Ep. 2 Traveling with your Partner: Flirty Strangers, Friendships & Where to Stay

Traveling with your partner can be a lot going on, from fun times, to meeting new people to the unexpected, you can have an amazing time! In this episode, we dive into the highs and lows of traveling together, from choosing between hotels, hostels, and all-inclusive resorts to sharing our personal experiences and favorite destinations.

Episode Transcript

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Coming up next on episode one of Couples Unscripted.
And then I was like, okay, well then come home, but then he was gonna go back out with a guy that he met, and I'm like, this is bullshit.
I mean, in my head at the time, I was like, this is bullshit.
Yeah, but I, I never came, so what happened, I was out.
I had already met, you know, our homie, like I want to say, but I already met them.

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.999And I was going out to meet them, but they was, I think at a restaurant or whatever.
And then that's when them, them ladies was around on the resort and they was like, they tried to holler at me. 8 00:00:45,344.999 --> 00:00:46,405 What's up guys. 9 00:00:46,434.999 --> 00:00:50,495 It's Ayana Niles and we got another episode of Couples Unscripted.

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Today we are going to be talking about.
Traveling.
And we are here to talk about vacationing with your partner.
And the, not really the do's and don'ts of vacationing, but just the importance of taking vacations and Things that we did on some of our travels in the states and also outside the states.
I will say thank you for filling up my glass of wine.

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I am a red wine drinker.
So cheers, cheers.
Cheers.
.999So yeah, I might be, drinking some wine. 19 00:01:22,419.998 --> 00:01:25,39.998 Lots of wine during these episodes. 20 00:01:25,459.998 --> 00:01:28,719.998 Gotta get a little loose out here, just to keep the flow going. 21 00:01:30,869.999 --> 00:01:33,309.999 So kickstart things and get things going. 22 00:01:33,389.999 --> 00:01:42,979.999 What would be out of all the vacations we have had in the States, the United States and also abroad, which one ranks number one to you? Let's see. 23 00:01:44,219.999 --> 00:01:47,549.998 I think we've had some killer experiences traveling. 24 00:01:47,550.098 --> 00:01:52,999.999 So me and him always have a good time regardless of where we're going to be. 25 00:01:53,914.999 --> 00:02:00,414.999 Listen, we're gonna be lit, we gon be drunk, We gon be making some friends. 26 00:02:00,874.999 --> 00:02:02,975 You know what I'm saying? We're gonna make some friends.

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So, I think our first trip was Jamaica.
That was our honeymoon.
That was.
My first international trip was Jamaica.
First time I got a passport.
First time I got a stamp. 33 00:02:14,369.999 --> 00:02:17,29.999 So, I mean, traveling, of course, domestically.
.999But for me, when I hear travel, I'm going out of the states. 35 00:02:21,889.999 --> 00:02:22,590 Jet setter.
to answer Niles question, I feel like Belize, and when we went to Belize, It was such a freeing experience because we chose the route that was not all inclusive.

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.999We had booked a hostel and then we booked a condo.
.999it was a beautiful experience and it was so freeing.
But I think the country is freeing in itself as well.
.0005if you do go to Belize, which is definitely in our top, It is very freeing and you don't need an all inclusive. 41 00:02:50,15.0005 --> 00:02:53,665.0005 So there are countries where you need all inclusives and there are countries where you don't need all inclusives. 42 00:02:54,5.0005 --> 00:02:56,775.0005 I don't think that was the country that you needed to have an all inclusive. 43 00:02:56,905.0005 --> 00:02:57,754.9995 We enjoyed it. 44 00:02:57,765.0005 --> 00:03:02,835.0005 I think that we saved a bunch by not going to an all inclusive, but it depends on the country. 45 00:03:02,850.1005 --> 00:03:20,149.9995 Yeah, I would say for me, Belize is the number one out of all of our international trips, actually all of our trips, even domestically and internationally, Belize was the top trip and I, it holds just a fondness over my heart. 46 00:03:20,149.9995 --> 00:03:25,910.0005 Like you said, we didn't do all inclusive and it just felt refreshing. 47 00:03:26,360.0005 --> 00:03:27,510.0005 It was an amazing experience. 48 00:03:27,510.0005 --> 00:03:29,700.0005 The people there was amazing and beautiful. 49 00:03:29,790.0005 --> 00:03:33,620.0005 Hopkins, Belize, if you haven't been to Belize, go to Hopkins. 50 00:03:34,0.0005 --> 00:03:35,370.0005 That is the place to be. 51 00:03:35,790.0005 --> 00:03:39,730.0005 I saw people that looked like my aunties, my uncles, my cousins. 52 00:03:40,0.0005 --> 00:03:41,390.0005 I saw someone that looked like me. 53 00:03:41,390.0005 --> 00:03:57,965.0005 I was like, is that my twin? My doppelganger? It Was an amazing experience and we was able to really touch the ground, touch the earth and connect with the people and get a lot of great connections that I believe still kind of hold true still to this day, what two and a half, three years later. 54 00:03:58,535.0005 --> 00:04:01,624.9995 So it was a definitely an amazing experience for me. 55 00:04:01,795.0005 --> 00:04:04,155.0005 Jamaica was awesome too, but it also. 56 00:04:04,545.0005 --> 00:04:05,785.0005 It was due to our honeymoon. 57 00:04:05,825.0005 --> 00:04:09,925.0005 So like it was a combination of the experience, but Jamaica was awesome. 