Divorced but not dead, yet.

Divorced but not dead, yet.

Welcome to the Divorced But Not Dead Yet Podcast. This is not a how to podcast, it’s a going through. Join me on my journey to and through divorce. Together we will laugh, cry and not just survive, but learn to thrive post divorce.

Episodes

August 20, 2025 35 mins
In this week's episode I discuss the steps I took to co-parent with my ex while also healing from the pain of the divorce. I realized that emotionally disconnecting, establishing boundaries, effectively communicating, expressing my feelings in healthy ways and separating who he was as my spouse from who he was as a parent helped us have a respectful and productive co-parenting relationship. It took time and a lot of blow ups to get...
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In this week’s episode I share why I don’t want to remarry after divorce. My point of view is not from a place of bitterness, but from growth, clarity, and self-worth. I explore the emotional aftermath of heartbreak, the fear of repeating the same patterns, and the comfort found in solitude, dismantling the fairytale narrative many of us were raised on and embracing a new story — one that values peace over partnership and self-lov...
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My Ex Just Got Married! I knew it was coming. It was no surprise. Even knowing the day was coming, actually knowing that it had occurred brought up alot of feelings. In this week’s episode I share how I chose to deal with these feelings, good and bad. I also realized that knowing my Ex is now married made me take a look at my love life and the journey I’ve decided to take. Divorce is hard and what I’ve accepted is, unfortunately, w...
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In this week’s episode, I share how having strong and supportive women in my life, during my divorce process, helped me come out stronger on the other side. I’ve learned that asking for help or allowing people that love you to be there for you, during hard times, does not mean that you’re weak. Going through divorce takes a lot out of you physically, emotionally and mentally. My Strong female friendships were a huge factor in me ma...
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On this week's episode I share my journey to self-acceptance. There was a time that I had no self-esteem or self-worth. I desperately sought approval from my partner and was willing to change or shrink parts of myself to please him. Through therapy, I found the strength and love within myself to start to show up in my life as my authentic self. A bad marriage can make you a shell of yourself. Going through my divorce helped me fin...
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July 16, 2025 20 mins
Dating after divorce can be overwhelming. My approach has been to take things slow. Some might say too slow. After two years of friendship and dating, I finally met the family of the person I’m dating. I had a lot of anxiety about taking this step. In this week’s episode I share my experience of facing my anxiety and taking steps to move forward in my post-divorce dating life. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet ...
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In this week’s episode I discuss establishing a relationship with my ex, post divorce. I know the idea of building a relationship with your Ex after fighting to get out of one seems crazy! I get it! Despite my own personal feelings, I decided that the best thing for our child and our family was to have a cordial and respectful relationship. It took some time and there were alot of bumps along the way, but we finally got there. It t...
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June 25, 2025 26 mins
Self-abandonment is something I've struggled with my entire life. Putting others' wants, needs, and desires before my own is just how I've lived my life. I thought it made me 'a good person'. I've learned that prioritizing yourself does not make you selfish. In this week's episode I share my journey in trying to change my mindset. I've realized that before I'm ready to enter into a relationship, I want to make sure I love myself en...
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Dating is fun. There's nothing like getting your confidence back and going out there and getting your groove back, post divorce. In this week's episode I share my struggle with balancing motherhood, career, personal goals and dating. I've realized that I'm feeling overwhelmed and exhausted by my life all the time. Something has got to give. Although I love the fun that dating can bring, at this point in my life it's not the most im...
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In this week’s episode I share my journey to and through getting dickmatized! Sex after divorce can be both scary and exciting. On my journey I fell hard and fast into the dicksand. After going so many years without having sex, once I started again I lost my sense of self and my focus. Feeling wanted and desired after the feelings of rejection that a divorce brings can be addicting. Creating that connection with the wrong person c...
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June 4, 2025 32 mins
Getting back out there after divorce is scary. I had spent years in a sexless marriage. I had learned, out of necessity, to suppress that part of myself. Eventually, I decided that I was ready to get back out there and get me some. Before I did, I took time to work on my self-worth, self-confidence, and spend time getting to know myself sexually again. All my hard work paid off because once I got back out there, I experienced the b...
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I've recently become a member of 'The First Wives Club'. Being the first wife, I spent a lot of years nurturing, sacrificing, and financially supporting my ex-husband. I was investing in the potential I saw in him. In this week's episode, I share how it feels when you help your partner achieve their goals only to watch another woman enjoy the fruits of your labor. Connect with me on Instagram @divorcednotdeadyet https://www...
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This week I decided to replay on of my favorite episodes. In this episode I share how facing my fears of failure and rejection, by taking chances, allowed me to accomplish things I never thought I could. During my divorce I struggled most with feeling rejected and like a failure. The person I loved no longer wanted me and I couldn’t keep my family together. Through therapy and self reflection I finally understood that it’s not one ...
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One of my biggest fears about getting divorced was that, once my ex moved on, that meant that there would be another woman in my child's life. Will she treat him well? Will she cause issues in our coparenting relationship? Would she create a wedge between my son and his father? Once I realized it was actually happening, the worry and anxiety hit me hard! After time went on, I didn't experience any of these things. I have to say I'v...
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Facing big holidays after a divorce can be hard. On this week's episode I share my post-divorce Mother's Day experience. I also share how I plan to spend this Mother's Day. If you don't have your children on Mother's Day, always remember making time to celebrate is what's important. It doesn't have to be on a particular day. As mentioned in the show. Last years Mother’s Day podcast. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/divor...
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When getting divorced, you know that eventually your Ex will move on. You also accept the fact that you will have to be around them with their new partner, especially if you have kids together. What I never thought of was having to experience being constantly mistaken for my Exes new partner. In this week's episode I share how I've dealt with this case of mistaken identity while trying not to lose it! Connect with me on Instag...
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April 23, 2025 19 mins
I've gone through a lot of name changes with my Ex over the years. From Hubby and Babe to Ex, Liar, 'My child's father', that man I wasted years on lol. I'm now in a place where the chronic animosity is gone, and his new name is Wasband. In this week's episode I share my journey of healing through the hurt and anger my divorce caused in order to allow me to view my Wasband as my coparent and not the man that broke my heart. ...
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I love being a boy mom! I remember being pregnant and feeling like one of the perks of having a boy was that my husband would be more hands-on as our son got older. Now that I'm divorced, that thought terrifies me. What if one day my son looks at me and says, "I want to go live with my dad"! Although I'm grateful my ex-husband is hands-on and has a great relationship with my son, it scares me that one day he might need his dad more...
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April 9, 2025 20 mins
In this episode I will share my experience of negotiating spousal support during the divorce process. I realized that my inability to speak up for myself, my people pleasing ways, pride, and emotional exhaustion heavily influenced the decisions I made. I hope that you will learn from my mistakes and know that whatever support you get from your ex, financially, should not be attached to shame or fear. I want you to feel empowered to...
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In this week’s episode, I share what it felt like to find out my ex-husband is engaged! As you can imagine, I went through a roller coaster of emotions. The truth of the matter is, men tend to move on very quickly after divorce, so brace yourself. What I found to help me is keeping a list and checking it twice. Lol. My therapist recommended that I make a list of all the things that brought me hurt and pain throughout our marriage. ...
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