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What if I could guarantee you could haveeverything you've ever
wanted in your business life,but you had to face yourself
now, probably wondering,what do I mean by face yourself?
I'm here to tell you that probablythe greatest thing you will ever face
in your journey to be successfulis actually you.
In most cases, you
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ourselves,we stand in the way of the very things
we need to do to be successful.
One in particular thingis, is our comfort,
our level of comfortand how we actually adjust to that.
And directly affecthow successful we are in business.
What if I give you five steps to help yoube comfortable with being uncomfortable?
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Your stories,your experiences can change it all.
Let's fight until you're together.
We can defeat 90.
let's dive into this idea of uncomfort.
Here's the reality isthat there is any great thing
you can think about anybody
who's achieved, whether it be a gold medalon the Olympics, to a really amazing
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marriage to, I don't even know, thinkabout some of the greatest successes.
I guarantee you behindthat was a lot of struggle,
pain, thingsthat will make you uncomfortable.
And the reality is even even like,
okay, let's take an abstractlike happiness.
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Like, how do we break down
the idea of knowing what happiness is?
I think sometimes a way to understand
ideas like happiness or understand
pain or joy is you have to have both.
If everything was always the same.
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Okay, so let's walk through this idea.
So if everything is alwaysthe same and everything.
There's no difference in that.
So let's just sayyou were happy all the time.
How would you actually know you're happy
unless you actually had thingsthat were unhappy.
And so as we build this, this idea aroundhow to be comfortable
with being uncomfortableis to recognize anything you really want.
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Great in your life.
You're going to haveto be uncomfortable to do it.
And if you think about
some ofthe greatest achievements in your life,
whether it be even like, let's say,high school and you had to go through
all the tests and all the homeworkand look for me homework.
I hated homework.
You had to do all those thingsto eventually get your diploma.
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And yes, a lot of the things we didin high school were uncomfortable
or for me, just annoying.
I got bored out of my mind.
Being a little ADHD is just.
Yeah. Anyways.
But the thing is, and this is the partthat's the key element,
this whole thing is that youyou've already seen
how being uncomfortableand facing those things are tough.
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LED to something great.
here's the other thing to think about.
If you don't
thinks of things that are uncomfortable,
if you don't try to work through that
and find a way to be okay with it.
Sometimes the things we let be comfortablein our life are actually destroying us.
Those relationshipsyou should have ended, or
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those those habits and things that people
are, we do in our lifethat are actually destroying us.
That because we're comfortable,we don't actually face it.
And in that, being comfortable
can actually cause as much painas not facing
the actual uncomfort of the pain.
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as we dive into this idea,I think there's a direct correlation
to our ability to be uncomfortableand how successful we can be in life.
And when I say success,success is relative.
Success is relative to where and howand what you want to do in your life.
But I can definitely guaranteein that process there will be
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in your personal growth or whateverit is you're trying to accomplish.
Those are things.
But is the the statementyou always hear the pain of
staying the same and like you only changewhen it's too painful, right?
But when we could flip that, well,we could flip the narrative
and get to a place where we're actuallycomfortable with being uncomfortable.
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And we unders because we understand the,the consequences sometimes of staying
the same are worse than the consequences
of facing the painand the uncomfortable ness.
really, what we're trying to do
is get to a placewhere we can weigh out these things.
the idea is to trick our brains to turningthe uncomfortable things into normal.
there's a quote I really like,I've heard multiple,
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I should say, experiences that I've hearda lot of business people talk about that
as you grow in business and as you havebigger and bigger problems,
the problems of two years ago
used to seem like life endingare now so simple
because as you've graduatedin your problem solving and your ability
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to handle these things,those things become easier.
So the idea is in working
through and understandinghow to be uncomfortable,
you can actually skip the process of that.
And so this is somethingI've been working through a lot
because there's a lot of thingsI don't want to do.
let just talk about me for a second.
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I have been on a journey of losing weightit's not been easy.