58 00:04:10,535.0005 --> 00:04:12,95.0005 That was an all inclusive. 59 00:04:12,565.0005 --> 00:04:16,105.0005 So we stayed on the resort, but we did get off the resort everywhere. 60 00:04:16,105.0005 --> 00:04:25,654.9015 We traveled internationally when we did stay on a resort, we still managed to get off the resort and do our own thing with the locals. 61 00:04:25,704.9015 --> 00:04:32,144.9015 if we're going to go in an all inclusive, we just need it because the R& R is great when you ain't got to do nothing, lift your finger. 62 00:04:32,574.9015 --> 00:04:39,574.9015 But there is something to getting off the resort and just getting with the people within the countries that you visit. 63 00:04:40,614.9015 --> 00:04:48,494.8015 How should someone go about planning a travel with a significant other? Non honeymoon, just a regular, Hey, we want to. 64 00:04:49,194.9015 --> 00:04:54,984.9015 Pick a date on a map on a calendar and then go like no extra missing on a birthday. 65 00:04:55,24.9015 --> 00:04:57,44.9015 Nothing special Just going on a vacation. 66 00:04:58,264.9005 --> 00:05:27,524.902 I definitely think I mean It depends on the type of people like either you're gonna plan like somebody's got a plan there's always gonna be somebody's gonna be the planner and then somebody who is gonna go with the plans I am the planner Niles is going to go with the plans So Yeah, I think obviously there has to be somebody who's the planner and then Go from there and build, create a budget and figure out what the budget's gonna be. 67 00:05:27,754.902 --> 00:05:31,804.901 Because I know when we went to Belize We didn't plan any excursions. 68 00:05:31,804.902 --> 00:05:33,954.902 We just saw where things would take you. 69 00:05:33,984.902 --> 00:05:43,439.902 I think when we went to the DR we did the same thing like we stated an all inclusive and then we We're like, what are we going to do? So either you can plan that ahead. 70 00:05:43,439.902 --> 00:05:49,239.902 But I think the most important is getting those flights and getting where you're going to stay. 71 00:05:49,379.902 --> 00:05:49,709.902 Yeah. 72 00:05:49,839.902 --> 00:05:56,759.903 Getting a flight early or when there's a good price is probably one of the most important thing to do when it comes to traveling. 73 00:05:57,209.901 --> 00:06:00,279.901 Because once you get the flight, you feel like, yo, I have to go. 74 00:06:00,899.901 --> 00:06:05,979.901 So getting those flights, especially when you get a deal, it really keeps you like on track. 75 00:06:06,249.901 --> 00:06:08,869.901 To make sure you make that trip from my vantage point. 76 00:06:09,89.901 --> 00:06:19,909.9 So yeah, I definitely believe the planner, which is you is important for the planner to have certain things in order and hit those benchmark to ensure that we're going on this trip. 77 00:06:20,99.9 --> 00:06:21,589.9 No ifs, ands, and buts about it. 78 00:06:21,669.9 --> 00:06:24,229.9 And specifically for the hostel, because we know you stayed in a hostel. 79 00:06:24,299.9 --> 00:06:35,519.9 So how was the hostel experience for you and for the people who may have some skepticism in regards to staying in a hostel? And it may be a little, because you watch the movie Hostel and think, oh, if I stay in a hostel, they're going to snatch me up. 80 00:06:35,569.9 --> 00:06:36,729.9005 That's not the experience. 81 00:06:36,729.9005 --> 00:06:45,299.901 So how was the hostel experience for you? And how, I guess, you know, sell it to other people who may be afraid of doing a hostel. 82 00:06:45,339.901 --> 00:06:53,949.901 I will say that the person who introduced me to hostels, is my bestie from Portugal, and you know who you are, Rita, my love. 83 00:06:54,149.901 --> 00:06:54,669.901 We love you, Rita. 84 00:06:54,919.901 --> 00:07:05,109.9 And, not even specifically hostiles, but she kind of introduced this play on, or just the reality of traveling, but just travel. 85 00:07:05,239.901 --> 00:07:13,359.901 Don't get so caught up in the glamour of traveling and just to enjoy the country. 86 00:07:13,399.901 --> 00:07:18,669.9005 And sometimes I got so caught up in like the glamour and and looking cute and getting dressed up. 87 00:07:18,669.9005 --> 00:07:19,729.901 And hey, we love that. 88 00:07:19,739.901 --> 00:07:27,89.901 I'm not taking away from any of the baddies out there who want to make sure they look real nice, real cute, and go out. 89 00:07:27,294.901 --> 00:07:30,984.901 and they're all inclusive, which I want to do, but I think that there's beauty on the other side. 90 00:07:31,184.901 --> 00:07:33,74.901 And I think you can do both, because I've done both. 91 00:07:33,454.901 --> 00:07:33,474.901 Yeah. 92 00:07:33,574.901 --> 00:07:39,294.901 I think, when I met her, and when she was telling me Oh, she's traveled the world, and she's been here, and she's been there. 93 00:07:39,304.9 --> 00:07:43,334.899 I'm like, how the frick are you doing this, with going to these beautiful resorts? I'm not going to these resorts. 94 00:07:43,334.899 --> 00:07:46,484.9 I'm frickin I'm, I'm staying in a hostel. 95 00:07:47,194.9 --> 00:07:48,604.9 So, when I studied abroad, I did. 96 00:07:48,944.9 --> 00:07:49,674.9 Stay in some hostels. 97 00:07:49,694.9 --> 00:07:58,814.9 So I do think don't sleep on the hostels because hostels you can have Private rooms and we had a private room with a private bathroom. 98 00:07:58,814.9 --> 00:08:03,224.9 So there are specific experiences Yes, hostels are not gonna have air conditioning. 