June 7, 2024 • 22 mins
Summary:
This conversation is about young adults leading meaningful lives, overcoming self-doubt, and creating social change. Cielle addresses common concerns of young adults, such as self-doubt, negative self-talk, fear of change, and feeling enough. She emphasizes the power young adults already have to make positive change and challenges the marginalization of young adults in society by focusing on themselves and reimagining what a personally meaningful life can look like. Dr C. encourages young adults to trust themselves, validate their experiences, and embrace their unique ways of doing things. The conversation also touches on the importance of dismantling oppressive systems and reimagining the future.
Keywords:
young adults, meaningful lives, self-doubt, social change, power, marginalization, confidence, trust, validation, oppressive systems, reimagining, Gen Z empowerment, reimagine future, positive impact
Takeaways:
- Young adults often struggle with self-doubt, negative self-talk, and fear of change. This is normal. You are not the only one. Promise.
- Young adults have the power to create social change and make a long-lasting positive impact on their communities.
- Society often marginalizes young adults and underestimates their abilities and potential.
- Validating and trusting oneself is essential for personal growth and making confident decisions.
- Dismantling oppressive systems and reimagining the future is the byproduct of creating and living fulfilling lives for yourselves. Keep it up!
Special thank you to Brandon Ward for the intro and to the wonderful Bobbo Byrnes and Miracle Laurie whose song Effin Groovy plays during the outro.
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Episode Transcript
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(00:00):
Welcome to episode three.
(00:01):
I am so excited for y 'all to be here andfor us to have this conversation or this
discussion because it is all about how youyoung adults specifically focusing on
leading right now personally meaningfullives, getting out of your own way,
(00:24):
getting past self doubt.
and living the lives that you know youwant to be living without waiting 20 years
to do so, you doing that actually impactsand creates social change, which I know is
(00:44):
also crazy important to y 'all.
And I respect that so much.
So if you're wondering how is that evenpossible, I promise I will elaborate.
So here is what I hear often when y 'allcome to me and want either advice or you
wanna work with me, it's usually aroundself doubt and confidence.
(01:05):
So here are some things that y 'all saythat you wanna work on.
You want to work on believing in yourselfmore.
You want to be able to change withoutbeing so scared.
You want to be able to get rid of all ofthe negative self talk.
You want to know for certain that you are
enough.
You want to be able to...
Put yourselves out there for things thatare important to you.
(01:25):
You don't want to feel the pressure toperform.
You want to be able to be yourselves.
You want to be independent.
You don't want to settle.
You want to stop being indecisive andbeing able to make choices that work for
you and you know feel good for you.
I want to stop holding myself back.
Yes, I did read from a list of
(01:48):
exact quotes from clients from youngadults such as yourselves.
Now, what is underlying those is a fearusually or a worry that you're not going
to live life, your life, the way that youknow is possible, the way that you have
dreamt is and usually that includes yourwords, living a life that is fulfilling,
(02:13):
purpose -driven, meaningful.
beneficial to our communities, joyful,peaceful, one there where I feel good, one
where I just feel okay.
Many of y 'all bring colors into it andyou'll say, I just want my days to not
feel so gray.
I want to be able to see color again.
(02:35):
I want to be able to feel color again.
And I so want that for you.
So my intention when I think about thispodcast, but also just all of the
different ways that I want to be able tosupport y 'all in your lives is for you to
do those things on an individual level.
(02:57):
That's really important to me.
And what's freaking amazing is by y 'alldoing that,
That social change that you wanna create,that impact that y 'all wanna make for
your communities happens.
It's phenomenal.
(03:18):
How?
Because, and I don't think people talkabout this enough and I am going to say
this out loud, is I believe that youngadults are a marginalized community in our
world.
What do I mean by
The definition of marginalized, and thisis a very general definition, is when
(03:38):
there is little to no influence or power.
