Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re getting into one of the most confusing— and yet sometimes intoxicating—dating experiences out there: it’s lovebombing.
You know that rush when someone comes on strong with over-the-top attention, affection, and promises? At first, it can feel magical—like you’ve finally found ‘the one.’ But beneath the surface, lovebombing can be manipulative, destabilizing, and even harmful.
To help us understand what lovebombing really is—and what it isn’t— we’re joined by Kelsey Wonderlin. Kelsey is a licensed therapist and dating coach who has worked with thousands of women to build healthier dating lives. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, Time, and the Today Show, and today she’s here to help us get to the root of why lovebombing happens, how we respond to it, and how we can tell the difference between genuine interest and manipulation.
We’ll talk about the red flags to look out for, how to recognize when we’re lovebombing, how the spark plays into all of this, and the tools you can use to slow things down and stay focused on the connection without wasting your time.
So, if you’ve ever wondered what the heck is lovebombing or you’re looking for clarity around how this plays out in dating, this episode is for you!
Alright Flirties, let’s do this, and meet Kelsey!
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About our guest: "After facing challenges attracting the right man, self-love and maintaining a healthy relationship for years (even during my master's program!), I came to the realization that no one ever guides us in these areas. I was astonished by the lack of resources to learn how to attract and sustain a healthy relationship.
Drawing upon my training as a licensed therapist, I took it upon myself to create the courses I needed for during my own dating journey. What initially started as a personal quest to overcome my own struggles has evolved into a comprehensive system that has assisted 1,000s of clients in fostering strong self-relationships and attracting the right healthy partner they desire."
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About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together
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