah.
I would have missed the last two years of something magical.
So I think that the reboot and
the shift came in because I wasn't quite as aware as I should have been.
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A little extra nudge, you know. It all comes with a higher purpose,
and you generally only see that higher purpose, it seems like,
retrospectively, as we look back at it.
What I kind of hear from that is that there's a high level of adaptability,
of adaptability that helps us to move from one phase of life,
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or even if that's a challenge that we're going through, being adaptable to the next situation, right?
A challenge presents itself like the AC going out, and we have to adapt.
By the way, everybody, the AC is out today, so we are rugging it tough here,
99 degrees, with little earmuffs on for the podcast.
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And it's like being kind of like in an Easy-Bake oven, but that's fine.
He has a little sweat coming up on his brows.
That's my oil. But you're right. Right. Like, being aware and being open to
change is something that not everyone taps into well.
And, you know, I talked about that years ago after I went through my whole cancer
battle, and I had to speak in front of all these people about what that was like.
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And for me, I've always kind of embraced change, so it's never been frightening. Right.
But I think, you know, in a lot of people dealing with whatever,
you know, comes up, there's a reluctance to face it.
And it's like, I think we talked about this once before, every anecdote you've
ever heard kind of comes true in a way, you know.
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It's like, if you face your fear and just go through it, chances are it's not
nearly as terrifying as you thought it might be,
because it's our mind that makes all these possibilities that,
generally speaking, are not nearly what we've created.
Yeah, yeah. So when we're in that situation of thinking, what's this next phase of life for me?
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What propels you? What's the locus of thought?
Where are you really deciding what the next thing is? Is that out of an excitement?
Is that out of an excitement and a thrill towards life? or is that out of a
fear and a necessity, I think is going to help to land you.
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If you're going about it with an excitement towards life, like you were,
and if you're going about it as a fear, you're going to wind up in two drastically
different places, I do believe.
Well, and these things come and go daily, hourly, minutely, by the minute sometimes.
Sometimes, you know, it's like, you do have to consciously decide.
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And a lot of times it's environmental or, you know, around other people.
And, you know, it's easy to.
As some wise person once said, you know, surround yourself with people who are going to lift you up.
You know, I did a great edit process during that pandemic, which I think a lot
of people did, you know, because we had to go inside, literally and figuratively.
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And you were able to, if you took the time, really kind of navigate what was
serving you and what wasn't.
And we can do that on a daily basis. We don't need the pandemic to have that
happen. You know, I just read an article recently in the New York Times, I do believe.
I cannot remember who wrote it, but she was talking about how her exercise during COVID,
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I never really thought about this effect happening from COVID,
but a lot of people turned towards exercise because they ended up with time
that they could actually put towards exercise during COVID.
Whereas the rest of their time in regular life was spent commuting or even just
being in the office and wasting time.
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So people dialed in their efficiency, and then they opened up more time that
they could have for fitness.
But now that COVID's done, and it took some time after COVID for people to actually
end up back in the office.
It was another two years until people finally start trickling back into the
office. And some people still aren't back like you and I.
But they started their fitness regimen, and now they're headed back into the office.
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And now she goes, now I cannot find the time to fitness.
Now I cannot find the time that I had for self-love, and I feel like I'm kind
of losing myself in the workplace again.
That's definitely a thing that happened. I think you also see it with...
All of those things that are part of, you know, what we speak with this mind,
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body, beauty, the cooking.
I remember during the pandemic, people were online sharing like amazing recipes,
doing all this kind of thing.
And now we're just, I mean, that all kind of got pushed aside or there'd be amazing videos.
You know, I would be on Zoom with people all the time who were in their house.
And it's different because you could actually kind of have like a one-on-one
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or in a group experience, something that we kind of got used to.
And now that we're back and busy, a lot of that just fell to the wayside, you know?
Yeah. So it seems like it's just more and more important now.
I mean, I remember during this COVID thing, we often talked about answering that call.
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What did you need to get yourself through caring for your mother with dementia
while at the same time going through huge career shifts and reaching into that next place?
What are the things that you needed to do to keep you grounded?
And beauty was just always one of those. But it was also connecting with other people.
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Well that's that is the key you know and i think that you know i talked about that recently.