I, I personally cope with food.
I have had, I guess, an unhealthy,healthy relationship with food
and it's something I have worked on since,like my late 20s.
for me, it'sgotten to the point now as I'm turning 41
and I'm realizingif I don't deal with this relationship,
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if I don't put myself in uncomfortablepositions,
the pain of that in the next 15,
20 years could be dire
and or even even past that,my quality of life could be in
jeopardy based on the decisionsI'm making right now.
I am in the process of dealing with that
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and working through and becomingcomfortable with the uncomfortable.
And there's definitely moments.
I know it sounds crazy.
Some of you guys might be thinking,that's silly to be uncomfortable
with what I
eat or when I exercise, but making myselfdo things that I wouldn't
normally dobecause it's outside of my comfort,
will have a direct benefit to my lifeand genuinely to my life.
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It will extend my life.
there's things in our lifethat we're facing that
it's it's switching the way
we think about itand weighing out the entire perspective.
So let's let's dive into your five things
I feel like
are the process that I've seen in my lifeto do what I'm doing right now,
do the uncomfortable things,and to become normalize it to where,
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hey, this is something that I'm better offfor doing.
So number one, defining discomfort.
So much at a time.
We don't understandwhy it's actually uncomfortable.
I know it sounds silly. We're like, well,I don't want to do that.
Why do you don't want to do what is it?
What is it about the thing that's so
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tough, uncomfortable or
causing pain that makes usnot want to make that choice?
something that when you startlooking through that for me,
I was using again, foodas a coping mechanism.
And so just dealing with the thing,
the pain or the things I faced in lifein a healthy way.
So by doing that and putting food
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in its proper placeand or my health in its proper place,
it started the process of being ableto be more
uncomfortable,comfortable with being uncomfortable.
Next, when the worst case scenario.
And that's what I worst case scenario,am I what I mean by
that is if you take the discomfortall the way.
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So basically.
For me not doing sugar and not,
you know, and doing the seed oilsand I can go through the list
of all the things that make my lifemore uncomfortable right now.
But if I play out and face everythingthat's uncomfortable with it and
understand,
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then my brain can rap its head around.
Okay, maybe I'mmaking too big of a deal of this.
Maybe I'm like,now, granted, here's the thing.
There are some thingsas you're working through that
that maybe aren't worth change,
but in most cases, deep down, we
we know we know that they need to be.
So first define the discomfort.
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Then really wrap your head around wherehow painful can this be when we face it?
The third thing is define the up side.
So I think in that same
same side as I can seeokay, I can have a better quality of life.
Yes. I may not have the tastydelicious things I'm getting the dopamine
head off of, but my quality of life
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can skyrocket and will and has skyrocketed
as I've made these better, healthierdecisions that make me uncomfortable.
So by weighing out the pain of it,
I've worked in the cause,but also with the benefits,
it starts to not startmaking the uncomfortable seem more normal.
as I start diving into my mindsetabout this, I started thinking through.
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I'm like, you know what?
Like for instance, like sugar.
Is it really worth it when I can havenatural sugars or things that have less
added sugar, that I can still havethe taste flavor in a healthy way?
That's within the caloriesand all the things
I'm trying to doin the parameters of a lifestyle.
I'm changing to.
But when I think about the pain ofafter I have sugar and the fact
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that I have these crashes and these thingswhere I'm tired all the time,
it's really not as comfortableas I think it is.
changing that way of looking atit helps me to actually move forward.
which I'm leaning to the fourth thingto compare and contrast between
the pain is staying the same,the pain of changing and looking at
and really evaluating, okay, you know,
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I can be uncomfortable for this.
I can make this choice.
I can wake up earlieror I can not spend money,
or I can live by a budget or
I can change this attitudeI've been having.
And and one of the things
I've also been working atis trying to be more positive in
and celebrating being more thankfuland looking at that
instead of being caught upin the little things.
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And there's all these things, these,
these benefits that as I start,you start weighing all this stuff out.