And when I adults are marginalized, what Imean is y 'all are left out of the
conversations related to your power,related to your wealth -making abilities,
related to your expertise, to yourintellect, to your decision -making, to
(03:59):
your ability to create positive change nowin your 20s.
we leave young adults out of conversationson being leaders now, on being amazing
exceptional leaders now.
And I am on a freaking personal mission tochange that narrative because I am
(04:22):
absolutely in the belief that y 'allowning your power now,
y 'all knowing that you have what ittakes, that you are enough now to not only
live the lives that you want, but to makethe changes that you want and to be in the
careers that you want and to makedecisions that will ultimately benefit
(04:44):
humanity now will fucking change the worldand I am here for it.
I'm here for it.
So here's what's been so interesting tome, especially with this graduation
season.
We are just coming out of graduationseason as I'm recording this podcast.
Now, when I look at posts related torecent graduates, there are some amazing
(05:09):
adjectives that we use to describe thesegraduates.
Words like,
change makers, trailblazers.
They're innovative.
They're so intelligent.
They've got so much grit.
They're so smart.
They persevere no matter what the costs.
They know their worth.
(05:31):
Words that I actually took from posts thatI saw related to recent graduates.
Now!
Here's what's interesting, y 'all.
If y 'all are questioning whether or notwe marginalize young adults, is the next
day, if we're taking college graduates,for example, or even high school graduates
(05:52):
at this point, and they enter theworkforce, the very next day, those are
not the words that we use to describethem.
Nope.
Instead,
We use adjectives like entitled, naive,lazy.
They're out of touch.
(06:14):
what's even more interesting is anadjective that was used as a positive for
the graduating person, as in they areconfident and they know their worth.
The next day, again, as soon as they enterthis workforce, it's now turned against
them.
And it's, how dare you?
(06:34):
How dare they?
ask for more money.
How dare they question salaried positions?
How dare they not want to work overtimeand not be paid for it?
How dare they?
I'm here to acknowledge that ageismexists.
(06:56):
We know this ism called ageism.
And in our society, we tend to think aboutthat as the older people.
We discriminate against those who areolder.
And here, I would like to express that wealso discriminate against those who are
younger.
(07:17):
Now this puts y 'all young adults in areally awful position.
Because
Here's what I know about your generationthat I am so in awe is that y 'all see
oppressive systems, gaps and brokenness inthese systems, ways that they do not work
so clearly in a way that I don't believeany other generation sees it.
(07:42):
You are really clear.
about how these oppressive systems thatare huge and big and continue these
machines don't work.
You are clear that you do not want toparticipate in those anymore.
You are clear that you do not want to doit our way, right?
(08:07):
Y 'all are like, we see what y 'all havedone millennials and Gen Xers how y 'all
went along with those systems and nowyou're burnt out and you're exhausted and
you're resentful.
So yeah, we know.
We don't wanna do that.
And yet, there's a hopelessness about itbecause y 'all are also really aware that
(08:31):
these systems are big.
They've been in motion for a long asstime.
And on top of that, we marginalize youngadults
so that we don't even acknowledge as asociety your power in being able to make
positive change to each of theseoppressive systems that no longer work.
(08:54):
Actually, I would just venture to say thathaven't worked in the past too, but those
can be conversations for the future.
Amidst these circumstances, amidst what isgoing on in the world, can you see that it
makes complete sense that you may feelparalyzed about how to move forward, that
you may feel overwhelmed, that you mayfeel hopeless or resentful?
(09:17):
Of course you would.
But here's the secret.
Here's the stuff that people don't share.
Young adults, y 'all are fucking powerful.
Marketing companies know that.
Do y 'all know that the number onedemographic, the most important
demographic that marketers are looking atare 18 to 24?
(09:39):
That's where they put their funding.
Why?
Cause y 'all make the change.
Y 'all are the driving force.
And that's the same with elections, y'all.
Here in the United States, we're goinginto an election season.
Who are they targeting?
Yeah, they're targeting y 'all for areason.