99 00:08:03,714.9 --> 00:08:26,769.899 We you had to pay additional for that we didn't and we didn't and because we because there was so much airflow we didn't have to and Yeah, you're not going to have some of the luxury and all this other stuff but like it's a humbling experience It's beautiful and that hostel it was crash pad in belize, so I highly recommend it. 100 00:08:26,939.9 --> 00:08:28,959.9 So I think check into the hostels. 101 00:08:29,249.9 --> 00:08:35,779.9 We also stayed into a condo So at we were in hopkins and then we moved to placencia And we were in a condo. 102 00:08:35,789.9 --> 00:08:50,99.901 So That condo was just a little bit more elevated to the hostel, it was beautiful, and we had a pool set up, and it was really nice, we had a restaurant next door, so look at your different options, all inclusive. 103 00:08:50,389.901 --> 00:08:53,799.901 Condo, hostel, hotel, compare prices. 104 00:08:53,799.901 --> 00:08:58,669.901 If price is not an issue for you and you want to live luxury, baby, live luxury all day every day. 105 00:08:59,459.901 --> 00:09:00,139.901 Live it. 106 00:09:00,249.901 --> 00:09:10,69.902 But there is something about the humbleness of being in a hostel or in a condo or something where you can get a taxi and Find your own means of transportation. 107 00:09:10,79.902 --> 00:09:10,569.902 It's fun. 108 00:09:11,159.902 --> 00:09:11,419.902 Yeah. 109 00:09:11,419.902 --> 00:09:21,139.901 Cause like in Belize, the main thing we did there was like really come one with, it felt like the Belizean people in the area that we were around. 110 00:09:21,139.902 --> 00:09:21,679.902 We was riding. 111 00:09:22,69.902 --> 00:09:23,879.901 Yo, Ayana was, is a trooper. 112 00:09:23,919.901 --> 00:09:28,109.901 We was riding our bikes to the store, riding our bikes down to the village. 113 00:09:28,110.001 --> 00:09:29,469.901 We was on it. 114 00:09:29,529.901 --> 00:09:30,499.901 Backpacking. 115 00:09:30,549.901 --> 00:09:31,49.901 It was. 116 00:09:31,469.901 --> 00:09:37,279.901 Really a liberating feeling by traveling like that and experiencing a vacation in that sense. 117 00:09:37,649.901 --> 00:09:44,539.901 And on the flip side, like Jamaica, the all inclusive, we went with the mindset like, yo. 118 00:09:45,9.9 --> 00:09:47,309.9 We was going to chill the fuck out. 119 00:09:47,629.901 --> 00:09:48,229.901 Period. 120 00:09:48,649.901 --> 00:09:48,819.901 Period. 121 00:09:49,609.9 --> 00:09:49,949.9 Period. 122 00:09:49,949.9 --> 00:09:56,889.901 It was a long build up from you graduating, us getting married, us moving to Atlanta. 123 00:09:57,139.901 --> 00:10:04,769.901 So when we got to our honeymoon, it was like, we need some R and R and it was an amazing experience. 124 00:10:04,779.901 --> 00:10:07,699.901 We met a lot of great couples in Jamaica. 125 00:10:08,529.9 --> 00:10:11,559.9 It was, yeah, it was a, it was an amazing experience. 126 00:10:11,599.901 --> 00:10:13,779.9 We got to mingle, interact. 127 00:10:13,779.9 --> 00:10:19,699.901 So the resort, the all inclusive resort do have a lot of great things that go into it. 128 00:10:19,739.901 --> 00:10:26,199.9 And of course you pay a little bit extra, but you get a return on it by being able to get everything that you need. 129 00:10:27,144.901 --> 00:10:29,4.901 Quote unquote at that resort. 130 00:10:29,274.901 --> 00:10:31,874.901 And so that was a great experience as well. 131 00:10:32,134.901 --> 00:10:33,454.901 I, I do like them both. 132 00:10:33,684.901 --> 00:10:39,444.9 I think it depends on the country that you go to in regards to how you really want to experience. 133 00:10:39,474.9 --> 00:10:43,674.9 Cause I am aware that not every country I will want to go and probably. 134 00:10:44,144.901 --> 00:10:47,34.901 Like really ingratiate myself within that country. 135 00:10:47,264.901 --> 00:11:10,874.901 And there may be other countries where I feel more comfortable Doing that and there may be places like I just want to go all inclusive and not have to worry about a darn thing I was gonna say like what hurdles because sometimes like you were with your partner all the time and there can be some like Things that, you guys are on vacation, right? You're there to have a good time. 136 00:11:11,324.901 --> 00:11:37,985.001 But there are like little obstacles within this damn vacation that it's like we might not be communicating properly or like maybe you want to go over and you found these friends and you want to hang out with and then I want to go back to the house or Like, how do you handle those misc, not communications, but those obstacles with I want to do something else, and you don't want to do it, but we still want to be together, but you want to do something else, and I don't want to do that. 137 00:11:38,45.001 --> 00:11:44,865.001 Like the DR, I think, you end up getting a little tired at one point in time during the vacation, and you went and crashed. 138 00:11:45,435.001 --> 00:11:51,125.001 And I'm like, I'm going to go out and hang on a resort, and I end up mingling and meeting some great people that I'm still in contact with today. 139 00:11:51,455.001 --> 00:11:52,635.001 it's a give and take, because. 140 00:11:53,75.001 --> 00:11:58,495.001 Yes, I do want to spend the time with you but I also want to enjoy and experience the vacation. 141 00:11:59,255.001 --> 00:12:04,65.001 I believe the best way to go about it is both parties have to be understanding that we are on vacation. 142 00:12:04,795.001 --> 00:12:08,335.001 We are here to disconnect and to experience something new. 143 00:12:08,995.001 --> 00:12:10,675.001 So it do have to be a give and take. 144 00:12:11,105.001 --> 00:12:12,975 I do believe that you were.