The whole reason i started doing my mom's makeup on camera
was i needed to connect with other people besides just her but what i recognized
is that you and i talk about a lot is that in the mirror or when you're helping
someone or when you're doing it for yourself you have time to actually connect
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with yourself or with the other person and then it kind of spreads out a little
you know i was going through a huge loss too. Isaac had just died.
I remember people saying to me, I don't know how you do it.
Well, how you do it is you decide that that's just, there's nothing permanent
in life and you just have to be so grateful.
And I think of that, I was talking about that with Marianne the other day,
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how grateful I am for the opportunities I've had.
But not sitting and wallowing in like, oh, I wish I had it again,
because we don't ever have anything again.
Yeah. You know? It's like we have the moment.
If you're fully present and enjoy it, you're so blessed. And then the next moment comes.
But if you sit back worrying about, and we do it. I mean, I do it sometimes,
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too. I'll wake up in the night and think like, what have I done?
We're really doing this right. We still have halos not taking off as quickly
as I would like, but then I have to pull back and I remind myself.
It's not for me to decide that.
It's like everything else that happens. If you stay out of fear,
you're open every day to something new and exciting.
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And the world is full of little oysters of joy. Yeah, but sometimes you really can miss that miracle.
And I was talking with a buddy, mentor, business mentor in the past couple of
days, and he suggested that, Mark, if you walk through fear,
you're going to miss every opportunity and every miracle.
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True. If you walk in fear, you're not going to see your redemption.
You have to face that. You know, it just reminded me when I was so sick,
and I was in my friend's house in DC, and I was going to Sibley or UPenn or
wherever I was going to have surgery, and I was terrified at first.
And I was laying in her guest room, and I looked up, and there's a quote from
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Eleanor Roosevelt just about that.
It's like, the very things that we think we could destroy us, and I'm paraphrasing.
When you face them and move through it you realize that like that was nothing
at all and i remember thinking that and that's what carried me through what
turned out to be a very long year.
Cancer surgeries and things but because i had that mindset i was like oh you
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know this is so bad i can get yeah it's like anything if you have a game plan you know,
um with whatever you're doing well yeah with you we're so helpful because you gave me a game plan.
For a three months or however long it was if
what i could do to get to where i wanted to be and it was steps that made sense
steps that i knew i could do and then it wasn't it wasn't scary at all it actually
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became terribly fun yeah you know yeah and you know reminds me of when her wife
was going through her second pregnancy.
And I had just started training for an Ironman triathlon, and I kept making
the comment that I believe that training for the Ironman is very similar to
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going through a pregnancy. I'm sure she loved that, yeah.
Yeah, there's so many changes that go on in the body. You're craving a whole
bunch of food, you're angry, irritable, like all these.
And she hated that analogy.
But as you were talking about this, you know, the recovery from cancer, actually,
the shifts of perspectives that you have to go through for that,
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I kind of saw the same parallels that I saw with triathlon.
It's something that you fear so much going through.
But as you do that, and as you approach,
and as you show up every single day, as you connect with others every single day over this thing,
the thing that was once like such a big fear all
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of a sudden is not such a big fear and you can move through even your greatest
challenges yeah it's true i mean listen i've been watched you run some of these
108 miles or whatever they are and when you look back afterwards it seems like
it was a minute a minute and you know i watched the people who start off and
who finish and go through and,
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there was a man blind swimming i'll never forget and i thought well how extraordinary you know like.
How is he swimming blind? We had two people, I guess, on either side of him kind of. How cool.
But that's what the opportunity is.
So whatever fear you're facing, if you can't find it in yourself,
you can always reach out and get somebody to help lift you up.
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Yeah. And here's what you can also do typically is you can find somebody who's done it before.
And if you can find somebody who's done it before, then you can hop onto that
bandwagon, even if that's not the exact same thing.
So even if like, I went through triathlon and I put myself and I went through addiction, right?
And I rose out of it. And now I can help people who are also trying to rise
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out of other things that aren't necessarily addiction, right?
And so you can find somebody, anybody, it can be somebody in your family,
or it can be somebody in your network, or somebody that you pass on the street,
and you can meet them and you can find the similarities of what they might be going through also.
And you can actually find hope in almost anybody that you come into contact
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with, if you're willing to show up and come into contact with them. It's so very true.
And I think that that, you know, it's what that quote about,
you know, God is in everything, and usually in the person, the Karen,
that you really just want to punch.
You know, if you can shift a little, you'll see that there's just somebody suffering
there a little bit, you know.