It starts making it not so uncomfortable.
the fifth thing is the part that
let's say there's something you're facingand you're still like, just
it's just still tough
because you don't changeis something that we inevitably like.
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Our bodies are wired to be comfortable,like we are always trying to
like our brains.
Our neural pathways are always trying to
normalize,it's taking risk or making big changes.
It's it's not it's not something thatI mean, literally, if you think about it
from the perspective that we have fightor flight when it comes to challenges,
there is that fightmethod of escaping it, right?
And keeping things like keeping yourselfsafe and,
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you know, away from the struggle.
when it comes to the gut check, deep downyou have to get your license,
not of you that you understand and like,
do I want this or doing not want?
Because if you really
can get to a placewhere you're okay with the uncomfort,
then that's when the true changewhere your gut is.
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This place where like, oh, I'm good,this is not so bad.
Kind of where all this stuff started forme and for the example that I really like.
So I've gotten into this,there's a love travel, blogs and blogs
and YouTube channels and,and there's one of my favorites is Karen.
Nate, if you've ever heard of them andthey, they continue to these challenges
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where they literally push their bodyto the brink of basically collapsing
and doing these thingsthat they never thought possible.
But as they continue to facethe uncomfortableness, as they continue
to do these things, you can seethe progression of their videos
when they first started doing these morechallenging things it's not so hard.
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Very it's crazy that they'll
they'll say,this is the toughest thing I've ever done.
And then you look like four years later,five years, six years later.
And the some of the things they're doing,I'm like, there's a drastic,
drastic difference between the strugglethey were facing here and the struggle.
They're over hereand they keep on one upping it.
But the thing that I loveabout that picture and
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and watching these videos around this ideais that as
they see the personal change in them,you see the confidence, like,
I think as you watch their channeland how it's grown and,
and they're one of the more populartravel, you know, YouTube channels
in America
is I think part of it was as they,they took on these these tasks
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as these these challenges, itstrengthened their character to resolve
as they were building their businessand doing everything else.
And they had more confidence.
I think the adverse effect of your gutand as you get,
you start rewiring these things
and how you think and how you are ableto perceive struggle and pain
and the uncomfortable it it makes life easier.
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Like you start things you would never try.
You do even like right nowI'm in the process of grown to 90.
What you guys may not knowis that I put everything in.
I'm building this off of my savingsbecause I want to do something in my life
at 41 that can actually change lives andmake it impact versus just making money.
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And there's a very good chance
that maybe it doesn't work out,
but I'm shooting my shot, I'm doingthe uncomfortable, and I'm going to face
every single day, and I'm going to startseeing more and more content,
because even if it doesn't fail,hopefully I can help 1 or 2 people.
Me, that makes the uncomfort worth it.
And hopefully
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at some point I can figure out financiallyI want to make it through this.
But the reality is, as I dothe tough things
as we do the tough things in our livesand face them
and we see we can it.
And the only reason I can take onthis challenge is because I've done
so many tough thingsin business to this point.
If this was my first and I would be scaredout of my mind, but like
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basically doing what I'm doing
and taking this risk is no, it'sit has its moments.
But as a whole I'm like, no, I'm good
because I've done all these thingsthat have led up to it and I've taken on.
I've been uncomfortableso much of my life,
and now I'm working onother parts of my life
that I'm comfortablein, that need to change.
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So my challenge to youtoday is take these five things.
Let's wrap them up okay.
Definethat this comfort plate all the way out.
What's the worst case scenario?What pain you could be in.
Define the upsidesso you can counteract that.
And then compare and contrast that andultimately let the change come from you.
What you decide and you act and you do.
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And themore you do that, the more you act.
The more you do,the more you face uncomfort
and become comfortablewith the uncomfortable.
I guarantee that at the beginningthat you will see
success in ways you never thoughtpossible, because so much at a time.
It's our comfort level that keeps us
from achieving our dreams.