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of Hey babe, I'm tired.
I really can't do it.
Just go out, but come back at a decent time.
Like fellas, if you out, don't come back into the room at two o'clock in the morning. 149 00:12:25,259.999 --> 00:12:26,329.999 Sorry, not sorry. 150 00:12:26,339.999 --> 00:12:28,309.9995 Even though I think I came back in the room at two o'clock in the morning. 151 00:12:28,329.9995 --> 00:12:28,869.9995 Yeah, I did. 152 00:12:28,869.9995 --> 00:12:29,559.9985 And he pissed me off. 153 00:12:30,629.9995 --> 00:12:54,919.9985 And my next question was like, can you make friends? When you guys have, when you guys say, said that you guys are going on the vacation together, is it okay to make friends on that vacation knowing that if you make friends, then you're taking that time away from your partner? So I think with us, whenever we go on our vacations, we don't go for two or three days. 154 00:12:55,889.9995 --> 00:12:58,859.9995 We're going for seven days minimum. 155 00:12:59,429.9995 --> 00:13:00,629.9995 So we there for so long. 156 00:13:00,639.9995 --> 00:13:02,169.9995 So me making friends. 157 00:13:02,969.9995 --> 00:13:05,949.9995 don't really take away from our experience together. 158 00:13:06,259.9995 --> 00:13:08,159.9995 We've already had things planned that we're going to do. 159 00:13:08,169.9995 --> 00:13:10,719.9995 We already had reservation book for the restaurants. 160 00:13:10,719.9995 --> 00:13:11,449.9985 We were going to go eat. 161 00:13:11,479.9985 --> 00:13:20,149.9995 We had plans to get off the resort and like on Dr to visit other cities around the resort. 162 00:13:20,519.9985 --> 00:13:21,879.9985 So those are already pre planned. 163 00:13:21,879.9995 --> 00:13:32,834.9995 So I felt as if me or if it was you meeting new friends there at the resort, All it can do is enhance the experience because we're going to have our time together. 164 00:13:32,854.9995 --> 00:13:34,224.9995 We're going to be locked in together. 165 00:13:35,754.9995 --> 00:13:42,824.999 Someone with some dope energy can come around and if they bring different conversation, if they are in a relationship as well. 166 00:13:42,824.999 --> 00:13:47,45.0005 So it may be I can connect with the man and you can connect with the lady and it just. 167 00:13:48,99.9995 --> 00:13:50,279.9995 It makes for a better experience. 168 00:13:50,289.9995 --> 00:13:56,639.9995 So I do believe it, it very depending on the situation and y'all relationship and how y'all feel. 169 00:13:56,639.9995 --> 00:14:01,759.9995 Cause sometimes if you go on vacation, some people go on vacation to reconnect to recenter and stuff. 170 00:14:01,759.9995 --> 00:14:02,690.0015 So if that's the case. 171 00:14:03,325.0005 --> 00:14:15,154.9995 Don't be trying to make no friends and I will say there's an I'm I would consider myself an extrovert at times Introvert, sometimes I'm gonna I'm gonna say a little toss between the two. 172 00:14:15,565.0005 --> 00:14:48,50.0005 Yeah, so when he went out it actually kind of pissed me off Because I was sleepy and I wanted to sleep and I was waiting for him to get back But then he didn't come back and then like you did call me to check in but You didn't, did you come back and then you left? No, I know you know you you just called me and told me like oh Yeah, these girls were hitting on me like Yeah, yeah, cuz some some some of these beaches was hitting on him. 173 00:14:48,59.9995 --> 00:14:52,40.0005 Yeah, and then he told me about it And then I was like, okay, well, then come home. 174 00:14:52,40.0005 --> 00:14:54,180.0005 But then he was gonna go back out with a guy that he met. 175 00:14:54,180.0005 --> 00:14:55,470.0005 And I'm like, this is bullshit. 176 00:14:56,440.0005 --> 00:14:59,30.0005 I mean, in my head at the time, I was like, this is bullshit. 177 00:14:59,50.0005 --> 00:15:00,620.0005 Yeah, but I, I never came. 178 00:15:00,650.0005 --> 00:15:02,340.0005 So what happened? I was out. 179 00:15:02,910.0005 --> 00:15:04,379.9995 I had already met, our homie. 180 00:15:04,460.0005 --> 00:15:05,910.0015 I want to say, but I already met them. 181 00:15:07,80.0015 --> 00:15:09,320.0005 And I was going out to meet them. 182 00:15:09,440.0005 --> 00:15:11,870.0015 But they was, I think, at a restaurant or whatever. 183 00:15:11,960.0015 --> 00:15:15,520.0015 And then that's when them, them ladies was around on the resort. 