We're not all perfect, believe me. There's days I want to run somebody off the
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road. But remembering that, you know, you point that out to me all the time,
because I tend to be an aggressive driver.
And then I started showing a little more grace and letting the person in before
me. And I still got to where I needed to be. And apparently they did too.
I have noticed that. I have noticed that a little bit in the car.
I've noticed a little bit of a difference.
I appreciate that difference. I didn't realize it was because of my suggestions,
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because it took such a long time for them to finally sink in.
Well, suggestions, actually a very generous term.
Oh, well.
But anyway, so it's all about those little shifts of perspectives, right?
I mean, it seems like it always boils down to that.
It's like those things that you have to tell yourself on a daily basis, Tim, are...
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And you're so very used to it now that it may be built into your system.
But somebody like myself, where this whole lifestyle is a fairly new concept,
I've only chosen to live this way and to shift my mindset to the positive every
day on a daily basis, on a minute-by-minute basis, only about six or seven years ago. go.
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And so for us who are fairly new at it, we may need to do it much more often than somebody like Tim.
But we can actually look at somebody like Tim and go, you know what?
If he is getting this where it's more natural, then we can too.
And the best place to practice is by connecting with yourself,
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is by connecting with yourself and your self-love routines and activities.
I was mentioning earlier today with a friend, it's all about yoga.
In yoga, you're able to truly connect with yourself.
When you tune out and really dive into yourself, you're truly connecting to yourself.
And in that moment, you get to have a conversation. And every conversation that
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you have with yourself, it's either positive or negative.
There's never anything neutral in there. And you get to move through it. You get to feel it.
You get to recognize it. And then you get to recognize what happens when you feed which wolf.
The big nasties start to get bigger and you start to think less about yourself
because you're not doing this pose.
Or you're paying attention to another thought of, I am getting better on a daily
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basis and I'm shifting my perspective into a more beautiful yogi and this pose
will come to me in the right time.
It's a whole different, all of a sudden yoga becomes a whole different experience.
All of a sudden life becomes a whole different experience, but it's consistent
doing that in everything that we do. Well, it's important to recognize that
quite honestly, the story we make up about everybody's watching us is pretty much not true.
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For the most part, nobody really cares what you're doing. They're all in their
own head anyway. So if they're doing a better pose than you...
That's why I don't wear my glasses half the time. Even if you went TikTok viral,
nobody's actually caring what you do.
No, they're just looking to see how they can replicate it. We're all characters
in each other's entertainment. It's like one great movie.
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Yeah. Cut, print. Well, everybody, this has been a wonderful chit chat with
Tim Quinn over here and Mark A.
Turnip Seed. Turning into a puddle as we speak.
You have a wonderful evening. Bye, y'all.
Music.
Music.
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I'm your host, Mark Turnipseed, and this is my co-host, Tim Quinn. How are you doing?
Thanks for joining today, Tim. I would like to just interview you a little bit about Halo 42.
Oh, okay. I like a little switch it up.
So Tim, tell me, why did you get into Halo 42 in the first place?
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Why did I get into Halo 42?
Well, you know, I'd left my former career. I was down in Florida taking care of my mom.
I needed something to do to get myself back into a reboot, basically.
I needed a reboot, emotionally, spiritually, physically.
And I came across this gentleman, Mark Turnipseed, who had an online presence in coaching.
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And I thought, you know, rah, rah, rah.
Having read your book, I reached out and And fate would have it,
you were actually closing that down.
And coming to South Florida, not even a few miles from where I lived,
and it just seemed the right thing to do.
And, you know, in working with you and recognizing the talents that you use
(01:20):
to kind of bring out what's already there in someone and maybe refine it, redefine it,
reboot somebody, whatever it might be. I thought, well, that's interesting.
And it's kind of similar to what I would do in my makeup world.
And from there, the conversations just kind of started to flow.
(01:41):
And I remember one day asking you, you know, when it was that you first recognized your own beauty.
I don't know if I use those words exactly.
But and I remember you had a very poignant story about that.
The first time you mindfully brushed your teeth. Yeah, mindfully brushed my teeth.
And when you were telling that story, this little light was in your eyes that
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I recognize a lot in the space when I would help people going through anything.
When they would come to me.
For me, it's never been about the makeup, and it's kind of never been about the skin care.
It's just a way to intersect with our own psyche, and you kind of taught me that.
