039: Divorce, Two Homes, and a Child’s Voice: What Parents and Professionals Need to Know, with Dr. Susan Fletcher

In today’s episode of the Children First Family Law podcast, Krista is joined by Dr. Susan Fletcher, a licensed psychologist in both Texas and Colorado, known for her deep experience with court-involved families and child-focused evaluations. Together, they explore what children truly experience during and after a divorce and how parents and professionals can better support their transition to life in two homes.

Dr. Fletcher explains how children internalize language like “custody” and “visitation” and offers practical suggestions for reframing these terms in ways that support emotional resilience. She stresses the importance of maintaining consistency, recognizing a child's individual vulnerabilities, and reframing transitions as opportunities rather than losses. The conversation covers early intervention, therapist involvement, and the crucial role of in-home observations for professionals working with families post-divorce.

This episode also addresses why mental health providers may resist testifying in court, how board complaints create fear, and what professionals can do to better navigate the intersection of clinical care and legal involvement. Dr. Fletcher shares real-world experiences from both therapy and evaluations, bringing clarity to a complex and emotionally charged aspect of family law.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Children often absorb adult terminology like “custody” and “visitation” in ways that affect their sense of identity
• Simple language changes and reframes can support emotional safety during transitions
• Some kids adapt easily to two homes, while others need more structured emotional support
• In-home observations provide professionals with a clearer context for how children experience post-divorce life
• Fear of licensing complaints can prevent therapists from staying involved in court cases, even when their voices matter
• Parents can remain emotionally available without overwhelming their children
• Creating a strong support system helps families and professionals navigate ongoing changes
• Shifting focus from fear-based reactions to hopeful engagement promotes healthier outcomes

Resources from this Episode

www.fletcherphd.com

www.childrenfirstfamilylaw.com

All states have different laws; be sure you are checking out your state laws specifically surrounding divorce. Krista is a licensed attorney in Colorado and Wyoming but is not providing through this podcast legal advice. Please be sure to seek independent legal counsel in your area for your specific situation. 

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