Dads And Daddies

Judson comes to the end of his sabbatical and reflects on everything it has brought him, including a significant amount of sex over the past week. Brian recounts the night he took his family to Kylie Minogue’s first-ever concert at Madison Square Garden. The two are then joined by Carson McCalley and Jack Dodge, hosts of the YouTube series and podcast “Dweeb Wars,” and contestants on the currently-airing 37th Season of “The Amazing...

Judson and Brian return to The Cockpit downstairs at Daniel Nardicio’s Redeye NY for their second live show! Having just reunited with Judson after three weeks apart, Brian regales him with stories he’s been waiting to share about his daughter hearing him and his husband having sex, his struggles using AI to help navigate a Grindr conversation, and having “the talk” with his kids. Judson responds by sharing the memory of finding hi...

Judson and Brian are reunited after Judson returns from three weeks of globetrotting with his husband. He recounts highlights of his restorative trip to Sri Lanka, plus a sexy 36-hour layover in Istanbul. Brian happily reports on his recent stress reduction, having survived a dreaded business trip and having come to the annual end of his seasonal blues. They share some listener feedback about inaccurate medical information discusse...

Recorded last September, Judson and Brian share some unusual propositions they’ve each received on the apps before delving into a discussion of the lost art of cruising. They delineate the steps to proper cruising, reminisce about cruising successes and fails they’ve experienced over the years, and make a case for bringing cruising back in the current landscape of hookup apps. They end with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listene...

Recorded last May, Judson and Brian share the details of their travel over Memorial Day Weekend ‘24 - Judson to Austin for a weekend of naked yoga, where he performed a stand-up set and met his spirit animal, and Brian to London for a celebration of his tenth wedding anniversary, where he and his husband saw a number of shows and enjoyed a playdate together with a ‘certified werewolf.’ Judson then interviews Brian about his path to...

Judson shares learnings from time spent with his 95 year-old father-in-law, and checks in on Brian’s stress-induced vision impairment to ensure he’s addressing it with the proper amount of self-care. The two then enter into a discussion about affection–what constitutes affection, how important it is to each, and how it manifests in their relationships with their husbands, their families, their friends, their coworkers and even with...

Judson helps Brian turn his frown upside down by making him reframe how he looks back on the past week, and challenges Brian to think about managing his stress with lessons about the mind-body connection Judson has taken from the works of Gabor Mate. The two then welcome the brilliant and hysterical actor and comedian Jeff Hiller, co-star of HBO’s “Somebody Somewhere” and author of the forthcoming memoir, “Actress of a Certain Age:...

Judson puts a label on his relationship with Brian and reports on his experience Daddying a third alongside his husband. Brian recounts a magical night attending Jinkx Monsoon’s Carnegie Hall debut and shares the highlights of his family’s trip to Puerto Rico over the midwinter break. The two then examine how vanity manifests for so much of the gay male community, and what it will take to answer the question Judson poses: “When wil...

Judson and Brian compare Valentine’s Day plans and reflect on their first Valentine’s Day dinners with their now-husbands. They then share the news about their second live show and first Dads and Daddies party on Friday, March 28, at the Cockpit in Hell’s Kitchen, New York City. Judson recounts an emotional week at work, having survived a significant round of layoffs, and Brian describes his week of multiple misfires on the apps. T...

Judson and Brian compare how they are attempting to find balance and peace in unsteady times and provide updates about how they were each happily surprised this week by some unexpected playtime. Brian talks about time spent with his kids before getting on his soapbox about the unrealistic expectations for parents set by the cartoon show "Bluey." The two then explore the concept of "friends with benefits"—how they define it, whether...

Brian and Judson compare notes: first, on masturbation–how frequently they do it, why they do it, and when–and, second, on how frustrating the logistics of hookups can be, particularly if they take place in New Jersey. Brian then looks to Judson for guidance on making hookups happen that include his husband, and what ‘playing together’ looks like in Judson’s marriage. They end with a Go Ask Your Dad question from a listener whose b...

Judson recounts a perplexing dream, and Brian shares news of his renewed sexual activity. They gush over the return of "Severance" before welcoming "Big Brother" icon Will Wikle, whose diverse career spans mainstream entertainment, sex work, and now psychiatry, having opened his own practice, Peace Park Psychiatry. Will regales them with a series of incredible stories, including a lucrative escorting experience, how self-love is ha...

Brian recounts his first week of recovery from his lower eyelid surgery and hears Judson’s perspective on their trip to Sephora with Brian’s kids. Judson shares a lovely Daddy/Son experience and talks about how he navigates some of the challenges of a corporate job. The two then talk kissing–from their first kisses to practicing on their pillows to what makes a good kisser to how much more there is than lip-kissing. They end with J...

Brian’s nine year-old asks the big question. Judson spreads the word about the Instagram purchase that has changed his life. The two chat about some of the latest TV they’re obsessing over. Judson and Brian then dive deep into an exploration of intimacy–with their husbands, with their friends and with their hookups.This week’s episode ends with a Go Ask Your Dad question that asks our Dad and Daddy to provide a more thorough explan...

Brian celebrates his first rave review on The Blowers, and Judson details his experience of the “Solid Gold” exhibit at the Brooklyn Museum. The two then welcome to the podcast the inimitable JIMBO the Drag Clown, winner of RuPaul’s Drag Race All-Stars Season 8 and current star of Drag the Musical off-Broadway. JIMBO talks about his journey from behind-the-scenes artisan to realizing his dream of starring in a musical, his family l...

Happy Birthday to Judson! After a mini birthday party for everyone’s favorite Daddy, Judson and Brian also celebrate the 13th anniversary of Brian’s first date with his now-husband and the first anniversary of the text exchange between Judson and Brian that resulted in this podcast. The two compare notes on their New Year’s Day polar plunge experiences and share their personal growth goals that the Earth’s most recent rotation arou...

Judson laments having missed an opportunity to have a chance encounter with Luigi Mangione. Brian reflects on the past year and how it has changed him and his relationship. The two are then joined by adult content creator Guy Woof. Guy talks to Judson and Brian about his crush on John Oliver, his transition from locksmith to porn performer, the business behind having sex on camera, and finding success on OnlyFans.  Guy also details...

Judson tells Brian about the night he invited a hookup to stay for dinner, and how it evolved into a beautiful sharing of grief. Brian shares a story about a hookup that went against most of his own rules, in what he views as a culmination of a year of learnings from Judson. They are then joined by award-winning porn actor and social media star Jonah Wheeler. Jonah talks about the “enthusiastic and joyful” vibe of the content he cr...

Recorded on December 13, it’s Brian’s birthday! Brian describes his plans to celebrate, which exhausts Judson just by hearing them listed out. Judson shares a glowing review for Ricardo Tavares’ bathhouse-based “Morning Glory” sex party, which led to one of Judson’s top 3 hookups of 2024. The two compare stories of “setting traps” on the apps. They then welcome comedian Sam Morrison to the podcast and cover the target age demograph...