THE PAINFUL PROBLEM: You’re Not Broken. You’re Just Undisciplined.
There’s a moment every man faces… You’re sitting in silence, looking at your life — your marriage, your body, your energy, your drive — and something just feels off.
You tell yourself: “I’m exhausted.” “I’m not motivated.” “My wife’s not interested anymore.” “I don’t have time.” “I don’t know what’s wrong.”
Brother… I’ve been there.
This video isn’t about tearing you down — it’s about telling you the truth I had to face myself: Your habits are writing the story of your life. And that story? It either leads to growth or it leads to regret. It leads to fire or it leads to failure. It leads to domination or destruction.
I walk you through what I call The Painful Problem — this fake-ass island of lies that dads retreat to when they’re overwhelmed, out of shape, and out of answers.
But guess what? You’re not alone. You’re not too far gone. And you’re not a bad man. You just need to face the truth about your habits — the ones no one else sees — and build new ones that serve who you really are.
Inside this episode, I break down the 4 Dominions my men live by inside my community:
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Devotion: Fuel your mind & soul
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Discipline: Move and feed your body with intent
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Dedication: Lead your home, love your family with presence
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Drive: Build your wealth, your purpose, and your legacy
No shame. No fluff. Just real work and real results. This is how we rise — not by pretending we’re okay, but by confronting the chaos and doing the damn work anyway.
🎯 If something in this video hit home, you’re not crazy. You’re waking up.
📩 DM me the word DOMINATE on Instagram @paulmberens or click here to grab the simple but powerful 1-page cheat code that’s helping dads rebuild from the inside out:
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