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March 25, 2025 56 mins

A chat about relationship abuse. In this episode, Natalie and Elle have a provocative discussion about how men’s violence within the four walls of the home is never contained - it spills over into our communities and all of society. We also have a critical look at the well-funded industry built to respond to domestic violence and reflect on why men’s abuse is worse now than ever.  Men’s violence in the home does not exist in a vacuum and we unpack the patriarchal bargain that continues to grant men dominion over women and children.

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Jane Gilmore | TEDx

Grant Wyeth Article

Judith Herman Quote

Laura Richards | Crime Analyst 

VAWA Biennial Report

NNEDV Annual Report

Dr. Jacqueline Campell | Danger Assessment Tool

DASH Risk Checklist

Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Perfect Prey Podcast 

Reem Alsalem | UN Special Rapporteur

Deborah Tuerkheimer | Credible

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Hosted by Elle Kamihira and Natalie Blundell

Produced by Elle Kamihira and Natalie Blundell

Edited by Elle Kamihira

Audio Engineering by Jason Sheesley at Abridged Audio

Cover Art by Reda Tomingas

Music by Moushumi

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