Isn't it interesting that behind closeddoors, it is common knowledge that young
(10:03):
adults, that y 'all are drivers of change,that y 'all are already hold a lot of
power.
And yet, to your faces, we say thingslike,
You don't know enough yet.
You're out of touch.
You don't have enough knowledge.
You can't be a leader yet.
(10:23):
You gotta work in the system for 20 yearsand then maybe come talk to me.
You've gotta participate in your ownoppression for 20 years and then you might
have the insight to make a change.
my gosh, let's stop it.
Let's stop when I am talking about makingchanges now, living lives that are
(10:45):
fulfilling to you now, I mean it.
Y 'all are so clear about not wanting tobe exploited.
Y 'all are so clear that changes areneeded.
by y 'all making the changes in yourlives.
when you start to question.
decisions and choices in your lives.
(11:08):
when you start to question the systems atplay in your individual lives,
those questions ripple.
People and communities start to see, maybethere are inequities here.
Maybe changes do need to be
(11:29):
major corporations are rethinkingsalaries.
Why?
Because of you!
this to reiterate, when you ask me or whenyou wonder, am I enough?
My answer is a resounding yes, yes, yes,yes, yes, yes, yes.
(11:53):
And
because of things out of your control,because of the air that you breathe,
because of the soil that you were broughtup in.
You living the lives that you want to livenow.
You having confidence.
You being able to trust yourself.
You being able to stand up for yourself toparents, to elders, to communities, to
(12:17):
corporations, to your boss, to yourchurch, to your schools.
is tough, not because there is anythingwrong with you, because instead it was
designed that way.
And that design, those designs aresomething you young adults so clearly are
(12:46):
aware of and so clearly know need tochange.
I absolutely trust y 'all to do it inethical matters.
Why?
Because ethics matters to you.
Benefit for all matters to you.
(13:09):
It actually is interesting, I justremembered when I was thinking of podcast
names, the one that I kept coming to wasfuck shit up.
We're gonna just fuck shit up.
My kids were the ones that were like, Mom,I don't know if people would really
understand what your podcast is about, butperhaps in this episode, y 'all could get
(13:33):
a sense.
with y 'all, I freaking mean it.
And it's also such a freaking honor that Iget to be there with you because y 'all
have the knowledge base.
You know what's up.
in a way, again, that us older generationsdo not know of.
(13:58):
We were willing to accept our exploitationfor many, many, many years.
were willing to play in the rat race.
And where are we now?
Y 'all know it.
We're exhausted, we're burnt out, we'reresentful, we're trying to find new jobs,
there's this midlife crisis.
We are...
What our purpose is?
(14:18):
Why?
Because we've been following somebodyelse's purpose for so long that we don't
even know how to tell what we want.
We don't know.
Because for 30, 40, 50, 60 years, we'vebeen told what we should want and we've
been regurgitating that shit.
(14:39):
And guess what, y 'all?
Y 'all are not regurgitating.
Y 'all are like, that's messed up.
We're not.
do that.
And yet, we don't know what's next.
And we can look at that a couple ways.
It could be that it's a very unfair placeto be, which can absolutely be true
(15:01):
because you are now at a place where youneed to reimagine what is next.
And that takes effort.
That takes a willingness.
That takes perseverance and grit.
On the other hand, we could also look atit like it's a bit of an open slate.
(15:24):
y 'all know that there are things to teardown and in its place, you get to create
what that could be hella empowering.
And please know that if social change isnot even on your docket, it's not even
something that you're interested in.
What you really want to do is buy a plotof land and create a homestead thing.
(15:48):
That that's absolutely worthwhile.
Okay.
And the sneaky part is that it actually iscreating change because you're showing
other people that there are a variety ofways to do this life.
So it may be at this point where you'relike, all right, Cielle, I get it.
We're powerful, we're amazing humanbeings, systems are messed up, we're about
(16:11):
to create the change, and here we get todo it by focusing on our own damn lives
first and trusting that that will make thedifference.