Yeah, it's about connecting with thyself, right? Right? I mean,
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it's an expression of self-love.
You know, I wonder, did you have other options?
Did you have other thoughts of like what you were going to do for a reboot?
I mean, I know you were thinking of probably the typical person going through
life has these, I feel like reboots happen to me almost every couple of weeks
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where I kind of have to reboot and have to reponder things.
But I feel like there's a lot of people who that happens more,
on a decade-type basis, and they need this big reboot and this change.
And I wonder if you had known that that was coming, or if life just kind of
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pulled that in and forced you into that?
I think it's more the latter. I think that, I mean, on reflection,
my life seems to, to every 10, 15 years, kind of reboot a little naturally.
And I think I stayed a little longer than I should have in my,
because I got comfortable, this is what happens to people, right?
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And it wasn't fun anymore, like that last year.
And I look at the pandemic and what happened as a gift to me because sometimes
if you don't take action, the universe puts something out that it forces you to, right?
And out of that came all these miracles. First of all, I got to spend two years
with my mom having the most extraordinary time that I wouldn't have done because
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I don't think I would have left that life. I thought it was everything.
I was traveling all over the world. I was in a different city every week.
I was with the most beautiful, famous people, blah, blah, blah.
I would have missed the last two years of something magical.
So I think that the reboot and
the shift came in because I wasn't quite as aware as I should have been.
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A little extra nudge, you know. It all comes with a higher purpose,
and you generally only see that higher purpose, it seems like,
retrospectively, as we look back at it.
What I kind of hear from that is that there's a high level of adaptability,
of adaptability that helps us to move from one phase of life,
(04:34):
or even if that's a challenge that we're going through, being adaptable to the next situation, right?
A challenge presents itself like the AC going out, and we have to adapt.
By the way, everybody, the AC is out today, so we are rugging it tough here,
99 degrees, with little earmuffs on for the podcast.
(04:57):
And it's like being kind of like in an Easy-Bake oven, but that's fine.
He has a little sweat coming up on his brows.
That's my oil. But you're right. Right. Like, being aware and being open to
change is something that not everyone taps into well.
And, you know, I talked about that years ago after I went through my whole cancer
battle, and I had to speak in front of all these people about what that was like.
(05:20):
And for me, I've always kind of embraced change, so it's never been frightening. Right.
But I think, you know, in a lot of people dealing with whatever,
you know, comes up, there's a reluctance to face it.
And it's like, I think we talked about this once before, every anecdote you've
ever heard kind of comes true in a way, you know.
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It's like, if you face your fear and just go through it, chances are it's not
nearly as terrifying as you thought it might be,
because it's our mind that makes all these possibilities that,
generally speaking, are not nearly what we've created.
Yeah, yeah. So when we're in that situation of thinking, what's this next phase of life for me?
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What propels you? What's the locus of thought?
Where are you really deciding what the next thing is? Is that out of an excitement?
Is that out of an excitement and a thrill towards life? or is that out of a
fear and a necessity, I think is going to help to land you.
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If you're going about it with an excitement towards life, like you were,
and if you're going about it as a fear, you're going to wind up in two drastically
different places, I do believe.
Well, and these things come and go daily, hourly, minutely, by the minute sometimes.
Sometimes, you know, it's like, you do have to consciously decide.
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And a lot of times it's environmental or, you know, around other people.
And, you know, it's easy to.
As some wise person once said, you know, surround yourself with people who are going to lift you up.
You know, I did a great edit process during that pandemic, which I think a lot
of people did, you know, because we had to go inside, literally and figuratively.
(07:10):
And you were able to, if you took the time, really kind of navigate what was
serving you and what wasn't.
And we can do that on a daily basis. We don't need the pandemic to have that
happen. You know, I just read an article recently in the New York Times, I do believe.
I cannot remember who wrote it, but she was talking about how her exercise during COVID,
(07:32):
I never really thought about this effect happening from COVID,
but a lot of people turned towards exercise because they ended up with time
that they could actually put towards exercise during COVID.
Whereas the rest of their time in regular life was spent commuting or even just
being in the office and wasting time.
(07:53):
So people dialed in their efficiency, and then they opened up more time that
they could have for fitness.
But now that COVID's done, and it took some time after COVID for people to actually
end up back in the office.
It was another two years until people finally start trickling back into the
office. And some people still aren't back like you and I.
