Her Love Upgrade - Break Toxic Cycles, Heal Heartbreak, Healthy Relationships, Cure Anxious Attachment, Boundaries, Red Flags

Thinking about saying yes to a friends with benefits (FWB) situation - but worried you might catch deeper feelings?

It’s a valid fear - especially if you’ve ever struggled with anxious attachment, emotional vulnerability, or are still healing from heartbreak.

In this episode, I walk you through how to stay grounded, emotionally safe, and in alignment with your true Self before you dive in. ...

Sometimes we’re just not in the mood to be our most loving self - how very 'normal human’ of us.

BUT, if you find yourself thinking and acting in these negative ways more often than not, it means you’ve adopted a mindset that just isn’t truly serving you. 

Tune in to this episode to take a deep dive into 4 narcissistic tendencies that we all do - and have the...

Sometimes, it can feel like what we want is so far out of reach that it’s impossible to get, ESPECIALLY when it comes to finding a loving partner and an aligned, healthy relationship. 

Even if you have done work on yourself and you thought you’d mastered manifesting, sometimes we’re still not experiencing a reality that reflects what we want.  It can feel very sucky indeed… ask me how I k...

Hi Loving Soul, I'm honoured to be here serving you up everything you need to get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve! Let's get to it - 

Remy xox

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Breakups don’t have to break you.  In this episode, I share the raw truth about post-breakup panic and the paradigm shifts that helped me move from codependency to confidence — and attract aligned, healthy love. I’m the first to admit that I used to find it VERY hard to deal with breakups well.  I was an emotional wreck every. single. time. and spent most my waking hours consumed with sadness. No matter how unjust...

Ever feel like no matter how much you give in relationships, it’s never enough?

You end up drained, anxious, or even resentful - despite your best intentions and big heart.

In this episode, we’ll unpack why over-giving and people-pleasing may be keeping you stuck in toxic relationship patterns, and how this subconscious programming could be blocking the love you truly want.

Mo...

Healing after a break up?  Sending you hugs - it can feel rough.  I know this first hand… I had A LOT of practice with breakups in the 13 years I was stuck in a toxic cycle. Believe it or not though, there came a time when I had successfully healed my wounded inner parts, and overcome my limiting love blocking beliefs to the point where I didn’t need a partner - even though I still truly dreamed of enjoying a lov...

Are you keeping yourself hidden away behind a bullet-proof boundary that’s keeping you safe from heartbreak, but stifled from love? While building high walls might seem like the best way to keep you safe from potential pain,  there’s a better way to stay protected AND safely allow in abundant love… which is what your True Self wants, for all the right reasons - a.k.a. to experience the joy, growth and divine experien...

You are a loving, caring, loyal woman who is dedicated to your relationship. BUT you know in your heart that something’s not quite right here… Your partner is hard to deal with and their needs come first… but when it’s good, oh my! it feels AMAZING.  You think “If only I could fix them, this relationship could be amazing all the time” ...so you try everything to make them happy and support them, and yet you always...

Have you come across one of the myriad of Toxic Relationship Recovery groups on Facebook?  Whether you are in a toxic relationship and looking for advice on how to deal with an abusive partner or narcissist, or if you are in the healing and recalibration phase after a breakup, it's likely that your search for answers may have led you to one.  As a relationship therapist and coach I dip into these groups every now ...

School holidays are over - YIPPEE!!!  I can actually finish a thought and have time to do other things than make 25 snack plates a day and keep two children busy 😅   It's SO good to be back, podcasting and serving clients!  Thank you for listening and keeping in touch over the past few weeks... it totally filled my cup! It sounds like the rebrand resonated with many of you - although the podcast is no longer called Breaking Tox...

Are you suffering with physical tension and discomfort caused by the heartache of a breakup?  When our emotions manifest somatically, it can be a powerful sign that our unconscious is trying to tell us something very important.  So how do we listen in? My favourite way is this easy, gentle and loving 5 step process - and I'm delighted to share it all with you in this episode!   Honour your wonderful self by givin...

Are you wondering where to begin when it comes to meeting someone new?  Does it feel like meeting someone who is worth your time and energy is almost impossible?  Maybe you’re even doubting whether you’re meant for love, or thinking that the only people left are the dregs that no one wants… While you might have spent much of your late teens and 20’s hitting bars and clubs, these days an ideal night out is more abo...

I know you’re scared about being burned yet again… pouring time, energy and love into a relationship that ends up causing heartache and sometimes in quite a traumatic way because you’ve felt blindsided in the past.

Cutting yourself off from love might feel safer, but there’s a part of you that still truly wants a loving, kind partner to dance through life with.  That part is your True Self, and it knows...

Need more clarity before you break up with your partner?  This one’s for you. Tune in to Ep.11 for 3 powerful tools that will help you to make a decision that you’re at peace with. It took me YEARS and many failed relationships (including a marriage!) to work out these gems, and I’m so excited I get to share them with you to save you the time, energy and heartbreak. Should you decide your current partner isn’t ali...

Do you wish Christmas lit you up like fairy lights, instead of reminding you of the loving partner you don’t have?   Is your beautiful smile at gatherings starting to feel a little… strained?   Maybe you find yourself sobbing at Xmas rom-coms, wondering WTF you need to do to get some real good authentic loving in your life.   Lovely lady, I am sending you hugs and so much love… and an entire stuffed-stocking episod...

If you are spending precious hours of your week at work, you NEED to make sure that your workplace isn’t negatively affecting your vibration. Why is this important?  Well, a couple of reasons:   1.) It’s our responsibility to be true to ourselves and shine the loving nature we’ve been gifted in this life so that our light can illuminate the world as much as possible, and 2.) because we get what we ARE, not what ...

Do you keep looking for the reason you’re not attracting the right parter?  You might find your brain looping, trying to work out what it is you’re doing ‘wrong’.  Maybe other people have told you you’re ‘too picky’, or seem too this and not enough that… one gorgeous lady I work with said people told her she was too TALL!  As if!!!    The answer seems so elusive that sometimes we just assume it’s something inhere...

Want to avoid falling into a toxic relationship? Here’s what you need to know… In Ep 7 you will gain 3 powerful tools that will protect you from getting involved with someone who isn’t in alignment with your highest and best wishes for your life.  If you’d like to feel more confident about avoiding heartbreak, and have the ability to navigate dating with a sense of inherent power - this episode is for you lovely sou...