282. How To Recognize What Caregiving Costs Your Other Relationships

“I put everything on hold to care for my mom… and left my own kids by the roadside.”  Diana’s words opened Episode 282—and maybe your heart echoed them.  This conversation is for every caregiver whose marriage, children, or friendships have quietly paid the price of devotion.

I began, as always, with the same clarifying prompt: “Diana, let’s say it’s six months from today and things are easier in your caregiving journey. What would that look like for you?” She answered, “learning to navigate the emotional ups and downs… setting up some realistic boundaries.”

1) Boundaries with Mom (truth + grace). If your mom has dementia, her needs will increase. Today’s question: is she still appropriate for independent living, or is assisted living safer now that your stepdad (her “thinking partner”) is gone? A quick field check: can she scan her environment—open the drawer to find the phone she can’t see? If not, she likely needs closer supervision. Meet with the community and clarify criteria for moving levels of care.

2) Rebuild the bridges with your kids. Diana realized her adult children felt bewildered by her sudden absence. The assignment: initiate conversations, ask forgiveness, and set simple structures to reconnect—patiently, over time. Pray Psalm 19:14 as you prepare: “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable…”

3) Don’t do this alone. Longitudinal support matters. Join our Christian caregiver community for steady prayer, coaching, and clarity—or start with the free live workshop (date in the show notes). The people who benefit most join early—before crisis hits—so they’re not left guessing.

You can love your mom well and steward your other relationships. God is not a God of confusion; He gives wisdom for today’s step and peace for tomorrow’s.

 

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