But they started their fitness regimen, and now they're headed back into the office.
(08:19):
And now she goes, now I cannot find the time to fitness.
Now I cannot find the time that I had for self-love, and I feel like I'm kind
of losing myself in the workplace again.
That's definitely a thing that happened. I think you also see it with...
All of those things that are part of, you know, what we speak with this mind,
(08:40):
body, beauty, the cooking.
I remember during the pandemic, people were online sharing like amazing recipes,
doing all this kind of thing.
And now we're just, I mean, that all kind of got pushed aside or there'd be amazing videos.
You know, I would be on Zoom with people all the time who were in their house.
And it's different because you could actually kind of have like a one-on-one
(09:02):
or in a group experience, something that we kind of got used to.
And now that we're back and busy, a lot of that just fell to the wayside, you know?
Yeah. So it seems like it's just more and more important now.
I mean, I remember during this COVID thing, we often talked about answering that call.
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What did you need to get yourself through caring for your mother with dementia
while at the same time going through huge career shifts and reaching into that next place?
What are the things that you needed to do to keep you grounded?
And beauty was just always one of those. But it was also connecting with other people.
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Well that's that is the key you know and i think that you know i talked about that recently.
The whole reason i started doing my mom's makeup on camera
was i needed to connect with other people besides just her but what i recognized
is that you and i talk about a lot is that in the mirror or when you're helping
someone or when you're doing it for yourself you have time to actually connect
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with yourself or with the other person and then it kind of spreads out a little
you know i was going through a huge loss too. Isaac had just died.
I remember people saying to me, I don't know how you do it.
Well, how you do it is you decide that that's just, there's nothing permanent
in life and you just have to be so grateful.
And I think of that, I was talking about that with Marianne the other day,
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how grateful I am for the opportunities I've had.
But not sitting and wallowing in like, oh, I wish I had it again,
because we don't ever have anything again.
Yeah. You know? It's like we have the moment.
If you're fully present and enjoy it, you're so blessed. And then the next moment comes.
But if you sit back worrying about, and we do it. I mean, I do it sometimes,
(10:54):
too. I'll wake up in the night and think like, what have I done?
We're really doing this right. We still have halos not taking off as quickly
as I would like, but then I have to pull back and I remind myself.
It's not for me to decide that.
It's like everything else that happens. If you stay out of fear,
you're open every day to something new and exciting.
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And the world is full of little oysters of joy. Yeah, but sometimes you really can miss that miracle.
And I was talking with a buddy, mentor, business mentor in the past couple of
days, and he suggested that, Mark, if you walk through fear,
you're going to miss every opportunity and every miracle.
(11:38):
True. If you walk in fear, you're not going to see your redemption.
You have to face that. You know, it just reminded me when I was so sick,
and I was in my friend's house in DC, and I was going to Sibley or UPenn or
wherever I was going to have surgery, and I was terrified at first.
And I was laying in her guest room, and I looked up, and there's a quote from
(11:59):
Eleanor Roosevelt just about that.
It's like, the very things that we think we could destroy us, and I'm paraphrasing.
When you face them and move through it you realize that like that was nothing
at all and i remember thinking that and that's what carried me through what
turned out to be a very long year.
Cancer surgeries and things but because i had that mindset i was like oh you
(12:21):
know this is so bad i can get yeah it's like anything if you have a game plan you know,
um with whatever you're doing well yeah with you we're so helpful because you gave me a game plan.
For a three months or however long it was if
what i could do to get to where i wanted to be and it was steps that made sense
steps that i knew i could do and then it wasn't it wasn't scary at all it actually
(12:44):
became terribly fun yeah you know yeah and you know reminds me of when her wife
was going through her second pregnancy.
And I had just started training for an Ironman triathlon, and I kept making
the comment that I believe that training for the Ironman is very similar to
(13:05):
going through a pregnancy. I'm sure she loved that, yeah.
Yeah, there's so many changes that go on in the body. You're craving a whole
bunch of food, you're angry, irritable, like all these.
And she hated that analogy.
But as you were talking about this, you know, the recovery from cancer, actually,
the shifts of perspectives that you have to go through for that,
(13:28):
I kind of saw the same parallels that I saw with triathlon.
It's something that you fear so much going through.
