If you’ve ever felt like there are a dozen voices in your head—some yelling about food, some trying to control everything, and some just wanting to hide—you’re not alone. Emotional eaters often have rich, complex inner worlds that can feel overwhelming and loud.
In today’s episode, we explore what it means to gently tune in to those inner parts of us with curiosity and care. Using a lens inspired by Internal Family Systems (IFS), I walk you through questions and reflections that can help you create space between you and the parts of you that feel anxious, compulsive, critical, or stuck. This isn’t about fixing or fighting them—it’s about listening and understanding.
Take your time with this check-in; you may want to use the pause button between questions. Or, you can see the questions in written form below.
Think of this episode like a mental house-cleaning day: no big renovations, just clearing the clutter, opening some windows, and making room to breathe.
If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I feel so many things at once?”—this episode is for you.
If you are curious about more guided coaching like this, please connect with me at vickizollingercoaching.com.
Questions:
Can you get to know why this part is eating?
What might you hear from this part if you just listened?
Can we be with this part and see what it wants you to know?
Where do you feel this part in your body?
What does this part do for you?
When does this part usually show up?
How do you feel towards this part?
What is this part afraid would happen if it didn’t do this job?
What does this part like about this job?
What does this part not like about this job?
How hard does this part of you work?
What would this part like you to know about them?
How old does this part think you are?
Does this part remember how it got this job?
How old does this part think you are?
How much of what this part carries is inherent or was it born with it?
How do you feel towards this part now?
Would this part of you like some support?
What would feel helpful?
What does this part of you need you to know?
Does this part feels like I am understanding you or is there more I need to know?
If you knew you were safe and nothing bad could happen, what would you
rather be doing?
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