Now what?
You're still not giving us.
anything related to confidence or how dowe actually stand up for ourselves or how
do we not hold ourselves back?
So how do we actually move closer andcloser and closer to this thing that we
(16:35):
deem self -confidence?
My personal answer is by focusing on twomajor foundational tenets.
And I would say that these are foundationsto all of my coaching.
It's sort of like, this is where I comefrom.
This is the foundation.
And then we build from there.
And the foundations are twofold.
(16:56):
Number one, that we make sense, that youmake sense, that I make sense as humans,
we make sense as is.
What does that mean?
That how you do things or don't do thingsmakes sense.
How you react or don't react to thingsmakes sense.
How your brain works.
How your emotions
who you are, what comes easy, what comeshard, the things that you like, the things
(17:20):
that you don't like.
All of the things that make us us makesense and is valid.
Number one.
Number two is once we can start to littleby little validate that the way that we do
things and who we are makes sense and isvalid, we can then start to trust
(17:45):
ourselves more and more.
We can trust our gut reactions more andmore.
We can trust our logic.
We can trust our decision -making skills.
We can trust how we want to lead.
what we want to stand by more and more.
So those are the two.
And if you want to know what we're goingto be discussing in the next upcoming
(18:09):
episodes, it's those.
We'll be talking about those amongst otherthings and I cannot wait.
Now I'm thinking that I should probablyleave y 'all with something practical.
Here's one way right now.
So as I am saying that we fundamentallymake sense or that we can start to build
trust with ourselves, I have a sneakingsuspicion that you may have a little voice
(18:33):
right here that's like, nyan nyan nyan,perhaps not.
She's talking to everybody but me.
She's saying that we fundamentally makesense and I can see that theoretically but
there's this really, there's this onething.
Like, it can't be because my brain'sbroken because I have ADHD wrong with me
(18:53):
because I'm dyslexic or she doesn't know.
that I procrastinate all the freakingtime.
What I'm saying is yes, all of those makesense, but we live in a society that has
over and over and over taught us todistrust ourselves, taught us that there
(19:19):
is something that is broken inside of us,something that we need to fix.
We have a society.
that has pathologized us over and over andover again.
So of course we're going to at some pointbelieve them and internalize that because
that's all we know.
Again, that's what we've been brought upin.
(19:41):
And so at this point, what I'm saying is,what if?
What if you were procrastinating for anamazing reason?
What if ADHD brains are actually necessaryto human survival and have been necessary
to human survival?
What if?
(20:02):
Okay, that's where I will leave you.
You all are amazing.
I hope you have a fabulous, fabulous restof your day and I look forward to seeing
you at the next one.
Bye.
Welcome to episode three.
(00:01):
I am so excited for y 'all to be here andfor us to have this conversation or this
discussion because it is all about how youyoung adults specifically focusing on
leading right now personally meaningfullives, getting out of your own way,
(00:24):
getting past self doubt.
and living the lives that you know youwant to be living without waiting 20 years
to do so, you doing that actually impactsand creates social change, which I know is
(00:44):
also crazy important to y 'all.
And I respect that so much.
So if you're wondering how is that evenpossible, I promise I will elaborate.
So here is what I hear often when y 'allcome to me and want either advice or you
wanna work with me, it's usually aroundself doubt and confidence.
(01:05):
So here are some things that y 'all saythat you wanna work on.
You want to work on believing in yourselfmore.
You want to be able to change withoutbeing so scared.
You want to be able to get rid of all ofthe negative self talk.
You want to know for certain that you are
enough.
You want to be able to...
Put yourselves out there for things thatare important to you.
(01:25):
You don't want to feel the pressure toperform.
You want to be able to be yourselves.
You want to be independent.
You don't want to settle.
You want to stop being indecisive andbeing able to make choices that work for
you and you know feel good for you.
I want to stop holding myself back.