But as you do that, and as you approach,
and as you show up every single day, as you connect with others every single day over this thing,
the thing that was once like such a big fear all
(13:50):
of a sudden is not such a big fear and you can move through even your greatest
challenges yeah it's true i mean listen i've been watched you run some of these
108 miles or whatever they are and when you look back afterwards it seems like
it was a minute a minute and you know i watched the people who start off and
who finish and go through and,
(14:10):
there was a man blind swimming i'll never forget and i thought well how extraordinary you know like.
How is he swimming blind? We had two people, I guess, on either side of him kind of. How cool.
But that's what the opportunity is.
So whatever fear you're facing, if you can't find it in yourself,
you can always reach out and get somebody to help lift you up.
(14:33):
Yeah. And here's what you can also do typically is you can find somebody who's done it before.
And if you can find somebody who's done it before, then you can hop onto that
bandwagon, even if that's not the exact same thing.
So even if like, I went through triathlon and I put myself and I went through addiction, right?
And I rose out of it. And now I can help people who are also trying to rise
(14:57):
out of other things that aren't necessarily addiction, right?
And so you can find somebody, anybody, it can be somebody in your family,
or it can be somebody in your network, or somebody that you pass on the street,
and you can meet them and you can find the similarities of what they might be going through also.
And you can actually find hope in almost anybody that you come into contact
(15:18):
with, if you're willing to show up and come into contact with them. It's so very true.
And I think that that, you know, it's what that quote about,
you know, God is in everything, and usually in the person, the Karen,
that you really just want to punch.
You know, if you can shift a little, you'll see that there's just somebody suffering
there a little bit, you know.
We're not all perfect, believe me. There's days I want to run somebody off the
(15:41):
road. But remembering that, you know, you point that out to me all the time,
because I tend to be an aggressive driver.
And then I started showing a little more grace and letting the person in before
me. And I still got to where I needed to be. And apparently they did too.
I have noticed that. I have noticed that a little bit in the car.
I've noticed a little bit of a difference.
I appreciate that difference. I didn't realize it was because of my suggestions,
(16:03):
because it took such a long time for them to finally sink in.
Well, suggestions, actually a very generous term.
Oh, well.
But anyway, so it's all about those little shifts of perspectives, right?
I mean, it seems like it always boils down to that.
It's like those things that you have to tell yourself on a daily basis, Tim, are...
(16:28):
And you're so very used to it now that it may be built into your system.
But somebody like myself, where this whole lifestyle is a fairly new concept,
I've only chosen to live this way and to shift my mindset to the positive every
day on a daily basis, on a minute-by-minute basis, only about six or seven years ago. go.
(16:51):
And so for us who are fairly new at it, we may need to do it much more often than somebody like Tim.
But we can actually look at somebody like Tim and go, you know what?
If he is getting this where it's more natural, then we can too.
And the best place to practice is by connecting with yourself,
(17:14):
is by connecting with yourself and your self-love routines and activities.
I was mentioning earlier today with a friend, it's all about yoga.
In yoga, you're able to truly connect with yourself.
When you tune out and really dive into yourself, you're truly connecting to yourself.
And in that moment, you get to have a conversation. And every conversation that
(17:36):
you have with yourself, it's either positive or negative.
There's never anything neutral in there. And you get to move through it. You get to feel it.
You get to recognize it. And then you get to recognize what happens when you feed which wolf.
The big nasties start to get bigger and you start to think less about yourself
because you're not doing this pose.
Or you're paying attention to another thought of, I am getting better on a daily
(18:02):
basis and I'm shifting my perspective into a more beautiful yogi and this pose
will come to me in the right time.
It's a whole different, all of a sudden yoga becomes a whole different experience.
All of a sudden life becomes a whole different experience, but it's consistent
doing that in everything that we do. Well, it's important to recognize that
quite honestly, the story we make up about everybody's watching us is pretty much not true.
(18:25):
For the most part, nobody really cares what you're doing. They're all in their
own head anyway. So if they're doing a better pose than you...
That's why I don't wear my glasses half the time. Even if you went TikTok viral,
nobody's actually caring what you do.
No, they're just looking to see how they can replicate it. We're all characters
in each other's entertainment. It's like one great movie.
(18:46):
Yeah. Cut, print. Well, everybody, this has been a wonderful chit chat with
Tim Quinn over here and Mark A.
Turnip Seed. Turning into a puddle as we speak.
You have a wonderful evening. Bye, y'all.
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