184 00:15:15,540.0015 --> 00:15:17,110.0015 And they was like, they tried to holla at me. 185 00:15:17,120.0015 --> 00:15:19,340.0015 And I like, I don't want that. 186 00:15:19,340.0015 --> 00:15:27,460.1015 I got, if I called you, I like, I like, yo, well, I like, I can't, I can't find the homies, who we who we both had connected with earlier that day. 187 00:15:27,460.1015 --> 00:15:28,360.1015 I said, I can't find them. 188 00:15:28,420.1015 --> 00:15:29,620.1015 I said, I think I'm gonna head back. 189 00:15:29,980.1015 --> 00:15:34,70.1015 And in the midst of starting to head back, lo and behold, there they are. 190 00:15:34,70.1015 --> 00:15:40,440.1015 And they were like, Oh, what's up? So he went to the little We went and got some more, we just continue to hang out, have conversations and all that. 191 00:15:40,440.1015 --> 00:15:44,750.1015 So I was expecting just to have like maybe a 15, 30 minute conversation. 192 00:15:44,750.1015 --> 00:15:49,230.102 And that thing turned to an hour and 15 and I was like, Oh shit, I need to go back. 193 00:15:49,350.102 --> 00:15:51,670.102 that's how that kind of transpired. 194 00:15:51,680.101 --> 00:15:57,460.101 But yeah, as soon as that happened though, with the, with those ladies, I definitely called my wife real quick. 195 00:15:57,755.101 --> 00:16:01,875.101 And it was like, yo, FYI, you would never believe what just happened to me. 196 00:16:02,695.101 --> 00:16:07,485.101 I know, I was like, who? Two girls wanted to do what? They were trying to take him home. 197 00:16:07,995.1 --> 00:16:09,425 They were trying to take me home. 198 00:16:09,425.1 --> 00:16:14,505.1 Wherever it was, but they was going to get a rude awakening in that hotel room, because I was in there. 199 00:16:14,985.1 --> 00:16:21,760.101 But I think there was a point where I was like why isn't he with me in the room? We can be on the balcony. 200 00:16:21,760.101 --> 00:16:22,440.101 We could be chilling. 201 00:16:22,440.101 --> 00:16:23,140.101 We'd be laid out. 202 00:16:23,160.101 --> 00:16:41,865.1 We could be cuddling but he's out I actually did get pissed and like you were out with whomever and then when I woke up and I was like, oh no I'm really Happy that he was able to get out and talk to some people and I think sometimes you have to take yourself out of the equation Because in that moment I said, I'm pissed off. 203 00:16:41,885.1 --> 00:16:59,950.101 He's oh and I remember telling him to myself I said we are not here to make friends We are here to connect and be together and like I was like we are not here for that But that's actually not true because I understood that. 204 00:17:00,20.101 --> 00:17:06,580.101 Like I know like you now and you making friends here and like you just having a circle. 205 00:17:06,580.101 --> 00:17:14,290.101 I was like, I felt wow, that's nice for him to put himself out there cause it's something different for you. 206 00:17:14,360.1 --> 00:17:22,380.101 And it's something that she actually want me to do more here at home is to put myself out there and connect more and make more friends. 207 00:17:22,390.101 --> 00:17:25,770.1 So what I actually did, I took that experience. 208 00:17:26,500.101 --> 00:17:32,280.101 And I've been applying it now here to like, all right, Niles, I am, like you said, I'm an extrovert introvert. 209 00:17:32,280.101 --> 00:17:49,70.101 I'm kind of like you, but getting married and living together and moving to a whole new state and city, I became more of an introvert, the vacation, that last vacation really helped me get back out my shell and be more of my personality of yo, I'm great at meeting with people. 210 00:17:49,70.101 --> 00:17:50,450.101 I'm great at making connections. 211 00:17:50,570.101 --> 00:17:53,360.101 So it did feel really liberating. 212 00:17:53,360.101 --> 00:17:53,400.101 Yeah. 213 00:17:53,400.201 --> 00:17:53,420.001 Yeah. 214 00:17:53,690.101 --> 00:18:05,790.101 Just to be able to connect with multiple people across all age range, across all ethnic backgrounds from different countries and to be like, yo, I'm a cool person. 215 00:18:05,790.101 --> 00:18:08,30.052 people like me, like people love it. 216 00:18:08,30.052 --> 00:18:13,210.101 It was looking for me the next four days, you know? So it was definitely cool. 217 00:18:13,240.101 --> 00:18:15,270.101 But I am definitely mindful though. 218 00:18:15,270.101 --> 00:18:17,530.101 When I go on trips, it's all about, it's all about her. 219 00:18:17,550.102 --> 00:18:19,340.102 Like she is the focal point. 220 00:18:19,350.102 --> 00:18:28,5.102 That's and I do use our vacations and our trips as a moment to recenter and reconnect with my wife. 221 00:18:28,85.101 --> 00:18:30,445.1 it's not really for those other experiences. 222 00:18:30,445.1 --> 00:18:33,615.1 Those other experiences are an added benefit and a plus. 223 00:18:33,635.101 --> 00:18:34,980.001 The main. 224 00:18:35,270.101 --> 00:18:44,240.1 Thing that I want to get out of my vacations and my travels with you is our experiences and us growing and connecting and enjoying it together. 