Mental Barriers, PTSD, And Trauma | Haleigh Holom | Ep 31

In this episode, I sit down with Haleigh Holom, a mental performance coach who helps riders push past mental and physical barriers so they can reach their goals. We talk about some of the biggest challenges adult amateurs face—things I’ve struggled with myself—like comparison, performance anxiety, and fear in the saddle.

I open up about my own journey with comparison, especially the frustration I used to feel when I couldn’t afford a “fancy” horse and would measure myself against others. Haleigh explained that the first step to breaking free from that cycle is recognizing when comparison sneaks in and then shifting the focus back to my own goals.

We also dive into performance anxiety. I share my experiences with pre-show nerves, worrying about letting others down, and that mental spiral that can hit before a big ride. Haleigh talks about how she works with her clients—and how I can apply this myself—through:

• Mindset training to challenge self-limiting beliefs

• A consistent pre-ride warm-up routine to find calm

• Practicing gratitude and positive self-talk

• Striking a healthy balance when facing fears

• Using mindfulness and replaying positive riding moments in my mind

We also talk about how past traumas can show up in the arena, and how signs like body tension, agitation, or trouble focusing can mean I’m sliding into anxiety. Haleigh reminded me how important it is to have a strong support system at the barn, and I’m so grateful for my trainers and barn family who encourage me every step of the way.

Haleigh also shared about her workshops for riders, trainers, and parents, as well as her virtual coaching, clinics, and horse show support. I wrapped up the conversation feeling inspired and excited to have her back on the podcast in the future.

My Biggest Takeaway: Our mental and emotional health is just as important as our physical skills. By reframing my thoughts, focusing on what I can control, and letting go of what I can’t, I can ride with more confidence, clarity, and joy.

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