Yes, I did read from a list of
(01:48):
exact quotes from clients from youngadults such as yourselves.
Now, what is underlying those is a fearusually or a worry that you're not going
to live life, your life, the way that youknow is possible, the way that you have
dreamt is and usually that includes yourwords, living a life that is fulfilling,
(02:13):
purpose -driven, meaningful.
beneficial to our communities, joyful,peaceful, one there where I feel good, one
where I just feel okay.
Many of y 'all bring colors into it andyou'll say, I just want my days to not
feel so gray.
I want to be able to see color again.
(02:35):
I want to be able to feel color again.
And I so want that for you.
So my intention when I think about thispodcast, but also just all of the
different ways that I want to be able tosupport y 'all in your lives is for you to
do those things on an individual level.
(02:57):
That's really important to me.
And what's freaking amazing is by y 'alldoing that,
That social change that you wanna create,that impact that y 'all wanna make for
your communities happens.
It's phenomenal.
(03:18):
How?
Because, and I don't think people talkabout this enough and I am going to say
this out loud, is I believe that youngadults are a marginalized community in our
world.
What do I mean by
The definition of marginalized, and thisis a very general definition, is when
(03:38):
there is little to no influence or power.
And when I adults are marginalized, what Imean is y 'all are left out of the
conversations related to your power,related to your wealth -making abilities,
related to your expertise, to yourintellect, to your decision -making, to
(03:59):
your ability to create positive change nowin your 20s.
we leave young adults out of conversationson being leaders now, on being amazing
exceptional leaders now.
And I am on a freaking personal mission tochange that narrative because I am
(04:22):
absolutely in the belief that y 'allowning your power now,
y 'all knowing that you have what ittakes, that you are enough now to not only
live the lives that you want, but to makethe changes that you want and to be in the
careers that you want and to makedecisions that will ultimately benefit
(04:44):
humanity now will fucking change the worldand I am here for it.
I'm here for it.
So here's what's been so interesting tome, especially with this graduation
season.
We are just coming out of graduationseason as I'm recording this podcast.
Now, when I look at posts related torecent graduates, there are some amazing
(05:09):
adjectives that we use to describe thesegraduates.
Words like,
change makers, trailblazers.
They're innovative.
They're so intelligent.
They've got so much grit.
They're so smart.
They persevere no matter what the costs.
They know their worth.
(05:31):
Words that I actually took from posts thatI saw related to recent graduates.
Now!
Here's what's interesting, y 'all.
If y 'all are questioning whether or notwe marginalize young adults, is the next
day, if we're taking college graduates,for example, or even high school graduates
(05:52):
at this point, and they enter theworkforce, the very next day, those are
not the words that we use to describethem.
Nope.
Instead,
We use adjectives like entitled, naive,lazy.
They're out of touch.
(06:14):
what's even more interesting is anadjective that was used as a positive for
the graduating person, as in they areconfident and they know their worth.
The next day, again, as soon as they enterthis workforce, it's now turned against
them.
And it's, how dare you?
(06:34):
How dare they?
ask for more money.
How dare they question salaried positions?
How dare they not want to work overtimeand not be paid for it?
How dare they?
I'm here to acknowledge that ageismexists.
(06:56):
We know this ism called ageism.
And in our society, we tend to think aboutthat as the older people.
We discriminate against those who areolder.
And here, I would like to express that wealso discriminate against those who are
younger.
(07:17):
Now this puts y 'all young adults in areally awful position.
Because
Here's what I know about your generationthat I am so in awe is that y 'all see
oppressive systems, gaps and brokenness inthese systems, ways that they do not work
so clearly in a way that I don't believeany other generation sees it.
(07:42):
You are really clear.
about how these oppressive systems thatare huge and big and continue these
machines don't work.
You are clear that you do not want toparticipate in those anymore.
You are clear that you do not want to doit our way, right?