225 00:18:44,530.101 --> 00:18:52,100.1 But we, I think we do have a beautiful relationship where we do give each other the freedom and the bandwidth to connect with other people and to grow. 226 00:18:52,730.101 --> 00:18:54,110.101 Yeah, absolutely. 227 00:18:54,360.101 --> 00:18:57,520.101 I think for me like I'm good on meeting people out like I'm good. 228 00:18:57,910.101 --> 00:19:00,920.101 Listen for my job I'm always meeting people. 229 00:19:00,920.101 --> 00:19:05,880.101 So when I go on vacation We can mingle and mix but like I'm good. 230 00:19:05,980.1 --> 00:19:29,695.101 Yes, so I let Niles have it and usually Niles it's so funny because I'm a very like social person and so And I'm sure ladies, or the guys, like when you're being social, when you're in the place where you live, or you're in the city where you're at, and you can be very social with people, but once you vacation I leave it to him. 231 00:19:30,955.101 --> 00:19:34,475.101 I know that there's a partner that's that's all that person. 232 00:19:34,485.101 --> 00:19:37,885.101 Either she or he or whomever, they deal with that. 233 00:19:37,915.101 --> 00:19:45,325.102 Because, he does with the taxi drivers, he deals with the conversation you get the party favors if we're gonna go there. 234 00:19:45,795.103 --> 00:20:00,415.103 That is the one I can't handle it, and I feel like you use your street smarts To deal with that shit and I'm out, I'm done, like I'm good, but I was using my Spanish though because I have, I do know a little Spanish. 235 00:20:00,415.203 --> 00:20:03,735.102 So I was using my Spanish, which was really fun. 236 00:20:03,785.103 --> 00:20:13,575.103 they were loving that in a DR when she never, she started speaking her Spanish and they was like, and they tried to talk to me and they were like, yeah, get out of here. 237 00:20:13,585.103 --> 00:20:14,635.103 You know, but it was. 238 00:20:14,960.103 --> 00:20:16,740.103 Eating her up oh my goodness. 239 00:20:16,750.103 --> 00:20:50,835.103 So that was actually very that was probably one of the highlights of the trip was when you were speaking to them in their native tongue and y'all was connecting and vibing and seeing How they reacted once you started speaking and their whole demeanor changed and honestly It made me realize like yo, I did myself a disservice by not actually Being better in Spanish because I love how they appreciate the fact that you know The Spanish that you do know. 240 00:20:50,835.103 --> 00:20:52,225.103 And it was definitely awesome. 241 00:20:52,495.103 --> 00:20:57,85.103 But yeah, when we out and about, I am the one that can, I can get the party favors. 242 00:20:57,135.103 --> 00:20:59,475.102 I can find the things and it don't take me long. 243 00:20:59,485.103 --> 00:21:02,285.102 Like they connect and I don't get swindled or hustle. 244 00:21:02,295.102 --> 00:21:03,245.101 Cause I don't play that. 245 00:21:03,245.102 --> 00:21:04,285.102 Like I'm a hustler. 246 00:21:04,285.102 --> 00:21:06,95.102 So you ain't about to get over on me, buddy. 247 00:21:06,425.101 --> 00:21:11,385.102 But there's also the beauty of having this wife here because she is a negotiator. 248 00:21:12,35.102 --> 00:21:15,575.101 I will negotiate with you and I will make sure we get a good price. 249 00:21:15,635.102 --> 00:21:18,905.102 Fellas, it is amazing to have. 250 00:21:19,155.102 --> 00:21:32,75.102 A wife or a significant other on your side who is like stern because in those other countries they appreciate, they be like, Oh, she shot, she called the shots and they don't, they don't argue with that. 251 00:21:32,125.101 --> 00:21:33,335.102 They do not argue with that. 252 00:21:33,395.102 --> 00:21:35,85.101 If I be like, it's her decision. 253 00:21:36,235.101 --> 00:21:37,445.101 It's no more negotiation. 254 00:21:38,205.101 --> 00:21:42,895.101 They don't raise, they actually lower their price when I say she makes the final decision. 255 00:21:43,595.101 --> 00:21:44,525.101 I love it. 256 00:21:44,735.101 --> 00:21:45,215.101 I love it. 257 00:21:46,855.102 --> 00:21:48,275.102 women are the boss. 258 00:21:48,795.102 --> 00:21:50,595.102 Ladies, we know we are the boss, though. 259 00:21:50,605.102 --> 00:21:51,945.102 We are the boss. 260 00:21:52,915.102 --> 00:21:55,755.102 All right, do we have time to get into our travel club? Yes. 261 00:21:56,435.102 --> 00:22:04,905.102 So, okay, this is a lot to take in because it was the bulk of our trip that was very emotional for me. 262 00:22:04,905.102 --> 00:22:10,285.102 So, people, when you guys are out on these all inclusives, some all inclusives have it, some don't. 263 00:22:10,635.102 --> 00:22:20,415.102 Some have the privilege section and Specific clubs that you can be in like a premium club and like the privilege. 