Shame and blame keep the nervous system locked in survival mode. In this episode, Matthew Ancira breaks down how shame patterns form in the body, why blame becomes a protective loop, and how to finally interrupt these cycles so healing can begin.
You’ll learn:
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Why shame creates chronic stress, muscle tension & emotional shutdown
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How blame rewires the brain into defensiveness
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Somatic techniques to regulate the body after shame triggers
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Nervous-system-safe steps to release old internal narratives
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How to create self-compassion without toxic positivity
Whether your patterns come from childhood, relationships, or trauma, this episode gives you practical tools to break free—so your body can feel safe again.
CHAPTERS:
00:00 - Intro
02:05 - Understanding Shame
04:18 - The Concept of Blame
16:08 - Self-Blame and Its Impact
22:11 - The Process of Change
27:30 - Letting Go of Past Trauma
33:08 - Prioritizing Self-Care
33:55 - Developing Visceral Awareness
43:00 - Creating a Safe Environment
47:40 - Overcoming Shame
51:35 - Family Influence on Behavior
57:25 - Life as a Personal Battle
58:53 - Empowering Choices
1:00:31 - Final Thoughts
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