(08:07):
Y 'all are like, we see what y 'all havedone millennials and Gen Xers how y 'all
went along with those systems and nowyou're burnt out and you're exhausted and
you're resentful.
So yeah, we know.
We don't wanna do that.
And yet, there's a hopelessness about itbecause y 'all are also really aware that
(08:31):
these systems are big.
They've been in motion for a long asstime.
And on top of that, we marginalize youngadults
so that we don't even acknowledge as asociety your power in being able to make
positive change to each of theseoppressive systems that no longer work.
(08:54):
Actually, I would just venture to say thathaven't worked in the past too, but those
can be conversations for the future.
Amidst these circumstances, amidst what isgoing on in the world, can you see that it
makes complete sense that you may feelparalyzed about how to move forward, that
you may feel overwhelmed, that you mayfeel hopeless or resentful?
(09:17):
Of course you would.
But here's the secret.
Here's the stuff that people don't share.
Young adults, y 'all are fucking powerful.
Marketing companies know that.
Do y 'all know that the number onedemographic, the most important
demographic that marketers are looking atare 18 to 24?
(09:39):
That's where they put their funding.
Why?
Cause y 'all make the change.
Y 'all are the driving force.
And that's the same with elections, y'all.
Here in the United States, we're goinginto an election season.
Who are they targeting?
Yeah, they're targeting y 'all for areason.
Isn't it interesting that behind closeddoors, it is common knowledge that young
(10:03):
adults, that y 'all are drivers of change,that y 'all are already hold a lot of
power.
And yet, to your faces, we say thingslike,
You don't know enough yet.
You're out of touch.
You don't have enough knowledge.
You can't be a leader yet.
(10:23):
You gotta work in the system for 20 yearsand then maybe come talk to me.
You've gotta participate in your ownoppression for 20 years and then you might
have the insight to make a change.
my gosh, let's stop it.
Let's stop when I am talking about makingchanges now, living lives that are
(10:45):
fulfilling to you now, I mean it.
Y 'all are so clear about not wanting tobe exploited.
Y 'all are so clear that changes areneeded.
by y 'all making the changes in yourlives.
when you start to question.
decisions and choices in your lives.
(11:08):
when you start to question the systems atplay in your individual lives,
those questions ripple.
People and communities start to see, maybethere are inequities here.
Maybe changes do need to be
(11:29):
major corporations are rethinkingsalaries.
Why?
Because of you!
this to reiterate, when you ask me or whenyou wonder, am I enough?
My answer is a resounding yes, yes, yes,yes, yes, yes, yes.
(11:53):
And
because of things out of your control,because of the air that you breathe,
because of the soil that you were broughtup in.
You living the lives that you want to livenow.
You having confidence.
You being able to trust yourself.
You being able to stand up for yourself toparents, to elders, to communities, to
(12:17):
corporations, to your boss, to yourchurch, to your schools.
is tough, not because there is anythingwrong with you, because instead it was
designed that way.
And that design, those designs aresomething you young adults so clearly are
(12:46):
aware of and so clearly know need tochange.
I absolutely trust y 'all to do it inethical matters.
Why?
Because ethics matters to you.
Benefit for all matters to you.
(13:09):
It actually is interesting, I justremembered when I was thinking of podcast
names, the one that I kept coming to wasfuck shit up.
We're gonna just fuck shit up.
My kids were the ones that were like, Mom,I don't know if people would really
understand what your podcast is about, butperhaps in this episode, y 'all could get
(13:33):
a sense.
with y 'all, I freaking mean it.
And it's also such a freaking honor that Iget to be there with you because y 'all
have the knowledge base.
You know what's up.
in a way, again, that us older generationsdo not know of.
(13:58):
We were willing to accept our exploitationfor many, many, many years.
were willing to play in the rat race.
And where are we now?
Y 'all know it.
We're exhausted, we're burnt out, we'reresentful, we're trying to find new jobs,
there's this midlife crisis.
We are...
What our purpose is?
(14:18):
Why?