264 00:22:20,515.102 --> 00:22:26,55.102 we were kind of bamboozled when we got to the airport. 265 00:22:26,425.101 --> 00:22:31,315.102 When we checked in and then we went into we're about to go into transportation. 266 00:22:31,315.102 --> 00:22:32,525.102 We're about to get our taxi. 267 00:22:32,915.102 --> 00:22:35,445.102 And then they were saying like, oh, you know. 268 00:22:35,885.102 --> 00:22:36,635.102 We'll take you there. 269 00:22:36,665.102 --> 00:22:38,965.102 We'll take you there, but if you want some excursions. 270 00:22:38,965.102 --> 00:22:41,95.102 And we really wanted to go to this island. 271 00:22:43,775.102 --> 00:22:45,105.102 So I was like, okay, cool. 272 00:22:45,585.102 --> 00:22:48,535.102 And so they had a deal and you know me, I love deals. 273 00:22:48,575.102 --> 00:22:49,555.102 I will negotiate with you. 274 00:22:49,555.102 --> 00:22:50,355.102 I love deals. 275 00:22:50,615.102 --> 00:22:51,595.002 So I was like, okay, great. 276 00:22:51,595.102 --> 00:22:52,825.102 So the deal was really good. 277 00:22:52,825.102 --> 00:22:59,605.101 We got the excursion and they're like, we just have, you just, we're going to pick you up from your hotel and then you have to go to this other hotel. 278 00:22:59,625.101 --> 00:23:00,705.101 And I was like, Oh, cool. 279 00:23:00,715.101 --> 00:23:01,45.101 Bad. 280 00:23:01,55.101 --> 00:23:01,735.102 That's easy. 281 00:23:02,15.102 --> 00:23:03,795.102 And then we'll give it to you for a discounted price. 282 00:23:03,825.102 --> 00:23:04,365.102 the price was. 283 00:23:04,810.102 --> 00:23:09,700.102 Very discounted very so I was like, okay bet so we get to the hotel. 284 00:23:09,890.102 --> 00:23:12,230.102 This guy's oh, do you have any excursions line up? I was like, yeah, we do. 285 00:23:12,410.102 --> 00:23:13,640.102 We're going to saw an island. 286 00:23:13,650.102 --> 00:23:19,940.101 He's who'd you get that with? So I told him he's Oh, no, that's another hotel competing long story short. 287 00:23:19,950.102 --> 00:23:28,855.102 They tried to sell you their like, their premium club to be in like a travel club with Hard Rock. 288 00:23:29,145.102 --> 00:23:35,985.102 And so, of course, our hotel that we were at, our all inclusive, is going to want to Sell us. 289 00:23:35,995.102 --> 00:23:40,955.101 Sell us their premium travel package, which we ended up buying. 290 00:23:41,45.101 --> 00:23:42,525.101 Let's just keep it short. 291 00:23:44,245.101 --> 00:23:58,355.102 We did end up buying the premium travel club, but Niall's, If you want to say anything to that, it was very stressful, but we went through a process where we had talked to a guy, we went through it and like we felt comfortable. 292 00:23:58,355.102 --> 00:24:04,745.102 So I think at the end of the day, like we do have a travel club with premium travel club with H10 hotels. 293 00:24:05,5.102 --> 00:24:08,415.102 So initially it like freaked me out for two days. 294 00:24:08,705.102 --> 00:24:17,525.102 Like what the fuck did we just do? Yeah, she initially she was with it and then it hit her and she sat with it and she like, Oh no. 295 00:24:18,145.102 --> 00:24:25,965.102 But then I was like, do we not plan on traveling outside the states again, hopefully within this year? Which the answer is yes. 296 00:24:26,15.102 --> 00:24:27,535.102 Our plan is to try to travel. 297 00:24:28,35.102 --> 00:24:36,325.102 Every year out the States, if it's possible, if we can do it two times a year, we would, and that ultimate goal, work and everything. 298 00:24:36,905.102 --> 00:24:42,465.101 Now, when we went to our resort, we did end up getting their package and I think it was a good deal. 299 00:24:42,465.101 --> 00:24:52,955.102 And I think it's something that is, we will definitely utilize because we have plans to travel outside the States as much as we can. 300 00:24:53,205.102 --> 00:24:54,585.102 And that's the beauty of. 301 00:24:54,640.202 --> 00:24:58,820.102 In a relationship, it's good to plan vacations. 302 00:24:58,840.102 --> 00:25:07,840.102 It's good to get out and have that time, and to get away from your city, get away from your home, and get out your bubble, and experience something new. 303 00:25:07,950.102 --> 00:25:12,90.102 And to continue to have experiences with your significant other. 304 00:25:12,350.102 --> 00:25:19,125.102 And I'm a firm believer You can't really put a price tag on experiences and memories. 305 00:25:19,245.102 --> 00:25:24,205.102 When you look back five to 10 years later, you like, damn, we went there. 306 00:25:24,205.102 --> 00:25:25,475.102 We did this, we did that. 307 00:25:25,965.101 --> 00:25:26,905.103 It's it's worth it. 308 00:25:26,925.103 --> 00:25:33,135.103 And I can honestly say every vacation, every trip that we have went on. 309 00:25:33,785.103 --> 00:25:45,485.103 It has always been worth it, and every time we got back from it, we've gotten closer, our love gotten stronger, and so it's very important to plan those trips with your significant other. 