276. How to Truly Help the Dementia Caregiver — When You’re Not the One in Charge

Not the decision-maker, still carrying the heartbreak? That’s Helen. She isn’t in the driver’s seat of her sister’s dementia care, yet the weight lands squarely on her heart. 

Episode 276 of Dementia Caregiver Support for Christians walks through how to truly help when you’re not the one in charge.

Lizette begins with her coaching prompt to create clarity and direction: “let’s say it is six months from today and things are easier for you helping your sister and your brother-in-law. What would that look like now?”

From there, the plan is simple, biblical, and doable:

1) Clarify expectations to create peace “God is not a God of confusion.” Set loving, clear expectations with the primary caregiver. That reduces missed connections and last-minute stress for everyone.

2) Use reminder rhythms that respect the load Care partners are on duty 24 hours a day. Text a gentle reminder the night before your visit, then a quick confirmation the morning of. Even better, offer a time window that lets the primary caregiver plan a break. This is Therapeutic Truth-Telling™ in action: honest, kind, predictable.

3) Consider a standing slot If it serves both of you, make it the same time every week. A standing “Mondays 1–5” visit turns your presence into a reliable relief valve, not another spinning plate.

4) Steward your health Serving while run-down helps no one. Keep your own medical appointments, rest, and nutrition steady so you can show up with calm and care.

5) Ask which model helps most Drop-ins or scheduled? Let the primary caregiver choose. Either way, you’re building a win-win: time with your loved one and real respite for the one rowing daily.

Ready for more real-time help? Join the next live Ask the Dementia Coach Q and A. You’re not alone, and there’s a clear path forward.

 

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