Let Me Define My Own Story

In this honest and powerful episode of Dude, Where’s My Ramp?, Chandy and Emma unpack the deceptively simple phrase, “You’re so strong.” While often meant as a compliment, it can quietly dismiss the real, complex experiences of disabled people — shifting attention from systemic barriers to personal perseverance.

Through open conversation and lived experience, they explore the emotional weight of being expected to “cope,” the pressures of masking, the gendered politics of vulnerability, and the harmful impact of “inspiration porn.” With humour, heart, and sharp insight, they challenge what society sees as strength — and reclaim the right to define their own stories.

Whether you’ve been called “strong,” said it to someone else, or questioned what it really means — this episode invites reflection, connection, and a more human understanding of disability.

🧠 Mental Health Support Resources

If any part of this episode stirred up difficult feelings, please know you're not alone. Support is available — and you deserve it.

UK Mental Health Support

• Hub of Hope – National mental health services directory 🌐

• Samaritans – Free, 24/7 listening service 📞 Call 116 123

• Mind – Mental health advocacy and resources 🌐 mind.org.uk | 📞 0300 123 3393

• In an emergency – Call 999 or go to A&E

US Mental Health Support

• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Call or text 988 for 24/7 support 🌐

• NAMI – Mental health advocacy and resources 🌐 nami.org | 📞 1-800-950-NAMI (6264)

• Crisis Text Line – Text HELLO to 741741 for free, confidential support

You matter. You are not alone. And it's okay to ask for help — anytime. 💛