310 00:25:46,555.103 --> 00:25:53,855.103 Domestically, if you can't travel outside the states due to price tag or whatever, hey, take a three hour ride somewhere. 311 00:25:54,95.104 --> 00:26:02,865.103 We did a A weekend getaway one time here in the States just to get up, get out, it's important just to switch it could be like, yo, let's sleep somewhere else for a weekend, so find those things to do with your partner. 312 00:26:03,45.102 --> 00:26:09,205.103 I mean, locally, like locally for his birthday, we just went 25 minutes, maybe 30 minutes down the street. 313 00:26:09,650.103 --> 00:26:10,510.103 To Stone Mountain. 314 00:26:10,660.103 --> 00:26:10,950.103 Yup. 315 00:26:11,30.103 --> 00:26:11,815.103 They had a hot tub. 316 00:26:11,815.103 --> 00:26:13,180.103 And, it was incredible. 317 00:26:13,590.103 --> 00:26:16,490.103 It was, I was like, this is what we should be doing. 318 00:26:16,490.103 --> 00:26:17,310.103 It was a hot tub. 319 00:26:17,600.103 --> 00:26:18,370.1025 Change of scenery. 320 00:26:18,370.1025 --> 00:26:22,60.103 Change of scenery is really important when it comes to relationships. 321 00:26:22,110.102 --> 00:26:22,230.102 Yes. 322 00:26:22,470.103 --> 00:26:32,70.103 Because if you're cooped up, especially if y'all shacked up, if y'all aren't shacked up then you guys are not seeing each other all the time, but if you guys are shacked up and you guys live together. 323 00:26:32,590.103 --> 00:26:45,330.102 You need to change the scenery facts because you're gonna get bored you're going to so it's good to check locally airbnb and whatever Fine home away airbnb any of those platforms. 324 00:26:45,330.102 --> 00:26:56,150.102 I ain't trying to promote y'all, you know, y'all want me to promote you So any of those platforms check them out a quick weekend get away with your sniffing other it goes a long way Especially just surprising like hey, babe. 325 00:26:56,160.102 --> 00:26:58,620.103 We about to go here And do something different. 326 00:26:58,620.103 --> 00:27:04,840.103 I think it'll go a long way, especially if you have someone that's a planner, they will let them plan it. 327 00:27:04,860.103 --> 00:27:05,600.103 They will love it. 328 00:27:05,880.103 --> 00:27:13,400.103 And for the people who aren't planners, by doing that and showing initiative, trust me, it's kudos in the bank. 329 00:27:13,860.102 --> 00:27:23,80.103 They will not forget that gesture of you, of you actually doing this, planning a trip, even if it's just a two day getaway. 330 00:27:23,90.103 --> 00:27:24,320.103 It can mean so much. 331 00:27:24,740.103 --> 00:27:33,820.103 to your partner just to get out and have that one on one time with them in a different setting, in a different area where y'all can just connect and have y'all time together. 332 00:27:34,170.103 --> 00:27:35,730.1025 That's it on traveling. 333 00:27:35,780.1035 --> 00:27:43,690.1035 I think get out, plan, save the money to travel, whether it is domestic or international. 334 00:27:44,100.1035 --> 00:27:46,350.1035 There are a lot of deals out there. 335 00:27:46,835.1035 --> 00:28:12,705.1035 With international travel and I know we didn't get too much into Travel agents, but for me specifically, I don't use travel agents I feel like you can get some deals if you do them on your own and you can absolutely get deals with travel agents But see your options See what works best for you and your budget but have fun plan visit some somewhere different with your partner because We don't have children. 336 00:28:12,825.1035 --> 00:28:20,895.1035 So I think right now for us is really important is to travel and to get away and to connect and to bond. 337 00:28:21,595.1025 --> 00:28:27,685.1035 And so, yeah, get out, travel and see the options that work best for you. 338 00:28:28,550.1035 --> 00:28:30,200.1035 And have some good experiences. 339 00:28:30,310.1035 --> 00:28:36,480.1035 It's very important to travel and do vacations with your significant other, so get those plans in this year. 340 00:28:36,490.1025 --> 00:28:37,720.1035 Get out, travel. 341 00:28:38,130.1025 --> 00:28:40,130.1035 And thank y'all for tuning in to Couples Unscripted. 342 00:28:40,440.1035 --> 00:28:45,110.1025 You can catch us on YouTube, Spotify, Apple, and all the other platforms. 343 00:28:45,190.1045 --> 00:28:46,970.1025 And yeah, we'll see you guys next time. 344 00:28:47,30.1025 --> 00:28:52,140.1035 We thank you so much for tuning in and checking out our relationship show. 345 00:28:52,280.1035 --> 00:28:54,870.1035 And we will see you on the next episode.