Because we've been following somebodyelse's purpose for so long that we don't
even know how to tell what we want.
We don't know.
Because for 30, 40, 50, 60 years, we'vebeen told what we should want and we've
been regurgitating that shit.
(14:39):
And guess what, y 'all?
Y 'all are not regurgitating.
Y 'all are like, that's messed up.
We're not.
do that.
And yet, we don't know what's next.
And we can look at that a couple ways.
It could be that it's a very unfair placeto be, which can absolutely be true
(15:01):
because you are now at a place where youneed to reimagine what is next.
And that takes effort.
That takes a willingness.
That takes perseverance and grit.
On the other hand, we could also look atit like it's a bit of an open slate.
(15:24):
y 'all know that there are things to teardown and in its place, you get to create
what that could be hella empowering.
And please know that if social change isnot even on your docket, it's not even
something that you're interested in.
What you really want to do is buy a plotof land and create a homestead thing.
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That that's absolutely worthwhile.
Okay.
And the sneaky part is that it actually iscreating change because you're showing
other people that there are a variety ofways to do this life.
So it may be at this point where you'relike, all right, Cielle, I get it.
We're powerful, we're amazing humanbeings, systems are messed up, we're about
(16:11):
to create the change, and here we get todo it by focusing on our own damn lives
first and trusting that that will make thedifference.
Now what?
You're still not giving us.
anything related to confidence or how dowe actually stand up for ourselves or how
do we not hold ourselves back?
So how do we actually move closer andcloser and closer to this thing that we
(16:35):
deem self -confidence?
My personal answer is by focusing on twomajor foundational tenets.
And I would say that these are foundationsto all of my coaching.
It's sort of like, this is where I comefrom.
This is the foundation.
And then we build from there.
And the foundations are twofold.
(16:56):
Number one, that we make sense, that youmake sense, that I make sense as humans,
we make sense as is.
What does that mean?
That how you do things or don't do thingsmakes sense.
How you react or don't react to thingsmakes sense.
How your brain works.
How your emotions
who you are, what comes easy, what comeshard, the things that you like, the things
(17:20):
that you don't like.
All of the things that make us us makesense and is valid.
Number one.
Number two is once we can start to littleby little validate that the way that we do
things and who we are makes sense and isvalid, we can then start to trust
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ourselves more and more.
We can trust our gut reactions more andmore.
We can trust our logic.
We can trust our decision -making skills.
We can trust how we want to lead.
what we want to stand by more and more.
So those are the two.
And if you want to know what we're goingto be discussing in the next upcoming
(18:09):
episodes, it's those.
We'll be talking about those amongst otherthings and I cannot wait.
Now I'm thinking that I should probablyleave y 'all with something practical.
Here's one way right now.
So as I am saying that we fundamentallymake sense or that we can start to build
trust with ourselves, I have a sneakingsuspicion that you may have a little voice
(18:33):
right here that's like, nyan nyan nyan,perhaps not.
She's talking to everybody but me.
She's saying that we fundamentally makesense and I can see that theoretically but
there's this really, there's this onething.
Like, it can't be because my brain'sbroken because I have ADHD wrong with me
(18:53):
because I'm dyslexic or she doesn't know.
that I procrastinate all the freakingtime.
What I'm saying is yes, all of those makesense, but we live in a society that has
over and over and over taught us todistrust ourselves, taught us that there
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is something that is broken inside of us,something that we need to fix.
We have a society.
that has pathologized us over and over andover again.
So of course we're going to at some pointbelieve them and internalize that because
that's all we know.
Again, that's what we've been brought upin.
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And so at this point, what I'm saying is,what if?
What if you were procrastinating for anamazing reason?
What if ADHD brains are actually necessaryto human survival and have been necessary
to human survival?
What if?
(20:02):
Okay, that's where I will leave you.
You all are amazing.
I hope you have a fabulous, fabulous restof your day and I look forward to seeing
you at the next one.
Bye.
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