Have you been giving until you disappeared, believing that's what God wants from you?
Maybe you've spent years believing your worth is tied to your output - constantly proving yourself through spiritual performance, serving until you're empty, trying to earn God's love through perfect behavior. But here's a revolutionary truth: God never required your exhaustion. He asked for your presence - not your performance.
If you've been living like "a mirror that lies," constantly reflecting back your worth based on what you produce instead of who you are, this episode will change everything about how you see yourself and your faith.
Episode Description
If you're bone-deep tired from running on what feels like a spiritual performance treadmill, this episode reveals the profound difference between artificial motivation that depletes and natural motivation that energizes. Today we're healing the exhausting "I'm Not Enough" barrier by discovering that God never required your exhaustion - He's been inviting you into rest all along.
Through Kristina's powerful transformation from crushing striving to peaceful presence, we'll explore how religious trauma dresses itself up as virtue, convincing women that giving until they disappear is what faithful service looks like. You'll learn to distinguish between artificial motivation (driven by fear, guilt, obligation) and natural motivation (flowing from love, inspiration, genuine desire).
Most importantly, you'll discover that your worth was never meant to be tied to your output. This isn't about becoming less committed to God - it's about understanding that He wanted your heart, not your hustle. You'll walk away knowing how to stop living like a mirror that lies and start reflecting back the truth of who you really are.
You'll finally understand that trauma dressed in religious language convinced you to serve from depletion, but God's invitation was always to serve from overflow.
In this episode, you'll discover:
→ The life-changing difference between artificial motivation (depleting) and natural motivation (energizing) - and how to tell which one is driving you → Why "giving until you disappear" isn't virtue but trauma dressed in religious language → How the belief "you are only as worthy as your output" gets installed in religious environments → The "motivation check" practice to help you distinguish between serving from fear versus serving from love → Why God asked for your presence, not your performance - and what divine rest actually looks like
Healing Truth
You are not only as worthy as your output. God never required your exhaustion - He's been inviting you into rest all along. His love for you isn't conditional on your performance. The woman who serves from natural motivation, who rests without guilt, who knows her worth isn't tied to what she produces - she's not someone you have to become. She's who you've always been, waiting to be remembered beneath all the artificial striving.
🎧 Ready to go deeper?
Discover your personal healing path: Take our free Religious Trauma Assessment at ReligiousTraumaQuiz.com and uncover which of the 12 hidden barriers might be shaping your relationship with God, yourself, and others. You'll receive a personalized report that shows you where artificial motivation has replaced natural inspiration, plus my complete Essentials Starter Kit - including my book He Is Enough, Truth Over Tradition mini-course, live reading circles, and access to our supportive community - all completely FREE.
Transform your story completely: Join the Coming Home Journey at TheComingHomeJourney.com - a six-month guided experience to discover the difference between artificial motivation that depletes and natural motivation that energizes. Stop giving until you disappear and learn to serve from the overflow of knowing you're already enough. Get all the details at TheComingHomeJourney.com.
About Debra
I'm Debra Shafer, spiritual healing coach for Christian women and founder of the Healing Religious Trauma Circle. For over seven years, I've walked alongside women who've been giving until they disappeared, believing that's what faithful service looks like. I know this exhaustion personally - I've learned the difference between serving from depletion and serving from overflow - and I've seen what happens when women discover God never required their exhaustion: they finally find the rest their souls have been aching for.
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