A chat about dating. In part two of our series on the 4B movement, Elle and Natalie take a read on what is happening in dating culture, listening to a diverse cross-section of women to try to understand why a growing number of women are saying no to dating.
EPISODE LINKS
Influence of Sex and the City | Emily the Recruiter
Hook-Up Culture | Cunty Chanel
Transactional Dating | Pure Michigangster
Backlash to Women’s Standards | Shawnda
Being Bitter vs Being Aware | Professional Sassatron
Internet Boyfriend | Joshua Summerfield
Self-Love Journey | Caitlin Checker
Women Benefit Men | Fashionably Divorced
Burning the Haystack | Crazylocks918
Burned Haystack Method | Jennie Young
Rising Standards | Jennifer Moxley
Bumble Ad Campaign | Daily Mail
RESOURCES
Are We Dating the Same Guy? | App
FROM THE COMMONS
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CONTACT
Website: www.chatinthecommons.com
Instagram: @chatinthecommons
Email: https://www.chatinthecommons.com/contact
CREDITS
Hosted by Natalie Blundell and Elle Kamihira
Produced by Natalie Blundell and Elle Kamihira
Edited by Elle Kamihira
Audio Engineering by Jason Sheesley at Abridged Audio
Cover Art by Reda Tomingas
Music by Moushumi
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