Are you the family's go-to person? If you're a highly functioning woman (HFP) struggling with anxiety, insomnia, and a crippling need to take care of everyone else, this episode is your intervention.
I discussed with Licensed Therapist Ibiye Oyali to spill the tea on the super responsible identity, where people-pleasing is driven by cultural expectations and the "first-born girl" narrative.
There is a difference between healthy excellence and paralyzing perfectionism, why you feel guilty for saying "no," and how to set luminous boundaries that protect your peace. Get the simple, strategic steps you need for HFP recovery—starting with the 80% rule.
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TRANSCRIPT
Mav:
Hey, hey, hey, welcome everyone. Today's show is going to be very exciting and I'm already pumped up to hear everything about the high functioning processing. And with me today on the show is Ibinye. Ibinye is back today. Ibinye, thank you so much for coming in again.
Mav:
Ibinye Oyali is a licensed marriage and family therapist, as well as a coach for highly sensitive women. As a coach, she helps women manage big emotions, stand up by themselves, by certain healthy boundaries, and finally stop people pleasing. And as a therapist, her practice focuses on anxiety, insomnia, and couples' relationships.
Mav:
She works with high achieving women who struggle with anxiety and the need to take care of everyone else. She helps couples learn how to communicate better, create a stronger connection and resolve conflicts faster. Finally, she helps people with insomnia quickly fall asleep and stay asleep without pills or drastically changing their lifestyle. I think that is really holistic.
Mav:
Welcome, Ibiya. Thank you so much for having me back, Marvel. So today we're going to discuss, as I introduced earlier, the highly functioning pressing. Ibiya, please tell me, in your own expertise and experience and clinical observations, who would you say is a highly functioning pressing? So in my practice,
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